FabSwingers.com forum: Single Males

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Coffee meet recently and the male had a chip on his shoulder about how "single males" are treated on the site... Maybe I'm bit naive but the ones I've met seem to have a great time.. Love to hear others opinions on this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a coffee meet recently and it went really well. Yes it is hard for single guys, but its no different to the REAL world. My advice is to be yourself, go with the flow and things will happen, maybe not straight away, but they will

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've always believed that the single males are the group on here who are most sought after. Everyone is entitled to their preferences,but several times we advertised looking for single males to make up an mmf,the replies were rather sparse to say the least. So even though single male profiles seem to be in plentiful supply,a lot just don't seem to be 'active'

I'm sure the same can be said for couples and females etc etc also.

As for single males having a bad name,well we have found that all divisions of fab are equally capable of poor judgement in messaging,friends requests etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doing fine here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've always believed that the single males are the group on here who are most sought after. Everyone is entitled to their preferences,but several times we advertised looking for single males to make up an mmf,the replies were rather sparse to say the least. So even though single male profiles seem to be in plentiful supply,a lot just don't seem to be 'active'

I'm sure the same can be said for couples and females etc etc also.

As for single males having a bad name,well we have found that all divisions of fab are equally capable of poor judgement in messaging,friends requests etc.

Would love that invite

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By *adgaggzMan
over a year ago

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"Coffee meet recently and the male had a chip on his shoulder about how "single males" are treated on the site... Maybe I'm bit naive but the ones I've met seem to have a great time.. Love to hear others opinions on this

I'm having a good time on here, enjoying the forums and have been invited to 2 socials which I'm looking forward to and which will hopefully help with more meets, I don't think single guys are treated badly anyway!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I must say I'm going ok as a single guy on here I don't really expect much just go with the flow really,I don't have to prove myself to anyone I'm just an average single bloke.

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By *allfungent24Man
over a year ago

city

It is difficult for single makes but he should have enjoyed the coffee meet and taken it from there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We recently took the single fellas filter of our profile. Well the Lord jaysus if ya seen the kind of messages we were getting from some of these lads, and at all hour's. In saying that there was 2 lads that did send us messages and they didn't talk the shit. We had to put the filter back on. So guy's if yous are go it to message people I thither a bit of normal chat would be better, not this stuttering about What ya want to do.

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By *aid backMan
over a year ago

by a lake with my rod out

ive definitely not been treated badly and iv been at this for a number of years. but a lot of single guys dont do the group any favors as they are the most likely not to turn up to meets parties and socials it happens all the time you lose about 50% of the invitees. a lot of them want to put in the least amount of effort to get the maximum return. ask any woman or cpl how many times they get the want to fuck message or how many guys failed to turn up for meets or those that dont want to do a coffee meet first and jut want the ride. but those that put in the time and effort get the best results.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Was just a general conversation he's around a while and verified but thinking about breaking into the social aspect. He seemed to think it was closed shop.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sure the same can be said for couples and females etc etc also.

As for single males having a bad name,well we have found that all divisions of fab are equally capable of poor judgement in messaging,friends requests etc.

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single guys outnumber single women and couples 20/1 I would say, easy to be sought after

lol,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is tough for us single guys but no different than being out an about just have to get out their as my time in Galway I think I just talked to much lol

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By *ymguylMan
over a year ago

ennis

im single male on here and plenty of people chating to me' other not responding but that I would thing is the amount of mail ladies get' just not interested which is there right or im not what they are looking for' im getting on good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Was just a general conversation he's around a while and verified but thinking about breaking into the social aspect. He seemed to think it was closed shop. "

Well whinging won,t help, sure shud been enjoying you, we have met single guys who have been sensible n mannerly x

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By *8ng4uCouple
over a year ago

Corona

So, what is the proper way to introduce the male friend when in a lifestyle function? We've heard "pet","toy", "boy toy " and many other titles. We know for a single female "unicorn" fits nicely. Any suggestions?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

single guys.

Just sayin'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doing fine here.

It's hard enough for single guys on here at times without their meets, social or otherwise, being discussed on a public forum.

I think it's very indiscreet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of the single men we know here are dammed happy with themselves, they get meets regular enough, seem to be having fun and having fun..

**** which is what this meant to be for both singles & cpls****

Then there are the men that seem to get mad at rejection... whooaaaa thats another kettle of fish, a chip on the shoulder is not how i would describe them

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Was just a general conversation he's around a while and verified but thinking about breaking into the social aspect. He seemed to think it was closed shop.

