FabSwingers.com forum: Depression

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Everyday I wonder why

A grown man like me need needs to cry

To feel so low and deep and deep down inside

Feeling like I need to hide.

To feel tired like i have to fight

To even make one day look alright

Why a grown man like man me need to cry

I always wonder why i think i need to die.

I suffer with Depression thats no lie.

Biggs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Everyday I wonder why

A grown man like me need needs to cry

To feel so low and deep and deep down inside

Feeling like I need to hide.

To feel tired like i have to fight

To even make one day look alright

Why a grown man like man me need to cry

I always wonder why i think i need to die.

I suffer with Depression thats no lie.

Biggs.

Awh Biggs ,ur not alone xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Everyday I wonder why

A grown man like me need needs to cry

To feel so low and deep and deep down inside

Feeling like I need to hide.

To feel tired like i have to fight

To even make one day look alright

Why a grown man like man me need to cry

I always wonder why i think i need to die.

I suffer with Depression thats no lie.

Biggs.

Awh Biggs ,ur not alone xxxx"

Anyone who says that they don't are telling lies as we all suffer from it at some point in our lives some more some less but we all do. Go to your doctor tell him or her they will help ,they have helped and are helping me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Everyday I wonder why

A grown man like me need needs to cry

To feel so low and deep and deep down inside

Feeling like I need to hide.

To feel tired like i have to fight

To even make one day look alright

Why a grown man like man me need to cry

I always wonder why i think i need to die.

I suffer with Depression thats no lie.

Biggs.

Awh Biggs ,ur not alone xxxx"

And that's why they say it's good to chat

Even to a complete stranger

A problem shared is a problem halved.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sending you love and hugs mister xoxo you know you've friends and family who care. Beautiful poem xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aww Biggs please don't be sad!! Everyone loves you!!! one of my fav fab guys big hugs and kisses from Cork!! Ring me later please xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think mental health issues is on ever ones doors steps. But i do think wit the help of meds and talking all helps just dont put ur head in the sand and think it will go away cause it doesnt . Hope things get better soon .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mr69: This time of year won't be helping either Biggles, stay strong brother. You may feel like hiding but there are always people who will welcome you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're usually so chipper on here, I didn't know if that was a joke or not..

Keep your chin up man, you're deadly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Everyday I wonder why

A grown man like me need needs to cry

To feel so low and deep and deep down inside

Feeling like I need to hide.

To feel tired like i have to fight

To even make one day look alright

Why a grown man like man me need to cry

I always wonder why i think i need to die.

I suffer with Depression thats no lie.

Biggs.

Xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The brightest smile can hide the sadist heart.

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By *rutus83Man
over a year ago

naas

"Everyday I wonder why

A grown man like me need needs to cry

To feel so low and deep and deep down inside

Feeling like I need to hide.

To feel tired like i have to fight

To even make one day look alright

Why a grown man like man me need to cry

I always wonder why i think i need to die.

I suffer with Depression thats no lie.

Biggs.

Ah biggs sorry to hear that buddy

The only thing i can say is.

Friends are forever

and will always be there

but the one that helps will

always care so you think of this

whenever your down that your

friends will be there

when you have a frown.

Stay strong bud

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My serious advice which can be difficult to follow but WILL work:

Go to your doctor

Talk to your friends. Face to face and not online.

Get out of the house for a walk at least 40 mins a day

Ask a friend (s) to be a walk buddy with you

Cut down or preferably cut out booze

Give of yourself to others

Please Do This Buddy IT WILL WORK

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Then you biggs it's dark at the moment and with bit of time and good people around you it will lift xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to hear this giggles. Go to a doctor haven't already and try think positive. Look for the positives in your life. Your family and friends etc sending you best wishes dude.

Tomcat and kitty

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By *randub69Man
over a year ago

city

"Everyday I wonder why

A grown man like me need needs to cry

To feel so low and deep and deep down inside

Feeling like I need to hide.

