FabSwingers.com forum: Don't like more than 2sums!

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Been chatting with a guy over last couple of days, was hoping our meet tonight was sorted.

But today he messages to say he doesn't like 3sums. That he wouldn't be able to perform with another guy even in the house.

Surely this has to be the wrong site for him, only verified by single girls, only looking to play with girls. I know everyone likes different things, but I can't see too many couples being up for this.

Is there any of you fabulous Irish couples that get asked this? Or indeed do it?

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By *ub_leitrim_guyMan
over a year ago

Out in the sticks

"Been chatting with a guy over last couple of days, was hoping our meet tonight was sorted.

But today he messages to say he doesn't like 3sums. That he wouldn't be able to perform with another guy even in the house.

Is there any of you fabulous Irish couples that get asked this? Or indeed do it?"

What an idiot!! Why couldn't he say up front instead of days later??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Been chatting with a guy over last couple of days, was hoping our meet tonight was sorted.

But today he messages to say he doesn't like 3sums. That he wouldn't be able to perform with another guy even in the house.

Is there any of you fabulous Irish couples that get asked this? Or indeed do it?"

What a jerk .... Youth is wasted on the young

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Silly guy... Meet a lady who is part of a couple and I immerse myself in her. Wouldn't care if there was 10 guys in the room...it's all about her

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

Well in fairness not everyone is up to or cannot even perform with spectators or in a group (3+), however he should have told you from the beginning, like it is now it looks like he tried to sneak into the back door.

I don't think though he's on the wrong site. Swinging takes all different forms and shapes from one to one meets up to parties.

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By *urious2013cCouple
over a year ago

Co Cork

"Been chatting with a guy over last couple of days, was hoping our meet tonight was sorted.

But today he messages to say he doesn't like 3sums. That he wouldn't be able to perform with another guy even in the house.

Is there any of you fabulous Irish couples that get asked this? Or indeed do it?"
yes have come across this guy just won't meet a couple because there is another male close by

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well in fairness not everyone is up to or cannot even perform with spectators or in a group (3+), however he should have told you from the beginning, like it is now it looks like he tried to sneak into the back door.

I don't think though he's on the wrong site. Swinging takes all different forms and shapes from one to one meets up to parties. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can see how the OP is put out by the lad not saying upfront that he feels uncomfortable with having another guy in the room,maybe he was testing his own boundaries and after some thought decided against the idea of it.He probably enjoyed chatting with the fem half of the couple,saying that he shouldn't have led her on into thinking that a playmeet was on the cards.A compromise might have been offer to tie hubby to a chair in the room,ballgagged,let him watch. Also set up a video cam focused on the bed and leave the memory card with the couple

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By *squaredCouple
over a year ago

Dublin/westmeath/kildare

Have been asked this & we run for hills. I like having my partner within screaming distance or someone else JIC . We don't spend ages getting to know ye, go out on dates to finally feel ok with getting you in sack. Im worried when they say it sounds like they could have weird kinky side.

They are in wrong place for sure.

Other one I hate is pics are mine, Im clearly not small, have it on short profile info & in text yet after talking for bit & meet organized its like all of a sudden they read profile & leave me hanging.

Always wondered is it just the though & chase that does it for them? Do they get kick out of teasing & leaving it there knowing that there is woman waiting for him this night? Ego boosting?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We get this a lot ! I understand its not everyone's thing but I hate the chatting for weeks try arrange something and they say but can I just meet you on your own a few times first

wouldn't be much of a 3sum then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have had this happen more than once,fucking annoying when CLEARLY setting up a 3some and then they figure out its not for them,hasn't put us of singles,just tend to go for the more verified men

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By *ub_leitrim_guyMan
over a year ago

Out in the sticks

"Have had this happen more than once,fucking annoying when CLEARLY setting up a 3some and then they figure out its not for them,hasn't put us of singles,just tend to go for the more verified men"

....and it stuffs things up for guys that will meet!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest it would be the cleanest if people opened up with a want/don't want, like/dislike statement and proceed from there...

But we are humans, prone to errors, males here kinda have it difficult so one can understand, not necessarily agree and accept it...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can see how the OP is put out by the lad not saying upfront that he feels uncomfortable with having another guy in the room,maybe he was testing his own boundaries and after some thought decided against the idea of it.He probably enjoyed chatting with the fem half of the couple,saying that he shouldn't have led her on into thinking that a playmeet was on the cards.A compromise might have been offer to tie hubby to a chair in the room,ballgagged,let him watch. Also set up a video cam focused on the bed and leave the memory card with the couple

Why compromise with someone who can't offer another alternative for people even willing to do that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It happens, I clearly state from the beginning if it a problem move on as play won't happen

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By *oldenFingersMan
over a year ago

Fairview

He probably should be on POF so.

