FabSwingers.com forum: Feeling sick!!!

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So through this Facebook friend suggestion thing I've found out that 4 guys I met through fab and am still in contact with for nearly a year have lied to me about something so basic like their first names. Also found a few cheaters but that's to be expected.

I just feel sick thinking that I've let some of these men into my home, trusted them that much at least and they've lied to me about a basic like their name, I feel so naive and stupid and now worried about ever meeting off here again! I've nothing to hide and I'm an honest person, I just feel like a doormat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Were not all the same Gbaby some of us are alright

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Were not all the same Gbaby some of us are alright "

I know hun, but seriously makes me question everyone on here, I'm not stupid enough to have thought everyone has told the truth but fuck like to be in contact and meeting someone, more than one person actually, nearly a year and they still don't tell u their real name it's literally making my skin crawl. Maybe I'm over reacting, anyone else feel like this?!

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By *ohn MingoMan
over a year ago

Dublin

As the man says we're not all the same but sorry to hear you've been lied to. It's not just the men who do the lying though.

On a side note, did I spot you in the venue on sat night?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You should question everyone on here though.

If you believe anything that anybody tells you on here, then I'm sorry, but more fool you.

Paranoia and skepticism are your new friends on here.

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By *aid backMan
over a year ago

by a lake with my rod out

the fake name one is quite common as are a lot of lies

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

We used to use fake names at the beginning ( until my memory started going and I would wonder who the man was calling Sue )

I dont really mind if people dont use their real names, this is all fantasy playing anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

fake people seems endemic here and yes can understand your feelings . this is why verification here is so important dont ye think....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"fake people seems endemic here and yes can understand your feelings . this is why verification here is so important dont ye think...."

Not if the verifier was lied too as well...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It's real life when I invite them to my home not fantasy play then!!! Never again though, that's it.

I'm running through scenarios in my head of how stupid I'd feel telling the guards Oh he said his name was Robert, that's all I know and I believed him, this is a BIG wake up call for me.

And no John I didn't make the venue on Saturday night.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"fake people seems endemic here and yes can understand your feelings . this is why verification here is so important dont ye think....

Not if the verifier was lied too as well..."

Exactly ALL of these men were heavily verified. It's scary for single women now. I'm scared I know that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some of fabs leading people or most well known people have been using fake names and are well known by those fake names. Personally once id have met a person and felt secure id be giving them my real name,to continue the use of a false name especially over such a long period of time yes would be upsetting.

Live and learn I guess and take anything said on fab with a rather large pinch of salt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suppose it all depends what you're looking for...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are a lot of people that will give a different first name. It doesn't bother me to be honest. They don't want their Fab life connecting with their real lives. It doesn't make them bad people, they're just very clever when it comes to privacy. I've seen couples and singles do this.

As regarding Facebook and swingers coming up in friend suggestions, it definitely has something to do with smart phones. A swing ph is the safest way to go if your privacy is paramount. A cheap pay as you go is all I use.

As for singles playing away from home, it happens a lot. Some will have it on their profiles, some will tell you privately which is fair enough. Some though will lie through their teeth and make you believe they're free and single. These are the kind of liars I can't stand. It's happened to me, once bitten twice shy as they say.

Don't loose heart though, there are plenty of gems here who out weigh the bad xx

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By *avie tCouple
over a year ago

otherside of nowhere

Don't think it's a good idea to confuse fab with real life the same....the scary part for me would be the Facebook link.... And as a single woman bringing fab friends to your home is not a good idea.... Live and learn

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By *o pants partyCouple
over a year ago

Dublin

Okay, I finally admit it, our names aren't really Mr & Mrs No Pants. We've been lying on our profile the is whole time. There, I feel much better now that's out in the open.

sorry OP, not trying to make light of your hurt, it's sh*t to be deceived, esp over a long period of time, but the nature of this site and the scene in general is that unfortunatley you can't be too trusting & need to keep your barriers up. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My name isn't bonnie but lads can call me that until I feel comfortable giving my real name.

