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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Have you ever had someone message you who would really like to meet and you're really attracted to them and you like them... But you really think that you're not in their league and their verifications are from some of the most gorgeous women here and you feel like if they met you they'd be disappointed.. This happens to me a lot and I've turned down some great guys because of it..

Any advice?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aw, that's not nice to hear Snow. I kinda think that's something you're gonna have to deal with yourself. Hope you work it out. XX

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan


"Have you ever had someone message you who would really like to meet and you're really attracted to them and you like them... But you really think that you're not in their league and their verifications are from some of the most gorgeous women here and you feel like if they met you they'd be disappointed.. This happens to me a lot and I've turned down some great guys because of it..

Any advice?

"

Just meet me and be done with it

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By *tanonieMan
over a year ago

killorglin


"Have you ever had someone message you who would really like to meet and you're really attracted to them and you like them... But you really think that you're not in their league and their verifications are from some of the most gorgeous women here and you feel like if they met you they'd be disappointed.. This happens to me a lot and I've turned down some great guys because of it..

Any advice? Hello there yeah its happened to me too.Hey you have to live life too "who dares wins eh"

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Snow White as a guy who took a chance and messaged a woman on here with great verifications and pics totally outta my league I encourage you to go for it!! not only did I get a reply, I'm now her favourite verification and the other half to her couples profile

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By *unsterStagMan
over a year ago

Limerick

Confidence is a state of mind!

Believe in yourself! Meet for a drink and go from there!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you ever had someone message you who would really like to meet and you're really attracted to them and you like them... But you really think that you're not in their league and their verifications are from some of the most gorgeous women here and you feel like if they met you they'd be disappointed.. This happens to me a lot and I've turned down some great guys because of it..

Any advice?

"

I used to read lads veris and if they were from slim girls I would always tell them I wasn't thin and they wouldn't be into me but in reality, pics can be deceiving! So you may have one perception of them and the reality may be completely different! My advice would be love yourself and meet who tickles your fancy and don't overthink who they have been with. No one is out of your league bar in ur mind, so take a chance and who knows what may happen! Good luck xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

from what i can see your a very attractive woman, the way i go about fab and life in general is....... the day i stop taking risks and enjoying new experiences i may as well curl up my toes and give up on enjoying life. so whilst some things may seem scary or whatever its always worth taking a chance and seeing what happens as you never know the outcome unless you give it a shot

and at the end of the day you can only really regret the things you don't do in life

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm never usually like this and don't know what's knocked my confidence.. I'm usually a take me or leave me kinda gal.

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By *ohn MingoMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"Have you ever had someone message you who would really like to meet and you're really attracted to them and you like them... But you really think that you're not in their league and their verifications are from some of the most gorgeous women here and you feel like if they met you they'd be disappointed.. This happens to me a lot and I've turned down some great guys because of it..

Any advice?

"

Yep, and I say to myself "fuck it, there's only one way to find out"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No matter what you look like there will be some people who don't find you attractive (and some who will fuck you regardless lol). Plus some pics on here are pretty deceiving. What do you lose by a social meet that doesn't progress further? Not a thing.

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By *ilderMan
over a year ago

dublin

So what you are saying is you've turned guys down because you think they won't be attracted to you...... Don't you think it might be wiser to allow the guys to make up their own minds instead of deciding for them?

Who knows, in reality you may not be attracted to them but what harm is a coffee meet, personally I don't rely fully on pics.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It's probably because I haven't met in so long.. Might be time to jump back on the horse

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By *ohn MingoMan
over a year ago

Dublin

Based on your pics snow I wouldn't be long asking you for a coffee.

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan


"It's probably because I haven't met in so long.. Might be time to jump back on the horse "

Start with a fella Horses are huge

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you ever had someone message you who would really like to meet and you're really attracted to them and you like them... But you really think that you're not in their league and their verifications are from some of the most gorgeous women here and you feel like if they met you they'd be disappointed.. This happens to me a lot and I've turned down some great guys because of it..

Any advice?

"

Is this coz of that stupid guys comments about your profile pics???you're feminine and girly..I ain't no skinny girl..by not returning interest you're deciding for them.let them decide..isn't it all about chemistry?? Your pictures show a woman who's proud of her curves..as you should be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's probably because I haven't met in so long.. Might be time to jump back on the horse

Start with a fella Horses are huge "

You're funny. I've been enjoying your posts all day

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

Every one of my meets were out of my league take a deep breath and say yes let's do coffee what's for u won't pass u by

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Have you ever had someone message you who would really like to meet and you're really attracted to them and you like them... But you really think that you're not in their league and their verifications are from some of the most gorgeous women here and you feel like if they met you they'd be disappointed.. This happens to me a lot and I've turned down some great guys because of it..

