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By *peedy15 OP   Man
over a year ago

dun laoghaire

Im getting much luck on here, ive tried chatting to girls by sending a normal message and telling them a bit about mr and even showing them a proper photo of me so they know what I look like and all but I noticed most girls don't even read the messages and sometimes if I do get a reply when I go on the next day that persons profile is deleted, seems to be very hard to get chatting properly to any women on here, anyone on here have the same problem or can any of the ladies shed some light on the subject

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

I can't help but I can play some violins for you....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can't help but I can play some violins for you....

"
Micheal..tut tut..be sympathetic..lol..If its not working for you..try a different way..maybe a little more funny?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can't help but I can play some violins for you....

Micheal..tut tut..be sympathetic..lol..If its not working for you..try a different way..maybe a little more funny?"

Lol

you want Mick to be funny?

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By *al2001Man
over a year ago

kildare


"I can't help but I can play some violins for you....

Micheal..tut tut..be sympathetic..lol..If its not working for you..try a different way..maybe a little more funny?"

Not Michaels best work but a bit harsh all the same

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

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By *al2001Man
over a year ago

kildare


"I can't help but I can play some violins for you....

Micheal..tut tut..be sympathetic..lol..If its not working for you..try a different way..maybe a little more funny?

Lol

you want Mick to be funny? "

You better delete that,I'm not having ppl thinkin I'm slower than you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same aul story .Your profile is boring, get some pictures up and not just cocktail pictures, you say that when your messaging the ladies that you tell them a bit about yourself, try doing that on ur profile, the ladies get lots of messages, sadly a lot of asshole message them. Join in here on the forum. If you stand out a bit you may get noticed. Oh and walk, don't run.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can't help but I can play some violins for you....

Micheal..tut tut..be sympathetic..lol..If its not working for you..try a different way..maybe a little more funny?

Not Michaels best work but a bit harsh all the same"

Agree with Hal

I thought Mick could only play the flute

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can't help but I can play some violins for you....

Micheal..tut tut..be sympathetic..lol..If its not working for you..try a different way..maybe a little more funny?

Lol

you want Mick to be funny?

You better delete that,I'm not having ppl thinkin I'm slower than you"

Keep up Hal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im getting much luck on here, ive tried chatting to girls by sending a normal message and telling them a bit about mr and even showing them a proper photo of me so they know what I look like and all but I noticed most girls don't even read the messages and sometimes if I do get a reply when I go on the next day that persons profile is deleted, seems to be very hard to get chatting properly to any women on here, anyone on here have the same problem or can any of the ladies shed some light on the subject"
what is very difficult here is to get a convo flowing! U mail they reply for 2-3 messages, then gone! Next time few days later u might mail again, no reply, days later u mail u get the 3-4 messages, gone again! It's difficult although chatting for a ages on here to a person without meeting bores me! If ur gonna meet just do it

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By *rutus83Man
over a year ago

naas


"I can't help but I can play some violins for you....

"

Ha ha love it mick and such ha nice tune

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By *peedy15 OP   Man
over a year ago

dun laoghaire


"Same aul story .Your profile is boring, get some pictures up and not just cocktail pictures, you say that when your messaging the ladies that you tell them a bit about yourself, try doing that on ur profile, the ladies get lots of messages, sadly a lot of asshole message them. Join in here on the forum. If you stand out a bit you may get noticed. Oh and walk, don't run. "

thanks for the advice I really appreciate it,its good to see theres someone on here thats not here to try make fun of u, I'll try improve my profile and make it less boring

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By *peedy15 OP   Man
over a year ago

dun laoghaire


"Im getting much luck on here, ive tried chatting to girls by sending a normal message and telling them a bit about mr and even showing them a proper photo of me so they know what I look like and all but I noticed most girls don't even read the messages and sometimes if I do get a reply when I go on the next day that persons profile is deleted, seems to be very hard to get chatting properly to any women on here, anyone on here have the same problem or can any of the ladies shed some light on the subjectwhat is very difficult here is to get a convo flowing! U mail they reply for 2-3 messages, then gone! Next time few days later u might mail again, no reply, days later u mail u get the 3-4 messages, gone again! It's difficult although chatting for a ages on here to a person without meeting bores me! If ur gonna meet just do it "

Thats exactly what happens alot, I'll get chatting to a woman sending messages back and forth then they just stop replying or else their profile is deleted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Same aul story .Your profile is boring, get some pictures up and not just cocktail pictures, you say that when your messaging the ladies that you tell them a bit about yourself, try doing that on ur profile, the ladies get lots of messages, sadly a lot of asshole message them. Join in here on the forum. If you stand out a bit you may get noticed. Oh and walk, don't run.

