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By *isdirtygirl OP   Woman
over a year ago

Dublin

Ive a question for you lovely people. Answer honestly and remember,opinions will differ so be nice to each other.

Are Swingers Mentally Stonger than Monogamous People??? if yes or no,give your reasons why.( I include couples and singles in this so i dont need any opinions of" singles arent really swingers" yada yada).

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By *llie and ApplesCouple
over a year ago

where ever

Not sure I would agree or disagree ..I believe this lifestyle is multi facested ...can both build one up and tear one apart emotionally and mentally if one were to allow it to do so ....some take this lifestyle way too serious and permit it to become all comsuming...I personally enjoy it for what it is ...light hearted entertainment with fun out going and gorgeous people and the fact that my best friend in this world is with me as we play makes it all the better

Apples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think so, it's a personal choice! If two people are in a happy loving relationship and just want each other, I don't see anything wrong with that ! I'd imagine some men for eg, their stomach would turn at the thought of another man shagging their wife, just my view

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By *andydevineMan
over a year ago

sligo

I disagree, everyone one is an individual and its to broad a statement.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think I'm mentally stronger than my non swing friends. I'm not a robot, I have feelings ya know.

All joking a side I like to partake in certain sexual practices that wouldn't happen in a non swing environment. I'm the same as anyone else, sometimes feelings get in the way, sometimes jealousy. Sometimes you want to take things further and you contemplate having a relationship. I don't think I've become stronger but a lot more guarded about who I let get close. That's why I keep the swing thing totally separate to my 'real' life. But I'm a total softie really, it hasn't hardened me.. thankfully

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I disagree, everyone one is an individual and its to broad a statement. "

Agreed, people are engaged in non-monogamy for a whole slew of different reasons- and the effects very widely. One could just as easily state that monogamy takes greater mental strength and it would be an equally meaningless generalisation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I disagree, everyone one is an individual and its to broad a statement.

Agreed, people are engaged in non-monogamy for a whole slew of different reasons- and the effects very widely. One could just as easily state that monogamy takes greater mental strength and it would be an equally meaningless generalisation."

*vary

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By *addy36Man
over a year ago

Mayo

Mentally stronger no, mentally weaker no, mentally different yes, and thank fook that people are mentally different because the world would be such a boring place without different

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By *ohn MingoMan
over a year ago

Dublin

Mentally stronger? Based on some forum posts and mails that people get I'd have to say no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive a question for you lovely people. Answer honestly and remember,opinions will differ so be nice to each other.

Are Swingers Mentally Stonger than Monogamous People??? if yes or no,give your reasons why.( I include couples and singles in this so i dont need any opinions of" singles arent really swingers" yada yada).

"

No I'd say mentally weaker based on my experiences

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mentally stronger? Based on some forum posts and mails that people get I'd have to say no. "

Are you saying there's a few unhinged folk here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think so, it's a personal choice! If two people are in a happy loving relationship and just want each other, I don't see anything wrong with that ! I'd imagine some men for eg, their stomach would turn at the thought of another man shagging their wife, just my view "

According to my husband most men fantazise about seeing their wife being shagged by another man. That doesn't mean it ever has to happen. He gets off on both reality and fantasy, as do most men here I would imagine. Mentally stronger though? I'd say more aware of their own emotions and limits. Which in itself is mentally strong. XxMrs S

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think so, it's a personal choice! If two people are in a happy loving relationship and just want each other, I don't see anything wrong with that ! I'd imagine some men for eg, their stomach would turn at the thought of another man shagging their wife, just my view

According to my husband most men fantazise about seeing their wife being shagged by another man. That doesn't mean it ever has to happen. He gets off on both reality and fantasy, as do most men here I would imagine. Mentally stronger though? I'd say more aware of their own emotions and limits. Which in itself is mentally strong. XxMrs S"

i can't comment on that, I'm not married! If I was married would I be here with my wife?? I'm not sure!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think so, it's a personal choice! If two people are in a happy loving relationship and just want each other, I don't see anything wrong with that ! I'd imagine some men for eg, their stomach would turn at the thought of another man shagging their wife, just my view

According to my husband most men fantazise about seeing their wife being shagged by another man. That doesn't mean it ever has to happen. He gets off on both reality and fantasy, as do most men here I would imagine. Mentally stronger though? I'd say more aware of their own emotions and limits. Which in itself is mentally strong. XxMrs Si can't comment on that, I'm not married! If I was married would I be here with my wife?? I'm not sure! "

Insert partner for wife. And as I wrote above, they fantazise, which doesn't mean it has to become reality.

