FabSwingers.com forum: Well Verified Males.?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

With respect to the parties ect that are constantly being advertised in the forums, what exactly is the criteria regards well verified males?

This keeps cropping up in lots of posts, guys are told no verification no invite, fine that is understandable.

Yet I have spoken to guys who are verified, yet either the host ignores requests for an invite or states well verified only.

Confusing?

Does well verified mean that the guy must be well known on site, have lots of verifications ect ?

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By *al2001Man
over a year ago

kildare

I think they mean you have to be well verified AND meet their other personal criteria

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well verified males well its exactly what it says,verified guys who play well in a party situation,lots of guys get "stage fright" so to speak as there's lots of pressures involved,lots of guys go to parties just to pick up a woman they can bring back to their hotel room after too,these guys don't play! Not m

In a party situation only a few single guys are invited so it's mostly respectful,clean,safe individuals you would want to have at a party!

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By *ub_leitrim_guyMan
over a year ago

Out in the sticks

"With respect to the parties ect that are constantly being advertised in the forums, what exactly is the criteria regards well verified males?

This keeps cropping up in lots of posts, guys are told no verification no invite, fine that is understandable.

Yet I have spoken to guys who are verified, yet either the host ignores requests for an invite or states well verified only.

Confusing?

Does well verified mean that the guy must be well known on site, have lots of verifications ect ?"

Sure looks that way... since many won't verify meets (understandable!) it is almost impossible for guys!!!!

There is unverified, verified and well verified!

Personally when I see that type of crap I just move on!!

How many verifications does one need before they become accepted as being verified???

Even for the parties you see people posting that they are looking forward to meeting up again with people.... so for 1st timers/novices (Males/Females/Couples) it looks like a party would be a 2 tier "them and us" party!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it means verified several times, not just once. But I also think that some get more invites than others, going by forum posts. I guess people organising events want to ask men who have proven time and again that they will show up.....although I'm not sure how those same men ever got started.

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By *al2001Man
over a year ago

kildare

"I think it means verified several times, not just once. But I also think that some get more invites than others, going by forum posts. I guess people organising events want to ask men who have proven time and again that they will show up.....although I'm not sure how those same men ever got started."

Usually as a single guy its you meet a couple and they like the cut of your jib and they invite you to a small party or recommend you to hosts.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Well verified males well its exactly what it says,verified guys who play well in a party situation,lots of guys get "stage fright" so to speak as there's lots of pressures involved,lots of guys go to parties just to pick up a woman they can bring back to their hotel room after too,these guys don't play! Not m

In a party situation only a few single guys are invited so it's mostly respectful,clean,safe individuals you would want to have at a party!

Okay I get what you are saying.

A lot of hosts prefer the types of guys you have descibed above.

Yet, from verications, how do you know this is the case?

Many verifications simply state that the guys are genuine, fun and hot ect.

With regards to your comment re pick up and go back to rooms, is that not the case for single females and couples also?.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Usually as a single guy its you meet a couple and they like the cut of your jib and they invite you to a small party or recommend you to hosts. "

This..

..its not rocket science..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Usually as a single guy its you meet a couple and they like the cut of your jib and they invite you to a small party or recommend you to hosts. "

I can imagine a lot of couples must like the cut of your jib

Thanks for the reply x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my humble opinion, as a man, i can see this from both sides.

1) as a single male it can be difficult to be accepted into the swinging fraternity. Having said that perserverence reaps rewards and a single males approach plays a big part in how successful he is...

2) if someone is hosting a party/meet and greet their security is of paramount priority. Personally speaking i wouldn't have any Tom, Dick or Mary in my house without havingthr knowledge that they're cosha so looking for verifications, in my eyes, is completely acceptable. The host can maybe contact one of the people who have verified the male and ask "yo, is yer man ok or will he sneak around in a Columbo mac and wank in the knicker drawer"

Amen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In a party situation only a few single guys are invited so it's mostly respectful,clean,safe individuals you would want to have at a party!

Okay I get what you are saying.

A lot of hosts prefer the types of guys you have descibed above.

Yet, from verications, how do you know this is the case?

Many verifications simply state that the guys are genuine, fun and hot ect.

With regards to your comment re pick up and go back to rooms, is that not the case for single females and couples also?.

Not usually with couples no,or single girls,but yes it does happen too,I usually invite guys I have met,or guys that have been recommended to me by other people who have parties!