To feel tired like i have to fight

To even make one day look alright

Why a grown man like man me need to cry

I always wonder why i think i need to die.

I suffer with Depression thats no lie.

Biggs.

sorry to hear this..you need friends and family around you when your feeling low,so don't be afraid to reach out to them. also there's also "pieta house" they will be able to help and advise you...best of good luck buddy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Takes a very strong and brave person to admit they're not feeling well mentally and this is why we all have great time for u bigs. Keep the chin up, hugs and kisses, tweets xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Start taking stuff easy man. Problems doesn't exist, only attitude towards them. Treat yourself someway. Get a long bath, go for walk, go to sauna, listen to music. World is beautiful, people on it too. We are just blind. Take care.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont know you Biggs...but I would advise staying away from fab and try to get some real time face to face help either from counselling or real world friends...

..there have been links with various types of social media overuse and depression albeit tenuous...but go chat friends and get support...in real time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Takes a very strong and brave person to admit they're not feeling well mentally and this is why we all have great time for u bigs. Keep the chin up, hugs and kisses, tweets xxx"

I agree, and acknowledging you have a mental health issue is the first step to recovery. Hugs xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sorry to hear this giggles. Go to a doctor haven't already and try think positive. Look for the positives in your life. Your family and friends etc sending you best wishes dude.

Tomcat and kitty "
that should be biggles not giggles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Biggs a very honest post my friend about an illness that many try to hide. Depression or indeed any other Mental Illness is nothing to be ashamed about and it knows no boundaries to whom it cam effect...

As many on here know I work in events 7 exhibitions and in doing so work personally with many household names in football, sport and music world who earn hundreds of thousands of pounds weekly but who are blighted by this illness which their money doesn't cure.

Some here have already passed on some very good advise and I ask you take it on board but one you must always do is TALK to people...DO NOT bottle anything up and if possible talk face to face with friends rather than online so that you can express your feelings better..

Remember you are not alone with this illness and Friends Can Help....So Talk

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By *andydevineMan
over a year ago

sligo

sport and exercise helps. getting out and about and meeting new people is good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hugs to you biggs,be kind to yourself .

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

Biggs, you're a lovely kind person and I wish you all the strength you need to fight your battle, I think of you and send you a big hug!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just like to say thank you everyone for the kind words i been suffering from depression since 2007 I thought i had beaten it but its back with a vengance its been a tough few months for me.I may have to take a step back from fab for a while so i can heal.I wish everyone all the best of luck and like to thanks those who have helped me in the past and i chat to yea all soon.

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town

Biggles go to do to do doctor .

Darling which I'm sure you have or you are going too.

Depression is not a weakness and talking helps or even medication .

Don't take a step back always someone here to take the time to talk to you.

Sending hugs and loads of custard creams.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just like to say thank you everyone for the kind words i been suffering from depression since 2007 I thought i had beaten it but its back with a vengance its been a tough few months for me.I may have to take a step back from fab for a while so i can heal.I wish everyone all the best of luck and like to thanks those who have helped me in the past and i chat to yea all soon."

Glad to hear you're stepping back and happier you seem to know how it has to be treated. I always try to look on the bright side: it's a terrible affliction but the bonus is when those who have experienced depression themselves have good times/friends/events they tend to really enjoy the experience because they know how good it is compared to the alternative. Carpe Diem didn't become popular for nothing.

Good luck bud with it. You'll do ok.

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By *ommickMan
over a year ago

cork

ur not alone seek help its 10 times harder alone I have a good ear if u need a friend

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over a year ago

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By *oldenFingersMan
over a year ago

Fairview

It's not bad to feel bad man. See your doctor or talk to someone you trust. Even call a help line.

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By *ay and DeborahCouple
over a year ago

Co. Down

Sending hugs and warm kisses!!!

I think most us of has been there at some point and it can be the loneliest place in the world.

