FabSwingers.com forum: Can accommodate???

By *cjoy OP Couple
over a year ago

Galway

Just looking for people's opinion on something I've been thinking about.

How acceptable is it to have a meet in your own home but to ask that your guest/guests leave after playing?

We quite often have a free house, but I'm not sure how I feel about having people I don't really know staying the night.

We have never had a meet at our house because of this as I feel it may be a little unfair to the person/people who have to travel.

Thoughts please?

Miss Mcjoy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We had a party in our house and we made it quite clear that noone could stay. It is your house and your rules and others must respect that.

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By *ymguylMan
over a year ago

ennis

if you feel comfortable there and people are respectful and you know them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I already have a place to stay nearby, then I don't mind being asked to leave after play.

If I don't have anywhere to go, then I'd make you aware of it beforehand and ask if you'd have a spare room.

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By *cjoy OP Couple
over a year ago

Galway

Yeah it just makes it quite tricky. Obviously if we knew the person/people it would be fine.

But if we were thinking of planning a mmf I think I would prefer the guy not to stay the night.

Miss Mcjoy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Saying that though; if I'm travelling, then I always do my best to arrange accommodation for myself as I don't like to rely on others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your house, your rules.

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By *ymguylMan
over a year ago

ennis

then I would not drink so as to be able to drive home

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have had a few parties here at home most leave after play we don't mind letting ones stay over as we have known them along time. If you don't want anyone to stay over just state that you can't accommodate over night they do understand and make other arrangements hope this helps xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would think it's fair enough for strangers not to stay over...but on the other hand if you are comfortable to invite them to your home then you probably would be happy with them staying after...

I'd be thinking this would only happen on repeat meets when a level of trust has been established..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesn't do sleep overs lol

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By *lfieWoman
over a year ago

South Dublin

You make it clear beforehand what's going to happen when playtime is over.

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By *cjoy OP Couple
over a year ago

Galway

Thanks for all the responses, great to see the different opinions.

We only have a small house and all rooms except ours are single rooms and I wouldnt be comfortable having people I don't know staying in them.

I think I'm leaning towards my house my choice, and then it's totally up the the person of they want to come or not

Miss Mcjoy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

True story, it should never be expected.

That said....sleepovers with a sexy ladyfriend are the best. Fuck all night, pass out....straight to morning sex

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By *ymguylMan
over a year ago

ennis

that excathy how it should be' your post above me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks for all the responses, great to see the different opinions.

We only have a small house and all rooms except ours are single rooms and I wouldnt be comfortable having people I don't know staying in them.

I think I'm leaning towards my house my choice, and then it's totally up the the person of they want to come or not

Miss Mcjoy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with the trust issue, when we have a party people leave a while after playing or they'be booked in somewhere nearby. Have had people stay over and probably would have again.

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

If you make it clear from the beginning that you don't like the person to stay over the whole night, I don't see a problem. Should they not like that, so be it and move on to the next who will accept your rules. As simple as that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We had a party in our house and we made it quite clear that noone could stay. It is your house and your rules and others must respect that."

We would agree. Its your home and people should respect that

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By *urious2013cCouple
over a year ago

Co Cork

"Just looking for people's opinion on something I've been thinking about.

How acceptable is it to have a meet in your own home but to ask that your guest/guests leave after playing?

We quite often have a free house, but I'm not sure how I feel about having people I don't really know staying the night.

We have never had a meet at our house because of this as I feel it may be a little unfair to the person/people who have to travel.

Thoughts please?

Miss Mcjoy

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we often accomadate in our house and no one's stays over night

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By *cjoy OP Couple
over a year ago

Galway

"Just looking for people's opinion on something I've been thinking about.

How acceptable is it to have a meet in your own home but to ask that your guest/guests leave after playing?

We quite often have a free house, but I'm not sure how I feel about having people I don't really know staying the night.

We have never had a meet at our house because of this as I feel it may be a little unfair to the person/people who have to travel.

Thoughts please?

Miss Mcjoy

we often accomadate in our house and no one's stays over night "

Oh great...... And everyone is happy with that arrangement?

The nearest place to stay is 10 minutes from our house so there is the option of that I suppose.

Miss Mcjoy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of our meets are at our home but there's no way I would put someone up just a no no I have no issue in going half too pay for there room in a local hotel or b&b or towards petrol for them but a sleep over at our home not a chance unless we really know them and have met them a good few times then we can bend the rules a little

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We had a party in our house and we made it quite clear that noone could stay. It is your house and your rules and others must respect that.