Well whinging won,t help, sure shud been enjoying you, we have met single guys who have been sensible n mannerly x"

He just had made up his mind

I was trying to explain about what Laid was saying about the no shows and how people like reliable and how hard it is to find discrete reliable single males.. Hopefully he listened

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By *allfungent24Man
over a year ago

city

"Most of the single men we know here are dammed happy with themselves, they get meets regular enough, seem to be having fun and having fun..

**** which is what this meant to be for both singles & cpls****

Then there are the men that seem to get mad at rejection... whooaaaa thats another kettle of fish, a chip on the shoulder is not how i would describe them"

It's all about choice swinging. If you don't wanna play with someone they should be big enough to understand that. I've had a couple of single girls over the years who have taken umbrage to a polite no thank you!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Doing fine here.

It's hard enough for single guys on here at times without their meets, social or otherwise, being discussed on a public forum.

I think it's very indiscreet. "

The meet isn't being discussed

but were all entitled to our opinion

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By *ob McFlirtyMan
over a year ago

Islington

Well, there's no point in having a chip on your shoulder or crying when things don't go you way. Fab's what it is. Treat it and others with respect and good things will come your way... eventually.

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By *ymguylMan
over a year ago

ennis

wise and true words

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We r looking for single male at the moment 20-38....fit and looks after himself and very discreet!.. And clean!

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By *ecretly seductiveWoman
over a year ago

Palookaville

"Well, there's no point in having a chip on your shoulder or crying when things don't go you way. Fab's what it is. Treat it and others with respect and good things will come your way... eventually.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well, there's no point in having a chip on your shoulder or crying when things don't go you way. Fab's what it is. Treat it and others with respect and good things will come your way... eventually.

thats for all on here,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Was just a general conversation he's around a while and verified but thinking about breaking into the social aspect. He seemed to think it was closed shop.

Well whinging won,t help, sure shud been enjoying you, we have met single guys who have been sensible n mannerly x

He just had made up his mind

I was trying to explain about what Laid was saying about the no shows and how people like reliable and how hard it is to find discrete reliable single males.. Hopefully he listened

Good advice chick from u n laid xx

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By *ecretly seductiveWoman
over a year ago

Palookaville

"Was just a general conversation he's around a while and verified but thinking about breaking into the social aspect. He seemed to think it was closed shop.

Well whinging won,t help, sure shud been enjoying you, we have met single guys who have been sensible n mannerly x

He just had made up his mind

I was trying to explain about what Laid was saying about the no shows and how people like reliable and how hard it is to find discrete reliable single males.. Hopefully he listened

Good advice chick from u n laid xx"

You do know laid males exceedingly good cakes too!

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By *ub_leitrim_guyMan
over a year ago

Out in the sticks

"We recently took the single fellas filter of our profile. Well the Lord jaysus if ya seen the kind of messages we were getting from some of these lads, and at all hour's. In saying that there was 2 lads that did send us messages and they didn't talk the shit. We had to put the filter back on. So guy's if yous are go it to message people I thither a bit of normal chat would be better, not this stuttering about What ya want to do."

Just in discussions with the few couples I have met this seems to be the major problem... idiotic emails from guys that don't have a clue, and they were getting dozens of these every week.

It's no wonder couples/females turn on filters!!

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By *razy-CplCouple
over a year ago

and surrounding areas

"Was just a general conversation he's around a while and verified but thinking about breaking into the social aspect. He seemed to think it was closed shop.

Well whinging won,t help, sure shud been enjoying you, we have met single guys who have been sensible n mannerly x

He just had made up his mind

I was trying to explain about what Laid was saying about the no shows and how people like reliable and how hard it is to find discrete reliable single males.. Hopefully he listened

Good advice chick from u n laid xx

You do know laid males exceedingly good cakes too!

He's not just a pretty face

Mrs crazy

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By *ceryMan
over a year ago

Malahide & Waterford

Single males have a life outside of fab too and despite having the straight no male need apply sign up we get a lot of sh*t from other single males so I can only imaging what you lovely ladies and couples have to put up with. That said it can be a tough nut to crack and yes as others have mentioned single M no shows is a problem message I constantly hear. Though to repeat others you need to be yourself, go with the flow and get engaged (metaphorically) with people. Patient.... p.s. miscar anytime I see you you're having a great time too...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The meet isn't being discussed

but were all entitled to our opinion

I have to agree with Peter, the guy will clearly know it is about him which seems a bit unfair, so it is being discussed, albeit indirectly.

