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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Sorry about the confusing title.

Just wondering what people think about this.

First of all iam not trying to offend anyone that maybe over weight. If your happy with your weight that's great for you.

Ok so let's say your technically over weight (doesn't matter wether your male or female) but ur basically not in good shape. You really Fancy a particular person but they clearly have no interest in you despite the fact they may know your a good/nice person etc but it's just not enough for them as they don't find you attractive.

Fast forward a year later. You have spent hours upon hours in the gym, eating right etc and your looking a hell of alot better. Suddenly you notice the same person showing alot more interest in you and it becomes apparent that you could now have them if you so choosed....

Would you feel angry and tell them where to go?

Or would you be happy to get with them knowing you were the same person last year but weren't good enough for them based on your appearance??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did you not post this thread up last year as well?

It went down like a lead balloon then so I'm not sure why you are revisiting it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Did you not post this thread up last year as well?

It went down like a lead balloon then so I'm not sure why you are revisiting it "

How can you remember what i posted last year? I don't even remember what i posted last week ffs lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont like people who exercise for looks. I dont like people who think my body is nice. I dont like people in general.

I like people who make me laugh. I assume if I was fat I would like the same people I like now, I assume they would like me.

I am not sure.

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By *at-cWoman
over a year ago

Ballyshannon


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Would you feel angry and tell them where to go?

Or would you be happy to get with them knowing you were the same person last year but weren't good enough for them based on your appearance?? "

Rejection always smarts so possibly yes, cutting off my nose to spite my face I'd say no thanks. It wouldn't be because he exercised his right to choose someone he found physically attractive, (if we didn't apply this or some other selection criteria then all our friends would turn into more) but it would be more a pride thing on my part.

But then being rational, in your scenario I obviously wanted a different version of myself also, so could I really put him down for wanting the same thing and admiring it once it was acheived?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ouch... this all hurts my head... gibberish...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've recently experienced this... I told him where to go...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have also experienced this ,i now have a personal trainer working with me ,and solely just for me and i want to be fitter not for anyone else but if a man cant accept me for me i will show him the door

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By *ockhard and SweetcheeksCouple
over a year ago

City

Well tbh i think a lot of ppl on this site do go for looks esp. some men not tarring ye all with the same brush here now hehe

But id rather someone who makes me laugh a person who can hold a conversation and someone who is just great company to be around regardless of weight!! And if I'm being completely honest i do prefer a good looking man but if he has a bit of weight on him it wudnt bother me as I'm no slim jim myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would ignore the person! No point in arguing or creating hassle, i dislike drama very much and i am here to have fun with like minded people

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By *owdyBoobyMan
over a year ago

limerick


"Well tbh i think a lot of ppl on this site do go for looks esp. some men not tarring ye all with the same brush here now hehe

But id rather someone who makes me laugh a person who can hold a conversation and someone who is just great company to be around regardless of weight!! And if I'm being completely honest i do prefer a good looking man but if he has a bit of weight on him it wudnt bother me as I'm no slim jim myself

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Sounds like something id write.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say where to go...

As I did it before.

I think sexy is more than just look and kg.. so if guy see me only before and after loosing kg Im not for him..so he can go (f*ck himself!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My weight goes up and down fairly regularly I've a habit of getting serious injurys and when I do my weight balloons the largest weight has been 5 1/2 Stone and I have noticed a serious difference in the amount of attention I receive

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By *ockhard and SweetcheeksCouple
over a year ago

City


"Well tbh i think a lot of ppl on this site do go for looks esp. some men not tarring ye all with the same brush here now hehe

But id rather someone who makes me laugh a person who can hold a conversation and someone who is just great company to be around regardless of weight!! And if I'm being completely honest i do prefer a good looking man but if he has a bit of weight on him it wudnt bother me as I'm no slim jim myself

Sounds like something id write. "

Great minds think alike Luke

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell them where to go.

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By *owdyBoobyMan
over a year ago

limerick


"Tell them where to go. "

Do we have an imposter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Would you feel angry and tell them where to go?

Or would you be happy to get with them knowing you were the same person last year but weren't good enough for them based on your appearance??

Rejection always smarts so possibly yes, cutting off my nose to spite my face I'd say no thanks. It wouldn't be because he exercised his right to choose someone he found physically attractive, (if we didn't apply this or some other selection criteria then all our friends would turn into more) but it would be more a pride thing on my part.

But then being rational, in your scenario I obviously wanted a different version of myself also, so could I really put him down for wanting the same thing and admiring it once it was acheived? "

A well thought out response i would entirely agree with.

