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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

My recognised persona is one of Alpha Female but have recently discovered an uber submissive side which I am keen to develop further.

I've researched other sites aligned to Fet lifestyles but there appears to be so much etiquette and tradition that these seem a terrifying place to be without the direction of an experienced Dom...

My SM foray was discovered by chance through Fab and I doubt I'll be lucky enough to encounter that again. Any pointers or advice would be gratefully received - either via the thread or by pm.

If kink isn't your thing, please move on to the next thread. I (maybe naively) view Fab as a place where we are safe to have fun and explore our own little kinks, free from the judgment of others - so please don't burst my bubble by posting something judgemental or vicious

Tess x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You could be very surprised. Myself and Ms.innocent are in the bdsm lifestyle and have never had any negative attention or attiude sent our way. Some years back however we were called a few rather unpleasant things on here by some now thankfully gone users.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You could be very surprised. Myself and Ms.innocent are in the bdsm lifestyle and have never had any negative attention or attiude sent our way. Some years back however we were called a few rather unpleasant things on here by some now thankfully gone users. "

I've already had some amazing messages and advice through PM.

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By *aid backMan
over a year ago

by a lake with my rod out

there are many fabbers into bdms more than you would think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"there are many fabbers into bdms more than you would think. "

Bdms? Bondage domination marks and spencers?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"there are many fabbers into bdms more than you would think.

Bdms? Bondage domination marks and spencers? "

now there's a range I'd like to see!

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By *aid backMan
over a year ago

by a lake with my rod out


"there are many fabbers into bdms more than you would think.

Bdms? Bondage domination marks and spencers? "

lol feck off smart arse

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"there are many fabbers into bdms more than you would think. "

That's what I'm hoping ... It's just knowing where and how to find them...

I need someone to take me by the hand ...well preferably drag me by the hair

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By *adrarfjordr VoyeurMan
over a year ago

Waterford


"there are many fabbers into bdms more than you would think.

Bdms? Bondage domination marks and spencers? "

Marks and suspenders maybe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You could be very surprised. Myself and Ms.innocent are in the bdsm lifestyle and have never had any negative attention or attiude sent our way. Some years back however we were called a few rather unpleasant things on here by some now thankfully gone users.

I've already had some amazing messages and advice through PM. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"there are many fabbers into bdms more than you would think.

Bdms? Bondage domination marks and spencers?

lol feck off smart arse"

Don't worry laid ill get Ms.innocent to wiggle it at you next time we see you

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By *ohn MingoMan
over a year ago

Dublin

Im also taking my first steps into bdsm. I was introduced to it last year and remained a voyeur. Recently however, I've been experimenting with being a Dom and have had some wonderful advice so far.

For someone with a personality the polar opposite, the power of dominating someone is intoxicating.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Im also taking my first steps into bdsm. I was introduced to it last year and remained a voyeur. Recently however, I've been experimenting with being a Dom and have had some wonderful advice so far.

For someone with a personality the polar opposite, the power of dominating someone is intoxicating. "

For someone with a personality the polar opposite , the power of submitting to someone is intoxicating ...

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By *uaveGentMan
over a year ago

dublin

The first thing to be wary about is anyone, especially male, harking on about Mr Grey. Those books have terribly unsafe sub-dom practises that if replicated would lead to physical damage. Ive heard of two ladies on fabs NI being cut internally by a 50 shades novice who confessed after he hadnt a clue what he was at.

As a single fem the Nimneach socials are a good start as are expanding your own conceptions of what you want from submission. The Ages of Lulu is always a good starting point for some submissive thoughts.

As a sub you need to be clear on your boundaries, safe words and direction of play.. There are as many types of submissive as their are pairs of stilletto heels in the world. After that it is a matter of finding someone who is both experienced as a dom (test their knowledge, do they know rope work? Ask about their practices when it comes to intimate areas / pain) and who cares for your pleasure. The 50 Shades chancers think it is a way to inflict some porno abuse on a woman, the practised dom knows the real bonding in bondage is mental, not physical.

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By *urph6969Man
over a year ago

Chadwell

THEM WORDS TO BIG FOR MY LIKEING

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"there are many fabbers into bdms more than you would think.

That's what I'm hoping ... It's just knowing where and how to find them...

I need someone to take me by the hand ...well preferably drag me by the hair "

This!

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By *ceryMan
over a year ago

Malahide & Waterford

Anyone paying taxes is already into Bondage.... to the Government.....

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By *ohn MingoMan
over a year ago

Dublin

@suave:

Why does an experienced Dom have to know rope work?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"@suave:

Why does an experienced Dom have to know rope work?"

I know plenty of dominants' that don't use ropes. I use chains myself

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By *ingerrrrWoman
over a year ago

Meath

Just be careful, take your time and don't agree to anything with anyone until you're very certain you are safe.

If you want to come to nimhneach I'll gladly bring you along. It will give you a chance to see some bdsm in action in a very safe environment.

If you want to chat about it pm me any time.

It's all very exciting!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just be careful, take your time and don't agree to anything with anyone until you're very certain you are safe.

If you want to come to nimhneach I'll gladly bring you along. It will give you a chance to see some bdsm in action in a very safe environment.

