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"Just wondered what do people think should the age limit be raised to 25 ,I just had a 20year old girl tell me loosen up because I wouldn't give her my phone number or face pic after a few messages,I have no doubt she will find loads who will ,not sure here is the place for someone with all the innocence of youth or maybe I'm just an old cynic!!!" Don't think it would matter if the age limit was raised, people would just lie, it already happens. But I do hear what you are saying about young profiles. Never do anything you're not comfortable with. | |||
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"I dont think it's going to happen when the age of consent is 18.. If you feel ladies of 20 are too young for you, change your age filters? Youre not old, you just think differently to the younger generation. Continue on your fun " The age of consent here is 17 btw. | |||
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"I dont think it's going to happen when the age of consent is 18.. If you feel ladies of 20 are too young for you, change your age filters? Youre not old, you just think differently to the younger generation. Continue on your fun The age of consent here is 17 btw." Noted | |||
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"I dont think it's going to happen when the age of consent is 18.. If you feel ladies of 20 are too young for you, change your age filters? Youre not old, you just think differently to the younger generation. Continue on your fun The age of consent here is 17 btw. Noted " Not a dig, it's a nerve-wracking few months when your 17 year old testosterone fuelled son is dating a 16 year old girl! | |||
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"I dont think it's going to happen when the age of consent is 18.. If you feel ladies of 20 are too young for you, change your age filters? Youre not old, you just think differently to the younger generation. Continue on your fun The age of consent here is 17 btw. Noted Not a dig, it's a nerve-wracking few months when your 17 year old testosterone fuelled son is dating a 16 year old girl!" Aww I didnt take it as a dig, my 17 year old son turns 18 in 2 weeks so I understand what you mean. Im sure as the Mum you are ,hes grown into a responsible young man kids eh!!! | |||
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"I dont think it's going to happen when the age of consent is 18.. If you feel ladies of 20 are too young for you, change your age filters? Youre not old, you just think differently to the younger generation. Continue on your fun The age of consent here is 17 btw. Noted Not a dig, it's a nerve-wracking few months when your 17 year old testosterone fuelled son is dating a 16 year old girl!" I'm already dreading this day coming. My daughter is turning 11 soon. There should be a pause button! | |||
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"you do know that most of the 20 year old women profiles are actually men right? " you mean the 19 year old virgin with massive tits and a model body who wants to do all sorts of dirty things with me, isn't real? I was due to take her on an all expenses paid dirty weekend in a 5 star hotel down the country.. | |||
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"That's what filters are for. In fairness, immaturity isn't entirely to do with age. But there's no such thing as a mature 20 year old. " I'm 20 and also mature | |||
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"I dont think it's going to happen when the age of consent is 18.. If you feel ladies of 20 are too young for you, change your age filters? Youre not old, you just think differently to the younger generation. Continue on your fun The age of consent here is 17 btw. Noted Not a dig, it's a nerve-wracking few months when your 17 year old testosterone fuelled son is dating a 16 year old girl! I'm already dreading this day coming. My daughter is turning 11 soon. There should be a pause button! " Ah daughters are different, probably because they go through the same things you did when you were growing up so theyre easier to understand. I found I could cope better understanding my daughter than I did my 23 year old son or my upcoming 18 year old. As Casey said,, bleedin hormones!! | |||
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"you do know that most of the 20 year old women profiles are actually men right? you mean the 19 year old virgin with massive tits and a model body who wants to do all sorts of dirty things with me, isn't real? I was due to take her on an all expenses paid dirty weekend in a 5 star hotel down the country.." Just make sure there's a last-minute cancellation option on that €300 suite But I'm sure it's all good, unicorns are real | |||
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"Um yes, when your 15 year old girl's best friend has tongue and bellybutton piercings you do wonder what they get up to..." Lol what did you get up to at 15? Granted in my teens, punk rockers had the piercings but apart from the fashion statement of piercings these days, id say they're up to the same things as you were | |||
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"I dont think it's going to happen when the age of consent is 18.. If you feel ladies of 20 are too young for you, change your age filters? Youre not old, you just think differently to the younger generation. Continue on your fun The age of consent here is 17 btw. Noted Not a dig, it's a nerve-wracking few months when your 17 year old testosterone fuelled son is dating a 16 year old girl!" I agree my 17 son is dating a 16 girl it is nerve wracking her mother let's him stay the night with her | |||
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"There are plenty of immature people on here far older than 25" | |||
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"I dont think it's going to happen when the age of consent is 18.. If you feel ladies of 20 are too young for you, change your age filters? Youre not old, you just think differently to the younger generation. Continue on your fun The age of consent here is 17 btw. Noted Not a dig, it's a nerve-wracking few months when your 17 year old testosterone fuelled son is dating a 16 year old girl! I agree my 17 son is dating a 16 girl it is nerve wracking her mother let's him stay the night with her " My daughter whos 25 now came to me when she was 16 and had been seeing her boyfriend for about 6 months. She asked me to put her on the pill cos she was scared she'd get pregnant. I did this with her cos I admired her maturity and honesty in how she felt. After a while I allowed her boyfriend to stay overnight too. A little trust and lee way can reap the rewards,plus I hadn't the worry of her whereabouts either when they were together | |||
