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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

"One line messages will result in instantaneous blocking".

"Single guys please put some effort in when you message".

"Anyone using text speak will be blocked".

All standard quotes designed to deter the less socially enthusiastic prospective playing partner who has just messaged you saying "gis a fuck?"

Now, whilst I have never been guilty of any of the above faux pas, I would like to raise an issue for debate.

It may be true that single males outweigh couples and single females here, and in no way do I condone tactless, crude or even juvenile opening one-line 'introductions' where clearly no effort has been made to capture the attention of the 'target audience'.

However, surely this has to be a two way courtesy. I have recently been approached by three (well verified) couples whose opening introduction messages would have earned them an instant spot in the trash can beside one another, were they sent by single males. Presumably they felt that because of their status/experience that I would instantly come running, grateful at the merest sniff of the bone thrown to me?! (Not into sniffing bones incidentally). Whilst that may work for them with other individuals, I failed to muster the interest to respond.

My point is - I feel that initial effort should work both ways, even if it is 'just' a single male being approached.

Thoughts?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i agree totally

if a guy has taken the time to read my profile and sends me a mail that points out some of the things i have said . then of course i will do the same back

sometimes i will read a message in work or as i am just about to go out so i will send a reply that i have read your message but i am rushing and will send a proper message later .

now all of this may lead no where

but a message sent that says fancy a shag

will most certainly go nowhere

i am a firm believer in you get out what you put in

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By *iktikiCouple
over a year ago

cork


""One line messages will result in instantaneous blocking".

"Single guys please put some effort in when you message".

"Anyone using text speak will be blocked".

All standard quotes designed to deter the less socially enthusiastic prospective playing partner who has just messaged you saying "gis a fuck?"

Now, whilst I have never been guilty of any of the above faux pas, I would like to raise an issue for debate.

It may be true that single males outweigh couples and single females here, and in no way do I condone tactless, crude or even juvenile opening one-line 'introductions' where clearly no effort has been made to capture the attention of the 'target audience'.

However, surely this has to be a two way courtesy. I have recently been approached by three (well verified) couples whose opening introduction messages would have earned them an instant spot in the trash can beside one another, were they sent by single males. Presumably they felt that because of their status/experience that I would instantly come running, grateful at the merest sniff of the bone thrown to me?! (Not into sniffing bones incidentally). Whilst that may work for them with other individuals, I failed to muster the interest to respond.

My point is - I feel that initial effort should work both ways, even if it is 'just' a single male being approached.

Thoughts?

"

in fairness its not just the single guys who send the one liners

We get quite a few "hi" and "wanna meet" openers from couples to

I put it down to shyness

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i agree totally

if a guy has taken the time to read my profile and sends me a mail that points out some of the things i have said . then of course i will do the same back

sometimes i will read a message in work or as i am just about to go out so i will send a reply that i have read your message but i am rushing and will send a proper message later .

now all of this may lead no where

but a message sent that says fancy a shag

will most certainly go nowhere

i am a firm believer in you get out what you put in

"

I would be mannerly in my reply to anyone who sends me a message unless it is rude or crude. If he is not for me I be honest about it but in a nice way. I have had some good chats that have led to nothing but hey, its good to chat!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always send a good respectful one not long or not sounding cocky about 5 lines spelling always correct half the time it get blocked or ignored.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my opinion, courtesy should ALWAYS be a two way thing.

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By *idpunkMan
over a year ago

carrickfergus

Gotta be polite both ways only fair

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2 way is good but sum times when u say ur not what im looking for they cant take it so sum times maybe better not to answer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


""One line messages will result in instantaneous blocking".

"Single guys please put some effort in when you message".

"Anyone using text speak will be blocked".

All standard quotes designed to deter the less socially enthusiastic prospective playing partner who has just messaged you saying "gis a fuck?"

Now, whilst I have never been guilty of any of the above faux pas, I would like to raise an issue for debate.

