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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

If you're chatting with someone who could be a potential meet do you/would you contact someone who has verified them to confirm if they are genuine etc?

I've never done it and just curious if others do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We wouldn't. Think it would be a bit stalkerish tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am sure some people do I prefer too take people as I see them and judge them myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends why... if i was doubting the person then maybe. But if i was doubting the person then i prob just wouldnt meet them at all..

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By *ohn MingoMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"We wouldn't. Think it would be a bit stalkerish tbh"

I agree, wouldnt do it myself.

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By *razy-CplCouple
over a year ago

and surrounding areas


"If you're chatting with someone who could be a potential meet do you/would you contact someone who has verified them to confirm if they are genuine etc?

I've never done it and just curious if others do."

never had to do it as we always go with our gut insticnt, also we dont put too much faith in veris here as according to all veris, everyone is amazing, they give the best blow jobs or are the most amazing with there hands and tongues oh and there deffo not to be missed. but if we seen a profile with a veri from someone we personally know , that we take seriously

mr crazy

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I am sure some people do I prefer too take people as I see them and judge them myself "

Me too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Plenty of people have contacted me about veris I gave etc so go for it if you are unsure

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By *illbillMan
over a year ago

dublin

From a single ladies point of view i think its sensible as we all know there is tons of creeps here

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By *oxic1998Woman
over a year ago

Belfast


"We wouldn't. Think it would be a bit stalkerish tbh

I agree, wouldnt do it myself."

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By *illbillMan
over a year ago

dublin

From a single ladies point of view i think its sensible as we all know there is tons of creeps here

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If you're chatting with someone who could be a potential meet do you/would you contact someone who has verified them to confirm if they are genuine etc?

I've never done it and just curious if others do.

never had to do it as we always go with our gut insticnt, also we dont put too much faith in veris here as according to all veris, everyone is amazing, they give the best blow jobs or are the most amazing with there hands and tongues oh and there deffo not to be missed. but if we seen a profile with a veri from someone we personally know , that we take seriously

mr crazy "

Haha I've never read a bad veri

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont contact them just trust my instinct

but that has been known to be off now and then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I never do it, if I'm doubting them what's the point in meeting? And it is a bit weird to be asking someone they met before. I think it's enough if they have genuine verifications

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town


"We wouldn't. Think it would be a bit stalkerish tbh"
i suppose you both would meet together so have each other would not class as stalkerish of someone asked but I go with gut feeling.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well some people leave misleading verifications on purpose. For example if a guy is a bit shy, a bit standoffish, a bit strange it will be ignored in his veri, but the veri will ignore it.

Some girls have also admitted leaving coded messages in verifications. Positive stuff that actually means you should steer clear.

There is also the fact that some guys have a lot of positive verifications and have done bad stuff. (women and couples too).

These bad things can range from sitting around after the meet bad mouthing the person they met (guys who meet in groups do this a lot about girls) all the way up to some stuff that is criminal.

How you should view verification: It's an indication that the person is actually the person in the photos. That's it.

Never use a verification to believe you will be safe with someone, to believe you will have a good time with them, or to believe you can trust them. Take care of your own fun/safety yourself, don't leave it in the hands of others especially others you don't even know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We wouldn't. Think it would be a bit stalkerish tbh"

Totally stalker ish! Would guarantee that you woukd never meet me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Well some people leave misleading verifications on purpose. For example if a guy is a bit shy, a bit standoffish, a bit strange it will be ignored in his veri, but the veri will ignore it.

Some girls have also admitted leaving coded messages in verifications. Positive stuff that actually means you should steer clear.

There is also the fact that some guys have a lot of positive verifications and have done bad stuff. (women and couples too).

These bad things can range from sitting around after the meet bad mouthing the person they met (guys who meet in groups do this a lot about girls) all the way up to some stuff that is criminal.

How you should view verification: It's an indication that the person is actually the person in the photos. That's it.

Never use a verification to believe you will be safe with someone, to believe you will have a good time with them, or to believe you can trust them. Take care of your own fun/safety yourself, don't leave it in the hands of others especially others you don't even know."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never heard of a coded verification as someone mentioned here.

If I know the girl personally who has left the verification I may ask her. But the very few times I did that the veris were balanced and they didn't try to hide anything.

I agree, we're all responsible for our own safety. I myself have left a great veri for someone who a few months later became a lunatic stalker. I blocked him to make sure that my verification can no longer be seen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've never heard of a coded verification as someone mentioned here.

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That's really very strange, You replied to a thread the other day that mentioned coded verifications in the first post.

So I assume you are saying you have a very bad memory, or don't read what you reply to properly and I am telling the truth? It kind of reads like you are implying I was telling lies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you guys need a private room?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've never heard of a coded verification as someone mentioned here.

That's really very strange, You replied to a thread the other day that mentioned coded verifications in the first post.

So I assume you are saying you have a very bad memory, or don't read what you reply to properly and I am telling the truth? It kind of reads like you are implying I was telling lies."

So all the options you give me are making me look really bad??? Oh jeez

I do have a bad memory that's true. But I don't believe I ever said there's an agreed code for verifications. Some May hint at something but I'm not aware that a specific phrase means something negative or whatever else.