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By *ir1967Man
over a year ago

in da sticks, london, amsterdam, madrid

In my humble opinion ...any form of sustainable relationship ,regardless whether monogamous or sexual polygamous, requires maturity and strength of the individual concerned.

Monogamy among humans is a social concept, not a primal hard wiring. Our primal instincts look for spread of our genetic code.

The social concept of monogamy does still make sense to the extend of a commitment of the two partners to take care of each other and the mutual offspring from this relation. This has been enforced by social norms over thousands of years, leading to the level that the partners consider each other as mutual property, whereby the ownership of the man over his wife is higher policed than the ownership of the wife over her man. This comes with the hypocrite public view that a married gent who has one or several affairs outside experience social recognition, a woman doing the same is publicly disgraced.

Swingers, who in theory embrace the idea of the individual freedom, are nevertheless subjects to the same social brain wash as vanillas, hence the inner conflicts they may incur by developing affection to other play partners than there primary spouse challenges those concerned even more.

It would be inappropriate to evaluate whether swingers are stronger in their mind set then vanilla, however I believe that the title of freedom to follow my primal instincts includes for me the responsibility that the arousal of the moment is not paid by inflicting emotional pain on anyone, at least not on purpose.

Jealousy, often the core issue among partners , swingers and vanillas alike, is a problem inside of each individual, born by his/her very own insecurities but projecting the blame on the other. I am certainly not free of it, but whenever I have it coming up, I will deal with it myself first before bothering my partner. After all, the fact that I love my partner and made her the center of my life is my very own problem and decision, her part is very much limited of being the subject of my desire. It is just lucky coincidence that she reciprocates it on me

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By *isdirtygirl OP   Woman
over a year ago

Dublin


"Mentally stronger? Based on some forum posts and mails that people get I'd have to say no. "

Now now Michael Murphy be nice

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By *ong riderMan
over a year ago

belfast

Definitely more mental than monogamous folk which I guess makes us weaker

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't see why we'd be stronger mentally than any other couple, can't say we'd agree or disagree really.

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By *ir1967Man
over a year ago

in da sticks, london, amsterdam, madrid


"I don't think so, it's a personal choice! If two people are in a happy loving relationship and just want each other, I don't see anything wrong with that ! I'd imagine some men for eg, their stomach would turn at the thought of another man shagging their wife, just my view

According to my husband most men fantazise about seeing their wife being shagged by another man. That doesn't mean it ever has to happen. He gets off on both reality and fantasy, as do most men here I would imagine. Mentally stronger though? I'd say more aware of their own emotions and limits. Which in itself is mentally strong. XxMrs Si can't comment on that, I'm not married! If I was married would I be here with my wife?? I'm not sure! "

Hmm, most likely you the would be here without your wife...once a fabber, always a fabber

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't see any reason why they would be however i would say that they are definitely more tolerant, liberated and broadminded than the average vanill-ian.

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By *ir1967Man
over a year ago

in da sticks, london, amsterdam, madrid


"Don't see any reason why they would be however i would say that they are definitely more tolerant, liberated and broadminded than the average vanill-ian."

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By *oughandCurvyCouple
over a year ago

galway


"Don't see any reason why they would be however i would say that they are definitely more tolerant, liberated and broadminded than the average vanill-ian."

I would have to agree with this, I would also say that swinging definitely made us a much stronger couple and although our relationship was solid to begin with we are closer than ever since we started swinging but whether or not we're more mentally strong who knows?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven't noticed...what makes you think this Missy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive a question for you lovely people. Answer honestly and remember,opinions will differ so be nice to each other.

