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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have recently found myself in a relationship with a man I met off here...

I'm just wondering what people's opinions are on this?

We both still have our single profiles and i don't plan on making a couples profile!

Would you ever date someone you met off here?

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town

I hope It goes well for you.

If both happy that give it a go .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it works that's what its about, and if your moral belief remains set in stone in the fact that you believe in the encouragement of non monogamy relationship, then yea it works, it also comes down to what turns you on when it comes to strengthening this, its like finding a best friend whos good between the sheets

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Don't get me wrong we are both monogamous we just love the social side of fab, we are both regular forum users and I love the chat rooms, do you think monogamy can work on a site like this?

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By *aid backMan
over a year ago

by a lake with my rod out

i think they can work yes but it does take a lot more to make them work than say a "normal" relationship communication is the key to making it work esp if there is a distance to over come or any other issue that may arise

oh and congrats and i hope you to make a good run at at

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"i think they can work yes but it does take a lot more to make them work than say a "normal" relationship communication is the key to making it work esp if there is a distance to over come or any other issue that may arise

oh and congrats and i hope you to make a good run at at "

Thanks laid honey! Distance is the big thing atm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I honestly don't think so. Eventually temptation will come calling. Unneccesary temptation, maybe?

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By *avie tCouple
over a year ago

otherside of nowhere

As long as you are both clear on what's expected and you are both here for chatting and not meeting....but saying that I think you should both leave fab to give it a chance

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By *weet threesome wifeCouple
over a year ago

somewhere out there

We met 8 years ago on aff a year few months later meeting as a couple but just fuck buddies 6 months after that exclusive but still loved the buzz of here but no going behind backs. 18 months livings together and almost 6 years ago married so nothing wrong in that. And we are very happy as people here that know us and in out normal world will tell you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's all about trust and well when you find someone no matter where you find them as long as you know the feelings are true and I know they are. Being on fab even if there is temptation doesn't matter. If it's worth it you will always hold on tight. I know for sure I will hold on

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think it's all about trust and well when you find someone no matter where you find them as long as you know the feelings are true and I know they are. Being on fab even if there is temptation doesn't matter. If it's worth it you will always hold on tight. I know for sure I will hold on "

Of course it's about trust, when you meet that someone, I honestly don't think about sleeping with anyone else! I'm only here to talk to friends that I have made!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are ye exclusive?

Do ye meet people here still?

From what I've seen here, it always goes PEAR SHAPED.

Trust issues (believe it or not)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Are ye exclusive?

Do ye meet people here still?

From what I've seen here, it always goes PEAR SHAPED.

Trust issues (believe it or not)

"

We are exclusive and not meeting anyone!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are ye exclusive?

Do ye meet people here still?

From what I've seen here, it always goes PEAR SHAPED.

Trust issues (believe it or not)

We are exclusive and not meeting anyone!"

xxx very good. All the best

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are ye exclusive?

Do ye meet people here still?

From what I've seen here, it always goes PEAR SHAPED.

Trust issues (believe it or not)

We are exclusive and not meeting anyone!"

Yes we are and well both have made friends here so why not stay on. Not all about fab is about meeting

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Are ye exclusive?

Do ye meet people here still?

From what I've seen here, it always goes PEAR SHAPED.

Trust issues (believe it or not)

We are exclusive and not meeting anyone!

xxx very good. All the best "

Thanks DTG

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good luck hun....

If it is what you both want then it can work if your willing to put up with the distance and the distance isn't everything if your happy go with it. I honestly wish you the best my dear

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Good luck hun....

If it is what you both want then it can work if your willing to put up with the distance and the distance isn't everything if your happy go with it. I honestly wish you the best my dear "

Thanks tuna! x

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By *auraxxWoman
over a year ago

east

SWit Swoo Katie! Happy to hear it! I wish you the best of luck.....and I agree witht he fact that communication is key but that is the key in any relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope.

I think it's been proven time and time again here that relationships /exclusivity etc don't work on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good luck hun....

If it is what you both want then it can work if your willing to put up with the distance and the distance isn't everything if your happy go with it. I honestly wish you the best my dear

Thanks tuna! x"

Xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Nope.

