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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

...those who have gone before us...

I was talking to a group of people today....one of them was talking about her sister who had lost her baby at childbirth....it was still born.....

It made me remember....23 years ago of a friends baby who died of cot death at 3.5 years old..... I loved that baby so so much..... I saw her alive & dead in one day..... I remember that day so vividly even now.....

....I also remember both my parents who have gone....

This thread is about remember loved ones, whether a family member, a friend or someone who made you heartbroken....

.....I will light a candle for those people over xmas to remember them....

..... I know this is a sad thread but we can't forget those who have been taken away from us while we party away.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree 100%. I lost 6 friends this year. It makes you think how valuable life is. It should be enjoyed as much as we can. Sad time for family's and friends who lost someone. Nice post well done

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I agree 100%. I lost 6 friends this year. It makes you think how valuable life is. It should be enjoyed as much as we can. Sad time for family's and friends who lost someone. Nice post well done "

Thank you..... life's too short isn't it, you need to grab life by the balls..... no pun intended lol!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hugs to everyone who has lost loved ones this year, we thankfully so far at least have not gone through that grief this year. Xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very sad but thought invoking post , thank you so much for posting it . Lost my mother on Xmas eve 20 years ago . Not a day goes by that I don't think of her in some way .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nice thread Rosie yep definitely been a tough year and will remember all that passed this year some through tragic circumstances ..

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By *isdirtygirlWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

Agreed Posie,its a sad time for many who have lost family or friends. A little reflection in remembering is good for the mind and heart.

Big hugs and kisses to you sweetie xxxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Agreed Posie,its a sad time for many who have lost family or friends. A little reflection in remembering is good for the mind and heart.

Big hugs and kisses to you sweetie xxxx"

Thank you!! xx

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By *acilory39Man
over a year ago

out n about

Completely agree Rosie , and well done for bringing this up , I too lost someone very close to me lately and will be thinking of them more so around Christmas time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very true Rosie... xxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hope I don't offend anyone. But is one of the best posts that has been put up in a while. Again very well done xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"...those who have gone before us...

I was talking to a group of people today....one of them was talking about her sister who had lost her baby at childbirth....it was still born.....

....I also remember both my parents who have gone....

This thread is about remember loved ones, whether a family member, a friend or someone who made you heartbroken....

.....I will light a candle for those people over xmas to remember them....

..... I know this is a sad thread but we can't forget those who have been taken away from us while we party away.....

Sorry, I meant to say my friends baby died at 3.5 months not years...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd like to type a more meaningful and heartfelt reply. But I'm having trouble seeing the screen now. It is easy to forget that this time of year can be difficult for some.

While I can not offer prayers, to all those feeling down or disheartened in this festive time, i wish you well. Keep the head up, try to smile.

Even if that can seem like a struggle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't pm you. But I fully u derstand how you feel. X

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By *appyPandaMan
over a year ago

Kilkenny, but Dublin is more fun

Great topic.

Have lost far too many people in my life and seeing how much death can affect a family stopped me doing something very stupid a few years ago when times were hard.

All we can do is remember our loved ones and laugh at the funny memories, and try to forget about the bad ones.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Iv lost 5 brothers and a father so know how you all felt so keep your chin up I u just have to keep strong for the people around u

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Maybe people could talk about a loved one who has gone... but instead of talking about the sad aspect, tell us a funny story about that person....xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Iv lost 5 brothers and a father so know how you all felt so keep your chin up I u just have to keep strong for the people around u"

Gosh..... I don't know what to say.... xxx

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By *isdirtygirlWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

Guys tears are good... theyre part of the healing process and weeping is good therapy and a built in coping mechanism when you feel you cant cope.

I think all of us have experienced grief at some stage in our lives and tears are not an unmanly emotion. It shows your human and that you cared and loved those youve lost.

Its takes time to get used to the loved one not being there anymore.Eventually youll find comfort in the memories you shared. Xxxx

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By *appyPandaMan
over a year ago

Kilkenny, but Dublin is more fun

"Maybe people could talk about a loved one who has gone... but instead of talking about the sad aspect, tell us a funny story about that person....xx

Well for one example, my grandad waited about half an hour in the garden one Halloween night, dressed in nothing but a bed sheet just to scare us all when we made it to his house.

