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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Someone I know is getting married soon but looking to join Fab for a few months to have a bit of NSA fun before settling down. What is the view of Fabbers on this??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

tell him to stop wasting his fiancees time and set her free . He obviously isnt ready for marriage . I can never understand the mindset of people who join here in a last ditch attempt to sow wild oats before they are forever ensnared . Alternatively , give the poor girl a buzz and tell her to open her own profile here and have a bit of fun , whats sauce for the goose is sauce for the gander etc etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"tell him to stop wasting his fiancees time and set her free . He obviously isnt ready for marriage . I can never understand the mindset of people who join here in a last ditch attempt to sow wild oats before they are forever ensnared . Alternatively , give the poor girl a buzz and tell her to open her own profile here and have a bit of fun , whats sauce for the goose is sauce for the gander etc etc "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He should let you write his profile...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"tell him to stop wasting his fiancees time and set her free . He obviously isnt ready for marriage . I can never understand the mindset of people who join here in a last ditch attempt to sow wild oats before they are forever ensnared . Alternatively , give the poor girl a buzz and tell her to open her own profile here and have a bit of fun , whats sauce for the goose is sauce for the gander etc etc "
he didn't say its a guy, men are allowed to have female friends,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"tell him to stop wasting his fiancees time and set her free . He obviously isnt ready for marriage . I can never understand the mindset of people who join here in a last ditch attempt to sow wild oats before they are forever ensnared . Alternatively , give the poor girl a buzz and tell her to open her own profile here and have a bit of fun , whats sauce for the goose is sauce for the gander etc etc "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"tell him to stop wasting his fiancees time and set her free . He obviously isnt ready for marriage . I can never understand the mindset of people who join here in a last ditch attempt to sow wild oats before they are forever ensnared . Alternatively , give the poor girl a buzz and tell her to open her own profile here and have a bit of fun , whats sauce for the goose is sauce for the gander etc etc he didn't say its a guy, men are allowed to have female friends,"

They can get married too.

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By *ord Willy McFuck-BucketMan
over a year ago

newcastle

just going by all the complaining that goes on about getting a ride on here would he not be better off with a wank into a sock maybe?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sure why not? It's seen as perfectly acceptable for married people to cheat in their partners here, so why shouldn't the unmarried.

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By *isdirtygirlWoman
over a year ago

Dublin


"Sure why not? It's seen as perfectly acceptable for married people to cheat in their partners here, so why shouldn't the unmarried."

Nobody knows the reasons why married people cheat Casey and its a fact of life that it happens. Thats one thing I admire about married couples who swing together, theyre open and honest enough to talk about their sex lives. The guy/ girl whos getting married in a few months is hardly getting the best start wanting some fun before their big day. Its shows lack of committment and disrespect. Why didn't he/she ever agree to get engaged let alone married if either feels like theyre missing out on something? Obviously something is missing or he/ she wouldnt consider doing this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sure why not? It's seen as perfectly acceptable for married people to cheat in their partners here, so why shouldn't the unmarried.

Nobody knows the reasons why married people cheat Casey and its a fact of life that it happens. Thats one thing I admire about married couples who swing together, theyre open and honest enough to talk about their sex lives. The guy/ girl whos getting married in a few months is hardly getting the best start wanting some fun before their big day. Its shows lack of committment and disrespect. Why didn't he/she ever agree to get engaged let alone married if either feels like theyre missing out on something? Obviously something is missing or he/ she wouldnt consider doing this. "

And the exact same goes for those who are married. Regardless of their reasons or marital status, cheating displays a lack of respect for the partner.

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By *isdirtygirlWoman
over a year ago

Dublin


"Sure why not? It's seen as perfectly acceptable for married people to cheat in their partners here, so why shouldn't the unmarried.

Nobody knows the reasons why married people cheat Casey and its a fact of life that it happens. Thats one thing I admire about married couples who swing together, theyre open and honest enough to talk about their sex lives. The guy/ girl whos getting married in a few months is hardly getting the best start wanting some fun before their big day. Its shows lack of committment and disrespect. Why didn't he/she ever agree to get engaged let alone married if either feels like theyre missing out on something? Obviously something is missing or he/ she wouldnt consider doing this.

And the exact same goes for those who are married. Regardless of their reasons or marital status, cheating displays a lack of respect for the partner."

The Op spoke about a single getting married not married people cheating. What my point is he/ she are hardly being true to themselves by keeping a secret like this. Its not wedded bliss if either is considering this without the others knowledge

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sure why not? It's seen as perfectly acceptable for married people to cheat in their partners here, so why shouldn't the unmarried.