thanks for the advice I really appreciate it,its good to see theres someone on here thats not here to try make fun of u, I'll try improve my profile and make it less boring"

Sorry for hi jacking the thread OP

Its just that this type of post occurs daily and gets a tad tedious

Do a search and see for yourself

On a side note asking the lassies to pm you for more info is going to get you nowhere! Especially when others have penned their own version of war and peace

Best of luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

new year,lets hope something similiar to the millenium bug takes hold of the ladies minds and gets them a bit more attentivein seriousness though it does seem to be pretty tough,would go along with pretty much all thats been said in the thread,shur maybe starting from scratch without many verifications not as attractive to the ladies even though we are all genuine and a worthwhile meet

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway

Firstly pass no heed of the people who just jump on your forum to ridicule and have a pop they too started somewhere but seem to forget that fact.Build your profile steadily join in on the forums engage people on here and find your rhythm you are going to get people on this post doing the whole "oh look another poor me looking for a sympathy fuck" bullshit but these people should just be ignored,good luck with your search and hopefully 2016 will be a year filled with fab fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Firstly pass no heed of the people who just jump on your forum to ridicule and have a pop they too started somewhere but seem to forget that fact.Build your profile steadily join in on the forums engage people on here and find your rhythm you are going to get people on this post doing the whole "oh look another poor me looking for a sympathy fuck" bullshit but these people should just be ignored,good luck with your search and hopefully 2016 will be a year filled with fab fun."

Good advice Top man!!

Listen to him!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My advice would be put up some pics. Lose the cock pic though one or two on profile is fine. Body pics are always good. Plus there's very little info on your profile. I would probably ignore your message if you sent me one tbh. Forums are a good way of chatting to people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not being sarcastic miss e but even with all those things you mention it doesnt guarantee replies on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"not being sarcastic miss e but even with all those things you mention it doesnt guarantee replies on here "

Well I can't guarantee a reply obviously. Just giving some advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

wouldnt want the kids getting false hope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just hang in there be respectful change your profile pic have the Craic on the fourms and above all injoy yourself all the best

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Firstly pass no heed of the people who just jump on your forum to ridicule and have a pop they too started somewhere but seem to forget that fact.Build your profile steadily join in on the forums engage people on here and find your rhythm you are going to get people on this post doing the whole "oh look another poor me looking for a sympathy fuck" bullshit but these people should just be ignored,good luck with your search and hopefully 2016 will be a year filled with fab fun."

Couldn't agree with this post more.

Well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi I'm not sure if this is along the same lines and I apologise if it doesn't make sense but I'm finding it hard too! I've never "chatted" online before and I'm finding the whole process hard work! Messaging is slow and repetitive and I quite often lose interest before I even get close to arranging anything. I guess I just want to tell the OP that the forums and socials seem a good way to start, conversation flows more naturally and you get a sense of a person without the boring intro message thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Firstly pass no heed of the people who just jump on your forum to ridicule and have a pop they too started somewhere but seem to forget that fact.Build your profile steadily join in on the forums engage people on here and find your rhythm you are going to get people on this post doing the whole "oh look another poor me looking for a sympathy fuck" bullshit but these people should just be ignored,good luck with your search and hopefully 2016 will be a year filled with fab fun."
brilliant post

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By *isdirtygirlWoman
over a year ago

Dublin


"Hi I'm not sure if this is along the same lines and I apologise if it doesn't make sense but I'm finding it hard too! I've never "chatted" online before and I'm finding the whole process hard work! Messaging is slow and repetitive and I quite often lose interest before I even get close to arranging anything. I guess I just want to tell the OP that the forums and socials seem a good way to start, conversation flows more naturally and you get a sense of a person without the boring intro message thing. "

Its all about getting the hang of it really... i felt a little lost and bewildered at first. The messages were coming at a rapid rate that i couldnt keep up. Use the site for whats best for you Rocket. Welcome and the very best of luck!

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By *idserzryanerzMan
over a year ago

Waterford


"Hi I'm not sure if this is along the same lines and I apologise if it doesn't make sense but I'm finding it hard too! I've never "chatted" online before and I'm finding the whole process hard work! Messaging is slow and repetitive and I quite often lose interest before I even get close to arranging anything. I guess I just want to tell the OP that the forums and socials seem a good way to start, conversation flows more naturally and you get a sense of a person without the boring intro message thing.

