FabSwingers.com forum: Do women ever send the first mail

By *hudBEfun OP Man
over a year ago

longford

Simple sorta question .

Just I've never received initial contact from a woman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On an aside...op..i looked at your veri list and haven't come across one single person on it before...im about years..never ceases to a amaze me how many people there are in fab...

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By *aid backMan
over a year ago

by a lake with my rod out

yes they do

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By *oxic1998Woman
over a year ago

Belfast

I've been known too

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By *ecretly seductiveWoman
over a year ago

Palookaville

Yep. ...If I'm interested I do

Mrs S

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course they do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Of course they do

just not to the op it seems

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By *isdirtygirlWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

I have done yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Of course they do

just not to the op it seems"

Oops

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have. But only a few times. It has to be a pretty outstanding profile. Most of my time here is spent nosing the forums and replying to mails.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No

Why not? Are you too good to do it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've been known too

Still waiting Toxic!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I often get first messages from women. Don't get me wrong I'd initiate the conversation most of the time but not all the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No

Why not? Are you too good to do it?"

Id say she's way too busy answering all the mail she gets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Simple sorta question .

Just I've never received initial contact from a woman "

Can't speak for every woman on here .. But I defiantly send mails .. If I see something I like then I go for it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very very very rarely ! My reason for it is confidence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have too if i see someone i want

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd just like to say, "ladies, my mailbox is open!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think its great when ppl mail each other, rather than always expecting to receive mail...its the same with friends...it just doesn't work if its always one person initiating things..

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By *hudBEfun OP Man
over a year ago

longford

Surely the women have the upper hand here . So confidence shud the be an issue

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have done on occasion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rare but sometimes I'll stick my neck out

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By *ilderMan
over a year ago

dublin

Yes

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By *ecretly seductiveWoman
over a year ago

Palookaville

"Surely the women have the upper hand here . So confidence shud the be an issue "

Hi op,don't think the great assumption that some make about women having the upper hand here is totally correct personally. .and some women ,like some men don't have great confidence, is down to each person. If you like a women that knows what she wants and isn't afraid to say so that's the type that will probably message, if that's not what you're looking for maybe it's better that someone without that attitude doesn't message. ..If that makes sense lol ..

Mrs S

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do on occasion

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By *ardtofindMan
over a year ago

galway

Lady s have eyes too If they see something that they like xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, but not on this site

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By *hudBEfun OP Man
over a year ago

longford

Yes I guess you may be right ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Surely the women have the upper hand here . So confidence shud the be an issue "

I don't think it's confidence as much as fear that who your mailing wouldn't see you as their type. So by letting the men have the upper hand or taking the initiative to mail you least you know that there's an attraction on their part at least.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah they do

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By *hudBEfun OP Man
over a year ago

longford

Peachy . Yes I agree too . No one like rejection .

I do get mail from men chancing there arm . But allways reply nicely .

Also I'm sure the single gals get swamped by mail . So I allways feel like I'm just another guy annoying them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Peachy . Yes I agree too . No one like rejection .

I do get mail from men chancing there arm . But allways reply nicely .

Also I'm sure the single gals get swamped by mail . So I allways feel like I'm just another guy annoying them

Yeah...this is a bit of an issue, you realise this when friends don't get to read mails..u end up kinda giving up..

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By *ecretly seductiveWoman
over a year ago

Palookaville

Just a little point to bear in mind ,I know you explain well in your profile why you're pics are private and I totally get your point having been victim to those pic collectors to but it is off putting bit to have some public pics. They can easily be something that doesn't identify you in any way ie a torso ie shoulder or whatever but I must admit I kinda steer away from someone with only friends or no public pics as you have no idea at all what they are like,and however unpopular the thought is to some there are attributes that attract and those that don't...better to know upfront if someone is a person you may be attracted to, no? I don't know if that's helpful but just an explanation from my personal feelings

Mrs S

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have gotten mails from women on fist contact, actually one this week who just gave me her Kik and may I say I'm glad I have patience as she is very beautiful and super sexy

So moral of the story OP have patience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No

Why not? Are you too good to do it?"

Not at all. But I'm only here to chat as I don't meet anymore so sending a message for a chat seems disengenious to what most men think the site is for. I stick to the forums the chatrooms and replying to mail get.

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By *hudBEfun OP Man
over a year ago

longford

Yes . I hear you . Do my veries not show w on my page tho ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, sometimes even to people on this thread...

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

Yes. That's how it works!

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By *hudBEfun OP Man
over a year ago

longford

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yup, no problem whatsoever sending the first message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have done yes

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I like this

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

"Surely the women have the upper hand here . So confidence shud the be an issue

Don't worry men have that fear but nothing ventured nothing gained

He says as he sticks his neck out once more in to the breach

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

"No

Why not? Are you too good to do it?

Mail away I'd talk the ass off a donkey

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Rare but sometimes I'll stick my neck out

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By *hudBEfun OP Man
over a year ago

longford

Advice taken . And torso pic up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

rare, they usually wink........because they can

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Damn right I do...

