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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So you catch your partner cheating....

Do you approach the other man/woman?

If it were me, Id imagine I wouldnt harass the other man, its hardly his fault imo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would castrate him and put them in a lovely stew for my dogs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Real swingers don't need to cheat

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Real swingers don't need to cheat"

Didnt mention swingers or "real swingers"

What ever the hell that is.

Some sort of elite club or some shit

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I would castrate him and put them in a lovely stew for my dogs "

Note to self:

Do not cheat on lizzie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Real swingers don't need to cheat"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hahahaha this is a swing site .... I like ur disguise but I think I've seen your type before good bye and goodnight

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By *aid backMan
over a year ago

by a lake with my rod out

bury both of them in the mass grave with all the other bodies

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hahahaha this is a swing site .... I like ur disguise but I think I've seen your type before good bye and goodnight "

Youv not seen this type before.....

New breed

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"bury both of them in the mass grave with all the other bodies "

You couldnt blame the other guy though....

Come on, hes getting sex, shes giving it

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By *aid backMan
over a year ago

by a lake with my rod out


"bury both of them in the mass grave with all the other bodies

You couldnt blame the other guy though....

Come on, hes getting sex, shes giving it"

well my pappy had a saying kill 'em all and let god sort them out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So you catch your partner cheating....

Do you approach the other man/woman?

If it were me, Id imagine I wouldnt harass the other man, its hardly his fault imo "

I would just ask if I can watch and join in.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"bury both of them in the mass grave with all the other bodies

You couldnt blame the other guy though....

Come on, hes getting sex, shes giving it

well my pappy had a saying kill 'em all and let god sort them out "

There is no god.

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By *llie and ApplesCouple
over a year ago

where ever


"bury both of them in the mass grave with all the other bodies

You couldnt blame the other guy though....

Come on, hes getting sex, shes giving it

well my pappy had a saying kill 'em all and let god sort them out "

Have you still got that chloroform soaked rag that makes you so popular with the girls Laid?...lol

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By *aid backMan
over a year ago

by a lake with my rod out


"bury both of them in the mass grave with all the other bodies

You couldnt blame the other guy though....

Come on, hes getting sex, shes giving it

well my pappy had a saying kill 'em all and let god sort them out

There is no god.

"

I agree that's why it was my pappy's saying.

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By *aid backMan
over a year ago

by a lake with my rod out


"bury both of them in the mass grave with all the other bodies

You couldnt blame the other guy though....

Come on, hes getting sex, shes giving it

well my pappy had a saying kill 'em all and let god sort them out

Have you still got that chloroform soaked rag that makes you so popular with the girls Laid?...lol"

shhhh stop giving away my tricks damn you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"bury both of them in the mass grave with all the other bodies

You couldnt blame the other guy though....

Come on, hes getting sex, shes giving it

well my pappy had a saying kill 'em all and let god sort them out

There is no god.

I agree that's why it was my pappy's saying. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my ex cheated! when I found out I done a bit of detective work first got my evidence together so he couldn't deny shit! then battered him out if his sleep lol he didn't know what hit him! when I laid all his shit bare he didn't know what to say! he lost everything! my son has a part time father now! oh and I have the house! only fair he got the car muhahahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you catch your partner cheating. You should ask yourself why!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He cheated coz he thought he'd get away with it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you catch your partner cheating. You should ask yourself why!!!!!"

Why you were with him in the first place is the only question I'd be asking myself ) some people can't help themselves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"my ex cheated! when I found out I done a bit of detective work first got my evidence together so he couldn't deny shit! then battered him out if his sleep lol he didn't know what hit him! when I laid all his shit bare he didn't know what to say! he lost everything! my son has a part time father now! oh and I have the house! only fair he got the car muhahahaha "

That's terrible. Just because of sex?

My wife got nothing except a few thousand euro. Although we had no kids. He should of had better lawyers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you catch your partner cheating. You should ask yourself why!!!!!

Why you were with him in the first place is the only question I'd be asking myself ) some people can't help themselves"

But in Op's case I'd need a break from constant moaning

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you catch your partner cheating. You should ask yourself why!!!!!

Why you were with him in the first place is the only question I'd be asking myself ) some people can't help themselves

But in Op's case I'd need a break from constant moaning"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's easy, if u don't accept it ( many people agree to disagree etc..) you move on sensibly. Should you split, try do it in an adult way n try not to fight ( it's very hard I know) but remember be the bigger person for the sake of kids, family members etc..

Been through it and always can look back and be very happy I wasn't a complete wanker (even though I so wanted to be at the time)... Makes me smile now, that I wasn't a complete tosservat the time...

Shit happens... U can let it eat u up or move on... Life's way to short in my opinion .... My tuppence worth...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's easy, if u don't accept it ( many people agree to disagree etc..) you move on sensibly. Should you split, try do it in an adult way n try not to fight ( it's very hard I know) but remember be the bigger person for the sake of kids, family members etc..

Been through it and always can look back and be very happy I wasn't a complete wanker (even though I so wanted to be at the time)... Makes me smile now, that I wasn't a complete tosservat the time...

Shit happens... U can let it eat u up or move on... Life's way to short in my opinion .... My tuppence worth...

"

Good post

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By *randub69Man
over a year ago

city


"So you catch your partner cheating....

Do you approach the other man/woman?

If it were me, Id imagine I wouldnt harass the other man, its hardly his fault imo "

I'd be doing life if I approached either of them.....and life's to short to be doing time for a sly cheating kunt.

she'd never get back in the house again and I'd burn all her stuff..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you catch your partner cheating. You should ask yourself why!!!!!

Why you were with him in the first place is the only question I'd be asking myself ) some people can't help themselves

But in Op's case I'd need a break from constant moaning"

Lol...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd probably advise giving him a wide berth, he might not be so forgiving.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"my ex cheated! when I found out I done a bit of detective work first got my evidence together so he couldn't deny shit! then battered him out if his sleep lol he didn't know what hit him! when I laid all his shit bare he didn't know what to say! he lost everything! my son has a part time father now! oh and I have the house! only fair he got the car muhahahaha "

Wow....

