FabSwingers.com forum: Payment for verifications....

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

so I heard lately that some people on here will verify you for a fee....it seems phone credit is a popular method of payment.....this just makes a joke of the whole verification thing in my book....I have been asked a few times to verify guys that I had been mailing with but it has always been my policy not to verify unless I meet.... what do others think of this?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

verification is how we know if people here are honest and real players if this is being sold then that makes shit of the whole system . and any one doing this should be run off the site without question ...

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By *es deux lapinCouple
over a year ago

dublin

We are here quite a while now and have never heard of anyone being asked to verify for money .

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We are here quite a while now and have never heard of anyone being asked to verify for money ."

I have never been offered payment but have been asked..... I refused as it makes a farce of it all.... but recently two different people have told me about the phone credit for verification thing..... bit like selling yourself I guess............

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"verification is how we know if people here are honest and real players if this is being sold then that makes shit of the whole system . and any one doing this should be run off the site without question ...

totally agree, but how do we find out who they are because in my mind the people doing it for phone credit will not be telling and neither will the ones using it for verifications.... will they?

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By *appyPandaMan
over a year ago

Kilkenny, but Dublin is more fun

Seems that's the way it always will be. I believe most people are good but there's the few who will ruin things for their own gain.

If there's a system to keep the creeps out, you can be sure some people will take advantage of it and find a way to profit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will pay a woman in one orgasm for one verification. The rest will be free of charge

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Seems that's the way it always will be. I believe most people are good but there's the few who will ruin things for their own gain.

If there's a system to keep the creeps out, you can be sure some people will take advantage of it and find a way to profit."

guess u r right....just wish there was a way to spot them......

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I will pay a woman in one orgasm for one verification. The rest will be free of charge

that seems fair..... when? lol

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By *he JiggliesCouple
over a year ago

Athlone

We were asked to verif a couple a few weeks ago after just chatting a few minutes, we said no that's not how it works.

Next thing this couple had been verified by a single guy "that the meet the same day they joined" and it's not the first fake account that the guy has done it for.

Hate when the system breaks done like that, the only upside they only hang around for a few weeks.

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By *appyPandaMan
over a year ago

Kilkenny, but Dublin is more fun

"We were asked to verif a couple a few weeks ago after just chatting a few minutes, we said no that's not how it works.

Next thing this couple had been verified by a single guy "that the meet the same day they joined" and it's not the first fake account that the guy has done it for.

Hate when the system breaks done like that, the only upside they only hang around for a few weeks."

That's a good way of looking at it. They're desperate to get verified, hoping that means it's sex every day afterwards. Once they realise that's not the case, they get bored and go back to posting strange ads on craigslist.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Too much emphasis is placed upon verifications and as a result it will be where the abuse happens....because that is apparently what gets you accepted.

Verification doesn't prove who you are other than that person met you and in their opinion you are a nice person, you meet when you say and look like your photo. You could be anyone in reality...There is not proof of I'd, address, utility bill ...nothing....so its really subjective.

It's naive thinking it's actual proof. I don't use verifications as anything other than a shag list...that's really what it has become for many on here....If it's long then I pass by.

Use your gut feeling...its accurate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's just ridiculous

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

"Too much emphasis is placed upon verifications and as a result it will be where the abuse happens....because that is apparently what gets you accepted.

It's naive thinking it's actual proof. I don't use verifications as anything other than a shag list...that's really what it has become for many on here....If it's long then I pass by.

Use your gut feeling...its accurate."

Totally agree with use ur gut feeling but verifications being a shag list I think not. I myself have an extensive list but if u bothered to read they are social meets as in I met them at a party or drinks night my actual "shag list" as u call it is still in single digits. All a veri does is say u turned up and the profile does outline u as u describe

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

"Too much emphasis is placed upon verifications and as a result it will be where the abuse happens....because that is apparently what gets you accepted.

It's naive thinking it's actual proof. I don't use verifications as anything other than a shag list...that's really what it has become for many on here....If it's long then I pass by.

Use your gut feeling...its accurate."

To me as a single woman verifications mean a bit more than a shag list. When someone has a couple of proper meet verifications it gives you a certain reassurance that this person behaves behind closed doors however they only contribute to a small amount for the final decision to meet someone.

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By *arkedMan
over a year ago

Trim

I got a mail late last November from a guy I'd never even heard of asking me to verify him because he wanted to go to a m&g that I was attending and the cheap skate never offered me a cent. So I reported him to 'verify' what he was up to and his account was gone the next day. Not sure if that's the type of verification he had in mind lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think this is common. Has anyone here been offered money for a verification?

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By *ilderMan
over a year ago

dublin

I've never been asked but incidentally my fee is over five figures....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe there should be a name and shame tread aloud to be put up here that would cut a lot of crap on this site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I will pay a woman in one orgasm for one verification. The rest will be free of charge

that seems fair..... when? lol"

Whenever you see up in Dublin next of course. Drop me a message.