Its all about getting the hang of it really... i felt a little lost and bewildered at first. The messages were coming at a rapid rate that i couldnt keep up. Use the site for whats best for you Rocket. Welcome and the very best of luck! "

Lol, you were flooded with messages... The problem is the exact opposite for 99% of us guys... I'd be lucky to get one a week and it'd probably be off another guy lol

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By *isdirtygirlWoman
over a year ago

Dublin


"Hi I'm not sure if this is along the same lines and I apologise if it doesn't make sense but I'm finding it hard too! I've never "chatted" online before and I'm finding the whole process hard work! Messaging is slow and repetitive and I quite often lose interest before I even get close to arranging anything. I guess I just want to tell the OP that the forums and socials seem a good way to start, conversation flows more naturally and you get a sense of a person without the boring intro message thing.

Its all about getting the hang of it really... i felt a little lost and bewildered at first. The messages were coming at a rapid rate that i couldnt keep up. Use the site for whats best for you Rocket. Welcome and the very best of luck!

Lol, you were flooded with messages... The problem is the exact opposite for 99% of us guys... I'd be lucky to get one a week and it'd probably be off another guy lol"

So the best thing for you to do is interact on the forum where the lovely ladies will read your posts and just might mail you instead

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By *on1980Man
over a year ago

City Centre


"Hi I'm not sure if this is along the same lines and I apologise if it doesn't make sense but I'm finding it hard too! I've never "chatted" online before and I'm finding the whole process hard work! Messaging is slow and repetitive and I quite often lose interest before I even get close to arranging anything. I guess I just want to tell the OP that the forums and socials seem a good way to start, conversation flows more naturally and you get a sense of a person without the boring intro message thing.

Its all about getting the hang of it really... i felt a little lost and bewildered at first. The messages were coming at a rapid rate that i couldnt keep up. Use the site for whats best for you Rocket. Welcome and the very best of luck! "

Nice to see a bit of encouragement. Happy fabbing

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By *ub_leitrim_guyMan
over a year ago

Out in the sticks


" The problem is the exact opposite for 99% of us guys... I'd be lucky to get one a week and it'd probably be off another guy lol"

I send myself some very sexy ones!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thanks everyone. I do think the problem is the sheer volume of messages! Even when I do get chatting to someone they get lost in the masses at some stage! I'm definitely going to get myself to a social for some real life interaction, I'm much better equipped for that

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By *idserzryanerzMan
over a year ago

Waterford


"Hi I'm not sure if this is along the same lines and I apologise if it doesn't make sense but I'm finding it hard too! I've never "chatted" online before and I'm finding the whole process hard work! Messaging is slow and repetitive and I quite often lose interest before I even get close to arranging anything. I guess I just want to tell the OP that the forums and socials seem a good way to start, conversation flows more naturally and you get a sense of a person without the boring intro message thing.

Its all about getting the hang of it really... i felt a little lost and bewildered at first. The messages were coming at a rapid rate that i couldnt keep up. Use the site for whats best for you Rocket. Welcome and the very best of luck!

Lol, you were flooded with messages... The problem is the exact opposite for 99% of us guys... I'd be lucky to get one a week and it'd probably be off another guy lol

So the best thing for you to do is interact on the forum where the lovely ladies will read your posts and just might mail you instead "

Lol ok fingers crossed

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By *idserzryanerzMan
over a year ago

Waterford


" The problem is the exact opposite for 99% of us guys... I'd be lucky to get one a week and it'd probably be off another guy lol

I send myself some very sexy ones!!"

I never tried that approach haha

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By *ub_leitrim_guyMan
over a year ago

Out in the sticks


" The problem is the exact opposite for 99% of us guys... I'd be lucky to get one a week and it'd probably be off another guy lol

I send myself some very sexy ones!!

I never tried that approach haha"

Oh I send them last thing at night, then get all excited next morning checking if I have messages!!

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By *idserzryanerzMan
over a year ago

Waterford


" The problem is the exact opposite for 99% of us guys... I'd be lucky to get one a week and it'd probably be off another guy lol

I send myself some very sexy ones!!

I never tried that approach haha

Oh I send them last thing at night, then get all excited next morning checking if I have messages!! "

Id say your cock twitches a little with excitement?

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By *ub_leitrim_guyMan
over a year ago

Out in the sticks

Oh goodness me Yes!! You won't see me complain about getting no messages!

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By *idserzryanerzMan
over a year ago

Waterford


"Oh goodness me Yes!! You won't see me complain about getting no messages!"

