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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What are your thoughts on age gaps between people?

I've seen a few profiles here over the last few weeks where the girl was 18/19 and the guy was ALOT older. On one profile the male was 32 i think and on another the male was 38.

Generally speaking i don't make a big deal out of age differences but in some cases here i get the feeling older men use younger woman as they may be easier to pressure into the swinging lifestyle n stuff?

I also know a girl who's no longer here but she was 19 and said the bulk of her mail came from guys aged 40+.

Should men that much older be targeting women that young. Is it pervy, normal etc?

Iam not judging anyone. I can't decide how i feel about it. Iam just asking you guys for your opinions...... However, I would lose my temper if i knew men that age were chasing my 18/19yr old daughter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have the words use and pressure in your post. It's full of judgement.

I have had relationships with a 29 year age gap. It's not based on pressure on either side. It's based on a connection between people. I have met very together 20 year olds and 45 year olds I wouldn't trust putting on a bus to Galway!

The saying don't judge me because my sins are different to your sins springs to mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When i joined fab first time a couple of years ago my age preference was 25 to 45 i think? I would not meet anyone over that age, after a couple of weeks it changed, i met some men in their 50's who rocked my world, chatted to younger fellas who bored the life out of me, so my age preference changed , i have a daughter, when she is mature enough to have a bf all i want is for him to treat her right

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Iam asking if that's the case. Iam not necessarily saying it's fact that they use them and put them under pressure BUT it does happen alot.

I also can't see how a guy that's 20 years older than an 18yr old could connect with her. If a guy that he feels connected to women that age then something ain't right with his development... And yes, now iam being judgemental but hey, it's how i feel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well at least you are showing your honest feelings and no longer pretending you aren't been judgemental when you are.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Well at least you are showing your honest feelings and no longer pretending you aren't been judgemental when you are. "

Well to be fair. Iam not condemning it or anything. I just don't understand the whole connection thing. I wouldn't call that being judgemental.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been in a relationship before that had a 25 year age gap. I prefer older men as they are for me more interesting than guys my own age, have more life experience and aren't as judgmental as many my age can be about lifestyle choices.

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over a year ago

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

I have being with a girl 22years my junior right she was a lot older then 18 but even so she knew what she wanted and took it, could probably converse with me better than some ladies 20 years older than her. I didn't set out to seduce her we had chatted for over a year and a half before we met and when we did sparks flew I'd go so far as to say she showed more than I'd shown her.

Do I feel guilty or dirty no

Did I push or presuade her to do things she didn't want to no

Did I take advantage no

The feelings were mutual and the experience enlighting

Would I do it again hell yea if I was lucky enough to meet someone as mature as her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think age gap gets that is acceptable gets bigger as you get older.

AN 18 year old should really top out at 25 year olds.

An 19 year old 27 year olds.

A 20 year old 30 year olds.

By the time you reach 30 you can be with a 60+ year old all the way down to a 20 year old. Going for an 18 year old is just too low in my opinion.

I know a lot of young girls like older men, and get on great with them, but they also miss out on stuff in life by being with an older guy. There is nothing wrong with going out and enjoying life and gathering experience. If you consider yourself too mature for that you run the risk of reaching midlife yourself and realizing that you missed out on a lot of experiences, all because you considered yourself too mature for them.

Anyway point Im making is, I like younger people to be silly and immature, and out there making mistakes and living life.

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick


"I think age gap gets that is acceptable gets bigger as you get older.

AN 18 year old should really top out at 25 year olds.

An 19 year old 27 year olds.

A 20 year old 30 year olds.

By the time you reach 30 you can be with a 60+ year old all the way down to a 20 year old. Going for an 18 year old is just too low in my opinion.

I know a lot of young girls like older men, and get on great with them, but they also miss out on stuff in life by being with an older guy. There is nothing wrong with going out and enjoying life and gathering experience. If you consider yourself too mature for that you run the risk of reaching midlife yourself and realizing that you missed out on a lot of experiences, all because you considered yourself too mature for them.

Anyway point Im making is, I like younger people to be silly and immature, and out there making mistakes and living life."

Totally agree with u youth must have its fling and there is a lot of knowledge to be gained amongst ur peers. Honing social skills is part of that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If people get on enjoy eachother why not were all here to have fun leave you morals and egos at the door

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick


"If people get on enjoy eachother why not were all here to have fun leave you morals and egos at the door "

Its not moralistic or egotistical to have an open discussion on weather or not young girls are infulanced by men double their age

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's the classic rule? Half your age plus 9 or something?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If people get on enjoy eachother why not were all here to have fun leave you morals and egos at the door

Its not moralistic or egotistical to have an open discussion on weather or not young girls are infulanced by men double their age "

Right and how do you figure that one out ?

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick


"If people get on enjoy eachother why not were all here to have fun leave you morals and egos at the door

Its not moralistic or egotistical to have an open discussion on weather or not young girls are infulanced by men double their age "

Or for that reason older women taking advantage of young lads although I may be killed by the tons of lads looking a mature lady

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick


"If people get on enjoy eachother why not were all here to have fun leave you morals and egos at the door

Its not moralistic or egotistical to have an open discussion on weather or not young girls are infulanced by men double their age

Right and how do you figure that one out ? "

Because an open discussion helps people fourm and establish opinions and if one younger person is helped along life's path by this then we as a coumunity have helped that person

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By *irst officerMan
over a year ago

Naas

I have a top age limit of women that are 99 years old.

