FabSwingers.com forum: Safety

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We're both love Mrs getting fucked hard by other guys.

Due to kids at home we seldom get free time together for meets.

Mrs is concerned about meeting alone from a safety point of view.

Has anyone had a meet that was in any way dodgy or felt dangerous?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thankfully I have never felt unsafe meeting someone, but you are right to be.

Only ever agree to hotel meets, get his mobile number and room number.

Both of you speak to the prospective partner.

Make sure are well verified, and show you those veri's if you request..

Talk to people on here.... those with bad reps are generally well known..

And if there's something that just doesnt add up... that doesn't feel quite right...that you are not 100% happy... well then trust your gut and decline politely

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

Security is always an issue lucky u have a built in buddy u should always know where who and expected times have a safety text ready so she can send to u. Meet in a public place first and preferably the both of u

But most of all go with ur gut

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with Cj always meet in a public place first not just at hotel room. Text someone let them know who your meeting and where. Trust your gut. Enjoy xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for the messages lads. Ideally you can take it that well verified are a safe bet.

But. Think of the verifications you've given. Have you ever verified someone you just briefly. Or do we embellish verifications too much?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks for the messages lads. Ideally you can take it that well verified are a safe bet.

But. Think of the verifications you've given. Have you ever verified someone you just briefly. Or do we embellish verifications too much? "

Even the well verified can be shits too so be careful of that! You just need to trust your instincts, if it doesn't feel right then walk away!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks for the messages lads. Ideally you can take it that well verified are a safe bet.

But. Think of the verifications you've given. Have you ever verified someone you just briefly. Or do we embellish verifications too much? "

Wouldn't meet someone just going on verifications I'm sure if chatting to them etc you'll figure out if your going to get along. If not sure meet for a coffee first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks for the messages lads. Ideally you can take it that well verified are a safe bet.

But. Think of the verifications you've given. Have you ever verified someone you just briefly. Or do we embellish verifications too much?

Wouldn't meet someone just going on verifications I'm sure if chatting to them etc you'll figure out if your going to get along. If not sure meet for a coffee first. "

People just meet in a room without a brief hello ?

Where is the tension and excitement going to build between the 2

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My safety is always on my mind. But to be honest I have thought wven more about after receiving abusive messages from a guy I use to see regular. You think u can trust Someone to discover u really don't know them at all.x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Thanks for the messages lads. Ideally you can take it that well verified are a safe bet.

But. Think of the verifications you've given. Have you ever verified someone you just briefly. Or do we embellish verifications too much?

Wouldn't meet someone just going on verifications I'm sure if chatting to them etc you'll figure out if your going to get along. If not sure meet for a coffee first.

People just meet in a room without a brief hello ?

Where is the tension and excitement going to build between the 2 "

Actually we've done this before as a couple and it was quite sexy!

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

"Thanks for the messages lads. Ideally you can take it that well verified are a safe bet.

But. Think of the verifications you've given. Have you ever verified someone you just briefly. Or do we embellish verifications too much?

Wouldn't meet someone just going on verifications I'm sure if chatting to them etc you'll figure out if your going to get along. If not sure meet for a coffee first.

People just meet in a room without a brief hello ?

Where is the tension and excitement going to build between the 2

Actually we've done this before as a couple and it was quite sexy!"

As a cpl yes on ur own I prefer public first nothing to say u click and head straight to a room and the added bonus for u is u delivered her to him and then went home to receive the pics and texts

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over a year ago

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By *squaredCouple
over a year ago

Dublin/westmeath/kildare

I've had weird meets.

I've always met in public place eg bar i knew but wasn't know in or cafe.

I've always had exit plan especially when i was single on another site.

Even weird meets I've stood up in said bye & just walked out front door with no issues as in public place& I think they were shocked.

Just use your head, meet public regardless & if u feel weird walk away.

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

"I've had weird meets.

I've always met in public place eg bar i knew but wasn't know in or cafe.

