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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What is it with the men on this site they complain when noone will meet them but you take the time to chat a bit get to know them arrange a meet and either they ignore you or come up with some pathetic excuse damn frustrating its meant to be a site for uncomplicated fun but half of them make it complicated lol anyway rant over

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By *squaredCouple
over a year ago

Dublin/westmeath/kildare

Either they want to meet you in 5 minutes or after a bit of hi how are you in& an arranged meet....they can't make it...something came up...car flat....work...sick kid....sick pet....forgot date.......list goes on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What is it with the men on this site they complain when noone will meet them but you take the time to chat a bit get to know them arrange a meet and either they ignore you or come up with some pathetic excuse damn frustrating its meant to be a site for uncomplicated fun but half of them make it complicated lol anyway rant over "

I'm sure its their loss

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Either they want to meet you in 5 minutes or after a bit of hi how are you in& an arranged meet....they can't make it...something came up...car flat....work...sick kid....sick pet....forgot date.......list goes on"

sometimes i dont even get the whole cant make bullshit it i just get no message nothing and me sitting with hair and makeup done etc ready to go its frustrating to be honest then 2 months later they have the nerve to send you a message asking to meet again lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

say its their loss you seem sound.

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By *ersitilefunMan
over a year ago

Dungannon

I think some come online with the best intentions & in their heads & fantasies they really think they're gonna go 4 it, Then there's the thrill of the chase & excitement goes when chase is over.

I went through a stage of timewasting at the start cos of nerves then finally i got sick of fantasisin & waitin. lol Also took a few to let me down & was so dissappointed after sykin myself up 4 the meet.

But have come to believe that most dont mean to doit,, Until about half an hour b4 the time,, still not fair though

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"say its their loss you seem sound."

Cheers im pretty much a straight talker whats the point in bullshitting its a site to have a little nsa fun on

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think some come online with the best intentions & in their heads & fantasies they really think they're gonna go 4 it, Then there's the thrill of the chase & excitement goes when chase is over.

I went through a stage of timewasting at the start cos of nerves then finally i got sick of fantasisin & waitin. lol Also took a few to let me down & was so dissappointed after sykin myself up 4 the meet.

But have come to believe that most dont mean to doit,, Until about half an hour b4 the time,, still not fair though "

I understand that point of view im the same its a nervous thing to do put yourself out there but if men dont want to meet maybe they could state it on their profile so at least us ladies would know nothing worse than getting yourself all ready for a meet to be told an hour before they meet you that they then cant meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rant excepted but think of it from their prospective. What do they tell the wife that'll allow them to pop out, short notice.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Rant excepted but think of it from their prospective. What do they tell the wife that'll allow them to pop out, short notice. "

Well thats then why they should be upfront if they are in a relationship or marriage i always am about my current status thats where then you discuss to try and get meeting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Am a singla man. I will show up. If you give me a go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Rant excepted but think of it from their prospective. What do they tell the wife that'll allow them to pop out, short notice.

Well thats then why they should be upfront if they are in a relationship or marriage i always am about my current status thats where then you discuss to try and get meeting"

Not every guy on here gives his full story. Do you think all "single" listed guys are just that?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Rant excepted but think of it from their prospective. What do they tell the wife that'll allow them to pop out, short notice.

Well thats then why they should be upfront if they are in a relationship or marriage i always am about my current status thats where then you discuss to try and get meeting

Not every guy on here gives his full story. Do you think all "single" listed guys are just that? "

Not looking his full story it doesnt bother me if the guy is in a relationship not my place to judge anyone but if im upfront about my status why cant a man as well?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's okay to time waste if they are telling lies and are really married and cant get out to the meeting they agreed they would?

makes no sense.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's okay to time waste if they are telling lies and are really married and cant get out to the meeting they agreed they would?

makes no sense."

No no i prefer a guy to be upfront im always upfront with my situation the problem i have is men who say they will 100 percent be there and that they wouldnt time waste and then they do that ticks me off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's okay to time waste if they are telling lies and are really married and cant get out to the meeting they agreed they would?

makes no sense.

No no i prefer a guy to be upfront im always upfront with my situation the problem i have is men who say they will 100 percent be there and that they wouldnt time waste and then they do that ticks me off"

I wasn't aiming that at you, Was aiming it at the point someone made about maybe they couldnt make an excuse to get out of the house away from wife.

