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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok i do a few nights in a local boozer theres a local guy in a weelchair who has a drink problem ever since his sister came in too me today and gave out too me and told me not too serve him as its causing problems with his health and at home now the issue is the owner says too me serve him its business so where does that leave me i also know his sis very well so i dunno what u think i only do odd shifts in the bar when its busy and that thanks

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By *laveishMan
over a year ago

kildare

unless the guy is being disruptive to others or getting too d*unk to make his own way home there is not a lot you can do.

it is a public house and he has the same rights as anyone to be there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had the same problem in the past I work in an off licence and it's really down to you if you really believe it's hurting him you need to take a stand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was a bar maid for years and one family asked us not to serve a particular customer as she has been hospitalised a couple of times due to her illness (alcoholism) I chose not to serve her as I couldn't have it on my conscience

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well today i refused him as alot of the punters told that he already fell out of his chair 2 times early on that day he is harmless and never caused any problems in the bar hes quite a funny man and i enjoy his company as a punter but i just cant let his family down and he said ok i understand and thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From working in both the bar industry and the gambling one for over 15 years the only thing I will say is you have to detach yourself from your conscience because at the end of the day your just doing a job

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe the next time he comes in and if hes sober maybe give him water in between his drinks and make sure he drinks it before u serve him alcohol

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By *al2001Man
over a year ago

kildare

I wouldn't agree with that kitty,alcohol should be sold responsibly,you should lose your licence if you serve ppl til they can't stand up.or in that guys case til he's falling out of his wheel chair

the fact the guys family asked for him not to be served and he refused just shows what a hungry prick he is.i hope he closes like the thousands of pubs closing around the country.good riddence to them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn't agree with that kitty,alcohol should be sold responsibly,you should lose your licence if you serve ppl til they can't stand up.or in that guys case til he's falling out of his wheel chair

the fact the guys family asked for him not to be served and he refused just shows what a hungry prick he is.i hope he closes like the thousands of pubs closing around the country.good riddence to them"

Have to agree here, it makes sense! If the family asked that he not be served, they should be respected.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes its always good to see a business

close down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"From working in both the bar industry and the gambling one for over 15 years the only thing I will say is you have to detach yourself from your conscience because at the end of the day your just doing a job "

People use that term "just doing my job" as some of amnesty.

"just doing your job" is wrecking homes and peoples lives.

Now I'm not saying you're doing that personally but sometimes just doing your job is doing exactly that so u have to consider peoples lives before your job sometimes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And tell him put on his strap in the chair so he stops falling out ffs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And tell him put on his strap in the chair so he stops falling out ffs

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Is this guy's identity at risk if being breached .. We know the general area of where the 'bar tender works. '

That he is an alcoholic in a wheelchair and has a Sister ....

Stop bringing other people's lives into swing ... It's a complete breach of their privacy ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

does the girl that sells you a pack of cigarettes responsible if you get cancer ?

is the girl that sells you that cream cake responsible if you become obese and at risk of heart failure ??

there has and thankful always been free choice

its your life you choice how to live it

no one forces anyone else to drink

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By *al2001Man
over a year ago

kildare


"yes its always good to see a business

close down "

way too many pubs in the country,in my local town there is 1 shop,1 coffeeshop and 4 pubs. And we wonder why so many of us have drink problems???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"does the girl that sells you a pack of cigarettes responsible if you get cancer ?

is the girl that sells you that cream cake responsible if you become obese and at risk of heart failure ??

there has and thankful always been free choice

its your life you choice how to live it

no one forces anyone else to drink "

Have to agree there serve him till u think he's had more than enough then make sure he's sober enough before he goes home

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By *obbie65Man
over a year ago

kildare

It is illegal to serve someone when they are d*unk.

A bar person can refuse to serve anyone - although could be in trouble later if found to have refused on racial grounds.

His family are probably acting in his best interests

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"does the girl that sells you a pack of cigarettes responsible if you get cancer ?

is the girl that sells you that cream cake responsible if you become obese and at risk of heart failure ??

there has and thankful always been free choice

its your life you choice how to live it

no one forces anyone else to drink "

No one has said anyone is forcing him to drink but the worst thing u can give an alcoholic is drink surely ?

His family have asked the bar to stop serving him alcohol as it will clearly help him

I don't get what point you're making?

It's not the barmans fault the guy is an alco but he also has a duty of care if the drinker is at risk?

Mall good gambling company's have places set up for addicts

Pubs don't so it's usually the family who intervene

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"And tell him put on his strap in the chair so he stops falling out ffs

Is this guy's identity at risk if being breached .. We know the general area of where the 'bar tender works. '

That he is an alcoholic in a wheelchair and has a Sister ....

Stop bringing other people's lives into swing ... It's a complete breach of their privacy ... "
first off theres over 30 pubs where i work i never said a town or area it could be anywhere in ireland it was advice i needed an not a lecture thanks and i did refuse him but if u have a manager saying serve him its business i just did not know what to think about it so easy with the hole crap about why bring it too swing it was a simple bit looking for advice!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And tell him put on his strap in the chair so he stops falling out ffs

Is this guy's identity at risk if being breached .. We know the general area of where the 'bar tender works. '

That he is an alcoholic in a wheelchair and has a Sister ....

