FabSwingers.com forum: Swinging no way out

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

While I was lurking on the forum I saw a post about personal problems, although it was just another bitching, uninteresting post, it made me think of a problem depending which way you look at it on course!

Once you get into swinging life style would be nearly impossible to get out, find a "vanilla " partner and settle for That only,

What's your opinion, thought or comments?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I won't have any problem leaving this site behind and having a 'vanilla' partner, as dull as that may sound

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Personally I won't have any problem leaving this site behind and having a 'vanilla' partner, as dull as that may sound

Me neither, but there would be no doubt that will eventually play on my mind

like an alcoholic that goes dry, it only takes one drink to slip up!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

While I'm really enjoying my time here, I highly doubt I'll take anything long term from fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally I won't have any problem leaving this site behind and having a 'vanilla' partner, as dull as that may sound

Me neither, but there would be no doubt that will eventually play on my mind

like an alcoholic that goes dry, it only takes one drink to slip up!

No I think if you're with the right person then there will be no urge to "slip up". I imagine if you're with the right person, and no involved in swinging, then the need or urge to swing won't be there.

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By *avie tCouple
over a year ago

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"Personally I won't have any problem leaving this site behind and having a 'vanilla' partner, as dull as that may sound

Doesn't sound dull at all....sounds real,sex is only a part of life....if I was single don't know think a fab relationship would be enough for me ....Mrs Davie t

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally I won't have any problem leaving this site behind and having a 'vanilla' partner, as dull as that may sound

Me neither, but there would be no doubt that will eventually play on my mind

like an alcoholic that goes dry, it only takes one drink to slip up!

No I won't be on this long term, it can be fun and a bit of distraction but not in my plan for future. As someone said if you're with the right person you won't get that urge

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally I won't have any problem leaving this site behind and having a 'vanilla' partner, as dull as that may sound

Same

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I see your points as I'm a bit of a hopeless romantic myself, and really not saying that fab will be for rest of our lifes but you can't erase the things tried and experiences so if the opportunity to try something you liked comes up changes are you will do it ei 3some or 4some,etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally I won't have any problem leaving this site behind and having a 'vanilla' partner, as dull as that may sound

Me neither, but there would be no doubt that will eventually play on my mind

like an alcoholic that goes dry, it only takes one drink to slip up!

No I won't be on this long term, it can be fun and a bit of distraction but not in my plan for future. As someone said if you're with the right person you won't get that urge

Ah, singles. You gotta love 'em. Has the wind changed yet?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Personally I won't have any problem leaving this site behind and having a 'vanilla' partner, as dull as that may sound

Me neither, but there would be no doubt that will eventually play on my mind

like an alcoholic that goes dry, it only takes one drink to slip up!

No I won't be on this long term, it can be fun and a bit of distraction but not in my plan for future. As someone said if you're with the right person you won't get that urge

Ah, singles. You gotta love 'em. Has the wind changed yet?"

No still the same

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By *ohnbi01Man
over a year ago

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I would find it very hard to settle down with a lady and stay away from the cock to be honest.

Some of the best fun i have had has been with tv/ts.

So don't see myself as the settling type. Would not be faithful to a female partner, and not the type to cheat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally I won't have any problem leaving this site behind and having a 'vanilla' partner, as dull as that may sound

Me neither, but there would be no doubt that will eventually play on my mind

like an alcoholic that goes dry, it only takes one drink to slip up!

No I won't be on this long term, it can be fun and a bit of distraction but not in my plan for future. As someone said if you're with the right person you won't get that urge

Ah, singles. You gotta love 'em. Has the wind changed yet?"

Problem? Shocker

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally I won't have any problem leaving this site behind and having a 'vanilla' partner, as dull as that may sound

Me neither, but there would be no doubt that will eventually play on my mind

like an alcoholic that goes dry, it only takes one drink to slip up!

No I won't be on this long term, it can be fun and a bit of distraction but not in my plan for future. As someone said if you're with the right person you won't get that urge

Ah, singles. You gotta love 'em. Has the wind changed yet?

Problem? Shocker "

No, no shock, and certainly no problem. We're here to please you after all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't see myself in a swinging relationship long term, I'm not cut out for it. I'll happily settle for monogamous (rather then the term vanilla)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

what about us perverts who are in a relationship but both of us still like to play on here? lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well it certainly seen that maybe some ladies here are here for the wrong reasons or maybe don't want to be put into a labelled group as such, they are unique as is everyone else! Surprisingly only one guy has posted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"what about us perverts who are in a relationship but both of us still like to play on here? lol"

Well Rinks, when all the singles have gone home or found a relationship we can knock off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I see your points as I'm a bit of a hopeless romantic myself, and really not saying that fab will be for rest of our lifes but you can't erase the things tried and experiences so if the opportunity to try something you liked comes up changes are you will do it ei 3some or 4some,etc

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"what about us perverts who are in a relationship but both of us still like to play on here? lol"
well fair play! And also kinda highlights the point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"what about us perverts who are in a relationship but both of us still like to play on here? lol well fair play! And also kinda highlights the point

well we are happy together and have been for over 8 years so I guess we must be doing something right! lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Threesomes or foursomes or moresomes never bothered me before i joined i doubt they will bother me after i leave. Because yes i will leave when i am ready and tbh these days i can either take it or leave it where fab is concerned. So yup i for one wont have a lookproblem leaving here "
Im not concerned about fabs at all as a matter of fact I couldn't care less my point was about swinging not fabs. Swinging is not defined by fabs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

More power to the couples who are strong enough and secure enough to swing, I actually admire their level of openness with each other, just for me personally I can't see swinging as part of my life forever, although never say never

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swinging isn't an integral part of our lives, in fact the last meet we had was October lol, it's something to dip in and out of for us, after a meet we like to have a good bit of down time for ourselves, it's just a bit of fantasy to be indulged in every now and again, once we get bored of it, that will be it! Plenty of new hobbies to take up lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Threesomes or foursomes or moresomes never bothered me before i joined i doubt they will bother me after i leave. Because yes i will leave when i am ready and tbh these days i can either take it or leave it where fab is concerned. So yup i for one wont have a lookproblem leaving here Im not concerned about fabs at all as a matter of fact I couldn't care less my point was about swinging not fabs. Swinging is not defined by fabs. "

'not saying that fab will be for rest of our lifes but you can't erase the things tried and experiences so if the opportunity to try something you liked comes up changes are you will do it ei 3some or 4some,'

I mentioned fab as u had in this very exerpt. U also mentioned 3some and 4some which i again referenced. I am well aware that swinging is not defined by fab but was merely using ur own references in my response to ur subject.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Swinging isn't an integral part of our lives, in fact the last meet we had was October lol, it's something to dip in and out of for us, after a meet we like to have a good bit of down time for ourselves, it's just a bit of fantasy to be indulged in every now and again, once we get bored of it, that will be it! Plenty of new hobbies to take up lol"

Fancy a spot of fishing rinky? Or ms innocent could do ur nails for u, wont spill the nail varnish this time though lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally I won't have any problem leaving this site behind and having a 'vanilla' partner, as dull as that may sound

Me neither, but there would be no doubt that will eventually play on my mind

like an alcoholic that goes dry, it only takes one drink to slip up!

