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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi guys,

Was wondering do most ladies actively check random profiles and if so, will message single men or do they scroll through the numerous messages they get and take it from there.

The reason I ask is I rarely message nowadays as more often than not the message just gets lost in the 100's they receive. If most women don't message first, I'm probably just wasting my time on here now lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can couples answer this too?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im guilty of seen the message but ill check out this persons page first before i answer...nothin worse than txtn back n forth and 20 txt later u read wont meet smokers lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it true what he is saying

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Sorry I should have stated it's obviously open for anyone to give their opinions. I would love to hear your thoughts lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't message guys cuz I don't really meet single guys only exceptional circumstances couples are my thing but I do nosey at random profiles !!! Know us girls like have to be nosey lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have mailed one or two people out of curiosity and ended up being friendly with them. A lot of guys look but never mail. I still think Ms.innocent or myself scare them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't message guys cuz I don't really meet single guys only exceptional circumstances couples are my thing but I do nosey at random profiles !!! Know us girls like have to be nosey lol "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think its yous guys a scared of its rejection which we get a lot of well I do anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i dont generally mail guys if im interested I'll send them a wink, sometimes they message but others times they wont. Least it shows Im interested and if I'm what they like then they know that Im happy to chat if they want

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if a guys profile catches my eye I'll mail them ... Sure why not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we'd normally wink at single guys profiles we're interested in but occasionally message them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the feedback ladies & Gents I shall remain thee eternal optimist on here

I agree, winks to single guys is a good way for ladies, couples etc to show interest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Iv msgd guys in the past if there profile caught my eye also and also send the occasional wink ..

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By *ohn MingoMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"We have mailed one or two people out of curiosity and ended up being friendly with them. A lot of guys look but never mail. I still think Ms.innocent or myself scare them. "

You don't scare me!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mingo admit it your really the devil and it was a costume you were wearing last week

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have mailed one or two people out of curiosity and ended up being friendly with them. A lot of guys look but never mail. I still think Ms.innocent or myself scare them.

You don't scare me!!!"

I see what did there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have started messaging people I have been having the craic with on the forums and its working out good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*wasn't

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By *illow1972Man
over a year ago

Naas

I get tonnes and tonnes and tonnes of messages and winks and all kinds of everything here.

So stick with it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I get tonnes and tonnes and tonnes of messages and winks and all kinds of everything here.

So stick with it."

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By *ohn MingoMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"Mingo admit it your really the devil and it was a costume you were wearing last week "

The horns come out on occasions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get tonnes and tonnes and tonnes of messages and winks and all kinds of everything here.

So stick with it."

It's terrible when that happens

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive found all things happen on here and how you deal with it can sometimes simply come down to whether you are chatting people actively or looking new contacts, but I always try to reply to winks, fabs, or if I see people consistently appearing on my looked at page...think..as a single male if ya don't put a fair bit of effort in you will get nowhere

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive found all things happen on here and how you deal with it can sometimes simply come down to whether you are chatting people actively or looking new contacts, but I always try to reply to winks, fabs, or if I see people consistently appearing on my looked at page...think..as a single male if ya don't put a fair bit of effort in you will get nowhere "

It works the same for couples ,probably a bit easier than single males but we still have to put an effort in.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ive found all things happen on here and how you deal with it can sometimes simply come down to whether you are chatting people actively or looking new contacts, but I always try to reply to winks, fabs, or if I see people consistently appearing on my looked at page...think..as a single male if ya don't put a fair bit of effort in you will get nowhere

It works the same for couples ,probably a bit easier than single males but we still have to put an effort in."

Don't get me wrong, I've been here for over a year and have put the effort in but it's like anything it can get very monotenous. I'm like the majority on here and just would like a meet now and again but the thought of trawling through loads of profiles messaging for say a lucky break doesn't appeal, hence why I'm asking do ladies message first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive found all things happen on here and how you deal with it can sometimes simply come down to whether you are chatting people actively or looking new contacts, but I always try to reply to winks, fabs, or if I see people consistently appearing on my looked at page...think..as a single male if ya don't put a fair bit of effort in you will get nowhere

It works the same for couples ,probably a bit easier than single males but we still have to put an effort in.

Don't get me wrong, I've been here for over a year and have put the effort in but it's like anything it can get very monotenous. I'm like the majority on here and just would like a meet now and again but the thought of trawling through loads of profiles messaging for say a lucky break doesn't appeal, hence why I'm asking do ladies message first "

Word of warning pal, feeling sorry for yourself is a major turn off...sympathy from the ladies wont get you an invite into their bed

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ive found all things happen on here and how you deal with it can sometimes simply come down to whether you are chatting people actively or looking new contacts, but I always try to reply to winks, fabs, or if I see people consistently appearing on my looked at page...think..as a single male if ya don't put a fair bit of effort in you will get nowhere

It works the same for couples ,probably a bit easier than single males but we still have to put an effort in.

Don't get me wrong, I've been here for over a year and have put the effort in but it's like anything it can get very monotenous. I'm like the majority on here and just would like a meet now and again but the thought of trawling through loads of profiles messaging for say a lucky break doesn't appeal, hence why I'm asking do ladies message first

Word of warning pal, feeling sorry for yourself is a major turn off...sympathy from the ladies wont get you an invite into their bed"

Good point as reading back it sounds like it for sure. Thanks for being honest bud, positive thinking from now on

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By *ecretly seductiveWoman
over a year ago

Palookaville

If a profile catches my eye I have no problem sending a message to a guy. ... But I wouldn't go looking through profiles to find a guy tbh...I find it is better to chat in the forums and if I kinda think someone comes across as decent etc and I like their profile i have no problem in saying so....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I put in little to no effort contacting people any more. I didn't even like sending hello messages that got ignored.

If a girl winks at me or fabs photos I will flip often not message them. The reason guys only need to get 10 fabs to get to the top of the guys on her is cause women cant fab guys photos without him jumping over the table and raping them with cock photos.

So when people wink me or fab a photo, I just take it as a cheeky "you look cute" and get on with things. If they want to chat they can send a message.

I'm always happy to get messages.

Also, Im not a girl, but most people contact m after seeing me on cam, or chatting in room, or reading a post, so being active is the main thing I guess.

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By *imwildWoman
over a year ago

around

It is refreshing to read a thread like this and the op taking on board advice and comments made, in a positive way.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It is refreshing to read a thread like this and the op taking on board advice and comments made, in a positive way. "

Thank you Kim for the nice comment. I've been reading the forums for the last couple of day's and saw there are a lot of good people on here, yourself included and it gave me the encourgement to ask. Thanks again that was nice to read

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If a profile catches my eye I have no problem sending a message to a guy. ... But I wouldn't go looking through profiles to find a guy tbh...I find it is better to chat in the forums and if I kinda think someone comes across as decent etc and I like their profile i have no problem in saying so.... "

That's good to know as some people can think there's a 'friends click' or whatever and think it's hard to get involved, I'll be honest and was thinking that but the more I read I could clearly see that is far from the case and it's up to the individual to get themselves involved. Thanks for the feedback. BTW may I say you do have legs that go on forever Phoarwwwwwwww

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