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

Now that's what u call community fair play Biggs hope all the advise eases ur pain and get well soon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not easy Biggs

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By *razy-CplCouple
over a year ago

and surrounding areas

Wishing u all the best biggs and hope u get better soon , people are out there,u just got to look for them to help u.

Mr crazy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd wish you best of luck Biggs but there's no doubt that you'll get through it. Tis a tough place to be in, don't blinker yourself from the love around you, stay strong, sending hugs x

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By *onnieBMan
over a year ago

in the middle of

There is this stigma in ireland for males esp, to admit they have a illness be it Erectile ds, depression or testular cancer etc. I applaude u bigs for not bottling it up and facing it. Some great advise here and i am sure the fact u can confide in an online forum that u can confide in your family and friends. Be strong and you'll be fine bud.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont know you personally but know many like you...your very brave to tell the world and im glad your not embarrassed to say you have depression as it is an illness and it must be a hard battle for anyone suffering with it....I hope you see brighter days again soon x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh pal I know where your coming from. I really do. Unfortunately I can't go into details on here about my dark days, but with the power of laughter I squeeze out of it. I still get shit days and been a man I do sometimes feel bad when I find myself with tears running down my face. But ya know what I tell myself pal."you can hide from the monsters, you can run from them for ever.....or face the fuckers and fight them and learn to recover, I my friend hope to make a full speedy recovery.....

Oh and stay away from the booze when your having a bad day. I've looked, there isn't a answer in the bottom of any bottle. So brother get the Chin up, prepare to take it on the chin, and recover.....

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By *ale4U2Man
over a year ago

Nearby

What can I say that hasn't been said before? What I will say is that I'll miss your posts and comments while you are on your break. Always full of good humour and wise cracks. Don't be to long away.

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By *isalashes888400Couple
over a year ago

ennis

those lying in the gutter,have to best view of the stars at night.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Focus on all the good things you have... Do not for a second ,waste time on anything or anyone that holds you back...

You have dreams and ambitions..DON'T HOLD BACK...GO MAKE THEM REAL...

Help is out there from family, friends and professionally.....

You're a good skin Biggs... Chin up and I'll even send you a feckin man hug..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Such a brave honest thing to post Biggs fair play to you , if there was only more like you to help get rid of this awful stigma around mental health in this country !

I can't add much more than has already been said apart from you should be very proud of yourself ! Huge cyber hugs xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow I must say I'm touched by the positive reactions of members to this thread. How nice and heartwarming.

Biggles is a decent fella, always posts positively in forums, so it's lovely to see other members show such wonderful support. I wish I could give you some advice but I wouldn't know where to start.

But we Sugars are rooting for you all the way! Chin up Biggles, the forums wouldn't be as bright without your contributions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It always seems to be the funniest, loudest, most outgoing people who are suffering the most. It's a brave thing to do but just don't be too brave.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to hear that you are having a bad time dude. Others have advised seeking medical help and you should. But do not let your doctor prescribe SRB's or other anti depressants and nothing else. Enquire about Counselling in primary care. (CIPC). Drugs will work shift term but they create a false sense of wellness.

Exercise, talking to friends, leisure time will all help. It's easy to tell someone to keep the chin up and you'll be grand.

Godspeed biggles. Hope you are ok kid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aww Biggs my friend, I wish I could take away your pain..... you have my kik & number if you to chat at any time, I'm here to listen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Biggles go to do to do doctor .

Darling which I'm sure you have or you are going too.

Depression is not a weakness and talking helps or even medication .

Don't take a step back always someone here to take the time to talk to you.

Sending hugs and loads of custard creams.

Amen to that

A Fab family is a happy family

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By *igertigerCouple (MM)
over a year ago

cc hotel

"The brightest smile can hide the sadist heart.

sadist....I'd hope not

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By *aughtyTippcplCouple
over a year ago

Nearby

"Everyday I wonder why

A grown man like me need needs to cry

To feel so low and deep and deep down inside

Feeling like I need to hide.