Nobody knows the reasons why married people cheat Casey and its a fact of life that it happens. Thats one thing I admire about married couples who swing together, theyre open and honest enough to talk about their sex lives. The guy/ girl whos getting married in a few months is hardly getting the best start wanting some fun before their big day. Its shows lack of committment and disrespect. Why didn't he/she ever agree to get engaged let alone married if either feels like theyre missing out on something? Obviously something is missing or he/ she wouldnt consider doing this.

And the exact same goes for those who are married. Regardless of their reasons or marital status, cheating displays a lack of respect for the partner.

The Op spoke about a single getting married not married people cheating. What my point is he/ she are hardly being true to themselves by keeping a secret like this. Its not wedded bliss if either is considering this without the others knowledge"

And the difference is? How is a married cheat being "true to themselves" or to anyone else fot that matter?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sure why not? It's seen as perfectly acceptable for married people to cheat in their partners here, so why shouldn't the unmarried.

Nobody knows the reasons why married people cheat Casey and its a fact of life that it happens. Thats one thing I admire about married couples who swing together, theyre open and honest enough to talk about their sex lives. The guy/ girl whos getting married in a few months is hardly getting the best start wanting some fun before their big day. Its shows lack of committment and disrespect. Why didn't he/she ever agree to get engaged let alone married if either feels like theyre missing out on something? Obviously something is missing or he/ she wouldnt consider doing this. "

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town

I guess before a wedding you would think they so committed to the fact of getting married the last thing on there mind should be to join a swingers site as a singeton. But I guess it's real life and it's not a fairy tale story.Is it a last fling before he ties the knot?

Is he having second thoughts.

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By *ilderMan
over a year ago

dublin

The op never said his friend was a man but many are jumping to that conclusion. Personally I've come across a number of female profiles seeking that kind of nsa.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's amazing how people here will justify someone who is breaking a commitment already made, yet condemn someone who hasn't yet made that commitment.

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sure why not? It's seen as perfectly acceptable for married people to cheat in their partners here, so why shouldn't the unmarried.

Nobody knows the reasons why married people cheat Casey and its a fact of life that it happens. Thats one thing I admire about married couples who swing together, theyre open and honest enough to talk about their sex lives. The guy/ girl whos getting married in a few months is hardly getting the best start wanting some fun before their big day. Its shows lack of committment and disrespect. Why didn't he/she ever agree to get engaged let alone married if either feels like theyre missing out on something? Obviously something is missing or he/ she wouldnt consider doing this. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" men are allowed to have female friends,"

I wasn't. My wife would send them nasty and threatening txts.

They shouldn't be getting married if they can't do it together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" men are allowed to have female friends,

I wasn't. My wife would send them nasty and threatening txts.

They shouldn't be getting married if they can't do it together."

Right, and people shouldn't be remaining married to someone they cannot respect or be honest with.

There really is no difference.

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By *isdirtygirlWoman
over a year ago

Dublin


"Sure why not? It's seen as perfectly acceptable for married people to cheat in their partners here, so why shouldn't the unmarried.

Nobody knows the reasons why married people cheat Casey and its a fact of life that it happens. Thats one thing I admire about married couples who swing together, theyre open and honest enough to talk about their sex lives. The guy/ girl whos getting married in a few months is hardly getting the best start wanting some fun before their big day. Its shows lack of committment and disrespect. Why didn't he/she ever agree to get engaged let alone married if either feels like theyre missing out on something? Obviously something is missing or he/ she wouldnt consider doing this.

And the exact same goes for those who are married. Regardless of their reasons or marital status, cheating displays a lack of respect for the partner.

The Op spoke about a single getting married not married people cheating. What my point is he/ she are hardly being true to themselves by keeping a secret like this. Its not wedded bliss if either is considering this without the others knowledge

And the difference is? How is a married cheat being "true to themselves" or to anyone else fot that matter?"

Married folk cheat for a variety of reasons so youd need to ask them that im afraid. Lack of communication, the spark and thrill gone from their sex lives, lack of interest in sex from one partner, illness in a partner... Theres a few reasons anyway why already married folk cheat. Im sure the OP's friend will get married and eventually continue on to cheat behind the partners back so in my opinion the marriage is doomed to fail.

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town

I did assume it was man.

I take that back if my assumption was wrong. It should be said male/female. I think they should look into relationship more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Each to their own. Sounds like the op may be trying to get their mate a foot in the door of fab, so they get to hit fab running!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sure why not? It's seen as perfectly acceptable for married people to cheat in their partners here, so why shouldn't the unmarried.

Nobody knows the reasons why married people cheat Casey and its a fact of life that it happens. Thats one thing I admire about married couples who swing together, theyre open and honest enough to talk about their sex lives. The guy/ girl whos getting married in a few months is hardly getting the best start wanting some fun before their big day. Its shows lack of committment and disrespect. Why didn't he/she ever agree to get engaged let alone married if either feels like theyre missing out on something? Obviously something is missing or he/ she wouldnt consider doing this.