Any status or thread discussing the downsides of a recent meet are in bad taste. There are worse examples than this of course.

Saying that some single guys have a chip on their shoulder is just stating the obvious and not worth discussing.

Peace and love

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Id love an invite x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Id love an Invite too I love joining couples for 3sums xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think we are treated bad. It's just that there are so many of us that women and couples have a big pot to choose from and it's just the nature of things on here that we are not going to get loads of mail or replies.

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By *at69driveMan
over a year ago

Hertford

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. As with most things in life , the results will depend on the effort which you put in and how you market yourself. What was his profile like and how much effort had he put into preparing it ?

I have always found that the single males who complain generally have very poor profiles and the same applies to their pictures .

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By *ymguylMan
over a year ago

ennis

well single guys are on fab to join couples who seek them'it there choice who they choose' but singles are here to spice it up for couples'but we all here for a reason' so respct and be polite are inportant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it's not hard for single males here then there won't be much other than coffee....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Id love an Invite too I love joining couples for 3sums xx"

And that is an example of why single guys are all often all tarred with the one brush!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"ive definitely not been treated badly and iv been at this for a number of years. but a lot of single guys dont do the group any favors as they are the most likely not to turn up to meets parties and socials it happens all the time you lose about 50% of the invitees. a lot of them want to put in the least amount of effort to get the maximum return. ask any woman or cpl how many times they get the want to fuck message or how many guys failed to turn up for meets or those that dont want to do a coffee meet first and jut want the ride. but those that put in the time and effort get the best results. "

Well said

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By *ymguylMan
over a year ago

ennis

I would turn up to a meet and regardless of weather it goes to next step is with the lady' it manner to turn up'

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By *ob McFlirtyMan
over a year ago

Islington

"Id love an Invite too I love joining couples for 3sums xx

And that is an example of why single guys are all often all tarred with the one brush!!"

its bit unfair to label everyone as a dickhead just because one guy is.

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By *ymguylMan
over a year ago

ennis

that exactly how it is' some are trying and others are not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to say lots of single guys who join my partys are very lucky sometimes more then just once or twice I still wounder how is that possible after last party

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Id love an Invite too I love joining couples for 3sums xx

And that is an example of why single guys are all often all tarred with the one brush!!

its bit unfair to label everyone as a dickhead just because one guy is. "

It is unfair but unfortunately reality, the amount of similar messages single females get is astounding....

Fortunately there are plenty of decent fellas on here too!

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By *ob McFlirtyMan
over a year ago

Islington

"Id love an Invite too I love joining couples for 3sums xx

And that is an example of why single guys are all often all tarred with the one brush!!

its bit unfair to label everyone as a dickhead just because one guy is.

It is unfair but unfortunately reality, the amount of similar messages single females get is astounding....

Fortunately there are plenty of decent fellas on here too!"

I don't pre-judge anyone or send that sort of tripe.. but them I don't have the same issues that women will have on site, so my opinion is fairly limited in that sense. I'm not saying I'm a decent falla, I just don't think we're all dickheads.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only ever wanted to meet single men when my profile was active but rarely received messages , it was mostly the opposite attached/married men whom were very nice but I've no interest in meeting with them .... go figure

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By *arkedMan
over a year ago

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By *arkedMan
over a year ago

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I may only have been here 9 months so far, but I've enjoyed every day of it. I've had a couple of coffee meets as well as 4 meets and I've enjoyed everyone of them. I believe reliability, honesty and respect are essential and also I have never asked to meet, never mind accepted an invitation from someone unless I've been 100% positive I could make it.

Yes because there's so many of us, we have to work hard to stand out and attract attention, but that's no different to going to a nightclub is it?

Personally I've found the hardest 'thing' to convince some people about is that I genuinely am single, but that's because there are so many of that new division of guys known as 'married but I'll say I'm single because I've a better chance of a ride'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably may have had a general chip on his shoulder, or just having a bad day. My limited experience of the site is overwhelmingly positive, full of "fab" people. Treat people properly, and get treated properly in return.