To feel tired like i have to fight

To even make one day look alright

Why a grown man like man me need to cry

I always wonder why i think i need to die.

I suffer with Depression thats no lie.

Biggs.

Ur not alone Biggs

But I know there can be days u feel like u are

Hugs to u

Tina

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By *igertigerCouple (MM)
over a year ago

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"Biggles go to do to do doctor .

Darling which I'm sure you have or you are going too.

Depression is not a weakness and talking helps or even medication .

Don't take a step back always someone here to take the time to talk to you.

Sending hugs and loads of custard creams.

Amen to that

A Fab family is a happy family

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its great for once to see so much support and heartfelt wishes made to a lovely guy who does bring fun to the forum...nice to see so many genuine nice comments

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By *0shadesofashWoman
over a year ago

DUBLIN

Head up biggy tomorrow is a new day and I would really recommend you talking to someone even your doctor to start with and maybe try a new few Hobbies to keep ur mind going

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By *aughtyTippcplCouple
over a year ago

Nearby

"Head up biggy tomorrow is a new day and I would really recommend you talking to someone even your doctor to start with and maybe try a new few Hobbies to keep ur mind going "

so true

Tina

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By *oldenFingersMan
over a year ago

Fairview

"Head up biggy tomorrow is a new day and I would really recommend you talking to someone even your doctor to start with and maybe try a new few Hobbies to keep ur mind going "

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By *unsterStagMan
over a year ago

Limerick

Sometimes the person who tries to keep everyone happy is the loneliest person.

Can't understand what your going through Biggs but really hope you find peace. Learn to love yourself is the only advice I could offer. Maybe every night before u sleep recount something positive you did that day and the each morning when you stand in the front of the mirror look yourself in the eye confidently and smile as your a good person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Biggs I'm sorry for your struggle, the fact that you can acknowledge there is an issue and want to get better is such a massive first step. Please get the help you need and take a step back from here. It's not the right place to be right now. Take time for yourself and trust and believe in the love and light you've been shown here today, we're all rooting for you xxxx

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By *acilory39Man
over a year ago

out n about

Hey Biggs , give me a text when you can

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interesting thread. I never imagined saying so publicly but I suffer massively with depression. Its not always obvious to others. Its not so taboo anymore. Anyway, I wish I could help more but all I can say is what helps me. Routine, lots of exercise, healthy diet. This is really helping me at the moment. A tired body stops you from over thinking everything. Hope this helped a little.

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By *ierycrackWoman
over a year ago

SOMEWHERE ELUSIVE........AND HOT!!!

"Its great for once to see so much support and heartfelt wishes made to a lovely guy who does bring fun to the forum...nice to see so many genuine nice comments

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No matter how young or old a person is... Everyone no matter what feels down... It's the people that cover it up the best that you should worry about most...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't know you personally but I do know depression..... it is one of the hardest things to fight but it can be done... let others help you, talk to friends who will understand n not judge... try to think of a happy memory each day

And most importantly do not feel guilty about your feelings.....

Get well soon xx D

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You not alone buddy... I'm. There too and only to get through it is to meet many fab ladies...

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By *igertigerCouple (MM)
over a year ago

cc hotel

"Everyday I wonder why

A grown man like me need needs to cry

To feel so low and deep and deep down inside

Feeling like I need to hide.

To feel tired like i have to fight

To even make one day look alright

Why a grown man like man me need to cry

I always wonder why i think i need to die.

I suffer with Depression thats no lie.

Biggs.

Biggles you are clearly a great guy and much loved in the world of fab and in the real world too. We have huge respect for your post and no doubt you will help others by your post too because as they say it's good to talk and it's ok not to feel ok. Everything passes in time as this dark cloud will too keep strong seek help and don't be tough on yourself. We all need a helping hand in life. No man is an island.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I recently lost a close friend to suicide.happiest guy in the world on the outside but battling with demonds on the inside.wish he had of spoke out about it.....