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By *parkles321Man
over a year ago

blanch


"my ex cheated! when I found out I done a bit of detective work first got my evidence together so he couldn't deny shit! then battered him out if his sleep lol he didn't know what hit him! when I laid all his shit bare he didn't know what to say! he lost everything! my son has a part time father now! oh and I have the house! only fair he got the car muhahahaha "

No bloody wonder he cheated you sound like a bit of a physcho

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By *ord Willy McFuck-BucketMan
over a year ago

newcastle

well in my former life as a wankpot -I have both cheated and been cheated on - both shite

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"my ex cheated! when I found out I done a bit of detective work first got my evidence together so he couldn't deny shit! then battered him out if his sleep lol he didn't know what hit him! when I laid all his shit bare he didn't know what to say! he lost everything! my son has a part time father now! oh and I have the house! only fair he got the car muhahahaha

No bloody wonder he cheated you sound like a bit of a physcho "

She's done men a favour though with that post

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By *parkles321Man
over a year ago

blanch


"my ex cheated! when I found out I done a bit of detective work first got my evidence together so he couldn't deny shit! then battered him out if his sleep lol he didn't know what hit him! when I laid all his shit bare he didn't know what to say! he lost everything! my son has a part time father now! oh and I have the house! only fair he got the car muhahahaha

No bloody wonder he cheated you sound like a bit of a physcho

She's done men a favour though with that post"

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By *aftdave1Man
over a year ago

limerick

Not worse when you find out,it's one toss of a coin heads or tails either way youve lost I find

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"my ex cheated! when I found out I done a bit of detective work first got my evidence together so he couldn't deny shit! then battered him out if his sleep lol he didn't know what hit him! when I laid all his shit bare he didn't know what to say! he lost everything! my son has a part time father now! oh and I have the house! only fair he got the car muhahahaha

No bloody wonder he cheated you sound like a bit of a physcho

She's done men a favour though with that post "

I'm not a physcho thank you! What would your reaction be to your whole world falling apart in front of you? everything you's built together thrown away for what!!!! its the worst feeling in the world! cannot discribe it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"my ex cheated! when I found out I done a bit of detective work first got my evidence together so he couldn't deny shit! then battered him out if his sleep lol he didn't know what hit him! when I laid all his shit bare he didn't know what to say! he lost everything! my son has a part time father now! oh and I have the house! only fair he got the car muhahahaha

No bloody wonder he cheated you sound like a bit of a physcho

She's done men a favour though with that post

I'm not a physcho thank you! What would your reaction be to your whole world falling apart in front of you? everything you's built together thrown away for what!!!! its the worst feeling in the world! cannot discribe it "

Well I don't think violence is the answer to anything. I'm presuming that 'battered' was used to describe hitting him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"my ex cheated! when I found out I done a bit of detective work first got my evidence together so he couldn't deny shit! then battered him out if his sleep lol he didn't know what hit him! when I laid all his shit bare he didn't know what to say! he lost everything! my son has a part time father now! oh and I have the house! only fair he got the car muhahahaha

No bloody wonder he cheated you sound like a bit of a physcho

She's done men a favour though with that post

I'm not a physcho thank you! What would your reaction be to your whole world falling apart in front of you? everything you's built together thrown away for what!!!! its the worst feeling in the world! cannot discribe it

Well I don't think violence is the answer to anything. I'm presuming that 'battered' was used to describe hitting him. "

It's the gloating about making him a part-time father that I find disturbing. No matter what has gone on between adults, children should not be used as weapons.

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of


"my ex cheated! when I found out I done a bit of detective work first got my evidence together so he couldn't deny shit! then battered him out if his sleep lol he didn't know what hit him! when I laid all his shit bare he didn't know what to say! he lost everything! my son has a part time father now! oh and I have the house! only fair he got the car muhahahaha

No bloody wonder he cheated you sound like a bit of a physcho

She's done men a favour though with that post

I'm not a physcho thank you! What would your reaction be to your whole world falling apart in front of you? everything you's built together thrown away for what!!!! its the worst feeling in the world! cannot discribe it

Well I don't think violence is the answer to anything. I'm presuming that 'battered' was used to describe hitting him. "

I don't understand why people post such personal stuff about their real life on a swinger forum....

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By *ong riderMan
over a year ago

belfast

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By *ong riderMan
over a year ago

belfast


"my ex cheated! when I found out I done a bit of detective work first got my evidence together so he couldn't deny shit! then battered him out if his sleep lol he didn't know what hit him! when I laid all his shit bare he didn't know what to say! he lost everything! my son has a part time father now! oh and I have the house! only fair he got the car muhahahaha

No bloody wonder he cheated you sound like a bit of a physcho

She's done men a favour though with that post

I'm not a physcho thank you! What would your reaction be to your whole world falling apart in front of you? everything you's built together thrown away for what!!!! its the worst feeling in the world! cannot discribe it

Well I don't think violence is the answer to anything. I'm presuming that 'battered' was used to describe hitting him.

It's the gloating about making him a part-time father that I find disturbing. No matter what has gone on between adults, children should not be used as weapons."

I agree that the wording is a bit clumsy but I wouldn't class it as gloating. I've alot of sympathy for families and couples that split for this specific reason and the actions and words of one needs to be conditioned against the emotional upheaval that's going on

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women like that are not uncommon. The biggest loser is the child involved who no longer has his real father. She's on a swingers forum, so her pride could not have been dented too much by her husband cheating, or her trust.

So what was the plan? Marry a guy have a baby and then when you are sick of him wait for the first opportunity to get rid of him and make a claim of his assets and then brag about it on a swingers forum? Nice.

I hope you new bf doesn't see your post, let alone your ex husband? It would be legal grounds for an appeal or custody dispute as an unfit mother. Way to go.

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town


"Women like that are not uncommon. The biggest loser is the child involved who no longer has his real father. She's on a swingers forum, so her pride could not have been dented too much by her husband cheating, or her trust.

So what was the plan? Marry a guy have a baby and then when you are sick of him wait for the first opportunity to get rid of him and make a claim of his assets and then brag about it on a swingers forum? Nice.

I hope you new bf doesn't see your post, let alone your ex husband? It would be legal grounds for an appeal or custody dispute as an unfit mother. Way to go."

ohh come on that's harsh calling her a unfit mother.

No ones knows the situation or the whole story.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well posting that on a swingers forum, I'm not sure a family court judge would be happy. It's a reflection of her character. A whole can of worms there could be opened up about is the kid in a safe environment with a permiscuos mother and so on. and so I don't it would look good in court.