And obviously if you get a warning about a guy he never gets invited!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

In a party situation only a few single guys are invited so it's mostly respectful,clean,safe individuals you would want to have at a party!

Okay I get what you are saying.

A lot of hosts prefer the types of guys you have descibed above.

Yet, from verications, how do you know this is the case?

Many verifications simply state that the guys are genuine, fun and hot ect.

With regards to your comment re pick up and go back to rooms, is that not the case for single females and couples also?.

Not usually with couples no,or single girls,but yes it does happen too,I usually invite guys I have met,or guys that have been recommended to me by other people who have parties!

And obviously if you get a warning about a guy he never gets invited! "

Thanks for honesty, especialy from a member who organises parties.

The post was made in response to chats with guys trying to break into the party scene and all advice is welcome.

It is difficult for guys to post questions on this subject as sometimes others accuse them of whinging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Too all the men its the one thing they all want is to go to a party . But to sum it can be v daunting one to get naked wit many around and two to be able to perform wit many in the room . Believe it or not been too many parties and the guy cant get it up and leads to alot of diapointment to everyone . Parties are v different then socials so hence why ppl want guys who are not afraid of taking there lovely equipment out for all of us to see

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Too all the men its the one thing they all want is to go to a party . But to sum it can be v daunting one to get naked wit many around and two to be able to perform wit many in the room . Believe it or not been too many parties and the guy cant get it up and leads to alot of diapointment to everyone . Parties are v different then socials so hence why ppl want guys who are not afraid of taking there lovely equipment out for all of us to see

My equipment has been seen by possibly every nurse and doctor in the Ulster Hospital and i didn't get embarrassed....... do i pass the test???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My equipment has been seen by possibly every nurse and doctor in the Ulster Hospital and i didn't get embarrassed....... do i pass the test???

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Go get sum meets under your belt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In a party situation only a few single guys are invited so it's mostly respectful,clean,safe individuals you would want to have at a party!

Okay I get what you are saying.

A lot of hosts prefer the types of guys you have descibed above.

Yet, from verications, how do you know this is the case?

Many verifications simply state that the guys are genuine, fun and hot ect.

With regards to your comment re pick up and go back to rooms, is that not the case for single females and couples also?.

Not usually with couples no,or single girls,but yes it does happen too,I usually invite guys I have met,or guys that have been recommended to me by other people who have parties!

And obviously if you get a warning about a guy he never gets invited!

Thanks for honesty, especialy from a member who organises parties.

The post was made in response to chats with guys trying to break into the party scene and all advice is welcome.

It is difficult for guys to post questions on this subject as sometimes others accuse them of whinging."

Like Hall said earlier lots get invited and never show up too,so you need them to be dependable,plus you need your guests to feel relaxed and a guy who can flirt have a bit of fun always is a bonus! It's not all about the looks or the body,it's safety and respectable men too!

This goes for everyone tho...

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

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I came across profiles that have been first verified by party hosts. As the party was advertised for verified people only, I assume the host must have known the person through other channels. This is fab and I assume each host has his/her own criteria for inviting guests and being verified or well verified is just one of them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I came across profiles that have been first verified by party hosts. As the party was advertised for verified people only, I assume the host must have known the person through other channels. This is fab and I assume each host has his/her own criteria for inviting guests and being verified or well verified is just one of them."

Some guys leave and come back plus lots are on other swing sites...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What gets me is sorry no chat no meet unless your vertified happes quite alot but how on earth is a guy ment too get vertified if people wont open up too genuine guys that are not vertified by a meet but photo vertified like me i know theres tossors but where not all tossors

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By *ony_cluedoMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I'm a regular party goer. Single guys get invited to most of the parties I'm at. A large number simply fail to turn up. Some that do then can't/won't perform because there's other naked guys. And some more fail to realise there is a certain etiquette to parties and the behave in a way that will mean they won't get invited back.

So there is plenty of opportunities out there but most fail to take full advantage.

I believe I nearly qualify for well-verified.

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By *ilderMan
over a year ago

dublin

Well verified for a single guy doesn't usually just mean number of verifications like some kind of notches on a bed post type thing.

It often refers to the quality and type of verifications. A number of 1 on 1 verifications may not get someone an invite to a group play situation where as has been said stage fright and other issues can crop up for guys.

