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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

As a lady of certain sexual preferences how would fabbers disclose their "fabness" to a vanilla potential partner/relationship . Or do fabbers think it's 2 separate world's and can be kept so?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've thought of that for a while actually, I just don't know!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on if your going to date someone from the lifestyle or your giving up one for the other. I'm pretty honest myself and upfront if was getting serious I'd tell them rather than it coming out another way eventually

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By *hite NoiseMan
over a year ago

Dublin

I think if I was starting a relationship outside fab I would close my account and have a non swing relationship and if down the line my partner gave any indication of a liking to a swing lifestyle start from fresh as a couple without letting my partner know of my past. Not out of shame or fear but because I wouldn't want my partner feeling they were starting this phase playing catch up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think if I was starting a relationship outside fab I would close my account and have a non swing relationship and if down the line my partner gave any indication of a liking to a swing lifestyle start from fresh as a couple without letting my partner know of my past. Not out of shame or fear but because I wouldn't want my partner feeling they were starting this phase playing catch up"

Yes and if or when discovers you were active on the scene beforehand what would you do then?

Tomcat

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By *hite NoiseMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"I think if I was starting a relationship outside fab I would close my account and have a non swing relationship and if down the line my partner gave any indication of a liking to a swing lifestyle start from fresh as a couple without letting my partner know of my past. Not out of shame or fear but because I wouldn't want my partner feeling they were starting this phase playing catch up

Yes and if or when discovers you were active on the scene beforehand what would you do then?

Tomcat "
well my past is my past so what I've done before starting this relationship shouldn't matter should it? I wouldn't ask my potential partner their sexual history before deciding if they were suitable to date. Just my view for what it's worth. That said with the turnover of people of people on fab it's highly unlikely most the people I know now on fab would still be there by the time my relationship would ever progress to a swing relationship. If it turned to a swing relationship weeks after starting it wouldn't be much of a basis to start on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can see your point but can I just point something out and please its not a dig or nit picking etc. A lot of swinging relationships (or vanilla relationships for that matter) are built on trust. To deny you were previously involved in the scene beforehand wouldn't be starting or building a relationship in the right way to me. Just my opinion so apologies if you think I'm nit picking

Tomcat

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By *hite NoiseMan
over a year ago

Dublin

No I dont think your not picking at all. As I said before if I was starting a vanilla relationship I would leave fab with no intention of having a swing relationship down the line.

Can see your point on being upfront and honest but don't see it as an issue unless it's your intention to try move back into the scene with your new partner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree here!!

I don't think it's necessary to tell every detail of your life to a person you are dating but if the guy I date asks if I was on a swing/adult site before then that's when you need to tell the truth!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I agree here!!

I don't think it's necessary to tell every detail of your life to a person you are dating but if the guy I date asks if I was on a swing/adult site before then that's when you need to tell the truth!! "

I meant to say I was agreeing with the poster above me!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always agree with the lady above me. It's safer!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm gone so far I can't go back to vanilla dating!

The nillas either can't cope with my lifestyle or treat me like a new toy!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm gone so far I can't go back to vanilla dating!

The nillas either can't cope with my lifestyle or treat me like a new toy! "

Hey..I've pm you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swinging is a lifestyle choice for me at the moment.

I do not intend to carry on much longer, having explored many fantasies and in particular saucy roleplay scenarios.

Any potential partner does not need to know I once indulged, their prior sexual history is of no interest to me, so have no need to shout mine from the rooftop..

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By *on1980Man
over a year ago

City Centre

I tried to have a "normal" relationship, and it went well for a few months but I got the urge to get back into the scene. When I suggested it I got a very definite NO hence the reason I'm single again!!

It's something that is hard to leave behind and hard for others to get.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Varying opinions it seems..could be all hypothetical anyway. I tend to pick unavailable untrustworthy guys..vanilla or not..lol

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By *on1980Man
over a year ago

City Centre

Ah cherry, you've been looking in all the wrong places

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By *hite NoiseMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"Varying opinions it seems..could be all hypothetical anyway. I tend to pick unavailable untrustworthy guys..vanilla or not..lol"
your definitely looking in all the wrong places Cherry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Swinging is a lifestyle choice for me at the moment.

I do not intend to carry on much longer, having explored many fantasies and in particular saucy roleplay scenarios.

Any potential partner does not need to know I once indulged, their prior sexual history is of no interest to me, so have no need to shout mine from the rooftop.."

I would just be afraid that some person who you had met before wouldn't be discreet enough in the future and the potential partner finds out. I know it's just a scenario but Ireland is a pretty small place.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ah cherry, you've been looking in all the wrong places "

Ah..I'd find em. Believe me..for someone so together n intelligent I'd swallow a brick at times...no sexual innuendo intended. .lol

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By *on1980Man
over a year ago

City Centre

Don't give up just yet

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