FabSwingers.com forum: Background Check

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

When chatting to a potential meet do any of you ever check up on them, for want of a better phrase, by talking to people they have met before?

Or do you just go with your gut and decide yourself?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If there is any doubt at all in my mind I do ask but if I'm comfortable with the guy I won't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey i tend to go with my gut feeling ... You know you can trust it ... Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven't done that and I wouldnt.

It's a bit odd, the verifications should b taken at face value and go with gut.

Surely the person being asked would mention it to the potential meet too??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I totaly go with my gut instinct. Its the only way for me. I do a bit of checking on the veries as well and if I'm not sure then I just leave it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When chatting to a potential meet do any of you ever check up on them, for want of a better phrase, by talking to people they have met before?

Or do you just go with your gut and decide yourself?"

Go with you're gut...here say on here is just that...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's only women answering so far

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We always read verifications.. x

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

Only ask if I think there is something fishy usually go with my gut but did get caught out once as in they weren't what I expected

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We always read verifications.. x"

But would you contact those people to "verify@ the verification?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I go with my gut, I read verifications of course but no would never contact previous meets. Unless I thought he was really weird, but then I wouldn't be meeting him

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By *atiePWoman
over a year ago

Secret Location

I've had people ask my veris about me before they'd even really spoken with me, found that weird.

I would trust my guy normally but if i knew a veri on the persons profile and I was chatting to them I'd ask them what the person is like. I also often ask other single girls I'm friends with for recommendations

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I always go with my gut....besides the freaks always show their true colours eventually!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always go with my gut....besides the freaks always show their true colours eventually!"

Too right!!

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By *irst officerMan
over a year ago

Naas

I normally just take a chance and hopefully it works out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I know the person who verified them, I might ask them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

men will ride anything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"men will ride anything "
well that's settled then lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Give someone a chance there are some genuine nice guys on this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"men will ride anything "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer to make my own judgement and I trust my instincts! If you're uncertain about somebody you don't meet that person/s! Simples!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"men will ride anything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i had gor chatting to a guy one time everything was going along great and he asked would i meet for a coffee i agreed

he was verified by two ladies so i guessed he would be okay

he cancelled a hour before the meet

i thought since we where getting on so well id give him a chance but i did mail one of the ladies who gave him the verification to make sure he was genuine

but she could not remember meeting him

so i agreeded to meet him again on another day

and again a hour before meet i got my granny is sick

he did not get a third shot

so just goes to show you just never can tell

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i had gor chatting to a guy one time everything was going along great and he asked would i meet for a coffee i agreed

he was verified by two ladies so i guessed he would be okay

he cancelled a hour before the meet

i thought since we where getting on so well id give him a chance but i did mail one of the ladies who gave him the verification to make sure he was genuine

but she could not remember meeting him

so i agreeded to meet him again on another day

and again a hour before meet i got my granny is sick

he did not get a third shot

so just goes to show you just never can tell "

Yeah I had this recently but it was a sick father. Like if you don't want to meet just say!!!

It's just plain rude

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By *ohn MingoMan
over a year ago

Dublin

"If I know the person who verified them, I might ask them"

Same here. I tend to go with my gut, I'll check veris and if someone who's opinion I value has left them one, i may mail them to find out more.

But one of the reasons i'll go to as many socials as i can is i can get a better vibe about a person, in person. then i can possibly plan something with them at a later date.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, going to socials is great!! You get to meet loads of people and you get a feel for what they're like with other people!! Unfortunately one or two slip through your fingers but you hope that you'll meet them at the next party wherever that will be!!

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

"men will ride anything "

That's a fairly big generalisation I am male and for sure would not ride anything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldnt normally do a background check but like everyone else i have been messed around,like for example u can check the person out but how do u know that it is really telling truth on what the answer is if him or her have an agenda or a falling out,i just do my own thing and go with my own intinct.

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By *vsnikkiTV/TS
over a year ago

Limavady

"men will ride anything

That's a fairly big generalisation I am male and for sure would not ride anything "

I'd just like to say that I will!

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"men will ride anything "

Yes but will they show up to do so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I know the person who verified them, I might ask them

Same here. I tend to go with my gut, I'll check veris and if someone who's opinion I value has left them one, i may mail them to find out more.

But one of the reasons i'll go to as many socials as i can is i can get a better vibe about a person, in person. then i can possibly plan something with them at a later date."

well said John!! Good, sound advice

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By *obbie65Man
over a year ago

kildare

Did a bit of background checking on xenawarriorqueen - there is not much data on her but if she is anything like her daughter the princess , good stuff ........ ( don't ya just love google )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ill admit if i know anyone pretty well thatthey have met that iI'll ask for general opinion of how they were. I dont want details of how they were in bed, just to know they were genuine and actually show.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its good to have a phone conversation with them to and i like to see their eyes in a face photo.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its tough in here - especially if your a man as people are picky and its hard to get a meet going. Probably because every one is mailing them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Use my instinct.

If I smell a fish I ask her to wash first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"men will ride anything

Yes but will they show up to do so

and get it up when they get there.

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By *avie tCouple
over a year ago

otherside of nowhere

"men will ride anything

That's a fairly big generalisation I am male and for sure would not ride anything "

Not sure what that says about the ladies on here....agree with c.j.big generalisation .....can only speak for Mr _avie t and he wouldn't for sure

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By *aid backMan
over a year ago

by a lake with my rod out

always go with your gut instinct some times you will get it wrong but theres a better chance you will be safe.

I know a few women who network and share warnings/ horror stories and it work great because if we one met a guy and he was a nightmare for what ever reason then they would say oh yeah he did this or that and it gives the others a heads up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ill admit if i know anyone pretty well thatthey have met that iI'll ask for general opinion of how they were. I dont want details of how they were in bed, just to know they were genuine and actually show. "

Agree with this

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By *pachebluiMan
over a year ago

letterkenny

go with gut instinct but u can soon sort out the timewasters.

theres one in particular in donegal area who seems to have about 20 fake profiles but uses the same language in all.

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