I much prefer to remember him for the energetic and gas man he was and not by what the cancer made him become by the end.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Granny made the best rice pudding in the world.

Gran was a lady

Granda smelled of silvermints

My sister is my guardian angel

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town

My mum has been gone three years. Every year since her parting we put up theses family carol singers up they are quite big and if I'm honest there horrible and sing silent night.

6 years ago she saw them in a shop in Dublin and paid a huge amount for them coming home on the train was a nightmare nearly caused arguments cause they so big .

She called them her family I know she's up there and happy knowing the family is down and in the place she always put them even though we all not that fond of them.

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town

My mum has been gone three years. Every year since her parting we put up theses family carol singers up they are quite big and if I'm honest there horrible and sing silent night.

6 years ago she saw them in a shop in Dublin and paid a huge amount for them coming home on the train was a nightmare nearly caused arguments cause they so big .

She called them her family I know she's up there and happy knowing the family is down and in the place she always put them even though we all not that fond of them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Beautiful thread I just lost my uncle and grandmother recently and been thinking a lot about them coming up to this holiday time. It's always good to remember our love ones. Thanks rosebud and everyone here for sharing xxxx Mrs macmully

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is this wound it hurts so bad

it always appears when I am sad

No matter what I do it won't go away

it's in my heart where it will always stay

It appeared the day you left this world

and I was no longer your little girl

forced to grow up with you not there

to make things easy that I couldn't bear

I search for you every day

if I'm sick, sad, or just have something to say.

I'm jealous of some girls,boys

girls/boys who still have their mothers

I tell them to appreciate what they have,

because after they are gone,

there simply is no others.

I have this pain that won't go away,

it makes me mad that you couldn't stay

No matter many years go by

there's still one time of day that I do cry,

I miss you dearly and this is true,

my wound will not heal until I'm with you

RIP mam 1967 too 2015 miss you dearly steo xxxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Aww these are all lovely posts guys & gals!! Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes this can be a very sad time of year for people. I lost my grandfather 12 years ago now and I still miss him so much. Also lost a baby at 5 months. I know my granddad is keeping her safe. Bless them both .

Thanks Rose for putting up this post.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great thread rose ! I've been thinking about this a lot lately ! More than Xmas I hate new year its just a reminder of the many many people I have lost and its another year without them . This year I will however be a bit more thankful, that my father in law has managed to hang on to spend another Xmas with us is the best thing we could ask for xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My mum was a huge rod Stewart fan and after booking twice to go she kept taking ill, finally last time he was in Belfast we made it, me, mum, 2 sisters n mum in law, Mr Gee too. We wheeled her in the chair with prude, tartan hats, scarfs the lot, and best part was when Maggie may came on, up she got outta her wheel chair and danced away, more people clapped at that than anything xx

We smile when we remember. Took a while but I hold on to that dearly xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bloody pride I ment lol xxx

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By *s louWoman
over a year ago

Enniskillen

Thinking of my dad and my baby girl who I lost within 9 days of each other. Dad always told me he'd be babysitting on the day of my wedding and he was....gave me some comfort on the big day. He was a real character and my idol. Hard to pick a memory of him as there are so many xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Thinking of my dad and my baby girl who I lost within 9 days of each other. Dad always told me he'd be babysitting on the day of my wedding and he was....gave me some comfort on the big day. He was a real character and my idol. Hard to pick a memory of him as there are so many xx"

Aww that must have been an awful time for you.... xxx

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By *-4pleasureCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

"My mum was a huge rod Stewart fan and after booking twice to go she kept taking ill, finally last time he was in Belfast we made it, me, mum, 2 sisters n mum in law, Mr Gee too. We wheeled her in the chair with prude, tartan hats, scarfs the lot, and best part was when Maggie may came on, up she got outta her wheel chair and danced away, more people clapped at that than anything xx

We smile when we remember. Took a while but I hold on to that dearly xxxx"

that's a lovely memory xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I lost my sister to cancer in july as a few know it tough and now seeing my mum struggle just trying to breathe . Life isnt fair at times but what can you do . Sumtimes i wonder is there a God .

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I lost my sister to cancer in july as a few know it tough and now seeing my mum struggle just trying to breathe . Life isnt fair at times but what can you do . Sumtimes i wonder is there a God ."

