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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Do you ever think that the world is always against you, it seems to be the I feel, Notting makes me happy anymore, there only so many knifes a person can pull out of there body before it starts to hurt..done the dark to Dawn run this year, not knowing I be in the dark corner myself, it hurting it scarey it a matter of time before it real.. ;

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The shorter daylight hours are probably not helping, have you tried replacing your light bulbs with those "daylight" bulbs?

Keep fighting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go out for a walk/run in the crisp fresh air and listen to some good music x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't know your situation huni but I also hope this is not a joke cause it definitely not funny. What ever is going on in your life things will get better but you also have to be part of that change so get up an get out an about to clear your mind an walk away from what ever or who ever has brought you down so low keep your chin up xx holly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Go out for a walk/run in the crisp fresh air and listen to some good music x"

Great advice,works for me but I have to say there are days when finding the motivation to do it is near impossible

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By *isdirtygirlWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

Think of three things that make you smile and hold onto them during your dark times. Youre not alone and help is out there if you reach out to find it. X

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Don't know your situation huni but I also hope this is not a joke cause it definitely not funny. What ever is going on in your life things will get better but you also have to be part of that change so get up an get out an about to clear your mind an walk away from what ever or who ever has brought you down so low keep your chin up xx holly"
no joke, its real very real..everything at the moment is hurting,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't know your situation huni but I also hope this is not a joke cause it definitely not funny. What ever is going on in your life things will get better but you also have to be part of that change so get up an get out an about to clear your mind an walk away from what ever or who ever has brought you down so low keep your chin up xx hollyno joke, its real very real..everything at the moment is hurting,"

I feel for you honestly been there myself i had to walk away for my own sanity ive came out the other side smiling now an keep on smiling if you want to talk privately feel free to pm me xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't know your situation huni but I also hope this is not a joke cause it definitely not funny. What ever is going on in your life things will get better but you also have to be part of that change so get up an get out an about to clear your mind an walk away from what ever or who ever has brought you down so low keep your chin up xx hollyno joke, its real very real..everything at the moment is hurting,"

Sometimes sites like this don't help either when ur feeling low. Obviously people don't do it on purpose but with such a small pool of women an so many men the constant rejection can get to you. I know that's what happened me first time round wondering why nobody wanted to talk with me. Its not an ideal place for a self-esteem boots. Just my experience anyway hope things pick up the winter months can get you down too. Try take on board some of the advice people have given u here too

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Don't know your situation huni but I also hope this is not a joke cause it definitely not funny. What ever is going on in your life things will get better but you also have to be part of that change so get up an get out an about to clear your mind an walk away from what ever or who ever has brought you down so low keep your chin up xx hollyno joke, its real very real..everything at the moment is hurting,

Sometimes sites like this don't help either when ur feeling low. Obviously people don't do it on purpose but with such a small pool of women an so many men the constant rejection can get to you. I know that's what happened me first time round wondering why nobody wanted to talk with me. Its not an ideal place for a self-esteem boots. Just my experience anyway hope things pick up the winter months can get you down too. Try take on board some of the advice people have given u here too"
Notting to do with the site, living a hard life in my head, don't think I am up to the fight must longer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Notting to do with the site, living a hard life in my head, don't think I am up to the fight must longer"

I can't help but agree with the previous poster, it does seem that most single guys find it pretty hard work here & if you are constantly being rejected it surely isn't the place to be when you're feeling low, on the other hand if you find it easier talking to strangers you may find an ear, the problem is, I can't imagine a lot of people want to deal with someone else's depression on a swingers site...

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan


"Notting to do with the site, living a hard life in my head, don't think I am up to the fight must longer

I can't help but agree with the previous poster, it does seem that most single guys find it pretty hard work here & if you are constantly being rejected it surely isn't the place to be when you're feeling low, on the other hand if you find it easier talking to strangers you may find an ear, the problem is, I can't imagine a lot of people want to deal with someone else's depression on a swingers site..."

Another problem along those lines is that a lot of people think they know how to help but only make things worse despite their good intentions. It's not an easy situation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Notting to do with the site, living a hard life in my head, don't think I am up to the fight must longer

I can't help but agree with the previous poster, it does seem that most single guys find it pretty hard work here & if you are constantly being rejected it surely isn't the place to be when you're feeling low, on the other hand if you find it easier talking to strangers you may find an ear, the problem is, I can't imagine a lot of people want to deal with someone else's depression on a swingers site...

Another problem along those lines is that a lot of people think they know how to help but only make things worse despite their good intentions. It's not an easy situation "

Hear, hear.

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By *obbie65Man
over a year ago

kildare

Sad to read your posting Longhorn, this is probably not the type of site to be on if you are feeling fragile at present.