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick


"Women like that are not uncommon. The biggest loser is the child involved who no longer has his real father. She's on a swingers forum, so her pride could not have been dented too much by her husband cheating, or her trust.

So what was the plan? Marry a guy have a baby and then when you are sick of him wait for the first opportunity to get rid of him and make a claim of his assets and then brag about it on a swingers forum? Nice.

I hope you new bf doesn't see your post, let alone your ex husband? It would be legal grounds for an appeal or custody dispute as an unfit mother. Way to go."

Every one deals with upset and betrayal differently some talk it trough some get angry some just walk away.why slat the woman for her reaction what she had with him may have being world's away from what she has in her life now she dealt with it in the manner she thought it deserved her choice now she's on a swinger site has feck all to do with how she felt back then.making assumptions on what plan was in action serves no purpose what so ever as for her pride and trust being dented I can only imagine she was at rock bottom but now has the courage to go get what she wants and fair play to her many would still be screaming

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town


"Well posting that on a swingers forum, I'm not sure a family court judge would be happy. It's a reflection of her character. A whole can of worms there could be opened up about is the kid in a safe environment with a permiscuos mother and so on. and so I don't it would look good in court."
well judge Judy we are not in court. But to call her unfit is not on. Ok maybe she could of worded it different but she's hurt over the betrayal.

not a unfit mother.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well posting that on a swingers forum, I'm not sure a family court judge would be happy. It's a reflection of her character. A whole can of worms there could be opened up about is the kid in a safe environment with a permiscuos mother and so on. and so I don't it would look good in court."

Her sex life has absolutely nothing to do with her ability to be a good mother

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well posting that on a swingers forum, I'm not sure a family court judge would be happy. It's a reflection of her character. A whole can of worms there could be opened up about is the kid in a safe environment with a permiscuos mother and so on. and so I don't it would look good in court."

I don't agree with posting what she did, but calling her promiscuous for being on here is ridiculous and uncalled for, and an opinion that should remain in the dark ages as should you with that attitude towards women,

I await your thread crying about not being able to get a meet on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well posting that on a swingers forum, I'm not sure a family court judge would be happy. It's a reflection of her character. A whole can of worms there could be opened up about is the kid in a safe environment with a permiscuos mother and so on. and so I don't it would look good in court.

I don't agree with posting what she did, but calling her promiscuous for being on here is ridiculous and uncalled for, and an opinion that should remain in the dark ages as should you with that attitude towards women,

I await your thread crying about not being able to get a meet on here "

He's already done that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well posting that on a swingers forum, I'm not sure a family court judge would be happy. It's a reflection of her character. A whole can of worms there could be opened up about is the kid in a safe environment with a permiscuos mother and so on. and so I don't it would look good in court.

I don't agree with posting what she did, but calling her promiscuous for being on here is ridiculous and uncalled for, and an opinion that should remain in the dark ages as should you with that attitude towards women,

I await your thread crying about not being able to get a meet on here

He's already done that. "

Ohhh maybe ladies on here are not that "Promiscuous" after all...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"my ex cheated! when I found out I done a bit of detective work first got my evidence together so he couldn't deny shit! then battered him out if his sleep lol he didn't know what hit him! when I laid all his shit bare he didn't know what to say! he lost everything! my son has a part time father now! oh and I have the house! only fair he got the car muhahahaha

No bloody wonder he cheated you sound like a bit of a physcho

She's done men a favour though with that post

I'm not a physcho thank you! What would your reaction be to your whole world falling apart in front of you? everything you's built together thrown away for what!!!! its the worst feeling in the world! cannot discribe it

Well I don't think violence is the answer to anything. I'm presuming that 'battered' was used to describe hitting him.

It's the gloating about making him a part-time father that I find disturbing. No matter what has gone on between adults, children should not be used as weapons.

I agree that the wording is a bit clumsy but I wouldn't class it as gloating. I've alot of sympathy for families and couples that split for this specific reason and the actions and words of one needs to be conditioned against the emotional upheaval that's going on"

The "muhahahaha " spokes volumes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well posting that on a swingers forum, I'm not sure a family court judge would be happy. It's a reflection of her character. A whole can of worms there could be opened up about is the kid in a safe environment with a permiscuos mother and so on. and so I don't it would look good in court."

Unless her children are being exposed to her "lifestyle" or neglected due to it, then who or how many she has sex with does not impact on her fitness to parent.

Are swinging couples unfit parents?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you showed up in court with evidence like that then they would find what is called "no fault" hands down. That means the marriage breakdown was nobody's fault. He would of course have to support his child and would have to sell or lose the family home.

Just saying. That's how family law works. Most men have no idea how to defend themselves in those situations because they don't do their research or don't care and thing nothing will happen. That's why women usually come out better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Are swinging couples unfit parents?

"

No of course not but in a family court, probably a big fat yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well posting that on a swingers forum, I'm not sure a family court judge would be happy. It's a reflection of her character. A whole can of worms there could be opened up about is the kid in a safe environment with a permiscuos mother and so on. and so I don't it would look good in court.

I don't agree with posting what she did, but calling her promiscuous for being on here is ridiculous and uncalled for, and an opinion that should remain in the dark ages as should you with that attitude towards women,

I await your thread crying about not being able to get a meet on here

He's already done that. "

I'm member of other sites that are much easier to meet women than here. I have no trouble. No skin off my nose what women think here.

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By *parkles321Man
over a year ago

blanch


"my ex cheated! when I found out I done a bit of detective work first got my evidence together so he couldn't deny shit! then battered him out if his sleep lol he didn't know what hit him! when I laid all his shit bare he didn't know what to say! he lost everything! my son has a part time father now! oh and I have the house! only fair he got the car muhahahaha

No bloody wonder he cheated you sound like a bit of a physcho

She's done men a favour though with that post

I'm not a physcho thank you! What would your reaction be to your whole world falling apart in front of you? everything you's built together thrown away for what!!!! its the worst feeling in the world! cannot discribe it "

Oh I've been through it but I acted in a dignified way, not resorting to violence and bragging how you got the better deal. Shows you as a materialistic person and it's the child I feel sorry for.

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town


"If you showed up in court with evidence like that then they would find what is called "no fault" hands down. That means the marriage breakdown was nobody's fault. He would of course have to support his child and would have to sell or lose the family home.