Stop bringing other people's lives into swing ... It's a complete breach of their privacy ... first off theres over 30 pubs where i work i never said a town or area it could be anywhere in ireland it was advice i needed an not a lecture thanks and i did refuse him but if u have a manager saying serve him its business i just did not know what to think about it so easy with the hole crap about why bring it too swing it was a simple bit looking for advice!!!!"

are there 30 alcoholics in wheelchairs too

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"And tell him put on his strap in the chair so he stops falling out ffs

Is this guy's identity at risk if being breached .. We know the general area of where the 'bar tender works. '

That he is an alcoholic in a wheelchair and has a Sister ....

Stop bringing other people's lives into swing ... It's a complete breach of their privacy ... first off theres over 30 pubs where i work i never said a town or area it could be anywhere in ireland it was advice i needed an not a lecture thanks and i did refuse him but if u have a manager saying serve him its business i just did not know what to think about it so easy with the hole crap about why bring it too swing it was a simple bit looking for advice!!!!

are there 30 alcoholics in wheelchairs too "
yes there could be for all i know theres lots of wheelchairs around that area and most drink so eh yes therecould very well be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Epidemic ...

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By *rianj1986Man
over a year ago

Parts Unknown

You need to talk to the sister again. Make it clear that you are only doing your job and that you're not trying to intentionally upset anyone. If she was worried about her brother she should tackle him directly herself and not rely on others to help her avoid solving the issue

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly some of the shite asked on here

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"And tell him put on his strap in the chair so he stops falling out ffs

Is this guy's identity at risk if being breached .. We know the general area of where the 'bar tender works. '

That he is an alcoholic in a wheelchair and has a Sister ....

Stop bringing other people's lives into swing ... It's a complete breach of their privacy ... first off theres over 30 pubs where i work i never said a town or area it could be anywhere in ireland it was advice i needed an not a lecture thanks and i did refuse him but if u have a manager saying serve him its business i just did not know what to think about it so easy with the hole crap about why bring it too swing it was a simple bit looking for advice!!!!

are there 30 alcoholics in wheelchairs too "
also u said we all know the general area where i work may ask u how do u know that just cause im from an area on our profile that dont mean i work there and live there does it no not in my eyes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Honestly some of the shite asked on here "
no u mean some of the shite people reply should be ashamed of them selfs it was a simple bit of advice regarding the owner saying serve the man only too be bettled with rubbish from a above poster if you dont like it dont comment on it its a public forum everybody can right up what they like aslong its not in breach of forum rules that aso includes swing or not swing related if i see a rule where it says you are not able too post this or that due too no swing related i wont same with everybody else

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By *ceryMan
over a year ago

Malahide & Waterford

Dammed if you do, dammed if you don't.... Walking the thin red line.

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By *amien88Man
over a year ago

wicklow


"Ok i do a few nights in a local boozer theres a local guy in a weelchair who has a drink problem ever since his sister came in too me today and gave out too me and told me not too serve him as its causing problems with his health and at home now the issue is the owner says too me serve him its business so where does that leave me i also know his sis very well so i dunno what u think i only do odd shifts in the bar when its busy and that thanks "
a hard one to call..i see both views

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

Maybe the sister is a delusional alcoholic?

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Actually,maybe the sister is a complete sex bomb?

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Does the wheelchair guy have any sisters my age?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe the sister is a delusional alcoholic?

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Actually,maybe the sister is a complete sex bomb?

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Does the wheelchair guy have any sisters my age? "

Feck off mike you need to get in the q for them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And tell him put on his strap in the chair so he stops falling out ffs

Is this guy's identity at risk if being breached .. We know the general area of where the 'bar tender works. '

That he is an alcoholic in a wheelchair and has a Sister ....

Stop bringing other people's lives into swing ... It's a complete breach of their privacy ... "

Really! This is not different than posting of Facebook or any other social media, sure you can say you breaching his privacy but isn't good old gossiping without the need of Internet at the same level? Also this is a forum where many topics are discussed if op want to ask for advice the thread should be about that, nothing else. Besides there are plenty of people that lie about their location no saying op does but you never know for sure. Also if you don't like it don't read it don't give your opinion simple many of us are normal people seeking or own fun and don't mean to cause hassle or harm to anyone so if the man wants advice give it to him.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"And tell him put on his strap in the chair so he stops falling out ffs

Is this guy's identity at risk if being breached .. We know the general area of where the 'bar tender works. '

That he is an alcoholic in a wheelchair and has a Sister ....

Stop bringing other people's lives into swing ... It's a complete breach of their privacy ...

Really! This is not different than posting of Facebook or any other social media, sure you can say you breaching his privacy but isn't good old gossiping without the need of Internet at the same level? Also this is a forum where many topics are discussed if op want to ask for advice the thread should be about that, nothing else. Besides there are plenty of people that lie about their location no saying op does but you never know for sure. Also if you don't like it don't read it don't give your opinion simple many of us are normal people seeking or own fun and don't mean to cause hassle or harm to anyone so if the man wants advice give it to him. "
could not agree more fair play too u

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