FabSwingers.com forum: face pic meet and greet

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hosting a meet and greet on here and a certain person from my area asked to attend, I asked for a face pic incase I knew her and got told in so these words, "oh what's this based on looks? I'm a very well verified member of fab and have been to several meet and greets and never have been asked for a face pic" then I explained it was incase we knew each other as we are from the same area and her reply was " I suggest you don't hold meet and greets then if you think your going to know someone". Am I wrong for asking in the first place as it's my first meet and greet and not sure if that's allowed to be asked or not, or is the girl just rude? There is little to see on her profile

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By *ohn MingoMan
over a year ago

Dublin

Your event, your rules.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So if you did know her what would you do?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So if you did know her what would you do?"
it would depend on who she was

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By *exyHeels13Woman
over a year ago

Belfast

That person in question was me. Iv been on Fab for over 3 years now and attended M&G both North and South. Not once have i been asked for a face picture by the host. To quote the host reply to me asking if I could attend "A FACE PIC WOULD HELP AS WELL"

I am also very discreet to and know how to behave and react if I bump into somebody I know at these events. As this sometimes can not be avoided, in such a small country as ours. I myself bumped into my own sister in law at one this year! It was all debt with in a very mature manner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought it was standard to ask for a face pic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ohn MingoMan
over a year ago

Dublin

"That person in question was me. Iv been on Fab for over 3 years now and attended M&G both North and South. Not once have i been asked for a face picture by the host. To quote the host reply to me asking if I could attend "A FACE PIC WOULD HELP AS WELL"

Well that's fair enough, but your post begs the question:

Was she not there with your brother?

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

Looking from a distance it seems like a storm in a d cup theres a few thing

First as top has said its his first time hosting and as a way of possible preventing peoples blushes he asked for a face pic nothing wrong with that it is his event

Second heels is verified and thinks why a face pic as she has no problem meeting people from vanilla land.

The problem being senient being lost in text

I suggest a coffee, kiss and make up for ye both

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Looking from a distance it seems like a storm in a d cup theres a few thing

First as top has said its his first time hosting and as a way of possible preventing peoples blushes he asked for a face pic nothing wrong with that it is his event

Second heels is verified and thinks why a face pic as she has no problem meeting people from vanilla land.

The problem being senient being lost in text

I suggest a coffee, kiss and make up for ye both

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I'm Up for that, on here to have fun not argue, wires crossed sexyheels opologies

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By *exyHeels13Woman
over a year ago

Belfast

No John she was alone. I'm am just glad I am understand enough to deal with things in the appropriate manner. After all we all have our reasons for being on here x

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By *ohn MingoMan
over a year ago

Dublin

"No John she was alone. I'm am just glad I am understand enough to deal with things in the appropriate manner. After all we all have our reasons for being on here x

Ah I was only slagging. Each to their own x

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By *exyHeels13Woman
over a year ago

Belfast

"No John she was alone. I'm am just glad I am understand enough to deal with things in the appropriate manner. After all we all have our reasons for being on here x

Ah I was only slagging. Each to their own x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aahh Glad to see that was resolved so amicably. If the two of ye meet be sure to post pics of yer happy coupling so we can all join in your joy.

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By *rishpleasureMan
over a year ago

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and had you sent you pic in advance? If not then you can understand the hesitance from the other side. ...

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By *urferniMan
over a year ago

Antrim

"Looking from a distance it seems like a storm in a d cup theres a few thing

First as top has said its his first time hosting and as a way of possible preventing peoples blushes he asked for a face pic nothing wrong with that it is his event

Second heels is verified and thinks why a face pic as she has no problem meeting people from vanilla land.

The problem being senient being lost in text

I suggest a coffee, kiss and make up for ye both

I'm Up for that, on here to have fun not argue, wires crossed sexyheels opologies

Hindsight is wonderful! You're doing a good job organising the m&g, and this is simply part of the learning curve.

Hope you can both get it fully resolved and have a good night at the party

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By *exyHeels13Woman
over a year ago

Belfast

"and had you sent you pic in advance? If not then you can understand the hesitance from the other side. ... "

No he hadn't x

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By *exyHeels13Woman
over a year ago

Belfast

"and had you sent you pic in advance? If not then you can understand the hesitance from the other side. ...

No he hadn't x "
It wasn't the fact that I was x asked for one either. It was the way I was asked. It suggested that my face picture would be the deciding factor as to if I got an invite or not.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"and had you sent you pic in advance? If not then you can understand the hesitance from the other side. ...

