FabSwingers.com forum: Getting the wife into swinging?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Id love to get my misses into swinging she is very attractive and very sexual when she gets going that is but I don't know how to bring up the topic of swinging with her

Anyone any advice?

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By *squaredCouple
over a year ago

Dublin/westmeath/kildare

I (Ms R) just said it out to him, no beating around bush.

Made it clear that I was happy but that I had few things I wanted to explore that he couldn't help with no matter how much he tried and that it wasn't one way trail that I was perfectly ok with him doing stuff too if he wanted to.

We agreed on some rules and things have gone from there - most importantly we keep talking.

A major fear is that it's a way to make cheating ok but if you explain it right she should understand, helps to be honest too e.g. is it just for her.

You can start off soft and build it up good advice for people who need to ease into it or warm up before getting going.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I (Ms R) just said it out to him, no beating around bush.

We agreed on some rules and things have gone from there - most importantly we keep talking.

A major fear is that it's a way to make cheating ok but if you explain it right she should understand, helps to be honest too e.g. is it just for her.

You can start off soft and build it up good advice for people who need to ease into it or warm up before getting going."

Thanks for the advice but my main fear is that she will just say no then get all upset that I even mentioned it

Maybe a few drinks 1st would help.

She knows I like watching her with a dildo so maybe I could say we should take that further

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By *squaredCouple
over a year ago

Dublin/westmeath/kildare

Talk about fantasies, its opening if she has it with another guy of mmf or ffm

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By *squaredCouple
over a year ago

Dublin/westmeath/kildare

To many drinks and she will say it was only drink talking and end up upset.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"To many drinks and she will say it was only drink talking and end up upset."

Don't think she would go with FFm but possibly mmf to start yeah I was think just a couple of drinks maybe loosen her up to the idea. I'm afraid she would get upset and think that she isn't enough for me which couldn't be further from the truth

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By *squaredCouple
over a year ago

Dublin/westmeath/kildare

"Don't think she would go with FFm but possibly mmf to start yeah I was think just a couple of drinks maybe loosen her up to the idea. I'm afraid she would get upset and think that she isn't enough for me which couldn't be further from the truth "

It is fine line but that where me explaining I was happy first came in & thats where fantasy comes in.

If mmf you can always offer as a birthday/xmas/valentine gift makes it seem more once off so less presure and chance she thinks she isnt enough

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yeah I think I might bring it up for Xmas. Do you think I should bring it up in bed or just sitting on the sofa over a glass of wine?

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By *squaredCouple
over a year ago

Dublin/westmeath/kildare

"Yeah I think I might bring it up for Xmas. Do you think I should bring it up in bed or just sitting on the sofa over a glass of wine? "

Easier on couch especially if it comes up in film or something like that as you didnt really bring it up then.

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By *squaredCouple
over a year ago

Dublin/westmeath/kildare

This is just my advice from having gone through it once.

There is no golden fast rule for it as every couple is different.

But from my exp thats what Id suggest.

Do it gentle so that you can look out for any warning signs and stop before it goes to far she may bring it up again at a later stage

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It seems like a two people conversation here... But I will share my opinion.

No no no, no drinks allow. If you are gonna bring her into swinging don't do it for wrong reasons, so to lower her ability of decisions making by drink is definitely a no at least if you want to continue having a relationship.

No one here knows her as you do. So if you know her what her reaction is gonna be then... You gotta to think in her shoes and how open your relationship truly is! Playing with a dildo is one thing involving someone else completely different league!

My advice talk to her be honest tell her what is it you would like to try together and assure her that you love her and that she is the most important person for you! If she says no well you have to respect that! If you can't then maybe she is not the right person for you

good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To many drinks and she will say it was only drink talking and end up upset.

Don't show her your profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As above, don't involve drink. This is an important decision and is not one to be clouded by booze.

Try introducing swinging scenarios into sex or foreplay. Play with her while whispering about her meeting a guy in a bar and fucking him... or about having another cock to put in her mouth or ass during sex.. or anything you can think of that you believe SHE will like. Lastly, be sure you want this yourself, the reality can be different to the fantasy, and it can change your relationship forever.

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By *aterfordDomMan
over a year ago

waterford

Don't bring it up during Xmas!

What if its not for her.. what if you upset her and have a big blazing row... goodbye to this Xmas and every Xmas after

At least let her have a nice Xmas and enjoy the holidays...

Give it a month after..then bring it up.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yeah I think I might bring it up for Xmas. Do you think I should bring it up in bed or just sitting on the sofa over a glass of wine?

Easier on couch especially if it comes up in film or something like that as you didnt really bring it up then."

Maybe watch eyes wide shut 1st

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"To many drinks and she will say it was only drink talking and end up upset.

Don't show her your profile."

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By *aterfordDomMan
over a year ago

waterford

"To many drinks and she will say it was only drink talking and end up upset.

Don't show her your profile.

I presume that's the wife in the pics?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"To many drinks and she will say it was only drink talking and end up upset.

Don't show her your profile.

I presume that's the wife in the pics?

You would presume wrong my friend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You could talk to her about going to a swingers club just to watch. Gauge her reaction from this and she may go along or she may not. It could be an ice breaker without involving others as yet. She may want to take things further.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Id love to get my misses into swinging she is very attractive and very sexual when she gets going that is but I don't know how to bring up the topic of swinging with her

Anyone any advice? "

'Being up the topic of swinging ' ??

Your progile says she knows

Confused

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By *andaCouple
over a year ago

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"Id love to get my misses into swinging she is very attractive and very sexual when she gets going that is but I don't know how to bring up the topic of swinging with her

Anyone any advice?

'Being up the topic of swinging ' ??

Your progile says she knows

Confused"

Yes we spotted that too!

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By *irty MurtyMan
over a year ago

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Just write link to your profile and pics on her Christmas card that should do the trick

(Sorry giddy mood today )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is a waste of space. She knows....she obviously doesn't...not her in the pics....ahh feck it....havin my brekkie

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By *razy-CplCouple
over a year ago

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"Just write link to your profile and pics on her Christmas card that should do the trick

(Sorry giddy mood today )

was thinking the same , she will have enough questions to ask after looking at it, as regards op question , dont say it around xmas or with drink involved, but as other people have said when having some fun as her has she any fantasies and things she would like to try our, u will be able to gauge from her responce if she is interested or not

mr crazy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Id love to get my misses into swinging she is very attractive and very sexual when she gets going that is but I don't know how to bring up the topic of swinging with her

Anyone any advice?

'Being up the topic of swinging ' ??

Your progile says she knows

Confused"

Surely it won't be a difficult topic 'if' she knows you're already swinging and has accepted it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What really got my back up reading that was "I don't want her to think she's not enough because she is..." Erm... Well... You're in a swinging site behind her back (because if she knows you wouldn't have said that-and if she does know then the discussion has taken place and the thread is irrelevant) either way, before you go posting on the forum at least try make sure your profile matches the details given

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What really got my back up reading that was "I don't want her to think she's not enough because she is..." Erm... Well... You're in a swinging site behind her back (because if she knows you wouldn't have said that-and if she does know then the discussion has taken place and the thread is irrelevant) either way, before you go posting on the forum at least try make sure your profile matches the details given "

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