Any advice?

Is this coz of that stupid guys comments about your profile pics???you're feminine and girly..I ain't no skinny girl..by not returning interest you're deciding for them.let them decide..isn't it all about chemistry?? Your pictures show a woman who's proud of her curves..as you should be "

No not at all. I've never had a guy here be mean about my profile pics or guys I've met say anything bad. I don't know what's up with me..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Snow White as a guy who took a chance and messaged a woman on here with great verifications and pics totally outta my league I encourage you to go for it!! not only did I get a reply, I'm now her favourite verification and the other half to her couples profile "

Nothing like a great success story! Love it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Based on your pics snow I wouldn't be long asking you for a coffee. "

Seconded

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone suffers a lack of confidence from time to time...

..the reality is your friends support you if they notice you need it..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I try and go in with the attitude that no one's out of my league! They may well think that they're out of my league but if they're that arrogant then I don't want to know them anyway!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I try and go in with the attitude that no one's out of my league! They may well think that they're out of my league but if they're that arrogant then I don't want to know them anyway!"

If I was a drinker I'd enjoy a pint with you. You seem sound out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you ever had someone message you who would really like to meet and you're really attracted to them and you like them... But you really think that you're not in their league and their verifications are from some of the most gorgeous women here and you feel like if they met you they'd be disappointed.. This happens to me a lot and I've turned down some great guys because of it..

Any advice?

Is this coz of that stupid guys comments about your profile pics???you're feminine and girly..I ain't no skinny girl..by not returning interest you're deciding for them.let them decide..isn't it all about chemistry?? Your pictures show a woman who's proud of her curves..as you should be

No not at all. I've never had a guy here be mean about my profile pics or guys I've met say anything bad. I don't know what's up with me.. "

Snow ..tried to pm you...I married a man who's now gay. Didnt have any physical interaction with a man for nearly 10 years..if anyone knows about not feeling good enough it's me...N you know what's helped..guys on sites like fab n other mainstream sites fancying me..trust me...they fancy you..you need to get out there...as I think you know..turn up shaking probably the first time...N get it out of the way..N when you get compliments believe them..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you ever had someone message you who would really like to meet and you're really attracted to them and you like them... But you really think that you're not in their league and their verifications are from some of the most gorgeous women here and you feel like if they met you they'd be disappointed.. This happens to me a lot and I've turned down some great guys because of it..

Any advice?

Is this coz of that stupid guys comments about your profile pics???you're feminine and girly..I ain't no skinny girl..by not returning interest you're deciding for them.let them decide..isn't it all about chemistry?? Your pictures show a woman who's proud of her curves..as you should be

No not at all. I've never had a guy here be mean about my profile pics or guys I've met say anything bad. I don't know what's up with me..

Snow ..tried to pm you...I married a man who's now gay. Didnt have any physical interaction with a man for nearly 10 years..if anyone knows about not feeling good enough it's me...N you know what's helped..guys on sites like fab n other mainstream sites fancying me..trust me...they fancy you..you need to get out there...as I think you know..turn up shaking probably the first time...N get it out of the way..N when you get compliments believe them.. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I try and go in with the attitude that no one's out of my league! They may well think that they're out of my league but if they're that arrogant then I don't want to know them anyway!

If I was a drinker I'd enjoy a pint with you. You seem sound out. "

Nah.... I'm out of your league!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you ever had someone message you who would really like to meet and you're really attracted to them and you like them... But you really think that you're not in their league and their verifications are from some of the most gorgeous women here and you feel like if they met you they'd be disappointed.. This happens to me a lot and I've turned down some great guys because of it..

Any advice?

"

Imagine all the guys who think they are out of your league!!

You are gorgeous my dear and one of the nicest ladies on fab...

I'm sorry to hear your struggling with confidence, believe me we all get knocked down but you got to pick yourself up dust yourself off and have a cupa or a glass I mean bottle of vino and say fuck it he didn't deserve it...

Chin up gal xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Have you ever had someone message you who would really like to meet and you're really attracted to them and you like them... But you really think that you're not in their league and their verifications are from some of the most gorgeous women here and you feel like if they met you they'd be disappointed.. This happens to me a lot and I've turned down some great guys because of it..

