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VERIFICATION: The Easy Way.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi folks.

We thought we would pop this up here for all to see. It seems that one of the biggest issues in the Irish swing scene is mistrust. Nobody will trust anyone else enough to show pics, talk about themselves or even meet for a chat/coffee.

So, to that end we have decided to suggest a relatively hassle-free way of verifying yourself / yourselves to another user. It goes like this...

You take photo of yourself / go on cam.

In the shot you must present yourself / yourselves holding a handwritten sign, with the following on it:

* Hello [insert recipients username]

* from [insert your username]

* [insert the current date / time]

For additional security, you can ask each other to write a keyword / password on the sign.

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By *aid backMan
over a year ago

by a lake with my rod out

they already do this its called photo verification

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We know.

But we prefer to verify people ourselves.

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By *ohn MingoMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"We know.

But we prefer to verify people ourselves. "

How's that going for you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just popped in to say .... wow , glad we aren't trying to do this in Ireland !!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We know.

But we prefer to verify people ourselves.

How's that going for you?"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just popped in to say .... wow , glad we aren't trying to do this in Ireland !!!! "

Yup. Don't ever come here for swinging.

It's a nightmare. We always go abroad.

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By *razy-CplCouple
over a year ago

and surrounding areas


"Hi folks.

We thought we would pop this up here for all to see. It seems that one of the biggest issues in the Irish swing scene is mistrust. Nobody will trust anyone else enough to show pics, talk about themselves or even meet for a chat/coffee.

So, to that end we have decided to suggest a relatively hassle-free way of verifying yourself / yourselves to another user. It goes like this...

You take photo of yourself / go on cam.

In the shot you must present yourself / yourselves holding a handwritten sign, with the following on it:

* Hello [insert recipients username]

* from [insert your username]

* [insert the current date / time]

For additional security, you can ask each other to write a keyword / password on the sign."

Were blocked from viewing yer profile so cant comment wheather we would like to meet ye or not . Cant see why ye can't get a meet even if its only for a coffee or maybe im just missing something !!!!!

Mr crazy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have too agree with crazycpl on this one its not that hard too find a meet in dublin now come on theres plenty of people looking too hook up in dublin and im finding it hard to believe that u cannot meet anybody there has to b some thing we are missing like we are in the back.arse of no where and get offers from guys too meet us an drive too us from dublin cork mayo everywhere really we find it hard too get last min meets or late at night if we where in a city like dublin we would be sorted everynight thats why i dont understand why u guys are finding it hard too meet people also the swingers in ireland maybe a small number thats because its a small country not forgetting half of which is away working but the sence here is great tbh with partys and clubs and private partys theres always some thing happening w get invites nerly every weekend too different events happening across the country so to say its crap or abroad is much better is abit unfair we pretty much the same as anywhere else but just not enough people is whats wrong yes we kinda abit slow about being open too swinging but that ireland where slow at everything no matter what it is maybe in a few years down the road we can be openly and free about our sex lives but till then what happens in the bedroom stays in the bedroom as they say happy hunting

mr kinky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just popped in to say .... wow , glad we aren't trying to do this in Ireland !!!!

Yup. Don't ever come here for swinging.

It's a nightmare. We always go abroad. "

so if you always go abroad why are you worried about how the. verifications go in the Irish forums ???

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just popped in to say .... wow , glad we aren't trying to do this in Ireland !!!!

Yup. Don't ever come here for swinging.

It's a nightmare. We always go abroad.

so if you always go abroad why are you worried about how the. verifications go in the Irish forums ??? "

It's just some advice.

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By *ohn MingoMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"Just popped in to say .... wow , glad we aren't trying to do this in Ireland !!!!

Yup. Don't ever come here for swinging.

It's a nightmare. We always go abroad. "

Having looked at your profile, being a soft swing couple you're already reducing the amount of people who would be interested in you. There's nothing wrong with soft swing but less people seem to be into it.

Plus, while I might understand why you have certain criteria before you'll meet people, it would put a lot of people off.

While you're doing that in an effort to meet the right people...its also reducing the amount of right people.

In my opinion you're asking to much of people just to soft swing with them. But everyone uses the site in their own way, and best of luck to you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just popped in to say .... wow , glad we aren't trying to do this in Ireland !!!!

Yup. Don't ever come here for swinging.

