FabSwingers.com forum: What is fun?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I keep hearing lets have fun, meet me for fun or similar over and over again. My memory couldn't help it bringing me all the way back to my very first meet of swinging site. Guy was good looking and fit, but so nervous that he was shaking and could not say a word in most of an hour coffee. He asked me one and only question " did i like cinema?". I felt like a clown all that time feeling under pressure to fill in awkward silence. How ever at the end of this he asked me "will i follow you to your place?" And answer to my question was "for fun". I said my excuses of cause. And months after i heard he finally got a Bj in the car. That must of been fun. So what is fun after all ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree I think the term is "cheap" but I guess people associate it with something they do that makes them happy ?? Don't know if there is a term for having sex that doesn't have some negative air to it. suppose it's the mindset at the time it's said to you or at you. I'm guilty of saying for a "play" so probably sounds as bad.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I agree I think the term is "cheap" but I guess people associate it with something they do that makes them happy ?? Don't know if there is a term for having sex that doesn't have some negative air to it. suppose it's the mindset at the time it's said to you or at you. I'm guilty of saying for a "play" so probably sounds as bad. "
I'm driven by sense of adventure, spontaneity and passion. I must say i had some mind blowing experience down the road. But find it terribly hard finding guys who would be half as bold as me. Most r bam bam thank u mam kind of style.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I agree I think the term is "cheap" but I guess people associate it with something they do that makes them happy ?? Don't know if there is a term for having sex that doesn't have some negative air to it. suppose it's the mindset at the time it's said to you or at you. I'm guilty of saying for a "play" so probably sounds as bad. I'm driven by sense of adventure, spontaneity and passion. I must say i had some mind blowing experience down the road. But find it terribly hard finding guys who would be half as bold as me. Most r bam bam thank u mam kind of style. "
just not meeting the right kind of men

there's a few here that I'd gladly follow into a changing room or men's toilets or a lift in a cinema etc for spur of the moment and there's some that it would be wasted on. I think your missing the spark with the meets not the actual fun

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By *al2001Man
over a year ago

kildare

Fun to you is whatever you find fun. Then you find guy with similar views on fun. Then you have fun

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By *he VansCouple
over a year ago

mullingar

Ok for what is worth my (Mrv ) idea of fun would be sexual wise would be 3 or 4 couples over for home cooked meal ! With the starter each of the males would have to take a sexual request from each of the females and only as a sexual starter ! Pre main course the ladies would have to invent a strong COCKTAIL and slowly pour it over the males and lick it off and the males would not be aloud to touch the ladies !

and then for dessert a game of sexual dares with spin the bottle with all people playing ! Wine and drinks flowing freely of course ! So that's a 3 course meal served with sexual antics with friendly sexy likeminded people ! Now that's my take on some fun ! Hope you all have some nice mental pics now lol !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's a lot of long answers, surely anything that turns the corners of your mouth skywards & makes your eyes sparkle is fun, no?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If a good looking woman said to me fancy some fun, Id immediately begin to get erect

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By *lwaysforfunMan
over a year ago

Swingerstown

"I agree I think the term is "cheap" but I guess people associate it with something they do that makes them happy ?? Don't know if there is a term for having sex that doesn't have some negative air to it. suppose it's the mindset at the time it's said to you or at you. I'm guilty of saying for a "play" so probably sounds as bad. I'm driven by sense of adventure, spontaneity and passion. I must say i had some mind blowing experience down the road. But find it terribly hard finding guys who would be half as bold as me. Most r bam bam thank u mam kind of style. "

Now there's a term ('half as bold as me')that can be interpreted in so many ways so trying to find them can be extremely hard and as frustrating as hell.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's a lot of long answers, surely anything that turns the corners of your mouth skywards & makes your eyes sparkle is fun, no?"

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

I have always found it easier to be straight up like

Well what u think are we shagging or did u bring ur knitting

U can call it what u want but once u have enjoyed ur self have a happy feeling going on still smiling a few days later its fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fun:

enjoyment, amusement, or light-hearted pleasure.

Synonyms: pleasure, entertainment, enjoyment, amusement, excitement, gratification;

Antonyms: boring, drab, dreary, dull, flat, heavy, humdrum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can have fun with nervous people. It takes a lot for someone to be nervous so much they are shaking and to try and continue on.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ok for what is worth my (Mrv ) idea of fun would be sexual wise would be 3 or 4 couples over for home cooked meal ! With the starter each of the males would have to take a sexual request from each of the females and only as a sexual starter ! Pre main course the ladies would have to invent a strong COCKTAIL and slowly pour it over the males and lick it off and the males would not be aloud to touch the ladies !

