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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Okayyyy this bears repeating once more:

Organisers make arrangements for venue, entertainment, accommodation and food where appropriate, travel [so folks can buddy-up ahead of a meet] and a gizillion other things, just to make it possible for everyone who wants to - to come along, have a brilliant night out, meet lots of friends - old and new - and make some connections for ... maybe more.

then - YOU need to do YOUR part too!!!

Keep a regular eye on the "Meets, Events" Board - and the Forums. This is where the Organisers will post up the notices about what's planned.

The Organisers will specify who the event is appropriate for, and how to get involved.

YOU must respond to the ORGANISER directly in most cases by MAIL on site. If you don't, YOU miss out.

YOU must provide the Organiser with details like phone numbers, e-mail addys and pics [where required] so you can be added to the Mailing List for that specific event. If you don't, YOU miss out.

YOU must act on any information the Organiser sends you in the run-up to the event. If you don't, YOU miss out.

YOU must RSVP to the Organiser by the DEADLINE dates set by the Organiser. If you don't, YOU miss out.

The Organiser will forward to you the necessary details of Venue/Time etc including any requirements such as dress code [when it's themed/fancy dress]; BYOB [Bring your own beer/bottle eg when it's a private party in someone's home].

If you can't attend - for whatever reason, YOU must let the Organisers know as soon as possible. We know there's times when it's going to happen that something prevents us enjoying our lives at the very last minute - but it's only common courtesy to let someone know you're going to miss the event. It means someone-else might be able to take the place you left.

Then it's up to YOU to attend, arriving promptly and mingle. Get to know folks socially, put those faces to the names you chat with in the rooms and forums - and if you're lucky - see who shows an interest in you. If you're shy - then arrange to attend with someone else, have a coffee meet ahead of the meet and then you will both be braver for the main event.

Unless the Organisers has told you specifically it's a 'no rules orgy' [never heard of one yet, myself like ] Then it's NOT a case of asking every Tom, Dick, Madge or Jane "When are we shagging"

Get a grip! And Guys, I mean not of your cock - of your manners!!

- Show DECORUM for the venue [not always a private function room]. My Mother always reminded us to "Act your age, not your shoe-size". Getting blotto in the first two hours will not only show you up as a drinker, but also ruin any chances you have of making friends and at worst could end up with you being thrown out of the event, never to be asked back again.

- Show DISCRETION - and chat like adults - not like spotty teenagers at the local flea-pit dance or cinema. Just because we're all from site here, does not mean we are any of us sleazy or lewd in public. Remember, what's acceptable in the chatrooms and on cams is generally NOT acceptable out in the real world where the Meets take place.

- Show RESPECT - for the Organisers, helpers, DJs, venue staff and most of all - your fellow Meeters. They've put a great deal of faith in inviting Newbies to the Meets, so make sure you can leave knowing you've done nothing to prevent you becoming a regular, next time. They've also all put themselves out, in time, money and effort, to make a great night for YOU AND EVERYONE ELSE.

GET PRO-ACTIVE - Invites don't come looking for you when you lurk in shadows - SHOW AN INTEREST - then ACT!!!

Here endeth the Lesson for Newbies and how to get involved in Events.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hope you copied & pasted that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I hope you copied & pasted that."

That made me laugh stupidly hard :/ :L

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have it in my-doc's - from when I ran the Cork-AllFirstFridays-club - found it stopped me being asked the same ol' sh*te by the Newbies


"I hope you copied & pasted that."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have it in my-doc's - from when I ran the Cork-AllFirstFridays-club - found it stopped me being asked the same ol' sh*te by the Newbies "

Handy. I heard mention of the FF club, before my time here I think.

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By *SinfullyCuriousCouple
over a year ago

Co Antrim

Well said

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By *illow1972Man
over a year ago

Naas

Ah I remember the All First Friday Club!

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By *exyHeels13Woman
over a year ago

Belfast

Well said indeed X

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By *andaCouple
over a year ago

co down

A lot of v good advice there. Still regard ourselves as newbies and am relieved we havent broken any of the rules!

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By *avedadevilMan
over a year ago

Cork

That's hilarious if not very insulting lol surely it's common sense how you act and carry on, lol that's always one dope I guess ha good advice over all tho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Okayyyy this bears repeating once more:

Organisers make arrangements for venue, entertainment, accommodation and food where appropriate, travel [so folks can buddy-up ahead of a meet] and a gizillion other things, just to make it possible for everyone who wants to - to come along, have a brilliant night out, meet lots of friends - old and new - and make some connections for ... maybe more.

then - YOU need to do YOUR part too!!!

