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"Because she's looking doesn't necessarily mean she done anything. Maybe she's lonely " Or nosey? I look at people I knows Facebook pages all the time. I'm not right sure what the issue is. | |||
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"He has told me in the past she has accused him on cheating a few times if this makes any difference " Ah yes, and if he knows he's not, then what has put the idea into her head? People who are untrustworthy themselves often have difficulty trusting others. Men far too often focus on the physical aspect of cheating, a woman who is emotionally disconnected with her partner can very easily become "intimate" with another man - once she does this, a marriage is in serious trouble. Your friend needs to have a serious talk with his wife | |||
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"That's good advice Casey lee his head is fried as he is away from home 5 notes a week " Marriage counselling might be a good idea | |||
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"He could just message the person on Facebook and see what response he gets . But this is likely to cause a split wether it's good news or bad news " Marital problems are about the marriage - not the possible third party | |||
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"The best way to deal with issues like this is to be upfront and ask her straight out. Sneaking around spying in her is only going to drive him nuts. If he has concerns about his wife's "friendship" with another man, only his wife can allay those fears - and bringing it up shows her that he is aware of her interactions and concerned about their marriage. Trust and communication are the backbone of a successful relationship." 100% agree with Casey x | |||
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"Tell him to open up an account on fab.....at least in here you dont get "cheating" as much as you do in the real world. Thats why i like here. There arent too many secrets " For a relationship already in trouble, swinging is the worst possible idea | |||
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"The best way to deal with issues like this is to be upfront and ask her straight out. Sneaking around spying in her is only going to drive him nuts. If he has concerns about his wife's "friendship" with another man, only his wife can allay those fears - and bringing it up shows her that he is aware of her interactions and concerned about their marriage. Trust and communication are the backbone of a successful relationship." Well said..i agree totally with you.. | |||
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"my friend has just admitted that he deleted this guy from her friends and she had sent him a message 2 hours later saying Jesus I've just seen that you've deleted me as a friend hope I've done nothing to annoy you I'm very sorry if I did. What do I say to that I know the poor guys in bits he's been here for me a lot want to return favour for him" Be very careful about getting involved in other people's problems. The best advice you can give him is to talk to his wife. | |||
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"my friend has just admitted that he deleted this guy from her friends and she had sent him a message 2 hours later saying Jesus I've just seen that you've deleted me as a friend hope I've done nothing to annoy you I'm very sorry if I did. What do I say to that I know the poor guys in bits he's been here for me a lot want to return favour for him Be very careful about getting involved in other people's problems. The best advice you can give him is to talk to his wife." Why would she use Facebook if she works with him she would have his number from work if anything was happening? ? | |||
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"my friend has just admitted that he deleted this guy from her friends and she had sent him a message 2 hours later saying Jesus I've just seen that you've deleted me as a friend hope I've done nothing to annoy you I'm very sorry if I did. What do I say to that I know the poor guys in bits he's been here for me a lot want to return favour for him Be very careful about getting involved in other people's problems. The best advice you can give him is to talk to his wife. Why would she use Facebook if she works with him she would have his number from work if anything was happening? ? " People can supposedly be friends with someone they work with? No? Although I personally don't get grown adults using Facebook at all. | |||
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"Lim I don't know any cheating woman at least knowingly cheating" There are plenty of people here who are married and cheating. | |||
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"Lim I don't know any cheating woman at least knowingly cheating" Private mail some of the women here | |||
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"Thanks Casey lee I know that it's worse as I'm the one he confides in" Yes, but only his wife can give him answers - he has to face up to the issue and the sooner the better. | |||
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"He asked me last nite to text her or email her from a strange number or account letting on that I'm this guy with a new number looking to know if she's up for fun with him. I know I know that's bad. He's trying to see if she would meet him or has " NO NO NO Tell him to grow a pair and confront her | |||
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"my friend has just admitted that he deleted this guy from her friends and she had sent him a message 2 hours later saying Jesus I've just seen that you've deleted me as a friend hope I've done nothing to annoy you I'm very sorry if I did. What do I say to that I know the poor guys in bits he's been here for me a lot want to return favour for him Be very careful about getting involved in other people's problems. The best advice you can give him is to talk to his wife. Why would she use Facebook if she works with him she would have his number from work if anything was happening? ? People can supposedly be friends with someone they work with? No? Although I personally don't get grown adults using Facebook at all. " If you looked over my last few posts you would know i was tryin to say she wasnt cheating maybe its him that has cheated and thats why he has that in his head but sure thats my opinion | |||
