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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi all

I have been on the site for 9 months, and I'm a site supporter. Its my first time to post. I was on before as a couple with my husband, but changed my profile to a woman, as people didn't believe when I was chatting and when he was chatting even though we used to say which of us it was. my profile clearly states I'm married, looking for a woman, and that hubby will be present. Someone this week decided to mail me and when I repeated in my reply, what is in my profile (i.e. only meeting with hubby), they deleted my message. Now the site admins have changed my profile to a couple, as I was reported. How are you meant to do the right thing here??

Sorry, rant over

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your likely better off posting in the site help part of the forums. Try contacting admin yourself and asking for the profile to be changed back

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Your likely better off posting in the site help part of the forums. Try contacting admin yourself and asking for the profile to be changed back "

Hi Kitty, Yeah I did mail them. I'm just wondering if people think I done wrong. I'm pretty sure others have profiles like this. I am being completely above board. People read my bio, then mail looking to meet me alone, then report me when I say no about meeting alone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your likely better off posting in the site help part of the forums. Try contacting admin yourself and asking for the profile to be changed back

Hi Kitty, Yeah I did mail them. I'm just wondering if people think I done wrong. I'm pretty sure others have profiles like this. I am being completely above board. People read my bio, then mail looking to meet me alone, then report me when I say no about meeting alone"

Some people are only ever happy when causing others distress. We had similar experiences and there are both of us on the profile. Only person u should worry about doing right by,is urself. If u are happy with ur profile then that is all that matters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi, we all know some people just don't read profiles and respect boundaries. I'd say you are better off as a couple profile and you will find why you are looking for eventually. Maybe you could message some women looking to meet a couple and add some detail about your partner as its currently blank. After all you are expecting a lady to meet both of you.

Hope this helps

Lee

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks Kitty. I'd like it back to my woman profile, looks like Admin are saying no

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hi, we all know some people just don't read profiles and respect boundaries. I'd say you are better off as a couple profile and you will find why you are looking for eventually. Maybe you could message some women looking to meet a couple and add some detail about your partner as its currently blank. After all you are expecting a lady to meet both of you.

Hope this helps

Lee "

Hi Lee. thanks for the input.Its only blank as its just become a couple profile in the last day or so, not my doing. I agree with what you are saying, but after chatting for a while to women, I do give a pic of me and hubby, if the conversation gets that's far

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ub_leitrim_guyMan
over a year ago

Out in the sticks

Well you are as such meeting as a couple (with hubby) so maybe clarify what you want in your profile details??

E.G. One would wonder if your hubby watches or is in same room!

For security etc it is understandable that you don't meet alone but there is a 'grey area'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cant see why its anyones business whether your profile is as a single or a couple if you clearly explain the situation on your profile. Whoever contacted you obviously didnt read your profile so they are the ones at fault IMO.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah I see, sorry. Well you are being honest about what you want and hopefully you will find some excitement

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cant see why its anyones business whether your profile is as a single or a couple if you clearly explain the situation on your profile. Whoever contacted you obviously didnt read your profile so they are the ones at fault IMO."

this lady speaks sense!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cant see why its anyones business whether your profile is as a single or a couple if you clearly explain the situation on your profile. Whoever contacted you obviously didnt read your profile so they are the ones at fault IMO."

It's handy for searches and filters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all

I have been on the site for 9 months, and I'm a site supporter. Its my first time to post. I was on before as a couple with my husband, but changed my profile to a woman, as people didn't believe when I was chatting and when he was chatting even though we used to say which of us it was. my profile clearly states I'm married, looking for a woman, and that hubby will be present. Someone this week decided to mail me and when I repeated in my reply, what is in my profile (i.e. only meeting with hubby), they deleted my message. Now the site admins have changed my profile to a couple, as I was reported. How are you meant to do the right thing here??

Sorry, rant over"

Well you are a couple and meet as a couple, so whats the issue??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why not open another account and clearly state you are the female half of the couple stating your couple name.

This may help with the confusion and the filtering procesd as you will be included in such searches.

Mind you that is if anyone bothers to read your profile in the first instance before messaging you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

That's the problem I think barney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That's the problem I think barney "

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan


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... Mind you that is if anyone bothers to read your profile in the first instance before messaging you."

What's a profile?

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By *obbie65Man
over a year ago

kildare

Avoid the control freaks !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

... Mind you that is if anyone bothers to read your profile in the first instance before messaging you.

What's a profile? "

I,ve missed you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

... Mind you that is if anyone bothers to read your profile in the first instance before messaging you.

What's a profile? "

Its one of those things that is to reading and understanding as Lord Lucan is to hide and seek

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By *rifter34Couple
over a year ago

ennis

Think of trying meet and greets and parties. .there's loads on now and I'm sure yee will find plenty of fun....

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of


"Hi all

I have been on the site for 9 months, and I'm a site supporter. Its my first time to post. I was on before as a couple with my husband, but changed my profile to a woman, as people didn't believe when I was chatting and when he was chatting even though we used to say which of us it was. my profile clearly states I'm married, looking for a woman, and that hubby will be present. Someone this week decided to mail me and when I repeated in my reply, what is in my profile (i.e. only meeting with hubby), they deleted my message. Now the site admins have changed my profile to a couple, as I was reported. How are you meant to do the right thing here??

Sorry, rant over

Well you are a couple and meet as a couple, so whats the issue??"

