FabSwingers.com forum: What would your opinion be ?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I was chatting to a friend of mine(or acquaintance) over the w.end,he was talking to me about his new girlfriend,to cut a long story short,she wants him to find fellas who are willing to fuck her, while she is tied up & blindfolded,and the most scary part is that you can't talk to her,just walk in & walk out.

Now I don't think they're on here ,because a asked had he looked at any websites,he said no.

This just sounds so so wrong,& I thought I was open-minded,but this just crys out rape to me !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was chatting to a friend of mine(or acquaintance) over the w.end,he was talking to me about his new girlfriend,to cut a long story short,she wants him to find fellas who are willing to fuck her, while she is tied up & blindfolded,and the most scary part is that you can't talk to her,just walk in & walk out.

Now I don't think they're on here ,because a asked had he looked at any websites,he said no.

This just sounds so so wrong,& I thought I was open-minded,but this just crys out rape to me !

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what is the big deal. Sounds like fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's a common enough fantasy. It's consensual so I don't see it as rape. She's asking him to arrange this for her and flair play, whatever floats your boat. I'm sure there would be a few into this scenario.

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By *isdirtygirlWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

Theres lots of ladies who enjoy this experience(i have done it myself).i dont see where youd see rape involved if shes speaking to her partner about it and hes a support mechanism for her.its all good fun and can be a huge turn on for the male of the couple too if hes there watching

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By *lfieWoman
over a year ago

South Dublin

You dont seem very open-minded to me. Its a very common fantasy. How is it rape if she has given consent?

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By *ub_leitrim_guyMan
over a year ago

Out in the sticks

Absolutely nothing wrong with that... one of the first couples I met were into it and the fun part of it for lady was being in hotel bar/restaurant etc and wondering which guys had met her!!

Anonymous sex was what she really enjoyed!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Sorry hard to get the whole story down at once ,he also said,ignore any dismissal from her,it all part of the role.

that didn't sound right me it's someone you don't know.

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By *0shadesofashWoman
over a year ago

DUBLIN

That's not wierd at all sounds hot as fuck best thing ever when they jus fuck and leave

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it was she that put it on the table then I don't see how it would be rape. If it was his girlfriend asking you about doing the same thing to him would you say the same thing. Don't get me wrong im most certainly not having a go at you but like I said if she consents then what's the harm.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It sounds very hot however, he should make sure they trust each other completely and maybe even get something informal in writing.

It could also prove difficult to get guys unless they join somewhere like fab, where you have trusted guys to call on who understand the role play concept, safe words etc.

Worst case scenario she regrets it and actually cries rape unlikely I know but possible.

Sam

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Theres lots of ladies who enjoy this experience(i have done it myself).i dont see where youd see rape involved if shes speaking to her partner about it and hes a support mechanism for her.its all good fun and can be a huge turn on for the male of the couple too if hes there watching

Thanks, this has convinced me to stay away, I wouldn't trust this guy,so that's settled that for me ,this was quite specific & something just didn't sound right,& you sorted it miss thanks

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By *ub_leitrim_guyMan
over a year ago

Out in the sticks

Thanks, this has convinced me to stay away, I wouldn't trust this guy,so that's settled that for me ,this was quite specific & something just didn't sound right,& you sorted it miss thanks"

Indeed if you don't trust him then stay away!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thanks, this has convinced me to stay away, I wouldn't trust this guy,so that's settled that for me ,this was quite specific & something just didn't sound right,& you sorted it miss thanks

Indeed if you don't trust him then stay away!!"

After re reading this ill have to disregard my previous post. When a woman says no that's it.

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By *al2001Man
over a year ago

kildare

I hope all men of fab read this thread and if they are ever invited into a room to fuck a tied up blindfolded woman they think twice about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It does sound a little sketchy to me. Anytime I have tried bondage or the whole sub/dom thing I have chatted to the woman before hand

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I hope all men of fab read this thread and if they are ever invited into a room to fuck a tied up blindfolded woman they think twice about it"

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By *ub_leitrim_guyMan
over a year ago

Out in the sticks

They might make a video... the best 20 seconds she ever had!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would stay a mile away from them, in role play like that, trust is the key..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely sounds a bit risky. I my (female) opinion she would at least need to have met they guys on a social level first. Also if you don't trust the guy completely male to male STAY AWAY!

Mrs B

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think there are different things to consider

1. Does the couple fully trust each other?

2. Does the couple trust the participants?

3. Is there a safe word? There's nothing wrong with her rejecting in my opinion if - and only if - it is part of the role play

I would believe this is quite a common fantasy. But everyone involved has to be fully aware and agree to any rules and guidelines.

If at the end of the day you don't have a good feeling about it, don't attend.

But generally speaking I wouldn't call it "fishy".. The idea itself is not unusual..

I hope it works out for you, which ever way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Definitely sounds a bit risky. I my (female) opinion she would at least need to have met they guys on a social level first. Also if you don't trust the guy completely male to male STAY AWAY!

Mrs B

It's all about the trust

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have had a kind of similar experience that was suggested by a "friend" of mine. He wanted me to have group fun with him and a few of his mates but with a sub/dom theme to it so I feared things would get mad.