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"Just wondered what do people think should the age limit be raised to 25 ,I just had a 20year old girl tell me loosen up because I wouldn't give her my phone number or face pic after a few messages,I have no doubt she will find loads who will ,not sure here is the place for someone with all the innocence of youth or maybe I'm just an old cynic!!!" she cud well have been a he | |||
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"I dont think it's going to happen when the age of consent is 18.. If you feel ladies of 20 are too young for you, change your age filters? Youre not old, you just think differently to the younger generation. Continue on your fun The age of consent here is 17 btw. Noted Not a dig, it's a nerve-wracking few months when your 17 year old testosterone fuelled son is dating a 16 year old girl! I agree my 17 son is dating a 16 girl it is nerve wracking her mother let's him stay the night with her My daughter whos 25 now came to me when she was 16 and had been seeing her boyfriend for about 6 months. She asked me to put her on the pill cos she was scared she'd get pregnant. I did this with her cos I admired her maturity and honesty in how she felt. After a while I allowed her boyfriend to stay overnight too. A little trust and lee way can reap the rewards,plus I hadn't the worry of her whereabouts either when they were together " There is no such thing as "consent" in law where a 16 year old is concerned, the boy in question (regardless of his own age) could be charged with statutory rape and end up a convicted sex offender for life- all it takes is a falling-out and a vindictive ex. Parents of boys should be aware if this. | |||
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"you do know that most of the 20 year old women profiles are actually men right? " | |||
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"I dont think it's going to happen when the age of consent is 18.. If you feel ladies of 20 are too young for you, change your age filters? Youre not old, you just think differently to the younger generation. Continue on your fun The age of consent here is 17 btw. Noted Not a dig, it's a nerve-wracking few months when your 17 year old testosterone fuelled son is dating a 16 year old girl! I agree my 17 son is dating a 16 girl it is nerve wracking her mother let's him stay the night with her My daughter whos 25 now came to me when she was 16 and had been seeing her boyfriend for about 6 months. She asked me to put her on the pill cos she was scared she'd get pregnant. I did this with her cos I admired her maturity and honesty in how she felt. After a while I allowed her boyfriend to stay overnight too. A little trust and lee way can reap the rewards,plus I hadn't the worry of her whereabouts either when they were together There is no such thing as "consent" in law where a 16 year old is concerned, the boy in question (regardless of his own age) could be charged with statutory rape and end up a convicted sex offender for life- all it takes is a falling-out and a vindictive ex. Parents of boys should be aware if this." I had to give consent for birth control for her with my gp and in all honesty kids will have sex even if they are underage so I chose to protect my daughter from an unwanted pregnancy and also made sure my lads had and have condoms to protect themselves too. A kids mind doesn't think about the law. | |||
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"I dont think it's going to happen when the age of consent is 18.. If you feel ladies of 20 are too young for you, change your age filters? Youre not old, you just think differently to the younger generation. Continue on your fun The age of consent here is 17 btw. Noted Not a dig, it's a nerve-wracking few months when your 17 year old testosterone fuelled son is dating a 16 year old girl! I agree my 17 son is dating a 16 girl it is nerve wracking her mother let's him stay the night with her My daughter whos 25 now came to me when she was 16 and had been seeing her boyfriend for about 6 months. She asked me to put her on the pill cos she was scared she'd get pregnant. I did this with her cos I admired her maturity and honesty in how she felt. After a while I allowed her boyfriend to stay overnight too. A little trust and lee way can reap the rewards,plus I hadn't the worry of her whereabouts either when they were together There is no such thing as "consent" in law where a 16 year old is concerned, the boy in question (regardless of his own age) could be charged with statutory rape and end up a convicted sex offender for life- all it takes is a falling-out and a vindictive ex. Parents of boys should be aware if this. I had to give consent for birth control for her with my gp and in all honesty kids will have sex even if they are underage so I chose to protect my daughter from an unwanted pregnancy and also made sure my lads had and have condoms to protect themselves too. A kids mind doesn't think about the law. " spot on!if a child wants to have sex they will have sex | |||
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"I dont think it's going to happen when the age of consent is 18.. If you feel ladies of 20 are too young for you, change your age filters? Youre not old, you just think differently to the younger generation. Continue on your fun The age of consent here is 17 btw. Noted Not a dig, it's a nerve-wracking few months when your 17 year old testosterone fuelled son is dating a 16 year old girl! I agree my 17 son is dating a 16 girl it is nerve wracking her mother let's him stay the night with her My daughter whos 25 now came to me when she was 16 and had been seeing her boyfriend for about 6 months. She asked me to put her on the pill cos she was scared she'd get pregnant. I did this with her cos I admired her maturity and honesty in how she felt. After a while I allowed her boyfriend to stay overnight too. A little trust and lee way can reap the rewards,plus I hadn't the worry of her whereabouts either when they were together There is no such thing as "consent" in law where a 16 year old is concerned, the boy in question (regardless of his own age) could be charged with statutory rape and end up a convicted sex offender for life- all it takes is a falling-out and a vindictive ex. Parents of boys should be aware if this. I had to give consent for birth control for her with my gp and in all honesty kids will have sex even if they are underage so I chose to protect my daughter from an unwanted pregnancy and also made sure my lads had and have condoms to protect themselves too. A kids mind doesn't think about the law. " Good parenting (genuine) | |||