It may be true that single males outweigh couples and single females here, and in no way do I condone tactless, crude or even juvenile opening one-line 'introductions' where clearly no effort has been made to capture the attention of the 'target audience'.

However, surely this has to be a two way courtesy. I have recently been approached by three (well verified) couples whose opening introduction messages would have earned them an instant spot in the trash can beside one another, were they sent by single males. Presumably they felt that because of their status/experience that I would instantly come running, grateful at the merest sniff of the bone thrown to me?! (Not into sniffing bones incidentally). Whilst that may work for them with other individuals, I failed to muster the interest to respond.

My point is - I feel that initial effort should work both ways, even if it is 'just' a single male being approached.

Thoughts?

"

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By *andytownMan
over a year ago

Gods Own Country


"In my opinion, courtesy should ALWAYS be a two way thing."

Totally agree , it's mannerly to respond with equal courtesy .

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By *elfastDMan
over a year ago

belfast


"2 way is good but sum times when u say ur not what im looking for they cant take it so sum times maybe better not to answer "

I think it's always better to answer otherwise we will all spiral down deeper into short messages and no replies

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By *elfastDMan
over a year ago

belfast

Actually I have had very short messages from one woman in particular, who seems to think that because she is sending me a message I should be jumping at the chance.

I reply with short messages and generally the conversation goes nowhere.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

HH...We totally agree with everything you have said!

Even if we get ridiculous 'hi' 'how u' messages we always reply even if it's to say we are not interested I never bin a message no matter how small I find that too rude also,very few people (couples,single guys and women) read profiles,this fact annoys me!

Manners cost nothing...

Respect is across the board...

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

What's a profile?

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By *ecretly seductiveWoman
over a year ago

Palookaville


""One line messages will result in instantaneous blocking".

"Single guys please put some effort in when you message".

"Anyone using text speak will be blocked".

All standard quotes designed to deter the less socially enthusiastic prospective playing partner who has just messaged you saying "gis a fuck?"

Now, whilst I have never been guilty of any of the above faux pas, I would like to raise an issue for debate.

It may be true that single males outweigh couples and single females here, and in no way do I condone tactless, crude or even juvenile opening one-line 'introductions' where clearly no effort has been made to capture the attention of the 'target audience'.

However, surely this has to be a two way courtesy. I have recently been approached by three (well verified) couples whose opening introduction messages would have earned them an instant spot in the trash can beside one another, were they sent by single males. Presumably they felt that because of their status/experience that I would instantly come running, grateful at the merest sniff of the bone thrown to me?! (Not into sniffing bones incidentally). Whilst that may work for them with other individuals, I failed to muster the interest to respond.

My point is - I feel that initial effort should work both ways, even if it is 'just' a single male being approached.

Thoughts?

"

absolutely agree HH ....

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By *ay and DeborahCouple
over a year ago

Co. Down

Courtesy is most definitely a two way thing..We always reply to every message unless it is totally abusive or illiterate. At the end of the day we are all trying to make an impression on someone, so we should all endeavour to make it a good one and hopefully a lasting one

Text type messages do leave us cold, as does bad spelling and grammar, perhaps we're just too old! ...

OP feel free to message us anytime lol lol (oh did I use text type!!!)

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By *ecretly seductiveWoman
over a year ago

Palookaville


"Courtesy is most definitely a two way thing..We always reply to every message unless it is totally abusive or illiterate. At the end of the day we are all trying to make an impression on someone, so we should all endeavour to make it a good one and hopefully a lasting one

Text type messages do leave us cold, as does bad spelling and grammar, perhaps we're just too old! ...

OP feel free to message us anytime lol lol (oh did I use text type!!!)"

I think it's an age thing lol... If it takes me half an hour to decipher it I can't be assed lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


""One line messages will result in instantaneous blocking".

"Single guys please put some effort in when you message".

"Anyone using text speak will be blocked".

All standard quotes designed to deter the less socially enthusiastic prospective playing partner who has just messaged you saying "gis a fuck?"

