FabSwingers.com forum: Asking permission?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

A girl on another forum was annoyed (to put it mildly) that her boyfriend was getting a bj from another woman who hadn't asked her permission first.

Is this the normal protocol in Ireland too?

Unfortunately the thread was closed by moderators before i got a chance to throw in my opinion.

Shandy..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would always ask if it's OK to start with a girl I wouldn't ever presume!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A girl on another forum was annoyed (to put it mildly) that her boyfriend was getting a bj from another woman who hadn't asked her permission first.

Is this the normal protocol in Ireland too?

Unfortunately the thread was closed by moderators before i got a chance to throw in my opinion.

Shandy.."

Of course she should have been asked by both him.and the other girl....

He is a sneaky git

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I'd only ask the boyfriend.

Their boundaries as a couple should have already been decided between them. So if it wasn't something she'd be OK with he'd say no and if it was he'd say yes.

I'm sure that's the wrong answer though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally I'd only ask the boyfriend.

Their boundaries as a couple should have already been decided between them. So if it wasn't something she'd be OK with he'd say no and if it was he'd say yes.

I'm sure that's the wrong answer though

I completely agree with you. I don't regard my partner as my possession.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Her permission!?

Does she own him?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally I'd only ask the boyfriend.

Their boundaries as a couple should have already been decided between them. So if it wasn't something she'd be OK with he'd say no and if it was he'd say yes.

I'm sure that's the wrong answer though

My worry would be that he is supposed to be totaly inclusive on the profile...

Hence my reason for asking both....

Still think he is a sneaky git though if she put a thread up on the subject

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Her permission!?

Does she own him?"

My own first reaction!

Bex said: Advice to her... don't take him to clubs!

Advice to him: Dump her!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*in da club

Female: "Hey cutie, you want that sucked?"

Male: "Err...just hang on can you, my partner will be back in a minute, you can ask her"

Female:

"maybe I'll pop back later"

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

"Personally I'd only ask the boyfriend.

Their boundaries as a couple should have already been decided between them. So if it wasn't something she'd be OK with he'd say no and if it was he'd say yes.

I'm sure that's the wrong answer though

My worry would be that he is supposed to be totaly inclusive on the profile...

Hence my reason for asking both....

Still think he is a sneaky git though if she put a thread up on the subject

We don't know the rules or boundaries set in the relationshipa

So branding him a sneaky git is an assumption and stinks of man hating. If they were in a group play and she just turned and gobbled his cock what is he to do pull her off and tell her ask my gf first, I am either be here don't take him to clubs and to him dump her

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

"Personally I'd only ask the boyfriend.

Their boundaries as a couple should have already been decided between them. So if it wasn't something she'd be OK with he'd say no and if it was he'd say yes.

I'm sure that's the wrong answer though

This! I've read that thread and I've to say that woman behaved very immature to put it mildly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My thinking would be that all rules etc that you have as a couple have been well set before you enter into any kind of situation like that

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By *ub_leitrim_guyMan
over a year ago

Out in the sticks

All the Do's/Don'ts should have been sorted before the fun, limits set etc... for all parties there.

Nothing worse than meeting a female or couple without knowing the various boundaries, likes/dislikes beforehand! Of course they can go out the window too during the fun at times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally I'd only ask the boyfriend.

Their boundaries as a couple should have already been decided between them. So if it wasn't something she'd be OK with he'd say no and if it was he'd say yes.

I'm sure that's the wrong answer though

This! I've read that thread and I've to say that woman behaved very immature to put it mildly. "

Care to share which thread?

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By *ommickMan
over a year ago

cork

"*in da club

Female: "Hey cutie, you want that sucked?"

Male: "Err...just hang on can you, my partner will be back in a minute, you can ask her"

Female:

"maybe I'll pop back later""
that sounds like an episode of eastenders

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just read the thread, quite obvious from her comments that they have some sort of prior arrangement , as she feels he broke her trust....

So what is new in the swing world, so CJ he was being a sneaky git, who got caught and obviously did break her trust...