No I won't be on this long term, it can be fun and a bit of distraction but not in my plan for future. As someone said if you're with the right person you won't get that urge

Ah, singles. You gotta love 'em. Has the wind changed yet?

Problem? Shocker

No, no shock, and certainly no problem. We're here to please you after all."

You're here to please me? Nope don't think so!! Thank you for the offer though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's probably impossible for me to answer until im in a serious relationship, whether it be with a person who's involved in swinging or not, until then ive no idea.

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By *llie and ApplesCouple
over a year ago

where ever

"More power to the couples who are strong enough and secure enough to swing, I actually admire their level of openness with each other, just for me personally I can't see swinging as part of my life forever, although never say never "

You just gotta find the right person to swing with ...i met Ollie over seven months ago and loving the giggles that this swinging malarkey brings ...but its not all of what a relationship is about ..thankfully....

Apples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Apples "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I thought I was out..... But they drag me back in again!!"

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By *al2001Man
over a year ago

kildare

Iv been this way since 17 so i doubt ill change. Even when iv been in vanilla relationship we have ended up swinging or me being cucked. It follows me wherever i go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well. I like and have been enjoying sex in interesting configurations and sceneries so far, so most likely if I meet that special lady she would like sex in a similar way to me. I would be delighted if she liked the occasional girl or additional guy to have fun with. I am looking forward to experiencing the lifestyle being part of a couple one day.

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By *ilderMan
over a year ago

dublin

I don't have a crystal ball and don't know who I'm going to meet in the future so I don't know what my swinging future will be. It would be a two way decision and its have to be right with the right person.

My awe of couples in the lifestyle and their openness in their relationship is something that really keeps me here. As someone who's had issues with monogamy in past relationships (thankfully I never strayed). I love to see how some couples cope with this issue and also have fun together.

Even in the four years I'm in the scene I still get moments that I see the connection between two people and am honoured to be a part of it. That may totally sound like brown nosing but its actually the truth.

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By *illbillMan
over a year ago

dublin

You can check out anytime you like but you can never leave

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally I won't have any problem leaving this site behind and having a 'vanilla' partner, as dull as that may sound

Me neither, but there would be no doubt that will eventually play on my mind

like an alcoholic that goes dry, it only takes one drink to slip up!

No I won't be on this long term, it can be fun and a bit of distraction but not in my plan for future. As someone said if you're with the right person you won't get that urge

Ah, singles. You gotta love 'em. Has the wind changed yet?"

Pmsl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally I won't have any problem leaving this site behind and having a 'vanilla' partner, as dull as that may sound

Me neither, but there would be no doubt that will eventually play on my mind

like an alcoholic that goes dry, it only takes one drink to slip up!

No I won't be on this long term, it can be fun and a bit of distraction but not in my plan for future. As someone said if you're with the right person you won't get that urge

Ah, singles. You gotta love 'em. Has the wind changed yet?

Problem? Shocker

No, no shock, and certainly no problem. We're here to please you after all."

Same old ,, only couples are real swingers !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally I won't have any problem leaving this site behind and having a 'vanilla' partner, as dull as that may sound

Me neither, but there would be no doubt that will eventually play on my mind

like an alcoholic that goes dry, it only takes one drink to slip up!

No I won't be on this long term, it can be fun and a bit of distraction but not in my plan for future. As someone said if you're with the right person you won't get that urge

Ah, singles. You gotta love 'em. Has the wind changed yet?

Problem? Shocker

No, no shock, and certainly no problem. We're here to please you after all.

Same old ,, only couples are real swingers ! "

Oh I see, now I get it

I was merely answering the OP's question, always one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally I won't have any problem leaving this site behind and having a 'vanilla' partner, as dull as that may sound

Me neither, but there would be no doubt that will eventually play on my mind

like an alcoholic that goes dry, it only takes one drink to slip up!

No I won't be on this long term, it can be fun and a bit of distraction but not in my plan for future. As someone said if you're with the right person you won't get that urge

Ah, singles. You gotta love 'em. Has the wind changed yet?

Problem? Shocker

No, no shock, and certainly no problem. We're here to please you after all.

Same old ,, only monkeys are real swingers ! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally I won't have any problem leaving this site behind and having a 'vanilla' partner, as dull as that may sound

Me neither, but there would be no doubt that will eventually play on my mind

like an alcoholic that goes dry, it only takes one drink to slip up!

No I won't be on this long term, it can be fun and a bit of distraction but not in my plan for future. As someone said if you're with the right person you won't get that urge

Ah, singles. You gotta love 'em. Has the wind changed yet?"

Think I love ya Candy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm with you on this lolli, although I would like to see what it's like swinging as part of a couple which will not happen lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm with you on this lolli, although I would like to see what it's like swinging as part of a couple which will not happen lol "

Maybe it will Tina! To be honest since ive met Hal Fab has been a much better experience, never thought Id find such a great guy so never say never.

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By *avie tCouple
over a year ago

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"Personally I won't have any problem leaving this site behind and having a 'vanilla' partner, as dull as that may sound

Me neither, but there would be no doubt that will eventually play on my mind

like an alcoholic that goes dry, it only takes one drink to slip up!

No I won't be on this long term, it can be fun and a bit of distraction but not in my plan for future. As someone said if you're with the right person you won't get that urge

Ah, singles. You gotta love 'em. Has the wind changed yet?

Problem? Shocker

No, no shock, and certainly no problem. We're here to please you after all.

Same old ,, only couples are real swingers ! "

Not sure how to define real swingers ....but it has to be a completely different experience if your part of a cpl with long term commitment as opposed to serial dating

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By *obbie65Man
over a year ago

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"Personally I won't have any problem leaving this site behind and having a 'vanilla' partner, as dull as that may sound

Me neither, but there would be no doubt that will eventually play on my mind

like an alcoholic that goes dry, it only takes one drink to slip up!