If you want to chat about it pm me any time.

It's all very exciting!

"

Ms innocent here, i would take this ladies offer very seriously classical filth. She is one of the most genuine and well known people in the circle and you honestly couldnt ask for a better guide or friend in either experience. Hers is an offer id take up in a heartbeat.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just be careful, take your time and don't agree to anything with anyone until you're very certain you are safe.

If you want to come to nimhneach I'll gladly bring you along. It will give you a chance to see some bdsm in action in a very safe environment.

If you want to chat about it pm me any time.

It's all very exciting!

Ms innocent here, i would take this ladies offer very seriously classical filth. She is one of the most genuine and well known people in the circle and you honestly couldnt ask for a better guide or friend in either experience. Hers is an offer id take up in a heartbeat. "

Thank you ... Pm sent . Honestly been blown away by the people who have reached out to offer me some advice and guidance

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just be careful, take your time and don't agree to anything with anyone until you're very certain you are safe.

If you want to come to nimhneach I'll gladly bring you along. It will give you a chance to see some bdsm in action in a very safe environment.

If you want to chat about it pm me any time.

It's all very exciting!

"

Thank you so much - pm sent - look forward to chatting x

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By *aftPunkCouple
over a year ago

Around the World


"@suave:

Why does an experienced Dom have to know rope work?

I know plenty of dominants' that don't use ropes. I use chains myself "

Oh yes please

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By *ickirishallsortsMan
over a year ago

Lickie Manor


"Just be careful, take your time and don't agree to anything with anyone until you're very certain you are safe.

If you want to come to nimhneach I'll gladly bring you along. It will give you a chance to see some bdsm in action in a very safe environment.

If you want to chat about it pm me any time.

It's all very exciting!

"

Sr Ginger, could you share with Fr Lick what you know?

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By *ecretly seductiveWoman
over a year ago

Palookaville

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By *ecretly seductiveWoman
over a year ago

Palookaville

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The first thing to be wary about is anyone, especially male, harking on about Mr Grey. Those books have terribly unsafe sub-dom practises that if replicated would lead to physical damage. Ive heard of two ladies on fabs NI being cut internally by a 50 shades novice who confessed after he hadnt a clue what he was at.

As a single fem the Nimneach socials are a good start as are expanding your own conceptions of what you want from submission. The Ages of Lulu is always a good starting point for some submissive thoughts.

As a sub you need to be clear on your boundaries, safe words and direction of play.. There are as many types of submissive as their are pairs of stilletto heels in the world. After that it is a matter of finding someone who is both experienced as a dom (test their knowledge, do they know rope work? Ask about their practices when it comes to intimate areas / pain) and who cares for your pleasure. The 50 Shades chancers think it is a way to inflict some porno abuse on a woman, the practised dom knows the real bonding in bondage is mental, not physical."

The poster above has made some good points. Would highly.recommend munches as they are a great way to.ease into the scene as its a vanilla environment and you can chat and learnfrom ppeople at them. Nimh is alsogood but dont allow aanyone to pressure you into play as sadly some people there can be pushy though just report them to the DMs. Take your time and explore what you like, whatever it is. Also not all doms use rope work as suggested to ask above, i domme and prefer restraints to rope but any decent genuine dom will have no issue with giving you references from people they have played with.previously though be wary of those who cant

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By *uaveGentMan
over a year ago

dublin

Nobody has suggested 'all' doms use rope work. Some people simply misinterpret to advance themselves rather than aid the OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nobody has suggested 'all' doms use rope work. Some people simply misinterpret to advance themselves rather than aid the OP. "

I was simply commenting on what you had said, just pointed out that not all doms use rope work so not generally a good question to ask though if they state it a better question to.ask would be who they learned it from, how long they been practicing and what their safety procedures are with it, as with any other kind of kink

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By *uaveGentMan
over a year ago

dublin


"Nobody has suggested 'all' doms use rope work. Some people simply misinterpret to advance themselves rather than aid the OP.

I was simply commenting on what you had said, just pointed out that not all doms use rope work so not generally a good question to ask though if they state it a better question to.ask would be who they learned it from, how long they been practicing and what their safety procedures are with it, as with any other kind of kink "

It's a perfectly sensible question to ask given i was pointing out illustrative examples of questions to ask rather than an exhaustive list. After pre-made cuffs and restraints, rope is probably the most practised form of restraint. Of course there are many other questions to ask, such as if someone says 'i use chains' then asking about their sterilization procedures would be vital.

There are no 'bad' questions to ask when it comes to forming a submissive agreement. Nor are there any exhaustive lists. Nor did I state 'all dom's use rope'.

Hope thats clear.

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By *ohn MingoMan
over a year ago

Dublin

It is clear, just your earlier post made it look like rope work was a requirement.

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By *ecretly seductiveWoman
over a year ago

Palookaville

I have up trying to post last night. This is something I would be interested in exploring more so it's good to get some decent advice from everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It is clear, just your earlier post made it look like rope work was a requirement. "
it did to us as well hence why we said it. Sorry for the misunderstanding.

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By *adypleasercossacMan
over a year ago

antrim

unpack your femdom, there are lots of pleasures to be explored

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