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"because they're either: A. genuine and insulted that they're being asked to verify themselves. or B. Fake and they're pissed off that they can't string you along any further."  | |||
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"But why would you be insulted to prove your real....we have never had an issue with it " It shouldn't be an insult. but some egos can't handle it. | |||
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"But why would you be insulted to prove your real....we have never had an issue with it " What really pisses me off is when I get messages saying , love your pics etc etc , and I'd love to get to know you. . But then when I ask for pics. , including a face pic , they get all offended and don't want to send one because of their alleged job or whatever . I mean not only go I have public pics. , but my profile pic is of my face ! They can see they are attracted to me , but I'm clueless as to weather I'd find them attractive . And I know a lot of people are reluctant to send face pics. , but I think I'm entitled to ask as all mine are there . | |||
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"I've no problem been asked to prove I'm genuine, what pisses me off is women demanding pics and verifications when they have none themselves." I agree ! | |||
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"But why would you be insulted to prove your real....we have never had an issue with it What really pisses me off is when I get messages saying , love your pics etc etc , and I'd love to get to know you. . But then when I ask for pics. , including a face pic , they get all offended and don't want to send one because of their alleged job or whatever . I mean not only go I have public pics. , but my profile pic is of my face ! They can see they are attracted to me , but I'm clueless as to weather I'd find them attractive . And I know a lot of people are reluctant to send face pics. , but I think I'm entitled to ask as all mine are there . " Couldn't agree more, sick of idiots who demand what they're not willing to share themselves. | |||
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"I think the only people who refuse to send face pics to somebody they are chatting to on here are fakes or have something to hide " I dont and im neither.  | |||
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"I think the only people who refuse to send face pics to somebody they are chatting to on here are fakes or have something to hide I dont and im neither. "Ya big hairy faker you!!  | |||
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"I think the only people who refuse to send face pics to somebody they are chatting to on here are fakes or have something to hide I dont and im neither.
Ya big hairy faker you!! "Ssh no need to tell i dont shave and pretend i cum..  | |||
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"I think the only people who refuse to send face pics to somebody they are chatting to on here are fakes or have something to hide " I am so slow to send face pics. But I am neither fake nor do I have anything to hide. And if someone pushes me to send one I dig my heels in further. I'm annoying like that  | |||
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"I think the only people who refuse to send face pics to somebody they are chatting to on here are fakes or have something to hide I dont and im neither.
Ya big hairy faker you!!
Ssh no need to tell i dont shave and pretend i cum.. "Ud never pretend  Would u 
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"I think the only people who refuse to send face pics to somebody they are chatting to on here are fakes or have something to hide I dont and im neither.
Ya big hairy faker you!!
Ssh no need to tell i dont shave and pretend i cum..
Ud never pretend Would u
Mind u I can safely say I have never had a woman fake orgasm "That you know!!! | |||
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"I think the only people who refuse to send face pics to somebody they are chatting to on here are fakes or have something to hide I dont and im neither. "But you gotta see where people are coming from if they get wary if you don't send a face pic or verify on phone or cam (I seem to remember you don't do that either) Now, I know you're genuine from the forums, but if I didn't know you from Adam I'd be looking for some form of verification, and would be slow to meet if you were slow to provide it. That would raise red flags. The ball's in your court cos you're a lady but look at it from a guys perspective. Not willing to verify in any shape or form is suspicious. Sure only the other day a guy posted that he had his time wasted, and was told he'd should have known better.... | |||
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"Maybe they are afraid they'll break your screen "Oh fuck I nearly fell off my seat laughing 
First time someone made me actualy write fuck in a response as well , normarly write feck or fook | |||
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"Why do people get so upset when you ask them to do a verify pic to prove there real ...especially when there not verified in the first place " Am meet verified, and only send face pic to those people I feel I can trust here 100%... Anyone who does not like this, well tough , my choice and their choice to get upset.. | |||
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"But why would you be insulted to prove your real....we have never had an issue with it What really pisses me off is when I get messages saying , love your pics etc etc , and I'd love to get to know you. . But then when I ask for pics. , including a face pic , they get all offended and don't want to send one because of their alleged job or whatever . I mean not only go I have public pics. , but my profile pic is of my face ! They can see they are attracted to me , but I'm clueless as to weather I'd find them attractive . And I know a lot of people are reluctant to send face pics. , but I think I'm entitled to ask as all mine are there . " thats very true if they are real they should have no problem attaching photos in private messages, no body else sees them only the recipient of the private message the excuse about work and stuff is crap, I don't put my face in public photos but do send face photos privately cos I understand u have to see who ur speaking to and if there us an attraction there too | |||
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"I think the only people who refuse to send face pics to somebody they are chatting to on here are fakes or have something to hide I dont and im neither.