Now, whilst I have never been guilty of any of the above faux pas, I would like to raise an issue for debate.

It may be true that single males outweigh couples and single females here, and in no way do I condone tactless, crude or even juvenile opening one-line 'introductions' where clearly no effort has been made to capture the attention of the 'target audience'.

However, surely this has to be a two way courtesy. I have recently been approached by three (well verified) couples whose opening introduction messages would have earned them an instant spot in the trash can beside one another, were they sent by single males. Presumably they felt that because of their status/experience that I would instantly come running, grateful at the merest sniff of the bone thrown to me?! (Not into sniffing bones incidentally). Whilst that may work for them with other individuals, I failed to muster the interest to respond.

My point is - I feel that initial effort should work both ways, even if it is 'just' a single male being approached.

Thoughts?

"

Nice to know if we ever decide to mail you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I disagree. Women without filters get 40 messages within the first half an hour to hour of joining. It ends up being hundreds of messages.

The problem is, people who put "no one liners" and then dont reply to long paragraph messages you send them. They imply they will talk with you if you are genuine so show it through a message. Then they don't bother replying.

I don't really care what kind of stuff they put on their profile any more though. I wont message cause its a waste of my time.

If you fall into what I am looking for on my profile, gender/sexuality I will reply to you for sure if you message me. I'll even reply to guys who want a non sexual chat or something.

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By *ay and DeborahCouple
over a year ago

Co. Down

Oh safe,have you been disillusioned? You know I will always answer you. ..Xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for your comments.

Fair point NSWN.

How these meets we seek come about is down to personal preference I suspect; what works for some may not for others.

Don't misinterpret me- I'm not hoping to be blown away by a sculpted, intellectual thesis of an introduction- it simply makes a good impression when someone puts a little effort in, and first impressions do count.

The message "U lukin genuine fun?" from a couple within the last hour has been politely replied to, declined and filed under BS. Despite their attractive pictures. (Someone taking the piss? I suspect not having read their profile prose!)

Good thing I have met a few 'keepers' already!

Cheers folks

Have fun

HH

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By *ay and DeborahCouple
over a year ago

Co. Down


"Courtesy is most definitely a two way thing..We always reply to every message unless it is totally abusive or illiterate. At the end of the day we are all trying to make an impression on someone, so we should all endeavour to make it a good one and hopefully a lasting one

Text type messages do leave us cold, as does bad spelling and grammar, perhaps we're just too old! ...

OP feel free to message us anytime lol lol (oh did I use text type!!!)

I think it's an age thing lol... If it takes me half an hour to decipher it I can't be assed lol "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"*blah blah blah*

Thoughts?

"

*hold a bone in the hand, looking at it with a sparkle...*

whaddya think? shall we give it a go see how it feels?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Incidentally, not being particularly au fait with text speak anyway, what does OP stand for?!

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By *ay and DeborahCouple
over a year ago

Co. Down

I believe it means original poster... ie you, the one who posted the original post. I'm sure someone will correct me if I'm wrong!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I believe it means original poster... ie you, the one who posted the original post. I'm sure someone will correct me if I'm wrong!

"

I think we have another fight on our hands

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By *ay and DeborahCouple
over a year ago

Co. Down

Now Rose...seriously!!!! When exactly are you going away?????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


""One line messages will result in instantaneous blocking".

"Single guys please put some effort in when you message".

"Anyone using text speak will be blocked".

All standard quotes designed to deter the less socially enthusiastic prospective playing partner who has just messaged you saying "gis a fuck?"

Now, whilst I have never been guilty of any of the above faux pas, I would like to raise an issue for debate.

It may be true that single males outweigh couples and single females here, and in no way do I condone tactless, crude or even juvenile opening one-line 'introductions' where clearly no effort has been made to capture the attention of the 'target audience'.

However, surely this has to be a two way courtesy. I have recently been approached by three (well verified) couples whose opening introduction messages would have earned them an instant spot in the trash can beside one another, were they sent by single males. Presumably they felt that because of their status/experience that I would instantly come running, grateful at the merest sniff of the bone thrown to me?! (Not into sniffing bones incidentally). Whilst that may work for them with other individuals, I failed to muster the interest to respond.