Are Swingers Mentally Stonger than Monogamous People??? if yes or no,give your reasons why.( I include couples and singles in this so i dont need any opinions of" singles arent really swingers" yada yada).

"

I would say it's down to the individual. I wouldn't make a sweeping generalisation that they are stronger or as some said weaker. Just my opinion.

Tomcat

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By *isdirtygirl OP   Woman
over a year ago

Dublin


"I haven't noticed...what makes you think this Missy?"

Not sure what prompted me Candy... i was wondering whether swinger relationships are more "solid"than monogamous i suppose. The comments and depth to the replies has been surprising and given me food for thought.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally it has made us stronger as a couple. Though not necessarily individually mentally stronger. (Think we are mentally strong anyway!)

I do however think swinging really could break a relationship if all scenarios/situations weren't discussed thoroughly before and throughout the couples swing journey.

Mrs B

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I most certainly would not say every couple should swing! Just to add that point! Some want just themselves within a loving relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I most certainly would not say every couple should swing! Just to add that point! Some want just themselves within a loving relationship "

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By *llie8Man
over a year ago

ask and I might tell ya


"Not sure I would agree or disagree ..I believe this lifestyle is multi facested ...can both build one up and tear one apart emotionally and mentally if one were to allow it to do so ....some take this lifestyle way too serious and permit it to become all comsuming...I personally enjoy it for what it is ...light hearted entertainment with fun out going and gorgeous people and the fact that my best friend in this world is with me as we play makes it all the better

Apples"

I hope that's me you're talking about. ...lol

Ollie...xx

As for the thread, I've become more confident and I believe mentally stronger this last past 18 months....might be the site..might be something else...

Sertainly it has not been boring!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you need to always enjoy it and when you don't ...stop or take a break.

Also discuss boundaries frequently and don't make it the focus of your life together, we look on it, as a bit of fun, extra to us as a loving couple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think you need to always enjoy it and when you don't ...stop or take a break.

Also discuss boundaries frequently and don't make it the focus of your life together, we look on it, as a bit of fun, extra to us as a loving couple. "

I agree with this 100%..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think you need to always enjoy it and when you don't ...stop or take a break.

Also discuss boundaries frequently and don't make it the focus of your life together, we look on it, as a bit of fun, extra to us as a loving couple.

I agree with this 100%.. "

We agree too. How some people allow swinging to become their primary focus in life and their everyday life to become secondary we will never understand.

We see swinging as an occasional bit of excitement and fun. Nothing more.

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By *isdirtygirl OP   Woman
over a year ago

Dublin


"I think you need to always enjoy it and when you don't ...stop or take a break.

Also discuss boundaries frequently and don't make it the focus of your life together, we look on it, as a bit of fun, extra to us as a loving couple.

I agree with this 100%..

We agree too. How some people allow swinging to become their primary focus in life and their everyday life to become secondary we will never understand.

We see swinging as an occasional bit of excitement and fun. Nothing more. "

I wasnt asking whether swing was a primary focus guys,i asked were swingers ( as in yourselves as a couple) mentally stronger than monogamous couples. Emotion,feelings towards each other with regard to playing with other couples and singles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's a very good question. I have seen a few sides of the of this life. It depends on people them selves. Some should swing, some should not. But makes some stronger. So i would think it depends on the people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think you need to always enjoy it and when you don't ...stop or take a break.

Also discuss boundaries frequently and don't make it the focus of your life together, we look on it, as a bit of fun, extra to us as a loving couple.

I agree with this 100%..

We agree too. How some people allow swinging to become their primary focus in life and their everyday life to become secondary we will never understand.

We see swinging as an occasional bit of excitement and fun. Nothing more.

I wasnt asking whether swing was a primary focus guys,i asked were swingers ( as in yourselves as a couple) mentally stronger than monogamous couples. Emotion,feelings towards each other with regard to playing with other couples and singles. "

Sorry went off at a tangent

No I dont think mentally stronger but definitely emotionally more mature

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By *isdirtygirl OP   Woman
over a year ago

Dublin


"I think you need to always enjoy it and when you don't ...stop or take a break.

Also discuss boundaries frequently and don't make it the focus of your life together, we look on it, as a bit of fun, extra to us as a loving couple.