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"I dont think it's going to happen when the age of consent is 18.. If you feel ladies of 20 are too young for you, change your age filters? Youre not old, you just think differently to the younger generation. Continue on your fun The age of consent here is 17 btw. Noted Not a dig, it's a nerve-wracking few months when your 17 year old testosterone fuelled son is dating a 16 year old girl! I agree my 17 son is dating a 16 girl it is nerve wracking her mother let's him stay the night with her My daughter whos 25 now came to me when she was 16 and had been seeing her boyfriend for about 6 months. She asked me to put her on the pill cos she was scared she'd get pregnant. I did this with her cos I admired her maturity and honesty in how she felt. After a while I allowed her boyfriend to stay overnight too. A little trust and lee way can reap the rewards,plus I hadn't the worry of her whereabouts either when they were together There is no such thing as "consent" in law where a 16 year old is concerned, the boy in question (regardless of his own age) could be charged with statutory rape and end up a convicted sex offender for life- all it takes is a falling-out and a vindictive ex. Parents of boys should be aware if this. I had to give consent for birth control for her with my gp and in all honesty kids will have sex even if they are underage so I chose to protect my daughter from an unwanted pregnancy and also made sure my lads had and have condoms to protect themselves too. A kids mind doesn't think about the law. Good parenting (genuine)" At the time it felt like I was giving her the freedom to do what she liked in regards to sex and after long talks with her dad we came to the conclusion to protect her and trust her with some responsibility becoming an adult. It was very hard knowing she was sexually active but im very thankful now as she has her own career and home and wants to start her own family soon. It might not suit all with this view but I did what was right for her. | |||
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"Just wondered what do people think should the age limit be raised to 25 ,I just had a 20year old girl tell me loosen up because I wouldn't give her my phone number or face pic after a few messages,I have no doubt she will find loads who will ,not sure here is the place for someone with all the innocence of youth or maybe I'm just an old cynic!!!" Fair play gettin a 20 year old come on to you i think that should be a big boost to your confidence i know it would for me anyways . | |||
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"I At the time it felt like I was giving her the freedom to do what she liked in regards to sex and after long talks with her dad we came to the conclusion to protect her and trust her with some responsibility becoming an adult. It was very hard knowing she was sexually active but im very thankful now as she has her own career and home and wants to start her own family soon. It might not suit all with this view but I did what was right for her. " on a similar vein... when I was underage, a bunch of us were allowed in the local pub, it was a controlled way of allowing us have a couple of social drinks under the supervision of, oftentimes, a batch of our parents. It stopped us drinking ourselves senseless in a field. It wasn't legal obviously but everybody knew it was happening. We caused no hassle had our few pints over the evening and went away about our business again. - Personally I feel it was responsible parenting, accepting it was going to happen and allowing it to, in a controlled rather than oblivious manner. | |||
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"I dont think it's going to happen when the age of consent is 18.. If you feel ladies of 20 are too young for you, change your age filters? Youre not old, you just think differently to the younger generation. Continue on your fun The age of consent here is 17 btw. Noted Not a dig, it's a nerve-wracking few months when your 17 year old testosterone fuelled son is dating a 16 year old girl! I agree my 17 son is dating a 16 girl it is nerve wracking her mother let's him stay the night with her My daughter whos 25 now came to me when she was 16 and had been seeing her boyfriend for about 6 months. She asked me to put her on the pill cos she was scared she'd get pregnant. I did this with her cos I admired her maturity and honesty in how she felt. After a while I allowed her boyfriend to stay overnight too. A little trust and lee way can reap the rewards,plus I hadn't the worry of her whereabouts either when they were together There is no such thing as "consent" in law where a 16 year old is concerned, the boy in question (regardless of his own age) could be charged with statutory rape and end up a convicted sex offender for life- all it takes is a falling-out and a vindictive ex. Parents of boys should be aware if this. I had to give consent for birth control for her with my gp and in all honesty kids will have sex even if they are underage so I chose to protect my daughter from an unwanted pregnancy and also made sure my lads had and have condoms to protect themselves too. A kids mind doesn't think about the law. Good parenting (genuine) At the time it felt like I was giving her the freedom to do what she liked in regards to sex and after long talks with her dad we came to the conclusion to protect her and trust her with some responsibility becoming an adult. It was very hard knowing she was sexually active but im very thankful now as she has her own career and home and wants to start her own family soon. It might not suit all with this view but I did what was right for her. " | |||