So enough of pathetic man hater comments thanks bbz

The girl should accept though that the other woman is not solely to blame, he did not brush her off...

They as a couple need to state clearly what their boundries at partys are...

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

"Just read the thread, quite obvious from her comments that they have some sort of prior arrangement , as she feels he broke her trust....

So what is new in the swing world, so CJ he was being a sneaky git, who got caught and obviously did break her trust...

So enough of pathetic man hater comments thanks bbz

The girl should accept though that the other woman is not solely to blame, he did not brush her off...

They as a couple need to state clearly what their boundries at partys are..."

It's always easy to blame someone else while the issue was clearly among the female and male of the couple. The op's account got suspended by admin because the op put up a rather immature and appaling status up regarding the woman concerned.

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By *andaCouple
over a year ago

co down

"Just read the thread, quite obvious from her comments that they have some sort of prior arrangement , as she feels he broke her trust....

So what is new in the swing world, so CJ he was being a sneaky git, who got caught and obviously did break her trust...

So enough of pathetic man hater comments thanks bbz

The girl should accept though that the other woman is not solely to blame, he did not brush her off...

They as a couple need to state clearly what their boundries at partys are...

Just to clarify that in the original thread it was in a club. As said before the thread was closed down so was unable to comment there but in our opinion, it's a scenario that should have been discussed by the couple before going to club so as not to get offended when it happened.

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

Btw there two similar threads, I'm referring to the one that's being closed down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just read the thread, quite obvious from her comments that they have some sort of prior arrangement , as she feels he broke her trust....

So what is new in the swing world, so CJ he was being a sneaky git, who got caught and obviously did break her trust...

So enough of pathetic man hater comments thanks bbz

The girl should accept though that the other woman is not solely to blame, he did not brush her off...

They as a couple need to state clearly what their boundries at partys are...

Hence my comment the girl is not solely to blame, from her opening comments the OP was blaming her...

If she put up an appalling status re this girl, then admin were correct to suspend it..

Sending a clear message that embarking on personal attacks via a status is wrong, does appear popular but wrong....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Btw there two similar threads, I'm referring to the one that's being closed down."

Yes commenting on same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my opinion the couple quite clearly never set down their own personal ground rules, what they are comfortable with etc.

They are both to blame as quite clearly there is a breakdown in communication.

Also the giver of fellatio is not to blame. ( Never thought id ever use that word

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

"In my opinion the couple quite clearly never set down their own personal ground rules, what they are comfortable with etc.

They are both to blame as quite clearly there is a breakdown in communication.

Also the giver of fellatio is not to blame. ( Never thought id ever use that word

The giver is only to blame if there where clear signals from the man that he doesn't want to get involved with her respectively if she was pushing herself on to him disrespecting the general play rules. As we don't know her side of the story, I give her the benefit of doubt.

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By *avie tCouple
over a year ago

otherside of nowhere

I think this cpl should not be a cpl or should not be swingers...I would be quite disappointed if my husband didn't receive a blow job at a club or play meet....whatever issues they have are between them nobody else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In my opinion the couple quite clearly never set down their own personal ground rules, what they are comfortable with etc.

They are both to blame as quite clearly there is a breakdown in communication.

Also the giver of fellatio is not to blame. ( Never thought id ever use that word

)

Correct me if I am wrong, but the OP stated that she two runins with the girl, suggesting that after the first time she knew they did not play seperately

Infact her reply was she was simply did not care....

Hardly the behaviour of a girl who was not aware the second time she was crossing boundries...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lack of communication but obviously not a lack of horn

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In my opinion the couple quite clearly never set down their own personal ground rules, what they are comfortable with etc.

They are both to blame as quite clearly there is a breakdown in communication.

Also the giver of fellatio is not to blame. ( Never thought id ever use that word

)

Correct me if I am wrong, but the OP stated that she two runins with the girl, suggesting that after the first time she knew they did not play seperately

Infact her reply was she was simply did not care....

Hardly the behaviour of a girl who was not aware the second time she was crossing boundries..."