Honestly, for me it's a safety thing aswell.

It's harder for a stalker to find "bonnie blue" than to find Mary Kate X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tbh fake first names don't bother me unless you are meeting someone regularly. However I can understand how distressed you are that you obviously took these guys into your confidence to an extent and they didn't respect that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you were speaking for over a year then I'd have expected them to say their name

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

While I feel ur hurt I can understand their desire to remain as john doe there has being plenty here that suffered at the hands of a repeat meet going stalker on them. Only a very few close friends have my real name

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By *ilderMan
over a year ago

dublin

Since we are all coming clean... My names not actually Wilder. Neither my first or second name. Nor is it Wilde for that matter (or any other variation there of). Why am i called Wilder then??

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Many people I've met through the scene know me by my actual first name. In fact I've been told many times that I don't look at all like a Rodrigo

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"While I feel ur hurt I can understand their desire to remain as john doe there has being plenty here that suffered at the hands of a repeat meet going stalker on them. Only a very few close friends have my real name"

I totally understand that, but if you were regularly texting the same girl and regularly going to get house do u not think it's only manners she knew ur real name?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Since we are all coming clean... My names not actually Wilder. Neither my first or second name. Nor is it Wilde for that matter (or any other variation there of). Why am i called Wilder then??

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Many people I've met through the scene know me by my actual first name. In fact I've been told many times that I don't look at all like a Rodrigo

So why did you call yourself Wilder then!!!? how did u come up with the name!?

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By *avie tCouple
over a year ago

otherside of nowhere

"Since we are all coming clean... My names not actually Wilder. Neither my first or second name. Nor is it Wilde for that matter (or any other variation there of). Why am i called Wilder then??

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Many people I've met through the scene know me by my actual first name. In fact I've been told many times that I don't look at all like a Rodrigo

So why did you call yourself Wilder then!!!? how did u come up with the name!?

Apparently at times its in his nature

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

I totally understand that, but if you were regularly texting the same girl and regularly going to get house do u not think it's only manners she knew ur real name? "

For me yes u would know my real name but others just don't trust people ur op being a case in mind why look up someone on face book if its NSA. Not wanting to sound harsh contact with other members of this site is done solely on this site by a lot of users that are paranoid about their privacy each to their own to the detriment of their manners

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a horrible thing to have happened, and i can understated why you're upset, but i can also see why some people might not use their real name. In this NSA set up, some choose not to kiss, some choose to not stay the night, some choose to jump straight in to sex without so much as a cup of coffee first. I see these as ways to keep your distance, keep your privacy, protect yourself etc. It doesn't necessarily mean that the person is dangerous to meet or even unworthy of trust. I use my gut instinct, not whether someone has given me a fake name to decide whether i trust or not. It's stood me well so far. Don't let this bad experience put you off. Learn from it and keep having safe fun x

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By *ilderMan
over a year ago

dublin

"Since we are all coming clean... My names not actually Wilder. Neither my first or second name. Nor is it Wilde for that matter (or any other variation there of). Why am i called Wilder then??

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Many people I've met through the scene know me by my actual first name. In fact I've been told many times that I don't look at all like a Rodrigo

So why did you call yourself Wilder then!!!? how did u come up with the name!?

Apparently at times its in his nature"

That's for me to know and others (that I choose) to find out....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Since we are all coming clean... My names not actually Wilder. Neither my first or second name. Nor is it Wilde for that matter (or any other variation there of). Why am i called Wilder then??

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Many people I've met through the scene know me by my actual first name. In fact I've been told many times that I don't look at all like a Rodrigo

So why did you call yourself Wilder then!!!? how did u come up with the name!?

Apparently at times its in his nature

That's for me to know and others (that I choose) to find out....