I've always had exit plan especially when i was single on another site.

Even weird meets I've stood up in said bye & just walked out front door with no issues as in public place& I think they were shocked.

Just use your head, meet public regardless & if u feel weird walk away. "

Yes u have to be prepared to walk away no excuses just sorry I am not feeling it and walk

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By *r Hung4funMan
over a year ago

craigavon

Meet publicly ,build up a friendship that your comfortable with , and take it from there

, if there's no respect or you feel uneasy Prob best to walk away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had weird meets.

I've always met in public place eg bar i knew but wasn't know in or cafe.

I've always had exit plan especially when i was single on another site.

Even weird meets I've stood up in said bye & just walked out front door with no issues as in public place& I think they were shocked.

Just use your head, meet public regardless & if u feel weird walk away.

Yes u have to be prepared to walk away no excuses just sorry I am not feeling it and walk "

Don't feel bad about walking away, if you don't feel it you don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have found that its always best too meet people in the bar of the hotel first and always meet someone for coffee before that.

For women in particular a safety text is ideal as a check in at random times throughout the night especially the first time you have a hotel meet with someone

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks all. Good advice. I just hope this doesn't make her even more reluctant !

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

"Thanks all. Good advice. I just hope this doesn't make her even more reluctant ! "

Should make her feel more secure in that we all have the same fears male and female and its accepted that a coffee in a public is the norm and walking away is the best thing if there is a hint of unease

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

We'll if I'm meeting a lady I usually txt her n get to know her first nice guarantee her safety allways . It's up to a gent to make a lady feel at ease . I've heard from guys who were supose to meeting couples but yes but a gay couple not what he expected

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

When ur messaging ur date u should b able to know what they will b like before u meet them n then meet in a public place .

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

I've had women being abussive to me could not beleive it . Even then I just blocked them was not abussive back . If a lady says no she means no n u just have to move in being bad won't get u anywhere .

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By *al2001Man
over a year ago

kildare

Was in a cuck relationship and girl met guys alone while I was at home and because I wasn't there safety was an issue

I had guys face pic at home and she met guy in bar,verified that he was same guy in pic and then she could relax,unlikely guy will get nasty when I have his face pic to go to cops with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Was in a cuck relationship and girl met guys alone while I was at home and because I wasn't there safety was an issue

I had guys face pic at home and she met guy in bar,verified that he was same guy in pic and then she could relax,unlikely guy will get nasty when I have his face pic to go to cops with"

Good idea...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Was in a cuck relationship and girl met guys alone while I was at home and because I wasn't there safety was an issue

I had guys face pic at home and she met guy in bar,verified that he was same guy in pic and then she could relax,unlikely guy will get nasty when I have his face pic to go to cops with"

Unless he's proper psychotic and kill her then kills himself. Unlikely but possible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Was in a cuck relationship and girl met guys alone while I was at home and because I wasn't there safety was an issue

I had guys face pic at home and she met guy in bar,verified that he was same guy in pic and then she could relax,unlikely guy will get nasty when I have his face pic to go to cops with

Unless he's proper psychotic and kill her then kills himself. Unlikely but possible."
Lol

deadly literally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are some dangerous individuals here masquerading as polite unassuming people .Do your homework on them BEFORE agreeing to meet ,do not be hurried into meeting anyone and the first red flag you get whilst chatting them online ... politely decline and move on .

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By *hoosyhotwifeCouple
over a year ago

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"Thanks for the messages lads. Ideally you can take it that well verified are a safe bet.

But. Think of the verifications you've given. Have you ever verified someone you just briefly. Or do we embellish verifications too much?