We would agree. Its your home and people should respect that "

Totally agree

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By *ohn MingoMan
over a year ago

Dublin

Your house, your rules.

I have been lucky enough to have been put up for the night a few times(usually parties) but the odd single meet has allowed me to stay over too. (i must be trustworthy) But i don't get annoyed if i'm told "after you're done, you're gone"

That being said miss _cjoy, i'd love a sleepover at yours!

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By *owdyboy 890Man
over a year ago

Country West

I wouldn't leave people stay over unless you know them very well you could get up in the morning find them gone and stuff in the house gone as well just saying.

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By *cjoy OP Couple
over a year ago

Galway

"Your house, your rules.

That being said miss _cjoy, i'd love a sleepover at yours!"

Haha Mr Mingo......... I think sleepovers are off the cards........

who needs sleep anyway!!!

Miss Mcjoy

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By *ohn MingoMan
over a year ago

Dublin

"Your house, your rules.

That being said miss _cjoy, i'd love a sleepover at yours!

Haha Mr Mingo......... I think sleepovers are off the cards........

who needs sleep anyway!!!

Miss Mcjoy

I use the term loosely of course....no sleep around you!

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By *cjoy OP Couple
over a year ago

Galway

"I wouldn't leave people stay over unless you know them very well you could get up in the morning find them gone and stuff in the house gone as well just saying."

Ah no, it's nothing like that at all. I'm a trusting type of person do that wouldn't enter my head and I'm usually a very good judge of character.

My issue is that our home is a family home and having strangers staying makes me a little uncomfortable.

Miss Mcjoy

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By *cjoy OP Couple
over a year ago

Galway

"Your house, your rules.

That being said miss _cjoy, i'd love a sleepover at yours!

Haha Mr Mingo......... I think sleepovers are off the cards........

who needs sleep anyway!!!

Miss Mcjoy

I use the term loosely of course....no sleep around you!"

Haha there'd be very little sleep alright

Miss Mcjoy

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By *ohn MingoMan
over a year ago

Dublin

Strangers are just friends you haven't met.....or fuckd, yet!

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By *cjoy OP Couple
over a year ago

Galway

"Strangers are just friends you haven't met.....or fuckd, yet!"

Absolutely

Miss Mcjoy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think alot of ppl would feel uncomfortable staying as well. If I'm traveling to meet someone I'll book a hotel room and can meet there or if it's local I'll just head away home when the time is right.

No one should out stay a welcome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just looking for people's opinion on something I've been thinking about.

How acceptable is it to have a meet in your own home but to ask that your guest/guests leave after playing?

We quite often have a free house, but I'm not sure how I feel about having people I don't really know staying the night.

We have never had a meet at our house because of this as I feel it may be a little unfair to the person/people who have to travel.

Thoughts please?

Miss Mcjoy

Lay out the rules before hand. It's up to that person then to go along with it or not. If it happened that you were very comfortable with the meet you could then invite them to stay over.

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By *cjoy OP Couple
over a year ago

Galway

"Just looking for people's opinion on something I've been thinking about.

How acceptable is it to have a meet in your own home but to ask that your guest/guests leave after playing?

We quite often have a free house, but I'm not sure how I feel about having people I don't really know staying the night.

We have never had a meet at our house because of this as I feel it may be a little unfair to the person/people who have to travel.

Thoughts please?

Miss Mcjoy

Lay out the rules before hand. It's up to that person then to go along with it or not. If it happened that you were very comfortable with the meet you could then invite them to stay over."

That's very true!!

Miss Mcjoy

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By *ara44Woman
over a year ago

city

But do u really I mean really know who ur bringing in to ur family home.no is the new yes here...just my view ...

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By *cjoy OP Couple
over a year ago

Galway

"But do u really I mean really know who ur bringing in to ur family home.no is the new yes here...just my view ...

This is exactly it!!! No you really don't.

Miss Mcjoy

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By *ilderMan
over a year ago

dublin

That's totally understandable. Some people expect to stay over when you are inviting them to yours so best to be upfront and say it. Personally I expect nothing but best to be clear with people. Assuming that's the case then swing on!

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By *ara44Woman
over a year ago

city

Lots of guys on here seem very nice but when u say no or not my type .that's when the inner mental demon comes out...would never bring anyone into my home..very dangerous thing to do...unless u know them very well..there's good and bad every where. Some really genuine guys on here also..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would think it's fair enough for strangers not to stay over...but on the other hand if you are comfortable to invite them to your home then you probably would be happy with them staying after...