No he hadn't x It wasn't the fact that I was x asked for one either. It was the way I was asked. It suggested that my face picture would be the deciding factor as to if I got an invite or not."
sexyheels I stated to you it was nothing to do with your looks and the meet and greet wasn't all about me, why are you trying to slate me on here and make me out to be a shallow person??? Iv already opologised for asking for the picture

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By *exyHeels13Woman
over a year ago

Belfast

"and had you sent you pic in advance? If not then you can understand the hesitance from the other side. ...

No he hadn't x It wasn't the fact that I was x asked for one either. It was the way I was asked. It suggested that my face picture would be the deciding factor as to if I got an invite or not.sexyheels I stated to you it was nothing to do with your looks and the meet and greet wasn't all about me, why are you trying to slate me on here and make me out to be a shallow person??? Iv already opologised for asking for the picture "

Firstly I am not trying to slate you.You posted the thread ,not me! I am merely defending myself.

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By *llie and ApplesCouple
over a year ago

where ever

"and had you sent you pic in advance? If not then you can understand the hesitance from the other side. ...

No he hadn't x It wasn't the fact that I was x asked for one either. It was the way I was asked. It suggested that my face picture would be the deciding factor as to if I got an invite or not.sexyheels I stated to you it was nothing to do with your looks and the meet and greet wasn't all about me, why are you trying to slate me on here and make me out to be a shallow person??? Iv already opologised for asking for the picture

Firstly I am not trying to slate you.You posted the thread ,not me! I am merely defending myself. "
take it you no longer are wanting to be on the guest list so ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Iv already opologised for asking for the picture

Firstly I am not trying to slate you.You posted the thread ,not me! I am merely defending myself. "

So are you going or not?

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

"and had you sent you pic in advance? If not then you can understand the hesitance from the other side. ...

No he hadn't x It wasn't the fact that I was x asked for one either. It was the way I was asked. It suggested that my face picture would be the deciding factor as to if I got an invite or not.sexyheels I stated to you it was nothing to do with your looks and the meet and greet wasn't all about me, why are you trying to slate me on here and make me out to be a shallow person??? Iv already opologised for asking for the picture

Firstly I am not trying to slate you.You posted the thread ,not me! I am merely defending myself. "

Jayus get a room u two build a bridge and get over it

The lad has said its his first time orginizing and appologized he never mentioned who the second person was (u offered that info) he asked for advise and when he relised its was not a big a problem as he precived he tried to make right

Sort it in pm if ye like but it doesnt look good in public

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have Never been asked for a pic from any mandg our drinks meeting..but would have no problem giving one... We are all here to fun and beauty is in the eye of the beholder...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *avie tCouple
over a year ago

otherside of nowhere

Have to agree with sexyheels....if you are concerned with meeting ppl you know I don't think you should run or attend a meet and greet...but his choice to ask and hers not to give....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have Never been asked for a pic from any mandg our drinks meeting..but would have no problem giving one... We are all here to fun and beauty is in the eye of the beholder...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have to agree with sexyheels....if you are concerned with meeting ppl you know I don't think you should run or attend a meet and greet...but his choice to ask and hers not to give...."

I've been to many M&Gs and not once have I been asked for a face pic,

Or heard of people being asked.

Seems a little strange to me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Have to agree with sexyheels....if you are concerned with meeting ppl you know I don't think you should run or attend a meet and greet...but his choice to ask and hers not to give....

I've been to many M&Gs and not once have I been asked for a face pic,

Or heard of people being asked.

Seems a little strange to me

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Yes strange asking for a face picture, il say it once again, I opologise for asking for a face picture. I did not know it was forbidden on here when arranging a meet and greet. I hope everyone who has never been asked for a face pic to a meet and greet excepts my sincere opology

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got asked before for a face pic..I didn't feel comfortable sending it but arranged to meet the host at a m&g.

The host had no problem with this.

So I guess each host has there own ways of organising things..

I was verified also an no stranger to the party scene.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have to agree with sexyheels....if you are concerned with meeting ppl you know I don't think you should run or attend a meet and greet...but his choice to ask and hers not to give....

I've been to many M&Gs and not once have I been asked for a face pic,

Or heard of people being asked.

Seems a little strange to me

Yes strange asking for a face picture, il say it once again, I opologise for asking for a face picture. I did not know it was forbidden on here when arranging a meet and greet. I hope everyone who has never been asked for a face pic to a meet and greet excepts my sincere opology

No, it's not strange asking for a face pic,

but it is when asking for an invite to an M&G

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Have to agree with sexyheels....if you are concerned with meeting ppl you know I don't think you should run or attend a meet and greet...but his choice to ask and hers not to give....