I think it's been proven time and time again here that relationships /exclusivity etc don't work on here.

"

Maybe the people just didn't work enough at it for it to work!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nope.

I think it's been proven time and time again here that relationships /exclusivity etc don't work on here.

"

I'm sorry I have to agree with lady stardust. ...

someone else suggested keeping your profiles anyway and still network. . and god forbid you split you'll still have your page.

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By *avie tCouple
over a year ago

otherside of nowhere

Really can't understand why anyone would be on a swing site if they were monogamist.... Bit like Mr Davie t and I saying we were only going to shag each other.....maybe its me but I just don't get it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nope.

I think it's been proven time and time again here that relationships /exclusivity etc don't work on here.

Maybe the people just didn't work enough at it for it to work! "

Sometimes it's just not meant to be, doesn't mean they didn't work at it..

but yes if worked at hard enough I'm sure it will work for you guy's

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have recently found myself in a relationship with a man I met off here...

I'm just wondering what people's opinions are on this?

We both still have our single profiles and i don't plan on making a couples profile!

Would you ever date someone you met. off here? "

. I was engaged to someone I met off here up to 4 weeks ago we both left the site it depends whether ye want to meet others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As in any type of relationship, regardless of where you met, honesty and communication are key.

Being in a relationship here too, although we aren't completely exclusive we do have boundries, and we make sure the other person is happy with the boundries.

If you both feel the same about each other and both want to make it work then why the hell won't it, all you can do is try.

I can honestly say Hal and I have a great relationship now, I couldn't be happier.

Best of luck to you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As in any type of relationship, regardless of where you met, honesty and communication are key.

Being in a relationship here too, although we aren't completely exclusive we do have boundries, and we make sure the other person is happy with the boundries.

If you both feel the same about each other and both want to make it work then why the hell won't it, all you can do is try.

I can honestly say Hal and I have a great relationship now, I couldn't be happier.

Best of luck to you. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't see anyone off here relationship wise.

I do wish you both the best of luck with it though.

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By *weet threesome wifeCouple
over a year ago

somewhere out there


"Are ye exclusive?

Do ye meet people here still?

From what I've seen here, it always goes PEAR SHAPED.

Trust issues (believe it or not)

"

we never meet alone ever

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By *aid backMan
over a year ago

by a lake with my rod out

its this simple make a go of it if it works then great if not you just have to deal with it. you have nothing to loose

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have recently found myself in a relationship with a man I met off here...

I'm just wondering what people's opinions are on this?

We both still have our single profiles and i don't plan on making a couples profile!

Would you ever date someone you met off here? "

Well why not if it's what you both want and it's meant to be then you will make it work.

Sometimes things just happen to find us,things that aren't planned etc, but why not just go with it and enjoy it

You don't need anyone elses opinion on your relationship, do what feels right for you

Things have a way of working out for the best so enjoy it all and the very best of luck with it

x x x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have recently found myself in a relationship with a man I met off here...

I'm just wondering what people's opinions are on this?

We both still have our single profiles and i don't plan on making a couples profile!

Would you ever date someone you met off here? "

Its great for you and I'm happy that you are happy but you got to remember why you BOTH came on here in the first place. Staying exclusive with each other after meeting on a swing site is perhaps the wrong idea.however its your choice but to avoid heartache in the future I advise you to rethink the exclusive part.

Hope it all works out for you both.. Xx

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By *weet threesome wifeCouple
over a year ago

somewhere out there


"Are ye exclusive?

Do ye meet people here still?

From what I've seen here, it always goes PEAR SHAPED.