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"Just wondered what do people think should the age limit be raised to 25 ,I just had a 20year old girl tell me loosen up because I wouldn't give her my phone number or face pic after a few messages,I have no doubt she will find loads who will ,not sure here is the place for someone with all the innocence of youth or maybe I'm just an old cynic!!!" Funnily enough, you didnt seem to have a problem with her age though when ye were exchanging those 'few messages' did you? I wouldnt worry anyway, it was probably a dude | |||
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"I dont think it's going to happen when the age of consent is 18.. If you feel ladies of 20 are too young for you, change your age filters? Youre not old, you just think differently to the younger generation. Continue on your fun The age of consent here is 17 btw. Noted Not a dig, it's a nerve-wracking few months when your 17 year old testosterone fuelled son is dating a 16 year old girl! I agree my 17 son is dating a 16 girl it is nerve wracking her mother let's him stay the night with her My daughter whos 25 now came to me when she was 16 and had been seeing her boyfriend for about 6 months. She asked me to put her on the pill cos she was scared she'd get pregnant. I did this with her cos I admired her maturity and honesty in how she felt. After a while I allowed her boyfriend to stay overnight too. A little trust and lee way can reap the rewards,plus I hadn't the worry of her whereabouts either when they were together There is no such thing as "consent" in law where a 16 year old is concerned, the boy in question (regardless of his own age) could be charged with statutory rape and end up a convicted sex offender for life- all it takes is a falling-out and a vindictive ex. Parents of boys should be aware if this. I had to give consent for birth control for her with my gp and in all honesty kids will have sex even if they are underage so I chose to protect my daughter from an unwanted pregnancy and also made sure my lads had and have condoms to protect themselves too. A kids mind doesn't think about the law. Good parenting (genuine) At the time it felt like I was giving her the freedom to do what she liked in regards to sex and after long talks with her dad we came to the conclusion to protect her and trust her with some responsibility becoming an adult. It was very hard knowing she was sexually active but im very thankful now as she has her own career and home and wants to start her own family soon. It might not suit all with this view but I did what was right for her. " well done you. I admire how you dealt with this and honestly do believe , having done it myself, that kids will do anyhow and we may as well ensure safety first. But I have a 9 year old girl and cannot imagine her losing her innocence at 16..not sure I could do what you did but I do think it's right...confused eh? Me too...might just lock her up! Mrs newbies | |||
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"Can I just point out the hypocrisy in the original post? He was engaged in a conversation with a 20 year old girl, which he likely started. Obviously something more has happened and now he is sour and wants to stop young people on the site. " No i didn't initiate conversation was quiet polite and have no intentions of meeting a 20yr old ,as someone with a teen daughter myself I just think I'd prefer her explore life and relationships before starting off here! | |||
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"Can I just point out the hypocrisy in the original post? He was engaged in a conversation with a 20 year old girl, which he likely started. Obviously something more has happened and now he is sour and wants to stop young people on the site. No i didn't initiate conversation was quiet polite and have no intentions of meeting a 20yr old ,as someone with a teen daughter myself I just think I'd prefer her explore life and relationships before starting off here!" why mail though? you just say sorry too young and you move on. | |||
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"Can I just point out the hypocrisy in the original post? He was engaged in a conversation with a 20 year old girl, which he likely started. Obviously something more has happened and now he is sour and wants to stop young people on the site. No i didn't initiate conversation was quiet polite and have no intentions of meeting a 20yr old ,as someone with a teen daughter myself I just think I'd prefer her explore life and relationships before starting off here!" So you were basically telling her she shouldn't be on the site? How do you know she's starting off with this site and hasn't explored life/relationships? | |||
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"I dont think it's going to happen when the age of consent is 18.. If you feel ladies of 20 are too young for you, change your age filters? Youre not old, you just think differently to the younger generation. Continue on your fun The age of consent here is 17 btw. Noted Not a dig, it's a nerve-wracking few months when your 17 year old testosterone fuelled son is dating a 16 year old girl! I agree my 17 son is dating a 16 girl it is nerve wracking her mother let's him stay the night with her My daughter whos 25 now came to me when she was 16 and had been seeing her boyfriend for about 6 months. She asked me to put her on the pill cos she was scared she'd get pregnant. I did this with her cos I admired her maturity and honesty in how she felt. After a while I allowed her boyfriend to stay overnight too. A little trust and lee way can reap the rewards,plus I hadn't the worry of her whereabouts either when they were together There is no such thing as "consent" in law where a 16 year old is concerned, the boy in question (regardless of his own age) could be charged with statutory rape and end up a convicted sex offender for life- all it takes is a falling-out and a vindictive ex. Parents of boys should be aware if this. I had to give consent for birth control for her with my gp and in all honesty kids will have sex even if they are underage so I chose to protect my daughter from an unwanted pregnancy and also made sure my lads had and have condoms