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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So, you've been mailing someone, you've swapped pics, chatted on the phone. Yous get on well.

You arrange a meet.

When you meet, there is no physical attraction or sexual chemistry at all. And despite how feel you get along, your heart sinks.

What do you do?

Do you leave or take one for the team?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tough one.....id make my excuse and leave,id later contact them and explain it didnt feel right.sorry i lied i just didnt wana make things awkward ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd prefare to be straight up and say well wev met, theres no chemistry at least we can be friends, no harm done

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So, you've been mailing someone, you've swapped pics, chatted on the phone. Yous get on well.

You arrange a meet.

When you meet, there is no physical attraction or sexual chemistry at all. And despite how feel you get along, your heart sinks.

What do you do?

Do you leave or take one for the team?"

You shouldn't feel pressurised into anything on here, a coffee meet always the best that way to see if it can go any further and if this is made clear from its organised there should be no problems. Fun doesn't have to be rushed. Al good thing comes to those who wait. awkward situations eliminated

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By *at-cWoman
over a year ago

Ballyshannon

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By *at-cWoman
over a year ago

Ballyshannon

Happened me once, it was a pre-agreed actual play meet, not an introductory one. He was known and liked by friends of mine and I was so certain we'd hit it off - our online personas certainly did.

Travelled almost 2 hours for an overnight stay at a hotel....... lovely guy, but ZERO chemistry. So hit the town and got him hammered on shots. He was incapable of anything that night and too sick the next morning.

Obviously not an approach I'd advocate to any other member here, yes I am aware of the dangers, answer to the question is no I haven't had to take one for my one-woman team yet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So, you've been mailing someone, you've swapped pics, chatted on the phone. Yous get on well.

You arrange a meet.

When you meet, there is no physical attraction or sexual chemistry at all. And despite how feel you get along, your heart sinks.

What do you do?

Do you leave or take one for the team?"

If there's no chemistry I'm honest and Polite in saying so, I can't sleep with anyone I don't feel a attracting to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never take one for the team!

Honesty is always the best policy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's why we always meet socially first. If we get on there will be a goodbye kiss. You can tell if there is chemistry after that.

The only exception is parties. We will often play with new partners at parties, but chemistry is less important there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never take one for the team!

Honesty is always the best policy!"

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By *razy-CplCouple
over a year ago

and surrounding areas


"So, you've been mailing someone, you've swapped pics, chatted on the phone. Yous get on well.

You arrange a meet.

When you meet, there is no physical attraction or sexual chemistry at all. And despite how feel you get along, your heart sinks.

What do you do?

Do you leave or take one for the team?"

Never take one for the team, honesty is the best policy. But than can be easier for a cpl as there is two people there where if ur a single ur on ur own and can be intimateding

Mr crazy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not a hope would I take one for the team.there's gotta be an attraction there

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By *oughandCurvyCouple
over a year ago

galway

When I was younger I would have because I had no idea how to say no and rarely had the sense to have a coffee meet first, but it's a differnt story now. We almost always try to have a social meet first and see from there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope,been there done that ain't gonna happen EVER again...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nope,been there done that ain't gonna happen EVER again... "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If there's no sexual chemistry then odds are I wouldn't stay up for long and that'd be more embarrassing than turning her down :L

besides if your getting along before that then it's not too bad, it's okay to make friends you don't play with too

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By *ean0001Man
over a year ago

Dublin West

I would never do anything with someone i didnt have a spark with.

But i always have a vanilla meet first over a coffee. I have turned down play dates with people who didnt want the vanilla meet first.

Quality over quantity every time for me, but different strokes for different folks i suppose.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's no team in I.(unless I get lucky) so absolutely not. Ta-ra.

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

What is it with women and their feckin' standards? Bah, humbug!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What do you do if play planned and something happens and you get a change of heart??? Dunno if id be able to say .... eh... i had agreed to play with you and now i dont want to!!!

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town

No way would I take one for the team. Not happening.

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By *on11Man
over a year ago

cork

Coffee meet first to check chemistry, have had fun at coffee meets!

Parties have a different dynamic but have said no when it was not right.

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

ballybunion

I have a few that I have met and would meet again at the drop of a hat there was nothing for one or the other so no playing but still friends. i know that sometimes our online personas hit it off and u expect a wild fire when u meet but it just doesn't happen for one reason or another its always best to say it out straight.

It may be harsh but the truth always wins out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's no team in I.(unless I get lucky) so absolutely not. Ta-ra."

There's no I in team must theres an M and an E

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By *imwildWoman
over a year ago

around

A few drinks and I'm easy...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So, you've been mailing someone, you've swapped pics, chatted on the phone. Yous get on well.

You arrange a meet.

When you meet, there is no physical attraction or sexual chemistry at all. And despite how feel you get along, your heart sinks.

What do you do?

Do you leave or take one for the team?"
I have found a Formula on here that works for me.

1. chat on Fab

2. Coffee Meet & Chat to see if there is Chemistry

3. Fun Play Meet if we do!

There are 3 Special Ingredients that have to be present before i will Play

1. physical attraction

2. mental attraction

3. sexual attraction

Works for me everytime!!

I am Happy to be Friends even if i don't want to play!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When i first started on fab I had 2 meets that there was no attraction too whatsoever but being so young at the time and extremely naive played with said people because I felt obligated to after them coming so far, which I now realise is totally wrong!!

Now I would never do it, attraction is a must, even if they have the best personality id never put myself through that awkward situation.

A polite sorry not feeling it tonight would be my way of getting out of it!

Katie xx

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

ballybunion


"A few drinks and I'm easy... "

My kinda of woman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So, you've been mailing someone, you've swapped pics, chatted on the phone. Yous get on well.

You arrange a meet.

When you meet, there is no physical attraction or sexual chemistry at all. And despite how feel you get along, your heart sinks.

What do you do?

Do you leave or take one for the team?I have found a Formula on here that works for me.

1. chat on Fab

2. Coffee Meet & Chat to see if there is Chemistry

3. Fun Play Meet if we do!

There are 3 Special Ingredients that have to be present before i will Play

1. physical attraction

2. mental attraction

3. sexual attraction

Works for me everytime!!

I am Happy to be Friends even if i don't want to play!"

Yep absolutely this

We are all adults and most people prefer to hear the truth so nope absolutely never would i take one for the team!

There's way to much fun to be had with people you have chemistry with to be wasting time with those you don't

Happy hump day Fabbers

xx xx xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great question coz I'm sure we have all been there at some point! And sometimes you can never tell, ive chatted here and met for coffee, got on great, and then when it came to the sex had absolutely zero chemistry and it ended up crap, part of fabbing I suppose!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Id hate to think that anyone I've had the pleasure of meeting felt pressured to seal the deal, there should be no remorse or bad feelings otherwise it's not fun.

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By *avie tCouple
over a year ago

otherside of nowhere


"That's why we always meet socially first. If we get on there will be a goodbye kiss. You can tell if there is chemistry after that.

The only exception is parties. We will often play with new partners at parties, but chemistry is less important there."

Couldn't have said it better myself

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By *vsnikkiTV/TS
over a year ago

Limavady

It's never happened (I'll fuck practically anyone!) but if I didn't feel right, I would leave. I would be honest with the person though, even if it is less palatable than a white lie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I couldn't face saying it directly. I did once say that he'd gotten me too d*unk (2 drinks!) and I couldn't hold myself together. He took it like a champ, as one should.

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