This!

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By *arkedMan
over a year ago

Trim


"Your likely better off posting in the site help part of the forums. Try contacting admin yourself and asking for the profile to be changed back

Hi Kitty, Yeah I did mail them. I'm just wondering if people think I done wrong. I'm pretty sure others have profiles like this. I am being completely above board. People read my bio, then mail looking to meet me alone, then report me when I say no about meeting alone"

Or maybe they bypassed reading your profile and went straight to mailing you

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By *excockMan
over a year ago

waterford


"Hi all

I have been on the site for 9 months, and I'm a site supporter. Its my first time to post. I was on before as a couple with my husband, but changed my profile to a woman, as people didn't believe when I was chatting and when he was chatting even though we used to say which of us it was. my profile clearly states I'm married, looking for a woman, and that hubby will be present. Someone this week decided to mail me and when I repeated in my reply, what is in my profile (i.e. only meeting with hubby), they deleted my message. Now the site admins have changed my profile to a couple, as I was reported. How are you meant to do the right thing here??

Sorry, rant over"

Hi Elle,

I think fab was right to change ur status, and this is the reason...

We all usually do a search by location, and about who you want to meet up with i.e. couple,man,woman.

So this person probably did the same... so she searched woman looking for a woman.. she is either gay or bi... so when ur profile came up, she would of sent you a message but then got one saying..only if my husband joins us..

If it was a case of, you were a couple but could meet alone.. that would of been fine, but you don't meet seperately

So I could see why it would be seen as misleading

You are a couple... embrace your couple status

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They won't let you keep a single women profile unless you can show them you meet on your own I'm afraid. Couple profile isn't that hard to manage once your verified as meeting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whatever the status I would suggest you elaborate on the role that the hubby plays in your profile section

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your likely better off posting in the site help part of the forums. Try contacting admin yourself and asking for the profile to be changed back

Hi Kitty, Yeah I did mail them. I'm just wondering if people think I done wrong. I'm pretty sure others have profiles like this. I am being completely above board. People read my bio, then mail looking to meet me alone, then report me when I say no about meeting alone

Some people are only ever happy when causing others distress. We had similar experiences and there are both of us on the profile. Only person u should worry about doing right by,is urself. If u are happy with ur profile then that is all that matters. "

Kitty is talking sense here. What you do on here is no one else's business. If your here for fun and are minding your own business what harm are you doing. There are however some on here that are hell bent on hurting others. Sometimes at a very high cost. Holding a grudge for some can be the be all and end all of their life. Don't get hung up on what happened. They are the petty and pitiful ones.

As for admin deciding to make you a couple? Admin need to get with the now. Arranged marriages ended in this here country a long long long time ago.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all

I have been on the site for 9 months, and I'm a site supporter. Its my first time to post. I was on before as a couple with my husband, but changed my profile to a woman, as people didn't believe when I was chatting and when he was chatting even though we used to say which of us it was. my profile clearly states I'm married, looking for a woman, and that hubby will be present. Someone this week decided to mail me and when I repeated in my reply, what is in my profile (i.e. only meeting with hubby), they deleted my message. Now the site admins have changed my profile to a couple, as I was reported. How are you meant to do the right thing here??

Sorry, rant over

Well you are a couple and meet as a couple, so whats the issue??"

Yup, can't really see what the problem is. I meet on my own hence a single profile. If you meet with your partner you should have a couple profile. Not exactly rocket science

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By *randub69Man
over a year ago

city


"Hi all

I have been on the site for 9 months, and I'm a site supporter. Its my first time to post. I was on before as a couple with my husband, but changed my profile to a woman, as people didn't believe when I was chatting and when he was chatting even though we used to say which of us it was. my profile clearly states I'm married, looking for a woman, and that hubby will be present. Someone this week decided to mail me and when I repeated in my reply, what is in my profile (i.e. only meeting with hubby), they deleted my message. Now the site admins have changed my profile to a couple, as I was reported. How are you meant to do the right thing here??

Sorry, rant over"

I think administration were right to change your profile.

You and your husband were on here as a couple.

you then change it to a single profile

But as far as I can see nothing has changed,as your husband is still on here with you,and he will be meeting with you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hi all

I have been on the site for 9 months, and I'm a site supporter. Its my first time to post. I was on before as a couple with my husband, but changed my profile to a woman, as people didn't believe when I was chatting and when he was chatting even though we used to say which of us it was. my profile clearly states I'm married, looking for a woman, and that hubby will be present. Someone this week decided to mail me and when I repeated in my reply, what is in my profile (i.e. only meeting with hubby), they deleted my message. Now the site admins have changed my profile to a couple, as I was reported. How are you meant to do the right thing here??

Sorry, rant over

I think administration were right to change your profile.

You and your husband were on here as a couple.

you then change it to a single profile

But as far as I can see nothing has changed,as your husband is still on here with you,and he will be meeting with you.

"
thanks everyone for the different points of view, much appreciated. Just one think Fran. We had a coupled page, but as I said women wouldn't belive who was talking. I deleted that profile and set up this one. Hubby doesn't use it, and I was always up front that I wanted him involved. My point was even though I had all this in my profile someone got the hump that I refused them, all because they weren't bothered reading my I was looking for. We all state here what we are looking to get out of fab. Easier just to go telling tales when they were knocked back. I keep myself to myself here, but this episode annoyed me. That's all

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