I agree with this 100%..

We agree too. How some people allow swinging to become their primary focus in life and their everyday life to become secondary we will never understand.

We see swinging as an occasional bit of excitement and fun. Nothing more.

I wasnt asking whether swing was a primary focus guys,i asked were swingers ( as in yourselves as a couple) mentally stronger than monogamous couples. Emotion,feelings towards each other with regard to playing with other couples and singles.

Sorry went off at a tangent

No I dont think mentally stronger but definitely emotionally more mature

"

Thats what im getting at,are your emotions kept for each other where youd not give play partners a second thought other than liking them of course

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely emotionally tuned in to each other as a couple or would not work and happy in my own skin,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd be happy in your skin Mrs g lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

dont mind admitting i thought i was hardened to it,,but when you develop feelings for someone that are real its hard not to succumb to normal human frailties,, defintely something i didnt envisage

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By *igertigerCouple (MM)
over a year ago

nr Letterkenny


"Not sure I would agree or disagree ..I believe this lifestyle is multi facested ...can both build one up and tear one apart emotionally and mentally if one were to allow it to do so ....some take this lifestyle way too serious and permit it to become all comsuming...I personally enjoy it for what it is ...light hearted entertainment with fun out going and gorgeous people and the fact that my best friend in this world is with me as we play makes it all the better

Apples"

I think a lot depends on why you joined but the above post is on the money.

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By *igertigerCouple (MM)
over a year ago

nr Letterkenny


"I don't think so, it's a personal choice! If two people are in a happy loving relationship and just want each other, I don't see anything wrong with that ! I'd imagine some men for eg, their stomach would turn at the thought of another man shagging their wife, just my view

According to my husband most men fantazise about seeing their wife being shagged by another man. That doesn't mean it ever has to happen. He gets off on both reality and fantasy, as do most men here I would imagine. Mentally stronger though? I'd say more aware of their own emotions and limits. Which in itself is mentally strong. XxMrs Si can't comment on that, I'm not married! If I was married would I be here with my wife?? I'm not sure! "

double standards....just a maybe?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ms dirty girl

Yes you can be very fond of play partners and of course some just hit the spot and you really like them! But my deeper emotions, including love, are entirely reserved for Alan. This separation is an aspect that doesn't work for many people and that's why swinging can put a major strain on many couples in my humble opinion. Also depends on where you start from. If you are doing this to resolve issues forget it! And if I felt swinging was putting any strain on us As a couple, I would stop immediately because we come first. I am also realistic enough to know, there are many gorgeous better looking women and guys on here, which is also why we don't tend to repeat meet especially with singles. We're not looking for attachment. In fact that detracts from the sexiness for me personally. Which is why I love group sex. We are also attracted to happy couples where you can see they are attracted to each other.

Sam

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By *isdirtygirl OP   Woman
over a year ago

Dublin


"Ms dirty girl

Yes you can be very fond of play partners and of course some just hit the spot and you really like them! But my deeper emotions, including love, are entirely reserved for Alan. This separation is an aspect that doesn't work for many people and that's why swinging can put a major strain on many couples in my humble opinion. Also depends on where you start from. If you are doing this to resolve issues forget it! And if I felt swinging was putting any strain on us As a couple, I would stop immediately because we come first. I am also realistic enough to know, there are many gorgeous better looking women and guys on here, which is also why we don't tend to repeat meet especially with singles. We're not looking for attachment. In fact that detracts from the sexiness for me personally. Which is why I love group sex. We are also attracted to happy couples where you can see they are attracted to each other.

Sam"

Excellent post Sam... thank you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No probs Ms sexy dirty girl x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally think we are stronger since we started this carry on .... As for feelings ..... All real feelings are reserved for each other , I like the people maybe even fancy the arse of them but find it very easy to detatch from real life !

One hurdle we will have to jump in d future is Mr playing with other people , he has no interest right now but it is something we have spoke about a lot and we will deal with it together as we always do ! We would not be on this site if we weren't as strong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We will never play apart

We think you are heading for affair territory when you do because you are bound to grow close to someone especially if you meet them more than once

Dirty one offs for us lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We will never play apart

We think you are heading for affair territory when you do because you are bound to grow close to someone especially if you meet them more than once

Dirty one offs for us lol "

Don't think we would ever play apart either !!