to protect themselves too. A kids mind doesn't think about the law. Good parenting (genuine) At the time it felt like I was giving her the freedom to do what she liked in regards to sex and after long talks with her dad we came to the conclusion to protect her and trust her with some responsibility becoming an adult. It was very hard knowing she was sexually active but im very thankful now as she has her own career and home and wants to start her own family soon. It might not suit all with this view but I did what was right for her. well done you. I admire how you dealt with this and honestly do believe , having done it myself, that kids will do anyhow and we may as well ensure safety first. But I have a 9 year old girl and cannot imagine her losing her innocence at 16..not snure I could do what you did but I do think it's right...confused eh? Me too...might just lock her up! Mrs newbies " ive an 8 year old daughter too and although its a few years away, the thoughts of going through it again pains me I must say but as I said, the right decision will come to you and i. It's a catch 22, damned if you do and damned if you don't | |||
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"Can I just point out the hypocrisy in the original post? He was engaged in a conversation with a 20 year old girl, which he likely started. Obviously something more has happened and now he is sour and wants to stop young people on the site. No i didn't initiate conversation was quiet polite and have no intentions of meeting a 20yr old ,as someone with a teen daughter myself I just think I'd prefer her explore life and relationships before starting off here! So you were basically telling her she shouldn't be on the site? How do you know she's starting off with this site and hasn't explored life/relationships? " | |||
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"I dont think it's going to happen when the age of consent is 18.. If you feel ladies of 20 are too young for you, change your age filters? Youre not old, you just think differently to the younger generation. Continue on your fun The age of consent here is 17 btw. Noted Not a dig, it's a nerve-wracking few months when your 17 year old testosterone fuelled son is dating a 16 year old girl! I agree my 17 son is dating a 16 girl it is nerve wracking her mother let's him stay the night with her My daughter whos 25 now came to me when she was 16 and had been seeing her boyfriend for about 6 months. She asked me to put her on the pill cos she was scared she'd get pregnant. I did this with her cos I admired her maturity and honesty in how she felt. After a while I allowed her boyfriend to stay overnight too. A little trust and lee way can reap the rewards,plus I hadn't the worry of her whereabouts either when they were together There is no such thing as "consent" in law where a 16 year old is concerned, the boy in question (regardless of his own age) could be charged with statutory rape and end up a convicted sex offender for life- all it takes is a falling-out and a vindictive ex. Parents of boys should be aware if this. I had to give consent for birth control for her with my gp and in all honesty kids will have sex even if they are underage so I chose to protect my daughter from an unwanted pregnancy and also made sure my lads had and have condoms to protect themselves too. A kids mind doesn't think about the law. Good parenting (genuine) At the time it felt like I was giving her the freedom to do what she liked in regards to sex and after long talks with her dad we came to the conclusion to protect her and trust her with some responsibility becoming an adult. It was very hard knowing she was sexually active but im very thankful now as she has her own career and home and wants to start her own family soon. It might not suit all with this view but I did what was right for her. well done you. I admire how you dealt with this and honestly do believe , having done it myself, that kids will do anyhow and we may as well ensure safety first. But I have a 9 year old girl and cannot imagine her losing her innocence at 16..not snure I could do what you did but I do think it's right...confused eh? Me too...might just lock her up! Mrs newbies ive an 8 year old daughter too and although its a few years away, the thoughts of going through it again pains me I must say but as I said, the right decision will come to you and i. It's a catch 22, damned if you do and damned if you don't " Oh I wasnt saying you were wrong, as a parent of both boys and girls I'm pointing out the very real danger for a boy of being convicted of statutory rape (even is he is also underage) and branded with a sex offender conviction. This was my concern with my son above and beyond the risk of pregnancy - all of which was discussed with him - and he was having sex with the girl in her parents' house with their knowledge - but it could all have gone horribly wrong. | |||
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"I dont think it's going to happen when the age of consent is 18.. If you feel ladies of 20 are too young for you, change your age filters? Youre not old, you just think differently to the younger generation. Continue on your fun The age of consent here is 17 btw. Noted Not a dig, it's a nerve-wracking few months when your 17 year old testosterone fuelled son is dating a 16 year old girl! I agree my 17 son is dating a 16 girl it is nerve wracking her mother let's him stay the night with her My daughter whos 25 now came to me when she was 16 and had been seeing her boyfriend for about 6 months. She asked me to put her on the pill cos she was scared she'd get pregnant. I did this with her cos I admired her maturity and honesty in how she felt. After a while I allowed her boyfriend to stay overnight too. A little trust and lee way can reap the rewards,plus I hadn't the worry of her whereabouts either when they were together There is no such thing as "consent" in law where a 16 year old is concerned, the boy in question (regardless of his own age) could be charged with statutory rape and end up a convicted sex offender for life- all it takes is a falling-out and a vindictive ex. Parents of boys should be aware if this. I had to give consent for birth control for her with my gp and in all honesty kids will have sex even if they are underage so I chose to protect my daughter from an unwanted