Before everyone starts calling me judgemental the website wouldn't let me chose any higher.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If people get on enjoy eachother why not were all here to have fun leave you morals and egos at the door

Its not moralistic or egotistical to have an open discussion on weather or not young girls are infulanced by men double their age

Or for that reason older women taking advantage of young lads although I may be killed by the tons of lads looking a mature lady "

Lol I don't think there's too many older women around your age that would want anything to do with a 19 or 20 year old

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If people get on enjoy eachother why not were all here to have fun leave you morals and egos at the door

Its not moralistic or egotistical to have an open discussion on weather or not young girls are infulanced by men double their age

Right and how do you figure that one out ?

Because an open discussion helps people fourm and establish opinions and if one younger person is helped along life's path by this then we as a coumunity have helped that person "

Lol ahhh wise your hardly serious up its not the samaratins

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick


"If people get on enjoy eachother why not were all here to have fun leave you morals and egos at the door

Its not moralistic or egotistical to have an open discussion on weather or not young girls are infulanced by men double their age

Or for that reason older women taking advantage of young lads although I may be killed by the tons of lads looking a mature lady

Lol I don't think there's too many older women around your age that would want anything to do with a 19 or 20 year old "

I know I don't want to have anything to do with a girl of similar age as I said my experience was with a lady 22yrs younger. I dread to think I'd wake up some morn to find my son had brought home a girl I had met two weeks ago, but they are here and they do go for older guys not all of them but some

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick


"If people get on enjoy eachother why not were all here to have fun leave you morals and egos at the door

Its not moralistic or egotistical to have an open discussion on weather or not young girls are infulanced by men double their age

Right and how do you figure that one out ?

Because an open discussion helps people fourm and establish opinions and if one younger person is helped along life's path by this then we as a coumunity have helped that person

Lol ahhh wise your hardly serious up its not the samaratins "

No its not but I do have a conscience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If people get on enjoy eachother why not were all here to have fun leave you morals and egos at the door

Its not moralistic or egotistical to have an open discussion on weather or not young girls are infulanced by men double their age

Or for that reason older women taking advantage of young lads although I may be killed by the tons of lads looking a mature lady

Lol I don't think there's too many older women around your age that would want anything to do with a 19 or 20 year old

I know I don't want to have anything to do with a girl of similar age as I said my experience was with a lady 22yrs younger. I dread to think I'd wake up some morn to find my son had brought home a girl I had met two weeks ago, but they are here and they do go for older guys not all of them but some "

Why tho fuck it unless he's gonna marry her no point worrying about it each to their own in my opinion age should mean nothing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even when I was younger I went for an older man it's just a personal preference..did I ever feel used or pressured? absolutely not! Now in my 30s I still like the older man and wouldn't change a thing

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick


"

Why tho fuck it unless he's gonna marry her no point worrying about it each to their own in my opinion age should mean nothing "

Totally agree as I found out age means nothing, but the op was about guys using pressure to influence a young girls decisions

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick


"Even when I was younger I went for an older man it's just a personal preference..did I ever feel used or pressured? absolutely not! Now in my 30s I still like the older man and wouldn't change a thing "

Bit how much older grace

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Even when I was younger I went for an older man it's just a personal preference..did I ever feel used or pressured? absolutely not! Now in my 30s I still like the older man and wouldn't change a thing

Bit how much older grace"

When in my early 20s probably late 30s now maybe 45-50ish

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By *oughandCurvyCouple
over a year ago

galway

I personally have never been concerned with age difference and have had relationships with people 20 years my senior and have played with people more than 30 years my senior and I've always put it down to attraction but but I get what the OP is saying for instance when I first started meeting men online I was 17 and still in school and on many occasions I met men who claimed to be 19/20 who turned out to be in their 50's which I think is out of line and I'm sure many young women have encountered the same and perhaps been persuaded to do things they weren't ok with. So I think once a the person is 18 and legally an adult they are free to make their own mistakes but I would be wary of playing with someone that age because thy too could be lying and could be even younger.

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick


"Even when I was younger I went for an older man it's just a personal preference..did I ever feel used or pressured? absolutely not! Now in my 30s I still like the older man and wouldn't change a thing

Bit how much older grace

When in my early 20s probably late 30s now maybe 45-50ish "

In ur late teens

By early twenties I take it u mean 23/24

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Why tho fuck it unless he's gonna marry her no point worrying about it each to their own in my opinion age should mean nothing

Totally agree as I found out age means nothing, but the op was about guys using pressure to influence a young girls decisions "

Ahhh na don't think any older guy could pressure a younger girl or older women pressure a younger guy as someone said it's about preference and plus most young people on here are more sound up top than most older

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick


"I personally have never been concerned with age difference and have had relationships with people 20 years my senior and have played with people more than 30 years my senior and I've always put it down to attraction but but I get what the OP is saying for instance when I first started meeting men online I was 17 and still in school and on many occasions I met men who claimed to be 19/20 who turned out to be in their 50's which I think is out of line and I'm sure many young women have encountered the same and perhaps been persuaded to do things they weren't ok with. So I think once a the person is 18 and legally an adult they are free to make their own mistakes but I would be wary of playing with someone that age because thy too could be lying and could be even younger."