Keep a regular eye on the "Meets, Events" Board - and the Forums. This is where the Organisers will post up the notices about what's planned.

The Organisers will specify who the event is appropriate for, and how to get involved.

YOU must respond to the ORGANISER directly in most cases by MAIL on site. If you don't, YOU miss out.

YOU must provide the Organiser with details like phone numbers, e-mail addys and pics [where required] so you can be added to the Mailing List for that specific event. If you don't, YOU miss out.

YOU must act on any information the Organiser sends you in the run-up to the event. If you don't, YOU miss out.

YOU must RSVP to the Organiser by the DEADLINE dates set by the Organiser. If you don't, YOU miss out.

The Organiser will forward to you the necessary details of Venue/Time etc including any requirements such as dress code [when it's themed/fancy dress]; BYOB [Bring your own beer/bottle eg when it's a private party in someone's home].

If you can't attend - for whatever reason, YOU must let the Organisers know as soon as possible. We know there's times when it's going to happen that something prevents us enjoying our lives at the very last minute - but it's only common courtesy to let someone know you're going to miss the event. It means someone-else might be able to take the place you left.

Then it's up to YOU to attend, arriving promptly and mingle. Get to know folks socially, put those faces to the names you chat with in the rooms and forums - and if you're lucky - see who shows an interest in you. If you're shy - then arrange to attend with someone else, have a coffee meet ahead of the meet and then you will both be braver for the main event.

Unless the Organisers has told you specifically it's a 'no rules orgy' [never heard of one yet, myself like ] Then it's NOT a case of asking every Tom, Dick, Madge or Jane "When are we shagging"

Get a grip! And Guys, I mean not of your cock - of your manners!!

- Show DECORUM for the venue [not always a private function room]. My Mother always reminded us to "Act your age, not your shoe-size". Getting blotto in the first two hours will not only show you up as a drinker, but also ruin any chances you have of making friends and at worst could end up with you being thrown out of the event, never to be asked back again.

- Show DISCRETION - and chat like adults - not like spotty teenagers at the local flea-pit dance or cinema. Just because we're all from site here, does not mean we are any of us sleazy or lewd in public. Remember, what's acceptable in the chatrooms and on cams is generally NOT acceptable out in the real world where the Meets take place.

- Show RESPECT - for the Organisers, helpers, DJs, venue staff and most of all - your fellow Meeters. They've put a great deal of faith in inviting Newbies to the Meets, so make sure you can leave knowing you've done nothing to prevent you becoming a regular, next time. They've also all put themselves out, in time, money and effort, to make a great night for YOU AND EVERYONE ELSE.

GET PRO-ACTIVE - Invites don't come looking for you when you lurk in shadows - SHOW AN INTEREST - then ACT!!!

Here endeth the Lesson for Newbies and how to get involved in Events.

"

Spot on, well said

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By *longshottMan
over a year ago

Limerick

Marie you always did run a good show. Born organiser as I've always said..

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By *s louWoman
over a year ago

Enniskillen

This would be a good one for Admin to put up on site somewhere. Sound advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Common sense can b in short supply at times along with good manners

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By *herry_bombshellWoman
over a year ago

northside


"Okayyyy this bears repeating once more:

Organisers make arrangements for venue, entertainment, accommodation and food where appropriate, travel [so folks can buddy-up ahead of a meet] and a gizillion other things, just to make it possible for everyone who wants to - to come along, have a brilliant night out, meet lots of friends - old and new - and make some connections for ... maybe more.

then - YOU need to do YOUR part too!!!

Keep a regular eye on the "Meets, Events" Board - and the Forums. This is where the Organisers will post up the notices about what's planned.

The Organisers will specify who the event is appropriate for, and how to get involved.

YOU must respond to the ORGANISER directly in most cases by MAIL on site. If you don't, YOU miss out.

YOU must provide the Organiser with details like phone numbers, e-mail addys and pics [where required] so you can be added to the Mailing List for that specific event. If you don't, YOU miss out.

YOU must act on any information the Organiser sends you in the run-up to the event. If you don't, YOU miss out.

YOU must RSVP to the Organiser by the DEADLINE dates set by the Organiser. If you don't, YOU miss out.

The Organiser will forward to you the necessary details of Venue/Time etc including any requirements such as dress code [when it's themed/fancy dress]; BYOB [Bring your own beer/bottle eg when it's a private party in someone's home].