Better to break current cycle - go and do something different - volunteer with Simon community for a few weeks. You may not feel like it , but helping others can benefit you more than those you help. Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She hears she hears

Ok I'll get my coat

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Notting to do with the site, living a hard life in my head, don't think I am up to the fight must longer

I can't help but agree with the previous poster, it does seem that most single guys find it pretty hard work here & if you are constantly being rejected it surely isn't the place to be when you're feeling low, on the other hand if you find it easier talking to strangers you may find an ear, the problem is, I can't imagine a lot of people want to deal with someone else's depression on a swingers site..."
as I sad Notting to do with the site..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't know your situation huni but I also hope this is not a joke cause it definitely not funny. What ever is going on in your life things will get better but you also have to be part of that change so get up an get out an about to clear your mind an walk away from what ever or who ever has brought you down so low keep your chin up xx hollyno joke, its real very real..everything at the moment is hurting,

Sometimes sites like this don't help either when ur feeling low. Obviously people don't do it on purpose but with such a small pool of women an so many men the constant rejection can get to you. I know that's what happened me first time round wondering why nobody wanted to talk with me. Its not an ideal place for a self-esteem boots. Just my experience anyway hope things pick up the winter months can get you down too. Try take on board some of the advice people have given u here tooNotting to do with the site, living a hard life in my head, don't think I am up to the fight must longer"

Dude, Get off of here and get proper help. Turn off your wifi and get help for yourself. Getting advice of strangers is not going to help. If you are genuinely depressed and I've no reason to believe that you are not get some proper counselling, depression is very serious and u should treat it properly. Being a bit down is one thing but saying u don't want to fight any more is a seriously different matter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't know your situation huni but I also hope this is not a joke cause it definitely not funny. What ever is going on in your life things will get better but you also have to be part of that change so get up an get out an about to clear your mind an walk away from what ever or who ever has brought you down so low keep your chin up xx hollyno joke, its real very real..everything at the moment is hurting,

Sometimes sites like this don't help either when ur feeling low. Obviously people don't do it on purpose but with such a small pool of women an so many men the constant rejection can get to you. I know that's what happened me first time round wondering why nobody wanted to talk with me. Its not an ideal place for a self-esteem boots. Just my experience anyway hope things pick up the winter months can get you down too. Try take on board some of the advice people have given u here tooNotting to do with the site, living a hard life in my head, don't think I am up to the fight must longer

Dude, Get off of here and get proper help. Turn off your wifi and get help for yourself. Getting advice of strangers is not going to help. If you are genuinely depressed and I've no reason to believe that you are not get some proper counselling, depression is very serious and u should treat it properly. Being a bit down is one thing but saying u don't want to fight any more is a seriously different matter "

Very sound advice here

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Don't know your situation huni but I also hope this is not a joke cause it definitely not funny. What ever is going on in your life things will get better but you also have to be part of that change so get up an get out an about to clear your mind an walk away from what ever or who ever has brought you down so low keep your chin up xx hollyno joke, its real very real..everything at the moment is hurting,

Sometimes sites like this don't help either when ur feeling low. Obviously people don't do it on purpose but with such a small pool of women an so many men the constant rejection can get to you. I know that's what happened me first time round wondering why nobody wanted to talk with me. Its not an ideal place for a self-esteem boots. Just my experience anyway hope things pick up the winter months can get you down too. Try take on board some of the advice people have given u here tooNotting to do with the site, living a hard life in my head, don't think I am up to the fight must longer

Dude, Get off of here and get proper help. Turn off your wifi and get help for yourself. Getting advice of strangers is not going to help. If you are genuinely depressed and I've no reason to believe that you are not get some proper counselling, depression is very serious and u should treat it properly. Being a bit down is one thing but saying u don't want to fight any more is a seriously different matter "
well kicked liked football my life, it don't bounce for every..you don't have to leave it, no matter what I do never get any credit for it..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only advice I can give you - talk to someone. It's hard when you feel alone, but if you talk to someone, you'll realise that there are others out there feeling the same, and that you're not alone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Talk to a professional u won't get proper help online

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

info@pieta.ie

Drop them a mail.

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By *randub69Man
over a year ago

city


"Do you ever think that the world is always against you, it seems to be the I feel, Notting makes me happy anymore, there only so many knifes a person can pull out of there body before it starts to hurt..done the dark to Dawn run this year, not knowing I be in the dark corner myself, it hurting it scarey it a matter of time before it real.. ; "

The only thing I am going to do is tell you to get in touch with "pieta house" they will point you in the right direction...They are professionals and deal with these kind of problems every day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This thread should be closed. If it's a cry for help then the op has been advised to get proper help. He should do so. However well intended and genuine it is, this is not the place for giving or receiving advice from non professionals about mental health.

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By *oodbuddy 51Man
over a year ago

Puerto Rico, Gran Canaria

I have someone very close who has reached out and received help. Never say never there will always be help out there for you and I am sure you will find it so keep smiling and sing a little song in your head and think of good things that you have done and can do.

