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By *lwaysforfun OP   Man
over a year ago

Swingerstown

Why do some people insist on being rude and ignorant where it costs nothing to be nice. And you get so much back in return.

I know that some people cannot take no for an answer but is it not better to rise above their ignorance?

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By *ingerrrrWoman
over a year ago

Meath

Agreed...

I try to be polite in saying not interested but some keep going.. But why not..

Trying to convince a woman to meet in my opinion doesn't work..

Just move on..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Agreed...

I try to be polite in saying not interested but some keep going.. But why not..

Trying to convince a woman to meet in my opinion doesn't work..

Just move on.."

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By *lwaysforfun OP   Man
over a year ago

Swingerstown


"Agreed...

I try to be polite in saying not interested but some keep going.. But why not..

Trying to convince a woman to meet in my opinion doesn't work..

Just move on.."

Your right if she's not interested, a guy should just take it on the chin, wish her best of luck fabbing and move on.

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By *cjoyCouple
over a year ago

Galway

We have always been very careful not to be rude to anyone. We reply to almost all messages regardless of who they are from.

That being said......we have also been incredibly lucky nit to encounter anything too bad here thankfully.

Miss Mcjoy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It doesn't cost anything to be nice.very true. But in my opinion that doesn't happen very often. Send a message and u don't get a reply . Then u find u are blocked. Lol. It is so hard to reply and say sorry,not interested?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The way i see it if a person says no their loss move on rise above it loads of more sexy beautiful ladys on here tp chat to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No truer words said.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree it costs nothing to say not interested but thanks for the message and happy swinging I'd only block someone if they became annoying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yea why be rude..like if ur a straight man but ur tellin me u wanna lick my juice of my mans stick..but i say "meh no ur alright pal..Move on dude ok im watchin Eastenders...rant over pheww

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

don't take a non reply as them being rude. I don't think I'm a rude person but I don't read most of the emails I get. I see the first line of the email and if it's normal enough (no tits, pussy, fuck in the first line) I have a look at the profile - if the profile doesn't interest me or is not within my preferences, I won't even open the email.

I have email filters on, so I won't use the excuse that I get 100s of emails. But I can't make the time to reply to every email.

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town

I'm terrible for replying too I'm not rude but I am bad for replying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just delete without replying mostly. What do i care? Its not like theres a shortage of men on here. The mails keep coming. Most messages are illegible text speak rubbish anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One guy that I met for coffee that I wasn't interested in,said he would keep an eye open for me around town! just being polite about it just didn't seem to work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Agree it costs nothing to say not interested but thanks for the message and happy swinging I'd only block someone if they became annoying "

We reply to most messages even if its to say thanks but no thanks, its nice to be nice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One guy that I met for coffee that I wasn't interested in,said he would keep an eye open for me around town! just being polite about it just didn't seem to work"

Thats bordering on creepy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One guy that I met for coffee that I wasn't interested in,said he would keep an eye open for me around town! just being polite about it just didn't seem to work

Thats bordering on creepy. "
he was. Thats why I wouldn't see him again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is nice to be nice but after four or five messages asking to meet it gets a bit tedious, I try not to block people but sometimes it's a must... It's nice to be nice but it would also be nice if some men took the first no as exactly that instead of thinking ah she'll change her mind!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Manners and respect cost nothing

And are free to use.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Manners and respect cost nothing

And are free to use.

"

They cost my time. Which I am not going to waste on idiots.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Manners and respect cost nothing

And are free to use.

They cost my time. Which I am not going to waste on idiots. "
lol a straight talking lady! I like!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Manners and respect cost nothing

And are free to use.

They cost my time. Which I am not going to waste on idiots. "

I ment that people should use the manners they were born with.

Treat others the way you wanted to be treated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Manners and respect cost nothing

And are free to use.

They cost my time. Which I am not going to waste on idiots. "

hahaha love it!

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By *ig A300Man
over a year ago

North. love to chat please.

As I always say.

Treat people the same way as you want to be treated with respect.

I do understand all the comments made but I do think if male or female takes the time to read your profile and send you a message. You should reply. If he or she gets rude or abusive after reply then block them that's what the block user is for . That's my opinion.

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By *oughandCurvyCouple
over a year ago

galway

I was only thinking about posting a thread along similar lines myself. We try not to be rude but some of the messaged we get are real beauts from people who don't read the profile and are using so much text speak that we don't even understand. So is it best to say nothing and delete the message? Reply with a simple No thanks not interested or actually explain why they are a no or why we found their message so offensive? We've done all 3 but I don't know if any of it went down well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do some people insist on being rude and ignorant where it costs nothing to be nice. And you get so much back in return.

I know that some people cannot take no for an answer but is it not better to rise above their ignorance?"