I'd be thinking this would only happen on repeat meets when a level of trust has been established..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks for all the responses, great to see the different opinions.

We only have a small house and all rooms except ours are single rooms and I wouldnt be comfortable having people I don't know staying in them.

I think I'm leaning towards my house my choice, and then it's totally up the the person of they want to come or not

Miss Mcjoy

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that's the right attitude to have

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just looking for people's opinion on something I've been thinking about.

How acceptable is it to have a meet in your own home but to ask that your guest/guests leave after playing?

We quite often have a free house, but I'm not sure how I feel about having people I don't really know staying the night.

We have never had a meet at our house because of this as I feel it may be a little unfair to the person/people who have to travel.

Thoughts please?

Miss Mcjoy

Depends I suppose. Basically it's ok, did the same but when getting to know the ppl, occasionally I or they stayed over.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it doesn't feel right,then don't do it,it would just play on your mind and quite possibly,take the focus of having fun.

Explain CLEARLY that you prefer them to leave and there should be no hassle. It is after all your family home,no one or nothing should interfere with you and your home place.

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By *cjoy OP Couple
over a year ago

Galway

"If it doesn't feel right,then don't do it,it would just play on your mind and quite possibly,take the focus of having fun.

Explain CLEARLY that you prefer them to leave and there should be no hassle. It is after all your family home,no one or nothing should interfere with you and your home place."

See, this is it...... Home is very important to me and I'd be very upset if anyone or anything upset the balance here.

Miss Mcjoy

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By *0shadesofashWoman
over a year ago

DUBLIN

It's all about what you'd want not what others want Hun if u don't want people to stay u let them no that and it's not hard for someone to get in there car and fuck off after and if you's wanna have a few drinks a taxi is easily rang and a hotel

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By *cjoy OP Couple
over a year ago

Galway

"It's all about what you'd want not what others want Hun if u don't want people to stay u let them no that and it's not hard for someone to get in there car and fuck off after and if you's wanna have a few drinks a taxi is easily rang and a hotel "

Haha no taxis or hotels out here!!!! Just cows remember Ash!!!

Miss Mcjoy

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

I think it would unreasonable to expect to stay over unless discussed before hand. As u say its family home u don't know who or when somebody will pop in

Having said that playtime may not finish before the milk man knocks the door

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have had a few parties here at home most leave after play we don't mind letting ones stay over as we have known them along time. If you don't want anyone to stay over just state that you can't accommodate over night they do understand and make other arrangements hope this helps xx"

Sorry off topic but great pics H&S very clever

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By *0shadesofashWoman
over a year ago

DUBLIN

Haha no taxis or hotels out here!!!! Just cows remember Ash!!!

Miss Mcjoy

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haha well they could always feed the cows with Pringles to give them a lift haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well have to say i can acc dont mind ladys staying over been lucky enough to have some great meets,but i kind of have to get to know them first tho.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If a guy lucky enuf to be asked to join u n Mr n it's made clear that when play over its home time is more than acceptable huni xx home is home n respect is earned xx

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By *oughandCurvyCouple
over a year ago

galway

We've had meets at our home a few times but we've always made it clear that we don't do sleep overs unless it's people we know really well. It's your house so you make the rules!

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By *cjoy OP Couple
over a year ago

Galway

"If a guy lucky enuf to be asked to join u n Mr n it's made clear that when play over its home time is more than acceptable huni xx home is home n respect is earned xx"

Thank you

Miss Mcjoy

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By *cjoy OP Couple
over a year ago

Galway

"We've had meets at our home a few times but we've always made it clear that we don't do sleep overs unless it's people we know really well. It's your house so you make the rules!"

Thanks x

Miss Mcjoy

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By *cjoy OP Couple
over a year ago

Galway

Thanks everyone for all the input and advice. This is something new for us (still in the thinking stages) and everyone's comments have been a big help.

I think we'll go with our initial plan and just have a no sleepover policy...... But rules could always be bent for very special people

Miss Mcjoy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer not to stay over and prefer people don't stay over, a few times I've had to nudge someone after 3-4 hours and say "Coffee before you go?" is unreal lol

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By *cjoy OP Couple
over a year ago

Galway

"I prefer not to stay over and prefer people don't stay over, a few times I've had to nudge someone after 3-4 hours and say "Coffee before you go?" is unreal lol"

Coffee before we go again?!?

Miss Mcjoy

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