Just saying. That's how family law works. Most men have no idea how to defend themselves in those situations because they don't do their research or don't care and thing nothing will happen. That's why women usually come out better."

women come out the better fooking shite talk. If children involved in family matter.

I'm on a swingers site, so in the eyes of the law I'm a outfit mother. do me a favour please

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick


"If you showed up in court with evidence like that then they would find what is called "no fault" hands down. That means the marriage breakdown was nobody's fault. He would of course have to support his child and would have to sell or lose the family home.

Just saying. That's how family law works. Most men have no idea how to defend themselves in those situations because they don't do their research or don't care and thing nothing will happen. That's why women usually come out better."

Ifs and buts we don't know the ins and out of this suitation why continue to make assumptions if u want to discuss marriage break down and the courts do but don't use some ones else situation to try explain its not fair to them and there is a lot of assumptions being made

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Quite probably if you are going through a divorce. Hey, I don't make the moral rules of society or the family laws in Ireland. Just would not want evidence of that brought up in court if it was me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"my ex cheated! when I found out I done a bit of detective work first got my evidence together so he couldn't deny shit! then battered him out if his sleep lol he didn't know what hit him! when I laid all his shit bare he didn't know what to say! he lost everything! my son has a part time father now! oh and I have the house! only fair he got the car muhahahaha

No bloody wonder he cheated you sound like a bit of a physcho

She's done men a favour though with that post

I'm not a physcho thank you! What would your reaction be to your whole world falling apart in front of you? everything you's built together thrown away for what!!!! its the worst feeling in the world! cannot discribe it

Oh I've been through it but I acted in a dignified way, not resorting to violence and bragging how you got the better deal. Shows you as a materialistic person and it's the child I feel sorry for. "

Exactly.

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you showed up in court with evidence like that then they would find what is called "no fault" hands down. That means the marriage breakdown was nobody's fault. He would of course have to support his child and would have to sell or lose the family home.

Just saying. That's how family law works. Most men have no idea how to defend themselves in those situations because they don't do their research or don't care and thing nothing will happen. That's why women usually come out better."

yes he cheated and I hated him for that! but never ever did I stop him from seeing his son! or never used him against him! I would never say anything bad about his father to him! We didn't have to go through the courts for access! when I said my son has a part time father it's due to the distance he lives away! he's a great father n would never take that away from him! We get on the best and I get on great with his girlfriend! as long as our son is happy is the main thing!

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By *uckynumber6Man
over a year ago

Limerick


"my ex cheated! when I found out I done a bit of detective work first got my evidence together so he couldn't deny shit! then battered him out if his sleep lol he didn't know what hit him! when I laid all his shit bare he didn't know what to say! he lost everything! my son has a part time father now! oh and I have the house! only fair he got the car muhahahaha

No bloody wonder he cheated you sound like a bit of a physcho

She's done men a favour though with that post

I'm not a physcho thank you! What would your reaction be to your whole world falling apart in front of you? everything you's built together thrown away for what!!!! its the worst feeling in the world! cannot discribe it

Well I don't think violence is the answer to anything. I'm presuming that 'battered' was used to describe hitting him.

It's the gloating about making him a part-time father that I find disturbing. No matter what has gone on between adults, children should not be used as weapons."

absolutely agree with this although I feel for both and feisty, is a terrible way to put it children are first always always above your own needs otherwise you shouldn't have had them, all the same I can't but feel alittle for this scenario I hope things get better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well as long he gets to see his dad whenever he wants is the main thing. All else comes under the heading *Shit Happens*

Sorry you 2 could not work it out.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"my ex cheated! when I found out I done a bit of detective work first got my evidence together so he couldn't deny shit! then battered him out if his sleep lol he didn't know what hit him! when I laid all his shit bare he didn't know what to say! he lost everything! my son has a part time father now! oh and I have the house! only fair he got the car muhahahaha

No bloody wonder he cheated you sound like a bit of a physcho

She's done men a favour though with that post

I'm not a physcho thank you! What would your reaction be to your whole world falling apart in front of you? everything you's built together thrown away for what!!!! its the worst feeling in the world! cannot discribe it

Well I don't think violence is the answer to anything. I'm presuming that 'battered' was used to describe hitting him.

It's the gloating about making him a part-time father that I find disturbing. No matter what has gone on between adults, children should not be used as weapons. absolutely agree with this although I feel for both and feisty, is a terrible way to put it children are first always always above your own needs otherwise you shouldn't have had them, all the same I can't but feel alittle for this scenario I hope things get better "

So quick to make assumptions and judge!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"my ex cheated! when I found out I done a bit of detective work first got my evidence together so he couldn't deny shit! then battered him out if his sleep lol he didn't know what hit him! when I laid all his shit bare he didn't know what to say! he lost everything! my son has a part time father now! oh and I have the house! only fair he got the car muhahahaha "

You come across as very aggressive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

So quick to make assumptions and judge! "

This is Ireland...

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By *uckynumber6Man
over a year ago

Limerick

Not judging at all, apologies if it read that way! I have gone through similar and it us very difficult I know first hand but the part time dad was abit harsh, I would hate to think my ex would refer to me as that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"my ex cheated! when I found out I done a bit of detective work first got my evidence together so he couldn't deny shit! then battered him out if his sleep lol he didn't know what hit him! when I laid all his shit bare he didn't know what to say! he lost everything! my son has a part time father now! oh and I have the house! only fair he got the car muhahahaha

You come across as very aggressive"

haha I'm not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not judging at all, apologies if it read that way! I have gone through similar and it us very difficult I know first hand but the part time dad was abit harsh, I would hate to think my ex would refer to me as that! "

I wasn't making fun at the "part time dad" nothing funny about it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not judging at all, apologies if it read that way! I have gone through similar and it us very difficult I know first hand but the part time dad was abit harsh, I would hate to think my ex would refer to me as that!

I wasn't making fun at the "part time dad" nothing funny about it! "

He caused it...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not judging at all, apologies if it read that way! I have gone through similar and it us very difficult I know first hand but the part time dad was abit harsh, I would hate to think my ex would refer to me as that!

I wasn't making fun at the "part time dad" nothing funny about it!