No you won't, you're too busy stuck in the forums to have time for complaining...!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok I know what u mean I've been on here quite awhile and I'm in the same boat either women don't reply to you are do then the next are two they left the site I have net a few off this buts it's been too long now and looking fir a meet up but all the women on.here are just not intresred to be fair some do reply and tell you that and others are just pure irogrant and ignore your msg .how is any new members are old neambers meant to enjoy the site and have fun when there is no fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

See to be the same old story. I've been here for a good while too and spoken to a few but either no reply or just ignored to most.

But as soon as you look for any assistance through a forum it's just the usual tirade of taking the piss out of the original poster.

I completely understand that females get hammered on here with messages but if they just disregard you straight away, don't even reply or delete your message you can't get a fair crack of the whip.

Is it a case that there is enough men here already that have been verified and there's no place or any more of us? Either that or I have a head like a boot!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need to be persistent, took me a long while, but you need to gain people's trust on these kind of sites

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By *aid backMan
over a year ago

by a lake with my rod out

whats with all the negativity and whinging ? do you all expect the women just to fuck you because you mailed them ?

yes women get 100s of mails a day most of them are shite mails ( iv seen them with my own mind via a friends phone) so you all need to think of a why to catch the woman's attention that doesn't involve sending a mail....

all these " oh whoa is me I cant get a fucking meet or even a reply" or " what am I doing wrong " type of threads boil my piss. its simple as this... treat the site as if you where in a bar/pub.

you wouldn't go around showing your cock to every woman you saw.

you wouldn't ask every woman do you want to fuck.

the list goes on and you can get the drift.

and finally whinging about women not replying to you is a sure fire way to show the women on here that you are a whingy little girl that rather than change tatics they post moaning.

rant over

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By *verready32Man
over a year ago

omagh

My best advice is just chat to the ladies be friendly and above all be respectful, that way you have chance, but the point still stands that IF the ladies are deleting the messages before they even open them. Well we're all fucked lol!

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By *ub_leitrim_guyMan
over a year ago

Out in the sticks


"whats with all the negativity and whinging ? do you all expect the women just to fuck you because you mailed them ?

yes women get 100s of mails a day most of them are shite mails ( iv seen them with my own mind via a friends phone) so you all need to think of a why to catch the woman's attention that doesn't involve sending a mail....

all these " oh whoa is me I cant get a fucking meet or even a reply" or " what am I doing wrong " type of threads boil my piss. its simple as this... treat the site as if you where in a bar/pub.

you wouldn't go around showing your cock to every woman you saw.

you wouldn't ask every woman do you want to fuck.

the list goes on and you can get the drift.

and finally whinging about women not replying to you is a sure fire way to show the women on here that you are a whingy little girl that rather than change tatics they post moaning.

rant over"

...and a good rant too!

all these " oh whoa is me I cant get a fucking meet or even a reply" or " what am I doing wrong " type of threads boil a lot of people's piss, especially those they are trying to meet!

It's hard work trying to get meets, moaning about no replies etc makes it harder!!

Women get 100s of mails a day most of them are shite mails... most probably won't read them all and who can blame them??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If all that advice fails I'll hold a mass for you

If that doesn't work nothing will

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Firstly pass no heed of the people who just jump on your forum to ridicule and have a pop they too started somewhere but seem to forget that fact.Build your profile steadily join in on the forums engage people on here and find your rhythm you are going to get people on this post doing the whole "oh look another poor me looking for a sympathy fuck" bullshit but these people should just be ignored,good luck with your search and hopefully 2016 will be a year filled with fab fun."

A great reply

Too many(Forumite Junkies) like to see there name's plastered all over threads to make them appear popular even though they're posting shiote! They ridicule Newbies.

To the OP that started this thread hang in there I've no doubt you'll be successful with time.

As for " Do you want to be in my gang " forumites - No thanks I don't post for the sake of it - a lesson you lot should learn too!

Rant over

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What a load of bullshit first off all I don't be on the treads are forms giving out all the time I just comment and agreed with the newbies and I understand alot of women get alot of shit msgs abd dick pics but I'm not one off them I send a polite msg with a face pic sometimes I get a reply other times I don't but always the same answer not intrested maybe it's because I havnt much experience are verifications but how can one get them if they don't get meets abd for the fellas on here saying were winging like we girls I've looked your profiles u seem to be ok as u have a shit load of verifications that's why u arnt complaining and u seemly have to be a male slut to get any attention just saying

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