It's a nightmare. We always go abroad.

Having looked at your profile, being a soft swing couple you're already reducing the amount of people who would be interested in you. There's nothing wrong with soft swing but less people seem to be into it.

Plus, while I might understand why you have certain criteria before you'll meet people, it would put a lot of people off.

While you're doing that in an effort to meet the right people...its also reducing the amount of right people.

In my opinion you're asking to much of people just to soft swing with them. But everyone uses the site in their own way, and best of luck to you."

This is why we prefer clubs and parties. That way full swap people can do their thing and we can be voyex. That is what we like.

Obviously in Ireland clubs and parties are few and far between, so it is easier to go away and enjoy the scene in Europe and elsewhere.

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By *ohn MingoMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"Just popped in to say .... wow , glad we aren't trying to do this in Ireland !!!!

Yup. Don't ever come here for swinging.

It's a nightmare. We always go abroad.

Having looked at your profile, being a soft swing couple you're already reducing the amount of people who would be interested in you. There's nothing wrong with soft swing but less people seem to be into it.

Plus, while I might understand why you have certain criteria before you'll meet people, it would put a lot of people off.

While you're doing that in an effort to meet the right people...its also reducing the amount of right people.

In my opinion you're asking to much of people just to soft swing with them. But everyone uses the site in their own way, and best of luck to you.

This is why we prefer clubs and parties. That way full swap people can do their thing and we can be voyex. That is what we like.

Obviously in Ireland clubs and parties are few and far between, so it is easier to go away and enjoy the scene in Europe and elsewhere.

"

So then, I would be more accurate to say that Ireland is not shit for swinging... It just doesn't offer what you want?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just popped in to say .... wow , glad we aren't trying to do this in Ireland !!!!

Yup. Don't ever come here for swinging.

It's a nightmare. We always go abroad.

Having looked at your profile, being a soft swing couple you're already reducing the amount of people who would be interested in you. There's nothing wrong with soft swing but less people seem to be into it.

Plus, while I might understand why you have certain criteria before you'll meet people, it would put a lot of people off.

While you're doing that in an effort to meet the right people...its also reducing the amount of right people.

In my opinion you're asking to much of people just to soft swing with them. But everyone uses the site in their own way, and best of luck to you.

This is why we prefer clubs and parties. That way full swap people can do their thing and we can be voyex. That is what we like.

Obviously in Ireland clubs and parties are few and far between, so it is easier to go away and enjoy the scene in Europe and elsewhere.

So then, I would be more accurate to say that Ireland is not shit for swinging... It just doesn't offer what you want?"

Nope, it's pretty shit, as you put it.

Unless you are a couple who full swap, most people don't want to know you.

In other countries we have experienced a wide variety of people. Swinging clubs and parties have included:

*singles / couples / groups.

*straight / bi / gay.

*male / female / tv.

*full swap / soft swing / voyex.

There are whole variances on the swing scene. You can come across, literally sometimes , all sorts of people. There is little pretence involved. Most other countries you just turn up at a club like you do at a bar here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just popped in to say .... wow , glad we aren't trying to do this in Ireland !!!!

Yup. Don't ever come here for swinging.

It's a nightmare. We always go abroad.

Having looked at your profile, being a soft swing couple you're already reducing the amount of people who would be interested in you. There's nothing wrong with soft swing but less people seem to be into it.

Plus, while I might understand why you have certain criteria before you'll meet people, it would put a lot of people off.

While you're doing that in an effort to meet the right people...its also reducing the amount of right people.

In my opinion you're asking to much of people just to soft swing with them. But everyone uses the site in their own way, and best of luck to you.

This is why we prefer clubs and parties. That way full swap people can do their thing and we can be voyex. That is what we like.

Obviously in Ireland clubs and parties are few and far between, so it is easier to go away and enjoy the scene in Europe and elsewhere.

"

Not being condescending but Ireland is in Europe. Might not seem very European though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think the list of demands is a bit off putting. for people to take a pic wit your username wrote on it. to prove there real and for all that effort to just watch yous fucking.

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By *ohn MingoMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"Just popped in to say .... wow , glad we aren't trying to do this in Ireland !!!!

Yup. Don't ever come here for swinging.

It's a nightmare. We always go abroad.