One time I ran out of credit and got called a time waster. Real things do pop up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thankfully I've not had any experience of this... I've rearranged on occasion and it's worked fine... No shows or last minute cancellation should be a small percentage if people are genuine..

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By *avy8931Man
over a year ago

ballymena

Upfront is best. Too many just on here are keyboard warriors. We are all after fun at the end of the day. I love chatting and meeting when work and private life allows but as I run my own business I love a lady calling for a cuppa and a bit of craic also so any ladies in Ballymena or passing through the kettle is always on lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some guys on here are only interested in chasing ladies. When they actually get someone willing to meet them they don't show up just move along to harass someone else. Maybe there married and don't actually have the bottle to cheat for fear of being caught. Maybe they just want the pictures. Maybe there just bored and you amuse them for a while. God knows. Fab is a strange place. But it's easy to see they lovely ladies get annoyed with the penis toting fools.

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By *owdyBoobyMan
over a year ago

limerick


"Some guys on here are only interested in chasing ladies. When they actually get someone willing to meet them they don't show up just move along to harass someone else. Maybe there married and don't actually have the bottle to cheat for fear of being caught. Maybe they just want the pictures. Maybe there just bored and you amuse them for a while. God knows. Fab is a strange place. But it's easy to see they lovely ladies get annoyed with the penis toting fools. "

I reckon its because they have made an outrageous lie about something either fake pics or height or penis length or not married with 25 kids. How can you meet after lying about those things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I had 25 kids I'd tell lies too just to escape.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its a bummer alright , the thing is , I just dont get why they allow ya to get ready and in some cases travel to a meeting point and then just not turn up ?

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By *urph6969Man
over a year ago

armagh

its soo hard getting a meet on here,been let down soo many times so annoying!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What has annoyed me recently is chatting to guys non stop and talk about a meet and they just wont commit to arranging a meet and then the chat goes on another bit. I just get a bit fed up of continuous chats leading to nowhere. Im here to meet people not penpals.. only so many times can ask a guy to meet while he keeps putting it off. I get the hint!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"its a bummer alright , the thing is , I just dont get why they allow ya to get ready and in some cases travel to a meeting point and then just not turn up ? "

Thats exactly my point you hit the nail on the head there especailly after all the talking back and forth that you woukd have done and then bam you either get told cant make it or hear nothing at all from them. The next man to do it im naming and shaming only fair

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Either they want to meet you in 5 minutes or after a bit of hi how are you in& an arranged meet....they can't make it...something came up...car flat....work...sick kid....sick pet....forgot date.......list goes on"

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By *andydevineMan
over a year ago

sligo

No shows are part of been on here. Always look forward and never back. Put it down to experience and move on. Im sure plenty of men, myself included would be glad of the chance to meet you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Report him. Report him for a no show..

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By *al2001Man
over a year ago

kildare

Most men want free and easy sex,its the nature of the beast,so it doesn't make sense that so many guys fail to show up

I think they get intimidated by some profiles and veries of their potential meets and of veries their meets have left other guys,"a cock to die for and sex god"type and think they won't match up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why bother try then hal... this is when they have meet organised an everything.. surely they have seen verifications from the off..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most men want free and easy sex,its the nature of the beast,so it doesn't make sense that so many guys fail to show up

I think they get intimidated by some profiles and veries of their potential meets and of veries their meets have left other guys,"a cock to die for and sex god"type and think they won't match up"

then they shouldn't really be on here if they lack confidence so?

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By *al2001Man
over a year ago

kildare


"Why bother try then hal... this is when they have meet organised an everything.. surely they have seen verifications from the off.. "

I'm not trying to justify them foxie just thinking why it happens

If these same timewasters met the same girl as they cancelled on on a night out they would love to hook up with them,so why do they back out here? I think its because they are intimidated by expectations to be a stud. Think guys in society feel it anyway because of so much porn nowadays. Its even more so on here.

