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"It ended with the husband texting me in the middle of the night telling me he would hunt me down and kill me. I didnt ask her to say those things to him "Good answer. (No smiley 'cos I'm not sure if you're joking or not) | |||
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"For those couples who meet separately. I guess it's almost a poly scenario I'm on about but have you ever found yourself in a position where one (or both) of you has become involved in what is essentially a relationship of sorts with another person? If so, how did it work? And for any singles that have been involved in anything like this, how did it work for you? " ....we were contacted bya guy.....said he had a fb....gave us a profile name to look at her. ....told us to say nothing. ..ws her current partner was unaware. ...blah blah....she dumped the original guy....set up a new profile with the second guy....was getting two or three veries a week. ...some on her own. .crashed and burned in a matter of weeks. ....we weren't one of her veries. ..before you ask....lol....even us swingers have standards. ..lol.....so just to say.....we would be very wary of cpls who meet alone. ...  | |||
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"I met this lady n fell madly in luv with her but her ex came back n I was just fucked there like a piece of crap . I really got hurt bye her. I was not going long with her n thought all my dreams would cum true with her . We were going to swing together n fullfill all our fantasies . " There's a film in that Chocko. | |||
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"It ended with the husband texting me in the middle of the night telling me he would hunt me down and kill me. I didnt ask her to say those things to him
Good answer. (No smiley 'cos I'm not sure if you're joking or not)"
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"I'm talking about couples who for whatever reason, do genuinely meet alone. Married couples. And one of them, or both, end up in fuck buddy/relationship type scenarios with other people. " .......never heard of that happening tbh.... sounds a wee bit sleazy. ..I'm of course. ..lol | |||
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"Would never meet one part of a swing couple on their own. Especially if they are working off individual profiles. " I'm noy not talking about swing couples ,, just couples who also swing separately | |||
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"lots of couples do meets on their own, lots dont. " ....don't know any.....or don't wish to ... | |||
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"I'm talking about couples who for whatever reason, do genuinely meet alone. Married couples. And one of them, or both, end up in fuck buddy/relationship type scenarios with other people. " We meet separately, but.... We have rules for it. We can only meet if we both have a meet on the same night. Mia had a fuck buddy and I had no problem with it as he was a nice guy and took care of her, but they only met when I had a meet. I like to know she's safe with a guy and that when she says no or doesn't want to do something then he'll understand. It limits our meets separately as single women if honest are hard to meet simply because of the ratios of men to women and also attraction I suppose. | |||
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"lots of couples do meets on their own, lots dont. ....don't know any.....or don't wish to ..." Dont you use the chat rooms? | |||
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"lots of couples do meets on their own, lots dont. ....don't know any.....or don't wish to ... Dont you use the chat rooms?" .......rarely. .. | |||
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"lots of couples do meets on their own, lots dont. ....don't know any.....or don't wish to ... Dont you use the chat rooms?.......rarely. .." They're a snoozefest usually. | |||
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"lots of couples do meets on their own, lots dont. ....don't know any.....or don't wish to ... Dont you use the chat rooms?.......rarely. .. They're a snoozefest usually." As apposed to your enthralling forum posts? My point was, if you use the forum and chat, then you know couples who meet alone. Over half the couples on here will meet alone. | |||
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"lots of couples do meets on their own, lots dont. ....don't know any.....or don't wish to ... Dont you use the chat rooms?.......rarely. .. They're a snoozefest usually. As apposed to your enthralling forum posts? My point was, if you use the forum and chat, then you know couples who meet alone. Over half the couples on here will meet alone." Wahaay! More bullshit numbers NSFW? | |||
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"lots of couples do meets on their own, lots dont. ....don't know any.....or don't wish to ... Dont you use the chat rooms?.......rarely. .. They're a snoozefest usually. As apposed to your enthralling forum posts? My point was, if you use the forum and chat, then you know couples who meet alone. Over half the couples on here will meet alone." I wouldn't say many couples play alone at all. From what I see... We are the only genuine couple who play alone !! Could be one or two more but I'm yet to see them | |||
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"lots of couples do meets on their own, lots dont. ....don't know any.....or don't wish to ... Dont you use the chat rooms?.......rarely. .. They're a snoozefest usually. As apposed to your enthralling forum posts? My point was, if you use the forum and chat, then you know couples who meet alone. Over half the couples on here will meet alone. I wouldn't say many couples play alone at all. From what I see... We are the only genuine couple who play alone !! Could be one or two more but I'm yet to see them" You dare question the Oracle? He says most of us do. | |||