Having looked at your profile, being a soft swing couple you're already reducing the amount of people who would be interested in you. There's nothing wrong with soft swing but less people seem to be into it.

Plus, while I might understand why you have certain criteria before you'll meet people, it would put a lot of people off.

While you're doing that in an effort to meet the right people...its also reducing the amount of right people.

In my opinion you're asking to much of people just to soft swing with them. But everyone uses the site in their own way, and best of luck to you.

This is why we prefer clubs and parties. That way full swap people can do their thing and we can be voyex. That is what we like.

Obviously in Ireland clubs and parties are few and far between, so it is easier to go away and enjoy the scene in Europe and elsewhere.

So then, I would be more accurate to say that Ireland is not shit for swinging... It just doesn't offer what you want?

Nope, it's pretty shit, as you put it.

Unless you are a couple who full swap, most people don't want to know you.

In other countries we have experienced a wide variety of people. Swinging clubs and parties have included:

*singles / couples / groups.

*straight / bi / gay.

*male / female / tv.

*full swap / soft swing / voyex.

There are whole variances on the swing scene. You can come across, literally sometimes , all sorts of people. There is little pretence involved. Most other countries you just turn up at a club like you do at a bar here. "

I saw all that only last month....at the venue. But due to the size of this country there's less of it.

I don't agree that its shit, there's just less of it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Okay so. We might head to the venue this weekend. Where is it located ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

13 threads under this i a thread under as AUGUST PARTY they are the organizers mail them if u wish too attend there next party

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just give us the address and we will attend at our leisure. This weekend suits us better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The experience of the op is that they have had a shit experience in Ireland. They are wrong that the swinging experience in Ireland is shit. For lots of people the experience is very good

Yes bigger countries with larger populations and more of a swinging tradition are at it longer and the particular type of swinging the couple seek probably is better served in clubs as they state.

And even here Ireland now has some regular club nights which even a few years ago was impossible to find.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We never said it was shit. We said it was a nightmare.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just give us the address and we will attend at our leisure. This weekend suits us better."

cant do that as u need too be in invited or ask too be put on the list its a private club and if ur welcome too attend the club organizer will give u the details plus its not on this weekend as far as i know and also its just once a month limerick has a club thats fully open on weeknds and the adress is on there website ikandi is the name of it

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By *vsnikkiTV/TS
over a year ago

Limavady


"We never said it was shit. We said it was a nightmare.

"

Just for accuracy, you DID say it was shit.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We never said it was shit. We said it was a nightmare.

Just for accuracy, you DID say it was shit."

Just for accuracy, stop lieing.

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan


"We never said it was shit. We said it was a nightmare.

"

Lo, you did actually!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just give us the address and we will attend at our leisure. This weekend suits us better.

cant do that as u need too be in invited or ask too be put on the list its a private club and if ur welcome too attend the club organizer will give u the details plus its not on this weekend as far as i know and also its just once a month limerick has a club thats fully open on weeknds and the adress is on there website ikandi is the name of it "

Well that's just a nightmare. Why not just advertise the address ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We never said it was shit. We said it was a nightmare.

Just for accuracy, you DID say it was shit.

Just for accuracy, stop lieing.

"

seems to me u did say it was shit first line this anyway

Nope, it's pretty shit, as you put it.

Unless you are a couple who full swap, most people don't want to know you.

In other countries we have experienced a wide variety of people. Swinging clubs and parties have included:

*singles / couples / groups.

*straight / bi / gay.

*male / female / tv.

*full swap / soft swing / voyex.

There are whole variances on the swing scene. You can come across, literally sometimes  , all sorts of people. There is little pretence involved. Most other countries you just turn up at a club like you do at a bar here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why not advertise the address maybe cause they dont want the media and other muppets turning up

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan


"Just give us the address and we will attend at our leisure. This weekend suits us better.

cant do that as u need too be in invited or ask too be put on the list its a private club and if ur welcome too attend the club organizer will give u the details plus its not on this weekend as far as i know and also its just once a month limerick has a club thats fully open on weeknds and the adress is on there website ikandi is the name of it

Well that's just a nightmare. Why not just advertise the address ?"

It'd never work. All those people walking around with hand written signs with their names on them would present a fire hazard!

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By *ohn MingoMan
over a year ago

Dublin

They did say it was shit....but not on this thread.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We never said it was shit. We said it was a nightmare.