Their loss! That don't know what their missing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One guy that I met for coffee that I wasn't interested in,said he would keep an eye open for me around town! just being polite about it just didn't seem to work"
Was he born with just one eye or was it an accident?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I know I'd rather be told to feck off you're not what we're looking for than to be just ignored. At least acknowledge my existence anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Agree it costs nothing to say not interested but thanks for the message and happy swinging I'd only block someone if they became annoying

We reply to most messages even if its to say thanks but no thanks, its nice to be nice "

Us too

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By *oughandCurvyCouple
over a year ago

galway


"Agree it costs nothing to say not interested but thanks for the message and happy swinging I'd only block someone if they became annoying

We reply to most messages even if its to say thanks but no thanks, its nice to be nice

Us too "

Even to the "I'd love a go of that ass" ones??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had on yest in chat room i told him he wasnt my type but oh no just wouldnt go away so then i had to b rude when u try to b nice they still dont get it

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By *ecretly seductiveWoman
over a year ago

Palookaville


"don't take a non reply as them being rude. I don't think I'm a rude person but I don't read most of the emails I get. I see the first line of the email and if it's normal enough (no tits, pussy, fuck in the first line) I have a look at the profile - if the profile doesn't interest me or is not within my preferences, I won't even open the email.

I have email filters on, so I won't use the excuse that I get 100s of emails. But I can't make the time to reply to every email. "

Same here..I do try usually to reply but often is as above. ... It's also does say in the guidelines that this is a way of expressing non interest and it's says on my profile for those who read it but often is simply down to time and numbers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ladies If you want to stop guys pestering you the solution is simple. Post a facepic!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ladies If you want to stop guys pestering you the solution is simple. Post a facepic!"

Oh no you didn't!!

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By *ecretly seductiveWoman
over a year ago

Palookaville


"Ladies If you want to stop guys pestering you the solution is simple. Post a facepic!"

ooooo! Maybe you should take your own advice?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I shouldn't have..but...sur I love to stir. And it is Halloween.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *oughandCurvyCouple
over a year ago

galway


"Ladies If you want to stop guys pestering you the solution is simple. Post a facepic!

Oh no you didn't!!"

Why do we have to be pestered in the first place, why can't our pics attract messages that are polite and non pushy? Or does it not work that way?

Can't believe you went there!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's bad enough with some of the creepy weirdos on here without them knowing what I actually look like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He is right sum times it works ask the guy for face pix he tells u sob story his married lol so he does disappear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hhmmmm Am thinkin....maybe a post too far. But, it did seem funny at the time. Impulsiveness can get you into loads of trouble but its definitely interesting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hhmmmm Am thinkin....maybe a post too far. But, it did seem funny at the time. Impulsiveness can get you into loads of trouble but its definitely interesting."

anything for attention eh, sure god loves a trier, dunno about anyone else though

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By *oughandCurvyCouple
over a year ago

galway

For research purposes I just tried my first "thanks for the message but not interested" reply we got blocked so it seems the end result is the same but being the blocker is quicker lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For research purposes I just tried my first "thanks for the message but not interested" reply we got blocked so it seems the end result is the same but being the blocker is quicker lol "

I used to reply to everyone with a nice thanks but not thanks sort of message. I have to say I didn't get any abuse from it, most of the time they thanked me for replying and wished me well.

I wish there was a quick reply button, this could save time.

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By *oughandCurvyCouple
over a year ago

galway


"For research purposes I just tried my first "thanks for the message but not interested" reply we got blocked so it seems the end result is the same but being the blocker is quicker lol

I used to reply to everyone with a nice thanks but not thanks sort of message. I have to say I didn't get any abuse from it, most of the time they thanked me for replying and wished me well.

I wish there was a quick reply button, this could save time. "

Yes an auto response would be very useful indeed!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Manners and respect cost nothing

And are free to use.

They cost my time. Which I am not going to waste on idiots. "

This ^^^

I don't get the 'it's always nice to have manners' thing.

Is there a rule book somewhere that states "you should always reply to a mail, even if it's a no thank you"...

Some people won't even accept that.

In my books, a non reply IS a mannerly way of saying "no thank you"....

I mean, it could be worse!

"Euwwww the head on you, you look like a bulldog chewing a wasp!" is still a reply!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

"Euwwww the head on you, you look like a bulldog chewing a wasp!" is still a reply!

"

Thanks for that Foo, I'm still crying after you replied to me like this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

"Euwwww the head on you, you look like a bulldog chewing a wasp!" is still a reply!

Thanks for that Foo, I'm still crying after you replied to me like this "

PMSL!!

Nope, it was the other way around whispers....