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By *ierycrackWoman
over a year ago

SOMEWHERE ELUSIVE........AND HOT!!!

There was something up about this ages ago.

3 guys based in galway were asked for phone credit by a woman.

She changed her username and then dissapeared. Admin were contacted about it at the time

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

It's against the rules to offer or accept payment for any services on the site. Report and block people who offer or ask.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have never been iffered mo ey to veri someone...i have to say we would not take it...you must meet someone to veri them....otherwise none of us can be sure of who we are possibly going to meet. Its very wrong!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Too much emphasis is placed upon verifications and as a result it will be where the abuse happens....because that is apparently what gets you accepted.

It's naive thinking it's actual proof. I don't use verifications as anything other than a shag list...that's really what it has become for many on here....If it's long then I pass by.

Use your gut feeling...its accurate."

Verifications aren't supposed to 'prove who you are'.

As for the long list of veris, it's pretty easy to hide the summary and just display one or two so in reality you'd have no idea how many they actually have. Or they could delete their profile and start again, similarly you'd have no idea how many they've met

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We were asked to verif a couple a few weeks ago after just chatting a few minutes, we said no that's not how it works.

Next thing this couple had been verified by a single guy "that the meet the same day they joined" and it's not the first fake account that the guy has done it for.

Hate when the system breaks done like that, the only upside they only hang around for a few weeks."
surely thre is something can be done about it?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I got a mail late last November from a guy I'd never even heard of asking me to verify him because he wanted to go to a m&g that I was attending and the cheap skate never offered me a cent. So I reported him to 'verify' what he was up to and his account was gone the next day. Not sure if that's the type of verification he had in mind lol"

thats the trouble it is too easy to set up multiple accounts on here....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Too much emphasis is placed upon verifications and as a result it will be where the abuse happens....because that is apparently what gets you accepted.

It's naive thinking it's actual proof. I don't use verifications as anything other than a shag list...that's really what it has become for many on here....If it's long then I pass by.

Use your gut feeling...its accurate.

totally agree with you about that.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Too much emphasis is placed upon verifications and as a result it will be where the abuse happens....because that is apparently what gets you accepted.

It's naive thinking it's actual proof. I don't use verifications as anything other than a shag list...that's really what it has become for many on here....If it's long then I pass by.

Use your gut feeling...its accurate."

I agree about some of what you say particularly the gut thing, mine has never let me down...I disagree about long lists of verifications, I have accumulated quite a few in the time I have been on here but many were from socials, or M&G's or repeat play dates.... It doesn't mean that I shag everyone that has verified me.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"There was something up about this ages ago.

3 guys based in galway were asked for phone credit by a woman.

She changed her username and then dissapeared. Admin were contacted about it at the time

I imagine she just went off and started a new profile......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"so I heard lately that some people on here will verify you for a fee....it seems phone credit is a popular method of payment.....this just makes a joke of the whole verification thing in my book....I have been asked a few times to verify guys that I had been mailing with but it has always been my policy not to verify unless I meet.... what do others think of this? "

I would not verify someone I had not met. As far as reading other peoples verifications unless I knew someone who had verified them then I would not be fully sure they were real

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By *ecretgamesMan
over a year ago

the moon

Just my 50 pence as a single un-verified guy!!

I see a lot of threads about veris, fake ones can't get ones repeat ones !! Means nothing to me to be honest ... I've had two meets from this site and both with other non-verified users so as such we can't verify (non-veri users can't veri another user!! And for a very good reason aswell !!!!) I've also had two no shows and coincidently both of those were veried users!!!

But I have chatted with numerous people on here and get a feel for who they are. Fakes are easy to spot and I'd like to think I'd have no problem in arranging to meet any verified user after they had chatted with me for a while! I fully accept that especially for single women the veri stats are a guide as to whether a prospective meet is genuine or "behaved behind closed doors" so from that perspective it's a pity there are so many fakes!! But it's intuition and common sense that should be your primary decision making tools !!!

So no matter how many veris, or lack of, non of you are veried in my book - and won't be until we meet and that's the approach everyone should take

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By *ierycrackWoman
over a year ago

SOMEWHERE ELUSIVE........AND HOT!!!

"There was something up about this ages ago.

3 guys based in galway were asked for phone credit by a woman.

She changed her username and then dissapeared. Admin were contacted about it at the time

I imagine she just went off and started a new profile......"
i believe sje did and i have no clue who it is.

It is a total paon on the ass when men fall for that credit thing.

It makes this place look cheap and nasty.

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By *ierycrackWoman
over a year ago

SOMEWHERE ELUSIVE........AND HOT!!!

Apols for spelling mistakes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was asked to pay a box of Lidl Magnums for a verification... shocking stuff

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I would not verify someone I had not met. As far as reading other peoples verifications unless I knew someone who had verified them then I would not be fully sure they were real"

tend to agree with you on that where u say about someone u know having verified them....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I was asked to pay a box of Lidl Magnums for a verification... shocking stuff

did u deliver??? lol......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are yet to find anyone other than OP who has encountered someone asking for payment for a verification. I honestly don't think this is a common issue.