Just for accuracy, you DID say it was shit.

Just for accuracy, stop lieing.

seems to me u did say it was shit first line this anyway

Nope, it's pretty shit, as you put it.

Unless you are a couple who full swap, most people don't want to know you.

In other countries we have experienced a wide variety of people. Swinging clubs and parties have included:

*singles / couples / groups.

*straight / bi / gay.

*male / female / tv.

*full swap / soft swing / voyex.

There are whole variances on the swing scene. You can come across, literally sometimes  , all sorts of people. There is little pretence involved. Most other countries you just turn up at a club like you do at a bar here."

We agreed with the person who said it. There is a differnce.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Here's another thing: Why is everyone so hostile ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But u disay it in a different thread i seen it myself

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By *ohn MingoMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"Here's another thing: Why is everyone so hostile ?"

I'm not hostile towards you. I was enjoying the discussion actually... And trying to understand your viewpoint.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Here's another thing: Why is everyone so hostile ?"

because your putting down irish swingers when infact where just as good as any other swinger and your also wanting addressing of private clubs you could be anyone not a chance its up to the hosts if they feel your genuine they will pass on the info and not other swingers not like ikandi where thats an open club but again u have too prove who u say u are again cause u could be anyone where giving u advice and ur saying is ireland an irish people are crap and shit sure if thats bad move to some where that suits ur swinging needs

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well that's a different thread.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Here's another thing: Why is everyone so hostile ?

because your putting down irish swingers when infact where just as good as any other swinger and your also wanting addressing of private clubs you could be anyone not a chance its up to the hosts if they feel your genuine they will pass on the info and not other swingers not like ikandi where thats an open club but again u have too prove who u say u are again cause u could be anyone where giving u advice and ur saying is ireland an irish people are crap and shit sure if thats bad move to some where that suits ur swinging needs"

We can put it down as much as we want. If it is an awful place for swinging, then we will say as such.

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By *ohn MingoMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"Here's another thing: Why is everyone so hostile ?

because your putting down irish swingers when infact where just as good as any other swinger and your also wanting addressing of private clubs you could be anyone not a chance its up to the hosts if they feel your genuine they will pass on the info and not other swingers not like ikandi where thats an open club but again u have too prove who u say u are again cause u could be anyone where giving u advice and ur saying is ireland an irish people are crap and shit sure if thats bad move to some where that suits ur swinging needs

We can put it down as much as we want. If it is an awful place for swinging, then we will say as such. "

In your opinion...which does not make it fact.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Here's another thing: Why is everyone so hostile ?

because your putting down irish swingers when infact where just as good as any other swinger and your also wanting addressing of private clubs you could be anyone not a chance its up to the hosts if they feel your genuine they will pass on the info and not other swingers not like ikandi where thats an open club but again u have too prove who u say u are again cause u could be anyone where giving u advice and ur saying is ireland an irish people are crap and shit sure if thats bad move to some where that suits ur swinging needs

We can put it down as much as we want. If it is an awful place for swinging, then we will say as such.

In your opinion...which does not make it fact."

We never said it to be fact.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not fact john but irish swingers are just as good as any other swinger in the world yes our partys have to be kept quite as this country still lives in the stone ages what a few years ago ya man stringfello that his name i dunno trye to open a lap dancing club an he was ran out with grannys with signs once we get over tat stage of ireland the place will see more swing clubs an more relaxed like how many gay sauna places are here in ireland tons an tons of places and noting said about them at all apart from when they hace outdoor fun my point being is that ireland is just a bit slow and our sex lives are hidden where not as open about it like othe citys an countrys but in time it will change like everything else

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Not fact john but irish swingers are just as good as any other swinger in the world yes our partys have to be kept quite as this country still lives in the stone ages what a few years ago ya man stringfello that his name i dunno trye to open a lap dancing club an he was ran out with grannys with signs once we get over tat stage of ireland the place will see more swing clubs an more relaxed like how many gay sauna places are here in ireland tons an tons of places and noting said about them at all apart from when they hace outdoor fun my point being is that ireland is just a bit slow and our sex lives are hidden where not as open about it like othe citys an countrys but in time it will change like everything else "