I thought you were Seamus

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By *aid backMan
over a year ago

by a lake with my rod out

a lot of ppl on here know my real name but still call me laid in person i may just change it to laid via deed poll

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"a lot of ppl on here know my real name but still call me laid in person i may just change it to laid via deed poll"

I'm the same...everyone calls me Cat and i kinda like it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"a lot of ppl on here know my real name but still call me laid in person i may just change it to laid via deed poll"

I called you Laid actually the other night oooops! I need a new name as im not so red now, it was confusing for people the other night, I'm only half Red now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But Fooey IS my real name!

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And im not really roxie.. or foxie anymore.. i had red hair.. and i miss it now.. i may just go red again!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People still call me by my old username.

I'd actually turn in the street if it was called at this stage.

Nobody has a 'right' to know anything about anybody on here no matter how long you've been meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And im not really roxie.. or foxie anymore.. i had red hair.. and i miss it now.. i may just go red again!! "

Did you get rid of it?

I'm still red on the ends but dark now on top. I like having a little bit of red

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town

"a lot of ppl on here know my real name but still call me laid in person i may just change it to laid via deed poll

I called you Laid actually the other night oooops! I need a new name as im not so red now, it was confusing for people the other night, I'm only half Red now

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u thought I had blond hair I'm very dark I have a bit of red in my fringe

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By *ecretly seductiveWoman
over a year ago

Palookaville

"It's a horrible thing to have happened, and i can understated why you're upset, but i can also see why some people might not use their real name. In this NSA set up, some choose not to kiss, some choose to not stay the night, some choose to jump straight in to sex without so much as a cup of coffee first. I see these as ways to keep your distance, keep your privacy, protect yourself etc. It doesn't necessarily mean that the person is dangerous to meet or even unworthy of trust. I use my gut instinct, not whether someone has given me a fake name to decide whether i trust or not. It's stood me well so far. Don't let this bad experience put you off. Learn from it and keep having safe fun x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So through this Facebook friend suggestion thing I've found out that 4 guys I met through fab and am still in contact with for nearly a year have lied to me about something so basic like their first names. Also found a few cheaters but that's to be expected.

Jesus its only a fucking name...what makes you think you have the right to make everyone give you their real name??? Good luck with that...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"a lot of ppl on here know my real name but still call me laid in person i may just change it to laid via deed poll

I called you Laid actually the other night oooops! I need a new name as im not so red now, it was confusing for people the other night, I'm only half Red now

u thought I had blond hair I'm very dark I have a bit of red in my fringe "

Lol still don't jnow why I thought that!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And im not really roxie.. or foxie anymore.. i had red hair.. and i miss it now.. i may just go red again!!

Did you get rid of it?

I'm still red on the ends but dark now on top. I like having a little bit of red

Yeah i went purple with lighter purple panels but the panels are now grey!!! And didnt really go colour i wanted. But ive spotted something awesome i really want to do.. just to find somewhere to do it..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I totally understand that, but if you were regularly texting the same girl and regularly going to get house do u not think it's only manners she knew ur real name?

I did not look them up on Facebook, how could I when I had a fake name! They come up as friend suggestions since Facebook has now synced with everything on ur smart phone.

NSA is not NSA when ur oblivious to the wife that's banging down ur door cos they found ur number or pics in their husbands phone, and the husband had told u he was free and single, that's blatantly real and happening in my real life. And yes this happened to me. At least if you know what your dealing with you can deal with it.

I'm highly discreet and I hate being lied to especially by guys I thought I was good friends with after allegedly 'knowing' them for a year. I'm angry and frustrated. But you live and you learn.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And im not really roxie.. or foxie anymore.. i had red hair.. and i miss it now.. i may just go red again!!

Did you get rid of it?

I'm still red on the ends but dark now on top. I like having a little bit of red

Purple would be even harder to maintain than red, purple is ash based colour so when it fades it will look grey.

I'm sure wouldn't be difficult finding a decent salon to do it? It's Prob more a case of can it be done!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You should question everyone on here though.

If you believe anything that anybody tells you on here, then I'm sorry, but more fool you.

Paranoia and skepticism are your new friends on here."