For me I got into swinging through a different site. I was lucky in that I met some people early that I clicked with and I got invited to a party after a couple of months. I also went to (and still do frequently) socials to 'put myself out there' and that has also helped me get invited to various scenarios/parties. Word of mouth also plays a part of course. It's all well and good if someone has an amazing body but usually it's a balance between body type, personality and comfort in a party situation.

Just my thoughts anyway, but what'd I know being a newbie and all...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Now now we have feelings

Having chatted to others and attended parties the host want people that are as what I can see

Well mannered and liked by others, that's includes chatting and being respectful not getting d*unk esp.

Turn up at the agree time

Yes as was said taking off ur clothes and being watched.

Being comfortable in a group situation but could go on

As is always said - everyone's time is precious so people want to have a good time and not be disappointed.

If ur trying to get into the party scene you want you want peeps to recommend you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Now now we have feelings

Having chatted to others and attended parties the host want people that are as what I can see

Well mannered and liked by others, that's includes chatting and being respectful not getting d*unk esp.

Turn up at the agree time

Yes as was said taking off ur clothes and being watched.

Being comfortable in a group situation but could go on

As is always said - everyone's time is precious so people want to have a good time and not be disappointed.

If ur trying to get into the party scene you want you want peeps to recommend you.

Your always top of my list hansom

This guy is the PERFECT example of a well verified guy,you should be giving lessons

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By *arkedMan
over a year ago

Trim

Patience and persistence come to mind

But "well verified" is a subjective phrase so totally depends on the person writing it. And I agree with what others have said: it's only one of a number of criteria that organisers use to try and decide who to invite. And ultimately whenever you ask someone for an invitation, that person is going to make their mind up based on who/what is going to give Themselves the best/hottest experience.

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By *eltic CplCouple
over a year ago

Kildare

We host parties on a regular basis and always state that if you seek an invite you must be recently verified by an actual meet.

This applies to everyone, not just guys, in our mind this usually shows you will turn up and this is important to us as lots look for an invite and as numbers are limited its disappointing when there are no shows.

We do offer to meet people pre party who are only starting out but this is not always possible.

As hosts we like to have a balanced mix of guests and try our best (not always possible) to ensure an equal ratio of guys to girls.

We try to reply to everyone but again we don't always due to real life getting in the way.

In no way are we being disrespectful to anyone this way has worked for us so far.

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By *ub_leitrim_guyMan
over a year ago

Out in the sticks

"What gets me is sorry no chat no meet unless your vertified happes quite alot but how on earth is a guy ment too get vertified if people wont open up too genuine guys that are not vertified by a meet but photo vertified like me i know theres tossors but where not all tossors "

Oh stuff that... when I joined I sent quite a few decent/respectable messages to quite a few females/couples just suggesting a coffee meet!!

All but one were just deleted!!

Having taken time to read profiles, send NICE messages, it's a pure slap in the face to see them just being deleted!

At this stage I can't even be bothered contacting anyone.

The only couple I met from here were Italian tourists!!

Guys can't even get COFFEE meets so how the hell are they supposed to get Verified or Recommended??????

The only route is the Meet and Greets!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh stuff that... when I joined I sent quite a few decent/respectable messages to quite a few females/couples just suggesting a coffee meet!!

All but one were just deleted!!

Having taken time to read profiles, send NICE messages, it's a pure slap in the face to see them just being deleted!

At this stage I can't even be bothered contacting anyone.

The only couple I met from here were Italian tourists!!

Guys can't even get COFFEE meets so how the hell are they supposed to get Verified or Recommended??????

The only route is the Meet and Greets!!

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Where the action happening in leitrim.

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By *ub_leitrim_guyMan
over a year ago

Out in the sticks

Oh stuff that... when I joined I sent quite a few decent/respectable messages to quite a few females/couples just suggesting a coffee meet!!

All but one were just deleted!!

Having taken time to read profiles, send NICE messages, it's a pure slap in the face to see them just being deleted!

At this stage I can't even be bothered contacting anyone.

The only couple I met from here were Italian tourists!!

Guys can't even get COFFEE meets so how the hell are they supposed to get Verified or Recommended??????

The only route is the Meet and Greets!!

Where the action happening in leitrim. "

F ALL on FAB, but plenty in Carrick with all the hen parties!!

Just look at how many couples/females there are on FAB..... not many, most not been on for months!!

Roscommon just as bad!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh stuff that... when I joined I sent quite a few decent/respectable messages to quite a few females/couples just suggesting a coffee meet!!

All but one were just deleted!!

