FabSwingers.com forum: What would your friends say

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So. Do your friends know u are on fab or any other hook up site . What would they say if you told them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They would say we are sick and perverted

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By *rutus83Man
over a year ago

naas

"So. Do your friends know u are on fab or any other hook up site . What would they say if you told them?

My best mates know im on this site but they all know what ever i do is my own business so they dont say anything or ask anything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kittys friends would likely be speechless. Tomcats friends would likely raise an eyebrow or two

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They would probably disown me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2 of my best friends know and they are great about it, very supportive

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town

I think my friends would be shocked. It's something I don't want to tell them.I kind of like the idea of it being a secret.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Few of my friends no. I'm a single guy so I guess it's easier

Have very little consideration for what anyone would think

Im experience driven and could easily explain that to anyone who raised an eyebrow

Understand it might not be so easy for a married cpl tho

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By *lfieWoman
over a year ago

South Dublin

The strait-laced, prim and proper ones would probably faint on the spot.

I know some of the separated ones like myself would probably be curious and up for it though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've considered telling my friends, they would be interested and probably like to hear how my relationship has dealt with it - they're not curtain-twitchers or petty gossips.

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

I think there would be shock, horror and condemnation and a few sneaky questions like what's it like or how do I find people like that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely not!!

None of my friends or family are aware of my involvement in the lifestyle.

Swinging is so misunderstood and this is not helped by the GUTTER press who love to paint us as sexual perverts.grrrrrr.

Over the years through swinging, I have made a few friends, people who are still in my life, even though we do not meet up too often, we share the common bond that is swinging.

I would never ever intentionaly expose my family to finding out , the same for my civvie friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

None of my friends know..fab is a bubble I step in and out of..something that's apart from my real life and that suits me fine. I doubt any of them would judge me but we need our bubbles right?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our kids suspect we're swinging n just give us a bit of slagging. But haven't contradicted them

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By *aid backMan
over a year ago

by a lake with my rod out

my best mate knows and thinks im a jammy git.

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By *igbangman82Man
over a year ago

portlaois

Some want me to invite them to nights out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stoned in the street probably

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Stoned in the street probably "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Shiver me timbers"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't tell my nextdoor neighbour but apart form that, most people who know me know...and probably keep their wives and gfs and daughters away from me

lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Northerners generally don't even talk about sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is the secrecy not all part of it?

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By *randub69Man
over a year ago

city

no one knows,but it doesn't bother me if they find out,as i am a free agent...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sexy secrets Def part of it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've considered telling my friends, they would be interested and probably like to hear how my relationship has dealt with it - they're not curtain-twitchers or petty gossips."

Yes I think it would be interesting to gauge their reaction. Would u tell them what site and your profile name ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think my friends would be shocked. It's something I don't want to tell them.I kind of like the idea of it being a secret."

I know what u mean .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interesting topic. None of my friends know. And it will be staying that way.

My nightmare scenario is coming across a work colleague. That's why I am wary of sending face pics. Imagine mailing a woman here and she turned out to be a colleague. Ireland is a very small place. That's why I think that anyone who demands a face pic before even replying to mails is being a b@#ch. They don't understand the repercussions of sending a face pic to some randoner on a swinging site. They need to grow up a little.

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By *icketyupWoman
over a year ago

dublin

My closest mates know and I'm sure the others most likely suspect. My best mate is very supportive but obviously doesn't know the ins and outs but he is very open in saying if I ever have an issue to go to him.

That being said I'm sure if they weren't in relationships they'd be here themselves!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have extremely conservative friends I think they might go as far as stop my kids playing with theirs or even calling over!!

My 2 best friends are crazy have had affairs and are bold sexually...

One couldn't look at me after I told her I was on a swinger site she was discussed!!

The other wanted to know everything and I even arranged a special meet for her on her 40th birthday...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have extremely conservative friends I think they might go as far as stop my kids playing with theirs or even calling over!!

My 2 best friends are crazy have had affairs and are bold sexually...

One couldn't look at me after I told her I was on a swinger site she was discussed!!

