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By *aterfordDom OP   Man
over a year ago

waterford

This just occurred to me...

With most parties only allowing a select number of single men to attend and we hear of many reports of no shows at meets, gangbangs n greedy girl events...

So I had this idea: single men should pay a €50 deposit to book their place at a party... which is refunded when they arrive

It would save all the messers and the no-showers screwing it up for genuine horny nice guys

Anyone agree??

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By *ilderMan
over a year ago

dublin


"This just occurred to me...

With most parties only allowing a select number of single men to attend and we hear of many reports of no shows at meets, gangbangs n greedy girl events...

So I had this idea: single men should pay a €50 deposit to book their place at a party... which is refunded when they arrive

It would save all the messers and the no-showers screwing it up for genuine horny nice guys

Anyone agree??"

No I totally disagree, it sets up a two or three way system. One rule for one, separate rule for others. It's mistrusting and disrespectful from the start. Its saying, can we trust you to show up? Yes you can as it happens.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This just occurred to me...

With most parties only allowing a select number of single men to attend and we hear of many reports of no shows at meets, gangbangs n greedy girl events...

So I had this idea: single men should pay a €50 deposit to book their place at a party... which is refunded when they arrive

It would save all the messers and the no-showers screwing it up for genuine horny nice guys

Anyone agree??"
that's a bit more than harsh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me i dont think its harsh at all alot men on here are all talk guve them an invite and day before they start guving u the excuses as why they nay not be there on the ngt .

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By *aterfordDom OP   Man
over a year ago

waterford


"This just occurred to me...

With most parties only allowing a select number of single men to attend and we hear of many reports of no shows at meets, gangbangs n greedy girl events...

So I had this idea: single men should pay a €50 deposit to book their place at a party... which is refunded when they arrive

It would save all the messers and the no-showers screwing it up for genuine horny nice guys

Anyone agree??that's a bit more than harsh. "

Its only harsh Lizzie if.. they don't turn up

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By *al2001Man
over a year ago

kildare

Better IMO as a single guy to build a reputation for showing up. Takes time is all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is someone looking for a deposit? Happy to oblige.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So are you taking credit cards? Or mail the cash to your home address?

Silly idea imo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm pretty sure this would just put a lot of guys off even attempting to go. Most don't show due to nerves so I fail to see how taking cash from them will change the situation. It's just part and parcel of swinging and also acts as a sure fire way of ing out messers for future parties.

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By *aid backMan
over a year ago

by a lake with my rod out

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By *aid backMan
over a year ago

by a lake with my rod out

its simple just make sure that no shows don't get an invite next time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This just occurred to me...

With most parties only allowing a select number of single men to attend and we hear of many reports of no shows at meets, gangbangs n greedy girl events...

So I had this idea: single men should pay a €50 deposit to book their place at a party... which is refunded when they arrive

It would save all the messers and the no-showers screwing it up for genuine horny nice guys

Anyone agree??"

On top of what some party hosts already charge? I don't see why. As _ilder said, it shows mistrust and it's not fair. I know some single men fail to turn up to events, but why should all single men pay for the failings at a few?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This just occurred to me...

With most parties only allowing a select number of single men to attend and we hear of many reports of no shows at meets, gangbangs n greedy girl events...

So I had this idea: single men should pay a €50 deposit to book their place at a party... which is refunded when they arrive

It would save all the messers and the no-showers screwing it up for genuine horny nice guys

Anyone agree??

On top of what some party hosts already charge? I don't see why. As _ilder said, it shows mistrust and it's not fair. I know some single men fail to turn up to events, but why should all single men pay for the failings at a few?"

Dammit, the failings OF a few!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes laid hence why u invite more guys cause most wont turn up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think it just depends on the scenario. If it's a small play party where the costs have to be covered then I don't see the harm asking everyone for a deposit! Men and women, coz from doing the socials there's a huge amount of women and couples who don't show either and apart from the cost element, I just find it rude. If you ask to come along and you get an invite it's polite to say you won't make it if you can't or have chickened out. Some folks just don't have manners though

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By *aterfordDom OP   Man
over a year ago

waterford


"I'm pretty sure this would just put a lot of guys off even attempting to go. Most don't show due to nerves so I fail to see how taking cash from them will change the situation. It's just part and parcel of swinging and also acts as a sure fire way of ing out messers for future parties. "

Ah yes.. but its the messers who mess it up for the rest of us good guys. If a guys paid out 50quid you can be sure he will turn up..

Else if there's nothing to loose..if there's no value on something its easier to say..Na I won't bother.

... and if he doesn't show up after paying, the cash can go on pizzas n beer for the party

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By *aterfordDom OP   Man
over a year ago

waterford


"This just occurred to me...

With most parties only allowing a select number of single men to attend and we hear of many reports of no shows at meets, gangbangs n greedy girl events...