No I won't be on this long term, it can be fun and a bit of distraction but not in my plan for future. As someone said if you're with the right person you won't get that urge

Ah, singles. You gotta love 'em. Has the wind changed yet?

Problem? Shocker

No, no shock, and certainly no problem. We're here to please you after all.

Same old ,, only couples are real swingers ! "

Singles need lovin too .....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally I won't have any problem leaving this site behind and having a 'vanilla' partner, as dull as that may sound

Me neither, but there would be no doubt that will eventually play on my mind

like an alcoholic that goes dry, it only takes one drink to slip up!

No I won't be on this long term, it can be fun and a bit of distraction but not in my plan for future. As someone said if you're with the right person you won't get that urge

Ah, singles. You gotta love 'em. Has the wind changed yet?

Problem? Shocker

No, no shock, and certainly no problem. We're here to please you after all.

Same old ,, only couples are real swingers !

Not sure how to define real swingers ....but it has to be a completely different experience if your part of a cpl with long term commitment as opposed to serial dating"

I have been in a couple and as a single ..

My singke swinging is not serial dating !!

My Single swinging is predominantly group fun

I keep dating for vanilla people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm with you on this lolli, although I would like to see what it's like swinging as part of a couple which will not happen lol

Maybe it will Tina! To be honest since ive met Hal Fab has been a much better experience, never thought Id find such a great guy so never say never. "

Oh I'll never say never and I'm delighted for you and hal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Attached here and I think if both partners were happy enough to go with it then swing away.

I'm sure if push came to shove I could leave this fun behind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"While I was lurking on the forum I saw a post about personal problems, although it was just another bitching, uninteresting post, it made me think of a problem depending which way you look at it on course!

Once you get into swinging life style would be nearly impossible to get out, find a "vanilla " partner and settle for That only,

What's your opinion, thought or comments?

time for u to get an ice cream

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Once you get into swinging life style would be nearly impossible to get out, find a "vanilla " partner and settle for That only,

What's your opinion, thought or comments?

if i met a really nice lady in the morning i would have no problem in giving up the swinging for good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do both I go on the occasional vanilla date see if I'm missing anything lol

Just haven't found anyone that I wanna stay vanilla 4

Having way too much fun here x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If i met the right person i would leave but at this stage in my life I'm not interested in that. I have vanilla dates but enjoy the fun i have here a bit too much to leave for purely vanilla.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Once you get into swinging life style would be nearly impossible to get out, find a gorila "

partner and settle for That only,

What's your opinion, thought or comments?

if i met a really nice lady in the morning i would have no problem in giving up the swimming for

good."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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I think that those fantasies are nice to try out and I done some myself. But what I find is that I'd prefer one- on- one. Id leave fab in a heartbeat if I find someone that I fall in love with. And it wont be boring!! But I understand your dilemma as you think that ' vanilla' sex or being with one person is not going to be enough or satisfactory. I've thought a lot about it but wont know untill it happens. What you're suggesting is that this life style is addictive and that's something Im struggling with myself as well. The question is: is it addictive? Are we, am I adficted? And do we need stonger stimulances to keep up happy? More sex, more kinky sex, sex with more people etc etc.....please share your thoughts.....Im thinking too much here!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Once you get into swinging life style would be nearly impossible to get out, find a "vanilla " partner and settle for That only,

What's your opinion, thought or comments?

if i met a really nice lady in the morning i would have no problem in giving up the swinging for good."

Same as this ..... I do enjoy my fab time and i am not looking for a serious aor any other type of relationship at the minute because to be honest i dont even know what i want

lol ...... but IF it DID happen i would have absoutely no hesitation in waving bye bye to my Fab World

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its my new years resolution

bye bye fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Once you get into swinging life style would be nearly impossible to get out, find a "vanilla " partner and settle for That only,

What's your opinion, thought or comments?

if i met a really nice lady in the morning i would have no problem in giving up the swinging for good.

Same as this ..... I do enjoy my fab time and i am not looking for a serious aor any other type of relationship at the minute because to be honest i dont even know what i want

lol ...... but IF it DID happen i would have absoutely no hesitation in waving bye bye to my Fab World

Totally agree here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I meet the right person who likes me and accepts me for who I am and won't judge me if he found out I was on here! I want somebody who isn't a control freak or anyone who wants to change how I look or in general! I am who I am and that's it & I like who I am if I'm being honest! I want to fall in love & for him to fall in love with me for the same reasons!! If that person came into my life I would leave FAB in a heartbeat, I really mean that!

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By *irst officerMan
over a year ago

Naas

Am probably one of the people that fall into the same category, have been using dating sights for years, same here if you find a special person leaving a sight is only a small sacrifice.

Maybe next year will be different but chances are I'll still be on fab or another website..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think that people are people no matter what a website is called. Nothing stays the same for ever and neither do folks' beliefs, opinions and attitudes. If we all leave here knowing we have made friends and had fun then saying bye to Fablife is no biggie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think that people are people no matter what a website is called. Nothing stays the same for ever and neither do folks' beliefs, opinions and attitudes. If we all leave here knowing we have made friends and had fun then saying bye to Fablife is no biggie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shawingggggg

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well said Miss Hunnitoes!!!

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By *irst officerMan
over a year ago

Naas

Well said Miss Hunnitoes!!!

I second the motion Miss Hunnitoes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well said Miss Hunnitoes!!!

Labels are things that go on parcels and folders not people xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well said Miss Hunnitoes!!!

I second the motion Miss Hunnitoes.

I appreciate the second mr first

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By *avie tCouple
over a year ago

otherside of nowhere

"Personally I won't have any problem leaving this site behind and having a 'vanilla' partner, as dull as that may sound

Me neither, but there would be no doubt that will eventually play on my mind

like an alcoholic that goes dry, it only takes one drink to slip up!

No I won't be on this long term, it can be fun and a bit of distraction but not in my plan for future. As someone said if you're with the right person you won't get that urge

Ah, singles. You gotta love 'em. Has the wind changed yet?

Problem? Shocker

No, no shock, and certainly no problem. We're here to please you after all.

Same old ,, only couples are real swingers !

Not sure how to define real swingers ....but it has to be a completely different experience if your part of a cpl with long term commitment as opposed to serial dating

I have been in a couple and as a single ..

My singke swinging is not serial dating !!