If I spot someone I like, they're getting mail!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Damn right I do...

If I spot someone I like, they're getting mail!

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By *ub_leitrim_guyMan
over a year ago

Out in the sticks

Some will... some won't!

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

"Damn right I do...

If I spot someone I like, they're getting mail!

Cock

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Damn right I do...

If I spot someone I like, they're getting mail!

Cock

Cock fiend

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

"Damn right I do...

If I spot someone I like, they're getting mail!

Cock

Cock fiend

Cock monster JAYUS I wonder if that makes me a pussy monster

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By *ohn MingoMan
over a year ago

Dublin

Yeah, only last week and I fucked it up.

I was heading back into the country and I got a nice mail. After a little Smalltalk I mentioned that I don't normally rush things but I was meeting a Fab fwb for a drink and she was welcome to join us. (Just for a drink)

Scared her off. So if she's reading this I do apologise, the offer was made with good intentions.

Guys, when ladies mail you DON'T FUCK IT UP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah, only last week and I fucked it up.

Scared her off. So if she's reading this I do apologise, the offer was made with good intentions.

Guys, when ladies mail you DON'T FUCK IT UP.

Lol I did this once

Was meeting someone for a drink and Was chatting to a couple ..fem of couple Was saying she hadn't been out In ages so I suggested that her n her partner could join me and my meet, to me it was a friendly polite gesture ..n fair play she took it well, was only when I thought it tru I was like, Cc you dope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never make the first move I just spray Linx down the phone and wait

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By *icketyupWoman
over a year ago

dublin

"Simple sorta question .

Just I've never received initial contact from a woman "

Yup I've sent first mails to both males, females and couples. If someone grabs my attention why wouldn't I ? Each to their own as to how they use the site but to me you've got nothing to lose by sending a mail to someone you think you might be interested in

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By *hudBEfun OP Man
over a year ago

longford

Lol . From my side .

I have mailed loads . Allways been polite . Allways include face pics . But I'd safely say about 95 per cent get deleted unread

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By *eenherebeforeMan
over a year ago

LONDON

Get them all the time. It's a cross I have to bear for bein such a big roide!!! Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Get them all the time. It's a cross I have to bear for bein such a big roide!!! Lol

Ah, bless your modesty!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some girls will...

Some girls won't...

Some girls need a lot of lovin' and some girls don't...

Well...I know I've got the fever but I don't know why

Some say they will and some girls lie....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Get them all the time. It's a cross I have to bear for bein such a big roide!!! Lol

Fckn...sorrieeeeee

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By *eenherebeforeMan
over a year ago

LONDON

I was taking the piss ladies lol

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

"Some girls will...

Some girls won't...

Some girls need a lot of lovin' and some girls don't...

Well...I know I've got the fever but I don't know why

Some say they will and some girls lie....

Racy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was taking the piss ladies lol "

Not like I mailed you first or anything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it is nice when a woman mails you first or out of the blue especially if you are outside of there age range, not seeking singles or are just in town for the night

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes! Ladies takes first step sometimes as well. And all I can say it's a really nice surprise!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The good father has answered the prayers(messages) of some women alright

Though it is rare, usually after meeting at a social

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have but it's never been a serious message looking chat, more a question or opinion about my profile etc. Anyone I've met has always been from my initiative. I think guys have more time to initiate and less intimidated. It's a generalisation but I think lots of women look and don't like if they get turned down, there are those with uber confidence but then they won't have any problem pulling again a few minutes. It's partly to do with numbers on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Either there are so many men that I don't get mails or you women are lying lol

I assume it's the first though.

Oh well. Nothing out of the norm

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By *eneral HysteriaMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

Yes.

They have been known to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm inclined to wink first...Hopefully the guy will look at my profile and if he likes then send me a message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Waits for his wink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course I have and do...

It is a site for meeting others, why would I not send mails..

* scratches head *

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By *elfastDMan
over a year ago

belfast

I do like receiving a random message or wink from women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think they get their secretarys to send messages for them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have received a few but always suspicious of them

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By *ordjeffMan
over a year ago

around and about ,as travel.

Wish a few woman would make the initial first message. And contact me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yup when kitty and me were singles here she sent me the first mail.

Tomcat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yea they do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes and it bodes much better if that happens versus annoying them by clogging their inbox.

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By *at69driveMan
over a year ago

Hertford

"Simple sorta question .

Just I've never received initial contact from a woman "
. Sometimes yes , but your profile has to have sufficient content to generate interest .

The most common topic I get emailed about is holidays in Cap d Agde and advice relating to it .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sometimes and it bodes much better if that happens versus annoying them by clogging their inbox.

True cause if you were waiting for people your interested in to mail you might never get mailed

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By *aughtyTippcplCouple
over a year ago

Nearby

I often send the first mail, if I like a profile then I'll mail and say hi.

Nothing wrong in the woman making the first move

Tina

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