I was up for it only on the promise I could meet the fellas before hand for a drink and a chat.

I also had total trust in this particular friend, and trusted him to step in if things got way out of hand and also to make sure protection was being used.

Thankfully it was a great night and a lot of fun, but what the op is describing seems mental. Surely a social meet at least is needed before hand?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Now I don't think they're on here ,because a asked had he looked at any websites,he said no.

This just sounds so so wrong,& I thought I was open-minded,but this just crys out rape to me !

You dont seem to understand what rape is. This girl is not just willing, but the instigator.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks everyone,after the first few replies I thought I was being overly cautious but as the thread played out it became apparent,this was a non runner for me ,now maybe if I had shown more interest, there may have been a pre meet briefing ....ie.safe sex, password,other conditions she might want etc.but he should have said that when we initially spoke .going to stick with my gut feeling & keep clear ! Thanks again everybody

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have had a kind of similar experience that was suggested by a "friend" of mine. He wanted me to have group fun with him and a few of his mates but with a sub/dom theme to it so I feared things would get mad.

I was up for it only on the promise I could meet the fellas before hand for a drink and a chat.

I also had total trust in this particular friend, and trusted him to step in if things got way out of hand and also to make sure protection was being used.

Thankfully it was a great night and a lot of fun, but what the op is describing seems mental. Surely a social meet at least is needed before hand?"

This sounds like a safe way to go with it,I understand the fantasy but wouldn't turn me on in any way.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Now I don't think they're on here ,because a asked had he looked at any websites,he said no.

This just sounds so so wrong,& I thought I was open-minded,but this just crys out rape to me !

You dont seem to understand what rape is. This girl is not just willing, but the instigator."

What if things didn't work out as she had planned (or lack of plan) & she wanted to stop but hadn't a safety plan for herself.what would you call that ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What if he was the instigator,& she didn't know exactly what he had planned ? What would that be called ???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Now I don't think they're on here ,because a asked had he looked at any websites,he said no.

This just sounds so so wrong,& I thought I was open-minded,but this just crys out rape to me !

You dont seem to understand what rape is. This girl is not just willing, but the instigator.

What if things didn't work out as she had planned (or lack of plan) & she wanted to stop but hadn't a safety plan for herself.what would you call that ?"

I didn't call it smart - did I? Any situation can turn into a rape accusation- genuine or otherwise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What if he was the instigator,& she didn't know exactly what he had planned ? What would that be called ???"

You not asking enough questions...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's like every situation, do whatever you feel is necessary to ensure your own safety and comfort - which appears to be staying well clear in your case

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If that's her kink...

Let her enjoy it

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By *0shadesofashWoman
over a year ago

DUBLIN

Jesus the girl just wants to be fucked by two lads and be tied up you's make it sound like a mission fuckin impossible thinking waaaayyy too much into it ffs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Jesus the girl just wants to be fucked by two lads and be tied up you's make it sound like a mission fuckin impossible thinking waaaayyy too much into it ffs"

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By *isdirtygirlWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

"What if he was the instigator,& she didn't know exactly what he had planned ? What would that be called ???"

Threres a lot of "what if"on this thread and to be honest Op,any guy as part of a couple whos organising something like that behind his partners back is a complete and utter tosser. Is it his kink to watch her and hes not said that to you? Or he might be the one trying to coax her into it and again hes a tosser. Whatever the answers are to the "what if" ,your best bet is to decline and have no part of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Jesus the girl just wants to be fucked by two lads and be tied up you's make it sound like a mission fuckin impossible thinking waaaayyy too much into it ffs"
lol you tell them ash lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Now I don't think they're on here ,because a asked had he looked at any websites,he said no.

This just sounds so so wrong,& I thought I was open-minded,but this just crys out rape to me !

You dont seem to understand what rape is. This girl is not just willing, but the instigator."

How would you wver know that as fact?

You have no communication with her !

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By *olita xxWoman
over a year ago

derry

My opinion is its way to dangerous for her she doesn't know what's she getting into ! I will step up do the right thing and take her place !! Nice like that u c

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Now I don't think they're on here ,because a asked had he looked at any websites,he said no.

This just sounds so so wrong,& I thought I was open-minded,but this just crys out rape to me !

You dont seem to understand what rape is. This girl is not just willing, but the instigator.

How would you wver know that as fact?

You have no communication with her !"

*ever

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Jesus the girl just wants to be fucked by two lads and be tied up you's make it sound like a mission fuckin impossible thinking waaaayyy too much into it ffs"

I got the impression that there would be more than 2 guys involved and that it is a tied,blindfolded,multiple cocks scenario which would push her limits past anything she might shout out while she is getting pounded,hence the thoughts about safety,a "workaround" would be that she has a hand free that she can signal her partner in a way that he knows that she definitely has had enough.I would suggest that the OP passes on this site name and the girl herself can discuss it with some of the girls here who have more experience of this fantasy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You could agree on the grounds that her partner is in the room with her when the guy arrives and her paryner speaks to ask her agreement she nods and then you fuck her and leave...you havent spoken so still the fantasy can be played out.. otherwise in my opinion you wouldnt know if she consented and yes she could cry rape

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i dont have experience of this , its not for me , however , I would recommend if you seriously want to do this to have a written agreement drawn up and signed by all participants , the wording to be chosen by the woman to give her some degree of control over the situation , peoples perceptions differ , for example I remember when I was new to the scene I attended a party where a female took on 5 men at once and to say I was terrified and genuinely frightened wouldnt have been an understatement , I was horrified as an onlooker , however the lady involved loved it ! and I spoke to her afterwards and she told me it had been the best experience ever , so you never know ......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Now I don't think they're on here ,because a asked had he looked at any websites,he said no.