You're taking it personally ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course im taken it personally theres noting wrong with the irish swingers or the clubs just because they dont suit ur needs it does not make us different too other swingers if different countrys and theres plenty of swingers in ireland who only play as soft swing only just like u both and the clubs are fab and some of the people iv met at them are nicest people on this earth

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Of course im taken it personally theres noting wrong with the irish swingers or the clubs just because they dont suit ur needs it does not make us different too other swingers if different countrys and theres plenty of swingers in ireland who only play as soft swing only just like u both and the clubs are fab and some of the people iv met at them are nicest people on this earth "

We never said there was anything wrong with Irish swingers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Of course im taken it personally theres noting wrong with the irish swingers or the clubs just because they dont suit ur needs it does not make us different too other swingers if different countrys and theres plenty of swingers in ireland who only play as soft swing only just like u both and the clubs are fab and some of the people iv met at them are nicest people on this earth

We never said there was anything wrong with Irish swingers.

"

well u kinda are in a way by saying other countrys are better and this place is a nightmare etc if u attend one of the clubs or partys and see the fun u will soon realize its pretty much the same like anywhere anyway im getting board of this thread i wish u both well happy hunting

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Of course im taken it personally theres noting wrong with the irish swingers or the clubs just because they dont suit ur needs it does not make us different too other swingers if different countrys and theres plenty of swingers in ireland who only play as soft swing only just like u both and the clubs are fab and some of the people iv met at them are nicest people on this earth

We never said there was anything wrong with Irish swingers.

well u kinda are in a way by saying other countrys are better and this place is a nightmare etc if u attend one of the clubs or partys and see the fun u will soon realize its pretty much the same like anywhere anyway im getting board of this thread i wish u both well happy hunting "

Okay. Take it whatever way you like.

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By *oandWexCouple
over a year ago

arklow

awww i miss all this.suppose i didnt miss much from someone who doesn't have any experience with irish swingers.Well im not irish and i can say ireland as the best partys

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By *ittsandtatsCouple
over a year ago

Dublin


"Just popped in to say .... wow , glad we aren't trying to do this in Ireland !!!!

Yup. Don't ever come here for swinging.

It's a nightmare. We always go abroad.

Having looked at your profile, being a soft swing couple you're already reducing the amount of people who would be interested in you. There's nothing wrong with soft swing but less people seem to be into it.

Plus, while I might understand why you have certain criteria before you'll meet people, it would put a lot of people off.

While you're doing that in an effort to meet the right people...its also reducing the amount of right people.

In my opinion you're asking to much of people just to soft swing with them. But everyone uses the site in their own way, and best of luck to you.

This is why we prefer clubs and parties. That way full swap people can do their thing and we can be voyex. That is what we like.

Obviously in Ireland clubs and parties are few and far between, so it is easier to go away and enjoy the scene in Europe and elsewhere.

"

I agree with John your profile and the criteria and rules would put us off. Plus you can't verify people who go to a club so what's the problem on site? Like the cam and pic and written notes etc just to say you MAY meet is just too much hard work.

There are photo verifications on profiles and also published ones from other members. If that's not enough for you then your probably on the wrong site. Also you mention so much mistrust. Judging by your profile you seem to be the ones who don't trust the rest of us.

At the end of the day each to their own. I'm happy to have face pics on public at times. That's just me. But don't put down the whole irish swinging scene because your rules are too constricting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi folks.

We thought we would pop this up here for all to see. It seems that one of the biggest issues in the Irish swing scene is mistrust. Nobody will trust anyone else enough to show pics, talk about themselves or even meet for a chat/coffee.

So, to that end we have decided to suggest a relatively hassle-free way of verifying yourself / yourselves to another user. It goes like this...

You take photo of yourself / go on cam.

In the shot you must present yourself / yourselves holding a handwritten sign, with the following on it:

* Hello [insert recipients username]

* from [insert your username]

* [insert the current date / time]

For additional security, you can ask each other to write a keyword / password on the sign."

What a load of bullshit.....meet us at the Bar wearing a red carnation and with a copy of The Times under your arm.....just to be sure?? Get a life!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just popped in to say .... wow , glad we aren't trying to do this in Ireland !!!!

Yup. Don't ever come here for swinging.

It's a nightmare. We always go abroad.

Having looked at your profile, being a soft swing couple you're already reducing the amount of people who would be interested in you. There's nothing wrong with soft swing but less people seem to be into it.