Yip all of the above ^^^^^^^^^....just remember its all LIES LIES...oh and did i mention LIES....trust no one!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't worry so much about them not giving their real first name, as long as they didn't lie about anything more serious, I couldn't say it would bother me too much, if all you are looking is NSA and you aren't giving away personal details about yourself then it shouldn't be a problem , I wouldn't tell anyone on here anything about my personal life cos it's frankly none of their business, what does NSA sex have to do with where you work or how many kids you have, TRUST NOONE!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel your pain! There is a BIG Difference between Discretion & Deception!! If someone you regularly meet is not prepared to share a little honest personal information about themselves...that is disprespectful & they are not worth it!!

PM me if you need any help

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By *llie and ApplesCouple
over a year ago

where ever

Okay going to come clean myself ....our real names aren't Ollie and Apples .....nor is my surname Appletree....but for those eagle eared who have met us ...i am a little blonde and have unwittingly let our real names slip a few times lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

PM me if you need any help

That's it in a nutshell, massive difference between discretion and deception.

And they are defo not worth it that's very clear now.

Thanks x

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By *ilderMan
over a year ago

dublin

"Since we are all coming clean... My names not actually Wilder. Neither my first or second name. Nor is it Wilde for that matter (or any other variation there of). Why am i called Wilder then??

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Many people I've met through the scene know me by my actual first name. In fact I've been told many times that I don't look at all like a Rodrigo

So why did you call yourself Wilder then!!!? how did u come up with the name!?

Apparently at times its in his nature

That's for me to know and others (that I choose) to find out....

I thought you were Seamus

Seamus is my middle name, or is that danger? Sometimes I even confuse myself......

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By *aid backMan
over a year ago

by a lake with my rod out

"Since we are all coming clean... My names not actually Wilder. Neither my first or second name. Nor is it Wilde for that matter (or any other variation there of). Why am i called Wilder then??

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Many people I've met through the scene know me by my actual first name. In fact I've been told many times that I don't look at all like a Rodrigo

So why did you call yourself Wilder then!!!? how did u come up with the name!?

Apparently at times its in his nature

That's for me to know and others (that I choose) to find out....

I thought you were Seamus

Seamus is my middle name, or is that danger? Sometimes I even confuse myself......

Seamus is just irish for danger lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Since we are all coming clean... My names not actually Wilder. Neither my first or second name. Nor is it Wilde for that matter (or any other variation there of). Why am i called Wilder then??

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Many people I've met through the scene know me by my actual first name. In fact I've been told many times that I don't look at all like a Rodrigo

So why did you call yourself Wilder then!!!? how did u come up with the name!?

Apparently at times its in his nature

That's for me to know and others (that I choose) to find out....

I thought you were Seamus

Seamus is my middle name, or is that danger? Sometimes I even confuse myself......

you told me your name was Christian Slater!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe the facebook names are fake ... and you got the right name ..?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I found out only yesterday that someone I met a number of times and invited to my house has been lying to me for over a year too. I don't mind the fact he gave me a false name but I do mind that he portrayed himself as a single guy and spun a story about being separated and other personal circumstances.

I think people should have a right to know if someone is single or not and let us make the choice of meeting them or not.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I found out only yesterday that someone I met a number of times and invited to my house has been lying to me for over a year too. I don't mind the fact he gave me a false name but I do mind that he portrayed himself as a single guy and spun a story about being separated and other personal circumstances.

I think people should have a right to know if someone is single or not and let us make the choice of meeting them or not."

It's a horrible feeling isn't it? That you've trusted this person enough to allow them in your home and after so long you find out everything is a lie. At least if you knew from the start he was married you could have decided yourself whether to continue and your aware your taking a risk, I really did have a wife at my door one night and I'd zero clue the guy was married, she threatened to tell everyone I know about fab until I proved to her through messages that I'd no idea he was married and he'd lied to me too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What a psycho!!! Cut the balls off her own hubby cos it's him who made the choice to cheat, nothing got to do with u if u knew or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh that was not a nice thing to experience. Sorry to hear that happened to you. Lucky you had the proof.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What a psycho!!! Cut the balls off her own hubby cos it's him who made the choice to cheat, nothing got to do with u if u knew or not "

I have to agree here!