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"my friend has just admitted that he deleted this guy from her friends and she had sent him a message 2 hours later saying Jesus I've just seen that you've deleted me as a friend hope I've done nothing to annoy you I'm very sorry if I did. What do I say to that I know the poor guys in bits he's been here for me a lot want to return favour for him Be very careful about getting involved in other people's problems. The best advice you can give him is to talk to his wife. Why would she use Facebook if she works with him she would have his number from work if anything was happening? ? People can supposedly be friends with someone they work with? No? Although I personally don't get grown adults using Facebook at all. If you looked over my last few posts you would know i was tryin to say she wasnt cheating maybe its him that has cheated and thats why he has that in his head but sure thats my opinion " Anything is possible - but he's the one looking for help | |||
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"He asked me last nite to text her or email her from a strange number or account letting on that I'm this guy with a new number looking to know if she's up for fun with him. I know I know that's bad. He's trying to see if she would meet him or has " no tell him to talk to her someone did that to me and I know it was innocent I go mad.... | |||
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"Thanks Brutus I'm having a hard time getting him to think rationally " "I can't give you answers, only she can" | |||
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"He asked me last nite to text her or email her from a strange number or account letting on that I'm this guy with a new number looking to know if she's up for fun with him. I know I know that's bad. He's trying to see if she would meet him or has " Jasus don't do that . He needs to man up and ask the hard questions | |||
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"How could u approach it tactfully goldilocks he is not one for tactfully approaching anything he's afaid he will make things 10 times worse I guess" by the sound of his rational thinking he's made his mind up as for pretending to be someone else and it's a person she works with that's asking for major trouble. Bit like entrapment the lad don't forget prob doesn't even know she's stalking him | |||
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"How could u approach it tactfully goldilocks he is not one for tactfully approaching anything he's afaid he will make things 10 times worse I guess" If you corner an animal it will attack you, so no choice there! Well answer to that is with maturity! First say look I was on the computer you left your Facebook opened I looked although I believe I shouldn't have but now I have a.doubt in my mind because.... Blah di.blah something like that I don't know main thing is to keep calm and don't accuse or assume is one way or another | |||
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"Yes yosser he's not usually short of going at something believe me but my take on it is all he has is that she has searched this guys profile for about 2 years exchanged the odd message & a few times when he is home she has put the mobile down when he has walked in & that she sleeps with it under pillow now & she never used to do that" Hmm the trouble here is that you don't know what really goes on in their marriage - if he is the jealous type, he could have made her become secretive... My advice still stands, you're getting yourself embroiled in something where you: -dont know the full facts -are not impartial -may make things worse unintentionally | |||
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"Yes yosser he's not usually short of going at something believe me but my take on it is all he has is that she has searched this guys profile for about 2 years exchanged the odd message & a few times when he is home she has put the mobile down when he has walked in & that she sleeps with it under pillow now & she never used to do that" You know too much, this is you, you are talking about 100% so you made out to be your friend so yoy wouldn't come across as a hypocrit.... Well people in glass houses shouldn't trow stones approach it with maturity you are not innocent either you got no right to judge | |||
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"It's not me at all goldilocks he tells me everything believe me lol. Even when I don't want to get involved but I have seen that on here so easy to assume why u think its me " Because I have a huge common sense, some of the details are very hard to tell others nit because you don't wanna tell but because they are small enough it would have to be an extremely detailed conversation and usually they don't take place especially if you are listening to a friend for hours, if you know what I mean and before some of you contrary people say I do that! Well sure you do! We all listen to friends but we all have our limits! So You are in a swinging site asking advice for yourself the best thing you can do is take the good advice which is Upfront No double standards Keep calm Dont point finger Focus on solution no problem! Simple I personally don't care whether is you or not as I know this things happen in life but we gotta look at ourselves first and see are we behaving the same are we doing something to trigger that behaviour in them as I once said before only three type if relationship last 1)Both change 2)man changes 3)she changes Change to accomodate the other to fit in, if you are not willing to change for her and she is not for you well you might aswell leave now! Life is full of changes! All the time one second to the other! | |||
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"Not many women will just admit they are cheating (or men )can't see any good coming from confronting her.I would just keep an eye on fb account and see how it progresses.I know that wouldn't be a popular opinion around here" I guess it depends on whether you want to salvage a relationship or just catch the other person out. | |||