pregnancy and also made sure my lads had and have condoms to protect themselves too. A kids mind doesn't think about the law. Good parenting (genuine) At the time it felt like I was giving her the freedom to do what she liked in regards to sex and after long talks with her dad we came to the conclusion to protect her and trust her with some responsibility becoming an adult. It was very hard knowing she was sexually active but im very thankful now as she has her own career and home and wants to start her own family soon. It might not suit all with this view but I did what was right for her. well done you. I admire how you dealt with this and honestly do believe , having done it myself, that kids will do anyhow and we may as well ensure safety first. But I have a 9 year old girl and cannot imagine her losing her innocence at 16..not snure I could do what you did but I do think it's right...confused eh? Me too...might just lock her up! Mrs newbies ive an 8 year old daughter too and although its a few years away, the thoughts of going through it again pains me I must say but as I said, the right decision will come to you and i. It's a catch 22, damned if you do and damned if you don't " You have to be prepared to let go of your kids and whilst you should never believe the Lords Prayer out of their mouths ... It's folly to think they are not sexually active in their teens. As for the views of the OP I would agree that if a 20 year old starts out here the chances of ever having a decent long term monogamous relationship is probably deminished. This place is as much about multiple partners and notches as it is about genuine swinging ... And my own hands are up as in guilty... Better to come here a little later whatever your reasons | |||
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"Can I just point out the hypocrisy in the original post? He was engaged in a conversation with a 20 year old girl, which he likely started. Obviously something more has happened and now he is sour and wants to stop young people on the site. No i didn't initiate conversation was quiet polite and have no intentions of meeting a 20yr old ,as someone with a teen daughter myself I just think I'd prefer her explore life and relationships before starting off here! why mail though? you just say sorry too young and you move on. " So your saying because he had no intention of meeting her and having sex then he shouldn't have spoken to her ? Maybe the conversation was polite with her asking advice and he was happy to help but you our me won't ever know the truth. But I find your first reply to him very patronising as if you know the truth. The chap ask a question in the forum for open discussion not to be judged. | |||
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"Can I just point out the hypocrisy in the original post? He was engaged in a conversation with a 20 year old girl, which he likely started. Obviously something more has happened and now he is sour and wants to stop young people on the site. No i didn't initiate conversation was quiet polite and have no intentions of meeting a 20yr old ,as someone with a teen daughter myself I just think I'd prefer her explore life and relationships before starting off here! why mail though? you just say sorry too young and you move on. So your saying because he had no intention of meeting her and having sex then he shouldn't have spoken to her ? Maybe the conversation was polite with her asking advice and he was happy to help but you our me won't ever know the truth. But I find your first reply to him very patronising as if you know the truth. The chap ask a question in the forum for open discussion not to be judged." | |||
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"Can I just point out the hypocrisy in the original post? He was engaged in a conversation with a 20 year old girl, which he likely started. Obviously something more has happened and now he is sour and wants to stop young people on the site. No i didn't initiate conversation was quiet polite and have no intentions of meeting a 20yr old ,as someone with a teen daughter myself I just think I'd prefer her explore life and relationships before starting off here! why mail though? you just say sorry too young and you move on. So your saying because he had no intention of meeting her and having sex then he shouldn't have spoken to her ? Maybe the conversation was polite with her asking advice and he was happy to help but you our me won't ever know the truth. But I find your first reply to him very patronising as if you know the truth. The chap ask a question in the forum for open discussion not to be judged." | |||
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"Can I just point out the hypocrisy in the original post? He was engaged in a conversation with a 20 year old girl, which he likely started. Obviously something more has happened and now he is sour and wants to stop young people on the site. No i didn't initiate conversation was quiet polite and have no intentions of meeting a 20yr old ,as someone with a teen daughter myself I just think I'd prefer her explore life and relationships before starting off here! why mail though? you just say sorry too young and you move on. So your saying because he had no intention of meeting her and having sex then he shouldn't have spoken to her ? Maybe the conversation was polite with her asking advice and he was happy to help but you our me won't ever know the truth. But I find your first reply to him very patronising as if you know the truth. The chap ask a question in the forum for open discussion not to be judged." What's the point in continuing mailing someone of an age you find too young? If facepics where asked for then it obviously wasn't advice surely? I'm merely pointing out what I got from reading the OPs status, I'm not patronising anyone, happy fabbing | |||
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"The age of the poster who criticised the OP should be noted " My age has nothing to do with anything but yes thanks for pointing that out | |||