If you can't attend - for whatever reason, YOU must let the Organisers know as soon as possible. We know there's times when it's going to happen that something prevents us enjoying our lives at the very last minute - but it's only common courtesy to let someone know you're going to miss the event. It means someone-else might be able to take the place you left.

Then it's up to YOU to attend, arriving promptly and mingle. Get to know folks socially, put those faces to the names you chat with in the rooms and forums - and if you're lucky - see who shows an interest in you. If you're shy - then arrange to attend with someone else, have a coffee meet ahead of the meet and then you will both be braver for the main event.

Unless the Organisers has told you specifically it's a 'no rules orgy' [never heard of one yet, myself like ] Then it's NOT a case of asking every Tom, Dick, Madge or Jane "When are we shagging"

Get a grip! And Guys, I mean not of your cock - of your manners!!

- Show DECORUM for the venue [not always a private function room]. My Mother always reminded us to "Act your age, not your shoe-size". Getting blotto in the first two hours will not only show you up as a drinker, but also ruin any chances you have of making friends and at worst could end up with you being thrown out of the event, never to be asked back again.

- Show DISCRETION - and chat like adults - not like spotty teenagers at the local flea-pit dance or cinema. Just because we're all from site here, does not mean we are any of us sleazy or lewd in public. Remember, what's acceptable in the chatrooms and on cams is generally NOT acceptable out in the real world where the Meets take place.

- Show RESPECT - for the Organisers, helpers, DJs, venue staff and most of all - your fellow Meeters. They've put a great deal of faith in inviting Newbies to the Meets, so make sure you can leave knowing you've done nothing to prevent you becoming a regular, next time. They've also all put themselves out, in time, money and effort, to make a great night for YOU AND EVERYONE ELSE.

GET PRO-ACTIVE - Invites don't come looking for you when you lurk in shadows - SHOW AN INTEREST - then ACT!!!

Here endeth the Lesson for Newbies and how to get involved in Events.

"

BRILLIANT marie. this should be on the rules page

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

WELL said... I do hope that some of the newbies may look at this forum !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Marie, as I am attending my first M&G this information is both timely and very useful.

Thank you for taking the time and thought into putting this up. You have eased my trepidation in attending considerably and thwarted my string of emails with 100's of question to Sexyheels and Bustie Blonde. I know I would have received very courteous responses as ever but it still wouldve tied up their valuable time which they could easily devoted to much better things.

Thx on behalf of myself and other newbies x

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By *ohn MingoMan
over a year ago

Dublin

The trouble with common sense is that it's not very common.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sleazy and lewd as if!!

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By *on11Man
over a year ago

cork

Well put, shame it had to be done though, we are supposed to be adults!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Marie, as I am attending my first M&G this information is both timely and very useful.

Thank you for taking the time and thought into putting this up. You have eased my trepidation in attending considerably and thwarted my string of emails with 100's of question to Sexyheels and Bustie Blonde. I know I would have received very courteous responses as ever but it still wouldve tied up their valuable time which they could easily devoted to much better things.

Thx on behalf of myself and other newbies x"

** sorry Jenny I meant Sexyheels and Blondie Babe. Xx

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By *andyyuaaMan
over a year ago

Chicago


"Okayyyy this bears repeating once more:

Organisers make arrangements for venue, entertainment, accommodation and food where appropriate, travel [so folks can buddy-up ahead of a meet] and a gizillion other things, just to make it possible for everyone who wants to - to come along, have a brilliant night out, meet lots of friends - old and new - and make some connections for ... maybe more.

then - YOU need to do YOUR part too!!!

Keep a regular eye on the "Meets, Events" Board - and the Forums. This is where the Organisers will post up the notices about what's planned.

The Organisers will specify who the event is appropriate for, and how to get involved.

YOU must respond to the ORGANISER directly in most cases by MAIL on site. If you don't, YOU miss out.

YOU must provide the Organiser with details like phone numbers, e-mail addys and pics [where required] so you can be added to the Mailing List for that specific event. If you don't, YOU miss out.

YOU must act on any information the Organiser sends you in the run-up to the event. If you don't, YOU miss out.

YOU must RSVP to the Organiser by the DEADLINE dates set by the Organiser. If you don't, YOU miss out.

The Organiser will forward to you the necessary details of Venue/Time etc including any requirements such as dress code [when it's themed/fancy dress]; BYOB [Bring your own beer/bottle eg when it's a private party in someone's home].

If you can't attend - for whatever reason, YOU must let the Organisers know as soon as possible. We know there's times when it's going to happen that something prevents us enjoying our lives at the very last minute - but it's only common courtesy to let someone know you're going to miss the event. It means someone-else might be able to take the place you left.