I'm not part of a secret society either lol

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By *oughandCurvyCouple
over a year ago

galway

People have to remember aswell that everyone is different and have different tastes, what we find good company someone else might not. The same way some might have different views on what's acceptable behaviour and what isn't. For instance we met a guy and neither of us liked him or his attitude one bit but we know plenty of people that think he is the best thing since sliced bread so it goes to show that everyone is different!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you're chatting with someone who could be a potential meet do you/would you contact someone who has verified them to confirm if they are genuine etc?

I've never done it and just curious if others do."

We wouldn't but we do check if we know someone who has verified the person that's usually a good sign for us

E & J xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No I never do it, if I'm doubting them what's the point in meeting? And it is a bit weird to be asking someone they met before. I think it's enough if they have genuine verifications "

Agreed! I never would. If I have a niggling doubt about a person I wouldn't meet them and I'm certainly not gonna rely on someone else to sell them to me. Verifications should be taken with a pinch of salt. One persons mind blowing, multiple orgasmic, squirting, leg shaking sex marathon can be a mediocre meet for the next person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have contacted veris of single men in the past, purely for safety's sake.

I wouldn't consider it stalking at all, I haven't asked or wanted to know any details, just that he was is a decent guy.

That's just me though, safety first!

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By *heelofTimeCouple
over a year ago

Two Rivers


"People have to remember aswell that everyone is different and have different tastes, what we find good company someone else might not. The same way some might have different views on what's acceptable behaviour and what isn't. For instance we met a guy and neither of us liked him or his attitude one bit but we know plenty of people that think he is the best thing since sliced bread so it goes to show that everyone is different! "

We never listen to what others say, just as we got on or vice versa with people doesn't mean others will and same goes for what others have to say. There is only one way to judge and that is for yourself!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"People have to remember aswell that everyone is different and have different tastes, what we find good company someone else might not. The same way some might have different views on what's acceptable behaviour and what isn't. For instance we met a guy and neither of us liked him or his attitude one bit but we know plenty of people that think he is the best thing since sliced bread so it goes to show that everyone is different!

We never listen to what others say, just as we got on or vice versa with people doesn't mean others will and same goes for what others have to say. There is only one way to judge and that is for yourself!"

Agreed!! I listened once and got stung won't happen again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perceptions to people on here is or can be completely different to meeting them in person.

Think its all down to yourself an what your looking for or wanting..personality is they key

Not everyone is going to be everyone's cuppa taè! !

Just my tuppence worth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd never email a friend of a meet. My relationship is with the person I'm meeting not a veri of theirs and I'd make up my own mind.

I have, however, been mailed myself...to be insulted by someone one of my friends decided not to see any more although it had nothing to do with me. Nowt as queer as folk is there?

Pmsl

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By *ohn MingoMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"I have contacted veris of single men in the past, purely for safety's sake.

I wouldn't consider it stalking at all, I haven't asked or wanted to know any details, just that he was is a decent guy.

That's just me though, safety first! "

I agree, but as a single guy I wouldn't do it. There is a double standard but I think in this situation its justifiable.

I see my veris as a means for poeple to want to contact me/view my profile with some credibility/not dismiss any mails I may send. To get my foot in the door and be taken seriously. After that its up to me the person as opposed to the profile to get me further. I can only be myself and if people want to have fun with me, great. If not, no harm, no foul.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the only time i would ever ask is if someone i know personally and pretty well at that has met them otherwise I use my gut instinct and go with it. Luckily my judgement has been fairly well with one or two exceptions so far

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By *ohn MingoMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"the only time i would ever ask is if someone i know personally and pretty well at that has met them otherwise I use my gut instinct and go with it. Luckily my judgement has been fairly well with one or two exceptions so far"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"the only time i would ever ask is if someone i know personally and pretty well at that has met them otherwise I use my gut instinct and go with it. Luckily my judgement has been fairly well with one or two exceptions so far"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have contacted veris of single men in the past, purely for safety's sake.

I wouldn't consider it stalking at all, I haven't asked or wanted to know any details, just that he was is a decent guy.

That's just me though, safety first!

I agree, but as a single guy I wouldn't do it. There is a double standard but I think in this situation its justifiable.

I see my veris as a means for poeple to want to contact me/view my profile with some credibility/not dismiss any mails I may send. To get my foot in the door and be taken seriously. After that its up to me the person as opposed to the profile to get me further. I can only be myself and if people want to have fun with me, great. If not, no harm, no foul."

Yup that makes perfect sense to me.

And when we are meeting as a couple I certainly wouldn't be contacting veris as it's a much safer scenario for me personally, as we are together. There's a lot of trust involved as a woman alone in a hotel room with someone she may not know well when you think about it.

And as far as that 'click' between two people goes, everyone here knows that one persons trash can be someone else's treasure so that side of it is certainly pretty fooking subjective!

Great fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've done it in the past and see no harm in it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"the only time i would ever ask is if someone i know personally and pretty well at that has met them otherwise I use my gut instinct and go with it. Luckily my judgement has been fairly well with one or two exceptions so far"

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