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"lots of couples do meets on their own, lots dont. ....don't know any.....or don't wish to ... Dont you use the chat rooms?.......rarely. .. They're a snoozefest usually. As apposed to your enthralling forum posts? My point was, if you use the forum and chat, then you know couples who meet alone. Over half the couples on here will meet alone. I wouldn't say many couples play alone at all. From what I see... We are the only genuine couple who play alone !! Could be one or two more but I'm yet to see them You dare question the Oracle? He says most of us do." Yeah we don't think so anyway !! Most won't play without the other. | |||
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"...Over half the couples on here will meet alone. I wouldn't say many couples play alone at all. From what I see... We are the only genuine couple who play alone !! Could be one or two more but I'm yet to see them You dare question the Oracle? He says most of us do. Yeah we don't think so anyway !! Most won't play without the other."  | |||
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"We play separately,we think it's so hard to find a couple we both agree on,ie my hubby would be attracted to the fem but I wouldn't be interested in the male,so yes we play separately,parties suit us best,but then again we do meet alone outside of that! I don't see what the big deal is in meeting separately we have been together 25 yrs too...and yes we both have people we meet lots of times! " Same boat here. Good to see another loving and trusting couple. Not lucky enough to be together 25yrs but 5yrs and engaged. If you know ya both only want each other and trust then I don't see the big deal either. | |||
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"We play separately,we think it's so hard to find a couple we both agree on,ie my hubby would be attracted to the fem but I wouldn't be interested in the male,so yes we play separately,parties suit us best,but then again we do meet alone outside of that! I don't see what the big deal is in meeting separately we have been together 25 yrs too...and yes we both have people we meet lots of times! " For us is the same too..not easy to find couples we both agreed. so other option is meeting separately with the right guy/woman.  | |||
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"We are a swinging couple who sometimes meet separately. We have found ourselves in a situation where we have developed strong feelings for 2 people we have met regularly. We now have a situation where we have the same strong bond we have always had for each other, but we also have a strong bond with a male and female from here. We believe it is perfectly possible for a couple to live very happily in a situation where there are feelings for others involved. This definitely wouldn't suit everyone, and it has its challenges, but with open and honest and effective communication between everyone, it has been working for us. We consider ourselves very lucky that we have special people so close to us that are now part of our lives." That's awesome. Fair play guys. That's it... Bout trust and honesty. Knowing who your actual partner is.... Sounds like alot of fun | |||
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"I suppose its what you get out of it...we enjoy swinging as a couple. ...that's a good part of the fun......lol....we're in the minority. ..according to yer man... "Clearly his stats are bang on. Yeah everyone's here for something different. | |||
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"We are a swinging couple who sometimes meet separately. We have found ourselves in a situation where we have developed strong feelings for 2 people we have met regularly. We now have a situation where we have the same strong bond we have always had for each other, but we also have a strong bond with a male and female from here. We believe it is perfectly possible for a couple to live very happily in a situation where there are feelings for others involved. This definitely wouldn't suit everyone, and it has its challenges, but with open and honest and effective communication between everyone, it has been working for us. We consider ourselves very lucky that we have special people so close to us that are now part of our lives." Thanks. This is exactly the type of scenario I'm talking abou. Trying to wrap my head around it. You'd say communication is key between everyone involved? | |||
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"We are a swinging couple who sometimes meet separately. We have found ourselves in a situation where we have developed strong feelings for 2 people we have met regularly. We now have a situation where we have the same strong bond we have always had for each other, but we also have a strong bond with a male and female from here. We believe it is perfectly possible for a couple to live very happily in a situation where there are feelings for others involved. This definitely wouldn't suit everyone, and it has its challenges, but with open and honest and effective communication between everyone, it has been working for us. We consider ourselves very lucky that we have special people so close to us that are now part of our lives. Thanks. This is exactly the type of scenario I'm talking abou. Trying to wrap my head around it. You'd say communication is key between everyone involved?" communication is key in every relationship vanilla , swinging, polyamourous. | |||