Any advice?

Imagine all the guys who think they are out of your league!!

You are gorgeous my dear and one of the nicest ladies on fab...

I'm sorry to hear your struggling with confidence, believe me we all get knocked down but you got to pick yourself up dust yourself off and have a cupa or a glass I mean bottle of vino and say fuck it he didn't deserve it...

Chin up gal xx"

Ty Annie and thanks for the pep talk everyone.

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By *eanontiWoman
over a year ago

Limerick


"Have you ever had someone message you who would really like to meet and you're really attracted to them and you like them... But you really think that you're not in their league and their verifications are from some of the most gorgeous women here and you feel like if they met you they'd be disappointed.. This happens to me a lot and I've turned down some great guys because of it..

Any advice?

Is this coz of that stupid guys comments about your profile pics???you're feminine and girly..I ain't no skinny girl..by not returning interest you're deciding for them.let them decide..isn't it all about chemistry?? Your pictures show a woman who's proud of her curves..as you should be

No not at all. I've never had a guy here be mean about my profile pics or guys I've met say anything bad. I don't know what's up with me..

Snow ..tried to pm you...I married a man who's now gay. Didnt have any physical interaction with a man for nearly 10 years..if anyone knows about not feeling good enough it's me...N you know what's helped..guys on sites like fab n other mainstream sites fancying me..trust me...they fancy you..you need to get out there...as I think you know..turn up shaking probably the first time...N get it out of the way..N when you get compliments believe them.. "

Well said hun x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you ever had someone message you who would really like to meet and you're really attracted to them and you like them... But you really think that you're not in their league and their verifications are from some of the most gorgeous women here and you feel like if they met you they'd be disappointed.. This happens to me a lot and I've turned down some great guys because of it..

Any advice?

Is this coz of that stupid guys comments about your profile pics???you're feminine and girly..I ain't no skinny girl..by not returning interest you're deciding for them.let them decide..isn't it all about chemistry?? Your pictures show a woman who's proud of her curves..as you should be

No not at all. I've never had a guy here be mean about my profile pics or guys I've met say anything bad. I don't know what's up with me..

Snow ..tried to pm you...I married a man who's now gay. Didnt have any physical interaction with a man for nearly 10 years..if anyone knows about not feeling good enough it's me...N you know what's helped..guys on sites like fab n other mainstream sites fancying me..trust me...they fancy you..you need to get out there...as I think you know..turn up shaking probably the first time...N get it out of the way..N when you get compliments believe them..

Well said hun x "

As I said to snow..sometimes we just need a kick in the arse to get us out of the rut

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Have you ever had someone message you who would really like to meet and you're really attracted to them and you like them... But you really think that you're not in their league and their verifications are from some of the most gorgeous women here and you feel like if they met you they'd be disappointed.. This happens to me a lot and I've turned down some great guys because of it..

Any advice?

Is this coz of that stupid guys comments about your profile pics???you're feminine and girly..I ain't no skinny girl..by not returning interest you're deciding for them.let them decide..isn't it all about chemistry?? Your pictures show a woman who's proud of her curves..as you should be

No not at all. I've never had a guy here be mean about my profile pics or guys I've met say anything bad. I don't know what's up with me..

Snow ..tried to pm you...I married a man who's now gay. Didnt have any physical interaction with a man for nearly 10 years..if anyone knows about not feeling good enough it's me...N you know what's helped..guys on sites like fab n other mainstream sites fancying me..trust me...they fancy you..you need to get out there...as I think you know..turn up shaking probably the first time...N get it out of the way..N when you get compliments believe them..

Well said hun x

As I said to snow..sometimes we just need a kick in the arse to get us out of the rut "

Ty my dear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I fancy you.

A lot. Like loads and loads. You're smoking hot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I try and go in with the attitude that no one's out of my league! They may well think that they're out of my league but if they're that arrogant then I don't want to know them anyway!

If I was a drinker I'd enjoy a pint with you. You seem sound out.

Nah.... I'm out of your league! "

My wife would like you. I'm sure of that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you ever had someone message you who would really like to meet and you're really attracted to them and you like them... But you really think that you're not in their league and their verifications are from some of the most gorgeous women here and you feel like if they met you they'd be disappointed.. This happens to me a lot and I've turned down some great guys because of it..

Any advice?