I agree they shouldn't be here if they not going to meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its not that they shouldnt be here. Lots on here that never meet but why arrange something.. i always say to anyone im meeting do not build this up into something massive. Its a meet bit of fun. Nothing more. I have no expectations and they shouldnt either. yes porn has it ruined but for both make and female..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"its not that they shouldnt be here. Lots on here that never meet but why arrange something.. i always say to anyone im meeting do not build this up into something massive. Its a meet bit of fun. Nothing more. I have no expectations and they shouldnt either. yes porn has it ruined but for both make and female.. "

Exactly ah porn only ruins things if you're naive enough to really believe that is the way someone should look

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What is it with the men on this site they complain when noone will meet them but you take the time to chat a bit get to know them arrange a meet and either they ignore you or come up with some pathetic excuse damn frustrating its meant to be a site for uncomplicated fun but half of them make it complicated lol anyway rant over "

Just a pity I'm outside your age bracket

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thankfully I've not had any experience of this... I've rearranged on occasion and it's worked fine... No shows or last minute cancellation should be a small percentage if people are genuine.. "

Same I thunk I've been very lucky here

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By *his40Man
over a year ago

centre

Meanwhile genuine guys like myself cant seem to get any meets so they dont help likes of me either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So is a ride out of the question

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not just men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Meanwhile genuine guys like myself cant seem to get any meets so they dont help likes of me either"

Aren't the so called timewasters genuine guys?Or are they women pretending to be guys?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it hard to show up for a meet ,when I never get invitations for a meet (he says cunningly)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aye meets seem hard to come by if youra genuine fella lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What is it with the men on this site they complain when noone will meet them but you take the time to chat a bit get to know them arrange a meet and either they ignore you or come up with some pathetic excuse damn frustrating its meant to be a site for uncomplicated fun but half of them make it complicated lol anyway rant over "

Dubious, men do not appear to date. Hard to believe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Imo the pretty boy the ladies are lapping right up tend to be the ones who lap out. Victims of your own wet dreams..... stick to old chewbacca or the hunchback of notre dame they are a sure thing....

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By *unloving guyMan
over a year ago

derry

Yeah your damn right cici lol then the decent genuine respectful guys like myself get blocked by you for nothing rant over kml

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

why should ladies lower her standards..? Anyway I can't believe this story. In every pub in every night guys working hard to impress women. And then on a swinger site you can get a meeting and then they will cancel a appointment ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What i find amusing with this thread is two guys commenting that have no showed on myself as for anyone else who's had no shows report and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree there has to be an element of attraction however it's not happily ever after. It's just sex. Anything other than sex can lead to emotions then the latter a bunny boiler and someone gets hurt. What I was simply saying was not all the lookers will show up. However if you stick to the verified folk ahem your onto a sure thing most of the time.

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By *his40Man
over a year ago

centre

I would def Aggree with you on the verifications but then then like me when you new here it goes the opposite way in how does anyone else trust you without verification if all that makes sense !!

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By *ersitilefunMan
over a year ago

Dungannon

Hughheff84,, thats so true! lol The oul hunchback isnt gonna give up the chance for a nite with a hottie,, theyde be there an hr early lol

U'll see new status statein "Must bring a paper bag" lmao

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Come down to Cork I'll sort ya out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Noooo timewasters in Athlone miss derry, ops, miss Londonderry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Timewasters are all apart of fab and come from both sides i think.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ive been stood up by verified users as well not just non verified ones!! And yes why should i drop my standards yes i know its sex but at the end of the day i have to have an attraction no attraction then no sex simples. And as for the whole emotions thing mine never come into play i know exactly what im doing and im not wanting to change the situation i have but merely have a little fun in life its not just us women who develop emotions you men can as well and become crazy ass stalkers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive been stood up by verified users as well not just non verified ones!! And yes why should i drop my standards yes i know its sex but at the end of the day i have to have an attraction no attraction then no sex simples. And as for the whole emotions thing mine never come into play i know exactly what im doing and im not wanting to change the situation i have but merely have a little fun in life its not just us women who develop emotions you men can as well and become crazy ass stalkers"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

time wasters just need to be blocked and move on.... fuck them.. wasting my time. no thanks. saying they want to meet and then total and utter bullshit is all they are raving about... so BLOCK thanks!!!! thanks for the chats but im here to chat to people who actually want to nd will meet. not people who tell u they want to and then make up excuses.. enough here that actually do want to meet.. so just block timewasters and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is a guy on this morning. First he wanted a guy for a mmf threesome. Then he posted he wanted 4 or 5 guys for a gang bang. Now he has posted he wants a couple or a girl to join him in a hotel. I'm guessing he will want 40 lesbian's dancing on Bannna Strand shortly. ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is a guy on this morning. First he wanted a guy for a mmf threesome. Then he posted he wanted 4 or 5 guys for a gang bang. Now he has posted he wants a couple or a girl to join him in a hotel. I'm guessing he will want 40 lesbian's dancing on Bannna Strand shortly. ..."

Sonds like he's 3/5 of the way there! Granted he's done the easy bit first.

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