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By *ilderMan
over a year ago

dublin

I think people should have a right to know if someone is single or not and let us make the choice of meeting them or not."

That's terrible! Poor you!

I personally don't mind if someone chooses to use a false name but I would definitely prefer to know someone's 'status'.

I can think of a few people on fab (couple and single fem) that have very unusual first names and use other names as their first name would make them very easy to 'trace' (so to speak). I've no problem with any of that.

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By *ilderMan
over a year ago

dublin

"Since we are all coming clean... My names not actually Wilder. Neither my first or second name. Nor is it Wilde for that matter (or any other variation there of). Why am i called Wilder then??

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Many people I've met through the scene know me by my actual first name. In fact I've been told many times that I don't look at all like a Rodrigo

So why did you call yourself Wilder then!!!? how did u come up with the name!?

Apparently at times its in his nature

That's for me to know and others (that I choose) to find out....

I thought you were Seamus

Seamus is my middle name, or is that danger? Sometimes I even confuse myself......

you told me your name was Christian Slater!!

Shhhh!

I thought that was our little secret!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can really empathise with you OP. Someone I've known for 2 years and met regularly lied about their first name too. Even when I asked them straight out, they denied it. Yes, it's NSA but when you know someone for so long you'd think they come clean after a while. It's not that I ask him for his lastname and PPS number ffs. I was quite disappointed I have to say.

I introduced myself to someone at the social with my first name and they were shocked and said 'oh I don't think you're supposed to give your real name here'. Ok, if my first name was really unusual I probably wouldn't, but it's not. No one can track me down with my first name only. What I don't like is publicly saying where I'm originally from as not many people with my origin live in Ireland.

Also the whole lying about being attached or not is really unfair. I want to make an informed decision about meeting someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There was a status yesterday suggesting that if you meet in hotels it's a dead give away you are married.

This ops experience is proof that firstly face book is evil in how it knows stuff about you

And that wanting to spend 40 quid on a hotel has nothing to do with marital status and everything to do with not wanting some nut job appearing next day on your doorstep with their bags and baggage

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why are you people keep on saying that other lie about their names? Nobody is lying. It is a matter of choice to use stage or play name and it is within everybody's right to do so. Some people have sex phone as well, would you call it lying that you were not given the real phone number to a person? It is a way of protecting one's privacy. Otherwise we would all put our sexual preferences, likes and dislikes on Facebook...

It is a different story not to be honest about one's status as a married or attached person (I am saying person as there are ladies that play away from home without hubbies knowledge too).

We need to remember this is a sex site and we are all here primarily to find sex buddies. I couldn't care less if the people I meet with gave me their real names or not. What I care for is that we had good fun together and later we come back to our vanilla life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont see the problem with people using a different name, I rarely even tell people my real name because as far as I'm concerned its my own business not theirs. The name i use here I use on other scenes too and have never had it questioned there like I have on here. As for someones relationship status i reallydont care as ive found most who say there single are aactually attached and in some cases guys who say they are attached are actually single but use that to avoid women getting over attached if meet regularly

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By *arkandEm14Couple
over a year ago

dublin

we too rearly give a real name despite repeat encounters. I definitely dont want our real name associated with Fab. Those select few that do know our real names are truley blessed ??

In regards to attached men / females my objectives would be to not meet them but u cant always be sure always go with ur gut. If anything came across too seedy i wouldnt meet end of. I also woulnt be keen on divulging personal details to fellow fabbers. I think facebook and fab sometimes get mixed up on this site and its important to note what ur willing to share with fabbers would not be appropriate to share with facebookers so why share the other way round?? Personal opinion xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

bringing someone to your home is probably the dumbest thing of all. Sorry if that sounds harsh. Ffs this is a swinging site. There are alsorts on here. Nice ppl, grumpy ppl, honest ppl, liars, charlatans, tricksters, con artists, good ppl and bad ppl.