"

No such thing as a person as outta your league. Thinking that way is beginning to fail.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you ever had someone message you who would really like to meet and you're really attracted to them and you like them... But you really think that you're not in their league and their verifications are from some of the most gorgeous women here and you feel like if they met you they'd be disappointed.. This happens to me a lot and I've turned down some great guys because of it..

Any advice?

No such thing as a person as outta your league. Thinking that way is beginning to fail. "

Tomcat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're just thinking it through too much, if they have a bunch of veris and are asking you to meet then they will probably meet anyone and dont care what you look like, so dont worry about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This must be why so many ladies have turned me down!only joking.

Everyone has their own insecurities and so on but never think you are not good enough.at least go for a coffee and see if there is any chemistry.confidence is key

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think with a body like that Snow your at the top of the tree here girl any guy would be lucky to get near you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oooooooo ok then I meet ya.

As many of others have said it's all about confidence in yourself. Meeting for a coffee is nothing and sure if it goes any further brilliant if not you got to meet a lovely person for a chat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But being honest - I do sometimes think that fem or cpl are out of my league

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just boils down to taking a chance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm never usually like this and don't know what's knocked my confidence.. I'm usually a take me or leave me kinda gal. "

WAs just going to say it doesn't sound like u at all Hun

Even the most confident women can have their off days and ur not alone I get them days too

Ur a lovely person snow n very sexy .. Hope this phase passes soon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you ever had someone message you who would really like to meet and you're really attracted to them and you like them... But you really think that you're not in their league and their verifications are from some of the most gorgeous women here and you feel like if they met you they'd be disappointed.. This happens to me a lot and I've turned down some great guys because of it..

Any advice?

"

Reply to my message I sent you a few months ago......?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Feel exactly the same and actually end up thinking negitive things about myself and making them out to be amazing.. From what I've been told your a pretty amazing girl and very attractive. If they've asked to meet you it's because they want to meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone messaged you first there must have been sumthin that caught their eye about you xx it is hard if you haven't been meeting for a while but chick you just need reminding how hot you are xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you ever had someone message you who would really like to meet and you're really attracted to them and you like them... But you really think that you're not in their league and their verifications are from some of the most gorgeous women here and you feel like if they met you they'd be disappointed.. This happens to me a lot and I've turned down some great guys because of it..

Any advice?

"

Beauty is always in the eye of the beholder. You dont know what his reaction will be till you meet him. Shur whats the worst thing that can happen. He isnt interested. If that happens you can concentrate your efforts in other areas. If ye click ul be writing about the magical acrobatics involved of swinging of light fittings and perfect landing on his cock. Either way it will be a bit of craic. Grab life by the balls it will be boring long enough

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

I'm changing my name to life.

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

There's no such things as leagues or out of your league! Who defines those leagues? It's all in your head and you should forget about it rather sooner than later because it's rubbish.

Beauty is not just the perfect body shape that the media and the glitz and glamour world tries to hammer into our minds. The best looking model looses his/her beauty when he/she has a ugly personality. We all have flaws, it's a question how you deal with them.

People might have preferences (big boobs - small boobs, tall - petite etc.) but eventually attraction is a multifaceted phenomenon and always comprises inexplicable components. Unless it's a quick shag and run meet, you're not only bringing you body to a meet, it's your personality, your charm, your humour, your passion etc the list goes on and when those components match with the counterpart's ones, you'll experience a great meet. Shagging a perfect body doesn't mean it's a great meet.

When you say they want to meet you and both sides got on well with each other, that's already a good sign of mutual attraction. Don't go and wreck your brain if you can live up to the standards of other meets they had. First of all it's not a competition and every meet is different. That's what swinging is all about. It's about having fun.

You have a great profile and I'm sure there's a lovely woman behind it, now get yourself out there and have fun!

Everything is beautiful, but not everyone can see it - Confucius

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm changing my name to life. "

Did it work yet ????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's no such things as leagues or out of your league! Who defines those leagues? It's all in your head and you should forget about it rather sooner than later because it's rubbish.

Beauty is not just the perfect body shape that the media and the glitz and glamour world tries to hammer into our minds. The best looking model looses his/her beauty when he/she has a ugly personality. We all have flaws, it's a question how you deal with them.