Trust issues (believe it or not)

"

why the strange question??? You met us some time ago about 2 years in fact. Do you know someting I don't? ??? Nope dint think so lol its ok to be cynically minded

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"its this simple make a go of it if it works then great if not you just have to deal with it. you have nothing to loose"

Well said laid

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"its this simple make a go of it if it works then great if not you just have to deal with it. you have nothing to loose"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with the nay sayers, I've seen it happen too often. Unless your accepting of an open relationship, your time is better spent away from the site enjoying the relationship without the temptation that fab presents to either person. Sometimes it's not even a person cheating that means the end of the relationship, the possibility of jealousy or reading to much into your partners actions/friendships with others can lead to the break down. Then there's the jealousy of others who may not like seeing others happy and try and create problems just to split you up, yes it does actually happen If you really want it to work monogamously give it every chance and just keep contact with friends already made by other means

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I agree with the nay sayers, I've seen it happen too often. Unless your accepting of an open relationship, your time is better spent away from the site enjoying the relationship without the temptation that fab presents to either person. Sometimes it's not even a person cheating that means the end of the relationship, the possibility of jealousy or reading to much into your partners actions/friendships with others can lead to the break down. Then there's the jealousy of others who may not like seeing others happy and try and create problems just to split you up, yes it does actually happen If you really want it to work monogamously give it every chance and just keep contact with friends already made by other means "

I know what you mean about people who don't like seeing you happy and creating problems, been on the receiving end of that I can tell ya

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I agree with the nay sayers, I've seen it happen too often. Unless your accepting of an open relationship, your time is better spent away from the site enjoying the relationship without the temptation that fab presents to either person. Sometimes it's not even a person cheating that means the end of the relationship, the possibility of jealousy or reading to much into your partners actions/friendships with others can lead to the break down. Then there's the jealousy of others who may not like seeing others happy and try and create problems just to split you up, yes it does actually happen If you really want it to work monogamously give it every chance and just keep contact with friends already made by other means

I know what you mean about people who don't like seeing you happy and creating problems, been on the receiving end of that I can tell ya "

Exactly this...

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By *avie tCouple
over a year ago

otherside of nowhere


"I agree with the nay sayers, I've seen it happen too often. Unless your accepting of an open relationship, your time is better spent away from the site enjoying the relationship without the temptation that fab presents to either person. Sometimes it's not even a person cheating that means the end of the relationship, the possibility of jealousy or reading to much into your partners actions/friendships with others can lead to the break down. Then there's the jealousy of others who may not like seeing others happy and try and create problems just to split you up, yes it does actually happen If you really want it to work monogamously give it every chance and just keep contact with friends already made by other means "

Agree....

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town

I have friends on here and don't do exclusive to anyone.

I think that's when problems start

I would not start a relationship on here its friendship to me in both with males and females

If works for op than the best of luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All depends on the people. I don't have any more temptation on here than I would on a night out. I probably have more temptation on a night out.

I once lived in the UK with 5 other Irish guys, 4 of us had girlfriends in Ireland. Every weekend we would get so d*unk, go to clubs, party etc etc.

None of us cheated.

And don't think because someone is on this site they are more promiscuous than the average person.

If I wanted to guarantee sex tonight with a pretty girl, I'd shut down my laptop and head out to a pub/club. I am not into that though, I prefer to like people I have sex with.

The problem with most people is they will lie to get sex. You would think on here it would happen less but it happens more. People are even openly encouraged to lie, to change their profiles to get more meets.

People can read your posts, messages, and then tailor themselves to your needs. That's where things fall apart. When people haven't been honest with themselves or the other person.

Girls or guys who get cheated on, or have their relationships fall apart for these kind of reasons, generally pick the same kind of partner with the same kind of problems over and over. It's always the same people complaining about their partner cheating.

That's the main thing to keep in mind, do you have a history of picking cheaters. If so, have a think about what you're doing.

If the vast majority of your past partners have been faithful, then there is no reason why picking someone from here could not be a good thing. It would, like all your past relationships, have only a small chance of ending because of such issues.

Anyway, that's what I think.

Also, I believe if you don't put yourself in a position where you can be emotionally hurt, then you are not doing the right thing. Because thats what we all want in life, to put ourselves in a position where we can be emotionally hurt and the other person, instead of hurting us, stands up and keeps us safe, and how will you ever find that person if you dont give people a chance.

So go for it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All depends on the people. I don't have any more temptation on here than I would on a night out. I probably have more temptation on a night out.

I once lived in the UK with 5 other Irish guys, 4 of us had girlfriends in Ireland. Every weekend we would get so d*unk, go to clubs, party etc etc.