My Single swinging is predominantly group fun

I keep dating for vanilla people"

You must be a "real swinger" so and I am sure all those vanilla ppl are very greatfull you keep dating....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you are content with the lifestyle and happy with it any changes you may Want to make within it however big or small as in cutting down your activitys Are bound to play apart long term in How You cope with it in your daily lifestyle, some people,s sex drive is Higher than others so I can Imagine those people pretty well tied in to sex whatever it may be someone who has a normal sex drive may well Not feel the same and can handle his Drive better, fantasy and gratification can play a big part in This lifestyle to cut out the majority Of that of which some people have could be to bigger thing for some to do, sex for some people perhaps does not lose its appeal so much as it does In others, but nothings set in stone At the end of the day we can look for Things that are not there and keep Looking to and end up unhappy at the End of the day it is what makes you happy sex is very much part of us and What makes us tick most of the time and can control your mind and your body but it is how we deal with sex that makes us happy how we feel within Ourselves comfortable secure makeing the right decisions we never know these things sometimes till the time Comes for some of us there are a number of things I would like to change in this lifestyle that would Suit some and more of us but that will Never be because they are Impossible Things to do so you either except this Lifestyle for what it is or don,t I think personally speaking I,m somewhere in between the two and have Been for a long time but I,m happy Enough at the moment and thats whats counts..

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over a year ago

I dont see myself being on here forever but i have tried to leave a few times.. ( im on my 4th profile) and vanilla relationships just dont seem to be working for me at the moment. Im very happy with fab life at the minute. I think i just need someone who loves sex as much as i do then id be fine with vanilla!! Its not about bringing other people into it its about being able to do things with one partner without the need for others to fulfil my sexual needs!!

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over a year ago

"I dont see myself being on here forever but i have tried to leave a few times.. ( im on my 4th profile) and vanilla relationships just dont seem to be working for me at the moment. Im very happy with fab life at the minute. I think i just need someone who loves sex as much as i do then id be fine with vanilla!! Its not about bringing other people into it its about being able to do things with one partner without the need for others to fulfil my sexual needs!!

Well if I found a guy who loves sex as much as me I'd be very happy indeed and be happy with vanilla

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well if I found a guy who loves sex as much as me I'd be very happy indeed and be happy with vanilla

Yes exactly. There is a reason vanilla guys are vanilla!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally I won't have any problem leaving this site behind and having a 'vanilla' partner, as dull as that may sound

Me neither, but there would be no doubt that will eventually play on my mind

like an alcoholic that goes dry, it only takes one drink to slip up!

No I won't be on this long term, it can be fun and a bit of distraction but not in my plan for future. As someone said if you're with the right person you won't get that urge

Ah, singles. You gotta love 'em. Has the wind changed yet?

Problem? Shocker

No, no shock, and certainly no problem. We're here to please you after all.

Same old ,, only couples are real swingers !

Not sure how to define real swingers ....but it has to be a completely different experience if your part of a cpl with long term commitment as opposed to serial dating

I have been in a couple and as a single ..

My singke swinging is not serial dating !!

My Single swinging is predominantly group fun

I keep dating for vanilla people

You must be a "real swinger" so and I am sure all those vanilla ppl are very greatfull you keep dating...."

Well whatever you think Is irrelevant to me and how I play ! Real or not real ...your opinion means ZERO !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well if I found a guy who loves sex as much as me I'd be very happy indeed and be happy with vanilla

Yes exactly. There is a reason vanilla guys are vanilla!!! "

Well I'm with you on that one

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By *irst officerMan
over a year ago

Naas

"If you are content with the lifestyle and happy with it any changes you may Want to make within it however big or small as in cutting down your activitys Are bound to play apart long term in How You cope with it in your daily lifestyle, some people,s sex drive is Higher than others so I can Imagine those people pretty well tied in to sex whatever it may be someone who has a normal sex drive may well Not feel the same and can handle his Drive better, fantasy and gratification can play a big part in This lifestyle to cut out the majority Of that of which some people have could be to bigger thing for some to do, sex for some people perhaps does not lose its appeal so much as it does In others, but nothings set in stone At the end of the day we can look for Things that are not there and keep Looking to and end up unhappy at the End of the day it is what makes you happy sex is very much part of us and What makes us tick most of the time and can control your mind and your body but it is how we deal with sex that makes us happy how we feel within Ourselves comfortable secure makeing the right decisions we never know these things sometimes till the time Comes for some of us there are a number of things I would like to change in this lifestyle that would Suit some and more of us but that will Never be because they are Impossible Things to do so you either except this Lifestyle for what it is or don,t I think personally speaking I,m somewhere in between the two and have Been for a long time but I,m happy Enough at the moment and thats whats counts.. "

Easy for you living with in Derby, walk into a pub and you'll get lucky..

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By *amien88Man
over a year ago

wicklow

Only getting into it now..offered to call over the phone to get to know some..that way at least I will know some when I attend my next party. Sound like a good idea?

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By *irst officerMan
over a year ago

Naas

Would a vanilla guy be , someone that lives for the moment rather than a future guy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Easy for you living with in Derby, walk into a pub and you'll get lucky..

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Like a few on this post I,d drop fab tommorow for a romantic Partner.. but In answer to your question to walk into a pub and get Lucky I can truthfully say this you,d Have to be very lucky.

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By *avie tCouple
over a year ago

otherside of nowhere

"Personally I won't have any problem leaving this site behind and having a 'vanilla' partner, as dull as that may sound

Me neither, but there would be no doubt that will eventually play on my mind

like an alcoholic that goes dry, it only takes one drink to slip up!

No I won't be on this long term, it can be fun and a bit of distraction but not in my plan for future. As someone said if you're with the right person you won't get that urge

Ah, singles. You gotta love 'em. Has the wind changed yet?

Problem? Shocker

No, no shock, and certainly no problem. We're here to please you after all.

Same old ,, only couples are real swingers !

Not sure how to define real swingers ....but it has to be a completely different experience if your part of a cpl with long term commitment as opposed to serial dating

I have been in a couple and as a single ..

My singke swinging is not serial dating !!

My Single swinging is predominantly group fun

I keep dating for vanilla people

You must be a "real swinger" so and I am sure all those vanilla ppl are very greatfull you keep dating....

Well whatever you think Is irrelevant to me and how I play ! Real or not real ...your opinion means ZERO ! "

You seem to be missing my point I don't think you can define a "real swinger" in 2014 its not the 70s...ppl use these sites as they see fit...and if you weren't letting your anger at committed cpls blind you its possible you might be able to have a adult debate...maybe you need to go on a date or a meet or something to work it out of your system...