A wasp chewing a bulldog!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For research purposes I just tried my first "thanks for the message but not interested" reply we got blocked so it seems the end result is the same but being the blocker is quicker lol

I used to reply to everyone with a nice thanks but not thanks sort of message. I have to say I didn't get any abuse from it, most of the time they thanked me for replying and wished me well.

I wish there was a quick reply button, this could save time. "

We always try to respond politely, unless its the one liners, or someone that we've said no thanks to a couple of times already. Very rarely get abuse, then again we are fairly liberal with the block button, so we don't get abuse for long

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

"Euwwww the head on you, you look like a bulldog chewing a wasp!" is still a reply!

Thanks for that Foo, I'm still crying after you replied to me like this

PMSL!!

Nope, it was the other way around whispers....

A wasp chewing a bulldog! "

I'd chew your balls off for sure!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

"Euwwww the head on you, you look like a bulldog chewing a wasp!" is still a reply!

Thanks for that Foo, I'm still crying after you replied to me like this

PMSL!!

Nope, it was the other way around whispers....

A wasp chewing a bulldog!

I'd chew your balls off for sure! "

Woof!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I'd chew your balls off for sure!

Woof! "

more like

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By *imwildWoman
over a year ago

around


"

"Euwwww the head on you, you look like a bulldog chewing a wasp!" is still a reply!

Thanks for that Foo, I'm still crying after you replied to me like this "

He must copy and paste that one..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just delete without replying mostly. What do i care? Its not like theres a shortage of men on here. The mails keep coming. Most messages are illegible text speak rubbish anyway. "
that's the point of the post. Why be rude in the first place, don't get me wrong if someone if rude to me I'll hit back just as hard, to make remarks like no shortage of men and in other messages in this post like idiots clearly your not a people person

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By *0shadesofashWoman
over a year ago

DUBLIN

Only messages I don't responde to is hi or hey or what has ya on here FUCK off apart from that I'll always answer nicely

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

Meh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just delete without replying mostly. What do i care? Its not like theres a shortage of men on here. The mails keep coming. Most messages are illegible text speak rubbish anyway. that's the point of the post. Why be rude in the first place, don't get me wrong if someone if rude to me I'll hit back just as hard, to make remarks like no shortage of men and in other messages in this post like idiots clearly your not a people person "

I'm not a people person. And definitely not a cheating married prick person.

Thanks for your post. Much appreciated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Meh "

I thought the word today is "Moooooo"

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan


"Meh

I thought the word today is "Moooooo""

That's bull!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Meh

I thought the word today is "Moooooo""

Or even Boooooooo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just delete without replying mostly. What do i care? Its not like theres a shortage of men on here. The mails keep coming. Most messages are illegible text speak rubbish anyway. that's the point of the post. Why be rude in the first place, don't get me wrong if someone if rude to me I'll hit back just as hard, to make remarks like no shortage of men and in other messages in this post like idiots clearly your not a people person

I'm not a people person. And definitely not a cheating married prick person.

Thanks for your post. Much appreciated. "
charming your such a classy person a real lady hummmm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What makes folk think that coming on a site like this will have folk behave any differently from day to day life.

swingers are just like everyone about you,some rude,some ignorant,some ghastly but by n large mostly a decent sort.bleating that someone was deemed rude isn't going to change things,any more than standing in the middle of your local high street n giving off coz someone didn't return yr cheery hello.

that just makes you the nutter everyone crosses the street to avoid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What makes folk think that coming on a site like this will have folk behave any differently from day to day life.

swingers are just like everyone about you,some rude,some ignorant,some ghastly but by n large mostly a decent sort.bleating that someone was deemed rude isn't going to change things,any more than standing in the middle of your local high street n giving off coz someone didn't return yr cheery hello.

that just makes you the nutter everyone crosses the street to avoid.

"

So true. Live and let live and if necessary ignore.

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By *illow1972Man
over a year ago

Naas

I'm nice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just delete without replying mostly. What do i care? Its not like theres a shortage of men on here. The mails keep coming. Most messages are illegible text speak rubbish anyway. that's the point of the post. Why be rude in the first place, don't get me wrong if someone if rude to me I'll hit back just as hard, to make remarks like no shortage of men and in other messages in this post like idiots clearly your not a people person

I'm not a people person. And definitely not a cheating married prick person.

Thanks for your post. Much appreciated. charming your such a classy person a real lady hummmm "

ooo so bitchy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest it's nice to be nice karma is the way.

Being a single men and not really a picture i don't get many replies from messages but getting one bk saying sorry not interested or not Wat looking for is nice as you put the effort in to message some one

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By *ecretly seductiveWoman
over a year ago

Palookaville


"

"Euwwww the head on you, you look like a bulldog chewing a wasp!" is still a reply!

Thanks for that Foo, I'm still crying after you replied to me like this

He must copy and paste that one.. "

thought it was just me

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