FabSwingers.com forum: is it ignorance or just fabswingers way

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Im still kinda new on this and to night i text lots of people just simple msgs like " hi how are you " and most didnt even answer. I dont take afense or anything i get more then enough outside fab but is it not just pure ignorance to not even reply.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

offence*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

According to Fab rules..no reply is a reply. As in no thanks. Its not fair on the nice guys but it has to be done. Otherwise you end up fending off the creepy types.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Read the rules no reply means the person isnt interested . We ladies get loads of mail a hi how are u mail would prob not even b opened u need to make your first mail catch our attention to reply back

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So it just the fabswingers way then. i was just wondering Cause iv received texts from men coming onto me an as much as it creeped me out i still replyed to say not interested. But as i said im not here long

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Read the rules no reply means the person isnt interested . We ladies get loads of mail a hi how are u mail would prob not even b opened u need to make your first mail catch our attention to reply back

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i suppose i know now

il pass on filling in application forms tho its only bit of sex if not interested from the start then its not gonna happen

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By *-ManMan
over a year ago

Kark

Hey Lim, it's not ignorance mate, they just didn't want to talk is all, no big deal, forget and move on

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hey Lim, it's not ignorance mate, they just didn't want to talk is all, no big deal, forget and move on"
no one likes a lick arse man stop brown nosing trying earn brownie points the forums is for questions like this i said i didnt take offence to it

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By *-ManMan
over a year ago

Kark

"Hey Lim, it's not ignorance mate, they just didn't want to talk is all, no big deal, forget and move on no one likes a lick arse man stop brown nosing trying earn brownie points the forums is for questions like this i said i didnt take offence to it

Whatever dude, have a nice life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think it is ignorance at all not to reply. Yes, you can say it would be only polite to reply but I'd have to agree with the girls. Some get hundreds of messages in a short space of time. It would be a waste of their time to reply to all. It's just the way of it. Maybe attaching a photo to your message and a content with more than a polite hello might get more chance of a response. Worth a try. Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be fair we try and respond to everyone but that comes with problems. If a single guy says hi we say hi back but our politeness is construed as being interested and quickly followed by another 10 messages. So it's difficult to win really.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I was hoping for womans response to the questions to be honest im not gonna take advice off lads thats not verified when i was verified with in a week i just wanted to know is it fab swingers way not to respond not advice or a debate.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"To be fair we try and respond to everyone but that comes with problems. If a single guy says hi we say hi back but our politeness is construed as being interested and quickly followed by another 10 messages. So it's difficult to win really. "
i see where your coming from im sure it can be annoying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol the vicious circle of unwanted messaging! I actually think the no reply policy is a fair one to have, just for that reason. I see it as similar to dating sites. As a single man, I would be on dating sites. The problem I had initially would be replying to all. Then you get caught in conversation and then feel guilty when having to say no. It's the same with profiles with no pics. I'd respond, then eventually the pic would be produced. Inevitably many I just didn't fancy. Then felt guilty again having to say no. It's the same principle here. I have my own set of rules. No pics no reply. Simple hello's, no reply. It's also a no no if all I get is answers, and a lack of interest in knowing me. Everyone has their own ways. I'm a firm believer in gut instinct with people and what's meant to be won't pass you by.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was hoping for womans response to the questions to be honest im not gonna take advice off lads thats not verified when i was verified with in a week i just wanted to know is it fab swingers way not to respond not advice or a debate.