And the exact same goes for those who are married. Regardless of their reasons or marital status, cheating displays a lack of respect for the partner.

The Op spoke about a single getting married not married people cheating. What my point is he/ she are hardly being true to themselves by keeping a secret like this. Its not wedded bliss if either is considering this without the others knowledge

And the difference is? How is a married cheat being "true to themselves" or to anyone else fot that matter?

Married folk cheat for a variety of reasons so youd need to ask them that im afraid. Lack of communication, the spark and thrill gone from their sex lives, lack of interest in sex from one partner, illness in a partner... Theres a few reasons anyway why already married folk cheat. Im sure the OP's friend will get married and eventually continue on to cheat behind the partners back so in my opinion the marriage is doomed to fail. "

As opposed to the ones who waited until they got hitched to start cheating?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Each to there own

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By *isdirtygirlWoman
over a year ago

Dublin


"Sure why not? It's seen as perfectly acceptable for married people to cheat in their partners here, so why shouldn't the unmarried.

Nobody knows the reasons why married people cheat Casey and its a fact of life that it happens. Thats one thing I admire about married couples who swing together, theyre open and honest enough to talk about their sex lives. The guy/ girl whos getting married in a few months is hardly getting the best start wanting some fun before their big day. Its shows lack of committment and disrespect. Why didn't he/she ever agree to get engaged let alone married if either feels like theyre missing out on something? Obviously something is missing or he/ she wouldnt consider doing this.

And the exact same goes for those who are married. Regardless of their reasons or marital status, cheating displays a lack of respect for the partner.

The Op spoke about a single getting married not married people cheating. What my point is he/ she are hardly being true to themselves by keeping a secret like this. Its not wedded bliss if either is considering this without the others knowledge

And the difference is? How is a married cheat being "true to themselves" or to anyone else fot that matter?

Married folk cheat for a variety of reasons so youd need to ask them that im afraid. Lack of communication, the spark and thrill gone from their sex lives, lack of interest in sex from one partner, illness in a partner... Theres a few reasons anyway why already married folk cheat. Im sure the OP's friend will get married and eventually continue on to cheat behind the partners back so in my opinion the marriage is doomed to fail.

As opposed to the ones who waited until they got hitched to start cheating?"

No! Where did I say that? I doubt any man or woman on this site or elsewhere got married with the intention to cheat. Married people cheat for a variety of reasons and theyve to live with their conscience and actions. Its called life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cheating is cheating, married or not, a piece of paper doesn't change that fact

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cheating is cheating, married or not, a piece of paper doesn't change that fact"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cheating is cheating, married or not, a piece of paper doesn't change that fact"

That was my point in the first place.

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By *ord Willy McFuck-BucketMan
over a year ago

newcastle


"Cheating is cheating, married or not, a piece of paper doesn't change that fact"

someone will be along with a bullshit made up facebook style quote to justify it though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cheating is cheating, married or not, a piece of paper doesn't change that fact

someone will be along with a bullshit made up facebook style quote to justify it though"

Facebook style? So like if you cried or share with ten people to stop your nan falling down a well?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't judge people for cheating, each to their own and it's their conscience that they have to sleep with at night, I don't, so leave them on. I don't condone it but don't judge it either

Most people have been on the receiving end of being cheated on and it's horrible, so personally I don't meet attached men for that very reason. Treat people the way you want to be treated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"tell him to stop wasting his fiancees time and set her free . He obviously isnt ready for marriage . I can never understand the mindset of people who join here in a last ditch attempt to sow wild oats before they are forever ensnared . Alternatively , give the poor girl a buzz and tell her to open her own profile here and have a bit of fun , whats sauce for the goose is sauce for the gander etc etc "

This ^^^

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op..have you tried to discourage him/her ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yes I have spoken to him, nerves and some thoughts starting to hit home. One can understand that but not ideal to be joining Fab I guess!!

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By *armel and FrancisCouple
over a year ago

North wex


"Yes I have spoken to him, nerves and some thoughts starting to hit home. One can understand that but not ideal to be joining Fab I guess!!"

Ask him how he would feel if his wife to be did the same thing... if hes ok with that then maybe he has his answer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Someone I know is getting married soon but looking to join Fab for a few months to have a bit of NSA fun before settling down. What is the view of Fabbers on this??"

If your mate is a guy, tell him it is highly unlikely he will get a meet before his wedding.

Lastly tell either he or she having a bit of NSA fun so soon before a wedding, is highly insulting to their partner.