If one person reads your post and decides to talk to someone about it then its a life saved.you don't need my praise biggles but good on you.i hope you feel better soon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Everyday I wonder why

A grown man like me need needs to cry

To feel so low and deep and deep down inside

Feeling like I need to hide.

To feel tired like i have to fight

To even make one day look alright

Why a grown man like man me need to cry

I always wonder why i think i need to die.

I suffer with Depression thats no lie.

Biggs.

Ur not alone and the admitting feel that way is a BIG STEP forward hugs and kisses

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are not alone Depression has been a dark cloud over my life since I was a late teenager I used to think it was just shyness as a young man feeling tired all the time no interest in stuff tossing n turning trying to sleep at night I been to my doctor bout my sickness they just prescribe pills they help though alot you have to stick to the program trying to talk to others bout it can help but alot of the time people don't understand they say he's not well suffers with his nerves depression is a chemical imbalance lack of happy cells in the brain your gp is the way to go there's no quick cure it takes time but worth it if you follow through on the medication best of luck but fight through

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By *ierycrackWoman
over a year ago

SOMEWHERE ELUSIVE........AND HOT!!!

Sometimes the hardest part is wearing a mask and pretending everything is fine.

You can be surrounded by people yet still be alone.

The black dog is hard to beat and by opening up to others that also have it Is a great help.

Staying positive is not always easy during the tough times but stay strong as you are not alone in the struggle. Love and hugs. Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depression is only a small part of your life but because of its negative impact it can cast a vale over every aspect of your world. You may think there is no way out but there is. It's quite simple really. Talk about your thoughts. Talk about your worries. A problem shared is a problem halved. This is very true. You can't see the way out of the darkness because your deep deep in it. Explaining to a kind ear helps you vent but it also gives you access to a resolution from someone not caught in the depressive low. I've been there and I've helped friends and strangers walk out of the darkness with a new outlook on life. Message us when your ready and I'll send you my number. Morning noon or night you can call. Rant or rave, all I'll do is listen and hopefully help.

I hope this message finds you well.

Michael

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just like to say to everyone thank u so much for the kind words and for the lovely mail This will be my last post now for a good while and i have looked for help.I Hope everyone has a lovely Xmas and a great new year I will pop in a few weeks to let u know on how im doing.Please stay safe chat soon

Again Thank u

Biggs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just like to say to everyone thank u so much for the kind words and for the lovely mail This will be my last post now for a good while and i have looked for help.I Hope everyone has a lovely Xmas and a great new year I will pop in a few weeks to let u know on how im doing.Please stay safe chat soon

Again Thank u

Biggs."

Keep in touch darlin and were all proud of ya xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stay safe, get yourself well & we'll maybe see you back in the future. XX Candy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Again Thank u

Look after yourself Biggles xx

Biggs."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Best of luck Biggs.. We're all rooting for you

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By *am2camhornyCouple
over a year ago

London

Read before for every bad thought you need 3 good ones to counteract, so instead of trying to worry or fix bad thoughts instead put all your focus on things that make u happy! The more happy things you do the less impact a negative one will have! It does work and the more time you do fun stuff the less time you think of the bad!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only seeing this now cos I was awol for a similar reason. Go easy on yourself x

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By *allfungent24Man
over a year ago

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"Depression is only a small part of your life but because of its negative impact it can cast a vale over every aspect of your world. You may think there is no way out but there is. It's quite simple really. Talk about your thoughts. Talk about your worries. A problem shared is a problem halved. This is very true. You can't see the way out of the darkness because your deep deep in it. Explaining to a kind ear helps you vent but it also gives you access to a resolution from someone not caught in the depressive low. I've been there and I've helped friends and strangers walk out of the darkness with a new outlook on life. Message us when your ready and I'll send you my number. Morning noon or night you can call. Rant or rave, all I'll do is listen and hopefully help.