Having taken time to read profiles, send NICE messages, it's a pure slap in the face to see them just being deleted!

At this stage I can't even be bothered contacting anyone.

The only couple I met from here were Italian tourists!!

Guys can't even get COFFEE meets so how the hell are they supposed to get Verified or Recommended??????

The only route is the Meet and Greets!!

Where the action happening in leitrim.

F ALL on FAB, but plenty in Carrick with all the hen parties!!

Just look at how many couples/females there are on FAB..... not many, most not been on for months!!

Roscommon just as bad!! "
I'm new in leitrim so don't know to much about it

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By *ub_leitrim_guyMan
over a year ago

Out in the sticks

" F ALL on FAB, but plenty in Carrick with all the hen parties!!

Just look at how many couples/females there are on FAB..... not many, most not been on for months!!

Roscommon just as bad!!

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I'm new in leitrim so don't know to much about it "

Well welcome to Leitrim!!

All you have to do is go to Carrick at w/ends... it's the hen party capital of Ireland!!

It rocks!!

All one needs is the ability to chat...

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By *ony_cluedoMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I would second this, it isn't just guys. There are plenty of couple/females who don't show either.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks to everyone who took the time to reply to the question asked and those who gave their opinions.

It can be a minefield for guys, especialy those trying to break into the social scene in swinging.

Lots of food for thought here, good advice and honest replys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never get my equipment out busty wink wink and i am so shy at parties as you know busty blondie i just sit in a quite corner lol

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By *ceryMan
over a year ago

Malahide & Waterford

If you're want find out if you can perform in front of a crowd get yourself off to one of the Europen or US open party clubs. If you can perform with 60 odd blokes plus women around you you should be well able to perform on home soil.

I've see young bucks in their late teens early twenties fail. So it may not be for every one, but I throughly enjoyed it ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Now now we have feelings

Having chatted to others and attended parties the host want people that are as what I can see

Well mannered and liked by others, that's includes chatting and being respectful not getting d*unk esp.

Turn up at the agree time

Yes as was said taking off ur clothes and being watched.

Being comfortable in a group situation but could go on

As is always said - everyone's time is precious so people want to have a good time and not be disappointed.

If ur trying to get into the party scene you want you want peeps to recommend you.

Your always top of my list hansom

This guy is the PERFECT example of a well verified guy,you should be giving lessons

Naaaaaaaa peeps are always learning on here, but thanks for those sexy words what I owe ya

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By *xelf787Man
over a year ago

Chorlton, Manchester

I don't have a problem getting my equipment out especially for you

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By *xelf787Man
over a year ago

Chorlton, Manchester

I don't have a problem getting my equipment out especially for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Now now we have feelings

Having chatted to others and attended parties the host want people that are as what I can see

Well mannered and liked by others, that's includes chatting and being respectful not getting d*unk esp.

Turn up at the agree time

Yes as was said taking off ur clothes and being watched.

Being comfortable in a group situation but could go on

As is always said - everyone's time is precious so people want to have a good time and not be disappointed.

If ur trying to get into the party scene you want you want peeps to recommend you.

Your always top of my list hansom

This guy is the PERFECT example of a well verified guy,you should be giving lessons

Naaaaaaaa peeps are always learning on here, but thanks for those sexy words what I owe ya

About that ride????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whew thought it would have been more than a ride

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By *ojos jugsWoman
over a year ago

Bangor

"If you're want find out if you can perform in front of a crowd get yourself off to one of the Europen or US open party clubs. If you can perform with 60 odd blokes plus women around you you should be well able to perform on home soil.

I've see young bucks in their late teens early twenties fail. So it may not be for every one, but I throughly enjoyed it ....

Hey.. Vegas baby YEAH

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By *ceryMan
over a year ago

Malahide & Waterford

I've see young bucks in their late teens early twenties fail. So it may not be for every one, but I throughly enjoyed it ....

Hey.. Vegas baby YEAH

Kissy kissy Jojos, enjoy your weekend and just think of that chair...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think they mean you have to be well verified AND meet their other personal criteria"

Exactly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love the parties xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Love the parties xx"

Another perfect gentlemen

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By *ojos jugsWoman
over a year ago

Bangor

I've see young bucks in their late teens early twenties fail. So it may not be for every one, but I throughly enjoyed it ....

Hey.. Vegas baby YEAH

Kissy kissy Jojos, enjoy your weekend and just think of that chair...

Mmmmmm lol

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