And the male in question was incapable of refusing her?

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By *avie tCouple
over a year ago

otherside of nowhere

Can't blame anyone else how your partner behaves.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can't blame anyone else how your partner behaves....."

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

"In my opinion the couple quite clearly never set down their own personal ground rules, what they are comfortable with etc.

They are both to blame as quite clearly there is a breakdown in communication.

Also the giver of fellatio is not to blame. ( Never thought id ever use that word

)

Correct me if I am wrong, but the OP stated that she two runins with the girl, suggesting that after the first time she knew they did not play seperately

Infact her reply was she was simply did not care....

Hardly the behaviour of a girl who was not aware the second time she was crossing boundries...

And the male in question was incapable of refusing her?"

This exactly and the post below Casey's.

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By *ecretly seductiveWoman
over a year ago

Palookaville

"Personally I'd only ask the boyfriend.

Their boundaries as a couple should have already been decided between them. So if it wasn't something she'd be OK with he'd say no and if it was he'd say yes.

I'm sure that's the wrong answer though

This! I've read that thread and I've to say that woman behaved very immature to put it mildly. "

Have to agree with the above. .All boundaries etc should have been agreed beforehand....If this is going to upset someone maybe they need to reconsider what they're doing!

Mrs S

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow! Not used to so many people agreeing with me! I think I need to sit down

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By *ingerrrrWoman
over a year ago

Meath

At parties I've asked the females permission to fuck their husbands...

Especially if we're going off to a room alone..

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By *irtypair00Couple
over a year ago

Dublin

Well i can only speak for ourselves. Doth myself and mrs dirty always discuss our boundaries before a meet . That way we are fully on the same page and can have fun . We will also tell the people we meet if we don't want to do something.

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By *irtypair00Couple
over a year ago

Dublin

"Wow! Not used to so many people agreeing with me! I think I need to sit down

Hi Penelope just tried to send you a pm but can't , would love to chat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wow! Not used to so many people agreeing with me! I think I need to sit down

no, please stay standing...its alovely view

My very first swing 3sum was all downhill from the time the bedroom door closed and the lady told me that there would be no oral on me and then proceeeded to spend most of the next hour or so squirting.... without having ever mentioned it in chats previously....

since then i make sure i know what the boundaries are well in advance!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi Penelope just tried to send you a pm but can't , would love to chat

Join the f'n queue

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By *irtypair00Couple
over a year ago

Dublin

"Hi Penelope just tried to send you a pm but can't , would love to chat

Join the f'n queue

Haha

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

"Just read the thread, quite obvious from her comments that they have some sort of prior arrangement , as she feels he broke her trust....

So what is new in the swing world, so CJ he was being a sneaky git, who got caught and obviously did break her trust...

So enough of pathetic man hater comments thanks bbz

The girl should accept though that the other woman is not solely to blame, he did not brush her off...

They as a couple need to state clearly what their boundries at partys are..."

Both our comments were posted before u had a chance to read the original thread and inform urself so I'll stand by mine

If I didn't needle u today would have being boring however I haven't had time to look for or read the original thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jaysus once the fun starts we just go with the flow,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Jaysus once the fun starts we just go with the flow, "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Btw there two similar threads, I'm referring to the one that's being closed down."

Im a lazy fooker someone please direct me to the thread in question

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Btw there two similar threads, I'm referring to the one that's being closed down.

Im a lazy fooker someone please direct me to the thread in question

Me too. Would like to read it now out of curiosity.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Im a lazy fooker someone please direct me to the thread in question

Me too. Would like to read it now out of curiosity. "

It was in the Lounge a couple of days ago, probably well-buried by now, if it hasn't been taken down altogether.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just read the thread, quite obvious from her comments that they have some sort of prior arrangement , as she feels he broke her trust....

So what is new in the swing world, so CJ he was being a sneaky git, who got caught and obviously did break her trust...

So enough of pathetic man hater comments thanks bbz

The girl should accept though that the other woman is not solely to blame, he did not brush her off...