So I had this idea: single men should pay a €50 deposit to book their place at a party... which is refunded when they arrive

It would save all the messers and the no-showers screwing it up for genuine horny nice guys

Anyone agree??

On top of what some party hosts already charge? I don't see why. As _ilder said, it shows mistrust and it's not fair. I know some single men fail to turn up to events, but why should all single men pay for the failings at a few?"

Ah.. but they wouldn't be paying... its just a deposit.. they get it back

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By *aterfordDom OP   Man
over a year ago

waterford


"Think it just depends on the scenario. If it's a small play party where the costs have to be covered then I don't see the harm asking everyone for a deposit! Men and women, coz from doing the socials there's a huge amount of women and couples who don't show either and apart from the cost element, I just find it rude. If you ask to come along and you get an invite it's polite to say you won't make it if you can't or have chickened out. Some folks just don't have manners though "

True

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally agree.

Clearly it's only men who don't turn up or mess people still.

Clearly like. ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some guys genuinely have to cancel before a meet cause lets face it this swinging craic is the most dangerous past time to have. It causes relatives to drop dead at the most inconvenient of times. One guys granny died 4 times in a month.

It's not only single guys guilty of no shows with out contacting the host.

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

I know there is quite a good lot of messers on here men women n even couples I've met them all n I know exactly where ur comming from . All these people allways spoil it for d real people on here. If I said I was going IDE go but up to now could never go to any of d parties cos of other commitments .

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By *-ManMan
over a year ago

Kark

I'm holding a party next week, all the hottest women in the country will be there, only one or two single guys allowed, send me on 50 squids and I let you know the address then, I promise it won't be an abandoned building.

Nice thought man but it's only asking for trouble

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By *aterfordDom OP   Man
over a year ago

waterford


"Some guys genuinely have to cancel before a meet cause lets face it this swinging craic is the most dangerous past time to have. It causes relatives to drop dead at the most inconvenient of times. One guys granny died 4 times in a month.

It's not only single guys guilty of no shows with out contacting the host. "

True... but I can only fix one problem at a time lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some guys genuinely have to cancel before a meet cause lets face it this swinging craic is the most dangerous past time to have. It causes relatives to drop dead at the most inconvenient of times. One guys granny died 4 times in a month.

"

some of the excuses used do give me a giggle at times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some guys genuinely have to cancel before a meet cause lets face it this swinging craic is the most dangerous past time to have. It causes relatives to drop dead at the most inconvenient of times. One guys granny died 4 times in a month.

It's not only single guys guilty of no shows with out contacting the host. "

Everyone has things happen why they don't show up its not too bad when they tell you in time but I gotta admit some of the excuses are hilarious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some guys genuinely have to cancel before a meet cause lets face it this swinging craic is the most dangerous past time to have. It causes relatives to drop dead at the most inconvenient of times. One guys granny died 4 times in a month.

some of the excuses used do give me a giggle at times"

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By *igglesAndGeekCouple
over a year ago

Galway


"Some guys genuinely have to cancel before a meet cause lets face it this swinging craic is the most dangerous past time to have. It causes relatives to drop dead at the most inconvenient of times. One guys granny died 4 times in a month.

some of the excuses used do give me a giggle at times"

Honestly slipped in the shower while reversing over the dog on the way to hospital with two broken arms.

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By *owdyBoobyMan
over a year ago

limerick


"Some guys genuinely have to cancel before a meet cause lets face it this swinging craic is the most dangerous past time to have. It causes relatives to drop dead at the most inconvenient of times. One guys granny died 4 times in a month.

It's not only single guys guilty of no shows with out contacting the host. "

True this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

guys fund most private parties on here,

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By *ark the manMan
over a year ago

dublin. meath louth areas

There are plenty of messers on here and not only of the male type. No shows can come from all sections. And dont forget the adds that say no single guys at this party only to to see the single guys saying what a great night it was ! Or the parties were there are no more invites put surprise surprise the buddy who didnt know about the private party got invited ! Do me a favour.........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Totally agree.

Clearly it's only men who don't turn up or mess people still.

Clearly like. .."

Exactly!!!!!

Decent swingers let others know in advance that they can not attend a party or meet.

However, there are occasions when an emergency could arise and anyone single guy, single girl or couple fails to show.

Asking for a deposit from the single guys is ridiculous and insulting , imagine a guy coming back saying there had been a death or illness, will they be asked for proof before refund

Get a grip op , shit happens , deal with it , messers will mess regardless of their status.

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By *at69driveMan
over a year ago

Hertford


"This just occurred to me...

With most parties only allowing a select number of single men to attend and we hear of many reports of no shows at meets, gangbangs n greedy girl events...