None of us cheated.

And don't think because someone is on this site they are more promiscuous than the average person.

If I wanted to guarantee sex tonight with a pretty girl, I'd shut down my laptop and head out to a pub/club. I am not into that though, I prefer to like people I have sex with.

The problem with most people is they will lie to get sex. You would think on here it would happen less but it happens more. People are even openly encouraged to lie, to change their profiles to get more meets.

People can read your posts, messages, and then tailor themselves to your needs. That's where things fall apart. When people haven't been honest with themselves or the other person.

Girls or guys who get cheated on, or have their relationships fall apart for these kind of reasons, generally pick the same kind of partner with the same kind of problems over and over. It's always the same people complaining about their partner cheating.

That's the main thing to keep in mind, do you have a history of picking cheaters. If so, have a think about what you're doing.

If the vast majority of your past partners have been faithful, then there is no reason why picking someone from here could not be a good thing. It would, like all your past relationships, have only a small chance of ending because of such issues.

Anyway, that's what I think.

Also, I believe if you don't put yourself in a position where you can be emotionally hurt, then you are not doing the right thing. Because thats what we all want in life, to put ourselves in a position where we can be emotionally hurt and the other person, instead of hurting us, stands up and keeps us safe, and how will you ever find that person if you dont give people a chance.

So go for it "

Spot on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are ye exclusive?

Do ye meet people here still?

From what I've seen here, it always goes PEAR SHAPED.

Trust issues (believe it or not)

why the strange question??? You met us some time ago about 2 years in fact. Do you know someting I don't? ??? Nope dint think so lol its ok to be cynically minded"

What are you on about? ?

I wasn't asking you a Q I was asking the OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All depends on the people. I don't have any more temptation on here than I would on a night out. I probably have more temptation on a night out.

I once lived in the UK with 5 other Irish guys, 4 of us had girlfriends in Ireland. Every weekend we would get so d*unk, go to clubs, party etc etc.

None of us cheated.

And don't think because someone is on this site they are more promiscuous than the average person.

If I wanted to guarantee sex tonight with a pretty girl, I'd shut down my laptop and head out to a pub/club. I am not into that though, I prefer to like people I have sex with.

The problem with most people is they will lie to get sex. You would think on here it would happen less but it happens more. People are even openly encouraged to lie, to change their profiles to get more meets.

People can read your posts, messages, and then tailor themselves to your needs. That's where things fall apart. When people haven't been honest with themselves or the other person.

Girls or guys who get cheated on, or have their relationships fall apart for these kind of reasons, generally pick the same kind of partner with the same kind of problems over and over. It's always the same people complaining about their partner cheating.

That's the main thing to keep in mind, do you have a history of picking cheaters. If so, have a think about what you're doing.

If the vast majority of your past partners have been faithful, then there is no reason why picking someone from here could not be a good thing. It would, like all your past relationships, have only a small chance of ending because of such issues.

Anyway, that's what I think.

Also, I believe if you don't put yourself in a position where you can be emotionally hurt, then you are not doing the right thing. Because thats what we all want in life, to put ourselves in a position where we can be emotionally hurt and the other person, instead of hurting us, stands up and keeps us safe, and how will you ever find that person if you dont give people a chance.

So go for it "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I agree with the nay sayers, I've seen it happen too often. Unless your accepting of an open relationship, your time is better spent away from the site enjoying the relationship without the temptation that fab presents to either person. Sometimes it's not even a person cheating that means the end of the relationship, the possibility of jealousy or reading to much into your partners actions/friendships with others can lead to the break down. Then there's the jealousy of others who may not like seeing others happy and try and create problems just to split you up, yes it does actually happen If you really want it to work monogamously give it every chance and just keep contact with friends already made by other means

Agree...."

What I'd say is I believe we are strong together. I've not been active on fab for a while and it's a relationship based on friendship first which I believe is important.