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"I dont think it's going to happen when the age of consent is 18.. If you feel ladies of 20 are too young for you, change your age filters? Youre not old, you just think differently to the younger generation. Continue on your fun The age of consent here is 17 btw. Noted Not a dig, it's a nerve-wracking few months when your 17 year old testosterone fuelled son is dating a 16 year old girl! I agree my 17 son is dating a 16 girl it is nerve wracking her mother let's him stay the night with her My daughter whos 25 now came to me when she was 16 and had been seeing her boyfriend for about 6 months. She asked me to put her on the pill cos she was scared she'd get pregnant. I did this with her cos I admired her maturity and honesty in how she felt. After a while I allowed her boyfriend to stay overnight too. A little trust and lee way can reap the rewards,plus I hadn't the worry of her whereabouts either when they were together There is no such thing as "consent" in law where a 16 year old is concerned, the boy in question (regardless of his own age) could be charged with statutory rape and end up a convicted sex offender for life- all it takes is a falling-out and a vindictive ex. Parents of boys should be aware if this. I had to give consent for birth control for her with my gp and in all honesty kids will have sex even if they are underage so I chose to protect my daughter from an unwanted pregnancy and also made sure my lads had and have condoms to protect themselves too. A kids mind doesn't think about the law. Good parenting (genuine) At the time it felt like I was giving her the freedom to do what she liked in regards to sex and after long talks with her dad we came to the conclusion to protect her and trust her with some responsibility becoming an adult. It was very hard knowing she was sexually active but im very thankful now as she has her own career and home and wants to start her own family soon. It might not suit all with this view but I did what was right for her. well done you. I admire how you dealt with this and honestly do believe , having done it myself, that kids will do anyhow and we may as well ensure safety first. But I have a 9 year old girl and cannot imagine her losing her innocence at 16..not snure I could do what you did but I do think it's right...confused eh? Me too...might just lock her up! Mrs newbies ive an 8 year old daughter too and although its a few years away, the thoughts of going through it again pains me I must say but as I said, the right decision will come to you and i. It's a catch 22, damned if you do and damned if you don't Oh I wasnt saying you were wrong, as a parent of both boys and girls I'm pointing out the very real danger for a boy of being convicted of statutory rape (even is he is also underage) and branded with a sex offender conviction. This was my concern with my son above and beyond the risk of pregnancy - all of which was discussed with him - and he was having sex with the girl in her parents' house with their knowledge - but it could all have gone horribly wrong. " Trusting your kids to make the right decision for themselves is a hard judgement to make, watching them 24/7 is literally impossible and teaching them about the pitfalls of underage sex wont deter them from having sex either.thankfully nothing awful has happened to mine and I hope no parent has to go through anything like that either. Shame its not an ideal world we live in | |||
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"My mum was always completely realistic and supportive and I think that made me and my behaviour a lot better and more honest. Hiding and sneaking and young people not fully aware of the facts certainly makes sex more confusing and dangerous than it ever needs to be. Ye sound like you're doing great jobs though, I hope they're a credit to ye." Expecting teens to be adult and mature about sex when, let's face it, many adults aren't, is a bit much. All you can do is try to guide them and hope they have a bit of luck as well as judgment and be prepared to help them if they get into trouble. If we can't speak to them from the start, what's the chances they will bring their troubles to us either? | |||
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"My mum was always completely realistic and supportive and I think that made me and my behaviour a lot better and more honest. Hiding and sneaking and young people not fully aware of the facts certainly makes sex more confusing and dangerous than it ever needs to be. Ye sound like you're doing great jobs though, I hope they're a credit to ye. Expecting teens to be adult and mature about sex when, let's face it, many adults aren't, is a bit much. All you can do is try to guide them and hope they have a bit of luck as well as judgment and be prepared to help them if they get into trouble. If we can't speak to them from the start, what's the chances they will bring their troubles to us either?" It's our job as parents to guide where possible and to remember we only have a loan of them | |||
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"i couldnt agree more there are too many young under 25 opinionated players mostly males in here over 25 sounds good to me" I want to believe... | |||
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"i couldnt agree more there are too many young under 25 opinionated players mostly males in here over 25 sounds good to me" That sounds a bit ridiculous doesn't it! Considering the age of consent is 17 as pointed out further up the thread and we re encouraging people's opinions on the forum. Furthermore the under 25s can lie about their age to be here, so I doubt that's the solution | |||
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"i couldnt agree more there are too many young under 25 opinionated players mostly males in here over 25 sounds good to me I want to believe..." The truth is out there | |||
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"And how would this idea be enforced? If it had merit. " It can't. No more than it can be enforced that everyone on here is actually 18 or over | |||
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"Why be ageist ?" Tried ageism years ago . But I was younger then. Now I just think of ham sandwiches. | |||
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"Why be ageist ? Tried ageism years ago . But I was younger then. Now I just think of ham sandwiches. " What about cups of tae? | |||