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"We are a swinging couple who sometimes meet separately. We have found ourselves in a situation where we have developed strong feelings for 2 people we have met regularly. We now have a situation where we have the same strong bond we have always had for each other, but we also have a strong bond with a male and female from here. We believe it is perfectly possible for a couple to live very happily in a situation where there are feelings for others involved. This definitely wouldn't suit everyone, and it has its challenges, but with open and honest and effective communication between everyone, it has been working for us. We consider ourselves very lucky that we have special people so close to us that are now part of our lives. Thanks. This is exactly the type of scenario I'm talking abou. Trying to wrap my head around it. You'd say communication is key between everyone involved? communication is key in every relationship vanilla , swinging, polyamourous." Obviously. I was asking them if it's key between everyone involved though or just in the core relationship | |||
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"We are a swinging couple who sometimes meet separately. We have found ourselves in a situation where we have developed strong feelings for 2 people we have met regularly. We now have a situation where we have the same strong bond we have always had for each other, but we also have a strong bond with a male and female from here. We believe it is perfectly possible for a couple to live very happily in a situation where there are feelings for others involved. This definitely wouldn't suit everyone, and it has its challenges, but with open and honest and effective communication between everyone, it has been working for us. We consider ourselves very lucky that we have special people so close to us that are now part of our lives. Thanks. This is exactly the type of scenario I'm talking abou. Trying to wrap my head around it. You'd say communication is key between everyone involved? communication is key in every relationship vanilla , swinging, polyamourous." Agree totally. 3 things I reckon a solid relationship has to have is Honesty, Trust and Communication. Have always said that | |||
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"Thanks. This is exactly the type of scenario I'm talking abou. Trying to wrap my head around it. You'd say communication is key between everyone involved? communication is key in every relationship vanilla , swinging, polyamourous. Obviously. I was asking them if it's key between everyone involved though or just in the core relationship " I agree with Laid - it's important in any relationship. It's more crucial between Hunter and me now there are others involved but we have to be honest with the other two as well and they have to be honest with us. It's still new and we are all still finding our feet - avoiding hurt and bad feelings are crucial for this to work(why would you want to hurt someone you care for?) but shouldn't that be the case in any kind of relationship?? The other key point is that it has to be effective communication - I mean there is more to it than honesty. It's making sure you don't say something controversial or stressful as your husband is about to walk out the door to work, knowing that his blood pressure will be raised for the rest of the day AND knowing that whatever bombshell you just dropped can't be discussed at that moment for example. I hold my hand up at this point and say I SUCK at that, but it's something I'm trying to work on. None of us are perfect but we're trying to make it work
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"Thanks. This is exactly the type of scenario I'm talking abou. Trying to wrap my head around it. You'd say communication is key between everyone involved? communication is key in every relationship vanilla , swinging, polyamourous. Obviously. I was asking them if it's key between everyone involved though or just in the core relationship I agree with Laid - it's important in any relationship. It's more crucial between Hunter and me now there are others involved but we have to be honest with the other two as well and they have to be honest with us. It's still new and we are all still finding our feet - avoiding hurt and bad feelings are crucial for this to work(why would you want to hurt someone you care for?) but shouldn't that be the case in any kind of relationship?? The other key point is that it has to be effective communication - I mean there is more to it than honesty. It's making sure you don't say something controversial or stressful as your husband is about to walk out the door to work, knowing that his blood pressure will be raised for the rest of the day AND knowing that whatever bombshell you just dropped can't be discussed at that moment for example. I hold my hand up at this point and say I SUCK at that, but it's something I'm trying to work on. None of us are perfect but we're trying to make it work
Belle"Is it potentially more trouble than its worth so, i wonder? Thats an honest question. Are the rewards greater than the potential damage? Does it give you both something that, lets call it, casual swinging doesnt give? | |||
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"Good question. It's not something we intended to happen, so wasn't really a decision that was taken, rather a situation that evolved. I guess there are advantages and difficulties. We don't see it as swinging. It's something else. " Sounds interesting...you're not starting a commune are you? | |||