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By *He EgO HaS laNDeD69Man
over a year ago

Carrickfergus

"Personally I won't have any problem leaving this site behind and having a 'vanilla' partner, as dull as that may sound

Me neither, but there would be no doubt that will eventually play on my mind

like an alcoholic that goes dry, it only takes one drink to slip up!

No I won't be on this long term, it can be fun and a bit of distraction but not in my plan for future. As someone said if you're with the right person you won't get that urge

Ah, singles. You gotta love 'em. Has the wind changed yet?

Problem? Shocker

No, no shock, and certainly no problem. We're here to please you after all.

Same old ,, only couples are real swingers !

Not sure how to define real swingers ....but it has to be a completely different experience if your part of a cpl with long term commitment as opposed to serial dating

I have been in a couple and as a single ..

My singke swinging is not serial dating !!

My Single swinging is predominantly group fun

I keep dating for vanilla people

You must be a "real swinger" so and I am sure all those vanilla ppl are very greatfull you keep dating....

Well whatever you think Is irrelevant to me and how I play ! Real or not real ...your opinion means ZERO !

Its them and us, them an us, this whole thread reaks of deviding the community, shows alot of the members who want realtionships but pose as wanting NSA to attract a partner...

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over a year ago

"Personally I won't have any problem leaving this site behind and having a 'vanilla' partner, as dull as that may sound

Me neither, but there would be no doubt that will eventually play on my mind

like an alcoholic that goes dry, it only takes one drink to slip up!

No I won't be on this long term, it can be fun and a bit of distraction but not in my plan for future. As someone said if you're with the right person you won't get that urge

Ah, singles. You gotta love 'em. Has the wind changed yet?

Problem? Shocker

No, no shock, and certainly no problem. We're here to please you after all.

Same old ,, only couples are real swingers !

Not sure how to define real swingers ....but it has to be a completely different experience if your part of a cpl with long term commitment as opposed to serial dating

I have been in a couple and as a single ..

My singke swinging is not serial dating !!

My Single swinging is predominantly group fun

I keep dating for vanilla people

You must be a "real swinger" so and I am sure all those vanilla ppl are very greatfull you keep dating....

Well whatever you think Is irrelevant to me and how I play ! Real or not real ...your opinion means ZERO !

'Anger at committed couples ' that's a fairly bold accusation !!

Why would you draw that erroneous conclusion ?!

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By *avie tCouple
over a year ago

otherside of nowhere

"Personally I won't have any problem leaving this site behind and having a 'vanilla' partner, as dull as that may sound

Me neither, but there would be no doubt that will eventually play on my mind

like an alcoholic that goes dry, it only takes one drink to slip up!

No I won't be on this long term, it can be fun and a bit of distraction but not in my plan for future. As someone said if you're with the right person you won't get that urge

Ah, singles. You gotta love 'em. Has the wind changed yet?

Problem? Shocker

No, no shock, and certainly no problem. We're here to please you after all.

Same old ,, only couples are real swingers !

Not sure how to define real swingers ....but it has to be a completely different experience if your part of a cpl with long term commitment as opposed to serial dating

I have been in a couple and as a single ..

My singke swinging is not serial dating !!

My Single swinging is predominantly group fun

I keep dating for vanilla people

You must be a "real swinger" so and I am sure all those vanilla ppl are very greatfull you keep dating....

Well whatever you think Is irrelevant to me and how I play ! Real or not real ...your opinion means ZERO !

'Anger at committed couples ' that's a fairly bold accusation !!

Why would you draw that erroneous conclusion ?! "

To quote you....the same old only couples are real swingers

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By *irst officerMan
over a year ago

Naas

"Personally I won't have any problem leaving this site behind and having a 'vanilla' partner, as dull as that may sound

Me neither, but there would be no doubt that will eventually play on my mind

like an alcoholic that goes dry, it only takes one drink to slip up!

No I won't be on this long term, it can be fun and a bit of distraction but not in my plan for future. As someone said if you're with the right person you won't get that urge

Ah, singles. You gotta love 'em. Has the wind changed yet?

Problem? Shocker

No, no shock, and certainly no problem. We're here to please you after all.

Same old ,, only couples are real swingers !

Not sure how to define real swingers ....but it has to be a completely different experience if your part of a cpl with long term commitment as opposed to serial dating

I have been in a couple and as a single ..

My singke swinging is not serial dating !!

My Single swinging is predominantly group fun

I keep dating for vanilla people

You must be a "real swinger" so and I am sure all those vanilla ppl are very greatfull you keep dating....

Well whatever you think Is irrelevant to me and how I play ! Real or not real ...your opinion means ZERO !

'Anger at committed couples ' that's a fairly bold accusation !!

Why would you draw that erroneous conclusion ?! "

Couples make the sight, every so often you might be asked to join them and that can lead to a very interesting night that most people may never get to experience.

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By *avie tCouple
over a year ago

otherside of nowhere

"Personally I won't have any problem leaving this site behind and having a 'vanilla' partner, as dull as that may sound

Me neither, but there would be no doubt that will eventually play on my mind

like an alcoholic that goes dry, it only takes one drink to slip up!

No I won't be on this long term, it can be fun and a bit of distraction but not in my plan for future. As someone said if you're with the right person you won't get that urge

Ah, singles. You gotta love 'em. Has the wind changed yet?

Problem? Shocker

No, no shock, and certainly no problem. We're here to please you after all.

Same old ,, only couples are real swingers !

Not sure how to define real swingers ....but it has to be a completely different experience if your part of a cpl with long term commitment as opposed to serial dating

I have been in a couple and as a single ..

My singke swinging is not serial dating !!

My Single swinging is predominantly group fun

I keep dating for vanilla people

You must be a "real swinger" so and I am sure all those vanilla ppl are very greatfull you keep dating....

Well whatever you think Is irrelevant to me and how I play ! Real or not real ...your opinion means ZERO !

'Anger at committed couples ' that's a fairly bold accusation !!

Why would you draw that erroneous conclusion ?!

Couples make the sight, every so often you might be asked to join them and that can lead to a very interesting night that most people may never get to experience."

I think everyone makes this lifestyle ..only for single guys we would never have had the chance to fulfill some of our fantasys...there's a place for everyone here

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By *irst officerMan
over a year ago

Naas

"Personally I won't have any problem leaving this site behind and having a 'vanilla' partner, as dull as that may sound

Me neither, but there would be no doubt that will eventually play on my mind

like an alcoholic that goes dry, it only takes one drink to slip up!

