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"I'm suffering it right now (something in RL) but I know it's only butthurt, I know I'm the one making the big deal out of it and I also know it's just irrational thoughts, so my question is, if I know theses things why do I still want to throw my toys out of the pram? How does one step back with grace? Butthurt: An inappropriately strong negative emotional response from a perceived personal insult. Characterized by strong feelings of shame. Frequently associated with a cessation of communication and overt hostility towards the "aggressor." Adam got butthurt when Mike stole his bitch. " hmm I don't think u can react badly it's a bit double standards to be on a swing site looking for new pleasures yet now feeling annoyed/jealous that someone else now has your "bitch" that my dear is called karma...so I think u have no other option than to keep your mouth zipped and walk away....or ask for a 3sum 
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 Haven't heard that one before...
Sounds to me like youve answered your own question. You are aware its trivial and that you're overreacting. That's the hard part. Seeing the reality.
Things only affect us when/how we let them. Do what you need to do to rise above and let it go. I have my own methods of doing this but generally some form of exercise, relaxation, etc works. Remove yourself from the situation and move on.
And theres always the ever popular advice: "the best way to get over someone is to get under someone new" | |||
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"I'm suffering it right now (something in RL) but I know it's only butthurt, I know I'm the one making the big deal out of it and I also know it's just irrational thoughts, so my question is, if I know theses things why do I still want to throw my toys out of the pram? How does one step back with grace? Butthurt: An inappropriately strong negative emotional response from a perceived personal insult. Characterized by strong feelings of shame. Frequently associated with a cessation of communication and overt hostility towards the "aggressor." Adam got butthurt when Mike stole his bitch. hmm I don't think u can react badly it's a bit double standards to be on a swing site looking for new pleasures yet now feeling annoyed/jealous that someone else now has your "bitch" that my dear is called karma...so I think u have no other option than to keep your mouth zipped and walk away....or ask for a 3sum
Unless your talking about a dog then go slap the mother fucker in the face "Lol! No one took anyones bitch, that's just the example given by Urban Dictionary | |||
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"Not relating to your situation, but butthurt could describe a lot of single guys reactions to rejection around here!"  | |||
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"Butthurt Haven't heard that one before...
Sounds to me like youve answered your own question. You are aware its trivial and that you're overreacting. That's the hard part. Seeing the reality.
Things only affect us when/how we let them. Do what you need to do to rise above and let it go. I have my own methods of doing this but generally some form of exercise, relaxation, etc works. Remove yourself from the situation and move on.
And theres always the ever popular advice: "the best way to get over someone is to get under someone new""That's the thing, I do know it's totally trivial and that I'm overreacting, and it is trivial, just need to pull back long enough for the rest of my brain to catch up! | |||
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"If you know you are being irrational then its your issue to deal with in your head. Don't take it out on others who are behaving appropriatly. Take a step back from whatever/whoever until you are ready to act reasonably." Indeed it is my issue and I'd never be aggressive to anyone for the crap that goes around in my head. This is a none issue,tiny ting thing, and that's probably the reason why I can recognize this behaviour in myself. | |||
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"I love the description and miss naughtys advice.... Worked for me "It's hard to argue with logic like that | |||
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"If you know you are being irrational then its your issue to deal with in your head. Don't take it out on others who are behaving appropriatly. Take a step back from whatever/whoever until you are ready to act reasonably. Indeed it is my issue and I'd never be aggressive to anyone for the crap that goes around in my head. This is a none issue,tiny ting thing, and that's probably the reason why I can recognize this behaviour in myself." Is this something that happens you often? It happens to me sometimes when I'm feeling particularly low, and then I think the whole world is out to get me. As someone else has said, recognising it is a good thing, you then need to persuade yourself that it's not actually the way things are, it's just your perception at the time. I hope your butthurt passes soon x | |||
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"Butthurt Haven't heard that one before...
Sounds to me like youve answered your own question. You are aware its trivial and that you're overreacting. That's the hard part. Seeing the reality.
Things only affect us when/how we let them. Do what you need to do to rise above and let it go. I have my own methods of doing this but generally some form of exercise, relaxation, etc works. Remove yourself from the situation and move on.