If I was pushed I'd have to say min 25/26 and only then once I knew they were mature enough to know the decisions they have made and the consequence of those decisions in other words mature

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick


"

Why tho fuck it unless he's gonna marry her no point worrying about it each to their own in my opinion age should mean nothing

Totally agree as I found out age means nothing, but the op was about guys using pressure to influence a young girls decisions

Ahhh na don't think any older guy could pressure a younger girl or older women pressure a younger guy as someone said it's about preference and plus most young people on here are more sound up top than most older "

Lol think that may be tainted a wee bit yes there are older mutters but there are a lot of younger ones to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Even when I was younger I went for an older man it's just a personal preference..did I ever feel used or pressured? absolutely not! Now in my 30s I still like the older man and wouldn't change a thing

Bit how much older grace

When in my early 20s probably late 30s now maybe 45-50ish

In ur late teens

By early twenties I take it u mean 23/24 "

18 I was seeing a guy that was 30 for about 8 months like I said its a personal preference

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been with people from 20 and up to 50. At the end of the day I know some 18 year old girls who have more cop on than my mother who is in her 50's. Over 18 means consenting adult legally and if an 18 year old wants to be with a 60 year old and is happy who Are we to judge. Preferences, everyone has them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Why tho fuck it unless he's gonna marry her no point worrying about it each to their own in my opinion age should mean nothing

Totally agree as I found out age means nothing, but the op was about guys using pressure to influence a young girls decisions

Ahhh na don't think any older guy could pressure a younger girl or older women pressure a younger guy as someone said it's about preference and plus most young people on here are more sound up top than most older

Lol think that may be tainted a wee bit yes there are older mutters but there are a lot of younger ones to "

Lol for sure

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick


"I've been with people from 20 and up to 50. At the end of the day I know some 18 year old girls who have more cop on than my mother who is in her 50's. Over 18 means consenting adult legally and if an 18 year old wants to be with a 60 year old and is happy who Are we to judge. Preferences, everyone has them. "

I am not disagreeing with u as long as its an informed decision on the young persons part

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By *oughandCurvyCouple
over a year ago

galway


"I personally have never been concerned with age difference and have had relationships with people 20 years my senior and have played with people more than 30 years my senior and I've always put it down to attraction but but I get what the OP is saying for instance when I first started meeting men online I was 17 and still in school and on many occasions I met men who claimed to be 19/20 who turned out to be in their 50's which I think is out of line and I'm sure many young women have encountered the same and perhaps been persuaded to do things they weren't ok with. So I think once a the person is 18 and legally an adult they are free to make their own mistakes but I would be wary of playing with someone that age because thy too could be lying and could be even younger.

If I was pushed I'd have to say min 25/26 and only then once I knew they were mature enough to know the decisions they have made and the consequence of those decisions in other words mature "

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By *irst officerMan
over a year ago

Naas

Has a younger person ever told you they are older?

When I was about 30 I was seeing a girl that was supposed to be 18, meeting up on odd weekends and nights off. About 6 months into it she told me it was her 18th birthday. Nearly died...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been with people from 20 and up to 50. At the end of the day I know some 18 year old girls who have more cop on than my mother who is in her 50's. Over 18 means consenting adult legally and if an 18 year old wants to be with a 60 year old and is happy who Are we to judge. Preferences, everyone has them. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I was (him) 19 I was involved with a married woman with 2 kids. She was 28. We met for 3 or 4 years. She thought me some things. ??. Anal him. Anal her. Fisting. Swallowing Bj. Bareback

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always been with older ladys very first time I was 19 she was at 10 years older i have been with a few younger ladys around 25-26 aswell.

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By *illow1972Man
over a year ago

Naas

I know a girl here in her early twenties. She only meets men over 50. That's her kink and she loves it.

In her real life she dates closer to her own age.

She's an intelligent lady and always calls the shots. As far as she is concerned, she's getting the best of both worlds. She's getting the best out of Fab.

Fair play to her.

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By *heelofTimeCouple
over a year ago

Two Rivers


"I think age gap gets that is acceptable gets bigger as you get older.

AN 18 year old should really top out at 25 year olds.

An 19 year old 27 year olds.

A 20 year old 30 year olds.

By the time you reach 30 you can be with a 60+ year old all the way down to a 20 year old. Going for an 18 year old is just too low in my opinion.

I know a lot of young girls like older men, and get on great with them, but they also miss out on stuff in life by being with an older guy. There is nothing wrong with going out and enjoying life and gathering experience. If you consider yourself too mature for that you run the risk of reaching midlife yourself and realizing that you missed out on a lot of experiences, all because you considered yourself too mature for them.

Anyway point Im making is, I like younger people to be silly and immature, and out there making mistakes and living life."

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