I hope this message finds you well.

Michael "

Lovely message.

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By *ceryMan
over a year ago

Malahide & Waterford

At times like this there's a 60's song from the Pretty Things, S.F. Sorrow album that helps bring things into perspective..... You'll Never Be As Lonly As Me ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We may look fine on the outside n act it, but inside it's horrendous to feel like you don't want to be here. I tried to go but I couldn't do it suppose I'm not man enough. But everyday I try to make a difference and hope soon I can recover

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By *ick manMan
over a year ago

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Don't know you but have seen lots of your posts in the forums and you are the one making every one else laugh and smile chin up and best of luck there is always light at the end if the tunnell

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Biggles darling,

I know we haven't met so I'm not sure how much value my comment will have to you.

But from all the responses you can see on this thread, it's clear you have support from everyone. You are valued by so many of us.

We all go through rough times and I think most of us have battled depression at some point. Know you're not alone.

Your posts always contribute positively to the forum, make people laugh and are a ray of sunshine in this sometimes harsh environment.

Don't ever change. From what I've seen and what I've heard you are an amazing guy.

I hope you're well

Clementine

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By *igertigerCouple (MM)
over a year ago

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"Biggles darling,

I know we haven't met so I'm not sure how much value my comment will have to you.

But from all the responses you can see on this thread, it's clear you have support from everyone. You are valued by so many of us.

We all go through rough times and I think most of us have battled depression at some point. Know you're not alone.

Your posts always contribute positively to the forum, make people laugh and are a ray of sunshine in this sometimes harsh environment.

Don't ever change. From what I've seen and what I've heard you are an amazing guy.

I hope you're well

Clementine "

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By *ore of thatMan
over a year ago

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biggs .l know exactly how you feel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh ladies and gents on biggles behalf he has asked me to let ye know that he's leaving the site and asked to say goodbye to ye all ...he will be missed here was always a great addition to any thread posted ...thanks all ..

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over a year ago

"Oh ladies and gents on biggles behalf he has asked me to let ye know that he's leaving the site and asked to say goodbye to ye all ...he will be missed here was always a great addition to any thread posted ...thanks all .."

Ah no.....

Sad thing to hear for everyone here but a happy day for him as he's doing the right thing. Make sure u give him my best wishes and please God our paths will cross again, won't be the same without him xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Everyday I wonder why

A grown man like me need needs to cry

To feel so low and deep and deep down inside

Feeling like I need to hide.

To feel tired like i have to fight

To even make one day look alright

Why a grown man like man me need to cry

I always wonder why i think i need to die.

I suffer with Depression thats no lie.

Biggs.

Iv lived with depression for over 20 years Biggs. There is light at the end of the tunnel. You probably think that's easy for me to say given that I'm at the other end of the tunnel at the minute. It's a horrible illness! But if you need a shoulder pm me babe. Sometimes it's easier talking to a stranger

Mrs B x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I told a fab friend about my life with depression last week. I'm not even sure how we got on the topic. It's something I've been battling since I was about 14, maybe younger. It's not a permanent thing and I could go two years without being affected but when it hits it hits hard.

For me it doesn't seem to be triggered by life events but the analogy I used was standing on the shore line being as happy as larry looking out at the waves rolling in. You see a dark cloud on the horizon, you know what it is and you know you can't outrun it. When it hits it like that kinda rain that physically hurts when it hits you. Sometimes you can wait it out and it will pass, sometimes it doesn't. Admitting it makes you a bigger more powerful man than most, I hope you have more good days than bad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I told a fab friend about my life with depression last week. I'm not even sure how we got on the topic. It's something I've been battling since I was about 14, maybe younger. It's not a permanent thing and I could go two years without being affected but when it hits it hits hard.