It's also not that easy to get a fake account verified. You need a real verified account to verify a fake one. You can't just setup 2 fake accounts and have them verify each other. Fab also has checks. If the same IP address is used to create an account as the address who verifies then it doesn't work. It's not foolproof but there ARE precautions in place to stop this.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just my 50 pence as a single un-verified guy!!

So no matter how many veris, or lack of, non of you are veried in my book - and won't be until we meet and that's the approach everyone should take

I was never too worried about meeting non verified people because we all started here as non verified, so we all had to start somewhere....if everyone refused to meeet non verified people it would make this place a sadder place lol.....oh when I think of the verification cherries I have popped on here.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We are yet to find anyone other than OP who has encountered someone asking for payment for a verification. I honestly don't think this is a common issue.

yes I agree that precautions are in place but it seems there are loopholes....I posted the thread to see how much truth there is in what I have heard... I was never offered payment to do a verification......it was something I heard from two other site members....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've seen threads about this before, and it was pretty common on another site I was on. Sometimes it seems like there's too much emphasis put on a veri, so new people could be forgiven for thinking they're vital to any progress. As long as there are people like my lovely Layla willing to give newbies a chance, verification isn't too far away.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've seen threads about this before, and it was pretty common on another site I was on. Sometimes it seems like there's too much emphasis put on a veri, so new people could be forgiven for thinking they're vital to any progress. As long as there are people like my lovely Layla willing to give newbies a chance, verification isn't too far away."

like I said we were all newbies at some stage....thank you darling x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suppose unverified users see lots of organised socials and parties advertised for verified members only so that's probably one of the reasons why they feel veris are vital.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suppose unverified users see lots of organised socials and parties advertised for verified members only so that's probably one of the reasons why they feel veris are vital. "

Yes, I think that's a lot got to do with it. And as some others have said, it can be hard to feel safe enough to meet an unverified person. We all had to be trusted by someone at the beginning, and it's nice to be able to do the same for someone else sometimes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was asked to pay a box of Lidl Magnums for a verification... shocking stuff

did u deliver??? lol......

Not yet but hopefully soon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They ARE fairly vital. Not that many would take a chance on an unverified newbie.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They ARE fairly vital. Not that many would take a chance on an unverified newbie. "

They're important, but not exactly vital, unless you're going to meet and greets, parties or socials. Realistically, a lot of new people wouldn't be ready for a party situation anyway, even if they thought they were.

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By *otstuff21Man
over a year ago

Dublin citywest

my policy verify only after meeting someone there to many messers so hopefully everyone will only verify after meet it will get rid of the messers hopefully

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I was asked to pay a box of Lidl Magnums for a verification... shocking stuff

did u deliver??? lol......

Not yet but hopefully soon

shame on you....... but u got ur verification........ lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"my policy verify only after meeting someone there to many messers so hopefully everyone will only verify after meet it will get rid of the messers hopefully

but it seems not everyone has that policy...,hence the original posting.....

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By *ease_EMan
over a year ago

DDD12

Pmsl, you verified him.... Lol.

So He still owes you the ice creams

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's getting to the stage where I'd really want to see a verification off someone I know is real.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Pmsl, you verified him.... Lol.

So He still owes you the ice creams "

Oh I know I verified him, it's a little in joke that we have..... I will collect payment next time we meet lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It's getting to the stage where I'd really want to see a verification off someone I know is real."

that's always the easy way alright.........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"my policy verify only after meeting someone there to many messers so hopefully everyone will only verify after meet it will get rid of the messers hopefully

but it seems not everyone has that policy...,hence the original posting....."

That's not fab policy though. You can be verified just from seeing someone on cam in the chat room. It really only designed to probe you are the sex that you say you are.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"my policy verify only after meeting someone there to many messers so hopefully everyone will only verify after meet it will get rid of the messers hopefully

but it seems not everyone has that policy...,hence the original posting.....

That's not fab policy though. You can be verified just from seeing someone on cam in the chat room. It really only designed to probe you are the sex that you say you are. "

yes I know about the cam etc but ...........

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By *ecretly seductiveWoman
over a year ago

Palookaville

I don't agree verifications ate a"shag list"!

I've been here a long time on and of and a lot of my verifications like many are from social meets or events. They don't prove who you are, they are to confirm that you are at least the sex you said you were, turned up and give people an impression which becomes clearer the more you get tbh.i don't think they are the be all and end all ,just an indicator. I've never been asked to verify anyone I haven't met or offered payment to do it and nor would I if I was. I only verify people I have met/know and I always try to give a genuine but polite veri...After all manners and courtesy cost nothing..something many would do well to remember . ..Thankfully I have had the pleasure of meeting many FABULOUS people on here.

Mrs S

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