Life is challenging but you have some good memories of your sister & they're worth remembering... xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I lost my sister to cancer in july as a few know it tough and now seeing my mum struggle just trying to breathe . Life isnt fair at times but what can you do . Sumtimes i wonder is there a God ."

Life kicks us all and its a bitch. We have to keep going chick whether we believe in jc or not xxx

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By *s louWoman
over a year ago

Enniskillen

Aww that must have been an awful time for you.... xxx"

It was hard to say the least xx

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By *s louWoman
over a year ago

Enniskillen

"I lost my sister to cancer in july as a few know it tough and now seeing my mum struggle just trying to breathe . Life isnt fair at times but what can you do . Sumtimes i wonder is there a God ."

Thinking of you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

14 years ago I lost a very close cousin and friend to suicide. She was the life and soul of any party. There is not one day that has passed since that I haven't thought of her in some way or other.

Love you snot!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have read this post so many times today. I lost two cousins a brother and sister in tragic events in the space of 10 weeks of each other.

This has been a brill post Rosie. Ta xx

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By *ceryMan
over a year ago

Malahide & Waterford

Such a beautiful and thoughtful thread. Thank you Rose.

Having lost various relatives, friends and work colleagues over the years there's always a comment by the mother that hits home when ever we go to an elderly persons funeral.

Not many at the funeral, the older you get, the more people that die before you. .... So think of the elderly, they may not have many friends as they once had and may like some company from time to time.

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

The ould lad used to say at every funeral he went to "ah things are bad. Sure there's people dying now that never died before!"

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By *s louWoman
over a year ago

Enniskillen

"The ould lad used to say at every funeral he went to "ah things are bad. Sure there's people dying now that never died before!" "

Haha! My grandad used to say that too

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have read this post so many times today. I lost two cousins a brother and sister in tragic events in the space of 10 weeks of each other.

This has been a brill post Rosie. Ta xx"

OMG I really feel for you....my thoughts are with you at this time... xxx

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By *igertigerCouple (MM)
over a year ago

nr Letterkenny

hugs to all xx

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By *otLips 69Woman
over a year ago

Here or There

We smile when we remember. Took a while but I hold on to that dearly xxxx"

Reading this made me smile and remember my mum who died young from breast cancer not a day goes by I don't think of her my mum my best friend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I lost my three older children a few days before christmas time 22yrs ago not a day goes by I don't think about them we made a star for the Christmas tree a few days before I lost them and they helped me put glitter on it that star goes on my christmas tree every year since and always will take pride of place

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By *s louWoman
over a year ago

Enniskillen

"I lost my three older children a few days before christmas time 22yrs ago not a day goes by I don't think about them we made a star for the Christmas tree a few days before I lost them and they helped me put glitter on it that star goes on my christmas tree every year since and always will take pride of place"

Xxx

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By *igertigerCouple (MM)
over a year ago

nr Letterkenny

hugs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll will remember my trucking family that passed away doing their job this Xmas.my trucking pals are my real brothers and sisters. I don't have close family other than those that lives under my roof, for my trucking friends, they are the knights of the road. When I get lonely I listen to this song, I believe it picks me up, or at least it has so far

""They like ice cold beer and smokeless tobacco

And dancin' on a Saturday night

Church on Sunday mornin' and talkin' to Jesus

There's some that say that that ain't right

I know for certain that nobody's perfect

And they don't pretend to be

I like those people

And they like me

Well, they may roll the dice

But ain't life a gamble

And you may think that that's all wrong

They take what they're given

Hard work and hard livin'

Right out of some old country song

Jokes that they tell you

Might be off color

But sometimes that's just what you need

I like those people

And they like me

They don't kick you when you're down

Judge you when you make a mistake

They're the first to come around

Help you at whatever it takes

They're the salt of the earth

Honest as rain

A light when your world turns dark

And if it falls on your shoulders

And you need to hide out

They won't tell a soul where you are

Yeah, they stick together

Like birds of a feather

Treat you like family

Hey, I like those truckers"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Great song Tang!! xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Aww (((((((big hugs)))))))

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Beautiful xxxx

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By *eanontiWoman
over a year ago

Limerick

So so sad. Massive hugs to you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So so sad. Massive hugs to you x"

Condolences, respect and much love for you. Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So so sad. Massive hugs to you x"

Condolences, respect and much love for you. Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So so sad. Massive hugs to you x

Condolences, respect and much love for you. Xxx"

And thank you Rosie, a beautiful post x

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By *ymguylMan
over a year ago

ennis

at this time of year there a link in your lifes missing and at this time some one close will whisper to us im always here and watching over you' don't be sad as I watch over you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't know what to say to you other than I'd love to give you a big hug.