I dont like the long dark nights but if I wake up in the middle of the night not feeling good I will get up have a cuppa and read a book for a while until my head clears and I go back to sleep thinking positive thoughts.

Remember and keep saying to yourself that you can do it, there are other people out there with worse problems.

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By *randub69Man
over a year ago

city


"This thread should be closed. If it's a cry for help then the op has been advised to get proper help. He should do so. However well intended and genuine it is, this is not the place for giving or receiving advice from non professionals about mental health. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This thread should be closed. If it's a cry for help then the op has been advised to get proper help. He should do so. However well intended and genuine it is, this is not the place for giving or receiving advice from non professionals about mental health. "

The thread was started by a young man who is experiecing depression.

Very often , people find themselves reaching out to complete strangers on the internet.In return as proven by the wonderful responses here, they recieve support, understanding and the knowledge that they are not alone.

These my friend are very often the first steps to recovery..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This thread should be closed. If it's a cry for help then the op has been advised to get proper help. He should do so. However well intended and genuine it is, this is not the place for giving or receiving advice from non professionals about mental health. "

Why should it be closed sadly in this world this is a fact of life for lots of people. Too many out there try to brush it under the carpet an ignore it. This guy has at least taken the first step by admitting public that he has a problem whether its on a swingers site or Facebook he still reached out. Also the fact he is a man which takes a lot to admit. This is just my opinion x

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By *aucyladMan
over a year ago

Dublin

Talk to someone,go to the doctor,i promise you will feel a weight off your shoulders.read books that wil make you understand such as the power of now.The doctor will steer you,there is no shame in admitting you feel down. We all have to stand up at some point and take care of ourselves.Tomorrow night Bressie has a tv programme arounf similar situations.Your not alone in feeling down,but you will be alone unless you take the biggest Stepnyou can take by admitting it to someone who can help. (And I dont mean in here).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have taken the first step on here and you should be applauded for finding the courage to ask for help.

We all have our own way of dealing with our feelings, some of us, maybe, just like you, chat easier through text.

There are professional services that you can email or phone so many options are available and it doesn't matter which you choose just please seek help.

I speak from the heart as I've lost someone very dear to me. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Exercise has been proven to have the same effect as anti depressant drugs, so go for a walk, a run, the getting up and doing it is the hardest part.... But, it will make you feel better and then there is the other stuff you can do, like talking to friends that are there for you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This thread should be closed. If it's a cry for help then the op has been advised to get proper help. He should do so. However well intended and genuine it is, this is not the place for giving or receiving advice from non professionals about mental health.

Why should it be closed sadly in this world this is a fact of life for lots of people. Too many out there try to brush it under the carpet an ignore it. This guy has at least taken the first step by admitting public that he has a problem whether its on a swingers site or Facebook he still reached out. Also the fact he is a man which takes a lot to admit. This is just my opinion x"
..thanks, but I don't expect to understand when you start crying out of the blue, your mind going against you..

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By *oodbuddy 51Man
over a year ago

Puerto Rico, Gran Canaria

Yes I expect most people wont understand unless they have first hand experience about depression but you my friend have already taken a big step by discussing it here so take heart there is help out there and we want to help you so contact Aware or any other support group now. Do it now dont leave it any longer you will feel a weight been lifted off your shoulders by having someone who understands to talk to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Things I learned from my experience was eating 4 times a day go for walk I have a half hour rest/quite time during day reading books keep your mind busy hold your head up and keep fighting things get better this time last year I was found hanging and was cut down I can look back now and think how stupid I was it's by no means easier but I experienced it going from great to rock bottom having no fight in you dig deep you will find it ask anyone for help a stranger is easier to talk to hold your head high

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This thread should be closed. If it's a cry for help then the op has been advised to get proper help. He should do so. However well intended and genuine it is, this is not the place for giving or receiving advice from non professionals about mental health.

Why should it be closed sadly in this world this is a fact of life for lots of people. Too many out there try to brush it under the carpet an ignore it. This guy has at least taken the first step by admitting public that he has a problem whether its on a swingers site or Facebook he still reached out. Also the fact he is a man which takes a lot to admit. This is just my opinion x"

With the greatest respect you are not I understand a professional in the area of mental health so I will agree to disagree on whether such serious matters are appropriate to be looking for advice on. a swingers forum is not the place to be looking for advice about something as serious about ones mental health and a very dangerous road to be going down given that op had spoken about such matters as self harm. Bad or misguided advice however well meant is the last thing a person suffering from depression needs and if the op is indeed genuine about this he needs to get advice from a professional not an anonymous person on the Internet. The question of liability if something does go wrong would therefore be an issue for the person in charge of forums. That's why it should be closed.

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