He caused it..."

yes he did and he regrets it! we've both moved on with our lives and our son is happy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not judging at all, apologies if it read that way! I have gone through similar and it us very difficult I know first hand but the part time dad was abit harsh, I would hate to think my ex would refer to me as that!

I wasn't making fun at the "part time dad" nothing funny about it!

He caused it...

yes he did and he regrets it! we've both moved on with our lives and our son is happy "

When you look back, do you wonder if it would have been different had you found fabs before he found her?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Feistyfox could you pm me please......

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By *uckynumber6Man
over a year ago

Limerick


"Feistyfox could you pm me please...... "
take the opportunity

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not judging at all, apologies if it read that way! I have gone through similar and it us very difficult I know first hand but the part time dad was abit harsh, I would hate to think my ex would refer to me as that!

I wasn't making fun at the "part time dad" nothing funny about it!

He caused it...

yes he did and he regrets it! we've both moved on with our lives and our son is happy

When you look back, do you wonder if it would have been different had you found fabs before he found her?"

No I wouldn't have looked! I've never cheated in my life! its not in me! I was dedicated to him and him only!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Feistyfox could you pm me please...... take the opportunity "

lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Feistyfox could you pm me please...... take the opportunity "

But don't forget a lighter...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"my ex cheated! when I found out I done a bit of detective work first got my evidence together so he couldn't deny shit! then battered him out if his sleep lol he didn't know what hit him! when I laid all his shit bare he didn't know what to say! he lost everything! my son has a part time father now! oh and I have the house! only fair he got the car muhahahaha

No bloody wonder he cheated you sound like a bit of a physcho

She's done men a favour though with that post

I'm not a physcho thank you! What would your reaction be to your whole world falling apart in front of you? everything you's built together thrown away for what!!!! its the worst feeling in the world! cannot discribe it

Well I don't think violence is the answer to anything. I'm presuming that 'battered' was used to describe hitting him.

I don't understand why people post such personal stuff about their real life on a swinger forum.... "

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By *uckynumber6Man
over a year ago

Limerick


"Feistyfox could you pm me please...... take the opportunity

But don't forget a lighter..."

Sky full of lighters... Wait isn't that a line on a song

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Feistyfox could you pm me please...... take the opportunity

lol"

haha

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By *uckynumber6Man
over a year ago

Limerick


"my ex cheated! when I found out I done a bit of detective work first got my evidence together so he couldn't deny shit! then battered him out if his sleep lol he didn't know what hit him! when I laid all his shit bare he didn't know what to say! he lost everything! my son has a part time father now! oh and I have the house! only fair he got the car muhahahaha

No bloody wonder he cheated you sound like a bit of a physcho

She's done men a favour though with that post

I'm not a physcho thank you! What would your reaction be to your whole world falling apart in front of you? everything you's built together thrown away for what!!!! its the worst feeling in the world! cannot discribe it

Well I don't think violence is the answer to anything. I'm presuming that 'battered' was used to describe hitting him.

I don't understand why people post such personal stuff about their real life on a swinger forum.... "

Obviously signs of a honest genuine person that got nothing to hide I think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not judging at all, apologies if it read that way! I have gone through similar and it us very difficult I know first hand but the part time dad was abit harsh, I would hate to think my ex would refer to me as that!

I wasn't making fun at the "part time dad" nothing funny about it!

He caused it...

yes he did and he regrets it! we've both moved on with our lives and our son is happy

When you look back, do you wonder if it would have been different had you found fabs before he found her?

No I wouldn't have looked! I've never cheated in my life! its not in me! I was dedicated to him and him only! "

Being married is not easy, probably the hardest thing in the world to maintain. It's all a pile of shit and I don't know how I got sucked into it.

Marriage is the most binding legal contract you will ever sign and for what? To get called every name under the sun and have your character assassinated in front of everyone when it ends. Not to mention the financial cost, which only the lawyers benefit from usually. Sounds like a whole load of fun. NOT. Never again will I fall for that crap.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I don't understand why people post such personal stuff about their real life on a swinger forum....

"

Because we are anonymous and it's the web.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not judging at all, apologies if it read that way! I have gone through similar and it us very difficult I know first hand but the part time dad was abit harsh, I would hate to think my ex would refer to me as that!

I wasn't making fun at the "part time dad" nothing funny about it!

He caused it...

yes he did and he regrets it! we've both moved on with our lives and our son is happy

When you look back, do you wonder if it would have been different had you found fabs before he found her?

No I wouldn't have looked! I've never cheated in my life! its not in me! I was dedicated to him and him only!

Being married is not easy, probably the hardest thing in the world to maintain. It's all a pile of shit and I don't know how I got sucked into it.

Marriage is the most binding legal contract you will ever sign and for what? To get called every name under the sun and have your character assassinated in front of everyone when it ends. Not to mention the financial cost, which only the lawyers benefit from usually. Sounds like a whole load of fun. NOT. Never again will I fall for that crap."

She didnt say she was married

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well he'd be a fool for handing over his house and everything then. Maybe he could afford it and it didn't matter to him. Who knows?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not judging at all, apologies if it read that way! I have gone through similar and it us very difficult I know first hand but the part time dad was abit harsh, I would hate to think my ex would refer to me as that!

I wasn't making fun at the "part time dad" nothing funny about it!

He caused it...

yes he did and he regrets it! we've both moved on with our lives and our son is happy

When you look back, do you wonder if it would have been different had you found fabs before he found her?

No I wouldn't have looked! I've never cheated in my life! its not in me! I was dedicated to him and him only!

Being married is not easy, probably the hardest thing in the world to maintain. It's all a pile of shit and I don't know how I got sucked into it.

Marriage is the most binding legal contract you will ever sign and for what? To get called every name under the sun and have your character assassinated in front of everyone when it ends. Not to mention the financial cost, which only the lawyers benefit from usually. Sounds like a whole load of fun. NOT. Never again will I fall for that crap.

She didnt say she was married "

No we weren't lol

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By *uckynumber6Man
over a year ago

Limerick


"Not judging at all, apologies if it read that way! I have gone through similar and it us very difficult I know first hand but the part time dad was abit harsh, I would hate to think my ex would refer to me as that!

I wasn't making fun at the "part time dad" nothing funny about it!

He caused it...

yes he did and he regrets it! we've both moved on with our lives and our son is happy

When you look back, do you wonder if it would have been different had you found fabs before he found her?

