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"Are some women or female half of couple only here to have their ego stroked or to be complimented. " Some? Possibly. All? No. "Example a guy isn't gonna say hey u look like a hit but u wanna fuck ?? " What does "look like a hit" mean? "I'm sure most ladies have a fair idea really early on in proceedings if they are going to meet or not. If it's the latter why continue the chat if it's going nowhere ie leading on" Maybe they're the some you allude to in your opening sentence and they like leading guys on for an ego boost? or they're not couples of females at all, but sad single guys with fake profiles trolling others? | |||
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"Are some women or female half of couple only here to have their ego stroked or to be complimented. Example a guy isn't gonna say hey u look like a hit but u wanna fuck ?? I'm sure most ladies have a fair idea really early on in proceedings if they are going to meet or not. If it's the latter why continue the chat if it's going nowhere ie leading on" Because it's through conversation that you get to know someone and women generally will only meet someone they feel comfortable with. | |||
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"I prefer to chat to someone for a while before meeting, I certainly do not want my ego stroked. But as a single female I prefer for my own safely and and to be reassured too. "  | |||
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"I find that some (not all) females on here get a kick out of leading a guy on,lil bit controversial here but a lot of people on here would walk by a lot of the women on here if they met on the street without so much as a second glance,but;as soon as the woman has a profile on a swinging site she is inundated with messages saying how hot/sexy/cute she is whether this is the case or not.So if a woman is on to have her ego massaged why not? it is generally not harming anyone is it?" Harming anyone? No. But if a guy who's thinking with his dick while messaging people here twiggs that he's being led on it can lead to abusive messages. Two wrongs don't make a right. Just don't lead people on and don't be abusive. Sad that this has to be said here in 2015, but there you go.... | |||
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"I find that some (not all) females on here get a kick out of leading a guy on,lil bit controversial here but a lot of people on here would walk by a lot of the women on here if they met on the street without so much as a second glance,but;as soon as the woman has a profile on a swinging site she is inundated with messages saying how hot/sexy/cute she is whether this is the case or not.So if a woman is on to have her ego massaged why not? it is generally not harming anyone is it? Harming anyone? No. But if a guy who's thinking with his dick while messaging people here twiggs that he's being led on it can lead to abusive messages. Two wrongs don't make a right. Just don't lead people on and don't be abusive. Sad that this has to be said here in 2015, but there you go...." If I started a conversation with something along the lines of "hey babe looking hot would love to get to know you better,do you meet or fancy a chat" and the woman replies I do not immediately assume YES I am so in here I know that by the very nature of these sites a guy will probably have a 5-10% chance of something coming from the initial chat,if I get fobbed off (as I usually do) then shit happens and the people who get abusive will get abusive nonetheless as it is probably in their nature. | |||
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"I find that some (not all) females on here get a kick out of leading a guy on,lil bit controversial here but a lot of people on here would walk by a lot of the women on here if they met on the street without so much as a second glance,but;as soon as the woman has a profile on a swinging site she is inundated with messages saying how hot/sexy/cute she is whether this is the case or not.So if a woman is on to have her ego massaged why not? it is generally not harming anyone is it?" That is very true, however it's a dangerous game to play, as some men won't take kindly to hours of flattery with no "payback". | |||
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"I find that some (not all) females on here get a kick out of leading a guy on,lil bit controversial here but a lot of people on here would walk by a lot of the women on here if they met on the street without so much as a second glance,but;as soon as the woman has a profile on a swinging site she is inundated with messages saying how hot/sexy/cute she is whether this is the case or not.So if a woman is on to have her ego massaged why not? it is generally not harming anyone is it? Harming anyone? No. But if a guy who's thinking with his dick while messaging people here twiggs that he's being led on it can lead to abusive messages. Two wrongs don't make a right. Just don't lead people on and don't be abusive. Sad that this has to be said here in 2015, but there you go....If I started a conversation with something along the lines of "hey babe looking hot would love to get to know you better,do you meet or fancy a chat" and the woman replies I do not immediately assume YES I am so in here I know that by the very nature of these sites a guy will probably have a 5-10% chance of something coming from the initial chat,if I get fobbed off (as I usually do) then shit happens and the people who get abusive will get abusive nonetheless as it is probably in their nature." Nor is everybody adept at spotting the people likely to turn psycho | |||
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"If I started a conversation with something along the lines of "hey babe looking hot would love to get to know you better,do you meet or fancy a chat" and the woman replies I do not immediately assume YES I am so in here I know that by the very nature of these sites a guy will probably have a 5-10% chance of something coming from the initial chat,if I get fobbed off (as I usually do) then shit happens and the people who get abusive will get abusive nonetheless as it is probably in their nature. Nor is everybody adept at spotting the people likely to turn psycho" Very true but we are as likely to meet assholes in everyday life as we are online and online we can block/ignore most assholes,I am as guilty as most of rushing in headfirst with regards to meets,in fact my very first meet years ago before fab was with a very well respected member on here who can be very nasty if things are not 100% her way which I found out during the meet but rather than let that put me off I became even more male hahaha pure dope obviously  | |||
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"If I started a conversation with something along the lines of "hey babe looking hot would love to get to know you better,do you meet or fancy a chat" and the woman replies I do not immediately assume YES I am so in here I know that by the very nature of these sites a guy will probably have a 5-10% chance of something coming from the initial chat,if I get fobbed off (as I usually do) then shit happens and the people who get abusive will get abusive nonetheless as it is probably in their nature. Nor is everybody adept at spotting the people likely to turn psychoVery true but we are as likely to meet assholes in everyday life as we are online and online we can block/ignore most assholes,I am as guilty as most of rushing in headfirst with regards to meets,in fact my very first meet years ago before fab was with a very well respected member on here who can be very nasty if things are not 100% her way which I found out during the meet but rather than let that put me off I became even more male hahaha pure dope obviously "It's far easier for a whacko to pretend to be what they are not online, where they have time to prepare responses and you do not have visual or other clues as to their true nature - it's also true that a lot of males suffer from cock blindness. | |||
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"Well hugh, I am one person but I have been contacted by Fabbers & thought "no, we're not going to meet", said so but continued chatting, became friendly and then we have met because we talked. I have also liked the look of someone, contacted them with the intention of meeting, but after chatting, realised that we are not compatible at all. Sure, even when people put "only here for chatting" on their profile others slag them for being on a swingers site!" Excellent post  | |||
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"I am as guilty as most of rushing in headfirst with regards to meets," Perhaps you're rushing in with the wrong head? "in fact my very first meet years ago before fab was with a very well respected member on here who can be very nasty if things are not 100% her way which I found out during the meet but rather than let that put me off I became even more male hahaha pure dope obviously "That doesn't sound like a very nice person. | |||
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"Here are the options girls: No reply - being perceived as rude and impolite... 'Thanks, no thanks' reply - good chance of getting abuse... Polite chatty reply - leading someone on... LAds, chatting/messaging doesn't mean sex is around the corner nor gives you any entitlement. Use your common sense and be honest with yourself and you will sense when someone is leading you up the garden path. Finally sometimes it needs a good portion of patience until it culminates into a meet as we all have a life outside fab. It just confirms to me why I prefer to make the initial contact when I'm interested, cuts out a lot of shit..." Soooooooooooooo outa left field but as Hannibal Lecter said to the senator "Love your shoes"  | |||
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"Personally I can't be arsed with msgs telling me I look hot r sexy,and I don't need my ego stoked, I joined with my hubby to meet n have fun, we are just ordinary folks with a naughty streak x" ...That's exactly the way it should be....Just decide you want to have some sexxxy fun and then go and have it without any ego's on show... | |||
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