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By *ecretly seductiveWoman
over a year ago

Palookaville

I think he should have been up front about that from the start as it is frustrating to make arrangements and then be told that and it has the potential to feel he was being a little underhand and trying to get you to meet him on his own.

But there are many varieties of swingers and not all ate couples or want to engage with couples.

Block and move on is probably best

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Appreciate the views from both sides. For us swinging is something we do together, however neither of us would refuse to leave the other one having some alone time with the right person/couple. But as others have said Mr would have to be in 'ears distance' for my safety and his enjoyment of course. A man who expects to be left on his own with the wife of any couple especially on a first meet just seems ridiculous to us. A couple put a lot more into swinging and have a lot more at stake than a single man but many just can't see that and expect things on their terms.

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By *ub_leitrim_guyMan
over a year ago

Out in the sticks

"Appreciate the views from both sides. For us swinging is something we do together, however neither of us would refuse to leave the other one having some alone time with the right person/couple. But as others have said Mr would have to be in 'ears distance' for my safety and his enjoyment of course. A man who expects to be left on his own with the wife of any couple especially on a first meet just seems ridiculous to us. A couple put a lot more into swinging and have a lot more at stake than a single man but many just can't see that and expect things on their terms. "

Well at least you knew b4 meet time... better than a "no show"!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Been chatting with a guy over last couple of days, was hoping our meet tonight was sorted.

But today he messages to say he doesn't like 3sums. That he wouldn't be able to perform with another guy even in the house.

Is there any of you fabulous Irish couples that get asked this? Or indeed do it? yes have come across this guy just won't meet a couple because there is another male close by "

Then why contact a couple,surely he would be best contactings singles?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He's not on the wrong site but obviously shouldn't be in contact with couples. I think it may be a confidence thing. I'd be surprised if in the right situation with an understanding couple and relaxed he wouldn't get hard.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell him where he went wrong, tell all your friends where he went wrong so they don't get caught..block him...and move swiftly on to the next guy..lol...

..not enough communication in fab...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think though he's on the wrong site. Swinging takes all different forms and shapes from one to one meets up to parties. "
he might have lost his nerve last min.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Been chatting with a guy over last couple of days, was hoping our meet tonight was sorted.

But today he messages to say he doesn't like 3sums. That he wouldn't be able to perform with another guy even in the house.

Is there any of you fabulous Irish couples that get asked this? Or indeed do it?"

Sounds like one of those guys that just wants to meet the female n doing shit like that's the only way he knows how to go about it! It would put me off immediately. We ALL put a lot of trust in people we play with or meet for the first time. So that kind of carry on I think destroys any small element of trust that has been built up. Didn't mean to rant there but that's just my opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know its a case of each to their own but he should've been more honest from the onset.

I think any man entrusted into a couple's confidence should be flattered and observe the appropriate discretions.

I think this type of thing continues to give us single guys on Fab a bad rep due to "once bitten" and all that.

However, hopefully the couples involved in such events could rise above it and continue to satisfy themselves by the fact all single guys are not like him and would willingly accept, and turn up to, any couple's invite.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Been chatting with a guy over last couple of days, was hoping our meet tonight was sorted.

But today he messages to say he doesn't like 3sums. That he wouldn't be able to perform with another guy even in the house.

Is there any of you fabulous Irish couples that get asked this? Or indeed do it?"

We've had that. Funny thing was he went on to meet a couple afterwards.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Been chatting with a guy over last couple of days, was hoping our meet tonight was sorted.

But today he messages to say he doesn't like 3sums. That he wouldn't be able to perform with another guy even in the house.

Is there any of you fabulous Irish couples that get asked this? Or indeed do it?

We've had that. Funny thing was he went on to meet a couple afterwards."

Ya had him that horny he had to try it kitty

be fecking kicking himself missed out on you pair I bet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He definitely can't be normal I mean who doesn't like more than 2somes?? Must have mistaken fab for a dating sight

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been more than happy with 1sums until i joined here and learnt sex is about 2 or more people.

Jez every day is a school day on here!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"He definitely can't be normal I mean who doesn't like more than 2somes?? Must have mistaken fab for a dating sight

that's a stupid statement, how do you know he is not normal?? anyway, this site can be for 2 sums, as 3,4, parties, orgies, gangbangs, etc,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Simple it's all in there verifications.

Shows experience

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By *yintotryCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

"To be honest it would be the cleanest if people opened up with a want/don't want, like/dislike statement and proceed from there...

But we are humans, prone to errors, males here kinda have it difficult so one can understand, not necessarily agree and accept it... "

Why? No one reads profiles anyway!

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