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"It's not really possible to enforce age limits on here is it ? We are hardly going to provide passports ... Has the debate not moved to is it really a place that 20 year olds should either be or want to be ? " its down to choice at the end of the day, the early 20s is still about exploring and wanting to experience more than just vanilla sex,im an example of that, I started in my 20s | |||
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"Why be ageist ? Tried ageism years ago . But I was younger then. Now I just think of ham sandwiches. What about cups of tae?" only if its Lyons, it puts the talk into tea | |||
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"It's not really possible to enforce age limits on here is it ? We are hardly going to provide passports ... Has the debate not moved to is it really a place that 20 year olds should either be or want to be ? its down to choice at the end of the day, the early 20s is still about exploring and wanting to experience more than just vanilla sex,im an example of that, I started in my 20s" Such as Rasberry Ripple ? | |||
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"It's not really possible to enforce age limits on here is it ? We are hardly going to provide passports ... Has the debate not moved to is it really a place that 20 year olds should either be or want to be ? its down to choice at the end of the day, the early 20s is still about exploring and wanting to experience more than just vanilla sex,im an example of that, I started in my 20s Such as Rasberry Ripple ?" Or mint chocolate,, whatever takes your fancy at the time | |||
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"It's not really possible to enforce age limits on here is it ? We are hardly going to provide passports ... Has the debate not moved to is it really a place that 20 year olds should either be or want to be ? its down to choice at the end of the day, the early 20s is still about exploring and wanting to experience more than just vanilla sex,im an example of that, I started in my 20s Such as Rasberry Ripple ? Or mint chocolate,, whatever takes your fancy at the time " I'm for spear mint | |||
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"It's not really possible to enforce age limits on here is it ? We are hardly going to provide passports ... Has the debate not moved to is it really a place that 20 year olds should either be or want to be ? its down to choice at the end of the day, the early 20s is still about exploring and wanting to experience more than just vanilla sex,im an example of that, I started in my 20s Such as Rasberry Ripple ? Or mint chocolate,, whatever takes your fancy at the time I'm for spear mint" Ahhh but mix them all = heaven | |||
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"It's not really possible to enforce age limits on here is it ? We are hardly going to provide passports ... Has the debate not moved to is it really a place that 20 year olds should either be or want to be ? its down to choice at the end of the day, the early 20s is still about exploring and wanting to experience more than just vanilla sex,im an example of that, I started in my 20s" I did myself ... But not as a swinger (am I one now) I suppose what I am trying to say is that you go monogamy first then poly amorous rather than the other way around ? | |||
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"It's not really possible to enforce age limits on here is it ? We are hardly going to provide passports ... Has the debate not moved to is it really a place that 20 year olds should either be or want to be ? its down to choice at the end of the day, the early 20s is still about exploring and wanting to experience more than just vanilla sex,im an example of that, I started in my 20s I did myself ... But not as a swinger (am I one now) I suppose what I am trying to say is that you go monogamy first then poly amorous rather than the other way around ? " I did too but the lifestyle wasnt so easily accessible then as it is now. So as much as times are changing with the views on sex and sexuality, obviously younger people want to experience the lifestyle, live out fantasies etc which is up to them dont you think? Some might remain in the lifestyle, others may decide monogamy is for them. Experiencing the lifestyle will only answer the question for them | |||
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"Monogamy doesn't appeal to me...... This does? Being over the legal age of consent I believe I and anyone else like me is entitled to be here, we leave in a society where everyone is equal so why should young people be less entitled to be here than the older ones?" Youre perfectly right to do whats right for you at this moment in time Lim, nobody can say youll change your mind in the future no more than you can say your mind won't change either. Thats the joy of what lies ahead in life | |||
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"I am done on this one I am neither agreeing not disagreeing with any of the posters . And anybody above the age of consent are by definition free to do whatever they want. And they will and good luck to them DG I do wanna be a pal " Thats still up for debate Van we shall see | |||
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"Just wondered what do people think should the age limit be raised to 25 ,I just had a 20year old girl tell me loosen up because I wouldn't give her my phone number or face pic after a few messages,I have no doubt she will find loads who will ,not sure here is the place for someone with all the innocence of youth or maybe I'm just an old cynic!!!" Dont think itd matter ha im on here since i was 19 and i rarely give out my number.. people will be people | |||
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"i couldnt agree more there are too many young under 25 opinionated players mostly males in here over 25 sounds good to me I want to believe... The truth is out there" Just us Elfie. | |||
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"Just wondered what do people think should the age limit be raised to 25 ,I just had a 20year old girl tell me loosen up because I wouldn't give her my phone number or face pic after a few messages,I have no doubt she will find loads who will ,not sure here is the place for someone with all the innocence of youth or maybe I'm just an old cynic!!!" Gee you are easily upset... The girl simply told you to.loosen up.. | |||
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