Then it's up to YOU to attend, arriving promptly and mingle. Get to know folks socially, put those faces to the names you chat with in the rooms and forums - and if you're lucky - see who shows an interest in you. If you're shy - then arrange to attend with someone else, have a coffee meet ahead of the meet and then you will both be braver for the main event.

Unless the Organisers has told you specifically it's a 'no rules orgy' [never heard of one yet, myself like ] Then it's NOT a case of asking every Tom, Dick, Madge or Jane "When are we shagging"

Get a grip! And Guys, I mean not of your cock - of your manners!!

- Show DECORUM for the venue [not always a private function room]. My Mother always reminded us to "Act your age, not your shoe-size". Getting blotto in the first two hours will not only show you up as a drinker, but also ruin any chances you have of making friends and at worst could end up with you being thrown out of the event, never to be asked back again.

- Show DISCRETION - and chat like adults - not like spotty teenagers at the local flea-pit dance or cinema. Just because we're all from site here, does not mean we are any of us sleazy or lewd in public. Remember, what's acceptable in the chatrooms and on cams is generally NOT acceptable out in the real world where the Meets take place.

- Show RESPECT - for the Organisers, helpers, DJs, venue staff and most of all - your fellow Meeters. They've put a great deal of faith in inviting Newbies to the Meets, so make sure you can leave knowing you've done nothing to prevent you becoming a regular, next time. They've also all put themselves out, in time, money and effort, to make a great night for YOU AND EVERYONE ELSE.

GET PRO-ACTIVE - Invites don't come looking for you when you lurk in shadows - SHOW AN INTEREST - then ACT!!!

Here endeth the Lesson for Newbies and how to get involved in Events.

"

Awesome advice. Greatly written. Aprreciate your effort. Many thanks.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"The trouble with common sense is that it's not very common."

You can say that again.

A great little litany to have on hand for all events. I may "borrow" this for my event.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very good advice

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Knowledge is for sharing - in my world, anyway

Acquired knowledge from over 12 years around the scene - sort of: been there, done that and seen how badly the T-Shirt ends up when you don't play by the rules!

Use at will - Link folks to this page, though - rather than copy/paste - for two reasons:

a] the formatting goes all to pot in other websites [Yes! I've tested the theory - and know it's easier to copy the link!!]

b] it was written for the club I ran, and the members were from here [and a couple of other similar sites] so it's relevance is fairly specific to the lovely feckers here!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

that was some speach x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Bumped - considering how many socials/M&Gs are currently planned .. .. ..

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By *ojos jugsWoman
over a year ago

Bangor

Here here!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Okayyyy this bears repeating once more:

Organisers make arrangements for venue, entertainment, accommodation and food where appropriate, travel [so folks can buddy-up ahead of a meet] and a gizillion other things, just to make it possible for everyone who wants to - to come along, have a brilliant night out, meet lots of friends - old and new - and make some connections for ... maybe more.

then - YOU need to do YOUR part too!!!

Keep a regular eye on the "Meets, Events" Board - and the Forums. This is where the Organisers will post up the notices about what's planned.

The Organisers will specify who the event is appropriate for, and how to get involved.

YOU must respond to the ORGANISER directly in most cases by MAIL on site. If you don't, YOU miss out.

YOU must provide the Organiser with details like phone numbers, e-mail addys and pics [where required] so you can be added to the Mailing List for that specific event. If you don't, YOU miss out.

YOU must act on any information the Organiser sends you in the run-up to the event. If you don't, YOU miss out.

YOU must RSVP to the Organiser by the DEADLINE dates set by the Organiser. If you don't, YOU miss out.

The Organiser will forward to you the necessary details of Venue/Time etc including any requirements such as dress code [when it's themed/fancy dress]; BYOB [Bring your own beer/bottle eg when it's a private party in someone's home].

If you can't attend - for whatever reason, YOU must let the Organisers know as soon as possible. We know there's times when it's going to happen that something prevents us enjoying our lives at the very last minute - but it's only common courtesy to let someone know you're going to miss the event. It means someone-else might be able to take the place you left.

Then it's up to YOU to attend, arriving promptly and mingle. Get to know folks socially, put those faces to the names you chat with in the rooms and forums - and if you're lucky - see who shows an interest in you. If you're shy - then arrange to attend with someone else, have a coffee meet ahead of the meet and then you will both be braver for the main event.

Unless the Organisers has told you specifically it's a 'no rules orgy' [never heard of one yet, myself like ] Then it's NOT a case of asking every Tom, Dick, Madge or Jane "When are we shagging"

Get a grip! And Guys, I mean not of your cock - of your manners!!