And theres always the ever popular advice: "the best way to get over someone is to get under someone new"
That's the thing, I do know it's totally trivial and that I'm overreacting, and it is trivial, just need to pull back long enough for the rest of my brain to catch up!"Sounds like you are on the right path already. Occupy your mind with other positive things and let the negativity go. | |||
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"If you know you are being irrational then its your issue to deal with in your head. Don't take it out on others who are behaving appropriatly. Take a step back from whatever/whoever until you are ready to act reasonably. Indeed it is my issue and I'd never be aggressive to anyone for the crap that goes around in my head. This is a none issue,tiny ting thing, and that's probably the reason why I can recognize this behaviour in myself. Is this something that happens you often? It happens to me sometimes when I'm feeling particularly low, and then I think the whole world is out to get me. As someone else has said, recognising it is a good thing, you then need to persuade yourself that it's not actually the way things are, it's just your perception at the time. I hope your butthurt passes soon x" I can't say it happens often, I let most things pass me by but for some reason the odd silly thing catches me out and it's always a silly thing, never the major thing, then I can get low for a short while. I'm going to go for a long run later and hopefully change butthruth into butt-toning! x | |||
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"Butthurt Haven't heard that one before...
Sounds to me like youve answered your own question. You are aware its trivial and that you're overreacting. That's the hard part. Seeing the reality.
Things only affect us when/how we let them. Do what you need to do to rise above and let it go. I have my own methods of doing this but generally some form of exercise, relaxation, etc works. Remove yourself from the situation and move on.
And theres always the ever popular advice: "the best way to get over someone is to get under someone new"
That's the thing, I do know it's totally trivial and that I'm overreacting, and it is trivial, just need to pull back long enough for the rest of my brain to catch up!
Sounds like you are on the right path already. Occupy your mind with other positive things and let the negativity go. "You're a clever lady Ms N, long run, man up and roll with the punches!!! | |||
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"Butthurt Haven't heard that one before...
Sounds to me like youve answered your own question. You are aware its trivial and that you're overreacting. That's the hard part. Seeing the reality.
Things only affect us when/how we let them. Do what you need to do to rise above and let it go. I have my own methods of doing this but generally some form of exercise, relaxation, etc works. Remove yourself from the situation and move on.
And theres always the ever popular advice: "the best way to get over someone is to get under someone new"
That's the thing, I do know it's totally trivial and that I'm overreacting, and it is trivial, just need to pull back long enough for the rest of my brain to catch up!
Sounds like you are on the right path already. Occupy your mind with other positive things and let the negativity go.
You're a clever lady Ms N, long run, man up and roll with the punches!!! "Trust me I need to take my own advice sometimes. Its always easier said than done. Enjoy the butt toning... Not like you need any obviously | |||
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"Not relating to your situation, but butthurt could describe a lot of single guys reactions to rejection around here!" How true!! | |||
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"Butthurt Haven't heard that one before...
Sounds to me like youve answered your own question. You are aware its trivial and that you're overreacting. That's the hard part. Seeing the reality.
Things only affect us when/how we let them. Do what you need to do to rise above and let it go. I have my own methods of doing this but generally some form of exercise, relaxation, etc works. Remove yourself from the situation and move on.
And theres always the ever popular advice: "the best way to get over someone is to get under someone new"
That's the thing, I do know it's totally trivial and that I'm overreacting, and it is trivial, just need to pull back long enough for the rest of my brain to catch up!"You've just answered your own question love. Take a step back until your brain catches up with your emotions | |||
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However you need to reduce youre negativity and your emotions and your healthy state of mind will adjust in due course. Focus on the positives and those things that are within your control to change. As for those outside your control, you must let them pass you by.
Always think of the guy who got stressed himself sick worrying about tomorrow? Well it still happened!
Stay strong and positive and you will be able to take more control of your mind and emotions.
Good luck! | |||
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"Butthurt Haven't heard that one before...
Sounds to me like youve answered your own question. You are aware its trivial and that you're overreacting. That's the hard part. Seeing the reality.
Things only affect us when/how we let them. Do what you need to do to rise above and let it go. I have my own methods of doing this but generally some form of exercise, relaxation, etc works. Remove yourself from the situation and move on.
And theres always the ever popular advice: "the best way to get over someone is to get under someone new"
That's the thing, I do know it's totally trivial and that I'm overreacting, and it is trivial, just need to pull back long enough for the rest of my brain to catch up!
Sounds like you are on the right path already. Occupy your mind with other positive things and let the negativity go.
You're a clever lady Ms N, long run, man up and roll with the punches!!!
Trust me I need to take my own advice sometimes. Its always easier said than done. Enjoy the butt toning... Not like you need any obviously "Lol, we're all great at giving advice but yours hit the mark with me today, even if you dont follow it toyeslfe.You were right person in the right place at the tright time", thank you very much
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"Butthurt Haven't heard that one before...