Pride would most likely be the only thing stopping you. Nobody can seriously hold it against another person for not fancying them, for any reason other than pride.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont know what this place comming to atall if ur to tall or to small,to fat or to skinny,to young or to old,if ur not athetic or verified or cant acc if u drink or drink or smoke or dont smoke .If ur married or living with some your judge why cant people on here live and let live for ffs and accept people for what they stand for rather judge people on here from behind a keyboard.I think fab would be a better place if everyone would just be happy in there own skin yea get sick of hearing of it after a while.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dont know what this place comming to atall if ur to tall or to small,to fat or to skinny,to young or to old,if ur not athetic or verified or cant acc if u drink or drink or smoke or dont smoke .If ur married or living with some your judge why cant people on here live and let live for ffs and accept people for what they stand for rather judge people on here from behind a keyboard.I think fab would be a better place if everyone would just be happy in there own skin yea get sick of hearing of it after a while. "

Dude, the man just asked a question...no need to get your knickers in a twist

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dont know what this place comming to atall if ur to tall or to small,to fat or to skinny,to young or to old,if ur not athetic or verified or cant acc if u drink or drink or smoke or dont smoke .If ur married or living with some your judge why cant people on here live and let live for ffs and accept people for what they stand for rather judge people on here from behind a keyboard.I think fab would be a better place if everyone would just be happy in there own skin yea get sick of hearing of it after a while. "
can somebody please translate? I've had a long day so maybe that's why I cannot comprehend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

dont mind me atall the biggs is in bad form today.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"dont mind me atall the biggs is in bad form today."
join the fucking club pal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"dont mind me atall the biggs is in bad form today.join the fucking club pal"

Aww cum 'ere I'll give you both a big hug!!!

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By *ceryMan
over a year ago

Malahide & Waterford

It takes all sorts to make the world go by. Once you get to know a person and you click the shape, size, looks fades. Yes there will always be health consequences for certain type of body configurations but that is down to the individual if that want to do anything about it, and even better if they get the support of those around them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It takes all sorts to make the world go by. Once you get to know a person and you click the shape, size, looks fades. Yes there will always be health consequences for certain type of body configurations but that is down to the individual if that want to do anything about it, and even better if they get the support of those around them.

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What has that got to do with the original question?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We all have our preferences and if through improving the build of my body I finally meet someone's criteria, it's only great. I would never hold this against other people that previously they hadn't found my body attractive enough. I do not find such pride being sexy at all.

I think it's great that there are people that work out and do fitness to keep themselves in a good shape or whatever is their reason for doing it. It's a good example to follow.

Look at the great job that Ricky Gervais did to turn the way he looks and how happy he is for having it done, he even did a joke about the whole thing in one of his stand up shows. It's brilliant.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why would you be angry with them? If now you're what will interest them, then you should be glad, the time to be angry would have been a year ago.

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By *ceryMan
over a year ago

Malahide & Waterford


"It takes all sorts to make the world go by. Once you get to know a person and you click the shape, size, looks fades. Yes there will always be health consequences for certain type of body configurations but that is down to the individual if that want to do anything about it, and even better if they get the support of those around them.

What has that got to do with the original question?"

Weight and fancying a person...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It takes all sorts to make the world go by. Once you get to know a person and you click the shape, size, looks fades."

That is how you make friends I think.

Finding sexual partners does require being sexually attracted to the way the look, at least for the vast majority of people, or am I wrong and part of the minority actually?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It takes all sorts to make the world go by. Once you get to know a person and you click the shape, size, looks fades.

That is how you make friends I think.

Finding sexual partners does require being sexually attracted to the way the look, at least for the vast majority of people, or am I wrong and part of the minority actually?"

True I think...though as the saying goes 'Beauty gets our attention...but personality keeps our interest'...or something to that effect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It takes all sorts to make the world go by. Once you get to know a person and you click the shape, size, looks fades.

That is how you make friends I think.

Finding sexual partners does require being sexually attracted to the way the look, at least for the vast majority of people, or am I wrong and part of the minority actually?

True I think...though as the saying goes 'Beauty gets our attention...but personality keeps our interest'...or something to that effect."

Yeah, i dont believe that waffle either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It takes all sorts to make the world go by. Once you get to know a person and you click the shape, size, looks fades.

That is how you make friends I think.

Finding sexual partners does require being sexually attracted to the way the look, at least for the vast majority of people, or am I wrong and part of the minority actually?

True I think...though as the saying goes 'Beauty gets our attention...but personality keeps our interest'...or something to that effect."

I'd agree with that.

Nothing better than meeting with a beautiful and kind woman that just loves sucking cock and enjoys kinky sex.

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By *irst officerMan
over a year ago

Naas

As far as I know, the international average weight of a person hasn't changed in over 30 years, it's misleading that everyone has an average weight.

I'd say it's much the same for height to weight indexes.

If you look healthy you are healthy...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As far as I know, the international average weight of a person hasn't changed in over 30 years)"

I actually went to WHO website to check the facts, so here they are:

http://www.who.int/mediacentre/factsheets/fs311/en/

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By *irst officerMan
over a year ago

Naas


"As far as I know, the international average weight of a person hasn't changed in over 30 years)

I actually went to WHO website to check the facts, so here they are:

http://www.who.int/mediacentre/factsheets/fs311/en/

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What did you find?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" http://www.who.int/mediacentre/factsheets/fs311/en/

What did you find?"

There's plenty of info behind the link. It's too much to post on here.

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By *illow1972Man
over a year ago

Naas

This site is primarily shallow by its nature. I've no issue with that. People rarely want to get to know the "person" before they ride the "body".

I workout as it is good for my mind. I feel good after it. The body shape is incidental to the primary purpose.

If someone wants to ride me because I have an alright body, I'd oblige.

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