The other wanted to know everything and I even arranged a special meet for her on her 40th birthday..."
You sound like a good friend. I think most of mine would disown me. Having said that, one lad would be all over it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My brother once found fab and pics on my phone, made a joke about it but has never said anything since.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've considered telling my friends, they would be interested and probably like to hear how my relationship has dealt with it - they're not curtain-twitchers or petty gossips.

Yes I think it would be interesting to gauge their reaction. Would u tell them what site and your profile name ?"

I'd tell them the site and see if they could recognise me from my pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My brother once found fab and pics on my phone, made a joke about it but has never said anything since."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's True lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

few family members and many friends know about it... few friends joined the lifestyle after they heard my story and I learned that few were already part of it

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By *ingerrrrWoman
over a year ago

Meath

My best buddy knows, she comes to events with me sometimes.

I told my sister a cpl of yrs ago and she thinks it's cool.

I don't tell too many people as its not really their business. But I doubt they'd be too surprised..

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By *aid backMan
over a year ago

by a lake with my rod out

"My best buddy knows, she comes to events with me sometimes.

I told my sister a cpl of yrs ago and she thinks it's cool.

I don't tell too many people as its not really their business. But I doubt they'd be too surprised..

who have a few buddies that have come to events

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My best buddy knows, she comes to events with me sometimes.

I told my sister a cpl of yrs ago and she thinks it's cool.

I don't tell too many people as its not really their business. But I doubt they'd be too surprised..

who have a few buddies that have come to events

Guilty of this! Anyone at the last social met one of my bezzies, all my friends know and weren't surprised really, I've even showed them my pics, it's more of a security thing for me so that someone knows where I am and who I'm meeting, I don't think it's my family's business and we don't talk about sex or relationships even. I had a ten year relationship and never introduced him to my parents, just private in that sense

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My best mate knows and thinks its great as she wud never have the guts !

Family have suspicions always asking were we are going and have seen a few questionable photos on our laptop at times . I don't really care who knows but I really enjoy this secret part of our lives and wud hate all the questions we would have to answer !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh my friends would be so disapproving

On the other hand found out my sis and her hubby are on Fab...

What a giggle that was when we busted each other

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh my friends would be so disapproving

On the other hand found out my sis and her hubby are on Fab...

What a giggle that was when we busted each other

That's fecked up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh my friends would be so disapproving

On the other hand found out my sis and her hubby are on Fab...

What a giggle that was when we busted each other

That's fecked up

Its was funny as feck...

Sitting in my livingroom having a few drinks...

The look on each others faces

PRICELESS

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh my friends would be so disapproving

On the other hand found out my sis and her hubby are on Fab...

What a giggle that was when we busted each other

That's fecked up

Its was funny as feck...

Sitting in my livingroom having a few drinks...

The look on each others faces

PRICELESS

We heard! Lmao

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh my friends would be so disapproving

On the other hand found out my sis and her hubby are on Fab...

What a giggle that was when we busted each other

That's fecked up

Its was funny as feck...

Sitting in my livingroom having a few drinks...

The look on each others faces

PRICELESS

Hope you hadn't be talking of a meet before hand

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They'd be horrified!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh my friends would be so disapproving

On the other hand found out my sis and her hubby are on Fab...

What a giggle that was when we busted each other

That's fecked up

Its was funny as feck...

Sitting in my livingroom having a few drinks...

The look on each others faces

PRICELESS

Hope you hadn't be talking of a meet before hand

Lol no thank god !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh my friends would be so disapproving

On the other hand found out my sis and her hubby are on Fab...

What a giggle that was when we busted each other

That's fecked up

Its was funny as feck...

Sitting in my livingroom having a few drinks...

The look on each others faces

PRICELESS

Hope you hadn't be talking of a meet before hand

Lol no thank god !!!

Well at least now you have the perfect people to look after your back on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fuck them...... people who you think are your friends are usually the people that shit on tou from the greatest height.

I tend to tell my "friends" nothing about any part of my life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh my friends would be so disapproving

On the other hand found out my sis and her hubby are on Fab...

What a giggle that was when we busted each other

That's fecked up

Its was funny as feck...