Very well written and very touching. Im sorry for your struggles aswell, I hope you also have more light days then dark xx

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By *ojos jugsWoman
over a year ago

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U mite not realise it Biggs but ur braver than u know for raising such a stigmatised subject as mental health on a public forum, many wud shy away frm doin so.. so credit where credits due. Theres a brilliant video on youtube called Living with a Black Dog that seems to sum depression up.. the key to living with this illness is to not b too hard on urself on bad days, have a lazy day and not feel guilty about it.. Seek professional help and talk to friends about how ur feeling, it helps to get others prospective on ur thots sumtimes.. My motto is `Its jus a bad day, not a bad life` (Big Hugs) xx

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By *igertigerCouple (MM)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Biggs chin up you get through this thinking off you send my wishes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depression is very hard hard to fight it can be done I've been there when I suffered with it my partner left me I went to rock bottom that I nearly took my life I had to be cut down I was put into hospital and it was easier to talk to a stranger and for them to be so understanding was great I was on medication but that's not the answer its hard but you have to fight hard there is light at end of your dark patch your never alone always someone there for you god bless have hope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My serious advice which can be difficult to follow but WILL work:

Go to your doctor

Talk to your friends. Face to face and not online.

Get out of the house for a walk at least 40 mins a day

Ask a friend (s) to be a walk buddy with you

Cut down or preferably cut out booze

Give of yourself to others

Please Do This Buddy IT WILL WORK"

great advice...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All great advice but when getting hounded on this and egits playing mind games with him none of the above isnt going to be much help.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"All great advice but when getting hounded on this and egits playing mind games with him none of the above isnt going to be much help. "

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By *ierycrackWoman
over a year ago

SOMEWHERE ELUSIVE........AND HOT!!!

"My serious advice which can be difficult to follow but WILL work:

Go to your doctor

Talk to your friends. Face to face and not online.

Get out of the house for a walk at least 40 mins a day

Ask a friend (s) to be a walk buddy with you

Cut down or preferably cut out booze

Give of yourself to others

Please Do This Buddy IT WILL WORK

great advice...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Asking for help does not make you weak it's been strong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Asking for help does not make you weak it's been strong "

I don't think anyone will disagree with that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Asking for help does not make you weak it's been strong

I don't think anyone will disagree with that."
I have been in this position I over came it by been strong ask for help and fight keep your mind busy and eat well good sleep are key things to do and a walk

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By *igblueyamMan
over a year ago

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Its ok not to feel ok. Talk to someone mate.

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By *igertigerCouple (MM)
over a year ago

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"Its ok not to feel ok. Talk to someone mate. "

It's ok not to feel ok and it's ok to ask for help....simple words hard to implement. Never judge someone until you walk in their shoes...all true.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just to add to my earlier post. When I was about 17 I was having a bad enough bout of depression. I went to my school counsellor which thankfully was a really sound guy.

He told me he to suffered with depression and his way of managing it was to stay fit. He paid for three months gym membership for me and I've never looked back. The primary reason I workout/hike/cycle or kickbox is not to look good. It's my way of self medicating without having to take anti depressants and so far it works for me. That said I would happily take tabs if I was told to.

I also have two close real world friends, both female who I can talk to which in itself is worth its weight in gold. We all have our coping mechanisms. Mine happens to be fitness

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just to add to my earlier post. When I was about 17 I was having a bad enough bout of depression. I went to my school counsellor which thankfully was a really sound guy.

He told me he to suffered with depression and his way of managing it was to stay fito. He paid for three months gym membership for me and I've never looked back. The primary reason I workout/hike/cycle or kickbox is not to look good. It's my way of self medicating without having to take anti depressants and so far it works for me. That said I would happily take tabs if I was told to.