Sounds to me like youve answered your own question. You are aware its trivial and that you're overreacting. That's the hard part. Seeing the reality.
Things only affect us when/how we let them. Do what you need to do to rise above and let it go. I have my own methods of doing this but generally some form of exercise, relaxation, etc works. Remove yourself from the situation and move on.
And theres always the ever popular advice: "the best way to get over someone is to get under someone new""Oooooohhhh look at you Ms Naughty getting all psychological and counselly. Actually very sound and sage advice. Do you take private appointments I have some issues my self?  | |||
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"Butthurt Haven't heard that one before...
Sounds to me like youve answered your own question. You are aware its trivial and that you're overreacting. That's the hard part. Seeing the reality.
Things only affect us when/how we let them. Do what you need to do to rise above and let it go. I have my own methods of doing this but generally some form of exercise, relaxation, etc works. Remove yourself from the situation and move on.
And theres always the ever popular advice: "the best way to get over someone is to get under someone new"
Oooooohhhh look at you Ms Naughty getting all psychological and counselly. Actually very sound and sage advice. Do you take private appointments I have some issues my self? "Haha yep get in the queue.. Ill pm you my fees.  | |||
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"I thought this thread was about the aftrr effects of bad anal.
However you need to reduce youre negativity and your emotions and your healthy state of mind will adjust in due course. Focus on the positives and those things that are within your control to change. As for those outside your control, you must let them pass you by.
Always think of the guy who got stressed himself sick worrying about tomorrow? Well it still happened!
Stay strong and positive and you will be able to take more control of your mind and emotions.
Good luck!"Cheers man! I fekin love the story about the guy worrying about tomorrow!!! Well after a goodnight out on the tiles and a feed of drink (I'm getting flashbacks of some ramdomer buying me shots lol) my brain finally fingered out I was being a tool!!!! I apologized to the "aggressor" and she laughed at me saying WFT are you on about,lol, total non issue in the end | |||
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"I thought this thread was about the aftrr effects of bad anal.
However you need to reduce youre negativity and your emotions and your healthy state of mind will adjust in due course. Focus on the positives and those things that are within your control to change. As for those outside your control, you must let them pass you by.
Always think of the guy who got stressed himself sick worrying about tomorrow? Well it still happened!
Stay strong and positive and you will be able to take more control of your mind and emotions.
Good luck!
Cheers man! I fekin love the story about the guy worrying about tomorrow!!!
Well after a goodnight out on the tiles and a feed of drink (I'm getting flashbacks of some ramdomer buying me shots lol) my brain finally fingered out I was being a tool!!!! I apologized to the "aggressor" and she laughed at me saying WFT are you on about,lol, total non issue in the end" | |||
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"I thought this thread was about the aftrr effects of bad anal.
However you need to reduce youre negativity and your emotions and your healthy state of mind will adjust in due course. Focus on the positives and those things that are within your control to change. As for those outside your control, you must let them pass you by.
Always think of the guy who got stressed himself sick worrying about tomorrow? Well it still happened!
Stay strong and positive and you will be able to take more control of your mind and emotions.
Good luck!
Cheers man! I fekin love the story about the guy worrying about tomorrow!!!
Well after a goodnight out on the tiles and a feed of drink (I'm getting flashbacks of some ramdomer buying me shots lol) my brain finally fingered out I was being a tool!!!! I apologized to the "aggressor" and she laughed at me saying WFT are you on about,lol, total non issue in the end"Youre welcome!! Just remember you are as normal as the rest of us as we all have good days and bad ones. The best we can do is try and make sure the good ones outnumber the bad ones. | |||
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"I'm suffering it right now (something in RL) but I know it's only butthurt, I know I'm the one making the big deal out of it and I also know it's just irrational thoughts, so my question is, if I know theses things why do I still want to throw my toys out of the pram? How does one step back with grace? Your butthurt is based on a narrow view of the world at the moment. Your focusing on the opinions of one person instead of looking at the picture as a whole. M had a similar issue a while back. He was nasty, the other person was nasty. M removed a serious issue from his life and reverted back to the gent he is. The other person, not having an "issue" to remove, continued to be nasty. M now has a wider view of the world and is far more happy. Look at the amount of positives in your life and not the one negative. Try not to revert back to that one thing and give it time. Life rights it's self. D. Butthurt: An inappropriately strong negative emotional response from a perceived personal insult. Characterized by strong feelings of shame. Frequently associated with a cessation of communication and overt hostility towards the "aggressor." Adam got butthurt when Mike stole his bitch. " | |||
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