No I won't be on this long term, it can be fun and a bit of distraction but not in my plan for future. As someone said if you're with the right person you won't get that urge

Ah, singles. You gotta love 'em. Has the wind changed yet?

Problem? Shocker

No, no shock, and certainly no problem. We're here to please you after all.

Same old ,, only couples are real swingers !

Not sure how to define real swingers ....but it has to be a completely different experience if your part of a cpl with long term commitment as opposed to serial dating

I have been in a couple and as a single ..

My singke swinging is not serial dating !!

My Single swinging is predominantly group fun

I keep dating for vanilla people

You must be a "real swinger" so and I am sure all those vanilla ppl are very greatfull you keep dating....

Well whatever you think Is irrelevant to me and how I play ! Real or not real ...your opinion means ZERO !

'Anger at committed couples ' that's a fairly bold accusation !!

Why would you draw that erroneous conclusion ?!

Couples make the sight, every so often you might be asked to join them and that can lead to a very interesting night that most people may never get to experience.

I think everyone makes this lifestyle ..only for single guys we would never have had the chance to fulfill some of our fantasys...there's a place for everyone here"

That's for sure Mr Davie.

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By *ecretly seductiveWoman
over a year ago

Palookaville

I think like most things in life. .. Your tastes and needs are fluid and cyclical depending on what's going on in your real life. If you're happy you will be happy regardless of whether or not you're in a swinging relationship or a vanilla one... Do they always have to be separate? If someone met and had a relationship with a vanilla person maybe they could explore a more active sex life together. ... Maybe swing together. Who knows. It depends on your needs and wishes and the relationship really. . Is not just as cut and dried as swinging versus vanilla

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cyclical...nice word.

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By *irst officerMan
over a year ago

Naas

"I think like most things in life. .. Your tastes and needs are fluid and cyclical depending on what's going on in your real life. If you're happy you will be happy regardless of whether or not you're in a swinging relationship or a vanilla one... Do they always have to be separate? If someone met and had a relationship with a vanilla person maybe they could explore a more active sex life together. ... Maybe swing together. Who knows. It depends on your needs and wishes and the relationship really. . Is not just as cut and dried as swinging versus vanilla "

So what is vanilla? It's a new concept for me???

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By *avie tCouple
over a year ago

otherside of nowhere

So what is vanilla? It's a new concept for me???"

I think it should be called monogamous or non monogamous because plenty of ppl go out to clubs or on a date and have sex and the next weekend do the same thing but I doubt if the think their swingers

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So what is vanilla? It's a new concept for me???"

Non swinger, missionary position all the time!

exaggeration there just mean non swinger so it's assumed they might not be as open to try and experiment sexually

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By *irst officerMan
over a year ago

Naas

So what is vanilla? It's a new concept for me???

I think it should be called monogamous or non monogamous because plenty of ppl go out to clubs or on a date and have sex and the next weekend do the same thing but I doubt if the think their swingers"

So it's just about going out and meeting other people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So what is vanilla? It's a new concept for me???

Non swinger, missionary position all the time!

exaggeration there just mean non swinger so it's assumed they might not be as open to try and experiment sexually

Do you think? I always think it's like the ice-cream, nice(in fact some are fantastic) but it's one flavour. I like a coffee or caramel seam, a marshmallow or even a frozen chunk of dark chocolate (2 would be perfect).

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So what is vanilla? It's a new concept for me???

Non swinger, missionary position all the time!

exaggeration there just mean non swinger so it's assumed they might not be as open to try and experiment sexually

I was going to say that lol

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By *irst officerMan
over a year ago

Naas

So what is vanilla? It's a new concept for me???

Non swinger, missionary position all the time!

exaggeration there just mean non swinger so it's assumed they might not be as open to try and experiment sexually

Miss candy does it again...

In a strange way am starting to like you Miss candy.

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By *at-cWoman
over a year ago

Ballyshannon

Wife-swapping: No singles can't be wife-swappers. If you liked it then you should have put a ring on it!

Modern-day-swingers: Yes singles can be.

One to One meets: No that's not swinging, sorry if I dent anyone's identity but just because you own a season-ticket it doesn't make you Ronaldo.

Group-fun: Where three or more people are involved yes that is swinging.

Am I a swinger? I do one to ones and group so ..... I'm simply a good-sex-seeker as are most of the other people who use sites such a this.

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By *irst officerMan
over a year ago

Naas

"Wife-swapping: No singles can't be wife-swappers. If you liked it then you should have put a ring on it!

Modern-day-swingers: Yes singles can be.

One to One meets: No that's not swinging, sorry if I dent anyone's identity but just because you own a season-ticket it doesn't make you Ronaldo.

Group-fun: Where three or more people are involved yes that is swinging.

Am I a swinger? I do one to ones and group so ..... I'm simply a good-sex-seeker as are most of the other people who use sites such a this. "

I wouldn't say that I am a swinger but I have met some couples. Dose that make you a swinger or just someone that enjoys different sexual experience..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally I won't have any problem leaving this site behind and having a 'vanilla' partner, as dull as that may sound

Me neither, but there would be no doubt that will eventually play on my mind

like an alcoholic that goes dry, it only takes one drink to slip up!

No I won't be on this long term, it can be fun and a bit of distraction but not in my plan for future. As someone said if you're with the right person you won't get that urge

Ah, singles. You gotta love 'em. Has the wind changed yet?

Problem? Shocker

No, no shock, and certainly no problem. We're here to please you after all.

Same old ,, only couples are real swingers !

Not sure how to define real swingers ....but it has to be a completely different experience if your part of a cpl with long term commitment as opposed to serial dating

I have been in a couple and as a single ..

My singke swinging is not serial dating !!

My Single swinging is predominantly group fun

I keep dating for vanilla people

You must be a "real swinger" so and I am sure all those vanilla ppl are very greatfull you keep dating....

Well whatever you think Is irrelevant to me and how I play ! Real or not real ...your opinion means ZERO !

'Anger at committed couples ' that's a fairly bold accusation !!

Why would you draw that erroneous conclusion ?!

To quote you....the same old only couples are real swingers"

And that makes me angry at couples ? Loving your logic !

Branding all singles here as serial daters is helpful how ?