So I had this idea: single men should pay a €50 deposit to book their place at a party... which is refunded when they arrive

It would save all the messers and the no-showers screwing it up for genuine horny nice guys

Anyone agree??"
A good idea . You cannot make a hotel booking or book a flight without paying . With this system at least you know who is sincere .

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By *at69driveMan
over a year ago

Hertford


"Totally agree.

Clearly it's only men who don't turn up or mess people still.

Clearly like. ..

Exactly!!!!!

Decent swingers let others know in advance that they can not attend a party or meet.

However, there are occasions when an emergency could arise and anyone single guy, single girl or couple fails to show.

Asking for a deposit from the single guys is ridiculous and insulting , imagine a guy coming back saying there had been a death or illness, will they be asked for proof before refund

Get a grip op , shit happens , deal with it , messers will mess regardless of their status."
I don't see it as being insulting . Paying a deposit is proof that you wish to go. It seems a very fair system for everyone . You don't turn up for a flight without paying in advance . Why should a party be any different .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This just occurred to me...

With most parties only allowing a select number of single men to attend and we hear of many reports of no shows at meets, gangbangs n greedy girl events...

So I had this idea: single men should pay a €50 deposit to book their place at a party... which is refunded when they arrive

It would save all the messers and the no-showers screwing it up for genuine horny nice guys

Anyone agree??

On top of what some party hosts already charge? I don't see why. As _ilder said, it shows mistrust and it's not fair. I know some single men fail to turn up to events, but why should all single men pay for the failings at a few?

Ah.. but they wouldn't be paying... its just a deposit.. they get it back "

But they wouldn't get it back, if it was the cost of the event, unless they'd already paid the cost plus deposit.

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By *ohngillerMan
over a year ago

Near Town


"Some guys genuinely have to cancel before a meet cause lets face it this swinging craic is the most dangerous past time to have. It causes relatives to drop dead at the most inconvenient of times. One guys granny died 4 times in a month.

It's not only single guys guilty of no shows with out contacting the host. "

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By *ohngillerMan
over a year ago

Near Town

hawhaw!! granny died 4 times..classic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Totally agree.

Clearly it's only men who don't turn up or mess people still.

Clearly like. ..

Exactly!!!!!

Decent swingers let others know in advance that they can not attend a party or meet.

However, there are occasions when an emergency could arise and anyone single guy, single girl or couple fails to show.

Asking for a deposit from the single guys is ridiculous and insulting , imagine a guy coming back saying there had been a death or illness, will they be asked for proof before refund

Get a grip op , shit happens , deal with it , messers will mess regardless of their status. I don't see it as being insulting . Paying a deposit is proof that you wish to go. It seems a very fair system for everyone . You don't turn up for a flight without paying in advance . Why should a party be any different . "

A fair system for everyone?

Is that couples, single fems and guys?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No shows are a part of this circus with all groups and genders equally guilty

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By *aterfordDom OP   Man
over a year ago

waterford


"This just occurred to me...

With most parties only allowing a select number of single men to attend and we hear of many reports of no shows at meets, gangbangs n greedy girl events...

So I had this idea: single men should pay a €50 deposit to book their place at a party... which is refunded when they arrive

It would save all the messers and the no-showers screwing it up for genuine horny nice guys

Anyone agree??

On top of what some party hosts already charge? I don't see why. As _ilder said, it shows mistrust and it's not fair. I know some single men fail to turn up to events, but why should all single men pay for the failings at a few?

Ah.. but they wouldn't be paying... its just a deposit.. they get it back

But they wouldn't get it back, if it was the cost of the event, unless they'd already paid the cost plus deposit. "

Absolutely right... if its a paid event then everyone usually pays in advance.. that's grand..

I'm only thinking non paying meets..events..parties where the number of men is limited.. then pay a deposit..show..you get ur money back. Simple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you are going to send 60 euro to someone you might not even know ? by post, cc, bank draft or cash?

open to all sorts of corruption,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So are you taking credit cards? Or mail the cash to your home address?

Silly idea imo"

Cash only, and send it to me il meet you in the carpark

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Totally agree.

Clearly it's only men who don't turn up or mess people still.

Clearly like. .

Exactly!!!!!

Decent swingers let others know in advance that they can not attend a party or meet.

However, there are occasions when an emergency could arise and anyone single guy, single girl or couple fails to show.

Asking for a deposit from the single guys is ridiculous and insulting , imagine a guy coming back saying there had been a death or illness, will they be asked for proof before refund

Get a grip op , shit happens , deal with it , messers will mess regardless of their status."

I agree!!

Although I get where the OP is coming from the idea needs thought through a bit more.

ALL genuine people can have genuine reasons cropping up at the last minute due to having a life outide of Fab.