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"I'm sure if she was cheating and meeting the person she wouldn't need to be looking at his Facebook page especially on her husbands phone. Women ain't that stupid. " | |||
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"Michael that is what's getting to him he knows when he's away she has the time to play away if she wanted to" Aha, you see I thought it was Chuck, the truck driving fuck, who was away a lot. Oops | |||
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"No she ain't a lorry driver what twisted fantasy do u have lol" It involves a Rubber Duck, a few Bears & adoration of the number 10. | |||
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"No she ain't a lorry driver what twisted fantasy do u have lol It involves a Rubber Duck, a few Bears & adoration of the number 10." 10-4 good buddy! | |||
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"I can't say he's hoping she's up to something but I agree what he wants me to do is wrong & I don't want to be this closely involved I like his wife & get on well with her blue" So you're thinking of throwing her a bone yourself? Nice one! | |||
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"Am I the only cynic in the entire country who doesn't believe a word of this? " Nope I contributed earlier but having discussed it with my sensai I now call BS | |||
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"Am I the only cynic in the entire country who doesn't believe a word of this? Nope I contributed earlier but having discussed it with my sensai I now call BS " He knows shit, does your sensai! | |||
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"No she ain't a lorry driver what twisted fantasy do u have lol It involves a Rubber Duck, a few Bears & adoration of the number 10. 10-4 good buddy! " We could form a convoy | |||
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"Am I the only cynic in the entire country who doesn't believe a word of this? Nope I contributed earlier but having discussed it with my sensai I now call BS " Yay! I am sensai! I own Ya Yosser | |||
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"Am I the only cynic in the entire country who doesn't believe a word of this? Nope I contributed earlier but having discussed it with my sensai I now call BS Yay! I am sensai! I own Ya Yosser " Supposed to be my "secret " Sensai However on topic MMM reckons you know shit??? | |||
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" For a relationship already in trouble, swinging is the worst possible idea" | |||
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" For a relationship already in trouble, swinging is the worst possible idea " fuck I don't know it seems a good place to cheat | |||
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"My best friend rang me this morning upset about finding his wife is searching a guy she works with profile on Facebook a hell of a lot. Her moblie is broke so she logged in to Facebook on his & he has his phone set to remember passwords so when he went to log in logged it to hers. He's not proud that he snooped through her Facebook activity log but he came across all these searches for the same guy & there friends already. They have young children & he doesn't want to slip the family up but he has it in his head now she's cheating on him. He's a lorry driver and is away a lot to make matters worse. Any of you been through this? He wants advice as he's not sure how to handle it" Does this friend exist or are you the truck driver?? | |||
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"My best friend rang me this morning upset about finding his wife is searching a guy she works with profile on Facebook a hell of a lot. Her moblie is broke so she logged in to Facebook on his & he has his phone set to remember passwords so when he went to log in logged it to hers. He's not proud that he snooped through her Facebook activity log but he came across all these searches for the same guy & there friends already. They have young children & he doesn't want to slip the family up but he has it in his head now she's cheating on him. He's a lorry driver and is away a lot to make matters worse. Any of you been through this? He wants advice as he's not sure how to handle it Does this friend exist or are you the truck driver??" Henceforth to be known as Chuck, the truck driving fuck! | |||
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"My best friend rang me this morning upset about finding his wife is searching a guy she works with profile on Facebook a hell of a lot. Her moblie is broke so she logged in to Facebook on his & he has his phone set to remember passwords so when he went to log in logged it to hers. He's not proud that he snooped through her Facebook activity log but he came across all these searches for the same guy & there friends already. They have young children & he doesn't want to slip the family up but he has it in his head now she's cheating on him. He's a lorry driver and is away a lot to make matters worse. Any of you been through this? He wants advice as he's not sure how to handle it Does this friend exist or are you the truck driver?? Henceforth to be known as Chuck, the truck driving fuck! " | |||
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"I read this complete story in the problem page on a well known tabloid newspaper yesterday ... Word for word !!!! Unbelievable ... I suppose he submitted it to the newspaper for advise too lol " must have been stumped for a thread idea | |||
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"I read this complete story in the problem page on a well known tabloid newspaper yesterday ... Word for word !!!! Unbelievable ... I suppose he submitted it to the newspaper for advise too lol must have been stumped for a thread idea" Seriously ! Haha .. Fair play it got lots of comments which he obviously wanted ... | |||
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"Which problem page on what tabloid newspaper? I can assure u this is a genuine post guys" Best not looking for advice on here .. we is all lovely and all .. but your friends personal life (if it's true) is their business.. I'm sure he wouldn't appreciate his paranoia being discussed on an open forum in a swing site .. just saying | |||
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