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By *nly me nowMan
over a year ago

Monaghan

Been on here a little while now.. And I have to say.. It's a wonderful site... We're all here to have fun and a chat and a bit of banter.... Maybe it was the coffee its very hard to get a good cup of coffee... And that's what set him off on one... He had nothing to give out about the lady turned up more than lightly on time and looking stunning.. You can be the best at texting but face to face you have to be naturally charming.. Or just be yourself and enjoy the moment...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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Maybe the chip on his sholder was his dinner.

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By *-ManMan
over a year ago

Kark

In my experience, the worst I've been treated is no reply. 99% of the interactions have been nothing but positive except one that ended poorly, but that was my own fault. Ok, none have ended in meets just yet but I'm in no hurry, all good things come....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the single laddies(all the single laddies)

All the single laddies now put your hands up...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"All the single laddies(all the single laddies)

All the single laddies now put your hands up... "

All I can think of now is Katherine Lynch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So the single lads have to work harder.. there are far more of them after all... imagine if he was attached? He'd be running a chipper with all the chips....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"All the single laddies(all the single laddies)

All the single laddies now put your hands up...

All I can think of now is Katherine Lynch

Is she stealing my material again A?

Da bleedin' cheek of hor.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"All the single laddies(all the single laddies)

All the single laddies now put your hands up...

All I can think of now is Katherine Lynch

Is she stealing my material again A?

Da bleedin' cheek of hor."
Ah she is funny your just ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is she stealing my material again A?

Da bleedin' cheek of hor.Ah she is funny your just ?"

Out of your league?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is she stealing my material again A?

Da bleedin' cheek of hor.Ah she is funny your just ?

Out of your league?

Hahahahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is she stealing my material again A?

Da bleedin' cheek of hor.Ah she is funny your just ?

Out of your league?

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your definitely in a league of your own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Come on back rouge

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

To clarify it wasn't a bad coffee meet or anyone I've verified or that's verified me. Was part of a general conversation and I only wondered how single males felt in general on the site. As I stated myself I thought most single males here were happy out. It's just a discussion not a row only looking opinions

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By *ohn MingoMan
over a year ago

Dublin

This "it's a closed shop" line is a load of bollocks. If that were the truth, i'd still be here trying to break through....

No, it's just that a lot of single guys don't see swinging for what it is, a lifestyle choice. Not "a quick ride" or "i'm not getting any at home"

To be a successful single male swinger requires focus and effort. and I'm sorry but if you're attached or playing away from home without your partners knowledge then you cant give swinging the focus and effort it deserves.

Put in the work, and it comes back tenfold. Don't and you're just another statistic, and i'm sorry, but wont be pitying you as you fall by the wayside.

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By *-ManMan
over a year ago

Kark

"This "it's a closed shop" line is a load of bollocks. If that were the truth, i'd still be here trying to break through....

No, it's just that a lot of single guys don't see swinging for what it is, a lifestyle choice. Not "a quick ride" or "i'm not getting any at home"

Put in the work, and it comes back tenfold. Don't and you're just another statistic, and i'm sorry, but wont be pitying you as you fall by the wayside. "

That's some post

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To be a successful single male swinger requires focus and effort. and I'm sorry but if you're attached or playing away from home without your partners knowledge then you cant give swinging the focus and effort it deserves. "

It may limit party availability but you'd be surprised mate

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By *ilderMan
over a year ago

dublin

I threw a party recently and all the verified guys I invited showed up. It was some of the verified couples that were the ones that cancelled on me last minute or didn't show at all. Just my recent experience anyway

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

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No manners, arrogance and ignorance comes in all shapes and forms and is not gender specific.

Loads of genuine, top single lads on here...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Realistically I think for single guys you need to be appealing in some way that the hundreds of others are not.

Or be extremely sycophantic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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am having a fabulous time to be honest Wednesday nights are a bit quiet lol

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By *ecretly seductiveWoman
over a year ago

Palookaville

"This "it's a closed shop" line is a load of bollocks. If that were the truth, i'd still be here trying to break through....

No, it's just that a lot of single guys don't see swinging for what it is, a lifestyle choice. Not "a quick ride" or "i'm not getting any at home"

Put in the work, and it comes back tenfold. Don't and you're just another statistic, and i'm sorry, but wont be pitying you as you fall by the wayside.

That's some post

But fairly accurate for a lot of guys. .those that are decent dependable,trustworth and fun guys are worth their weight in gold

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

single guys.

Just sayin'

Wanna show me some of that bold

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By *ymguylMan
over a year ago

ennis

well it true' it a lifestyle and you get what you put in' I would always try to do meets with in a distance that reasonible

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