- Show DECORUM for the venue [not always a private function room]. My Mother always reminded us to "Act your age, not your shoe-size". Getting blotto in the first two hours will not only show you up as a drinker, but also ruin any chances you have of making friends and at worst could end up with you being thrown out of the event, never to be asked back again.

- Show DISCRETION - and chat like adults - not like spotty teenagers at the local flea-pit dance or cinema. Just because we're all from site here, does not mean we are any of us sleazy or lewd in public. Remember, what's acceptable in the chatrooms and on cams is generally NOT acceptable out in the real world where the Meets take place.

- Show RESPECT - for the Organisers, helpers, DJs, venue staff and most of all - your fellow Meeters. They've put a great deal of faith in inviting Newbies to the Meets, so make sure you can leave knowing you've done nothing to prevent you becoming a regular, next time. They've also all put themselves out, in time, money and effort, to make a great night for YOU AND EVERYONE ELSE.

GET PRO-ACTIVE - Invites don't come looking for you when you lurk in shadows - SHOW AN INTEREST - then ACT!!!

Here endeth the Lesson for Newbies and how to get involved in Events.

"
great advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds very Illuminati

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By *-4pleasureCouple
over a year ago

Belfast


"Okayyyy this bears repeating once more:

Organisers make arrangements for venue, entertainment, accommodation and food where appropriate, travel [so folks can buddy-up ahead of a meet] and a gizillion other things, just to make it possible for everyone who wants to - to come along, have a brilliant night out, meet lots of friends - old and new - and make some connections for ... maybe more.

then - YOU need to do YOUR part too!!!

Keep a regular eye on the "Meets, Events" Board - and the Forums. This is where the Organisers will post up the notices about what's planned.

The Organisers will specify who the event is appropriate for, and how to get involved.

YOU must respond to the ORGANISER directly in most cases by MAIL on site. If you don't, YOU miss out.

YOU must provide the Organiser with details like phone numbers, e-mail addys and pics [where required] so you can be added to the Mailing List for that specific event. If you don't, YOU miss out.

YOU must act on any information the Organiser sends you in the run-up to the event. If you don't, YOU miss out.

YOU must RSVP to the Organiser by the DEADLINE dates set by the Organiser. If you don't, YOU miss out.

The Organiser will forward to you the necessary details of Venue/Time etc including any requirements such as dress code [when it's themed/fancy dress]; BYOB [Bring your own beer/bottle eg when it's a private party in someone's home].

If you can't attend - for whatever reason, YOU must let the Organisers know as soon as possible. We know there's times when it's going to happen that something prevents us enjoying our lives at the very last minute - but it's only common courtesy to let someone know you're going to miss the event. It means someone-else might be able to take the place you left.

Then it's up to YOU to attend, arriving promptly and mingle. Get to know folks socially, put those faces to the names you chat with in the rooms and forums - and if you're lucky - see who shows an interest in you. If you're shy - then arrange to attend with someone else, have a coffee meet ahead of the meet and then you will both be braver for the main event.

Unless the Organisers has told you specifically it's a 'no rules orgy' [never heard of one yet, myself like ] Then it's NOT a case of asking every Tom, Dick, Madge or Jane "When are we shagging"

Get a grip! And Guys, I mean not of your cock - of your manners!!

- Show DECORUM for the venue [not always a private function room]. My Mother always reminded us to "Act your age, not your shoe-size". Getting blotto in the first two hours will not only show you up as a drinker, but also ruin any chances you have of making friends and at worst could end up with you being thrown out of the event, never to be asked back again.

- Show DISCRETION - and chat like adults - not like spotty teenagers at the local flea-pit dance or cinema. Just because we're all from site here, does not mean we are any of us sleazy or lewd in public. Remember, what's acceptable in the chatrooms and on cams is generally NOT acceptable out in the real world where the Meets take place.

- Show RESPECT - for the Organisers, helpers, DJs, venue staff and most of all - your fellow Meeters. They've put a great deal of faith in inviting Newbies to the Meets, so make sure you can leave knowing you've done nothing to prevent you becoming a regular, next time. They've also all put themselves out, in time, money and effort, to make a great night for YOU AND EVERYONE ELSE.

GET PRO-ACTIVE - Invites don't come looking for you when you lurk in shadows - SHOW AN INTEREST - then ACT!!!

Here endeth the Lesson for Newbies and how to get involved in Events.

"

Super post and doesn't just apply to newbies !!!

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