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By *ymguylMan
over a year ago

ennis

reading them treads make you want to give them a big hug

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By *arkedMan
over a year ago

Trim

Lost Mum on 9th March this year. Even though she couldn't walk more than 10-15 feet in the last month and a half, she was still doing a bit of gardening last year and sitting & supervising me to make sure I did the rest right... But most amazing was that she walked around Bruges for 3 days last November no problem... If nothing else I know where I got my particular 'sense of humour', thanks Mum... Missing and thinking of her more in the last couple of days in the lead up to Xmas...

And as others have said Rosie: my heartfelt thanks for a wonderful post

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lovely thread Rose,remembering all our loved ones no longer with us xx

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By *ne of manyMan
over a year ago

east Galway

Thanks Rosie for this post we sometimes forget those we lost in the rush of life but that fond memory awakened in our minds brings them to life again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Heading to the graveyard later to see one of the lads, he died a few weeks back and still haven't been up to the grave. Felt awful when I realised how long I'd left it..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Thanks Rosie for this post we sometimes forget those we lost in the rush of life but that fond memory awakened in our minds brings them to life again

Yes indeed that's why I put up this thread because it's good to remember our loved ones & friends who has passed on....... we can have a giggle to ourselves at the things in which they made you laugh!!!

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By *ne of manyMan
over a year ago

east Galway

"Thanks Rosie for this post we sometimes forget those we lost in the rush of life but that fond memory awakened in our minds brings them to life again

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

"Heading to the graveyard later to see one of the lads, he died a few weeks back and still haven't been up to the grave. Felt awful when I realised how long I'd left it.. "

I kinda hope you don't see him

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lost my dad last month along with a few people I grew up with over the last few months. Not too keen on Xmas this year only for my spawn I wouldn't be arsed.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Lost my dad last month along with a few people I grew up with over the last few months. Not too keen on Xmas this year only for my spawn I wouldn't be arsed. "

xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lost my dad last month along with a few people I grew up with over the last few months. Not too keen on Xmas this year only for my spawn I wouldn't be arsed. "

Sorry to hear that. I lost my Dad a couple of months ago, but I'm going to make bloody sure I have a great Christmas, and remember fondly the good times with him and lost friends, and toast them all repeatedly.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Lost my dad last month along with a few people I grew up with over the last few months. Not too keen on Xmas this year only for my spawn I wouldn't be arsed.

My hearts go out to the both of you.... xxx remember the funny times & smile.... xxx

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By *igertigerCouple (MM)
over a year ago

nr Letterkenny

"Lost my dad last month along with a few people I grew up with over the last few months. Not too keen on Xmas this year only for my spawn I wouldn't be arsed.

Celebrate Xmas and celebrate all the good times it's the best way to remember loved ones gone but not forgotten.

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By *eebawMan
over a year ago

"...those who have gone before us...

I was talking to a group of people today....one of them was talking about her sister who had lost her baby at childbirth....it was still born.....

....I also remember both my parents who have gone....

This thread is about remember loved ones, whether a family member, a friend or someone who made you heartbroken....

.....I will light a candle for those people over xmas to remember them....

..... I know this is a sad thread but we can't forget those who have been taken away from us while we party away.....

Thanks for this thread Rosie.I have lost a few friends to road traffic accidents and family members to cancer and strokes.

Christmas is a hard time for anyone who has lost a loved one a family member etc. Its a time of happiness but also great sadness.

My dad lost his mother on Christmas day many moons ago but. But its still a very sad day Morning every year.

Everyone copes with it differently but what ever works for you is best :P

As part of my work I transfer sick people, The hard ones are the ''Angel trips'' where we are bringing a person to there last place before they grow there angel wings to heaven.

They can be sad times but with some element of happiness depending on the person and family in question.

My dad always said when your time is up its up no mater where you are.

I will light a few candles on Christmas for My my loved ones who have passed on but also for all they have left behind