FabSwingers.com forum: Friend

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've completed a serious cull of my "friends" list on fab. What would people consider friends? Fabbers you're chatting to or met? N if someone stops chatting do you remove them??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I cull our "friends" list regularly, it's people we might meet and if we haven't chatted for a while or interest has waned,they're deleted. We can always pick up where we left off again.

I have real friends outside fab, that's not what I am here for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Friends list gets looked at often, and some removed, and some added.

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

Usually only accept friends invites from people I enjoy and feel them worthy of friendship as I like to keep in contact with meeting at socials or if I am up their way. So my list isn't that long

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't class swingers as real friends being honest but the people we have met we have them on our friends list but would never call them our real friends outside of here they way some people would just my opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Last time round I thought had made a good few friends but when I left I could count on one hand the people who were interested in the person not the pussy. Most either wanted the ride or weren't interested once I wasn't meeting. This time round it's keeping Base with those I did like, and when we do finally meet for satisfying both the other and our kinks not for making "friends"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ye can find a friend in me

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

I only accept friend invites every moon eclipse in order to keep it short, nevertheless a spring cleaning is needed now and then.

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By *isdirtygirlWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

Ive made a few loonie friends here. We chat everyday,have each others phone numbers,meet up regularly as a group,ive been away for a weekend with these people and had nights out with them too. My normal life is still the same with real friends that dont swing but i love the bones of these lunatics that love the same things as me . Theyre an absolute joy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Friends list gets looked at often, and some removed, and some added. "

Yip

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By *eanontiWoman
over a year ago

Limerick

I do a clear out on a regular basis. People I no longer chat to etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Friends list gets looked at often, and some removed, and some added.

Yip

That a hint to send one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ive made a few loonie friends here. We chat everyday,have each others phone numbers,meet up regularly as a group,ive been away for a weekend with these people and had nights out with them too. My normal life is still the same with real friends that dont swing but i love the bones of these lunatics that love the same things as me . Theyre an absolute joy. "

Mwahhhhhh xxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes you make the mistake of thinking they're your friend too. No more of those mistakes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sometimes you make the mistake of thinking they're your friend too. No more of those mistakes "

I know where you're coming from..... I lost some friends too but I found out who my real friends on Fab are and who are worth calling my friends!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I actually do not understand what is so wrong about meeting people on a swinging site, clicking and becoming friends (with beneifts if it suits). We have met several lovely couples and singles in our short year as swingers in Ireland and clicked with several of them. Two couples in our town have become good buddies and we meet regularly for coffee or dinner or for the kids to play. We have shared good and bad news wiht another couple and will do so to eternity. Other couples we have clicked with are afraid to acknowledge they know us because they don't know how to explain us to their friends and family. So what is the big deal? Why hide from something as good as a friendship?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some friends stay

Some friends go

It's life

No big deal

But a puppy ain't just for Christmas.

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By *eanontiWoman
over a year ago

Limerick

"I actually do not understand what is so wrong about meeting people on a swinging site, clicking and becoming friends (with beneifts if it suits). We have met several lovely couples and singles in our short year as swingers in Ireland and clicked with several of them. Two couples in our town have become good buddies and we meet regularly for coffee or dinner or for the kids to play. We have shared good and bad news wiht another couple and will do so to eternity. Other couples we have clicked with are afraid to acknowledge they know us because they don't know how to explain us to their friends and family. So what is the big deal? Why hide from something as good as a friendship?"

I have some real friends I met from another site years ago. Been around to chat to and meet up even when I wasn't playing. Friendship start in the oddest of places

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No such thing as friends on here and anyone who thinks there is, is seriously fooling themselves.

Everyone is out for themselves.

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No such thing as friends on here and anyone who thinks there is, is seriously fooling themselves.

Everyone is out for themselves. "
fully agree there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did someone fuck you over

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By *isdirtygirlWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

"No such thing as friends on here and anyone who thinks there is, is seriously fooling themselves.

Everyone is out for themselves. fully agree there

What a load of twaddle!... the friends ive made here are kind and good people... ive had the best nights with,the girly chats,the naughty sex with both sexes,the drinks,the laugh and the tears. Seldom people come along that gel together as a unit and get on so well. Dont knock it til ye try it folks

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By *avie tCouple
over a year ago

otherside of nowhere

"No such thing as friends on here and anyone who thinks there is, is seriously fooling themselves.

Everyone is out for themselves. "

Can't agree there...have made some good friends here....some are still friends even after the sex thing is finished

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No such thing as friends on here and anyone who thinks there is, is seriously fooling themselves.

Everyone is out for themselves. fully agree there

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now that's the gas part when there at socials they don't interact with newbies instead they huddle up in there group an let know one into it now that's more like a load twaddle too me an we have experienced this on a number of times an the funny thing is it's the same people in the same group

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No such thing as friends on here and anyone who thinks there is, is seriously fooling themselves.

Everyone is out for themselves.