No I wouldn't have looked! I've never cheated in my life! its not in me! I was dedicated to him and him only!

Being married is not easy, probably the hardest thing in the world to maintain. It's all a pile of shit and I don't know how I got sucked into it.

Marriage is the most binding legal contract you will ever sign and for what? To get called every name under the sun and have your character assassinated in front of everyone when it ends. Not to mention the financial cost, which only the lawyers benefit from usually. Sounds like a whole load of fun. NOT. Never again will I fall for that crap.

She didnt say she was married

No we weren't lol "

Plus dude don't be so cynical we all feel that way at times but when the time is right and the person is right I am sure we would all take plunge again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not judging at all, apologies if it read that way! I have gone through similar and it us very difficult I know first hand but the part time dad was abit harsh, I would hate to think my ex would refer to me as that!

I wasn't making fun at the "part time dad" nothing funny about it!

He caused it...

yes he did and he regrets it! we've both moved on with our lives and our son is happy

When you look back, do you wonder if it would have been different had you found fabs before he found her?

No I wouldn't have looked! I've never cheated in my life! its not in me! I was dedicated to him and him only!

Being married is not easy, probably the hardest thing in the world to maintain. It's all a pile of shit and I don't know how I got sucked into it.

Marriage is the most binding legal contract you will ever sign and for what? To get called every name under the sun and have your character assassinated in front of everyone when it ends. Not to mention the financial cost, which only the lawyers benefit from usually. Sounds like a whole load of fun. NOT. Never again will I fall for that crap.

She didnt say she was married

No we weren't lol "

See.... some may think i'm a cunt but at least i'm a cunt who reads ALL of the thread ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your funeral. Once was enough for me. Why the need to get married? It's nothing more than a legal contract. It has nothing to do with love. It's a contract to pass money from the spouse who has the most to the spouse who has the least if and when the marriage ends. Nothing more. Those are the facts.

Nothing to do with being cynical.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not judging at all, apologies if it read that way! I have gone through similar and it us very difficult I know first hand but the part time dad was abit harsh, I would hate to think my ex would refer to me as that!

I wasn't making fun at the "part time dad" nothing funny about it!

He caused it...

yes he did and he regrets it! we've both moved on with our lives and our son is happy

When you look back, do you wonder if it would have been different had you found fabs before he found her?

No I wouldn't have looked! I've never cheated in my life! its not in me! I was dedicated to him and him only!

Being married is not easy, probably the hardest thing in the world to maintain. It's all a pile of shit and I don't know how I got sucked into it.

Marriage is the most binding legal contract you will ever sign and for what? To get called every name under the sun and have your character assassinated in front of everyone when it ends. Not to mention the financial cost, which only the lawyers benefit from usually. Sounds like a whole load of fun. NOT. Never again will I fall for that crap.

She didnt say she was married

No we weren't lol

See.... some may think i'm a cunt but at least i'm a cunt who reads ALL of the thread ha"

I'm might be a cunt, but I'm not a fucking cunt. I might have screwed your sister but I'll never screw your mum.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GQO1qZD5lek

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your funeral. Once was enough for me. Why the need to get married? It's nothing more than a legal contract. It has nothing to do with love. It's a contract to pass money from the spouse who has the most to the spouse who has the least if and when the marriage ends. Nothing more. Those are the facts.

Nothing to do with being cynical."

Why did the majority of people in Ireland recently vote for gay marraige recently then if its just about money?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's nothing to do with anything. That's freedom of choice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well it is just about money/assets. The state even gives you tax breaks for it. What do you think signing a marriage cert is about? Where does it mention the word love on it? Nowhere. You need a piece of paper to prove you love someone. Fair enough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your funeral. Once was enough for me. Why the need to get married? It's nothing more than a legal contract. It has nothing to do with love. It's a contract to pass money from the spouse who has the most to the spouse who has the least if and when the marriage ends. Nothing more. Those are the facts.

Nothing to do with being cynical."

Don't remember ever hearing that in vows... Wasn't it worth it at the time? Easy to complain afterwards.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your funeral. Once was enough for me. Why the need to get married? It's nothing more than a legal contract. It has nothing to do with love. It's a contract to pass money from the spouse who has the most to the spouse who has the least if and when the marriage ends. Nothing more. Those are the facts.

Nothing to do with being cynical.

Don't remember ever hearing that in vows... Wasn't it worth it at the time? Easy to complain afterwards."

^^^^^^ this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not in the vows otherwise no one would get married. It's in the divorce laws. lol Read em before you sign a marriage cert, they are one in the same.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It actually is in the vows in a cryptic way.

"To care for in sickness and in health until death us do part." That ring a bell?

They are not joking either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's not in the vows otherwise no one would get married. It's in the divorce laws. lol Read em before you sign a marriage cert, they are one in the same."

I paid €15 to see "50 shades of Grey", realised I was never going to get those 2 hours back & could have had more fun making my own film, felt used & disappointed but I don't hold it against the cimema, I was expecting to be excited & happy but hey, it didn't work out. Should I sue them for compensation as I didn't enjoy it? (P.S. I didn't read the small print, that has to be their fault too right?)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

True, I'm not blaming it on anyone or the state. I signed up, no one held a gun to my head. My problem.

Just saying most people don't know what they are getting themselves into until it ends, and 50% of them do in the first 5 years. The other 50%, well probably half of them stay together for the kids. The remaining are probably cheating. I'm guessing probably not more then 10% of marriages last a life time.

It's just the reality of it. Like I said, being married is not easy to do. Just going by the statistics alone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People change, if you can't change together, you change apart.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Invite him in and change my profile to couple

Roll on the happy days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im pretty sure he cheated on her, for there to be evidence it must have been more than once.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I believe in second chances! when you have something to fight for yes I'll give it my all but that was his second chance and he blew it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I believe in second chances! when you have something to fight for yes I'll give it my all but that was his second chance and he blew it! "

So did she.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"True, I'm not blaming it on anyone or the state. I signed up, no one held a gun to my head. My problem.

Just saying most people don't know what they are getting themselves into until it ends, and 50% of them do in the first 5 years. The other 50%, well probably half of them stay together for the kids. The remaining are probably cheating. I'm guessing probably not more then 10% of marriages last a life time.