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oh i love that

and i would gladly accomodate that type of get togather mmmmm.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"There's a lot of long answers, surely anything that turns the corners of your mouth skywards & makes your eyes sparkle is fun, no?"
Anything out of ordinary me thinks, even tho u can turn ordinary to extraordinary if u put a little bit thought to it

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By *imwildWoman
over a year ago

around

A game of words with friends always entertains me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You can have fun with nervous people. It takes a lot for someone to be nervous so much they are shaking and to try and continue on."
ability communicate, laugh and flirt is a part of the thrill no?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A game of twister maybe ?

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

"You can have fun with nervous people. It takes a lot for someone to be nervous so much they are shaking and to try and continue on.ability communicate, laugh and flirt is a part of the thrill no?"

Definitely also helps to calm the nerves, if I wasn't some bit nervous I'd give it up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A game of twister maybe ?

Now you're talking

With a bit of oil on the mat just to add another dimension

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You can have fun with nervous people. It takes a lot for someone to be nervous so much they are shaking and to try and continue on."

Very true

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

"A game of twister maybe ?

Now you're talking

With a bit of oil on the mat just to add another dimension "

That's cheating

Must try it next time

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By *imwildWoman
over a year ago

around

"A game of twister maybe ?

Now you're talking

With a bit of oil on the mat just to add another dimension

That's cheating

Must try it next time

Super glue is better..lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A game of twister maybe ?

Now you're talking

With a bit of oil on the mat just to add another dimension

That's cheating

Must try it next time

Super glue is better..lol"

Jelly & ice cream....may as well stave off the hunger while we're at it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"ability communicate, laugh and flirt is a part of the thrill no?"

It is, but that is why I would pick up the slack in the conversation if they were shy.

You prefer assertive people and so do some others, all I was saying is, if I was a girl who was shy it wouldnt put me off. I wouldnt bring her home, but wouldnt rule it out for that reason either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

* if i was with a girl who was shy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"* if i was with a girl who was shy."

Awe you're a girl

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By *ceryMan
over a year ago

Malahide & Waterford

"A game of twister maybe ?

Now you're talking

With a bit of oil on the mat just to add another dimension

That's cheating

Must try it next time

Super glue is better..lol"

Maple Syrup.... Makes cleaning up more interesting...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

fun is everything what you also can let remain ,.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"ability communicate, laugh and flirt is a part of the thrill no?

It is, but that is why I would pick up the slack in the conversation if they were shy.

You prefer assertive people and so do some others, all I was saying is, if I was a girl who was shy it wouldnt put me off. I wouldnt bring her home, but wouldnt rule it out for that reason either.

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no i prefer people with personality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The whole idea of chatting is that we all figure out if our idea of 'fun'...is mutual.think this place works pretty well though too much emphasis on the guys chasing...pretty much means being pushy becomes the norm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"ability communicate, laugh and flirt is a part of the thrill no?

It is, but that is why I would pick up the slack in the conversation if they were shy.

You prefer assertive people and so do some others, all I was saying is, if I was a girl who was shy it wouldnt put me off. I wouldnt bring her home, but wouldnt rule it out for that reason either.

no i prefer people with personality. "

I agree

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The whole idea of chatting is that we all figure out if our idea of 'fun'...is mutual.think this place works pretty well though too much emphasis on the guys chasing...pretty much means being pushy becomes the norm"
There is the thrill in the chase

pushiness on other hand would get u nowhere. Have to find a healthy balance .....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I keep hearing lets have fun, meet me for fun or similar over and over again. My memory couldn't help it bringing me all the way back to my very first meet of swinging site. Guy was good looking and fit, but so nervous that he was shaking and could not say a word in most of an hour coffee. He asked me one and only question " did i like cinema?". I felt like a clown all that time feeling under pressure to fill in awkward silence. How ever at the end of this he asked me "will i follow you to your place?" And answer to my question was "for fun". I said my excuses of cause. And months after i heard he finally got a Bj in the car. That must of been fun. So what is fun after all ? "
normally the fun means nsa which means no strings attached which that normally means no strings attched SEX if you don't want fun means here why sign up too a sex site where people could use the word fun too discribe sexual activity it's not a dating site or Facebook where fun is normally a run around the park or the cinema so fun means sex sex sex sex and more of it now who wants fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we would love this!

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