But you gotta see where people are coming from if they get wary if you don't send a face pic or verify on phone or cam (I seem to remember you don't do that either)
Now, I know you're genuine from the forums, but if I didn't know you from Adam I'd be looking for some form of verification, and would be slow to meet if you were slow to provide it. That would raise red flags.
The ball's in your court cos you're a lady but look at it from a guys perspective. Not willing to verify in any shape or form is suspicious.
Sure only the other day a guy posted that he had his time wasted, and was told he'd should have known better...."Im only speaking on my own behalf not generalising unlike the statement that i was responding to. Everyone uses this site differently and all have our individual assessment methods. Ive met men from this site and not one of them have asked for 'proof' of identity nor have i asked them. I take the same chance as any man on here. Most is my gut instinct and it hasnt let me down... Yet. | |||
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"But why would you be insulted to prove your real....we have never had an issue with it What really pisses me off is when I get messages saying , love your pics etc etc , and I'd love to get to know you. . But then when I ask for pics. , including a face pic , they get all offended and don't want to send one because of their alleged job or whatever . I mean not only go I have public pics. , but my profile pic is of my face ! They can see they are attracted to me , but I'm clueless as to weather I'd find them attractive . And I know a lot of people are reluctant to send face pics. , but I think I'm entitled to ask as all mine are there . thats very true if they are real they should have no problem attaching photos in private messages, no body else sees them only the recipient of the private message the excuse about work and stuff is crap, I don't put my face in public photos but do send face photos privately cos I understand u have to see who ur speaking to and if there us an attraction there too" Not every swinger is honest, someone had a comment on the threads awhike back regarding a woman he knew asking others to get another womans face pic.. Thankfuly thevpeople she asked were decent and did not agree, however it could have ended badly had a lesser person agreed.. | |||
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"Kim, we've discussed this very topic before and you know I respect the way you use the site. However all I'm stressing is that if I came across your profile and we started chatting and asked for a face pic, cam or phone chat and was met with no for all three I'd be very wary. MY gut would say fake. " Exactly my point we all use different methods. Your way works for you, mine works for me. It's all personal preference not a generalisation. | |||
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"I think the only people who refuse to send face pics to somebody they are chatting to on here are fakes or have something to hide I dont and im neither.
But you gotta see where people are coming from if they get wary if you don't send a face pic or verify on phone or cam (I seem to remember you don't do that either)
Now, I know you're genuine from the forums, but if I didn't know you from Adam I'd be looking for some form of verification, and would be slow to meet if you were slow to provide it. That would raise red flags.
The ball's in your court cos you're a lady but look at it from a guys perspective. Not willing to verify in any shape or form is suspicious.
Sure only the other day a guy posted that he had his time wasted, and was told he'd should have known better...."But the same guy claims that the woman had sent him face pics, so I am confused here??? Do face pics automaticaly guarantee a genuine member? | |||
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"I think the only people who refuse to send face pics to somebody they are chatting to on here are fakes or have something to hide I dont and im neither.
But you gotta see where people are coming from if they get wary if you don't send a face pic or verify on phone or cam (I seem to remember you don't do that either)
Now, I know you're genuine from the forums, but if I didn't know you from Adam I'd be looking for some form of verification, and would be slow to meet if you were slow to provide it. That would raise red flags.
The ball's in your court cos you're a lady but look at it from a guys perspective. Not willing to verify in any shape or form is suspicious.
Sure only the other day a guy posted that he had his time wasted, and was told he'd should have known better....
But the same guy claims that the woman had sent him face pics, so I am confused here???
Do face pics automaticaly guarantee a genuine member?"It's only a part of it. I use phone calls a lot. | |||
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"I think the only people who refuse to send face pics to somebody they are chatting to on here are fakes or have something to hide I dont and im neither.