Maybe you should ask for a women's point of view on the question then. Another thing, what has being verified got to do with it? I'll keep going. I wasn't debating, I was throwing in a view on the subject. I'll keep going. You say you respond to messages even from guys, portraying a polite and well mannered man. However your responses on this thread suggest that you are far from that. You'll probably have to lower your expectations of your fab experience after this thread is seen by others.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Relax yourself man your get bit too worked up. I didnt mean to hit a nerve im just saying how it is. Have a wank chill out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Relax yourself man your get bit too worked up. I didnt mean to hit a nerve im just saying how it is. Have a wank chill out"

Ha ha! Relax? I'm totally relaxed, I just don't care for your misguided arrogance and blatant ignorant attitude. Especially as all who posted on the thread, were trying to share their thoughts on the threads subject and maybe help you. So maybe you,"keep it real"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hahahaha you seriously need a hug

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hahahaha you seriously need a hug

You need a lobotomy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's nothing personal darling I try to respond to most mails but its virtually impossible you'd need a full-time secretary my messages over two days 357 unread so a hey there message doesn't really catch your attention sorry and guys can get really stroppy about it too so just be patient it'll happen

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thats all i wanted to know i dint take it personal or get offended was just curious have fellas preaching and ranting at me then callin me names. Keyboard warriors.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The hi how are you mails are a plenty,not exactly a great conversation,they show up mails every day,it gets tedious replying to them,effort shows in what is written,all the above advice was correct,attitude to answers is wanting I think,best of luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thats all i wanted to know i dint take it personal or get offended was just curious have fellas preaching and ranting at me then callin me names. Keyboard warriors."

Nobody called you names. Think you should read over the responses again.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Thats all i wanted to know i dint take it personal or get offended was just curious have fellas preaching and ranting at me then callin me names. Keyboard warriors.

Nobody called you names. Think you should read over the responses again. "
Agrogant? Ignorant? Saying i need brain operation? Dont act like mr nice guy i hit a nerve when said i didnt want advice off lads not verified witch makes sence to me. If didnt like wat i said fuck of my post

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The hi how are you mails are a plenty,not exactly a great conversation,they show up mails every day,it gets tedious replying to them,effort shows in what is written,all the above advice was correct,attitude to answers is wanting I think,best of luck"

thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thats all i wanted to know i dint take it personal or get offended was just curious have fellas preaching and ranting at me then callin me names. Keyboard warriors.

Nobody called you names. Think you should read over the responses again. Agrogant? Ignorant? Saying i need brain operation? Dont act like mr nice guy i hit a nerve when said i didnt want advice off lads not verified witch makes sence to me. If didnt like wat i said fuck of my post"

Think you'll find they're adjectives and a lobotomy is with regard your attitude. Which is increasingly becoming more aggressive! I will continue to post on any forum I choose to do so. As I'm sure you will. Which as a user of this website, is your right as you have fulfilled the necessary criteria to do so. It's bewildering that you have such a distain for some responses. Maybe you should start a new post and add in the full details of who you want to responded to your question and see how that pans out.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I really hope you get verified ASAP cause your in bad need of it... misfortune

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By *lfieWoman
over a year ago

South Dublin

It was the constant 'hi how are u' mails that made me block all messages.

Total lack of imagination, I wouldn't blame any lady for just eye rolling and deleting a mail like that immediately.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It was the constant 'hi how are u' mails that made me block all messages.

Total lack of imagination, I wouldn't blame any lady for just eye rolling and deleting a mail like that immediately. "
as i said im new

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No public pics.

Not much in the profile text

No thought in the message

Delete

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By *-ManMan
over a year ago

Kark

"It was the constant 'hi how are u' mails that made me block all messages.

Total lack of imagination, I wouldn't blame any lady for just eye rolling and deleting a mail like that immediately. "

Morning Elfie! Go on, make me sick, how many mails a day were you getting? Lol

Ps. Can't do the half in Dublin so thinking hard about one on this Sunday, how's your plan going?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I really hope you get verified ASAP cause your in bad need of it... misfortune"

Ha ha, you really have no idea!! That is arrogance!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Limerick lad - with the stinky attitude you seem to have in your posts, you won't go far. You're getting good advice, take it. Be it from guys or girls.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Limerick lad - with the stinky attitude you seem to have in your posts, you won't go far. You're getting good advice, take it. Be it from guys or girls. "
go far? Im ot trying make a career in this its only a swinging site. I just ask a question i wasnt looking for advise and lads not verified giving advise and ranting at me dont make much sence to me. I Didnt or dont mean to offend anyone i just say it how i see it.