Regardless of how well you "think" you know someone and how nice they are, and the 'oh but I've known them ages'.....friends/acquaintances/lovers/partners/ fuck buddies.... I think we can all count on one hand how many ppl we would trust with our deepest darkest secrets.....

If you don't want shit on your doorstep, don't bring it to your doorstep. There are plenty of hotels, apartments in the country......

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

"There was a status yesterday suggesting that if you meet in hotels it's a dead give away you are married.

This ops experience is proof that firstly face book is evil in how it knows stuff about you

And that wanting to spend 40 quid on a hotel has nothing to do with marital status and everything to do with not wanting some nut job appearing next day on your doorstep with their bags and baggage "

It's not only Facebook that's evil and knows stuff about you. I was in a shopping centre the other day and I found a sign saying "you are here". Bastards must've been watching me!

As for the op, I'm failing to see the problem with the name thing. Married or single would obviously be a major thing but the names? Hmm. I think you may be looking for problems.

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By *arkandEm14Couple
over a year ago

dublin

"There was a status yesterday suggesting that if you meet in hotels it's a dead give away you are married.

This ops experience is proof that firstly face book is evil in how it knows stuff about you

And that wanting to spend 40 quid on a hotel has nothing to do with marital status and everything to do with not wanting some nut job appearing next day on your doorstep with their bags and baggage

It's not only Facebook that's evil and knows stuff about you. I was in a shopping centre the other day and I found a sign saying "you are here". Bastards must've been watching me!

As for the op, I'm failing to see the problem with the name thing. Married or single would obviously be a major thing but the names? Hmm. I think you may be looking for problems. "
found the first part of that post extremely funny lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jesus its only a fucking name...what makes you think you have the right to make everyone give you their real name??? Good luck with that..."

because people have the 'right' to know who their having sex with. and i agree with the OP its shit and extremely creepy. i think women on this should start asking for identification. it sure would out a lot of the so called swingers that are just after getting their hole behind their missus' backs.

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over a year ago

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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i think women on this should start asking for identification. it sure would out a lot of the so called swingers that are just after getting their hole behind their missus' backs. "

I think it would make your choice of men go down a lot too....and not because they are attached but because why would they give out those personal details to a stranger on a swinging site

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over a year ago

i think women on this should start asking for identification. it sure would out a lot of the so called swingers that are just after getting their hole behind their missus' backs.

I think it would make your choice of men go down a lot too....and not because they are attached but because why would they give out those personal details to a stranger on a swinging site

well not pps, address and bank details. but i defo want to know whos sticking it in me. im not one for anonymous random one offs. i really dont mind if my choice of men go down. just bc there is 100 men to every woman doesnt mean all 100 of them are decent choices to begin with

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

i think women on this should start asking for identification. it sure would out a lot of the so called swingers that are just after getting their hole behind their missus' backs.

I think it would make your choice of men go down a lot too....and not because they are attached but because why would they give out those personal details to a stranger on a swinging site

So what sort of identification would be acceptable?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

thats a good question. i dont know. maybe a fab ID card with yer photo, user name and real first name?

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over a year ago

My first name is quite uncommon and no1 ever really remembers how to pronounce it anyways so i just use my nickname. To people that Ive met on a regular basis I do tell my name to .

I have had people lie to me about their names but isnt it their choice to keep this part of their lives private??

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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I suppose you would still have to rely on people telling you their real name

Liking the idea of a Fab card though, imagine paying in the shop and it falls out of your purse accidently on purpose so the hot man behind you could see it just incase he is into swinging

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over a year ago

"My first name is quite uncommon and no1 ever really remembers how to pronounce it anyways so i just use my nickname. To people that Ive met on a regular basis I do tell my name to .

I have had people lie to me about their names but isnt it their choice to keep this part of their lives private??

if you cant trust someone to be honest about something as simple as their first name how can you trust them with your body? i mean like if anonymous sex is yer thing then cool it doesnt really matter but if its not it can be a huge deal

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over a year ago

" I suppose you would still have to rely on people telling you their real name

Liking the idea of a Fab card though, imagine paying in the shop and it falls out of your purse accidently on purpose so the hot man behind you could see it just incase he is into swinging

PMSL!