And thank you all for the wishes some of you have been good friends to myself and Katie. And I hope will continue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I agree with the nay sayers, I've seen it happen too often. Unless your accepting of an open relationship, your time is better spent away from the site enjoying the relationship without the temptation that fab presents to either person. Sometimes it's not even a person cheating that means the end of the relationship, the possibility of jealousy or reading to much into your partners actions/friendships with others can lead to the break down. Then there's the jealousy of others who may not like seeing others happy and try and create problems just to split you up, yes it does actually happen If you really want it to work monogamously give it every chance and just keep contact with friends already made by other means

Agree....

What I'd say is I believe we are strong together. I've not been active on fab for a while and it's a relationship based on friendship first which I believe is important.

And thank you all for the wishes some of you have been good friends to myself and Katie. And I hope will continue. "

Well I wish you both the best and will continue my friendship with Katie.

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By *ehallMan
over a year ago

dublin 24

best of luck to both of you if its not broke don't try fix it leave things as they are and yes i would love to date someone from here why not ..

cheers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seems to me that the same worries fears successes and failures are every bit as real in a swinging environment as they are in real life. And once you begin to have feelings over and above the purely sexual for someone then it moves from laissez-faire to care. I have been very lucky to have found someone on here who i more than care for as more than a friend but we are great friends. Like all friendships and relationships things dont always run smoothly but if its worth it then its worth making up and sometimes making up can be a lot if fun. Trust is important in all walks of life and can only be grown by being honest. Sometimes honesty can hurt but not as much as losing trust and in turn losing someone. Life is a work in progress and noone is perfect. Its no different here than anywhere else. Here endeth the sermon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seems to me that the same worries fears successes and failures are every bit as real in a swinging environment as they are in real life. And once you begin to have feelings over and above the purely sexual for someone then it moves from laissez-faire to care. I have been very lucky to have found someone on here who i more than care for as more than a friend but we are great friends. Like all friendships and relationships things dont always run smoothly but if its worth it then its worth making up and sometimes making up can be a lot if fun. Trust is important in all walks of life and can only be grown by being honest. Sometimes honesty can hurt but not as much as losing trust and in turn losing someone. Life is a work in progress and noone is perfect. Its no different here than anywhere else. Here endeth the sermon "

Agree 100%

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I agree with the nay sayers, I've seen it happen too often. Unless your accepting of an open relationship, your time is better spent away from the site enjoying the relationship without the temptation that fab presents to either person. Sometimes it's not even a person cheating that means the end of the relationship, the possibility of jealousy or reading to much into your partners actions/friendships with others can lead to the break down. Then there's the jealousy of others who may not like seeing others happy and try and create problems just to split you up, yes it does actually happen If you really want it to work monogamously give it every chance and just keep contact with friends already made by other means "

spot on tina

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Best of luck to the op and your guy

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By *reddieRaeCouple
over a year ago

Banbridge

You go gor it. Never mind what anyone else says, just because it hasn't worked for others, doesn't mean it will be the same for you. Like doing the lotto, someone has to win! Why not you both in this situation!

CHEERS!

AND as long as others you have met previously and created friendships with respect your new boundaries (waves like a loonie!) Then you will be fine

You both have our blessing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aw Katie, congratulations and good luck honey xxx B&H xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

thank you freddie, rae, belle and hunter xxxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Best of luck to the op and your guy "

thanks xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I agree with the nay sayers, I've seen it happen too often. Unless your accepting of an open relationship, your time is better spent away from the site enjoying the relationship without the temptation that fab presents to either person. Sometimes it's not even a person cheating that means the end of the relationship, the possibility of jealousy or reading to much into your partners actions/friendships with others can lead to the break down. Then there's the jealousy of others who may not like seeing others happy and try and create problems just to split you up, yes it does actually happen If you really want it to work monogamously give it every chance and just keep contact with friends already made by other means

Agree....

What I'd say is I believe we are strong together. I've not been active on fab for a while and it's a relationship based on friendship first which I believe is important.