But you gotta see where people are coming from if they get wary if you don't send a face pic or verify on phone or cam (I seem to remember you don't do that either)
Now, I know you're genuine from the forums, but if I didn't know you from Adam I'd be looking for some form of verification, and would be slow to meet if you were slow to provide it. That would raise red flags.
The ball's in your court cos you're a lady but look at it from a guys perspective. Not willing to verify in any shape or form is suspicious.
Sure only the other day a guy posted that he had his time wasted, and was told he'd should have known better....
But the same guy claims that the woman had sent him face pics, so I am confused here???
Do face pics automaticaly guarantee a genuine member?
It's only a part of it. I use phone calls a lot. "I use coffee meets or arrange a drink.. If they do not turn up, they are a fake, simply move on and forget them... | |||
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"Would you honestly meet somebody without seen a face pic?" I only send face pic if a meet is arranged tbh. Otherwise no pic. If someone wants a pic or no chat ....then no chat. Simples | |||
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"Would you honestly meet somebody without seen a face pic?" We were thinking the exact samething. But sometimes the facepics are well faked too or old like 10 years old or totally photoshoped. So facepic alone doesnt confirm anything only an inital attraction. Needs to be a combination of proof esp for 1 on 1 coffee meets. | |||
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"Would you honestly meet somebody without seen a face pic? I only send face pic if a meet is arranged tbh. Otherwise no pic. If someone wants a pic or no chat ....then no chat. Simples " fair play! I couldn't do that as I'd have to no from the off if there is an attraction | |||
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"We were told to go to a m&g to get verified, because 3 verified meets and a photo veri didn't cut it. My bf didn't mind but I can understand why people would get their backs up a bit." Oh fffs who the hell told you that you did not cut it, three genuine veris and genuine pics, you should have told whoever it was to get a life | |||
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"I think the only people who refuse to send face pics to somebody they are chatting to on here are fakes or have something to hide I dont and im neither.
Ya big hairy faker you!!
Ssh no need to tell i dont shave and pretend i cum..
Ud never pretend Would u
Mind u I can safely say I have never had a woman fake orgasm
That you know!!! "100% true sur two strokes and I am done never hung around long enough to let her fake it | |||
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"Would you honestly meet somebody without seen a face pic? I only send face pic if a meet is arranged tbh. Otherwise no pic. If someone wants a pic or no chat ....then no chat. Simples fair play! I couldn't do that as I'd have to no from the off if there is an attraction " But it's not just about the face. I wouldn't send a face pic straight away before chatting in case he bugs the life outta me. And then my face pic is floating around out there | |||
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"Would you honestly meet somebody without seen a face pic? I only send face pic if a meet is arranged tbh. Otherwise no pic. If someone wants a pic or no chat ....then no chat. Simples fair play! I couldn't do that as I'd have to no from the off if there is an attraction But it's not just about the face. I wouldn't send a face pic straight away before chatting in case he bugs the life outta me. And then my face pic is floating around out there" Agree here!! | |||
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"We were told to go to a m&g to get verified, because 3 verified meets and a photo veri didn't cut it. My bf didn't mind but I can understand why people would get their backs up a bit. Oh fffs who the hell told you that you did not cut it, three genuine veris and genuine pics, you should have told whoever it was to get a life "Plenty of fake veris going around. If I personally dont know the person whos written the veri it can be difficult to trust. | |||
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"because they're either: A. genuine and insulted that they're being asked to verify themselves. or B. Fake and they're pissed off that they can't string you along any further." Fully agree john | |||
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"We were told to go to a m&g to get verified, because 3 verified meets and a photo veri didn't cut it. My bf didn't mind but I can understand why people would get their backs up a bit. Oh fffs who the hell told you that you did not cut it, three genuine veris and genuine pics, you should have told whoever it was to get a life
Plenty of fake veris going around. If I personally dont know the person whos written the veri it can be difficult to trust."Trust is something that is gained now awarded automatically no face pic isn't an issue I prefer coffee there can be all the attraction in the world but when u meet that's when u know for sure | |||
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"We were told to go to a m&g to get verified, because 3 verified meets and a photo veri didn't cut it. My bf didn't mind but I can understand why people would get their backs up a bit. Oh fffs who the hell told you that you did not cut it, three genuine veris and genuine pics, you should have told whoever it was to get a life
Plenty of fake veris going around. If I personally dont know the person whos written the veri it can be difficult to trust.