Can't agree there...have made some good friends here....some are still friends even after the sex thing is finished"
Xmas is coming would you have a swinger play mate stay in your home for Xmas day infront of your family an outside friends how would that go down with your family where did you guys meet how long you bin friends on so on I'm just curious too know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Did someone fuck you over"
I dunno who that's ment for but if it's for us no not really I just don't believe swingers can be honest reliable friends that you can bring too your family etc that's what real friends are for don't get me wrong I'm not judging anyone I just see it differently towards some of the other posters above that's all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Those on our friends list consist of:

People we fancy and want to meet

People we have met and really liked

People we think are really sound from interacting with them online.

Or a combination of the above.

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By *isdirtygirlWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

"No such thing as friends on here and anyone who thinks there is, is seriously fooling themselves.

Everyone is out for themselves. fully agree there

now that's the gas part when there at socials they don't interact with newbies instead they huddle up in there group an let know one into it now that's more like a load twaddle too me an we have experienced this on a number of times an the funny thing is it's the same people in the same group "

Whos they?? Ive met plenty of newbies at socials whether theyre couples or single males or single females.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No such thing as friends on here and anyone who thinks there is, is seriously fooling themselves.

Everyone is out for themselves. fully agree there

Whos they?? Ive met plenty of newbies at socials whether theyre couples or single males or single females."
oh ain't getting into that part that's fair enough I'm not saying you yourself personally stay in that group but some of your vertifications are in the little special group but anyone my point is I will never class a swinger or people we have no strings attached sex with our friends not in a million years

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By *ohn MingoMan
over a year ago

Dublin

"Those on our friends list consist of:

People we fancy and want to meet

People we have met and really liked

People we think are really sound from interacting with them online.

Or a combination of the above. "

This goes for me too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Those on our friends list consist of:

People we fancy and want to meet

People we have met and really liked

People we think are really sound from interacting with them online.

Or a combination of the above. "

An we also agree on this

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By *ierycrackWoman
over a year ago

SOMEWHERE ELUSIVE........AND HOT!!!

I have two people on here that i reguard as very good friends.

The others are people i would have met in the past at socials or private parties as i no longer go to socials my friends list is small. I still chat with people i met ages ago.

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By *isdirtygirlWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

"No such thing as friends on here and anyone who thinks there is, is seriously fooling themselves.

Everyone is out for themselves. fully agree there

Whos they?? Ive met plenty of newbies at socials whether theyre couples or single males or single females. oh ain't getting into that part that's fair enough I'm not saying you yourself personally stay in that group but some of your vertifications are in the little special group but anyone my point is I will never class a swinger or people we have no strings attached sex with our friends not in a million years "

Well ok..everyone uses this site as they see fit. I dont see it as you do and ive no idea who the group is that you speak of as the majority of my veris are from socials and interaction with other fabbers. Id not have met the few special people i have done if it werent for social nights. Anyways folks happy xmas xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No such thing as friends on here and anyone who thinks there is, is seriously fooling themselves.

Everyone is out for themselves. fully agree there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We attended our first party through Fab last weekend (Our first Fab party, not our first party to attend). Most of the people there we had never met, while most there knew each other and we felt very welcome. People introduced themselves to us and we introduced ourselves to people. Everyone was very nice, warm and welcoming towards us.

So when you say people stick together and don't invite outsiders etc, we must say that we didn't find it so.

Maybe it's down to making an effort and being willing to make the first move and say hello

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By *avie tCouple
over a year ago

otherside of nowhere

"No such thing as friends on here and anyone who thinks there is, is seriously fooling themselves.

Everyone is out for themselves.

Can't agree there...have made some good friends here....some are still friends even after the sex thing is finished Xmas is coming would you have a swinger play mate stay in your home for Xmas day infront of your family an outside friends how would that go down with your family where did you guys meet how long you bin friends on so on I'm just curious too know "

I would presume that they would have their own family to visit on Xmas day...but if I trusted them enough to have them in my home I would trust them to be discrete in the company of non swingers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No such thing as friends on here and anyone who thinks there is, is seriously fooling themselves.

Everyone is out for themselves.

I would presume that they would have their own family to visit on Xmas day...but if I trusted them enough to have them in my home I would trust them to be discrete in the company of non swingers"

Don't forget your neighbours!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No such thing as friends on here and anyone who thinks there is, is seriously fooling themselves.

Everyone is out for themselves.

I would presume that they would have their own family to visit on Xmas day...but if I trusted them enough to have them in my home I would trust them to be discrete in the company of non swingers"
that's fair enough but what if a question pops up of where did you guys meet and so on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We attended our first party through Fab last weekend (Our first Fab party, not our first party to attend). Most of the people there we had never met, while most there knew each other and we felt very welcome. People introduced themselves to us and we introduced ourselves to people. Everyone was very nice, warm and welcoming towards us.

So when you say people stick together and don't invite outsiders etc, we must say that we didn't find it so.

Maybe it's down to making an effort and being willing to make the first move and say hello "
I'm assuming it was the venue and I highly agree with you it's very well run with a nice crowd and lovely hosts how ever I'm speaking about socials that pop up by these same people this group never interact with anyone other than themselves which ruins the hole idea of meeting new people again I would still not call them friends no matter how many times we have met them at partys or sexual meets everyone has different opinions and that's fine but I just woul not call a swinger a friend iv even seen people having birthday parties with swingers like where's there family where's the real friends too celebrate the birthday but hey il leave it at that happy crimbo

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Guys...didnt mean this to become a bitching session. I was originally referring to the fabbers who have access to your friend only pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No such thing as friends on here and anyone who thinks there is, is seriously fooling themselves.