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

So who's for a good riiade then? Go on girls, ya know ya want to!

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

Ah feck, I killed the Internet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would imagine there are just as many mentally strong vanilla couples as couples who swing, as in any walk of life or lifestyle choice there are mentally strong people. Vanilla Couples who stay together for lifetimes would have to be mentally strong to stand by their partners through good and bad and the ones who only have one sexual partner throughout perhaps even more mentally strong. I dont think swinging cpls are any more mentally stronger than vanilla cpls. ...Jilly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think you need to always enjoy it and when you don't ...stop or take a break.

Also discuss boundaries frequently and don't make it the focus of your life together, we look on it, as a bit of fun, extra to us as a loving couple.

I agree with this 100%..

We agree too. How some people allow swinging to become their primary focus in life and their everyday life to become secondary we will never understand.

We see swinging as an occasional bit of excitement and fun. Nothing more.

I wasnt asking whether swing was a primary focus guys,i asked were swingers ( as in yourselves as a couple) mentally stronger than monogamous couples. Emotion,feelings towards each other with regard to playing with other couples and singles. "

Apologies for going off topic, was agreeing with the post above us and elaborating further.

To answer your question, mentally stronger? No I don't believe so. Emotionally stronger? I'd say yes to that.

We're in love with each other. We fancy others in a physical way, but never emotionally. That's kept strictly for ourselves

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By *isdirtygirl OP   Woman
over a year ago

Dublin


"I think you need to always enjoy it and when you don't ...stop or take a break.

Also discuss boundaries frequently and don't make it the focus of your life together, we look on it, as a bit of fun, extra to us as a loving couple.

I agree with this 100%..

We agree too. How some people allow swinging to become their primary focus in life and their everyday life to become secondary we will never understand.

We see swinging as an occasional bit of excitement and fun. Nothing more.

I wasnt asking whether swing was a primary focus guys,i asked were swingers ( as in yourselves as a couple) mentally stronger than monogamous couples. Emotion,feelings towards each other with regard to playing with other couples and singles.

Apologies for going off topic, was agreeing with the post above us and elaborating further.

To answer your question, mentally stronger? No I don't believe so. Emotionally stronger? I'd say yes to that.

We're in love with each other. We fancy others in a physical way, but never emotionally. That's kept strictly for ourselves "

No apologies needed folks,todays answers have been very educational as well as insightful...id forgotten what it was like to be "the other half" cheers for your comments

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What would be hilarious is if a couple kept meeting another couple male or female and one party or more then one got extremely deep feelings! Work that awkward one out lol

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By *isdirtygirl OP   Woman
over a year ago

Dublin


"What would be hilarious is if a couple kept meeting another couple male or female and one party or more then one got extremely deep feelings! Work that awkward one out lol "

Hilarious?? God no... id say all parties involved would be very hurt and utterly devastated whether it was their wife or husband.

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By *igertigerCouple (MM)
over a year ago

nr Letterkenny


"What would be hilarious is if a couple kept meeting another couple male or female and one party or more then one got extremely deep feelings! Work that awkward one out lol "

somehow I don't think you've got the hang of swinging...hilarious get a grip fks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What would be hilarious is if a couple kept meeting another couple male or female and one party or more then one got extremely deep feelings! Work that awkward one out lol "

And people wonder why under 30s are considered immature..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think there are any 2 people alike here. The whole swinging scene is a little surreal at first but the notion is far more strange than the reality. People are just people at the end of it all. The swinging scene isn't treated as an individual thing at all by most I've chatted with-there's all sorts here from the possessive to the wreckless and carefree-just as in 'real life'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think there are any 2 people alike here. The whole swinging scene is a little surreal at first but the notion is far more strange than the reality. People are just people at the end of it all. The swinging scene isn't treated as an individual thing at all by most I've chatted with-there's all sorts here from the possessive to the wreckless and carefree-just as in 'real life'"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What would be hilarious is if a couple kept meeting another couple male or female and one party or more then one got extremely deep feelings! Work that awkward one out lol "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What would be hilarious is if a couple kept meeting another couple male or female and one party or more then one got extremely deep feelings! Work that awkward one out lol

Hilarious?? God no... id say all parties involved would be very hurt and utterly devastated whether it was their wife or husband. "

I agree with missdirtygirl it would be a devastating thing to happen for all people involved.