People might have preferences (big boobs - small boobs, tall - petite etc.) but eventually attraction is a multifaceted phenomenon and always comprises inexplicable components. Unless it's a quick shag and run meet, you're not only bringing you body to a meet, it's your personality, your charm, your humour, your passion etc the list goes on and when those components match with the counterpart's ones, you'll experience a great meet. Shagging a perfect body doesn't mean it's a great meet.

When you say they want to meet you and both sides got on well with each other, that's already a good sign of mutual attraction. Don't go and wreck your brain if you can live up to the standards of other meets they had. First of all it's not a competition and every meet is different. That's what swinging is all about. It's about having fun.

You have a great profile and I'm sure there's a lovely woman behind it, now get yourself out there and have fun!

Everything is beautiful, but not everyone can see it - Confucius"

Well said....

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan


"I'm changing my name to life.

Did it work yet ???? "

Unfortunately I've just discovered that it's only men who want to grab life by the balls. #gutted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm changing my name to life.

Did it work yet ????

Unfortunately I've just discovered that it's only men who want to grab life by the balls. #gutted "

I ll grab your balls if ya like

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan


"I'm changing my name to life.

Did it work yet ????

Unfortunately I've just discovered that it's only men who want to grab life by the balls. #gutted

I ll grab your balls if ya like "

Hello Mr Gee

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm changing my name to life.

Did it work yet ????

Unfortunately I've just discovered that it's only men who want to grab life by the balls. #gutted

I ll grab your balls if ya like

Hello Mr Gee "

He s at work mrs

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks everyone. Feeling a lot more optimistic this morning and going arrange some fun for myself

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan


"I'm changing my name to life.

Did it work yet ????

Unfortunately I've just discovered that it's only men who want to grab life by the balls. #gutted

I ll grab your balls if ya like

Hello Mr Gee

He s at work mrs"

Woohoo! I'm on the way!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah sure I,v tried tempting ya before lol, direct approach with you then???

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan


"Ah sure I,v tried tempting ya before lol, direct approach with you then??? "

Lol, to be fair, my standards are in the gutter so I don't take much tempting. I do recall being tempted but I suspect distance was the issue for me. Holy god, there certainly couldn't be anything else. Maybe I was playing hard to get?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they messaged you in the first place, surely that means you're already up to their standards?

Anyway, I don't think any single guys around here would have that issue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ah sure I,v tried tempting ya before lol, direct approach with you then???

Lol, to be fair, my standards are in the gutter so I don't take much tempting. I do recall being tempted but I suspect distance was the issue for me. Holy god, there certainly couldn't be anything else. Maybe I was playing hard to get? "

Now now no teasing, distance an excuse lol

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan


"Ah sure I,v tried tempting ya before lol, direct approach with you then???

Lol, to be fair, my standards are in the gutter so I don't take much tempting. I do recall being tempted but I suspect distance was the issue for me. Holy god, there certainly couldn't be anything else. Maybe I was playing hard to get?

Now now no teasing, distance an excuse lol"

Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep .ive turned down alot of meets and try not to talk to couples on here because i dont feel attractive or i feel too big.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know this has nothing completely to do with this topic but did u ever see a picture of someone and think "not bad" but then met and they looked so much better in the flesh?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have felt like that but I say go for it if they ask you to meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you ever had someone message you who would really like to meet and you're really attracted to them and you like them... But you really think that you're not in their league and their verifications are from some of the most gorgeous women here and you feel like if they met you they'd be disappointed.. This happens to me a lot and I've turned down some great guys because of it..

Any advice?

"
there's one way of finding out just meet up socially and see what happens many a time I think Im out of most peoples league but it's usually attractions that seal the deal not ego's

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you ever had someone message you who would really like to meet and you're really attracted to them and you like them... But you really think that you're not in their league and their verifications are from some of the most gorgeous women here and you feel like if they met you they'd be disappointed.. This happens to me a lot and I've turned down some great guys because of it..

Any advice?

there's one way of finding out just meet up socially and see what happens many a time I think Im out of most peoples league but it's usually attractions that seal the deal not ego's "

Fully agree dude

Tomcat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you ever had someone message you who would really like to meet and you're really attracted to them and you like them... But you really think that you're not in their league and their verifications are from some of the most gorgeous women here and you feel like if they met you they'd be disappointed.. This happens to me a lot and I've turned down some great guys because of it..

Any advice?

"

I've no advice for you but I completely understand. I feel the same way, a lot.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just to know that's theres people who feel the same way sometimes makes me realise it's prob totally normal. Time to get over myself and find the hottest guy I can find just because I can

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over a year ago


"There's no such things as leagues or out of your league! Who defines those leagues? It's all in your head and you should forget about it rather sooner than later because it's rubbish.

