FabSwingers.com forum: married vs attached vs divorced vs separated vs...

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Alright, I am gonna ask this publicly, because its been bugging me and I dont really understand how each of the statements is percieved in the Irish circles. I mean, we all speak English, but sometimes I feel like I am speaking Chinese.

So, how would ye Irish folk call my situation:

* married - because the law wont let us get divorced so easily

* have a kid - we take care of it

* live under the same roof - cause of kid and financial aspects of the situation

* no intimacy or common interest

* so basically living like flat sharers that take care of the kid they had toghether.

* so she does her own thing, I do my own thing

So do I call myself married, attached, separated, screwed, cursed, or what?!

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By *razy-CplCouple
over a year ago

and surrounding areas

are u having sex and sleep in same bed

mrs crazy

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

oh well... there have been a few (as in less then 5) slip ups due to... various circumstances (familiarity, living together, too much partying) but otherwise no, separate beds & no intimacy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd class you as attached. Attached for me is separated but still living together.

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By *razy-CplCouple
over a year ago

and surrounding areas

"oh well... there have been a few (as in less then 5) slip ups due to... various circumstances (familiarity, living together, too much partying) but otherwise no, separate beds & no intimacy."

if ur married ur married, unless ur like me and have a legal seperation or are divorced.

mr crazy

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By *imwildWoman
over a year ago

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"Alright, I am gonna ask this publicly, because its been bugging me and I dont really understand how each of the statements is percieved in the Irish circles. I mean, we all speak English, but sometimes I feel like I am speaking Chinese.

So, how would ye Irish folk call my situation:

* married - because the law wont let us get divorced so easily

* have a kid - we take care of it

* live under the same roof - cause of kid and financial aspects of the situation

* no intimacy or common interest

* so basically living like flat sharers that take care of the kid they had toghether.

* so she does her own thing, I do my own thing

So do I call myself married, attached, separated, screwed, cursed, or what?!

"
as fb would say: its complicated!!

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By *urfdudeMan
over a year ago

WEXFORD

You are not really single so therefore fall in the attached category I think.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

sooo theeen... call it open marriage?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"sooo theeen... call it open marriage?!"

could really only say open marriage if ur other half knows that u have sex with others. If she is unaware then its hardly an open marriage.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Open marriage would be two happily married people letting each other be free to court/date other people.

It would imply the marriage was okay.

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By *ingerrrrWoman
over a year ago

Meath

Open marriage gives the impression you're still together.

I live with a man that's my best bud, we don't have sex EVER. I've no intention of leaving, we get on really well. We just don't have sex.

He turns a blind eye to what I do and I respect him by not flaunting it.

I have attached on my profile (we're not married )

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

so WTF is it when two are married but don't have sex, don't really care if they are having sex with someone else, and don't even want to know/not interested/don't care?

there seems to be a name for just about any other combination

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By *cjoyCouple
over a year ago

Galway

You can be whatever you choose to call yourself..... Unfortunately, you have no control over how others will see you.

Complicated situations like this are very difficult to explain and I have no doubt difficult to live with.

Miss Mcjoy

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You can be whatever you choose to call yourself..... Unfortunately, you have no control over how others will see you.

Complicated situations like this are very difficult to explain and I have no doubt difficult to live with.

Miss Mcjoy

I'll just put "its complicated" or "haven't got a clue"

So, knowing what you, the audience, know about me now, would you classify me as a single guy, married cheating guy, attached guy, etc?

Would you consider meeting, or not?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You can be whatever you choose to call yourself..... Unfortunately, you have no control over how others will see you.

Complicated situations like this are very difficult to explain and I have no doubt difficult to live with.

Miss Mcjoy

I'll just put "its complicated" or "haven't got a clue"

So, knowing what you, the audience, know about me now, would you classify me as a single guy, married cheating guy, attached guy, etc?

Would you consider meeting, or not?"

that is going to be up to each individual u approach. For some it will not influence their decision whatsoever,but for others it will. You need to please urself I guess and go with ur gut instinct. Personally I think u will find that honesty is appreciated. While it may nit always guarantee u get a meet it will get u the respect of the people who value transparency and honesty

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

been honest so far

could have lied at any point in time and not have this forum thread

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By *cjoyCouple
over a year ago

Galway

"You can be whatever you choose to call yourself..... Unfortunately, you have no control over how others will see you.

Complicated situations like this are very difficult to explain and I have no doubt difficult to live with.

Miss Mcjoy

I'll just put "its complicated" or "haven't got a clue"

So, knowing what you, the audience, know about me now, would you classify me as a single guy, married cheating guy, attached guy, etc?

Would you consider meeting, or not?"

Going only on the information I have Im sorry but no I wouldn't be able to meet you.

I'm sure there are loads of people here who's take on it all would be very different to mine.

Miss Mcjoy

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By *cjoyCouple
over a year ago

Galway

"You can be whatever you choose to call yourself..... Unfortunately, you have no control over how others will see you.

Complicated situations like this are very difficult to explain and I have no doubt difficult to live with.

Miss Mcjoy

I'll just put "its complicated" or "haven't got a clue"

So, knowing what you, the audience, know about me now, would you classify me as a single guy, married cheating guy, attached guy, etc?

Would you consider meeting, or not?

Totally agree, your chances are so much better given the fact that you are honest about all of this.

Miss Mcjoy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"been honest so far

could have lied at any point in time and not have this forum thread

and trust me that would stand to make u a trustworthy person. As I said it may or may not earn u a meet but u will have a reputation for being honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So, how would ye Irish folk call my situation:

* married - because the law wont let us get divorced so easily

* have a kid - we take care of it

* live under the same roof - cause of kid and financial aspects of the situation

* no intimacy or common interest

* so basically living like flat sharers that take care of the kid they had toghether.

* so she does her own thing, I do my own thing

So do I call myself married, attached, separated, screwed, cursed, or what?!

In the eyes of the law you're still married because you're not divorced, the fact you're still living with your wife means you're not separated! If you weren't married but in a relationship with somebody and living with them you'd be attached!

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By *obbie65Man
over a year ago

kildare

"been honest so far

could have lied at any point in time and not have this forum thread

and trust me that would stand to make u a trustworthy person. As I said it may or may not earn u a meet but u will have a reputation for being honest."

I wonder which of them he would prefer - a reputation for honesty or a few meets!

Legally - you are married. Emotionally and sexually - I suppose separated. Don't really know where that leaves you.

Who knows what goes on in a marriage apart from the two - and even they can have different views on whether its good or OK.

And yeah - honesty is important.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh have been there lived in tat situation for 4 years and it is horrible I am now legally separated awaiting divorce so unfortunately u are classed as married but if she's doing her own thing u are entitled to do yours staying together for a child doesn't work best of luck

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