I'm sure it has happened in past to people. I feel to be emotionally and mentally in a good place helps your swinging experiences to be more enjoyable. Of your not in a good place it can make you insecure and put you through a lot of emotional turmoil and I personally would get out of the game if I started to feel that way..

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By *ale4U2Man
over a year ago

Nearby


"Mentally stronger? Based on some forum posts and mails that people get I'd have to say no. "

I'd have to agree with John. There are many mentally weaker people in this lifestyle from what I see and hear through mails and certain replies to posts. I'm no psychologist, but through my work, I know people. Another issue which continues to astound me is the amount of guys here which obviously don't understand the word 'straight'. They read your profile which states u are straight, their profile states that they are 'straight' but yet continue to ask for their cock sucked ... Soz, rant over

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being mono or poly isnt a choice, its just the way you feel inside.

Saying that, and speaking about people into swinging/nsa sex. I would say there would be more depressed/histrionic/disorder people in a swinging/nsa group than a non swinging/nsa group.

The histrionic levels on here are through the roof.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What would be hilarious is if a couple kept meeting another couple male or female and one party or more then one got extremely deep feelings! Work that awkward one out lol

Hilarious?? God no... id say all parties involved would be very hurt and utterly devastated whether it was their wife or husband. "

Isn't that the risk u take by meeting regularly and they becoming an active part or your life? It's totally different as a single

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hilarious was wrong word to use but if it happened( like I'm sure it does sometimes) I'd be thinking "well ye did put yourselves in the position"! Imo meeting people as a couple regularly and them becoming an active part of your life there is a chance of a party developing feelings! Just my view

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over a year ago


"What would be hilarious is if a couple kept meeting another couple male or female and one party or more then one got extremely deep feelings! Work that awkward one out lol

Hilarious?? God no... id say all parties involved would be very hurt and utterly devastated whether it was their wife or husband. Isn't that the risk u take by meeting regularly and they becoming an active part or your life? It's totally different as a single "

You run that risk with anyone you meet at work, as a friend/neighbour/whatever anyway - how do you think affairs start?

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over a year ago

Trust and communication is paramount, you have to prioritise each other and your relationship - just as a monogamous couple do.

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over a year ago


"What would be hilarious is if a couple kept meeting another couple male or female and one party or more then one got extremely deep feelings! Work that awkward one out lol

Hilarious?? God no... id say all parties involved would be very hurt and utterly devastated whether it was their wife or husband. Isn't that the risk u take by meeting regularly and they becoming an active part or your life? It's totally different as a single

You run that risk with anyone you meet at work, as a friend/neighbour/whatever anyway - how do you think affairs start?"

the difference is, your having sex in my view

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"Trust and communication is paramount, you have to prioritise each other and your relationship - just as a monogamous couple do."
trust I'd imagine is huge but as some say you can't control your feelings

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over a year ago


"What would be hilarious is if a couple kept meeting another couple male or female and one party or more then one got extremely deep feelings! Work that awkward one out lol

Hilarious?? God no... id say all parties involved would be very hurt and utterly devastated whether it was their wife or husband. Isn't that the risk u take by meeting regularly and they becoming an active part or your life? It's totally different as a single

You run that risk with anyone you meet at work, as a friend/neighbour/whatever anyway - how do you think affairs start?the difference is, your having sex in my view "

An emotional bond with another is far more destructive - unless you are someone who cannot separate the two, in which case swinging was never going to be a good idea, was it?