Beauty is not just the perfect body shape that the media and the glitz and glamour world tries to hammer into our minds. The best looking model looses his/her beauty when he/she has a ugly personality. We all have flaws, it's a question how you deal with them.

People might have preferences (big boobs - small boobs, tall - petite etc.) but eventually attraction is a multifaceted phenomenon and always comprises inexplicable components. Unless it's a quick shag and run meet, you're not only bringing you body to a meet, it's your personality, your charm, your humour, your passion etc the list goes on and when those components match with the counterpart's ones, you'll experience a great meet. Shagging a perfect body doesn't mean it's a great meet.

When you say they want to meet you and both sides got on well with each other, that's already a good sign of mutual attraction. Don't go and wreck your brain if you can live up to the standards of other meets they had. First of all it's not a competition and every meet is different. That's what swinging is all about. It's about having fun.

You have a great profile and I'm sure there's a lovely woman behind it, now get yourself out there and have fun!

Everything is beautiful, but not everyone can see it - Confucius"

Plus a million.. Ive met the gorgeous perfect types and most of the time theres something big missing. Only so often u do it before you realise gorgeous looks and a perfect body mean sweet fuck all.

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

Hey Snowey stop putting urself down u hear hold ur head up high n meet people . If u keep putting urself down every one else will put u down too. So hold ur head up n b positive n go out n meet guys n don't worry ifu get knocked back u will always get a nice guy some other time .

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

Ladies d biggest turn on for me is a confident lady n I hate ladies who keep putting them selfs down go get them will u ladies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's no such things as leagues or out of your league! Who defines those leagues? It's all in your head and you should forget about it rather sooner than later because it's rubbish.

Beauty is not just the perfect body shape that the media and the glitz and glamour world tries to hammer into our minds. The best looking model looses his/her beauty when he/she has a ugly personality. We all have flaws, it's a question how you deal with them.

People might have preferences (big boobs - small boobs, tall - petite etc.) but eventually attraction is a multifaceted phenomenon and always comprises inexplicable components. Unless it's a quick shag and run meet, you're not only bringing you body to a meet, it's your personality, your charm, your humour, your passion etc the list goes on and when those components match with the counterpart's ones, you'll experience a great meet. Shagging a perfect body doesn't mean it's a great meet.

When you say they want to meet you and both sides got on well with each other, that's already a good sign of mutual attraction. Don't go and wreck your brain if you can live up to the standards of other meets they had. First of all it's not a competition and every meet is different. That's what swinging is all about. It's about having fun.

You have a great profile and I'm sure there's a lovely woman behind it, now get yourself out there and have fun!

Everything is beautiful, but not everyone can see it - Confucius"

The most straightforward and articulate post I think I've ever read on here. All points ticked, i's dotted and t's crossed. All avenues covered. A post that was both informative and enjoyable to read.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just to know that's theres people who feel the same way sometimes makes me realise it's prob totally normal. Time to get over myself and find the hottest guy I can find just because I can "

Need a warm up?

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By *ecretly seductiveWoman
over a year ago

Palookaville


"Have you ever had someone message you who would really like to meet and you're really attracted to them and you like them... But you really think that you're not in their league and their verifications are from some of the most gorgeous women here and you feel like if they met you they'd be disappointed.. This happens to me a lot and I've turned down some great guys because of it..

Any advice?

I used to read lads veris and if they were from slim girls I would always tell them I wasn't thin and they wouldn't be into me but in reality, pics can be deceiving! So you may have one perception of them and the reality may be completely different! My advice would be love yourself and meet who tickles your fancy and don't overthink who they have been with. No one is out of your league bar in ur mind, so take a chance and who knows what may happen! Good luck xx"

Exactly hey snow. ...have a little faith in yourself honey..everyone had their own taste don't let veris or pics or you off contacting someone, go for it. .confidence is really sexy! Ps I don't know about anyone else but for every half decent pic I manage believe me there are probably about 50 that look shit! !

Go for it

Mrs S

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like your self esteem is quite low???

There's a reason these guys are asking to meet with you!! They obviously like what they've seen so far so....

I'd say go with it and just see how it goes. We all won't and don't fancy everyone we meet but I'm sure you'd be surprised honey. Hope this helps.

Mrs B

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