Trust is something that is gained now awarded automatically no face pic isn't an issue I prefer coffee there can be all the attraction in the world but when u meet that's when u know for sure "True but I would be talking before u ever get to talk about meeting, ing out fakes flakes and fakers so you dont have that dissaponted stood up waste of time coffee no show for whatever reason. Im sure youve been douped yourself CJ. | |||
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"Why do people get so upset when you ask them to do a verify pic to prove there real ...especially when there not verified in the first place " Not sure Why... but I've been asked to take a photo holding an item they select in my hand to show it is me! no problem with that... nothing wrong with that! | |||
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"We were told to go to a m&g to get verified, because 3 verified meets and a photo veri didn't cut it. My bf didn't mind but I can understand why people would get their backs up a bit. Oh fffs who the hell told you that you did not cut it, three genuine veris and genuine pics, you should have told whoever it was to get a life
Plenty of fake veris going around. If I personally dont know the person whos written the veri it can be difficult to trust."Case of each to their own really. I have swinging long enough now to judge others on my own gut feeling.. Relying on veris of only friends would result in almost a closed shop attitude IMO... After mailing, chatting on phone then a coffee or drink I know if it is right for us both.. | |||
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"Why do people get so upset when you ask them to do a verify pic to prove there real ...especially when there not verified in the first place Not sure Why... but I've been asked to take a photo holding an item they select in my hand to show it is me! no problem with that... nothing wrong with that!" It's obvious why, and reasonable, at least to me. it's to show that the picture is up-to-date and of the person they're chatting to. a skype call (needs no phone number, set up a burner account for fab) is also handy. it's never been easier to prove you're genuine, and thankfully (at least for me) harder for fakes to slip through. You'll get your hand bit a couple of times when you stick it out, but now and then you'll grab something nice  | |||
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"Why do people get annoyed...well we are new here and have no problem sending face pics,videos phone calls (as a few couples can vouch for) etc our problem seems to be when we start chatting to a well verified couple and they say will you send a face pic and we will do the same and we do...then they say no they arent good enough can you send one with our name in it and we do then they say no thats photoshopped and your a fake then dont speak to us for 3 weeks...then out of the blue say are you really a woman (after we change our profile pic to a naughty one i might add) which our reply is no were a couple,then we send a video just to prove we are not fakes of herself talking and saying their name but apparantly that doesnt work and were fakes.... Some people want you to jump thru hoops just because they are a paranoid mess about their lifestyle,no offence to people now but some of the older swingers need to get a reality check and stop treating new swingers like shit,everyone has to start somewhere if this is what your into,any wonder the swinging community is so small when you have older couples belittling newcomers, " Hands that lady a glass of champagne | |||
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"Why do people get annoyed...well we are new here and have no problem sending face pics,videos phone calls (as a few couples can vouch for) etc our problem seems to be when we start chatting to a well verified couple and they say will you send a face pic and we will do the same and we do...then they say no they arent good enough can you send one with our name in it and we do then they say no thats photoshopped and your a fake then dont speak to us for 3 weeks...then out of the blue say are you really a woman (after we change our profile pic to a naughty one i might add) which our reply is no were a couple,then we send a video just to prove we are not fakes of herself talking and saying their name but apparantly that doesnt work and were fakes.... Some people want you to jump thru hoops just because they are a paranoid mess about their lifestyle,no offence to people now but some of the older swingers need to get a reality check and stop treating new swingers like shit,everyone has to start somewhere if this is what your into,any wonder the swinging community is so small when you have older couples belittling newcomers, " Ah here, there's being cautious and there's paranoid. And i'm sorry to hear you're being belittled. genuine newcomers should be encouraged. (Wanted to reply privately to that, but you've males blocked. ) | |||