And thank you all for the wishes some of you have been good friends to myself and Katie. And I hope will continue. "

Obviously everyone is different and what works for one isn't always the same for another, my advice is only based on previous experiences

I will say Katie is a gem, and I hope it does work out for the both of you. I like nothing more than a happy ending

Ps she promised me a coffee meet soon, I hope you can make it too

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By *oxic1998Woman
over a year ago

Belfast


"Seems to me that the same worries fears successes and failures are every bit as real in a swinging environment as they are in real life. And once you begin to have feelings over and above the purely sexual for someone then it moves from laissez-faire to care. I have been very lucky to have found someone on here who i more than care for as more than a friend but we are great friends. Like all friendships and relationships things dont always run smoothly but if its worth it then its worth making up and sometimes making up can be a lot if fun. Trust is important in all walks of life and can only be grown by being honest. Sometimes honesty can hurt but not as much as losing trust and in turn losing someone. Life is a work in progress and noone is perfect. Its no different here than anywhere else. Here endeth the sermon "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have recently found myself in a relationship with a man I met off here...

I'm just wondering what people's opinions are on this?

We both still have our single profiles and i don't plan on making a couples profile!

Would you ever date someone you met off here? "

. You do what you feel is right for ye best of luck with it just proves relationship s can be made anywhere u can't help who u fall for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes katie , i think it does work if you find the right person , that's in the same interests as yourself, and trust is a big thing aswell and been straight out with each other as you's go along, i will you the best katie.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess katie decided hanging around wasn't the best option

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I guess katie decided hanging around wasn't the best option "

Katie is doing what she is happy with and I for one am happy for her I really hope it works out for her, it doesn't for everyone but I hope it does for them. I will be staying in touch with her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I guess katie decided hanging around wasn't the best option

Katie is doing what she is happy with and I for one am happy for her I really hope it works out for her, it doesn't for everyone but I hope it does for them. I will be staying in touch with her "

I've already been invited to the the wedding

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I guess katie decided hanging around wasn't the best option

Katie is doing what she is happy with and I for one am happy for her I really hope it works out for her, it doesn't for everyone but I hope it does for them. I will be staying in touch with her

I've already been invited to the the wedding "

Oh god heaven help them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I guess katie decided hanging around wasn't the best option

Katie is doing what she is happy with and I for one am happy for her I really hope it works out for her, it doesn't for everyone but I hope it does for them. I will be staying in touch with her

I've already been invited to the the wedding

Oh god heaven help them "

Lmao some one need to tell me about this lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well. Katie has already said goodbye to the fab world and well now so will I. I honestly mean it thank you to all the fab friends I have made and I really hope you all find the happiness in life I have. I'm sure those who know us both will hopefully be happy for us. I've not been active on fab for a while now but there's a few I'm sure remember me lol.

Good luck everyone Mondavi

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I almost lost the will to live reading through all this, too hungover and cynical.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I almost lost the will to live reading through all this, too hungover and cynical."

Ah good luck to them no point in being cynical hungover tho that's usually cod of a good night

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I almost lost the will to live reading through all this, too hungover and cynical.

Ah good luck to them no point in being cynical hungover tho that's usually cod of a good night "

its may hangover so I shall be as cynical as I please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I almost lost the will to live reading through all this, too hungover and cynical."

You shouldn't have read it then!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I almost lost the will to live reading through all this, too hungover and cynical.

You shouldn't have read it then!!!"

good point, i didnt know what i was getting myself into until it was too late

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I almost lost the will to live reading through all this, too hungover and cynical.

You shouldn't have read it then!!!

good point, i didnt know what i was getting myself into until it was too late "

So why the cynicism apart from the hangover. Personally I don't believe in love and well don't really know either of the couple but least they are trying to make something work it's got to take guts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I almost lost the will to live reading through all this, too hungover and cynical.

You shouldn't have read it then!!!

good point, i didnt know what i was getting myself into until it was too late

So why the cynicism apart from the hangover. Personally I don't believe in love and well don't really know either of the couple but least they are trying to make something work it's got to take guts "

ok ok ok i take it all back, my opinion is void and just plain wrong, that better?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I almost lost the will to live reading through all this, too hungover and cynical.

You shouldn't have read it then!!!

good point, i didnt know what i was getting myself into until it was too late

So why the cynicism apart from the hangover. Personally I don't believe in love and well don't really know either of the couple but least they are trying to make something work it's got to take guts

ok ok ok i take it all back, my opinion is void and just plain wrong, that better?"