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By *arkandEm14Couple
over a year ago

dublin

I was in a vanilla relationship for 10 years with my Mark before we experienced the swinging lifestyle . Don't get me wrong it's fun and we are enjoying every aspect of it so far. We have always had an adventurous monogamous sexual relationship both of us have really high sex drives often have sex up to 3 times a day and some self masturbation in between. But honestly if we both decided to leave the scene which we often openly discuss I don't think we would miss it too much. We would take our memories and our friends (repeat meets where friendships were built and playtime stopped) and continue doing exactly what we do when we don't havea meet planned. Which is have crazy lustful sex with the love of our lives over and over and over (so thankful for marks stamina!!)

Btw personally I don't like the term swinger at all I prefer to be called a kinky bitch

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over a year ago

"Personally I won't have any problem leaving this site behind and having a 'vanilla' partner, as dull as that may sound

Me neither, but there would be no doubt that will eventually play on my mind

like an alcoholic that goes dry, it only takes one drink to slip up!

No I won't be on this long term, it can be fun and a bit of distraction but not in my plan for future. As someone said if you're with the right person you won't get that urge

Ah, singles. You gotta love 'em. Has the wind changed yet?

Problem? Shocker

No, no shock, and certainly no problem. We're here to please you after all.

Same old ,, only couples are real swingers !

Not sure how to define real swingers ....but it has to be a completely different experience if your part of a cpl with long term commitment as opposed to serial dating

I have been in a couple and as a single ..

My singke swinging is not serial dating !!

My Single swinging is predominantly group fun

I keep dating for vanilla people

You must be a "real swinger" so and I am sure all those vanilla ppl are very greatfull you keep dating....

Well whatever you think Is irrelevant to me and how I play ! Real or not real ...your opinion means ZERO !

Its them and us, them an us, this whole thread reaks of deviding the community, shows alot of the members who want realtionships but pose as wanting NSA to attract a partner..."

I don't think its a them and us mentality at all, I've never claimed to be a die hard swinger, if anyone ever asks me I say I'm a single girl on a swingers site.

i think after experiencing the swing lifestyle the last two years it has opened a whole new world of possibilities which would be hard to ignore if I chose a monogamous relationship

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By *-4pleasureCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

So what is vanilla? It's a new concept for me???

Non swinger, missionary position all the time!

exaggeration there just mean non swinger so it's assumed they might not be as open to try and experiment sexually

Big assumption there actually. People here give off about assumptions made by others regarding swinging yet quite happily assume non swinging is boring - or "vanilla" if you prefer. Vanilla has become a perjorative word for some here.

We ourselves have a very distinct "wish list" for swinging that on occasion can enhance the bond we have together. Vast majority of this involves playing with couples abroad but on occasion we may do so in Ireland. This is how we use the site. How others wish to use the site is entirely a matter for them - it does not matter to us at all as long as they do not harm us.

I for one do not see us on fab indefinitely - someone used the word cyclical earlier and that describes fab to a tee for many, including us.

Assumptions are bad mmkay?

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By *al2001Man
over a year ago

kildare

I have a cyclical made for 3,am i a swinger?

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over a year ago

"I was in a vanilla relationship for 10 years with my Mark before we experienced the swinging lifestyle . Don't get me wrong it's fun and we are enjoying every aspect of it so far. We have always had an adventurous monogamous sexual relationship both of us have really high sex drives often have sex up to 3 times a day and some self masturbation in between. But honestly if we both decided to leave the scene which we often openly discuss I don't think we would miss it too much. We would take our memories and our friends (repeat meets where friendships were built and playtime stopped) and continue doing exactly what we do when we don't havea meet planned. Which is have crazy lustful sex with the love of our lives over and over and over (so thankful for marks stamina!!)

Btw personally I don't like the term swinger at all I prefer to be called a kinky bitch

Prefer that kinky bitch term as well

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By *-4pleasureCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

"I have a cyclical made for 3,am i a swinger?

No you're tricyclesexual .....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have a cyclical made for 3,am i a swinger?

No you're tricyclesexual ....."

Hal's Tricyclesaurus Rex!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have a cyclical made for 3,am i a swinger?

Can I sit on your crossbar babe?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have a cyclical made for 3,am i a swinger?

Can I sit on your crossbar babe?

Now you're making me think of summer Red...

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By *avie tCouple
over a year ago

otherside of nowhere

"Personally I won't have any problem leaving this site behind and having a 'vanilla' partner, as dull as that may sound

Me neither, but there would be no doubt that will eventually play on my mind

like an alcoholic that goes dry, it only takes one drink to slip up!

No I won't be on this long term, it can be fun and a bit of distraction but not in my plan for future. As someone said if you're with the right person you won't get that urge

Ah, singles. You gotta love 'em. Has the wind changed yet?

Problem? Shocker

No, no shock, and certainly no problem. We're here to please you after all.

Same old ,, only couples are real swingers !

Not sure how to define real swingers ....but it has to be a completely different experience if your part of a cpl with long term commitment as opposed to serial dating

I have been in a couple and as a single ..

My singke swinging is not serial dating !!

My Single swinging is predominantly group fun

I keep dating for vanilla people

You must be a "real swinger" so and I am sure all those vanilla ppl are very greatfull you keep dating....

Well whatever you think Is irrelevant to me and how I play ! Real or not real ...your opinion means ZERO !

'Anger at committed couples ' that's a fairly bold accusation !!

Why would you draw that erroneous conclusion ?!

To quote you....the same old only couples are real swingers

And that makes me angry at couples ? Loving your logic !

Branding all singles here as serial daters is helpful how ? "

Never branded all singles as serial daters....don't think you will ever get my point so not gonna waste anymore time on this...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hallelujah!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The wonderful lessons I have learnt on fab..........that is all...

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By *avie tCouple
over a year ago

otherside of nowhere

"Hallelujah!!!

Consider that your Christmas pressie rose lol...just didn't have time to wrap it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hallelujah!!!

Consider that your Christmas pressie rose lol...just didn't have time to wrap it"

Thank you very much!!! I love that song, just felt like singing it loud on the forum!!! lol!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can't see myself in a swinging relationship long term, I'm not cut out for it. I'll happily settle for monogamous (rather then the term vanilla) "

So, why are you here (if you don't mind me asking)? Wouldn't you be better off on one of the 'dating' sites, where there are godzillions of guys just looking for a monogamous relationship. Apparently.