They as a couple need to state clearly what their boundries at partys are...

Both our comments were posted before u had a chance to read the original thread and inform urself so I'll stand by mine

If I didn't needle u today would have being boring however I haven't had time to look for or read the original thread "

If you didn`t needle me today???

Thanks CJ you just confirmed what other members had been noticing and telling me...

Though I chose to give you the benefit of the doubt, as we are both adults,your comments towards me are little more than personal attacks...

Please refrain from commenting on minecagain thanks, I do not indulge likewise

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

"Just read the thread, quite obvious from her comments that they have some sort of prior arrangement , as she feels he broke her trust....

So what is new in the swing world, so CJ he was being a sneaky git, who got caught and obviously did break her trust...

So enough of pathetic man hater comments thanks bbz

The girl should accept though that the other woman is not solely to blame, he did not brush her off...

They as a couple need to state clearly what their boundries at partys are...

Both our comments were posted before u had a chance to read the original thread and inform urself so I'll stand by mine

If I didn't needle u today would have being boring however I haven't had time to look for or read the original thread

If you didn`t needle me today???

Thanks CJ you just confirmed what other members had been noticing and telling me...

Though I chose to give you the benefit of the doubt, as we are both adults,your comments towards me are little more than personal attacks...

Please refrain from commenting on minecagain thanks, I do not indulge likewise

Sauce for the goose is sauce for the gander

on more than one occasion u have pulled people on making assumptions yet u freely make similar assumptions and expect every one to sit idly by,

I don't pay into clique mentality ur fans can tell u what they like in private mail I post my opinions and stand by them

When u live by the sword u die by the sword

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By *aterfordDomMan
over a year ago

waterford

I presume the couple weren't actually standing side by side when this blow job incident occurred?

Maybe this was how it played out:

Girl walks up to the guy..excuse me id love to blow you..

but are you part of a couple? Yes..

Ok..please point out ur other half so i may ask her permission... oh over there..ok.. one minute..

She walks over to the other lady...who is being banged by 3 guys..

Excuse me would you mind if I gave ur bf a bit of a blow?

Other woman says.. Fuck Off!!

First woman leaves the party..goes home along and thinks: sooo..that's what swingings like.

Come on.. swinging suppose to be fun.. where people, believe it or not.. are suppose to have sex.. not date.. not chat.. not form ever lasting relationships... just have sex!

To everyone who feels that that woman should of gotten permission first.. chill out..relax...don't take life too seriously..its just a blow job

Hope you enjoyed my story.. and Yes..I had a lot of time on my hands this morning lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Nice story, Wexcock, and probably not far off the truth in many cases. Certainly if the woman HAD asked permission she would definitely have been refused (in no uncertain terms).

Let's hope it didn't put her off swinging, as the scene certainly needs more single women, doesn't it?

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By *aterfordDomMan
over a year ago

waterford

"Nice story, Wexcock, and probably not far off the truth in many cases. Certainly if the woman HAD asked permission she would definitely have been refused (in no uncertain terms).

Let's hope it didn't put her off swinging, as the scene certainly needs more single women, doesn't it?

Hi guys

Glad you liked my story.. was just a bit of fun..

Obviously I don't know anything about the couple, the other lady or the situation..

From what Iv picked up.. it raises a few questions..

The couple hang out with this woman: so have they all had sex together before?

If yes then a blow job would be pretty normal... if not..then why were they hanging out with her in the first place if not for sex?

And if there werent boundaries.. if a swinging couple aren't able to have a conversation about what is n what's not allowed..they prob should quit swinging straight away.

So if there were boundaries: then unless the guy was asleep.. stoned or pissed..its his fault. End of.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

From what I could gather on the forum, they were probably in a club. The woman doing the bj had apparently been 'stalking' them by looking at their profile a lot of times.

Even after being told to stop the bj (by the girl OP), she was later seen to be 'flashing' the guy. All a bit childish, IMO... but it seemed quite important to her.

That's the point at which Bex made the remark about 'Dump her... the other chick is probably a better option'!

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