No ones opinion is void or wrong just wondered why the cynical outlook lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I almost lost the will to live reading through all this, too hungover and cynical.

You shouldn't have read it then!!!

good point, i didnt know what i was getting myself into until it was too late

So why the cynicism apart from the hangover. Personally I don't believe in love and well don't really know either of the couple but least they are trying to make something work it's got to take guts

ok ok ok i take it all back, my opinion is void and just plain wrong, that better?

No ones opinion is void or wrong just wondered why the cynical outlook lol. "

it's probably because I'm completely mental.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To Katie and Mondavi...sad to hear that you both left but glad to hear you found each other. Hope it works out for you guys!

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By *weet threesome wifeCouple
over a year ago

somewhere out there


"Are ye exclusive?

Do ye meet people here still?

From what I've seen here, it always goes PEAR SHAPED.

Trust issues (believe it or not)

why the strange question??? You met us some time ago about 2 years in fact. Do you know someting I don't? ??? Nope dint think so lol its ok to be cynically minded

What are you on about? ?

I wasn't asking you a Q I was asking the OP

"

oh right. Well if you look you can in right after I posted. Looked offal like a responce to my post. Ok crossed wires

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By *weet threesome wifeCouple
over a year ago

somewhere out there

Anyway I also said you k ow us!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are ye exclusive?

Do ye meet people here still?

From what I've seen here, it always goes PEAR SHAPED.

Trust issues (believe it or not)

why the strange question??? You met us some time ago about 2 years in fact. Do you know someting I don't? ??? Nope dint think so lol its ok to be cynically minded

What are you on about? ?

I wasn't asking you a Q I was asking the OP

oh right. Well if you look you can in right after I posted. Looked offal like a responce to my post. Ok crossed wires "

lol ok glad you've copped because I didn't want to fall out with you

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By *razy-CplCouple
over a year ago

and surrounding areas


"Nope.

I think it's been proven time and time again here that relationships /exclusivity etc don't work on here.

"

yes they do work as we met on a diff swing site and over 2 yrs together now , we are also living together , himself moved from Kilkenny to Cork and our relationship is very very strong and we madly in love

mrs crazy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nope.

I think it's been proven time and time again here that relationships /exclusivity etc don't work on here.

yes they do work as we met on a diff swing site and over 2 yrs together now , we are also living together , himself moved from Kilkenny to Cork and our relationship is very very strong and we madly in love

mrs crazy "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are the same coming up on a year together and going strong. It can happen and it does.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are the same coming up on a year together and going strong. It can happen and it does. "

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By *weet threesome wifeCouple
over a year ago

somewhere out there


"Are ye exclusive?

Do ye meet people here still?

From what I've seen here, it always goes PEAR SHAPED.

Trust issues (believe it or not)

why the strange question??? You met us some time ago about 2 years in fact. Do you know someting I don't? ??? Nope dint think so lol its ok to be cynically minded

What are you on about? ?

I wasn't asking you a Q I was asking the OP

oh right. Well if you look you can in right after I posted. Looked offal like a responce to my post. Ok crossed wires

lol ok glad you've copped because I didn't want to fall out with you "

haha as if lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I didn't read all of this thread. It's too long. I picked up on some of it. So who's getting married?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Best of luck to you both

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Haha user gone off site obviously took some advice I've met someone from here we were together for months definitely not fab that broke us up. Well recommended if ye can but handle it why Not same interests!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Relationships is for some and not for other if it works out.... best of luck to ye ya can't help falling in love...??????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Relationships shouldn't be any different here than they are in the 'real' world. It's all dependent on the parties involved.

When I started a relationship here I was a relatively new member and was over awed by the fabs, messages etc.; my relationship was doomed from the start with my need to be liked and wanted by everyone. It's only after something is over that you can see things and make changes.

The downside of a fab relationship going wrong is the bandwagon jumpers that appear and make an already sad situation so much worse.

God luck to them both, leaving and concentrating on eachother for a while can only be beneficial.