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By *at-cWoman
over a year ago

Ballyshannon

"I can't see myself in a swinging relationship long term, I'm not cut out for it. I'll happily settle for monogamous (rather then the term vanilla)

Because she (and most of the singles here) enjoy what the site has to offer for the moment. The statement made reference to long-term, at this moment she is here and I am unclear as to why she has to explain that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can't see myself in a swinging relationship long term, I'm not cut out for it. I'll happily settle for monogamous (rather then the term vanilla)

Thank you, couldn't have put it better myself! I joined fab to experiment and try new things and I did, and I thought swinging was perfect for me at one time but through my journey here ive realised it may not be for me long term after all. Times change and opinions change as do circumstances and i don't feel the need to justify myself to anyone really, as long as I'm happy that's all that matters to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How did this thread turn into couples v singles??

I think I'm understanding now why some couples won't acknowledge singles on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can't see myself in a swinging relationship long term, I'm not cut out for it. I'll happily settle for monogamous (rather then the term vanilla)

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that's the thing! Maybe people on dating sites are worst than on Fab! They aren't looking for long term monogamous relationships! Fab it straight up. No hidden agenda's. Well most of the time anyway lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How did this thread turn into couples v singles??

I think I'm understanding now why some couples won't acknowledge singles on here

Ah stop, i think you'll find it was one couple who had a smart comment. I'm not looking for couples so doesn't bother me if they acknowledge me or not

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"How did this thread turn into couples v singles??

I think I'm understanding now why some couples won't acknowledge singles on here

Ah stop, i think you'll find it was one couple who had a smart comment. I'm not looking for couples so doesn't bother me if they acknowledge me or not

He was talking about single guys i think...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How did this thread turn into couples v singles??

I think I'm understanding now why some couples won't acknowledge singles on here

Ah stop, i think you'll find it was one couple who had a smart comment. I'm not looking for couples so doesn't bother me if they acknowledge me or not

He was talking about single guys i think... "

Perhaps, nothing wrong with single guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How did this thread turn into couples v singles??

I think I'm understanding now why some couples won't acknowledge singles on here

Ah stop, i think you'll find it was one couple who had a smart comment. I'm not looking for couples so doesn't bother me if they acknowledge me or not

He was talking about single guys i think... "

Nope, singles in general....

It appears that 'single' people shouldn't be here, or am I misunderstanding what's been said??

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By *al2001Man
over a year ago

kildare

Who gives a stocking of shit what ppl thinks of singles here? I surely don't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Who gives a stocking of shit what ppl thinks of singles here? I surely don't"

Hal..your going out with one of the hottest women on fab..easy for you to say you've come along way!!

But correct me if i'm wrong but we're ya not looking for a single a few wks back for a mmf???

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By *al2001Man
over a year ago

kildare

"Who gives a stocking of shit what ppl thinks of singles here? I surely don't

Hal..your going out with one of the hottest women on fab..easy for you to say you've come along way!!

But correct me if i'm wrong but we're ya not looking for a single a few wks back for a mmf???"

you misunderstood me frosty,or im not understanding you

i meant singles shouldn't care what cpls think of them being here,like i said i am a swinger weather im single or in a cpl

and thank you she sure is

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By *razy-CplCouple
over a year ago

and surrounding areas

who cares wheather ur single or a cpl, swinging should be all about fun and thats what were hear for wheather its social fun or sexual fun, when the fun goes out of it we have no problem in leaving but cant see that happening for a while as we both love having fun together

mr crazy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you meet as a couple?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I kinda disagree with the single, couples and who is a swinger or not... So a single girl/guy that arranges a sex meet with a stranger even if that's one on one and it's done through a sex personals ad or profile "swinger site or news papers ads" is a swinger to me! Sales goes for couples

Also a serial dater... Well doesn't that imply you like to take the time to meet someone to be with wine and dine but you are casting your net wide and not putting your eggs In the one basquet

not always involving sex or at least it's not discuss before meet

also from what I have read SOME ladies here are here for the wrong reasons or right ones depends which way you wanna look at it! If you wanna find someone that will be monogamous with you wrong places, if you wanna find someone like you high sex.drive open minded all the rest probably right place, but could you cope when the other person doesn't wanna leave the life style?

I personally always had a dream of a family and a loving happy relationship with the one person, and I did have but life showed me a different path, most of us would have fantasise about dirty stuff or 3some ffm of course

, orgies, dp for girls, etc. But maybe in a vanilla relationship we wouldn't have the guts to bring it up.

just saying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Who gives a stocking of shit what ppl thinks of singles here? I surely don't

Hal..your going out with one of the hottest women on fab..easy for you to say you've come along way!!

But correct me if i'm wrong but we're ya not looking for a single a few wks back for a mmf???

you misunderstood me frosty,or im not understanding you

i meant singles shouldn't care what cpls think of them being here,like i said i am a swinger weather im single or in a cpl

and thank you she sure is"

That's ok Hal I misunderstood ur term of phrasing it..but I got it the second time as it was a bit more clearer

Yes she is

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By *at-cWoman
over a year ago

Ballyshannon

Apologies I think I probably worded it poorly. By my way of thinking (feel free to disagree it's only my opinion) you have to actually swing to become a swinger; that means taking part in some typical type of swing activity.

If a person joined a swing site, had a handful of one to one meets and then left the site again, by my thinking they cant look at that and say I fulfilled a fantasy and became a swinger. If this is the case then places like Tinder and POF are swinger sites too.

At the moment I'm time limited and only having the occassional one to one meet but that doesn't mean I have stopped being a swinger, simply as was said so well earlier our wants are fluid and cyclical - I'll be back in party mode soon enough.

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By *illow1972Man
over a year ago

Naas

I'd be gone in 5 mins. This place is transient. I have met a few lovely people though and I'm glad I did.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've read the whole thread again and not once has a single person stated they are here to meet someone and get into a monogomous relationship, people have said they would leave here and leave swing to dedicate themselves to a monogomous relationship. Any of the singles I know are here for fun and to experiment - no single uses it as a dating site

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By *razy-CplCouple
over a year ago

and surrounding areas

"I've read the whole thread again and not once has a single person stated they are here to meet someone and get into a monogomous relationship, people have said they would leave here and leave swing to dedicate themselves to a monogomous relationship. Any of the singles I know are here for fun and to experiment - no single uses it as a dating site"

that is true as we met on another site as singles and the last thing we were looking for was a relationship out of swinging, but sometimes u just meet that right person,

mr crazy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

that is true as we met on another site as singles and the last thing we were looking for was a relationship out of swinging, but sometimes u just meet that right person,

mr crazy "

Absolutely, there are no rules on where you meet "the one"

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