Wouldn't meet someone just going on verifications I'm sure if chatting to them etc you'll figure out if your going to get along. If not sure meet for a coffee first. "

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By *hoosyhotwifeCouple
over a year ago

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"There are some dangerous individuals here masquerading as polite unassuming people .Do your homework on them BEFORE agreeing to meet ,do not be hurried into meeting anyone and the first red flag you get whilst chatting them online ... politely decline and move on . "

Excellent advice

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over a year ago

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By *ardtofindMan
over a year ago

galway

Well said Mystress A coffee meet is important You have an escape clause in a public place of course

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By *al2001Man
over a year ago

kildare

"Was in a cuck relationship and girl met guys alone while I was at home and because I wasn't there safety was an issue

I had guys face pic at home and she met guy in bar,verified that he was same guy in pic and then she could relax,unlikely guy will get nasty when I have his face pic to go to cops with

Unless he's proper psychotic and kill her then kills himself. Unlikely but possible."

We both had our heads screwed on and judged him as a decent guy from chatting for while

I'd trust my gut instinct but didn't but the generic "trust your instinct from chatting" advice in first post as I think there are a lot of ppl in life who aren't good judges of character,even after meeting face to face,and they shouldn't trust their gut feelings so I stuck to practical advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Was in a cuck relationship and girl met guys alone while I was at home and because I wasn't there safety was an issue

I had guys face pic at home and she met guy in bar,verified that he was same guy in pic and then she could relax,unlikely guy will get nasty when I have his face pic to go to cops with

Unless he's proper psychotic and kill her then kills himself. Unlikely but possible.

We both had our heads screwed on and judged him as a decent guy from chatting for while

I wasn't dissing your advice Hal I was only giving another scenario

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can't guarantee safety.

The most dangerous people on the planet are dangerous, cause that gut instinct? yeah they can trick it.

They will lean in at the right moment, touch your hand at the right moment, laugh at the right moment, you happily leave with them.

Sometimes people wont care if someone else knows what they look like or where they live. They believe they will get away with it anyway, that they can black mail the girl into being quiet, that they can threaten her. People who do bad things often spiral out of control too, their sense of self preservation gets less and less as they need to do the bad things more and more.

All you can do is take the best precautions you can.

One thing to do is set up a text system with someone you trust. Text systems vary and involve you texting them, and them texting you. There have been cases where men have taken a phone off a girl and text back "yeah everything is fine", so dont say stuff like that in texts, say something else, anything else, as long as the other person knows one response is good the other negative. You can reverse it too so no is positive etc.

The main point being if they grab you and take your phone they wont be able to send messages saying you're okay.

Also try and keep first meet as social as possible.

If you're very nervous you could wait till a party where a few you kinda trust are gonna be there.

whatever really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

also I forgot, if you havent seen them on cam, then ask to meet them somewhere you can look at them from saftey first.

For example at an intersection where there are a few cafes, or the Spire etc. Go into one of the cafes and sit with a view of the intersection, when they arrive and are the same person as photos, just text them you went into the cafe to grab a coffee, or come out to meet them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

very good advice from mr nosafe there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"very good advice from mr nosafe there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm just after having lunch with an ex fabber who left some time ago , the reason she left , unknown to me until I met her !! Turns out , he was far from squeaky clean and left her requiring hospitalization !!! So girls ( and guys ) you just can't take enough precautions and like everything in life , if it seems to good to be true , it generally is.................... and trust your gut instinct !!!

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By *al2001Man
over a year ago

kildare

"Was in a cuck relationship and girl met guys alone while I was at home and because I wasn't there safety was an issue

I had guys face pic at home and she met guy in bar,verified that he was same guy in pic and then she could relax,unlikely guy will get nasty when I have his face pic to go to cops with

Unless he's proper psychotic and kill her then kills himself. Unlikely but possible.

We both had our heads screwed on and judged him as a decent guy from chatting for while

I wasn't dissing your advice Hal I was only giving another scenario "

I didn't think you were dissin me I was just explainin better

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Great advice Nosafe. I like the negative / positive switch thing. If meeting you then we'd have to switch that tho. Oh no maybe that's what you want. Ehm.....

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