It's just the reality of it. Like I said, being married is not easy to do. Just going by the statistics alone."

The use of the word probably 3 times is proof youre talking a load of unfounded,factless, made up jibberish.....

Dont base everyones marraige on your own failures....

Amen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't take my word for it. Go look up the stats yourself Einstein.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Actually Ireland is doing amazing well at staying married. I stand corrected.

With nearly one in ten marriages here ending in separation or divorce, Ireland has the lowest rate of divorce in Europe and the third lowest in the world, after Mexico and Chile.

http://www.irishtimes.com/life-and-style/divorce-irish-style-1.2068656

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Actually Ireland is doing amazing well at staying married. I stand corrected.

With nearly one in ten marriages here ending in separation or divorce, Ireland has the lowest rate of divorce in Europe and the third lowest in the world, after Mexico and Chile.

http://www.irishtimes.com/life-and-style/divorce-irish-style-1.2068656"

Divorce was only legalised in Ireland two decades ago, we haven't got in the habit yet of serial marriages...

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By *al2001Man
over a year ago

kildare


"Not judging at all, apologies if it read that way! I have gone through similar and it us very difficult I know first hand but the part time dad was abit harsh, I would hate to think my ex would refer to me as that!

I wasn't making fun at the "part time dad" nothing funny about it!

He caused it...

yes he did and he regrets it! we've both moved on with our lives and our son is happy

When you look back, do you wonder if it would have been different had you found fabs before he found her?

No I wouldn't have looked! I've never cheated in my life! its not in me! I was dedicated to him and him only! "

What if you found fab as a couple? Think he would have cheated? Would you like to have swung together?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

heheh. I was going on OZ and US stats so not fair to compare. My apologies Irish gitz. Nice work.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

He caused it...

yes he did and he regrets it! we've both moved on with our lives and our son is happy

When you look back, do you wonder if it would have been different had you found fabs before he found her?

No I wouldn't have looked! I've never cheated in my life! its not in me! I was dedicated to him and him only!

What if you found fab as a couple? Think he would have cheated? Would you like to have swung together?"

If you can survive swinging you can survive anything. You would have the most rock solid relationship you could possibly imagine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"heheh. I was going on OZ and US stats so not fair to compare. My apologies Irish gitz. Nice work."

Personally, I would have a higher standard than "not getting divorced" in describing a marriage as "successful".

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By *llie and ApplesCouple
over a year ago

where ever


"People change, if you can't change together, you change apart."

I like that one...gonna use that myself...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not judging at all, apologies if it read that way! I have gone through similar and it us very difficult I know first hand but the part time dad was abit harsh, I would hate to think my ex would refer to me as that!

I wasn't making fun at the "part time dad" nothing funny about it!

He caused it...

yes he did and he regrets it! we've both moved on with our lives and our son is happy

When you look back, do you wonder if it would have been different had you found fabs before he found her?

No I wouldn't have looked! I've never cheated in my life! its not in me! I was dedicated to him and him only!

What if you found fab as a couple? Think he would have cheated? Would you like to have swung together?"

mmm I think he still would have tbh! he had a wandering eye! We had a great sex life! We had threesomes before and kept things interesting! but obviously wasn't enough for him! but swinging never came into my head at all! but in the future with another partner if it came up about in conversation I'd be open to it with mutual agreement! as long as both parties are happy

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By *ornybelfastcplCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

This is a massive issue with more shades of grey than those God woeful books.

To the OP, it's not the fault of the other person involved in a partner cheating, but I think it's only natural to want to punch someone who has been playing with your train set behind your back.

On cheating in general which seam to have taken over the thread. To me, monogamy, in an evolutionary biological sense is counter intuitive. We have been honed over thousands of years to sow our seed as it were, as far and wide as possible. This is especially true of dominant, high T males that women find so attractive. Women are naturally drawn to these men for the very same characteristics that will eventually drive these men to cheat! And the guy (or indeed girl) will be demonised for simply doing what evolutionary biology drives them to do. Polyamory is the way forward...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's like the paleo sex diet.

But you are right, human nature prevails.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are sentient beings and capable of self-control - and plenty of people are capable of monogamy.

The salient point perhaps is not how many sexual partners you have, but the level of integrity with which you choose to conduct your relationships.

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By *ornybelfastcplCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

My point is that some people have more control than others, through no fault of thief own, it is simple their genetic make up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My point is that some people have more control than others, through no fault of thief own, it is simple their genetic make up. "

Then don't commit to monogamy - leave it for those who are capable of it

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By *ornybelfastcplCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

Is that not why most of the couples are here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would presume so, but there are also plenty of monogamous couples. To state that "polyamory is the way forward" as if there were something wrong with monogamy is as narrowminded as the view that swinging is wrong.

My point is that honesty with your sexual partners, regardless of how many there might be, is surely desirable and attainable for all?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I seriously am shocked at the attitude of the poster re swinging mothers.

If he seriously thinks that swinging makes us promiscuous, then he seriously needs to rethink why he himself is a member of this site.

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By *ornybelfastcplCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

I fully agree, there is nothing wrong monogamy as long as it works for those involved, my point is that it is held up as the ideal and any deviation is a weakness or aberration and anyone who is not capable of it is demonised, when in fact as animals it is not our natural order.

Many people get into supposedly monogamous relationships when they are young and don't fully understand themselves, their needs and desires. By the time they work out that it's not for them, they have a family to worry about. It's not an easy decision to break up a family, but those damn pesky hormones won't shut up and cheating is the result.


"I would presume so, but there are also plenty of monogamous couples. To state that "polyamory is the way forward" as if there were something wrong with monogamy is as narrowminded as the view that swinging is wrong.

My point is that honesty with your sexual partners, regardless of how many there might be, is surely desirable and attainable for all?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I seriously am shocked at the attitude of the poster re swinging mothers.

If he seriously thinks that swinging makes us promiscuous, then he seriously needs to rethink why he himself is a member of this site."

I bit my tongue with that post lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone labels themselves a swinger there is an inherent degree of promiscuity that goes with it.

Otherwise they would be chaste, in a monogamous relationship or looking for one.

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By *ornybelfastcplCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

This is my point! As a species we are naturally promiscuous, look at Bonoboes, our closest relatives, they will literally fuck anything that moves! But our society tells us this is wrong, but the natural order shall prevail and swinging is a way to indulge these desires while maintaining an outward facade of monogamy


"If someone labels themselves a swinger there is an inherent degree of promiscuity that goes with it.