Tbh this would put me of organising a party because how could I explain 4 hearses with dead grannies in them, a man carrying a dead dog, a broken down car pushed onto my lawn because it wouldn't start and a man with a doctors sick line, to my neighbours

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By *ohn MingoMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"I'm holding a party next week, all the hottest women in the country will be there, only one or two single guys allowed, send me on 50 squids and I let you know the address then, I promise it won't be an abandoned building.

Nice thought man but it's only asking for trouble "

Yep, I'll just pay my fifty quid. I totally trust you not to cancel the party at the last minute and not return my messages when I want my deposit back.

As hal said....build your reputation. If you're good enough deposits will be irrelevant.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm holding a party next week, all the hottest women in the country will be there, only one or two single guys allowed, send me on 50 squids and I let you know the address then, I promise it won't be an abandoned building.

Nice thought man but it's only asking for trouble

Yep, I'll just pay my fifty quid. I totally trust you not to cancel the party at the last minute and not return my messages when I want my deposit back.

As hal said....build your reputation. If you're good enough deposits will be irrelevant. "
what a load of bull, i'm not on here for ego trip or reputation,

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By *ohn MingoMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"I'm holding a party next week, all the hottest women in the country will be there, only one or two single guys allowed, send me on 50 squids and I let you know the address then, I promise it won't be an abandoned building.

Nice thought man but it's only asking for trouble

Yep, I'll just pay my fifty quid. I totally trust you not to cancel the party at the last minute and not return my messages when I want my deposit back.

As hal said....build your reputation. If you're good enough deposits will be irrelevant. what a load of bull, i'm not on here for ego trip or reputation, "

have a quick look above your head there, thats my point going over it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No.

Females and couples pull no shows too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm holding a party next week, all the hottest women in the country will be there, only one or two single guys allowed, send me on 50 squids and I let you know the address then, I promise it won't be an abandoned building.

Nice thought man but it's only asking for trouble

Yep, I'll just pay my fifty quid. I totally trust you not to cancel the party at the last minute and not return my messages when I want my deposit back.

As hal said....build your reputation. If you're good enough deposits will be irrelevant. what a load of bull, i'm not on here for ego trip or reputation,

have a quick look above your head there, thats my point going over it. "
lol, you are mister no all,

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By *ohn MingoMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"I'm holding a party next week, all the hottest women in the country will be there, only one or two single guys allowed, send me on 50 squids and I let you know the address then, I promise it won't be an abandoned building.

Nice thought man but it's only asking for trouble

Yep, I'll just pay my fifty quid. I totally trust you not to cancel the party at the last minute and not return my messages when I want my deposit back.

As hal said....build your reputation. If you're good enough deposits will be irrelevant. what a load of bull, i'm not on here for ego trip or reputation,

have a quick look above your head there, thats my point going over it. lol, you are mister no all, "

*know-it-all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm holding a party next week, all the hottest women in the country will be there, only one or two single guys allowed, send me on 50 squids and I let you know the address then, I promise it won't be an abandoned building.

Nice thought man but it's only asking for trouble

Yep, I'll just pay my fifty quid. I totally trust you not to cancel the party at the last minute and not return my messages when I want my deposit back.

As hal said....build your reputation. If you're good enough deposits will be irrelevant. what a load of bull, i'm not on here for ego trip or reputation,

have a quick look above your head there, thats my point going over it. lol, you are mister no all,

*know-it-all"
I know that, thanks for the lesson, wanted to see your reaction

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By *ohn MingoMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"I'm holding a party next week, all the hottest women in the country will be there, only one or two single guys allowed, send me on 50 squids and I let you know the address then, I promise it won't be an abandoned building.

Nice thought man but it's only asking for trouble

Yep, I'll just pay my fifty quid. I totally trust you not to cancel the party at the last minute and not return my messages when I want my deposit back.

As hal said....build your reputation. If you're good enough deposits will be irrelevant. what a load of bull, i'm not on here for ego trip or reputation,

have a quick look above your head there, thats my point going over it. lol, you are mister no all,

*know-it-all I know that, thanks for the lesson, wanted to see your reaction "

indifference.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As I said. Who needs a deposit?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not only single guys.. .some single girls and couples are same bad!

Sure things can happen, but thats why msg and say before not just not show up..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The last party we attended,all going paid up front using PayPal,there was no issue,one cpl didn't make it on the night,but it was made very clear to all attendees,you don't show up,you lose your deposit. We had no issue whatsoever with it,you can't ask single men/fems alone to pay a deposit..

It has to be equally rolled out

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some guys genuinely have to cancel before a meet cause lets face it this swinging craic is the most dangerous past time to have. It causes relatives to drop dead at the most inconvenient of times. One guys granny died 4 times in a month.

It's not only single guys guilty of no shows with out contacting the host. "
the only party i couldnt attend was the one the host changed the date with a week to go coincidentally i had a date lol

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