This just sounds so so wrong,& I thought I was open-minded,but this just crys out rape to me !

You dont seem to understand what rape is. This girl is not just willing, but the instigator.

How would you wver know that as fact?

You have no communication with her !

*ever"

Which is why I said steer clear of situations you are not comfortable with - common sense surely?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Now I don't think they're on here ,because a asked had he looked at any websites,he said no.

This just sounds so so wrong,& I thought I was open-minded,but this just crys out rape to me !

You dont seem to understand what rape is. This girl is not just willing, but the instigator.

How would you wver know that as fact?

You have no communication with her !

*ever

Which is why I said steer clear of situations you are not comfortable with - common sense surely?"

Agree

unfortunately common sense is not as common as you would hope!

However your earlier statement implied she was the instigator and in this instance no one would be able to verify that

Except the guy that kidnapped her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Now I don't think they're on here ,because a asked had he looked at any websites,he said no.

This just sounds so so wrong,& I thought I was open-minded,but this just crys out rape to me !

You dont seem to understand what rape is. This girl is not just willing, but the instigator.

How would you wver know that as fact?

You have no communication with her !

*ever

Which is why I said steer clear of situations you are not comfortable with - common sense surely?

Agree

unfortunately common sense is not as common as you would hope!

However your earlier statement implied she was the instigator and in this instance no one would be able to verify that

Except the guy that kidnapped her

I was responding to the situation as presented to us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Now I don't think they're on here ,because a asked had he looked at any websites,he said no.

This just sounds so so wrong,& I thought I was open-minded,but this just crys out rape to me !

You dont seem to understand what rape is. This girl is not just willing, but the instigator.

How would you wver know that as fact?

You have no communication with her !

*ever

Which is why I said steer clear of situations you are not comfortable with - common sense surely?

Agree

unfortunately common sense is not as common as you would hope!

However your earlier statement implied she was the instigator and in this instance no one would be able to verify that

Except the guy that kidnapped her

I was responding to the situation as presented to us."

True! You adjusted your point as you progressed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hi i think she justs wants to escape into oblivion for a short time just the sensationof being taken without a word the total helplessness of it wow im not a woman but thats hot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My opinion is its way to dangerous for her she doesn't know what's she getting into ! I will step up do the right thing and take her place !! Nice like that u c

May i throw my hat in the ring for this one!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they have agreed it together and trust each other fair enough, just the word new yells at me but that's probably cause I'm getting old lol

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By *al2001Man
over a year ago

kildare

"Jesus the girl just wants to be fucked by two lads and be tied up you's make it sound like a mission fuckin impossible thinking waaaayyy too much into it ffs"

How do you know that she wants to be fucked by 2 guys ash?

Because her new boyfriend says it? Who the OP already said he doesn't trust

I think this is a situation you couldn't over think enough ffs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It never even occurred to me that this might not be consensual...maybe I am a bit green or naive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Now I don't think they're on here ,because a asked had he looked at any websites,he said no.

This just sounds so so wrong,& I thought I was open-minded,but this just crys out rape to me !

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to me it's her fantasy

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By *0shadesofashWoman
over a year ago

DUBLIN

"Jesus the girl just wants to be fucked by two lads and be tied up you's make it sound like a mission fuckin impossible thinking waaaayyy too much into it ffs

How do you know that she wants to be fucked by 2 guys ash?

Because her new boyfriend says it? Who the OP already said he doesn't trust

I think this is a situation you couldn't over think enough ffs"
I don't no I'm just going by what he is saying why would I over think someone else's problem I don't even over think my own I couldn't give a shite what she done don't see why anyone else wants to over think it either she's gonna do what she wants either way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like my fantacy lol

I have discussed it with one fabber that I trust with my life .

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By *ecretly seductiveWoman
over a year ago

Palookaville

Is a fairly common fantasy amongst women including myself. However this kinda play can only be engaged in with someone who can be entirely trusted by the female. If she wants the men to be anonymous she must have complete trust in her partner to choose them and know when to stop things if they aren't going to plan. There must be a plan to protect her and she must have a way to communicate what she is feeling at any point. I think if you're gut instinct tells you something doesn't feel right you're right to steer clear and maybe your friend should take a bit longer to get to know his new girlfriend before going down that path. As someone suggested direct them to this site and let her talk to some of the girls on here who have the experience to know how to work this scenario so it is fun but safe for all participants including the guys attending

Mrs S

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your gut feeling is telling you something. Go with that. If you felt right you would not have posted here. I would stay clear if I had a bad feeling.

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