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By *randub69Man
over a year ago

city


"Sure why not? It's seen as perfectly acceptable for married people to cheat in their partners here, so why shouldn't the unmarried.

Nobody knows the reasons why married people cheat Casey and its a fact of life that it happens. Thats one thing I admire about married couples who swing together, theyre open and honest enough to talk about their sex lives. The guy/ girl whos getting married in a few months is hardly getting the best start wanting some fun before their big day. Its shows lack of committment and disrespect. Why didn't he/she ever agree to get engaged let alone married if either feels like theyre missing out on something? Obviously something is missing or he/ she wouldnt consider doing this.

And the exact same goes for those who are married. Regardless of their reasons or marital status, cheating displays a lack of respect for the partner.

The Op spoke about a single getting married not married people cheating. What my point is he/ she are hardly being true to themselves by keeping a secret like this. Its not wedded bliss if either is considering this without the others knowledge

And the difference is? How is a married cheat being "true to themselves" or to anyone else fot that matter?

Married folk cheat for a variety of reasons so youd need to ask them that im afraid. Lack of communication, the spark and thrill gone from their sex lives, lack of interest in sex from one partner, illness in a partner... Theres a few reasons anyway why already married folk cheat. Im sure the OP's friend will get married and eventually continue on to cheat behind the partners back so in my opinion the marriage is doomed to fail.

As opposed to the ones who waited until they got hitched to start cheating?

No! Where did I say that? I doubt any man or woman on this site or elsewhere got married with the intention to cheat. Married people cheat for a variety of reasons and theyve to live with their conscience and actions. Its called life. "

And if they are found out, their partner and children also have to live with there actions.. innocent victims of a sneaky cheat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sure why not? It's seen as perfectly acceptable for married people to cheat in their partners here, so why shouldn't the unmarried.

Nobody knows the reasons why married people cheat Casey and its a fact of life that it happens. Thats one thing I admire about married couples who swing together, theyre open and honest enough to talk about their sex lives. The guy/ girl whos getting married in a few months is hardly getting the best start wanting some fun before their big day. Its shows lack of committment and disrespect. Why didn't he/she ever agree to get engaged let alone married if either feels like theyre missing out on something? Obviously something is missing or he/ she wouldnt consider doing this.

And the exact same goes for those who are married. Regardless of their reasons or marital status, cheating displays a lack of respect for the partner.

The Op spoke about a single getting married not married people cheating. What my point is he/ she are hardly being true to themselves by keeping a secret like this. Its not wedded bliss if either is considering this without the others knowledge

And the difference is? How is a married cheat being "true to themselves" or to anyone else fot that matter?

Married folk cheat for a variety of reasons so youd need to ask them that im afraid. Lack of communication, the spark and thrill gone from their sex lives, lack of interest in sex from one partner, illness in a partner... Theres a few reasons anyway why already married folk cheat. Im sure the OP's friend will get married and eventually continue on to cheat behind the partners back so in my opinion the marriage is doomed to fail.

As opposed to the ones who waited until they got hitched to start cheating?

No! Where did I say that? I doubt any man or woman on this site or elsewhere got married with the intention to cheat. Married people cheat for a variety of reasons and theyve to live with their conscience and actions. Its called life.

And if they are found out, their partner and children also have to live with there actions.. innocent victims of a sneaky cheat."

As do the partners and children of people who werent married. None of us live in a bubble.

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By *oughandCurvyCouple
over a year ago

galway

What I don't get is why do people get married in the first place? I get the part where it's the done thing and society makes women feel that they have to get married to be happy but clearly it's not how it works because I know of more failed marriages and cheating spouses than successful ones so why don't people be honest with themselves and their partners and admit that they don't want to be monogamous for the rest of their lives?? Rant over

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes I have spoken to him, nerves and some thoughts starting to hit home. One can understand that but not ideal to be joining Fab I guess!!"

Maybe he needs a good think about going ahead with the wedding i guess

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By *randub69Man
over a year ago

city


"Someone I know is getting married soon but looking to join Fab for a few months to have a bit of NSA fun before settling down. What is the view of Fabbers on this??"

he should call off the wedding.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This isn't that new to Fab was a girl on site few months ago who even managed a meet the day before she tied the knot .... Apparently she got off on the excitement of cheating as much as the sex

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By *osafewordneededMan
over a year ago

City

As long as he is honest about it then who cares.

This place is full of enough hypocrites, the ones who meet a young guy but bad mouth other women for meeting a young guy.

The ones who meet a married man but keep it scret then badmouth others for meeting married.

The ones who have a bf/partner at home and are keeping it quite while badmouthing others and tutting disaprovingly.

So if he comes on here and says "I'm getting married soon, dont want to waste anyones time, looking for a send off" then I wont have a problem with it.

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