Plus, while I might understand why you have certain criteria before you'll meet people, it would put a lot of people off.

While you're doing that in an effort to meet the right people...its also reducing the amount of right people.

In my opinion you're asking to much of people just to soft swing with them. But everyone uses the site in their own way, and best of luck to you.

This is why we prefer clubs and parties. That way full swap people can do their thing and we can be voyex. That is what we like.

Obviously in Ireland clubs and parties are few and far between, so it is easier to go away and enjoy the scene in Europe and elsewhere.

I agree with John your profile and the criteria and rules would put us off. Plus you can't verify people who go to a club so what's the problem on site? Like the cam and pic and written notes etc just to say you MAY meet is just too much hard work.

There are photo verifications on profiles and also published ones from other members. If that's not enough for you then your probably on the wrong site. Also you mention so much mistrust. Judging by your profile you seem to be the ones who don't trust the rest of us.

At the end of the day each to their own. I'm happy to have face pics on public at times. That's just me. But don't put down the whole irish swinging scene because your rules are too constricting.

"

Our criteria are a response to the antsy-ness of the other people with whom we have had dealings. Generally we are fairly relaxed and open. So long as we know the other party are not going to blab to our parents, we are cool.

We have said it before and will say it again, the Irish swing-scene is a nightmare.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hi folks.

We thought we would pop this up here for all to see. It seems that one of the biggest issues in the Irish swing scene is mistrust. Nobody will trust anyone else enough to show pics, talk about themselves or even meet for a chat/coffee.

So, to that end we have decided to suggest a relatively hassle-free way of verifying yourself / yourselves to another user. It goes like this...

You take photo of yourself / go on cam.

In the shot you must present yourself / yourselves holding a handwritten sign, with the following on it:

* Hello [insert recipients username]

* from [insert your username]

* [insert the current date / time]

For additional security, you can ask each other to write a keyword / password on the sign.

What a load of bullshit.....meet us at the Bar wearing a red carnation and with a copy of The Times under your arm.....just to be sure?? Get a life!!! "

Just like most people in Ireland, you are dead-set against a good idea.

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By *ohn MingoMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"Just popped in to say .... wow , glad we aren't trying to do this in Ireland !!!!

Yup. Don't ever come here for swinging.

It's a nightmare. We always go abroad.

Having looked at your profile, being a soft swing couple you're already reducing the amount of people who would be interested in you. There's nothing wrong with soft swing but less people seem to be into it.

Plus, while I might understand why you have certain criteria before you'll meet people, it would put a lot of people off.

While you're doing that in an effort to meet the right people...its also reducing the amount of right people.

In my opinion you're asking to much of people just to soft swing with them. But everyone uses the site in their own way, and best of luck to you.

This is why we prefer clubs and parties. That way full swap people can do their thing and we can be voyex. That is what we like.

Obviously in Ireland clubs and parties are few and far between, so it is easier to go away and enjoy the scene in Europe and elsewhere.

I agree with John your profile and the criteria and rules would put us off. Plus you can

We have said it before and will say it again, the Irish swing-scene is a nightmare."

You're generalising again. It's a nightmare......for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Groundhog Day....................

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think I should get my popcorn!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't believe this ! stop fighting and get fucking I say !!!

don't waste energy arguing with each other ...a healthy discussion is one thing but for godsake get a grip !!

Johnny

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By *ittsandtatsCouple
over a year ago

Dublin


"Just popped in to say .... wow , glad we aren't trying to do this in Ireland !!!!

Yup. Don't ever come here for swinging.

It's a nightmare. We always go abroad.

Having looked at your profile, being a soft swing couple you're already reducing the amount of people who would be interested in you. There's nothing wrong with soft swing but less people seem to be into it.

Plus, while I might understand why you have certain criteria before you'll meet people, it would put a lot of people off.

While you're doing that in an effort to meet the right people...its also reducing the amount of right people.

In my opinion you're asking to much of people just to soft swing with them. But everyone uses the site in their own way, and best of luck to you.

This is why we prefer clubs and parties. That way full swap people can do their thing and we can be voyex. That is what we like.

Obviously in Ireland clubs and parties are few and far between, so it is easier to go away and enjoy the scene in Europe and elsewhere.

I agree with John your profile and the criteria and rules would put us off. Plus you can't verify people who go to a club so what's the problem on site? Like the cam and pic and written notes etc just to say you MAY meet is just too much hard work.