I also have two close real world friends, both female who I can talk to which in itself is worth its weight in gold. We all have our coping mechanisms. Mine happens to be fitness "
we all go through a rough time we all suffer with depression at some point just to find a way through do you still do kickboxing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not so much anymore due to shift work and breaking two bones in my hand in the opening 30 seconds of my last fight. Fizzle stick fingers

. Thumb keeps dislocating so I kinda had to give it up. I gave up fighting to take up loving

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok here goes!!!

Been suffering from this with years and have been too stubborn to go see a doctor or talk to anyone. I've been on the edge so so many times and even attempted it once, which lucky for myself after a few days in hospital pulled threw. Said to the nurses inside I'd go see someone about the issue but never did cause Me been the stubborn fuck that I am said. Sure what will they do for me. wasn't till only early last year that I agree to see my doctor and have a chat with him twice a week. Put me on tablets and since then I've never felt so good about myself and life in a very long time and still am. It's helps to talk to people even tho it's hard to open its well worth it and I mean that. Head up Bud

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By *0shadesofashWoman
over a year ago

DUBLIN

"Ok here goes!!!

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was very brave of u to say all that fair play to u

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok here goes!!!

Fair play to you! It takes balls to admit you need help. Stay talking and be well. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok here goes!!!

was very brave of u to say all that fair play to u "

Thank

If it helps someone out then brilliant . Theres no way I'd have said this two years ago. It does work to talk.

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over a year ago

"Ok here goes!!!

Fair play to you! It takes balls to admit you need help. Stay talking and be well. x

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By *igertigerCouple (MM)
over a year ago

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First thread I've seen on here in a long term where real compassion has been shown. Others have bared their souls too which is very admirable commendable and brave. I hope someone can pass all the good wishes on to Biggs....hope he's soon if not already on the road to recovery.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok here goes!!!

Keep doing what you're doing and stay strong... D x

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By *oldenFingersMan
over a year ago

Fairview

"Ok here goes!!!

Go to your doctor. Call peata house. Sometimes it's better to talk to a stranger who will not judge you and will laugh at your swinger Stories and say "did you really do that" it can actually be fun you are not alone. You would be very surprised about how many people would miss you in there life. Weather the storm.

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By *ecretly seductiveWoman
over a year ago

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Aww mr biggles....please listen to all the good advice here. I'm sorry to hear you're so down and it's a horrible place to be, but you will get through it, you have friends here if you need anyone. Take care hun,hopefully we will see you back soon. Big hugs and kisses xxxx

Mrs S

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok here goes!!!

Keep doing what you're doing and stay strong... D x"

Every Intensions of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally had a very shitty tough year,some of ye know me personally some don't, but it was one of the toughest times I've ever had, harder than losing both my parents, the majority of people were fantastic,but it's also allowed me to see others in a different light too,people who took advantage of my vulnerability!!People who used me...

However there are very good people on here too,honest,genuine and decent people,and they are the people who help me get through the tough times...

Thankfully the past few weeks I feel I'm coming back to myself, I feel that I'm beginning to laugh again and enjoy the scene and the craic...

Depression is something nobody likes to admit they have but always remember..

When things are bad,Remember...

It won't always be this way...

Take one day at a time...

This too shall pass...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I personally had a very shitty tough year,some of ye know me personally some don't, but it was one of the toughest times I've ever had, harder than losing both my parents, the majority of people were fantastic,but it's also allowed me to see others in a different light too,people who took advantage of my vulnerability!!People who used me...

However there are very good people on here too,honest,genuine and decent people,and they are the people who help me get through the tough times...

Thankfully the past few weeks I feel I'm coming back to myself, I feel that I'm beginning to laugh again and enjoy the scene and the craic...

Depression is something nobody likes to admit they have but always remember..

When things are bad,Remember...

It won't always be this way...

Take one day at a time...

This too shall pass...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"First thread I've seen on here in a long term where real compassion has been shown. Others have bared their souls too which is very admirable commendable and brave. I hope someone can pass all the good wishes on to Biggs....hope he's soon if not already on the road to recovery."

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