I've been to many M&Gs and not once have I been asked for a face pic,

Or heard of people being asked.

Seems a little strange to me

No, it's not strange asking for a face pic,

but it is when asking for an invite to an M&G

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strange asking someone who lives in my area and who wants to go to my meet and greet for a picture? Catch yourself on nothing strange about it, I like my private life to be kept private

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have to agree with sexyheels....if you are concerned with meeting ppl you know I don't think you should run or attend a meet and greet...but his choice to ask and hers not to give....

I've been to many M&Gs and not once have I been asked for a face pic,

Or heard of people being asked.

Seems a little strange to me

No, it's not strange asking for a face pic,

but it is when asking for an invite to an M&G

strange asking someone who lives in my area and who wants to go to my meet and greet for a picture? Catch yourself on nothing strange about it, I like my private life to be kept private"

Maybe you should read what you wrote in your initial post!

You asked if you were wrong in asking for a face pic and you weren't sure if it's allowed to be asked or not!....

I merely added that it's strange to ask for one,

So maybe it's you who should 'catch yourself on', read your own post and maybe take on board others opinions or advice

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well advice taken. I obviously don't know how to arrange a meet and greet and thought I could. I opologise to everyone who I have offended. The meet and greet is cancelled. Maybe when I have a bit more knowledge on how they work and to never ask for a picture I will attempt another one sometime in the future. opologies to everyone who showed an interest but this malarkey isn't for me just at this minute. Call it throwing the toys out of the pram or whatever pot shots any others want to take I don't want to be on here to argue with people it's not my nature, thanks for the advice and hope this is the end of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't give up TC!

I don't think anyone was arguing with you mate.

At least you're willing to make that step and try and create something.

Look, this place can be frustrating at times whether it's advice or opinions, but put it all down to experience and hopefully your meet will still go ahead!

Onwards n upwards TC

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By *iktikiCouple
over a year ago

city centre

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By *exyHeels13Woman
over a year ago

Belfast

I wouldn't say i was offended to be asked for a picture, it was more the manner in which i was asked for it.

I also didn't care much for your reply either, when I simply pointed out to you, that I had never been asked for a picture before to attend a M&G. This I will not repeat, as I myself am not on here to argue.

As for living in the same area as you, I'm not sure where you got that from as the area I live in was never mentioned, other than the fact that it says Belfast on my profile.

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By *liceandraWoman
over a year ago

with the faries

"Well advice taken. I obviously don't know how to arrange a meet and greet and thought I could. I opologise to everyone who I have offended. The meet and greet is cancelled. Maybe when I have a bit more knowledge on how they work and to never ask for a picture I will attempt another one sometime in the future. opologies to everyone who showed an interest but this malarkey isn't for me just at this minute. Call it throwing the toys out of the pram or whatever pot shots any others want to take I don't want to be on here to argue with people it's not my nature, thanks for the advice and hope this is the end of it

I have been to meet and greets both on this site and another well known one. It really should be up to the person organising it. I personally like to know who I am chatting too and often ask for face pics. If I was organising a meet and greet I would have it as a stipulation as I would like to greet each person individualy, most people know me or have seen face pics of me and I liked that I was greeted by the host personally from recognition. As I said before the meet and greets on this site you did not have to have a face pic but be verified. The other site you had to have a face pic and be verified or you would not get an invite.

The other point I would like to make is reading a text or message is only interperated by your own mood at the time. Sexy shoes choose to take it as a enquiry of her looks where tomcat mearly ment it as a passing enquiry of recognition, mood can totally change a text meaning from positive to negative in some cases. Hopefully you will find the courage to plan another meet and great again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Look I think himself is being hard done by on this occasion - more wires crossed than anything.

As all hosters (not a real word) regularly state; their party their rules (this goes for women and couples predominantly as they host parties).

The only gripe here is a meet and greet is just that.......different strokes for different folks - so bodies, personality, attitudes to swinging should all be different among attendees. I agree with fem a pic should not be required for this.

The whole 'your in my area' notion shouldn't be an issue. If your here and it's a verified person your chatting to we would all hope and trust that discretion is a priority.

Having said all of the above I commend himself for making an effort to sort something when others (like me) don't.

A bit off the point but there are other parties (with 100+ attending) that demand face pics etc to even be considered for an invite.....again something the organiser is entitled to but all a bit too shallow for me. Luckily for me I don't do parties to date otherwise i might get a complex!

Just my tuppence worth.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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Have u ever been to a Meet and Greet before sounds like u havent maybe attend sum before trying to host one then u wont offend anyone .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lesson learned, move on now. Up and onwards!

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