There are photo verifications on profiles and also published ones from other members. If that's not enough for you then your probably on the wrong site. Also you mention so much mistrust. Judging by your profile you seem to be the ones who don't trust the rest of us.

At the end of the day each to their own. I'm happy to have face pics on public at times. That's just me. But don't put down the whole irish swinging scene because your rules are too constricting.

Our criteria are a response to the antsy-ness of the other people with whom we have had dealings. Generally we are fairly relaxed and open. So long as we know the other party are not going to blab to our parents, we are cool.

We have said it before and will say it again, the Irish swing-scene is a nightmare."

How old are you 15???? Blab to parents???? Seriously there is a good community here. And most of us if not all are discreet and respectful. You don't sound relaxed or easy going. In fact you sound judgmental and rude.

This is Tits by the way. I think Tats would probably have something to say too.

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By *ittsandtatsCouple
over a year ago

Dublin


"Our criteria are a response to the antsy-ness of the other people with whom we have had dealings. Generally we are fairly relaxed and open. So long as we know the other party are not going to blab to our parents, we are cool.

We have said it before and will say it again, the Irish swing-scene is a nightmare."

I'm not one for calling people out but the above is rich coming from someone who, for want of a better word, integrated me by email. Stating quite clearly you recognised me because of my ink, told me where I worked etc. if anyone is going to 'blab' I'd wager it'd be you.

Tatts.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I can't believe this ! stop fighting and get fucking I say !!!

don't waste energy arguing with each other ...a healthy discussion is one thing but for godsake get a grip !!

Johnny "

Well said.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Our criteria are a response to the antsy-ness of the other people with whom we have had dealings. Generally we are fairly relaxed and open. So long as we know the other party are not going to blab to our parents, we are cool.

We have said it before and will say it again, the Irish swing-scene is a nightmare.

I'm not one for calling people out but the above is rich coming from someone who, for want of a better word, integrated me by email. Stating quite clearly you recognised me because of my ink, told me where I worked etc. if anyone is going to 'blab' I'd wager it'd be you.

Tatts.

"

No, we are not 15. Just because we have concerns over our parents learning of our alternative lifestyle. It is just something we do not want.

Yes, we thought that we recognised you. For that reason, we thought we might draw your attention to the fact that you were so recognisable to someone who doesn't know you. Anyway, we cleared that up.

If we are likely to blab, then it stands to reason that you too are likely to blab.

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By *ittsandtatsCouple
over a year ago

Dublin


"No, we are not 15. Just because we have concerns over our parents learning of our alternative lifestyle. It is just something we do not want.

Yes, we thought that we recognised you. For that reason, we thought we might draw your attention to the fact that you were so recognisable to someone who doesn't know you. Anyway, we cleared that up.

If we are likely to blab, then it stands to reason that you too are likely to blab."

I don't wish to waste anymore time on this but just a few points:

- your "clearing up" genuinely freaked out my fiancé and made her uncomfortable.

- your logic and counter arguments still read like a teenager.

- you're swingers who don't swing from

What I can gather.

We have more respect for this community, 'blabbing' is not our style.

Anyway, have a nice day, apologies to the rest of the forum for the drama.

Tats

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well you can't blame our act of kindness for your fiance freaking out.

We are swingers who DO swing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well you can't blame our act of kindness for your fiance freaking out.

We are swingers who DO swing."

From what I have read, what you said doesn't sound like kindness...

This is a swingers site, have fun stop fighting and be happy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get that ye are referring to a private conversation but from reading this forum that is what I have gathered.

It is a public forum after all!

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By *avie tCouple
over a year ago

otherside of nowhere

I ddon't know about anyone else but were having a ball.....not having trouble meeting cpls..singles...going to partys...clubs....and not a pic with a username date time e.t.c....if we seen all that we would feel we had to pay the ransom....just for the record we too have visited the clubs in other parts of europe but were lazy easier stay ay home

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By *ohn MingoMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"I ddon't know about anyone else but were having a ball.....not having trouble meeting cpls..singles...going to partys...clubs....and not a pic with a username date time e.t.c....if we seen all that we would feel we had to pay the ransom....just for the record we too have visited the clubs in other parts of europe but were lazy easier stay ay home"

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