Everyone is out for themselves. "

Completely disagree with that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Guys...didnt mean this to become a bitching session. I was originally referring to the fabbers who have access to your friend only pics"
by all means I ain't bitching I just have different view too it than others I do apologise if I did offend anyone but did go off track slightly happy Xmas

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No such thing as friends on here and anyone who thinks there is, is seriously fooling themselves.

Everyone is out for themselves.

Can't agree there...have made some good friends here....some are still friends even after the sex thing is finished"

Yeah, I can identify with that too. Nice people are nice people, whether they swing or not is irrelevant to me.

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By *ir1967Man
over a year ago

in da sticks, london, amsterdam, madrid

It is great that this thread exist as it motivated some people to reveal their entire hypocrisy. Still need to get this: Someone you met here and may had sex with does not qualify to become a real friend? Why is that? Because your "real" friends don't do the "durty things" YOU do here. And eye brows could be risen where ya know this couple/dude/ girl from, although this is no one's business, not even your mom's . Someone you meet here you may go to fuck in the real world if your membership is not limited to keyboard wanking. ..and you are ashamed ?...you should not be here in the first place. Contact your local shrink how to get rid of your hypocrit guilt complex which has been brainwashed into you since childhood. ...jaysus how medieval is this kind of mindset

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My friends list is basically peeps that I have met or talked to and got on with,

Some I haven't talked to in ages but they are still fab friends so why "clear out" ?

They are still peeps I like and get on with

And as for having them over for Xmas day are you nuts

I wouldn't do that to my enemies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was my first drinks social a few weeks ago. I enjoyed it. Met some lovely people. I did not expect to speak to everyone there. But I respect everyone's view. I have some friends on fab. I have some numbers. I don't keep txting or annoying people. People have views and I respect that. Trust is a big thing. I find it best to meet people slowly. If they become friends it's a bonus. Some meet for nsa sex and if that's what they are happy that's fine by me. I enjoy the site and the crack.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No such thing as friends on here and anyone who thinks there is, is seriously fooling themselves.

Everyone is out for themselves.

Actually we have invited a swinger/real friend for Xmas drinks. I do not entertain those kind of questions from anyone. It is none of their business.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our friends list is a mixture of one's we have met n had great fun or ones who we think we will click with and maybe play at later date, some loose interest or stop interacting so I assume they moved on, not a problem in my eyes, we keep in touch with those who want it xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Usually only accept friends invites from people I enjoy and feel them worthy of friendship as I like to keep in contact with meeting at socials or if I am up their way. So my list isn't that long "

Same here cj. Only a handful on.ours and I think only one profile we haven't actually met on there. Two or three we would call friends.

Tomcat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A fabber friend invited me to an non fab event, I went to it & had a good time!!

he too came to see me on stage strutting myself up lol & joined me for drinks afterwards.... in my home town I might add.... I introduced him to a few people too..... did I feel uncomfortable with him being there..... absolutely not..... we trust each other that's why he is a friend & always will be!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Beanonti is someone I'd trust my deepest secrets with...a real close friend that I can speak freely with because she knows about my personal life and my fan life...xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agreed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Beanonti is someone I'd trust my deepest secrets with...a real close friend that I can speak freely with because she knows about my personal life and my fan life...xx"

Oooooh fan life?

Can I get an autograph too?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Beanonti is someone I'd trust my deepest secrets with...a real close friend that I can speak freely with because she knows about my personal life and my fan life...xx

Oooooh fan life?

Can I get an autograph too?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Beanonti is someone I'd trust my deepest secrets with...a real close friend that I can speak freely with because she knows about my personal life and my fan life...xx

Oooooh fan life?

Can I get an autograph too?

Pmsl..typo..but txs for making a show if me

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By *lo1 slo2Couple
over a year ago

newry

"No such thing as friends on here and anyone who thinks there is, is seriously fooling themselves.

Everyone is out for themselves.

Actually we have invited a swinger/real friend for Xmas drinks. I do not entertain those kind of questions from anyone. It is none of their business. "

Actually we've had friends off here at our child's birthday party... There friends a part off our lives and enriched it for the better. I makes no difference where we met.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No such thing as friends on here and anyone who thinks there is, is seriously fooling themselves.

Everyone is out for themselves.

Actually we have invited a swinger/real friend for Xmas drinks. I do not entertain those kind of questions from anyone. It is none of their business.

Actually we've had friends off here at our child's birthday party... There friends a part off our lives and enriched it for the better. I makes no difference where we met."

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By *eanontiWoman
over a year ago

Limerick

"Beanonti is someone I'd trust my deepest secrets with...a real close friend that I can speak freely with because she knows about my personal life and my fan life...xx"

Right back at you chick xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My friends list is of people I have already met or would like to meet.

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