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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I hate conflict but I also want to live in peace and enjoy my home....

So how to bring up a problem with a neighbour you've never seen or met?

My neighbours smoke a lot on their balcony which is right next to mine and my bedroom window.... If I leave the window open a lot of smoke comes inside.

It's really starting to bug me but I don't want to keep the window closed in this weather

What issues have you addressed with your neighbours and how did it turn out? Any tips? Or volunteers do have "the talk" for me? Ha!

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By *0shadesofashWoman
over a year ago

DUBLIN

Don't think u can do anything about someone smoking on there own balcony I like to have a smoke wen I drink and if it was me and someone said u can't do that they would get a ear full

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I could ask them to blow it in the other direction, not? lol

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By *ammydubCouple
over a year ago

Dublin

I wudnt even dream of it you would be crazy to say anything it is annoying but there are worse things!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I could ask them to blow it in the other direction, not? lol"

Sounds like thats just the way the wind is taking it, so it prob cant be helped no matter what way yheu blow it. You could always get aggressive with them and tell to go fuck off with their cigarettes and see how it goes...it might work depending on the type of character they are

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I wudnt even dream of it you would be crazy to say anything it is annoying but there are worse things!

haha ok... never thought I'm crazy but hey, I'm open for feedback lol

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By *0shadesofashWoman
over a year ago

DUBLIN

"I could ask them to blow it in the other direction, not? lol"
haha I think by sayin anything over that will make them annoyed and they will prob just do it more I would haha

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By *ecretly seductiveWoman
over a year ago

Palookaville

If you have a balcony put done large plants to block the smoke. ..or attach a trellis to the wall and it will block the smoke. ...prob easier for neighbourly relations...is not something they can help any more than you can

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I could ask them to blow it in the other direction, not? lol

geez, I wouldn't dare that approach. Feel free though to come to my balcony and try it but if the police arrives I blame you haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My neighbour at home shot my first dog on my street when he (the neighbour) was 15. He shot it for fun.

He's a man now of 35.

He took my parents dog killed it and threw it in a bog, the dog was 14 and not a sheep worrier etc.

When my Mam was ill he wished her death.

He's pleasant.

Bizarrely I've opted to live directly across from him in a few months.

Ireland has a severe problem with guards being unable to do sweet fuck all about these sorta neighbours.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I forgot! We had this issue in work sweet with the people living in the apartment.

They used to flick their cigarette butts in too. We explained about the smoke and they just hadn't realised and cut it waaay back. But office hours and home hours are two different things

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If you have a balcony put done large plants to block the smoke. ..or attach a trellis to the wall and it will block the smoke. ...prob easier for neighbourly relations...is not something they can help any more than you can

that's actually a good idea! it would also give me much more privacy. I'll check with the landlord if he'd be ok with some trellies!

You're full of good ideas! Ta!

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By *imwildWoman
over a year ago

around

"I hate conflict but I also want to live in peace and enjoy my home....

So how to bring up a problem with a neighbour you've never seen or met?

My neighbours smoke a lot on their balcony which is right next to mine and my bedroom window.... If I leave the window open a lot of smoke comes inside.

It's really starting to bug me but I don't want to keep the window closed in this weather

What issues have you addressed with your neighbours and how did it turn out? Any tips? Or volunteers do have "the talk" for me? Ha! "

That's a tough one all right. I don't let anyone smoke next to my house. I've banished my daughter to the end of the garden to smoke when she's home because of the same thing.

On a side note: how scary is that advert showing the 'invisible' fumes from smoking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I could ask them to blow it in the other direction, not? lol

geez, I wouldn't dare that approach. Feel free though to come to my balcony and try it but if the police arrives I blame you haha

Only youll be able to gauge how responsive they would be to such an outburst though...it may or may not work.

You could always just try the polite but firm way of asking them if they could possibly move to another spot. Most irish people wouldnt have the gall to say no to you. They could be pure knackers as well of course, in which case youre prob fucked

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"My neighbour at home shot my first dog on my street when he (the neighbour) was 15. He shot it for fun.

He's a man now of 35.

He took my parents dog killed it and threw it in a bog, the dog was 14 and not a sheep worrier etc.

When my Mam was ill he wished her death.

He's pleasant.

Bizarrely I've opted to live directly across from him in a few months.

Ireland has a severe problem with guards being unable to do sweet fuck all about these sorta neighbours. "

Fuck me! that guy belongs in prison! I hope you don't have to deal with him at all!

Yeah, guards can't do shit here even when it comes lesser things like noise pollution!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

On a side note: how scary is that advert showing the 'invisible' fumes from smoking. "

Stupidly, I don't even care about the health related issues this could cause. I just find it annoying and it gives me a headache

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I could ask them to blow it in the other direction, not? lol haha I think by sayin anything over that will make them annoyed and they will prob just do it more I would haha

I'm afraid they're like you lol

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By *imwildWoman
over a year ago

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On a side note: how scary is that advert showing the 'invisible' fumes from smoking.

Stupidly, I don't even care about the health related issues this could cause. I just find it annoying and it gives me a headache"
headaches are a health issue

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

On a side note: how scary is that advert showing the 'invisible' fumes from smoking.