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By *isdirtygirl OP   Woman
over a year ago

Dublin


"What would be hilarious is if a couple kept meeting another couple male or female and one party or more then one got extremely deep feelings! Work that awkward one out lol

Hilarious?? God no... id say all parties involved would be very hurt and utterly devastated whether it was their wife or husband. Isn't that the risk u take by meeting regularly and they becoming an active part or your life? It's totally different as a single

You run that risk with anyone you meet at work, as a friend/neighbour/whatever anyway - how do you think affairs start?the difference is, your having sex in my view "

Couples who swing are less likely to cheat or have affairs though Whip, the "threat" (if thats the right word) is eliminated from a relationship as both are effectively agreeing to have sex with other people

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over a year ago


"What would be hilarious is if a couple kept meeting another couple male or female and one party or more then one got extremely deep feelings! Work that awkward one out lol

Hilarious?? God no... id say all parties involved would be very hurt and utterly devastated whether it was their wife or husband. Isn't that the risk u take by meeting regularly and they becoming an active part or your life? It's totally different as a single

You run that risk with anyone you meet at work, as a friend/neighbour/whatever anyway - how do you think affairs start?the difference is, your having sex in my view

An emotional bond with another is far more destructive - unless you are someone who cannot separate the two, in which case swinging was never going to be a good idea, was it? "

a bond between both which has a big chance of developing the more time you spend with each other I would say! I can easily separate emotions have done all my life but I have found some women struggle to do so

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By *isdirtygirl OP   Woman
over a year ago

Dublin


"What would be hilarious is if a couple kept meeting another couple male or female and one party or more then one got extremely deep feelings! Work that awkward one out lol

Hilarious?? God no... id say all parties involved would be very hurt and utterly devastated whether it was their wife or husband. Isn't that the risk u take by meeting regularly and they becoming an active part or your life? It's totally different as a single

You run that risk with anyone you meet at work, as a friend/neighbour/whatever anyway - how do you think affairs start?the difference is, your having sex in my view

An emotional bond with another is far more destructive - unless you are someone who cannot separate the two, in which case swinging was never going to be a good idea, was it? a bond between both which has a big chance of developing the more time you spend with each other I would say! I can easily separate emotions have done all my life but I have found some women struggle to do so "

I know when i was married and was part of a couple,id a deep love for my husband and although i found others sexually attractive and played with the same couples for a long time,there was always a barrier there,a line nobody crossed. Probably out of respect for others involved but also out of respect for him and him for me.

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over a year ago


"What would be hilarious is if a couple kept meeting another couple male or female and one party or more then one got extremely deep feelings! Work that awkward one out lol

Hilarious?? God no... id say all parties involved would be very hurt and utterly devastated whether it was their wife or husband. Isn't that the risk u take by meeting regularly and they becoming an active part or your life? It's totally different as a single

You run that risk with anyone you meet at work, as a friend/neighbour/whatever anyway - how do you think affairs start?the difference is, your having sex in my view

An emotional bond with another is far more destructive - unless you are someone who cannot separate the two, in which case swinging was never going to be a good idea, was it? a bond between both which has a big chance of developing the more time you spend with each other I would say! I can easily separate emotions have done all my life but I have found some women struggle to do so

I know when i was married and was part of a couple,id a deep love for my husband and although i found others sexually attractive and played with the same couples for a long time,there was always a barrier there,a line nobody crossed. Probably out of respect for others involved but also out of respect for him and him for me. "

I'd say that's the way it is with most! All I'm saying is I'd say feelings sometime intervene with a few

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over a year ago


"What would be hilarious is if a couple kept meeting another couple male or female and one party or more then one got extremely deep feelings! Work that awkward one out lol

Hilarious?? God no... id say all parties involved would be very hurt and utterly devastated whether it was their wife or husband. Isn't that the risk u take by meeting regularly and they becoming an active part or your life? It's totally different as a single

You run that risk with anyone you meet at work, as a friend/neighbour/whatever anyway - how do you think affairs start?the difference is, your having sex in my view

An emotional bond with another is far more destructive - unless you are someone who cannot separate the two, in which case swinging was never going to be a good idea, was it? a bond between both which has a big chance of developing the more time you spend with each other I would say! I can easily separate emotions have done all my life but I have found some women struggle to do so

I know when i was married and was part of a couple,id a deep love for my husband and although i found others sexually attractive and played with the same couples for a long time,there was always a barrier there,a line nobody crossed. Probably out of respect for others involved but also out of respect for him and him for me. "

Thats it in a nutshell.If you're coming here with the nsa mind set and you have a genuine respect and love for your other half there's no reason why feelings should develop.