Otherwise they would be chaste, in a monogamous relationship or looking for one.

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is my point! As a species we are naturally promiscuous, look at Bonoboes, our closest relatives, they will literally fuck anything that moves! But our society tells us this is wrong, but the natural order shall prevail and swinging is a way to indulge these desires while maintaining an outward facade of monogamy

"

Yeah but have you seen the hack of them, they're no oil paintings.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are preaching to the choir.

Still looking for a girl who can kill off my roving eye though. A unicorn maybe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think monogamy or the illusion of it is a stronger foundation for society though..stronger family units etc. etc. so I'm not so sure about the 'way forward'.

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By *ornybelfastcplCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

I grew in a family unit that was ostensibly monogamous, however my father was dominant, high T, Alpha kinda guy, and I can assure you it was far from a strong family unit. It's only know, looking back that I can see he was just a man trapped in an environment that was not for him and it wasn't his fault, we would all have been in a better place if he had left and done what made him happy.


"I think monogamy or the illusion of it is a stronger foundation for society though..stronger family units etc. etc. so I'm not so sure about the 'way forward'.

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't know what a different societal model would look like?

Middle eastern multiple wives type of thing?

I think the fault of society is pressurising people like that into marriage which might not be for them.

But then you might not be here typing...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If someone labels themselves a swinger there is an inherent degree of promiscuity that goes with it.

Otherwise they would be chaste, in a monogamous relationship or looking for one.

"

Did the thought ever cross your mind that we women could simply be here to enjoy sex?

Swinging allows us to express our sexuality, fulfill our sexual needs, desires, explore our fantasties without fear of judgement.

Though when I read some of the posts on this thread, judgement seems to be a huge problem.

Promiscuouity is in itself merely a label, perhaps used by those who fear stepping outside their own boxes.

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By *rossflow daveMan
over a year ago

Mullingar


"I fully agree, there is nothing wrong monogamy as long as it works for those involved, my point is that it is held up as the ideal and any deviation is a weakness or aberration and anyone who is not capable of it is demonised, when in fact as animals it is not our natural order.

Many people get into supposedly monogamous relationships when they

are young and don't fully understand themselves, their needs and desires. By the time they work out that it's not

for them, they have a family to worry

about. It's not an easy decision to break up a family, but those damn pesky hormones won't shut up and cheating is the result.

This is probably the best explanation of most people's situation who cheat that I've read on this site as long as I've been here !!

I would presume so, but there are also plenty of monogamous couples. To state that "polyamory is the way forward" as if there were something wrong with monogamy is as narrowminded as the view that swinging is wrong.

My point is that honesty with your sexual partners, regardless of how many there might be, is surely desirable and attainable for all?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to say Cross and horny have valid points;

The original question was in regard to cheating and how you would or could cope etc..

The simple answer is we are all human and react in different ways to different situations... There is no right or Wong answer... I outlined my own experience many posts ago, but thinking if it happened now to me rather than then I might have reacted differently...

How people feel towards each other changes all the time and our feelings etc., will also change as well.. Lots of influencers here like work, wealth, friends etc etc.,

The part of the thread that made me laugh was basically in my words.. ur a bad person if your a Swinger and deserve it... I think my summary sums up those comments... Happy to be corrected

My reply... I'll put 5 face pics of 5 people in front of the people that commented that way...

Show me the following;

The caring Nurse that spends their time abusing old people

The trusted priest that ...fill in the blanks

The gifted teacher that...

The honest council member...

The local swinger...

Ffs... What way u label people does not define the way they live their lives or how trustworthy, faithfull or honest they may be... It is wrong.. End off ...

Swingers are some of the most honest and nicest people I've ever met but aren't any better or any worse than every other person I've met in life that are or aren't not my friend..

To the people who think / believe anything like that, all I can advise is to get out more and open your eyes..

Sorry, long answer I know...soz again xx

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By *osafewordneededMan
over a year ago

City

Id say "don't stop on my account" then go get a bag and pack my things, then wish them good luck and leave.

Then I'd post something to facebook like "I always thought I would be the guy caught in bed with another mans wife, not catching someone in bed with mine"

If she came after me for more than her fair share I'd make it so she ended up with nothing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I rest my case ....lol ... People r people...

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By *eandmrsjones1Couple
over a year ago

Dublin


"If you showed up in court with evidence like that then they would find what is called "no fault" hands down. That means the marriage breakdown was nobody's fault. He would of course have to support his child and would have to sell or lose the family home.

Just saying. That's how family law works. Most men have no idea how to defend themselves in those situations because they don't do their research or don't care and thing nothing will happen. That's why women usually come out better."

Well for such an expert, you would think you would know that Ireland has a no fault divorce system, you don't need to provide any evidence as to why marriage has broken down or who's fault it was, it is irrelevant.

Maybe you need to do more research before handing out advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is no no fault like irreconcilable differences? So what happens if it's ones spouse fault? What do they call that.

No expert myself, just years of experience.

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By *eandmrsjones1Couple
over a year ago

Dublin


"Is no no fault like irreconcilable differences? So what happens if it's ones spouse fault? What do they call that.

No expert myself, just years of experience."

It is a no fault divorce regime, you can fuck rings around you, or not it makes no difference, all you are required to do is state that the marriage has ended and there is no chance of reconciliation and that you have not lived as a married couple for 4 of the last 5 years. End of story you do not have to state any reason for the marriage having failed and you will not be asked.

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By *eandmrsjones1Couple
over a year ago

Dublin


"Is no no fault like irreconcilable differences? So what happens if it's ones spouse fault? What do they call that.

No expert myself, just years of experience.

It is a no fault divorce regime, you can fuck rings around you, or not it makes no difference, all you are required to do is state that the marriage has ended and there is no chance of reconciliation and that you have not lived as a married couple for 4 of the last 5 years. End of story you do not have to state any reason for the marriage having failed and you will not be asked."

It's a bit surprising that you claim to have been through this but you don't know that !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Really. Cool. I was wondering why my ex was trying to blame everything on me like she was on the Dr Phill show and not in a court of law.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Either way. Divorce is a nasty business. Wouldn't wish it on anyone. What a nightmare that was.

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