Sitting in my livingroom having a few drinks...

The look on each others faces

PRICELESS

Hope you hadn't be talking of a meet before hand

Lol no thank god !!!

Well at least now you have the perfect people to look after your back on here.

We tend to run in different circles....

To weird to have same friends...

But yeah as a single women on fab it is good to say to them..

This is where im going etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh my friends would be so disapproving

On the other hand found out my sis and her hubby are on Fab...

What a giggle that was when we busted each other

That's fecked up

Its was funny as feck...

Sitting in my livingroom having a few drinks...

The look on each others faces

PRICELESS

Hope you hadn't be talking of a meet before hand

Lol no thank god !!!

Well at least now you have the perfect people to look after your back on here.

We tend to run in different circles....

To weird to have same friends...

But yeah as a single women on fab it is good to say to them..

This is where im going etc

Sensible. Safety always comes first. Do you read each other's verifications lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh my friends would be so disapproving

On the other hand found out my sis and her hubby are on Fab...

What a giggle that was when we busted each other

That's fecked up

Its was funny as feck...

Sitting in my livingroom having a few drinks...

The look on each others faces

PRICELESS

Hope you hadn't be talking of a meet before hand

Lol no thank god !!!

Well at least now you have the perfect people to look after your back on here.

We tend to run in different circles....

To weird to have same friends...

But yeah as a single women on fab it is good to say to them..

This is where im going etc

Sensible. Safety always comes first. Do you read each other's verifications lol"

Oh god yes !!!!

It gives us a good excuse to wind each other up !!!

Unfortunately I couldnt publish the veri they sent to me

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By *LICK IF U DAREWoman
over a year ago

good girl gone bad!!!!!!

"So. Do your friends know u are on fab or any other hook up site . What would they say if you told them?

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my friends are as mad a me

if ye heard the banter sometimes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh my friends would be so disapproving

On the other hand found out my sis and her hubby are on Fab...

What a giggle that was when we busted each other

That's fecked up

Its was funny as feck...

Sitting in my livingroom having a few drinks...

The look on each others faces

PRICELESS

Hope you hadn't be talking of a meet before hand

Lol no thank god !!!

Well at least now you have the perfect people to look after your back on here.

We tend to run in different circles....

To weird to have same friends...

But yeah as a single women on fab it is good to say to them..

This is where im going etc

Sensible. Safety always comes first. Do you read each other's verifications lol

Oh god yes !!!!

It gives us a good excuse to wind each other up !!!

Unfortunately I couldnt publish the veri they sent to me

I dare ya to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And now the whole of the forum will be looking at your profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh my friends would be so disapproving

On the other hand found out my sis and her hubby are on Fab...

What a giggle that was when we busted each other

That's fecked up

Its was funny as feck...

Sitting in my livingroom having a few drinks...

The look on each others faces

PRICELESS

Hope you hadn't be talking of a meet before hand

Lol no thank god !!!

Well at least now you have the perfect people to look after your back on here.

We tend to run in different circles....

To weird to have same friends...

But yeah as a single women on fab it is good to say to them..

This is where im going etc

Sensible. Safety always comes first. Do you read each other's verifications lol

Oh god yes !!!!

It gives us a good excuse to wind each other up !!!

Unfortunately I couldnt publish the veri they sent to me

I dare ya to

Nope cant show that one lol

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By *rossflow daveMan
over a year ago

Mullingar

"I have extremely conservative friends I think they might go as far as stop my kids playing with theirs or even calling over!!

My 2 best friends are crazy have had affairs and are bold sexually...

One couldn't look at me after I told her I was on a swinger site she was discussed!!

The other wanted to know everything and I even arranged a special meet for her on her 40th birthday..."

Im turning 40 soon !! Just saying like

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town

"I have extremely conservative friends I think they might go as far as stop my kids playing with theirs or even calling over!!

My 2 best friends are crazy have had affairs and are bold sexually...

One couldn't look at me after I told her I was on a swinger site she was discussed!!

The other wanted to know everything and I even arranged a special meet for her on her 40th birthday...