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"What would be hilarious is if a couple kept meeting another couple male or female and one party or more then one got extremely deep feelings! Work that awkward one out lol

Hilarious?? God no... id say all parties involved would be very hurt and utterly devastated whether it was their wife or husband. Isn't that the risk u take by meeting regularly and they becoming an active part or your life? It's totally different as a single

You run that risk with anyone you meet at work, as a friend/neighbour/whatever anyway - how do you think affairs start?the difference is, your having sex in my view

An emotional bond with another is far more destructive - unless you are someone who cannot separate the two, in which case swinging was never going to be a good idea, was it? a bond between both which has a big chance of developing the more time you spend with each other I would say! I can easily separate emotions have done all my life but I have found some women struggle to do so

I know when i was married and was part of a couple,id a deep love for my husband and although i found others sexually attractive and played with the same couples for a long time,there was always a barrier there,a line nobody crossed. Probably out of respect for others involved but also out of respect for him and him for me. I'd say that's the way it is with most! All I'm saying is I'd say feelings sometime intervene with a few "

And even then it is something that can be worked past if the couple remain honest with each other - just as in a monogamous relationship, it is dishonesty and secrecy that destroys the bond. It is normal to find others attractive at times, its a question of knowing where your priorities and loyalties lie.

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By *isdirtygirl OP   Woman
over a year ago

Dublin


"What would be hilarious is if a couple kept meeting another couple male or female and one party or more then one got extremely deep feelings! Work that awkward one out lol

Hilarious?? God no... id say all parties involved would be very hurt and utterly devastated whether it was their wife or husband. Isn't that the risk u take by meeting regularly and they becoming an active part or your life? It's totally different as a single

You run that risk with anyone you meet at work, as a friend/neighbour/whatever anyway - how do you think affairs start?the difference is, your having sex in my view

An emotional bond with another is far more destructive - unless you are someone who cannot separate the two, in which case swinging was never going to be a good idea, was it? a bond between both which has a big chance of developing the more time you spend with each other I would say! I can easily separate emotions have done all my life but I have found some women struggle to do so

I know when i was married and was part of a couple,id a deep love for my husband and although i found others sexually attractive and played with the same couples for a long time,there was always a barrier there,a line nobody crossed. Probably out of respect for others involved but also out of respect for him and him for me. I'd say that's the way it is with most! All I'm saying is I'd say feelings sometime intervene with a few "

A lot of the time people mistake love for lust and confuse the two. Ive liked all the partners i had sex with in my married life and loved them too but was never in love with any of them.

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"What would be hilarious is if a couple kept meeting another couple male or female and one party or more then one got extremely deep feelings! Work that awkward one out lol

Hilarious?? God no... id say all parties involved would be very hurt and utterly devastated whether it was their wife or husband. Isn't that the risk u take by meeting regularly and they becoming an active part or your life? It's totally different as a single

You run that risk with anyone you meet at work, as a friend/neighbour/whatever anyway - how do you think affairs start?the difference is, your having sex in my view

An emotional bond with another is far more destructive - unless you are someone who cannot separate the two, in which case swinging was never going to be a good idea, was it? a bond between both which has a big chance of developing the more time you spend with each other I would say! I can easily separate emotions have done all my life but I have found some women struggle to do so

I know when i was married and was part of a couple,id a deep love for my husband and although i found others sexually attractive and played with the same couples for a long time,there was always a barrier there,a line nobody crossed. Probably out of respect for others involved but also out of respect for him and him for me. I'd say that's the way it is with most! All I'm saying is I'd say feelings sometime intervene with a few

And even then it is something that can be worked past if the couple remain honest with each other - just as in a monogamous relationship, it is dishonesty and secrecy that destroys the bond. It is normal to find others attractive at times, its a question of knowing where your priorities and loyalties lie. "

fair play to those who do and each to their own and all that

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