Stupidly, I don't even care about the health related issues this could cause. I just find it annoying and it gives me a headache headaches are a health issue

ha! so true! silly me

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By *ammydubCouple
over a year ago

Dublin

I don't mean your crazy I'm merely pointing out that to suggest to a neighbor that they should blow their smoke the other way or not even smoke would be a crazy move that's my opinion neighbors from hell are exactly from hell! Its quite possible you may have neughbours from heaven in comparison

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By *0shadesofashWoman
over a year ago

DUBLIN

"I could ask them to blow it in the other direction, not? lol haha I think by sayin anything over that will make them annoyed and they will prob just do it more I would haha

I'm afraid they're like you lol"
haha I could sit on ur balcony for a night and drink after a night with me sittin there they will prob move haha

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By *ammydubCouple
over a year ago

Dublin

#neighbours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Death to all us smokers so

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By *imwildWoman
over a year ago

around

"Death to all us smokers so

Well eventually, yes!! And all non smokers, its inevitable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Death to all us smokers so

Well eventually, yes!! And all non smokers, its inevitable

Death and taxes

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

The thread is not meant as an attack on smokers. But just open up conversations about neighbour problems people had and how they addressed them.

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By *0shadesofashWoman
over a year ago

DUBLIN

"The thread is not meant as an attack on smokers. But just open up conversations about neighbour problems people had and how they addressed them. "
nothin ever goes the way we want on here people should stop givin a fuck what others say then there would be less drama

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Best to just mention your issue ? What is your downside ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The thread is not meant as an attack on smokers. But just open up conversations about neighbour problems people had and how they addressed them. nothin ever goes the way we want on here people should stop givin a fuck what others say then there would be less drama "

haha don't I know it! sure a thread has a life on its own.... I just have to let go and let it do its thing haha

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Best to just mention your issue ? What is your downside ?

intolerance towards ignorant people

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By *ecretly seductiveWoman
over a year ago

Palookaville

that's actually a good idea! it would also give me much more privacy. I'll check with the landlord if he'd be ok with some trellies!

You're full of good ideas! Ta!"

Not always lol..... good luck hun

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By *ippcoupe2Couple
over a year ago

cahir/cashel

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By *imerickboyMan
over a year ago

city

Put up a big no smoking sign on your Balcony lol

They might get the hint

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By *randub69Man
over a year ago

city

"I hate conflict but I also want to live in peace and enjoy my home....

So how to bring up a problem with a neighbour you've never seen or met?

My neighbours smoke a lot on their balcony which is right next to mine and my bedroom window.... If I leave the window open a lot of smoke comes inside.

It's really starting to bug me but I don't want to keep the window closed in this weather

What issues have you addressed with your neighbours and how did it turn out? Any tips? Or volunteers do have "the talk" for me? Ha! "

I didn't get a chance to read all the other posts, so I am probably just going over old ground here.

I would say it to them, but in a nice way. The fact that they smoke outside probably means they don't like smoke in there home, so there's a good chance they will understand where your coming from.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is this who replaced your hottie Sweets?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh, and wind chimes. You're welcome.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Oh, and wind chimes. You're welcome."

what hottie? I think you mean letme who had a thing for her hot neighbour

and wind chimes? to scare away the smokers? elaborate, please? lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh, and wind chimes. You're welcome.

what hottie? I think you mean letme who had a thing for her hot neighbour

and wind chimes? to scare away the smokers? elaborate, please? lol"

Oh yes.

We had a neighbour upwind who used to bbq all the time, same problem. I put wind chimes up after he said he couldn't control the wind. After a few weeks he came and asked me if I could take them down as they were disturbing his sleep. I said I couldn't control the wind. He moved.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Oh, and wind chimes. You're welcome.

what hottie? I think you mean letme who had a thing for her hot neighbour

and wind chimes? to scare away the smokers? elaborate, please? lol

Oh yes.

haha smart arse!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My neighbour at home shot my first dog on my street when he (the neighbour) was 15. He shot it for fun.

He's a man now of 35.

He took my parents dog killed it and threw it in a bog, the dog was 14 and not a sheep worrier etc.

When my Mam was ill he wished her death.

He's pleasant.

Bizarrely I've opted to live directly across from him in a few months.

Ireland has a severe problem with guards being unable to do sweet fuck all about these sorta neighbours.

Good god Lea that made me shudder!!!

There's a friend of mine a single mum living beside a nut job like him now too,guards can do absolutely nothing!!! It's fucking awful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wire up a smoke alarm outside and be able to switch it on when their smoke comes in... They should get the message...

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By *imwildWoman
over a year ago

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"I hate conflict but I also want to live in peace and enjoy my home....

So how to bring up a problem with a neighbour you've never seen or met?

My neighbours smoke a lot on their balcony which is right next to mine and my bedroom window.... If I leave the window open a lot of smoke comes inside.

It's really starting to bug me but I don't want to keep the window closed in this weather

What issues have you addressed with your neighbours and how did it turn out? Any tips? Or volunteers do have "the talk" for me? Ha!

I didn't get a chance to read all the other posts, so I am probably just going over old ground here.

I would say it to them, but in a nice way. The fact that they smoke outside probably means they don't like smoke in there home, so there's a good chance they will understand where your coming from."

Valid point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Neighbours in my old house complained to my landlord about me smoking out my back garden and it blowing into their garden.

Can't control the wind and wasn't going to move the seating area to please them.

I was outside and on my own property so they hadn't a leg to stand on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can you put a fan nearby to blow the smoke away from your window? I put up with horrible neighbours for years. Thankfully they moved, eventually.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Neighbours in my old house complained to my landlord about me smoking out my back garden and it blowing into their garden.

Can't control the wind and wasn't going to move the seating area to please them.

I was outside and on my own property so they hadn't a leg to stand on.

They have a common courtesy leg to stand on...something you dont appear to share

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town

"Oh, and wind chimes. You're welcome.

what hottie? I think you mean letme who had a thing for her hot neighbour

and wind chimes? to scare away the smokers? elaborate, please? lol

Oh yes.

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By *randub69Man
over a year ago

city

"Oh, and wind chimes. You're welcome.

what hottie? I think you mean letme who had a thing for her hot neighbour

and wind chimes? to scare away the smokers? elaborate, please? lol

Oh yes.

he only left because u were a noisy neighbour

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over a year ago

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