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By *xpandmyhorizonsMan
over a year ago

Co. Antrim

I would love to eventually meet someone to enjoy this scene with,if you click with someone on here at least that makes it easier to bring the subject up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Katie you left before I got to open and reply to your PM! Hopefully you will set up a couples profile and keep in touch xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Relationships shouldn't be any different here than they are in the 'real' world. It's all dependent on the parties involved.

When I started a relationship here I was a relatively new member and was over awed by the fabs, messages etc.; my relationship was doomed from the start with my need to be liked and wanted by everyone. It's only after something is over that you can see things and make changes.

The downside of a fab relationship going wrong is the bandwagon jumpers that appear and make an already sad situation so much worse.

God luck to them both, leaving and concentrating on eachother for a while can only be beneficial.

"

Well this is one of the best post i have seen for a long time on here.

I totally agree with everything you said mostly with the taking Time part we did it and it worked well.

Not saying we Will live together forever but the way things are going its pointing that way.

A lot of ppl in the world are cynical and more so on here especially with matters of the heart.

We wish them all the best and hope to see you back soon when you are ready.

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By *weet threesome wifeCouple
over a year ago

somewhere out there


"Haha user gone off site obviously took some advice I've met someone from here we were together for months definitely not fab that broke us up. Well recommended if ye can but handle it why Not same interests!"

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By *al2001Man
over a year ago

kildare


"I didn't read all of this thread. It's too long. I picked up on some of it. So who's getting married?"

Red and I

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By *al2001Man
over a year ago

kildare


"Relationships shouldn't be any different here than they are in the 'real' world. It's all dependent on the parties involved.

When I started a relationship here I was a relatively new member and was over awed by the fabs, messages etc.; my relationship was doomed from the start with my need to be liked and wanted by everyone. It's only after something is over that you can see things and make changes.

The downside of a fab relationship going wrong is the bandwagon jumpers that appear and make an already sad situation so much worse.

God luck to them both, leaving and concentrating on eachother for a while can only be beneficial.

"

well thats an honest post

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By *ohn MingoMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"I would love to eventually meet someone to enjoy this scene with,if you click with someone on here at least that makes it easier to bring the subject up "

Same here. But I reckon most people here are not looking for relationships on fab. If you can have one, and make it work, more power to you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I didn't read all of this thread. It's too long. I picked up on some of it. So who's getting married?

Red and I"

Let's just live in sin baby

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I didn't read all of this thread. It's too long. I picked up on some of it. So who's getting married?

Red and I

Let's just live in sin baby "

Aw I wanted a day out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We met on a similar site 8 years ago, knew what we wanted in this area before we ever met, so eyes wide open. We came off the scene for a few years while we dated etc and married, and we are back, happy out and raring to shag other people, lol I hope it becomes what ye hope for, gotta take a risk On life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met my boyfriend off here a year ago we decided to play as a couple straight away. We also have the option to play alone which happens very rarely. But it had worked for us. Good luck hope it all goes well xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I didn't read all of this thread. It's too long. I picked up on some of it. So who's getting married?

Red and I"

I could hear every male heart break across the country at at that comment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I didn't read all of this thread. It's too long. I picked up on some of it. So who's getting married?

Red and I

I could hear every male heart break across the country at at that comment "

Ha ha was just thinking that while re-reading this thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even if it were true, Hal is very generous about sharing me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I be putting mesef up for auction soon ladys ha ha ha.

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By *aid backMan
over a year ago

by a lake with my rod out

those two users i think have done the right thing and left no distractions and its just going to be them i hope they make a good run of it and make each other happy

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By *aid backMan
over a year ago

by a lake with my rod out


"I be putting mesef up for auction soon ladys ha ha ha."

auction ?? i couldnt give myself away ffs

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By *ohn MingoMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"I be putting mesef up for auction soon ladys ha ha ha.

auction ?? i couldnt give myself away ffs"

Ha! I'd be the stock they're trying to get rid of.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

guys, what about a BOGOF (Buy one get one free!) lolol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"those two users i think have done the right thing and left no distractions and its just going to be them i hope they make a good run of it and make each other happy"
totally agree Laid ..... They need to concentrate on the relationship for the time being and then if they both want introduce this scene when they are sure that they are solid together

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