My point is - I feel that initial effort should work both ways, even if it is 'just' a single male being approached.

Thoughts?

"

I hear you mate. Not just couples guilty of it too...some women as well. I've block some women and couples for one word messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not meaning to sound judgemental...but ive hardly ever had an original message from a girl or couple that contained anything but one line...think its down to the opposite sex being way more cagey than us blokes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Now Rose...seriously!!!! When exactly are you going away????? "

Tomo

You have two weeks without me

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By *ay and DeborahCouple
over a year ago

Co. Down

Hmmm have to get busy then lol...but I shall miss my chat room partner x

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By *ugarcplCouple
over a year ago

Sugartown

What I find quite bemusing is couples who have DP listed as one of their activities but state that they are not into anal and dont list anal in their activities. And there are quite a few couples listing DP but not anal on their profiles.

How can you have DP without anal? Do they all beliee DP to be spitroasting maybe?

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

I have received those one word msgs also got a "wanta fuck" , my first thought was I m not piece of meet to be used for ur self gratification my second was hell yes where are u

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have received those one word msgs also got a "wanta fuck" , my first thought was I m not piece of meet to be used for ur self gratification my second was hell yes where are u "

Forgive my bluntness

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hmmm have to get busy then lol...but I shall miss my chat room partner x "

You can keep an eye out on the new talent for when I return

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick


"I have received those one word msgs also got a "wanta fuck" , my first thought was I m not piece of meet to be used for ur self gratification my second was hell yes where are u

Forgive my bluntness "

I will take more than just asking forgiveness

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have received those one word msgs also got a "wanta fuck" , my first thought was I m not piece of meet to be used for ur self gratification my second was hell yes where are u

Forgive my bluntness

I will take more than just asking forgiveness "

Alas I forgot my position, shameful

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By *ecretly seductiveWoman
over a year ago

Palookaville


""One line messages will result in instantaneous blocking".

"Single guys please put some effort in when you message".

"Anyone using text speak will be blocked".

All standard quotes designed to deter the less socially enthusiastic prospective playing partner who has just messaged you saying "gis a fuck?"

Now, whilst I have never been guilty of any of the above faux pas, I would like to raise an issue for debate.

It may be true that single males outweigh couples and single females here, and in no way do I condone tactless, crude or even juvenile opening one-line 'introductions' where clearly no effort has been made to capture the attention of the 'target audience'.

However, surely this has to be a two way courtesy. I have recently been approached by three (well verified) couples whose opening introduction messages would have earned them an instant spot in the trash can beside one another, were they sent by single males. Presumably they felt that because of their status/experience that I would instantly come running, grateful at the merest sniff of the bone thrown to me?! (Not into sniffing bones incidentally). Whilst that may work for them with other individuals, I failed to muster the interest to respond.

My point is - I feel that initial effort should work both ways, even if it is 'just' a single male being approached.

Thoughts?

I hear you mate. Not just couples guilty of it too...some women as well. I've block some women and couples for one word messages. "

really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"HH...We totally agree with everything you have said!

Even if we get ridiculous 'hi' 'how u' messages we always reply even if it's to say we are not interested I never bin a message no matter how small I find that too rude also,very few people (couples,single guys and women) read profiles,this fact annoys me!

Manners cost nothing...

Respect is across the board...

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What I find quite bemusing is couples who have DP listed as one of their activities but state that they are not into anal and dont list anal in their activities. And there are quite a few couples listing DP but not anal on their profiles.

How can you have DP without anal? Do they all believe DP to be spitroasting maybe?"

Lol not too much effort put into their profile obviously

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I received a message a few days ago from an experienced well known couple. I mailed them before and got no reply then a few days ago they mailed me "meet tonight"

I replied no sorry im in work to which i got no reply....baffling

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