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"We are a swinging couple who sometimes meet separately. We have found ourselves in a situation where we have developed strong feelings for 2 people we have met regularly. We now have a situation where we have the same strong bond we have always had for each other, but we also have a strong bond with a male and female from here. We believe it is perfectly possible for a couple to live very happily in a situation where there are feelings for others involved. This definitely wouldn't suit everyone, and it has its challenges, but with open and honest and effective communication between everyone, it has been working for us. We consider ourselves very lucky that we have special people so close to us that are now part of our lives." I find this hugely interesting, I've found with our experience it's constantly evolving the more we trust each other and the most situations we find ourselves in and I think it's really cool that a relationship like yours can work, although it surely takes alot of effort and hard work! | |||
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"Good question. It's not something we intended to happen, so wasn't really a decision that was taken, rather a situation that evolved. I guess there are advantages and difficulties. We don't see it as swinging. It's something else. " Definitely agree on the something else. It's nothing I've ever experienced here before. | |||
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"Good question. It's not something we intended to happen, so wasn't really a decision that was taken, rather a situation that evolved. I guess there are advantages and difficulties. We don't see it as swinging. It's something else. Sounds interesting...you're not starting a commune are you?" Why.. Would you wanna join too?  | |||
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"Good question. It's not something we intended to happen, so wasn't really a decision that was taken, rather a situation that evolved. I guess there are advantages and difficulties. We don't see it as swinging. It's something else. Sounds interesting...you're not starting a commune are you? Why.. Would you wanna join too? "Certainly would come to visit! (If invited of course) | |||
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"Would never meet one part of a swing couple on their own. Especially if they are working off individual profiles. I'm noy not talking about swing couples ,, just couples who also swing separately " That's what I mean. If couples swing solo also. | |||
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"Good question. It's not something we intended to happen, so wasn't really a decision that was taken, rather a situation that evolved. I guess there are advantages and difficulties. We don't see it as swinging. It's something else. Sounds interesting...you're not starting a commune are you? Why.. Would you wanna join too? "I want to be apart of this commune, if she'd have me | |||
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"Good question. It's not something we intended to happen, so wasn't really a decision that was taken, rather a situation that evolved. I guess there are advantages and difficulties. We don't see it as swinging. It's something else. Sounds interesting...you're not starting a commune are you? Why.. Would you wanna join too?
I want to be apart of this commune, if she'd have me "lim you do know a commune is a group and not a woman ? | |||
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"Good question. It's not something we intended to happen, so wasn't really a decision that was taken, rather a situation that evolved. I guess there are advantages and difficulties. We don't see it as swinging. It's something else. Sounds interesting...you're not starting a commune are you? Why.. Would you wanna join too?
I want to be apart of this commune, if she'd have me
lim you do know a commune is a group and not a woman ?"I meant ye'd stupid autocorrect, sure there's a hippy commune out the road in from limerick | |||
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"Good question. It's not something we intended to happen, so wasn't really a decision that was taken, rather a situation that evolved. I guess there are advantages and difficulties. We don't see it as swinging. It's something else. Sounds interesting...you're not starting a commune are you? Why.. Would you wanna join too?
I want to be apart of this commune, if she'd have me
lim you do know a commune is a group and not a woman ?
I meant ye'd stupid autocorrect, sure there's a hippy commune out the road in from limerick"i'm not a hippy  | |||
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"Good question. It's not something we intended to happen, so wasn't really a decision that was taken, rather a situation that evolved. I guess there are advantages and difficulties. We don't see it as swinging. It's something else. Sounds interesting...you're not starting a commune are you? Why.. Would you wanna join too?
I want to be apart of this commune, if she'd have me
lim you do know a commune is a group and not a woman ?
I meant ye'd stupid autocorrect, sure there's a hippy commune out the road in from limerick"We're hippies now? Charming | |||
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"Good question. It's not something we intended to happen, so wasn't really a decision that was taken, rather a situation that evolved. I guess there are advantages and difficulties. We don't see it as swinging. It's something else. Sounds interesting...you're not starting a commune are you? Why.. Would you wanna join too?
I want to be apart of this commune, if she'd have me
lim you do know a commune is a group and not a woman ?
I meant ye'd stupid autocorrect, sure there's a hippy commune out the road in from limerick
i'm not a hippy "I just used that as an example of how I know what a commune is, plus Laura has hippy lube  | |||
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" We're hippies now? Charming "comment wasn't directed at you? | |||
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