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

As u say ur not here long read the forums on previous threads identical to this guys give as much help as cpls or ladies verified or not has nothing to do with it. Join in the craic here with the guys and girls u find if works better if people see ur personality interacting with all others not just fems and cpls they find it easier to reply messages as they have a feel as to who u are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Many females reading this will see the combative attitude you're showing and be completely scared off. You need to conduct yourself more thoughtfully if you want to make the most of the site. You probably just earned yourself a place on a few blacklists.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As u say ur not here long read the forums on previous threads identical to this guys give as much help as cpls or ladies verified or not has nothing to do with it. Join in the craic here with the guys and girls u find if works better if people see ur personality interacting with all others not just fems and cpls they find it easier to reply messages as they have a feel as to who u are "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Honestly dont care

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Many females reading this will see the combative attitude you're showing and be completely scared off. You need to conduct yourself more thoughtfully if you want to make the most of the site. You probably just earned yourself a place on a few blacklists. "

Belle, you have a way with words!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Limerick lad - with the stinky attitude you seem to have in your posts, you won't go far. You're getting good advice, take it. Be it from guys or girls. go far? Im ot trying make a career in this its only a swinging site. I just ask a question i wasnt looking for advise and lads not verified giving advise and ranting at me dont make much sence to me. I Didnt or dont mean to offend anyone i just say it how i see it."

Unbelievable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cj, a man n the girls are giving u sound replies n advice. We used to reply to all messages but arrogant n ignorant fuckers put a stop to that. If people don't read our profile n use the words we ask for we don't reply, if cant be bothered taking time to show an interest we ain't gona be giving our time

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By *at69driveMan
over a year ago

Hertford

"Im still kinda new on this and to night i text lots of people just simple msgs like " hi how are you " and most didnt even answer. I dont take afense or anything i get more then enough outside fab but is it not just pure ignorance to not even reply. "
. There is no necessity to reply to messages. As per the forum rules , no reply means no interest . Would you prefer an in box full of rejection messages ?.

Members also need a well written and detailed profile with good pictures if they expect people to reply . Some members will check the profile to assess if. it is worth replying too.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Im being bullyed on fabswingers hahahahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol bend over get your ass smacked

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By *vsnikkiTV/TS
over a year ago

Limavady

Personally I rarely reply to 1 line messages. I get too many messages a day to be bothered. If they bothered to write a decent message then i bother to reply.

I suspect many ladies are the same.

I never reply if the person hasn't bothered to fill out their profile.

I suspect that many ladies are the same.

So what if advice comes from Un verified people? It's feedback. If you don't value it fine but it's probably useful and can only help you.

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

"Im being bullyed on fabswingers hahahahaha "

No ur not don't cry wolf just because u didn't get the desired replys from only fems and cpls. U Got decent replys to a frequently asked question some of which u replied to in a confrontational manner when that was pointed out to u as an undesirable response u got more confrontational

U reap what u sow

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So mean

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So mean

So sarcastic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Now i know why i dont meet young guys talk abt childish

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Now i know why i dont meet young guys talk abt childish

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more name calling

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im being bullyed on fabswingers hahahahaha

U reap what u sow

I concur! This is a milestone CJ!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Now i know why i dont meet young guys talk abt childish

You took the words right out of my mouth. Saying that though, there are a few decent younger ones.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe its ur ego dont forget most ladys read the forums to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im being bullyed on fabswingers hahahahaha

U reap what u sow

I concur! This is a milestone CJ!

Are you and CJ gonna get it on now??? Can I join in?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im being bullyed on fabswingers hahahahaha

U reap what u sow

I concur! This is a milestone CJ!

Are you and CJ gonna get it on now??? Can I join in?

We'll not be getting it on together but if CJ is up for it, I'm sure we can all have a good time!

mainly giving you a good seeing to! Yo!