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"Why do people get annoyed...well we are new here and have no problem sending face pics,videos phone calls (as a few couples can vouch for) etc our problem seems to be when we start chatting to a well verified couple and they say will you send a face pic and we will do the same and we do...then they say no they arent good enough can you send one with our name in it and we do then they say no thats photoshopped and your a fake then dont speak to us for 3 weeks...then out of the blue say are you really a woman (after we change our profile pic to a naughty one i might add) which our reply is no were a couple,then we send a video just to prove we are not fakes of herself talking and saying their name but apparantly that doesnt work and were fakes.... Some people want you to jump thru hoops just because they are a paranoid mess about their lifestyle,no offence to people now but some of the older swingers need to get a reality check and stop treating new swingers like shit,everyone has to start somewhere if this is what your into,any wonder the swinging community is so small when you have older couples belittling newcomers, Ah here, there's being cautious and there's paranoid. And i'm sorry to hear you're being belittled. genuine newcomers should be encouraged. (Wanted to reply privately to that, but you've males blocked. ) " I know right lol the really weird thing is once they eventually got the msg we werent interested after all their bullshit they blocked us lol Sorry for the block but you know yourself | |||
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"Why do people get annoyed...well we are new here and have no problem sending face pics,videos phone calls (as a few couples can vouch for) etc our problem seems to be when we start chatting to a well verified couple and they say will you send a face pic and we will do the same and we do...then they say no they arent good enough can you send one with our name in it and we do then they say no thats photoshopped and your a fake then dont speak to us for 3 weeks...then out of the blue say are you really a woman (after we change our profile pic to a naughty one i might add) which our reply is no were a couple,then we send a video just to prove we are not fakes of herself talking and saying their name but apparantly that doesnt work and were fakes.... Some people want you to jump thru hoops just because they are a paranoid mess about their lifestyle,no offence to people now but some of the older swingers need to get a reality check and stop treating new swingers like shit,everyone has to start somewhere if this is what your into,any wonder the swinging community is so small when you have older couples belittling newcomers, Ah here, there's being cautious and there's paranoid. And i'm sorry to hear you're being belittled. genuine newcomers should be encouraged. (Wanted to reply privately to that, but you've males blocked. ) I know right lol the really weird thing is once they eventually got the msg we werent interested after all their bullshit they blocked us lol Sorry for the block but you know yourself "Shoot me a mail, I'd like to offer some encouragement. (stop sniggering down the back, i'm being sincere) | |||
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"Why do people get annoyed...well we are new here and have no problem sending face pics,videos phone calls (as a few couples can vouch for) etc our problem seems to be when we start chatting to a well verified couple and they say will you send a face pic and we will do the same and we do...then they say no they arent good enough can you send one with our name in it and we do then they say no thats photoshopped and your a fake then dont speak to us for 3 weeks...then out of the blue say are you really a woman (after we change our profile pic to a naughty one i might add) which our reply is no were a couple,then we send a video just to prove we are not fakes of herself talking and saying their name but apparantly that doesnt work and were fakes.... Some people want you to jump thru hoops just because they are a paranoid mess about their lifestyle,no offence to people now but some of the older swingers need to get a reality check and stop treating new swingers like shit,everyone has to start somewhere if this is what your into,any wonder the swinging community is so small when you have older couples belittling newcomers, Ah here, there's being cautious and there's paranoid. And i'm sorry to hear you're being belittled. genuine newcomers should be encouraged. (Wanted to reply privately to that, but you've males blocked. ) I know right lol the really weird thing is once they eventually got the msg we werent interested after all their bullshit they blocked us lol Sorry for the block but you know yourself
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"Would you honestly meet somebody without seen a face pic? I only send face pic if a meet is arranged tbh. Otherwise no pic. If someone wants a pic or no chat ....then no chat. Simples fair play! I couldn't do that as I'd have to no from the off if there is an attraction But it's not just about the face. I wouldn't send a face pic straight away before chatting in case he bugs the life outta me. And then my face pic is floating around out there" that's if someone wants to use ur pic! A pic to me is to see if there is an attraction! For me it's a complete waste of time without a physical attraction | |||
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"Photo verified only proofs that you're a the sex you claim you are. I doubt mods wouldn't approve it because they look 50 but claim to be 30. Also it won't stop them sending a fake face pic. All you can do is use your gut and be careful. I won't send face pics on here anymore. All on kik so my face can't be linked to the site. Oh and just because some people publish their face pics, doesn't mean they have the right to see other people's faces. " what I usually get on here from most women is a request of a face pic after 3 to 4 mails! Also alot of female profile ask for a face pic to be provided in the opening mail | |||
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