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town

Giving someone your first name I think it's exceptable I'm not asking for your surname or are you on Facebook so we can be friends.

A simple thing like lying about your first name is stupid like people have said you can't be tracked down by you first name. .

My first name is double barrel

Now i never used the second name but if I wanted to I could tell people that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not only Facebook that's evil and knows stuff about you. I was in a shopping centre the other day and I found a sign saying "you are here". Bastards must've been watching me!"

You noticed that too!??

I'm telling ya, We're all being watched!

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By *arkandEm14Couple
over a year ago

dublin

I'm still not a believer, each to their own I think hardly fair to assume people should tell their real names just because I do. Same as people showing face pics on their profile, level of descretion is different t from person to person. I have had people trying to suss out who I am for malicious reasons on fab. And u read all about it in forums of how people's private lives have been threatened because of a disagreement. My name teamed with Marks is very uncommon and I wouldn't risk my private life for fab. But without sounding hypocritical I have made friends with some fab profiles and on assessment of that friendship I have chosen to share some personal info including my real name taking the risks that go with it. But in general you get my fake name but my honest personality after all when ur looking for NSA all u need to know is if u fancy the person and if there is chemistry. We usually chat for a length of time to suss out that chemsitry prior to any meet and we use our instincts if something seems shady it probably is and knowing a person's real name won't alter your impressions of him/her.

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

It's not only Facebook that's evil and knows stuff about you. I was in a shopping centre the other day and I found a sign saying "you are here". Bastards must've been watching me!

You noticed that too!??

I'm telling ya, We're all being watched!

It's not the same for you though. You're everywhere at once. #omnipresent

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

"I'm still not a believer, each to their own I think hardly fair to assume people should tell their real names just because I do. Same as people showing face pics on their profile, level of descretion is different t from person to person. I have had people trying to suss out who I am for malicious reasons on fab. And u read all about it in forums of how people's private lives have been threatened because of a disagreement. My name teamed with Marks is very uncommon and I wouldn't risk my private life for fab. But without sounding hypocritical I have made friends with some fab profiles and on assessment of that friendship I have chosen to share some personal info including my real name taking the risks that go with it. But in general you get my fake name but my honest personality after all when ur looking for NSA all u need to know is if u fancy the person and if there is chemistry. We usually chat for a length of time to suss out that chemsitry prior to any meet and we use our instincts if something seems shady it probably is and knowing a person's real name won't alter your impressions of him/her.

That says it all for me. I'd prefer to stay away from real names as things can get very complicated very quickly as I discovered when I ended up with a stalker a couple of years back.

Bloody women!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to say I get where ggbaby is coming from, when you get to know someone and then see that they hadn't told you their real name it is a bit of a kicker, I get why people don't give out their real names but it's still leaves you feeling a bit uneasy! Lolli is similar to my own name so people call me lolli anyway. I always seen user names as Nick names so usually call people by their user names!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to agree with the op if a lady lied to me about her age or her name or anything else i wouldnt be to impressed.If im honest and treat people with respect i do expect the same in return its only fair.

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By *arkandEm14Couple
over a year ago

dublin

"I have to say I get where ggbaby is coming from, when you get to know someone and then see that they hadn't told you their real name it is a bit of a kicker, I get why people don't give out their real names but it's still leaves you feeling a bit uneasy! Lolli is similar to my own name so people call me lolli anyway. I always seen user names as Nick names so usually call people by their user names!"

Nick names are much better!!! That's kind of what we use x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally agree.

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By *at69driveMan
over a year ago

Hertford

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. Unless you have a vetting procedure using someones surname , I cannot see what difference a Christian name makes . I use my middle name on here, but do not feel that I am deceiving anyone . Common sense would suggest that you amend names to protect your identity. A persons name does not bother me , my assessment is based on attitude and other factors .

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