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

"Im being bullyed on fabswingers hahahahaha

U reap what u sow

I concur! This is a milestone CJ!

Are you and CJ gonna get it on now??? Can I join in?

As long as ur the buffer between us hell yea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Game on!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh hes gone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fuck yes please... I'm in the middle.

Game.

On.

Indeed.

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

"Oh hes gone.

No stamina

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fuck yes please... I'm in the middle.

Game.

On.

Indeed.

CJ, we have a live one here!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh hes gone.

No stamina

No doubt he'll be back. Probably creating a new profile as we chat!

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

"Fuck yes please... I'm in the middle.

Game.

On.

Indeed.

Bet the op didn't think there would be a positive outcome from this thread thanks op bold and 247 I'll see u at the bottom of naughty lane

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whether he was pushed or jumped,either way he will be back in no time.this isn't the first time he has started threads,got confrontational for attention and left

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fuck yes please... I'm in the middle.

Game.

On.

Indeed.

Bet the op didn't think there would be a positive outcome from this thread thanks op bold and 247 I'll see u at the bottom of naughty lane

thanks OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fuck yes please... I'm in the middle.

Game.

On.

Indeed.

Bet the op didn't think there would be a positive outcome from this thread thanks op bold and 247 I'll see u at the bottom of naughty lane

I'll roll the red carpet out on Naughty Lane for you both!

Destroy me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fuck yes please... I'm in the middle.

Game.

On.

Indeed.

Bet the op didn't think there would be a positive outcome from this thread thanks op bold and 247 I'll see u at the bottom of naughty lane

I'll roll the red carpet out on Naughty Lane for you both!

Destroy me

Consider yourself on the destroying agenda

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

"Fuck yes please... I'm in the middle.

Game.

On.

Indeed.

Bet the op didn't think there would be a positive outcome from this thread thanks op bold and 247 I'll see u at the bottom of naughty lane

I'll roll the red carpet out on Naughty Lane for you both!

Destroy me

With pleasure loads of pleasure

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By *oughandCurvyCouple
over a year ago

galway

I realise this is pointless because the op has already left, but I'm going to go ahead anyway. Our profile clearly states that we are not interested in one liner mails so if someone messages with one we click unread and delete because if they don't want to take the time to read our profile then why should we bother replying. Harsh maybe nut that's how it is for many.

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By *aughtyTippcplCouple
over a year ago

Nearby

Same as RoughandCurvy we don't reply to one liners, if the effort isn't put in to get contact off the ground then what's the point?

Also the attitude and ignorance shown to the guys giving advice was totally uncalled for.

It gives the impression that if this guy was to meet a cpl what would his attitude be towards the male half?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I realise this is pointless because the op has already left, but I'm going to go ahead anyway. Our profile clearly states that we are not interested in one liner mails so if someone messages with one we click unread and delete because if they don't want to take the time to read our profile then why should we bother replying. Harsh maybe nut that's how it is for many."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't feed the trolls. It was obvious after his second post that he knew what he was doing.

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By *vsnikkiTV/TS
over a year ago

Limavady

The fact that the op has become unlos reinforces why some people avoid those that put no detail in their profile and send one line messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Where did he go? No doubt be back on tomorrow!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fuck yes please... I'm in the middle.

Game.

On.

Indeed.

Bet the op didn't think there would be a positive outcome from this thread thanks op bold and 247 I'll see u at the bottom of naughty lane

I'll roll the red carpet out on Naughty Lane for you both!

Destroy me

If u need a hand Boldy give me a shout lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh hes gone.

No stamina

No doubt he'll be back. Probably creating a new profile as we chat!

And, more than likely, has verified his new profile!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't feed the trolls. It was obvious after his second post that he knew what he was doing. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The fact that the op has become unlos reinforces why some people avoid those that put no detail in their profile and send one line messages"

Tis true!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't feed the trolls. It was obvious after his second post that he knew what he was doing. "

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