Im turning 40 soon !! Just saying like

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sweet fook turning 40 your fecked

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By *rossflow daveMan
over a year ago

Mullingar

Shhhh letme , I'm trying for a sympathy shag here !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is the secrecy not all part of it? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Himself has a big mouth and told alot of his friends he was on a swinging site .. well he was single at the time .. but I'm sure they have put 2+2 together .. hence why his friends haven't met mine or my family lol

I prefer to keep fabland separate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A few of mine know and don't care.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been outted in work from socials, friends know, and as far as I'm concerned my proper friends won't judge and the ones that do aren't my proper mates.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My mates would only want to join

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They would be afraid and call anyone who has the balls to do what we do perverted and OBVIOUSLY UNHAPPY WITH OUR LIVES. To the brave I say bravo to the others I say nothing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My friends think I'm seeing a married man and don't ask too many questions when I say I can't meet up, that I have other plans..

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By *irishladMan
over a year ago

Malahide

My best friend knows and he was full of questions when I told him

He was mad keen to try it so I set up a MMF with a lady I was seeing at the time. He however got cold feet n pulled out at the last minite. I had to go meet her on my own and ride her twice as much

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My best friend knows and he was full of questions when I told him

He was mad keen to try it so I set up a MMF with a lady I was seeing at the time. He however got cold feet n pulled out at the last minite. I had to go meet her on my own and ride her twice as much

I'm sure twas no bother to ya Mr K

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By *punkyhelmet5Man
over a year ago

Weston-super-mare

My sisters and my son and family no as well as most of my friends im not ashamed so why hide it. My friends always say how many fucks u had this week.then and,laugh bout it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One of my friends joined as well!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Oh my friends would be so disapproving

On the other hand found out my sis and her hubby are on Fab...

What a giggle that was when we busted each other

That's fecked up

Its was funny as feck...

Sitting in my livingroom having a few drinks...

The look on each others faces

PRICELESS

Hope you hadn't be talking of a meet before hand

Lol no thank god !!!

Well at least now you have the perfect people to look after your back on here.

We tend to run in different circles....

To weird to have same friends...

But yeah as a single women on fab it is good to say to them..

This is where im going etc

Sensible. Safety always comes first. Do you read each other's verifications lol

Oh god yes !!!!

It gives us a good excuse to wind each other up !!!

Unfortunately I couldnt publish the veri they sent to me

I dare ya to

Nope cant show that one lol

"
d

Did u see pics

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By *arkedMan
over a year ago

Trim

Both my friends, family and indeed work colleagues know I've been on various dating sites and that I've dated 4 ladies from them (only ever 1 at a time.... I know how some minds think lol). One was even my true love, just a shame I wasn't hers. Dated 2 yrs, best friends the last 3 and we still talk nearly every single day, so yes you can be platonic after you've been intimate. But no not about here, but to say "I know they wouldn't understand" would be the understatement of the Millennium (never mind the year), which I find sad really, but that is where 'mainstream society' is at the min. Or maybe it's just my friends...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Absolutely not!!

None of my friends or family are aware of my involvement in the lifestyle.

Swinging is so misunderstood and this is not helped by the GUTTER press who love to paint us as sexual perverts.grrrrrr.

Over the years through swinging, I have made a few friends, people who are still in my life, even though we do not meet up too often, we share the common bond that is swinging.

I would never ever intentionaly expose my family to finding out , the same for my civvie friends."

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By *unfella 1Man
over a year ago

dublin

Holy fook! Look at you!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My close friends know and love it. They are supportive and excited for me.

My brother knows too and although he doesn't 100% agree he accepts it's a big part of my personality

You either love the thrill and excitement of nobody knowing and have this kinky side to you that is hidden from your regular live

-or- those people close to you are aware of your adventurous sexuality and are usually not surprised to hear that you bring your kink on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yea sum of our close friends suspect that all not what it seems with us and the word swinging has come up a few times in conversation we die if they found out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Once I tell my friends about the fun times I have with meets, they want to give it a try and if im honest they meet more than me

need to get my finger out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *osafewordneededMan
over a year ago

City

They would probably call me a slut.

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